Michael you're missing certain info on the IQ study based on men and women. The study you stated was done prior to puberty. After boys hit puberty, their IQ nearly doubles women's IQ.
I had trouble orgasming during seggz for similar reasons you guys laid out. I was overthinking things and concentrated too much on the end and didn't just enjoy the pleasure. So I kind of have to get myself in a mental state that dumbs my brain down while screwing otherwise I don't enjoy the experience. And ultimately I can't reach climax.
Having a high iq is an absolute drag. Small talk is boring, relating to women is hard, outgrowing relationships is common, and even outgrowing careers is a thing. It's almost as if you have to take insane risks (like leave good career or move somewhere foreign) to stay interested/curious and use 3x the energy to remain happy and fulfilled in life.
Are high IQ people stimulated by high iq conversation only? Are they incapable of having regular hobbies and interests? And small talk is boring regardless of IQ lol.
And confidence is not a sign of competence. Especially not these days, when morons are encouraged to display confidence, and more of it, the less competent they are. Confidence is in fact starting to become a red flag, as reality is as the quote from Bukowski.
My hypothesis is like this : people with high IQ prefer to have deep conversation in every subject they discuss, so when they are growing up they don’t find people they can have a conversation with in regular basis so they end up shutting them self from people and they end up becoming socially awkward with a very low social skills. One of the factors that will make a woman fall in love and become sexualy attracted to a man is having an emotional connection with that man ( beside physical attraction), so when you grow up with high IQ you tend to have low social skills and you will not be able to have an emotional connection with a women which is why men with high IQ struggle with women.
This describes it perfectly. My dumbed down summation - it’s difficult for someone who is a logical thinker to add emotional thinking into the mix. This makes relationships difficult because emotional relation and connection is the one thing that all women crave.
@@comment3711 not really, most of women crave a guy who is smarter and more successful then them. There are lot of beautiful smart women that are single because they cannot find a man who is the one i stated above. You can be still yourself, just sharp your social skills and yyou dont have to overthink it so much.
I am a smart guy but I learned to "know my audience" in terms of how I word my conversations with people. When I am with my football bros, I talk like a football bro. When I am talking with my computer nerd friends, I talk about nerd things. When I talk to women I talk about things, and steer conversations towards, ways I can trigger arousal or signal sexual competency. My point is that if you are the smartest guy in the room you don't always have to show that you are the smartest guy. That can come later. Learn the social skills to be able to bring conversations down to a relatable level to your audience.
@jamesdotson1080...You are just using the adaptive approach which is a sign of high intelligence. Being able to adapt to your suroundings and adjust your conversation and social skills. Many of these so called ''high IQ men'' are not able to to that. They just want to sound intelligent for the sake of sounding intelligent that is off putting to women. Being yourself is the best and just throw in a splash of your intelligence in the right moments. That makes a chick know ''hey this guy is know more then he shows'' which intreges her even more.
@@sparingpickle4918 That's not really what he's saying. Many of us who are broad-minded are comfortable in a wide variety of contexts. I was a jock but I was also very high-level academically. I can truly relate to both the jocks and nerds. I was also in multiple bands and I can relate to the music and skater type guys. Truly, it's not faking. I have independent political opinions so I can appreciate aspects of the left and right and I can look like I'm at home among both persuasions. I like high culture but I also think slapstick stuff like Jackass is funny. I can comfortably talk to the richest and poorest people. It's not fakeness, it's just having life experience and an open mind.
@@sparingpickle4918You’re a prime example of what he means.Even havin a different opinion in a certain social situation will get you the stares “🤨”. It’s not about pleasin others, it’s about knowin youre surroundings.Knowing your audience,For example like a job interview.You try to show up lookin sharp,confident and make sure you’re speech is right vs with you’re friends,you’re more laid back.
I'm too attractive to get women. They'll often avoid me to talk to less attractive men. The same way guys feel nervous approaching the most attractive women.. We'd rather talk to the 6s and sometimes the 7s because it's less intimidating.
@@iluvcakes19 That is true. Moreso, I tell you this: look up JWALLER - he's a major figure in Tate Bros following and very well known in the red pill community and considered a Chad. NOW! At 40 y.o.! BUT when you look up his older pics, he looked just plain ugly! So fitness and clever styling (suited haircut, fitting wardrobe) as well as posture and demeanor change do wonders even for men!
@@iluvcakes19Nah women have approached me more when I started lifting, and changing up my looks. Brother you need to take a closer look if you really think that's the case. Even top 1% of attractive men like celebrities have DMs full of women.
@@zeppkfw 😉😉 good thing I get approached (even in a city like LA, where I live) as well. I was just in Boston the other day and the bartender exclaimed after me sitting at the bar for two nights "Man you're really popular with the ladies!" Just saying.. I think women get scared by me, either that, or they don't know what to say.
@@iluvcakes19 I see, yeah sometimes they really get flustered. The fact that you didn't take it as an offense, I'll just withdraw my initial statement lol.
As a high IQ nerd, one of my rules of thumb that I learned the hard way is to ask the girl questions to get her talking about herself, while minimizing how much I talk about myself.
Notice I said it was a "rule of thumb" and not an absolute law. Not a silver bullet solution but it avoids the worst case scenario of excessively talking about yourself and turning her off.
That's good advice actually.. I found keeping it light, joking as much as possible, making her laugh is the best when you are smart.. I tried being serious, having deep talks and girls just think you are weird then..Keep it light is best advice..
My particular dilemma is that I see a lot of signals, and signs, that women give off, but it just immediately drains my emotional batteries. It's like, "Oh great, this woman wants my attention. Now I practically have to be inauthentic to entertain her." Don't get me wrong, I love women. I just don't particularly like being around them. It's the pits.
@@andrewm.8841 improve charisma. learn what action elicits certain behaviours. use honest wit if being fake irks you. i have done that and can see noticeable change. some of the fakeness you perceive is just a lack of understanding of human (particularly women) nature
I am this person. I have a 132 IQ, and it is a miserable existence. There are lots of people much smarter than me, but often I find myself out numbered and at the mercy of irrational emotional people. As a result I am often very quiet in social situations,. I can usually predict what the people around me will say next, and I’m often horrified by the stuff I hear when people are talking. It’s a lonely life.
assuming you're a male work on being more assertive and dominant (both verbally and physically). if other people are retards let them know why your way is superior.
is it a lonely life because ppl dont wanna be around you or you dont wanna? i am of the latter and mine is even worse. i dont even talk to my folks that much. maybe once in two months or so and that was even before i turned 18
Everybody else is stupid and you can’t talk to them because you’ll go insane trying to argue or even talk to them because they just don’t get it when it comes to most subjects.
When I was in high school, I was told by a teacher that I needed to "disarm" myself because I was too intimidating. She claimed that there were several girls who would have loved to get to know me better. I got similar feedback at summer camp.
Women pick men not based on logic, it is purely based on emotions. Nothing makes a man more attractive to a woman, if another woman who she thinks is attractive that has selected him.
Ding ding ding! A couple times I've been treated like shit by some women but as soon as one of their friends develops a crush on me they become decent human beings.
I hate to admit it, but yes. The thoughts and observations are still whirling in my head, but they get stuck trying to find their way out which gives me a chance to move in. Absolute caveman talk has gotten me farther than being aware of social finesse ever has. It's just so damned exhausting putting up this act and having to "manually" adjust down to their level, because now you have to risk getting caught "lying" and accidentally intimidating them by being too smart. I wish I could relax and let loose like everyone else, but thats why I dont find such social gatherings relaxing at all because I have to consciously deal with this shit, and it never turns off. Its more like an endurance test on how much you need to abuse your body before the voices in your head stop scaring women away. In my case, while I can get them to bed, its to the point where I am so exhausted that I cant get it up anymore, making the whole endeavour pointless. How did we suddenly end up as the evolutionary dead end?
@@shankar3651High IQ in a broader sense correlates with interests in deeper and more complex topics, which doesn’t help the fact that the way towards finding a love mate is by using small talk, which is non-thought provoking, shallow, fake, linear, learned behavior. As for the “evolutionary dead end” , I don’t think evolution necessarily values intelligence as much as it does any other attribute which helps you get laid and procreate by any means possible hahahhaah Also, I feel like I could learn small talk and flirting in social situations, but really I could just be doing things that I actually like and enjoying myself. But maybe we just like doing stuff because we’re good at it, rather than being good at them because we like it. In other words, wasting some time clubbing, practicing and perfecting could be beneficial for our attitude towards social interaction, once we’re actually good at it. Not sure though…
"Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know" -Earnest Hemingway Dude I 100% agree. My philosophy takes me out of chasing women. I don't see them as the prize or needing to chase something down that has no clue wtf they want. They're attracted to that toxic shit and I'm not about that so to them I'm boring or think too much into things. Not into small talk or talking about petty women problems yeah I got a bad attitude towards chasing women 😅
One thing to consider is that if you’re in the top 1-5% in intelligence, it limits your dating pool significantly. Generally, people are most compatible dating or being in relationships with other people who are within 10-15 IQ points of them. So if you’re someone with an IQ of 140, you basically only have access to 5% of the members of the opposite sex (or same sex, depending on your persuasion). Obviously, the higher up you go, the smaller the number or percentage becomes. On top of that, intelligent people tend to overthink everything and suffer from paralysis by analysis, which is crippling in the dating game because you basically need to turn your brain off and just act since thinking accomplishes nothing. Those are the two biggest challenges that I can think of at the moment. The good news is that quality is more important than quantity and if you can find an interest or two that other smart people share, then you can avoid the trouble of dealing with dating apps.
another problem that can arise is your partner becoming resentful of your intellect if you're several levels smarter than them. Recently got out of a two year relationship and my girlfriend would bring up frequently that she felt so stupid around me all the time and that it hurt her, its not like I was going out of my way to rub it in her face I just have a very flexible and large vocab and I used words in regular conversation that she didn't know the definition of and she'd just feel like an idiot cause she felt like she couldn't have "intellectual conversation" with me and shed struggle with problems for a hot minute and then I'd just swoop in and be able solve it immediately cause obviously I don't wanna see her struggle and then shed attack me for it even though 9/10 times I was helping because she asked me for help in the first place but would get mad when I solved issues with no problem...
fcking hell Im never gonna get laid I got tested I have an iq of about 139. Have been into cold approach for a while but still not have succes once. did have a gf for a few years. Maybe I need to box some more so I can get some brain damage.
The good news is that you have a filter, and for high-IQ men, the high-IQ women are also suffering and are greatly relieved when someone can keep up and can challenge them. Get a bored smart woman talking about things nobody else wants to hear them out about and life gets a lot more interesting for you both. Happily married for more than 20 years here to a beautiful, very intelligent woman.
Bullies know to bully the smart nerds to hold power. It starts back on the playground and in grade school. They develop undeserved confidence about holding their territory, while the smart kids who were bullied are full of doubt. This plays out over life and women pick up on it. Women still love the caveman type.
@@Stesanowhy won’t he. Someone in 21st century who should be punished gets rewarded! There has to be a way of system to make bullies and over-confident morons in horrible light and nerds & intellectuals to be the wisest & heroic people of society. Literally the society punishes it’s gold and rewards counterfeit silver and glorified their existence!
Getting to be Quaterback on the football team because your dad is coach does give a huge boost to confidence and those people do get a bit of a head start
I had this problem with a ex-coworker who barely passed high school. He didn't know how to write, pick up a phone and talk to someone, yet he was somehow good with women and in upper management. Myself being a person who is highly conscious, I can't catch a cold and am stuck in middle management with a degree because I hate small talk and have always found it boring. I was smart enough to leave that company and work for myself though and am working on the small talk bit.
Simple, women don't make the best decisions so who do you expect them to make intelligent decisions with relationship, that's the reason for single mothers n STDs.
Assumptions, assumptions. Failing high school doesn't mean you can't get promotions. If you are a good asset to the company, you will get promoted especially in areas like marketing and sales.
@@Accuface2000 Depends entirely on whether the company is booming or declining - declining companies have a tendency to promote a large number of brown nosers who make poor decisions that produce suboptimal outcomes. While 4.0 GPA students who are entirely incompetent and high school dropouts who are actually high IQ geniuses that produce outcomes beyond normal expectations, both exist, they are the exceptions that make the rule.
The oddest/funniest thing about my life story. I went from a 260lb (5'10") obese software engineer. A LOT of my friends tell me I'm the smartest person they know (which I don't personally agree with), and many people have called me a polymath (which I do agree with). I fixed my diet, and started naturally body building in a disciplined manner. Lost 100lbs at one point (and gained an inch in height). I started highly focusing on social media and dating apps photos of my achievements in strength building, competitive tennis (like making it to USTA Nationals), and competitive cycling. My "body count" went from 5 to now I lost track pretty quickly, but there seems to be a tendency that people (especially women I date) assume I'm an idiot meat head. Once they start catching on to hints that I'm pretty highly educated in multiple sciences and mathematics, along with I'm hiding that I'm super logical behind the initial charisma, that's when it doesn't go well. If it has something to do with perception changing, or subconscious intimidation, I'm unsure, but it's kind of funny to watch this transpire with most women I date.
I can tell you there are highly intelligent and charismatic women out there. My girlfriend loves intelligent conversations but she's also the feminine type. You just need to find a girl that has the intelligence to match her beauty.
I remember reading somewhere about it being a real phenomenon, I hope I explain it right: If you are smart and you find a dumb guy physically stronger than you, you subconsciously think this person can win over me by beating me with his physical strength. But when you are dumb and meet a person smarter than you, you subconsciously live in fear that he can defeat you with intellect, but in this case you don't know exactly how it's going to play out, since you're dumber. Long story short, they are subconsciously afraid of your intelligence.
I came here to the comments section just to remind you guys that not getting laid isn't because you're too smart to talk to girls. It's because you're bad at talking to them. I'm supposedly in the 110 to 130 IQ range based on a test I took as a teenager for my psychologist. However, IQ tests are often inaccurate, and many "high IQ" people question their validity. So, who knows if that's even true. What I do know is that I learn things quickly and pick up information faster than most people, which has helped me succeed in various work situations. But it has also helped me when it comes to talking to women. My mind isn't overthinking or under-stimulated just because I'm smarter than the people I'm talking to. That's ridiculous. If anything, being more intelligent has helped me navigate social issues just as easily as any other aspect of life. I guarantee that 90% of the people in this comment section are just pretentious nerds who think they're more intelligent because they have "nerdy" hobbies. They believe they're too intelligent to talk to girls, yet they fail to see that self-improvement and making oneself attractive to the opposite sex are achievable goals. Lol. PS: This whole video and comments section sounds much more like anxiety issues. Let's be honest, both you and I know that there are "dumb people" who struggle with these same issues. It's more likely that you might be one of them.
Agreed. Also the “less likely to get laid” is correlational not causation. People with higher iq are usually pursuing the masters or PhD/doctorates or doing a lot of career driven shit. That takes away from the socialization and partying. Not tooting my own horn or anything but I spent 10 years total in college pursuing my bachelors and doctorates. Most of my party friends were frat boys going to tailgates and partying. But now that I’m done I am totally way better than them at navigating the social game. I got laid less bc I socialized less not because I’m overthinking approach or suck at talking to women lol
Here we go. The so-called 'Alpha Male' looking down on those less fortunate than himself (one of the biggest Beta traits of them all by the way). There is always one. What is it you guys don't get? It's not one size fits all. Everyone is different. Some guys are bad with women. Just like some guys are bad at sports. We can't all be good at everything. Just because you're good with women doesn't mean every man can be. Just like I train martial arts. Believe me, it's not for everyone. Some just aren't cut out for it. So, if you came to train with me and couldn't fight like me - no matter how hard you tried - would it be 'Alpha' of me to tell you you're weak, and you should man up and you can be just like me if you just man up? No that would make ME weak. Some of us just aren't good with women. Just like some of us are tall, some are short, some are good at sports, some aren't, and some have a high IQ and some don't. Period, end of story.
IQ of over 145 here. My parents helped me perfectly at young age, they put me in ballroom class as a teen. Learning how to dance, and get comfortable physically with girls, partnering up with a girl for competitions and becoming close friends with attractive women. Means I'm comfortable as fuck around pretty women. I can impress them with my thinking, but can woo them with how comfortable I am and make em feel safe cause I'm 6'3 and did muay thai 15 years.
As someone who tends to hyperfixate on information, data and application, meditation principles have helped me the most. Being nonreactive and present with a situation is enough.
I don’t think it has anything to do with high IQ men overthinking. It’s more to do with the ability to relate to people in conversation. Most people enjoy conversations where they are interested in the topic and can naturally become more engaged in the conversation. Engaging conversation is what attracts people. People with 20-30 point differences in IQ will find it hard to be interested in the same topics. The person in the top 1% of IQ will have a smaller pool of people interested in the same topics. High IQ teen boys have strong processing power but will naturally be more isolated because the pool of people they can relate to is smaller. So they actually end up having less experience than an average guy early on. This will also mean they have less confidence. However, over time they eventually figure things out and the high iq becomes an advantage. They just need time to catch up.
After leaving home and attempting to socialize more you realize you can have interesting conversations with strangers if you figure out what to say. Everyone has a story to tell and don't consider yourself superior to them. Sometimes people that before I deemed as "stupid" taught me good lessons about life and in the areas I was lacking. You might be very intelligent and smart , but are you all encompassing? Are you physically fit? Are you charasmatic or funny? Do you know how to tell interesting stories? Are you dressing up properly ? Do you have a good hygiene? These are all factors that girls pay attention to. Intelligence is one of them but it's certainly not all
Everyone is unique in their own way. The way I learned to deal with socializing is trying to figure what make people unique and how they work. It makes it seem that your interested in what their saying.
Maybe the high IQ guy gets fewer women but better women since he can understand the concepts of cost/benefit and risk/return. Stupid men will just try to lay anything and damn the risks and consequences. Which probably never occur to them in the first place.
Well, at least you said maybe. But honestly it's just cope. Social skills and understanding attraction/arousal triggers will be much more effective at being able to gain the attention of women and that includes "better" women.
Yea it really depends on how much of one you have versus the other. You may have a significant amount of both, but the intelligence and critical thinking will put you in a position to dismiss a lot of women or you play it to where you get what you want, but you already know where it's headed after you vette her. But it is that factor of over analyzing the chick...you don't wanna "wear it" while you're hanging out with her...keep it in your head while simultaneously showing characteristics that generally attract women - spontaneity, out-going, flirty, etc ... In the same breath, the looks does play a factor..non of this will work if she isn't physically attracted to you and you don't wow her in another general category like status/money.
@@manager4409 That usually comes from a lack of experience with women. I think he's talking about the nerd that has experience, and is asking the question - "is the juice worth the squeeze". If I have to do all this to impress her, what am I getting in return...is she worth the time and energy...For what I am asking, why do I have to put out so much. I acknowledge the guy youre talking about though. I would say most nerds with money fit what you are describing.
Very good explanation at the beginning of why smarter men struggle and get frustrated when trying to seduce/attract women. U need to dumb yourself down, not overthink, and convey desire, and certain behavior traits that show the women your confidence. It's not a math problem u can solve by thinking about it. It comes down to your psychology and how u come across to girls.
That is because that is not being smart. IQ is correlated but differentiated from creativity (measured by Openess in the Big Five psychometric model). If the guy has high IQ and low Openess, he is not creative, just a problem solver in which the boundary conditions are set (a good worker and administrator). That type of person will never invent anything just solve problems that don't require lateral thinking. Not even mentioning that after a couple of Standard deviations you have the "Spearman law of diminishing returns" in which the dimensions get heterogeneous, you have several types of conditions (as autism). People who are universally seen as smart, which is IQ + creativity have zero problems to get ladies, in fact it is the most successful type of guy, because even at old age would elicit a strong reaction (Albert Camus, Picasso, Richard Feynman types). The situation is this: with IQ + Openness, you can start talking with any woman, no matter if she is a neurosurgeon, physicist or waitress, and she will think you are hilarious, charismatic, and you will be able to give her insightful opinions of whatever field she is in, so she will think you are genius, and that leads her wanting you really bad (Openness gives you insaciable curiosity, IQ allows you to process complex information regardless of the field) Even women who you could consider unsophisticated detect these type of genes and go crazy. It is like a superpower, because it produces the same effect in a 18 y/o or a 55 y/o woman, and it is seriously strong. She only knows that when you speaks she wants you. Intellect is by far the most attractive thing in a man, you could be broke and you could be with an endless list at any age. If you want to see high IQ with low Openess; Edward Witten, see a video of him speaking, now compare it to Richard Feynman (he has a nobel prize in physics)
@@napoleonkrishnabayu9768 Nope, a creative person is curious a curious person is not necessarily creative. (as in if it is raining there are clouds but if there are clouds it is not necessarily raining) But don't worry, the percentage of people considered creative in society is ridiculously small,
I've always suppressed my "emotional brain" and let my "analytical brain" do all the work in almost every field, which has led me to pursuing a career as a medical doctor (soon 3rd yr of med school), gigging guitarist and a gym rat. This explains the 50+ times I have been rejected this year 😂.
Smart men also are very observant and analytical…..we go through the “pros and cons”and weigh them all side by side repeatedly in our minds until we make a tough decision …..like what if I accidentally get her pregnant…that might turn into a bad situation because I barely know her…..or what if she’s a narcissist bitch and only wants my money? How promiscuous is she…what’s her body language tell me…what’s the signs I can see that aren’t obvious at first glance? I think we smart men are more cautious and that’s a blessing.
... Very relatable. Takes a lot of effort to build social skills with high IQ. It is simply tiring to engage with people, I've took the harsh path by forcing myself into working as receptionist in my uni years and currently doing rental business. I do beleave I can progress furthermore in order to setup a stable relationship with a woman. As for me having 140 I find it being a disability, you need to actually make yourself more stupid... sounds like a wise advice.
I absolutely think that social skills, which are mandatory for getting to know a person deeper, can be trained. It is a skillset one needs to learn. You cannot expect to get positive outcomes from interactions with e.g. a woman when you did not learn how to talk to another human beeing. I also think higher IQ correlates with higher rational thinking in general. Like you mentioned the analytical brain of such a person whould just use skillsets they trained troughout their lifes in their careers, but forget that there is a whole other skillset involved in dealing with those kinds of problems. I also think though, if you are intelligent in generall (and i don´t mean only IQ, although it is a good predictor for success in life and a good indicator for high overall intelligence in all the subsets and dimensions of the word) you can adapt better and learn faster. Recognizing that you don´t have the skill needed yet is the first step though. Not beeing able to recognize it could indicate one dimensional intelligence in my opinion.
It all makes sense now, it’s not that I am ugly, fat, and out of shape, I am unemployed and don’t have any friends or hobbies. That I can’t get laid, it’s because I’m just too smart.
From my perspective, the perspective of a guy who be considered of very average intelligence (105 IQ). I’ve been exposed to a lot of guy who are FAR more intelligent than myself due to my younger brother being on the spectrum and this having a near genius intellect. I see the biggest issue with these high IQ guys being the don’t value beautiful simplicity in conversations. Women CRAVE men who are fun, handsome, and capable of providing. Your intelligence has almost NOTHING to do with attracting women. Learn to value the fact that you’re even interacting with another human being, value their time as of their words are truly an extension of their soul and you’ll be far more successful in your love life.
Problem is if she isn't adding value to my life I'm hard pressed to keep her in it. Same goes for guy friends too. I don't like wasting my time. I only have so much of it and would rather reserve it for those people who will actually add to my life not take away from it.
@@stantoncochran536 Nope. If I enjoy someone's company, they're providing a benefit to me. That's value. And because they get in touch with me to either talk or to spend time with them in person, I assume I'm also providing value to them - they like my company as I do theirs. I'm unable to get value from the vast majority of people out there, except for maybe five that I talk to and keep close to me. With everyone else, I feel like I'm wasting my MEAT, and I resent that. I see everything I do in terms of cost/benefit. Will doing something new bring value to my life in the short/medium/long term? How much energy/time am I willing to devote to getting a good payback in the short/medium/long term? This applies to socialising, which is why I rarely do it except for the small group of senior academics I sometimes have coffee with, or those I'm involved with politically, but it's very rare I get to see either. Experience over the past 35 years has shown me that the vast majority of people are a huge drain on me and I'm wasting my limited MEAT on them. I get a MUCH bigger payback from doing things by myself. When I very occasionally do something with one of the very few people whose company I enjoy, I also then get a huge payback from doing that. But again, that's very infrequent.
'Women CRAVE men who are fun, handsome, and capable of providing' - oh I see, we're there for free entertainment, like a court jester, to give, give, give. And what are women giving in return? Anything? Are they going to reciprocate in conversation in a clear, articulate, and interesting manner? Because, those two narcissists aside, the last time I met such a woman was 23 years ago. No thanks, I'm sick and tired of being expected of jumping through an endless series of hoops by someone who can barely reciprocate. 'Learn to value the fact that you’re even interacting with another human being' - so we should be grateful another person deigns to grant us their presence? I don't think so.
This is actually refreshing to realize, cause now I don't even have to overthink dates or how I'm going to be, or what the future brings, just live in the moment and kind of pretend that you're a goldfish, lol. It's a good way to take the pressure off of feeling like it's a necessity to stress or be anxious. Kind of plow through it obliviously and shut your analytics off for a bit, and then when you come out of the date...you can look at the results after the "nervous" part is already finished. It's like blacking out at the worst parts and only choosing to "come to" after it's already done.
This segment made me just think. Dexter needs brock as a friend to help each other out. Dexter to handle brocks finances and brock to get dexter laid. Community can save us all.
- Actionable Insight - Focus on being present in the moment and sharing emotional experiences with others rather than relying solely on analytical thinking. - Why - Emotional connection and being in the moment are key factors in forming relationships and attracting others, while excessive analytical thinking can hinder social interactions. Developing emotional intelligence and enjoying the present can open doors to new opportunities and connections.
My dad accidentally spit out some wisdom. He said "ugly women aren't worth the hassle." I thought back to all the women I've slept with and realized he was right. Ugly women are the most problematic and I think it's because they resent men. Because when they're out with their friends, their friends get hit on and they don't. So they hold this grudge against men.
Its not the confidence its the looks. Many athletes have good looks they are masculine, have muscles, some have manly face and other are prettyboys some are mix of both. Some are not attractive in the face per se but they have a good body and compensate for dressing good or being rich. It all looks first and confidence and all of that comes later.
Using athletes as an example is highly idiotic since they also are famous & high status. Had those guys been average in terms affluence or fame, they'll not be getting women unless they've confidence.
Well woman love the " bad bhoy and the " pretty bhoy" these are just the facts and always have been one doesn't give a f&&K the other was always fancied by all the ghirls in schools so they were never desperados ! Which plenty here sound sadly
I feel that one reason stupid people have an easier time is because they have no long-term goals and divert most of their energy flirting instead of improving themselves. As a 4.0 GPA Electrical engineering student who is about to graduate in half the time it normally takes, I have always refused to pursue women while a student, since doing so would have knocked me out of my hyper-focused, machine-like, state. Also, the major I did is so difficult, that almost no women can even be in the same room as me. In my graduating class, there were 73 students and only 3 were women, so the idea of meeting anyone in college was dead. Thankfully I'm done with that shitty experience and unlike 90% of the clowns my age who mindlessly flirt, I actually have the recourses to properly support a family now, so unlike them, when I flirt, it has the potential to be real and one day become something beautiful where we in our union will bring something good into this world and for ourselves. Step 1: Break out of poverty and become a competent Step 2: Then build a family
Bro how is your degree going to make you a good partner? Financial stability is not the main priority for most people. What a bunch of bs excuses everyone is making in the comments! I'M SURE everyone in the comment section is simply too smart to attract girls, fucking hell😭😭 it's just social incompetence
130 is tough. 164 is tougher. Learned Serbian and Cyrillic in about 4 days after meeting a girl I was interested in who was from Serbia. And though impressed with how quickly I picked up her native language without formal instruction....she had a BF.
It just takes effort. Social intelligence is a category of its own that many high IQ ppl put little effort into. Cause many high iq ppl are led to believe that all they need to do is keep their heads in a book, become successful and everything will fall into place.
@@jakeedwards4454 explain how it is a facade ? “Intelligence” is the ability to acquire knowledge and skills. “Social intelligence” is the ability to understand your own and other’s actions which is a skill in and of itself
The problem with being intelligent is primarily in that you just can't really relate to those who aren't, so why would you make one your life partner? By definition, the smarter you are, the fewer people in the population are on a similar level to keep your interest, so finding them becomes increasingly difficult.
With people of high IQ (over 150), there is also the issue that most women don't seem sentient enough, (while these women also believe themselves smarter than all men).
Intelligent men are also less interested in sex. I'm a smart guy and i've been in a relationship for more than 10 years. I've been single for 5 years now and I don't see any advantage looking after women for sex. Sex is becoming cheaper and cheaper. For the guys that still want to share a house with a woman, I suggest you to measure your testosterone levels regularly. I'm convinced that the way women treat men these days lowers T levels to a dangerous point. At the end of my relationship I just couldn't see any future. I became basically a clown entertaining a stupid bitch like a princess only for fear of being alone. I never felt so hopelessly alone as when I was my my ex. Now that my T levels are almost normal again, I hate myself so much for having wasting so many years of my life in a relationship.
I realize I am an anomaly. I'm a 6'3" 250lb black guy with the high intelligence problem. Because of my size and my look girl mistake me for the low IQ guy with irrational confidence. I then get a finite window to strike before they realize that I'm really a very proud square that loves everything corny about the world. There is always a battle going on between my brain and my sexual needs. If I can Shut up for long enough and entertain multiple candidates then most likely I'm riding the Rodeo frequently enough to be a happy camper. My advice. Develop an alter ego if you want to get laid and just be yourself if you want to get married.
That's until the big correction happens: the high IQ guys understand the real rules of the game, red pilling themselves and venting any trend of resenting anything into training in the gym and get some shape and never get intimidated by any 19 y/o number nine ever again. These go straight to the 0.05%
I think people with higher IQ actually have a advantage especially when it comes to lasting relationships. Of course you have to find a somewhat smart women but at the end its just problem solving and psychology. My IQ has been tested multiple times by institutes and psychologists. I've averaged around 132. I struggled at first a lot with girls, since I always liked to spend my time alone as a child. I much prefered building stuff and playing games than beeing outside the whole day. So my social skills were kind of missing. But during my teen years I became extremely extroverted and popular. I used psychology to make people like me. I understood the game with dudes but I still got anxious around girls. With 16 develeoped a lot physically, which helped with confidence. I worked out 6 days a week and girls noticed. After a couple mediocre conversations and some analyzing I became a complete womenizer, tbh girls around that age were pretty easy but later in my 20s I really learned how to excel at the "game". Nowadays I could get any girl I wanted but I'm happily engaged now. Quintessence: JUST LEARN THE GAME, you have to lose first to learn and win later. This means getting into awkward situations but at some point you will be a master at the craft, espically if you are intelligent. Also very important particularly if you aren't that good looking is to upgrade yourself, go to the gym, make money and dress nicely.
The biggest issue I have with this is that we have a society that _needs_ to be maintained, and the below-average IQ people certainly aren't helping maintain the society. The reason that intelligent men get angry at women for choosing the less intelligent men is because less intelligent men are more likely to drag the women and society down. The intelligent people have to solve problems of the weak, for the weak, and they only get some money for their hard work, while the less intelligent men get the privilege of reproducing with little-to-no effort. It's an unfair reality of nature that the existence of society makes worse for men who have high IQ. It's like if you're born with high intelligence, you are sort of "destined" to maintaining society so that the dumber people get to live life and enjoy the results of your hard work. I've been finding myself saying recently that the weaker people today only survive because society makes it possible for them. Otherwise nature would've dealt with these people already.
I recently saw a video from Aaron Clarey on why he and others like him ('smart' (logical) people) lean towards wanting a libertarian government. It forces this responsibility back to the 'dumb' people since we all operate on a 'as long as it doesn't affect me, you can do whatever you want' approach. He concludes that the only way to achieve this type of government is to remove all form of welfare as to not enable the 'dumb' people.
I don't see it this way. I had IQ of 145, 4.0 GPA, and made low 6 figures straight out of college. I'm grateful that the average American is dumb, lazy, irrational, don't have their acts together, and waste their youth on sleeping around rather than build themselves. It's less competition for me. Life is much harder in China, where I'm from. Kids study harder, work harder, and that makes it harder to get ahead. With my IQ and work ethics, I'll probably still make it, but not nearly as easily. My wife cooks, cleans, was a virgin at time of marriage (as was I). When our son came, she abandoned her career to become a full time mother and housewife. Now that he's 4 and entering pre-k, she's starting a business with my help. She's frugal, we invested in rental properties, currently have 6 families of tenants bringing in $10k a month in rental income. I can't imagine what my life would be had I slept around with dumb broads and collected STDs, or worse, marry one. I don't want to sleep with dumb, high body count hookers. I want to sleep with my clean, virgin wife. I don't need to attract "women" (plural), I just need one good woman for a good life. The less competition, the better.
'The reason that intelligent men get angry at women for choosing the less intelligent men is because less intelligent men are more likely to drag the women and society down' - the way I look at it is that I can broadly divide people into two groups, those who are constructive to society, and those who are destructive. You can see how I link that to IQ, though I don't really include IQ in my assessment, but it does correlate quite well. I'm involved politically in trying to reform politics and society so we at least cling to civilisation and not end up in a hedonistic free-for-all. And yet all I see around me are legions of dim people not even aware of the cultural collapse. As long as they can get their regular 'fix' of enjoyment, that's their life.
I don't know my IQ but I've been called smart my whole life. I'd guess around 130 and my best friend has an iq confirmed 150+. a lot of people in the comments are talking about loneliness and misery. here are 2 pieces of advice. 1. lower expectations. stop expecting anything from anyone. assume you will be lonely your whole life and accept that. boom no more disappointment 2. find a social hobby where smart people might go. try to find 1 good friend. we're in a digital age where you can maintain that friendship even across countries. an example would be chess clubs. i've met some really great people at those.
I think high IQ people just don't have the necessity to learn social skills as early as low IQ people because everything is easy to them especially when they are young.
@@Cocoisagordonsetter I guess I should be more specific, I don't mean base level social skills like communicating with others. I'm talking more about the high chrisma skills that make a person "popular"
@@Cocoisagordonsetter I agree, there are many factors and much complexity. The age range I had in mind when I was talking about 'very young' was middle school which is guess wasn't described well as very young. I was also in a gifted program during school so I was surrounded by all students ~130+ IQ so socializing with them wasn't as difficult as in gen pop. It certainly is a super complex issue that doesn't have any easy answers.
if it were 10 years ago, i would have advised to you learn ballroom dance. there used to be plenty of women and you could convert braininess into social desirability and there was no need to make conversation.
I have an IQ of 167 and have been married for a year. My wife constantly tells me that I over-analyze and overthink and tell me not to multi-task. The thing is if I do a single thing at a time or do something droll or boring, I go crazy. I'm lucky that I have a wife who understands me and balances me out. Lots of guys are not that lucky.
Yeah ... This conversation ignores one thing. High IQ guys don't just want to get laid, they want to get laid by hot women. The problem is that hot women tend to be younger and lower IQ. If you use the Ferrari analogy, the high IQ guy has to drive his Ferrari at 25mph to keep pace with both younger people and lower IQ people. Normally he would never do this because nobody wants to drive a Ferrari slow. As a result, he doesn't have very many young or low IQ people in his circle of friends. These people are frustrating to him. So part of of the problem when these guys try to get laid is that they really can't stand being around the women they're trying to get laid by, and the women can pick up on this. She can tell, "he doesn't like my music, my friends or the way I talk, he thinks I'm dumb, he's hiding something, he'd rather be elsewhere, he doesn't have any friends that I like, etc". So the problem is not that high IQ guys can't get laid, it's that there's a much smaller demographic of women who they can be themselves around, who they can race their Ferrari with on the Autobahn and actually get passed from time to time.
I’d say that’s half of the problem. The other half is we get told women will us for demonstrating how smart we are. When in actuality women like men who can come up with clever ways to stroke their ego.
This isn't true. I'm friends with a lot of other stem nerds they're as horny or even more so than low IQ guys and don't have standards. It's just their incredibly neurotic and anxious due to their high IQ and social conditioning usually.
If you're that smart, it's hard to find someone you can relate with.. especially nowadays where people are having a hard time debating on what's a man/woman...
The fact of the matter is most men in general do not understand how attraction works and simply display weak, needy and undesirable behavior that disgusts and repels women. It’s not a matter of difference in IQ or intellect. To make things worse, men in today’s society have been conditioned to think and act in ways that are the complete opposite of their core masculine energy and have become feminized which naturally turns women who have a polarizing feminine energy off. At the end of the day, if you act like a b***h she will treat you like a b***h.
btw guys.... if youre a very intelligent man, u dont want an intelligent woman, u want a woman with principles and self respect. So basically.. when youre with her and you feel free enough to be yourself n talk shit to her....and she talks shit to u too and accepts who is who in the relationship... thats ur wife right there.... but sadly... u will NEVER FIND HER.. if u search... ALL.. literally all real flriendships and relationships were formed by sheer coincidence when u werent lookin for any relationships or friendships. edit: when i say talk shit... i mean both talk smack in a fun way and also tell her that she is this n that.... if u arent allowed to tell her how shit of a person she is.. then she is a SHIT PERSON XD
I finally had to confess to a former partner, after she was complaining that I don't have interesting conversations with her, that she didn't know enough about the world or how it works for me to have an interesting conversation with her. The things she found profound were topics I discussed with friends when we were in high school. I just couldn't :/ It's rare to find really intelligent attractive women, they definitely exist, but the ones that have enough curiosity and work to understand concepts are women who have not been pursued non-stop by men for their physical attractiveness, typically... They had the space and time, and the lack of false reassurance from men who want to sleep with them, to dig in and become interesting people.
? I think it’s just that women don't occupy the extreme ends of the IQ distribution as much as men do. Curiosity is built-in, not really dependent on looks. I think a less attractive woman would work to be more pleasant or funny or charismatic though.
The issue is once you get past the initial interaction. The majority of women's interests don't go any further than gossip and drama, social media, how they look and keeping up with the latest trends and friends they are being influenced by so they can keep up a certain image and perception. So for a high IQ, high vibration, high self awareness, high self esteem, highly Spiritual man who is constantly progressing in all aspects of his lives in areas that are truly important. Yes after a while, talking about real housewives, watching silly tik Tok videos and IG reels and hearing a bunch of toxic gossip and negative energy everyday becomes a bore and turn off. So it's about making adjustments. Understand that the majority of women are not relationship and marriage material so drop and cut that expectation out! Deal with them solely for sex and fun. That's it! That's the only real value most women have now a days. And the facts are proving that by the bare minimum that most women want or attempt to bring to the table.
You’re right, which makes sense because less intelligent people usually can’t reason well enough to understand the consequences of their actions before they do something stupid or illegal.
As someone with an IQ of 130+, the hardest part has always been the connection barrier. It is hard enough finding a single woman with mutual attraction for each other. If you additionaly exclusively look for someone close to your IQ, you are likely going to live and die alone, unless you are a top 2% guy with insane options. This means the only way of finding a partner is to be fine with someone significantly less intelligent than you. She is very likely never going to understand you and her own issues seem trivial and stupid to have. Also she is likely never able to hold a fulfilling conversation with you. You can however compensate a lot with having a solid friend circle for the intellectual needs. You can think she is the cutest and greatest soul on the planet, but even then you will likely never experience a true personal and emotional bond with her, knowing she can never even remotely understand who you are and how you think. She might love you, but to love her back is less likely, the higher your IQ.
People are out here seeing themselves as 8th dimensional beings that can't be understood. This is all just cope for your inability to communicate your feelings properly. If you don't see that then maybe you're not as smart as you think you are.
I disagree on that because I'm not looking for a woman with the same strengths as me, but with the same values. Whether or not a woman has the same IQ as me is irrelevant to me. If she's cute and loves being there for me in her own way just like I'd be there for her in my way, then it'd be a happy life. I may be more intelligent in the logic department, but she could be better at taking care of children.
@@earthbind83 Generally, I follow the exact same logic you do. I wish it was that easy, but as I gathered more experience from real relationships with women, I assure you that the IQ gap inevitably creates a ton of unwanted sideeffects. I could write a whole book about this, but the biggest one is that you will, especially as a logical thinker, have a VERY hard time building an emotional connection for her. You will likely find yourself in many mid-term relationships that eventually fail due to a lack of emotional attachment in her to you, unless you figure out how to consciously induce this attachment. And this is not trivial to do.
@@instinct94 Yes it's difficult to do, I agree. I haven't been able to do it yet either, so don't take it as gospel but I'm planning on finding a girlfriend I share non-intellectual interests with to talk about. Not all my hobbies are intellectually super challenging, e.g. I like casually playing musical instruments, some of my favorite video games can be played in a very relaxed manner, like Minecraft, or learning a language together can be fun as well. I also like going hiking as long as it's a casual hike and not the hardcore type. Anything artistic would be another option (e.g. painting, poetry, pottery etc.) because that stimulates the other half of the brain, so the logical brain is less relevant.
This is very much an analytical problem: if your goal is getting girls for fun,” there are apps for that; if it’s building a connection and you have a high TC, hire a match maker; or if you want to get less quality girls but still hot, get in reasonable shape, join a yacht club, learn to sail, and post yourself yachting on all the dating apps, you’ll definitely get access to hot girls.
It's just looks, it is that simple. As someone with a Lamborghini engine, I'll tell you that IQ is completely orthogonal to your dating success as a man on the whole. On the whole means that if you take 1000 guys and break down what helped them bag their respective women, you'll find that their IQ did not matter one bit. Basically, stop coping and understand the game that you're playing. Complaining that women don't want smart men is the same as complaining that they don't like "nice guys", again, both are traits that have nothing to do with the game at hand.
It's not just a matter of getting women for getting women. That's low quality raccoon behavior. If you wish to have a meaningful connection, that 60 point difference matters. Unless you just want to deposit your ejaculate, not being with a person who thinks like you when you were 5 years old matters.
@@alwaysright3943 I proceed to give a nuanced definition of what that means. To reiterate, there are numerous factors that determine dating success, but none individually are more prominent than physical looks. In the case of intelligence specifically, it has an incredibly low prominence overall.
Abstraction typically comes at the cost of emotional impact. But if we use some of that horsepower to learn non verbal communication, then there’s no limit to the emotions we can create. Experiment. Stop thinking so much. Just get messy and do. That’s what emotion is study high EQ extroverts to figure this out. Meditation helps a lot too
That's not the point....for women looks and status is what counts. Women look at men who are attractive, Elon Musk is not a attractive men to many women. So him and other will make excuses by saying ''smart men struggle''. Many men who are attractive and smart don't struggle because they combine their looks and intelligence in the dating game. Alot these men so focused on IQ are often socially akward geeks/nerds who are insecure incels who harbour alot jelousy and hate towards what they call the ''Chads and Tyrones'' of this world who bag the hot attractive women alot these men can't attract with their looks. So they create coping mechanism by saying ''us smart men actually deserve hot women but they just don't see us'' narrative. Elon = billionaire yet hot women are not falling over him. If Elon looked like Jeremy Meeks, Tyson Beckford, Bradd Pitt, Leonardo Dicaprio ( in his young days) he would have all types of women over him.
Can't deny that looks and swag play a heavy part in attracting women. You can't single out " intelligence" as being the culprit of why intelligent/high IQ men can't attract women. Hell, Alot of times, especially if you're relatively young and not jaded with a lot of bad experiences with women, the intelligence factor goes out the window. Put an attractive woman in front of a geek or nerd, trust me, in most cases he's not doing all that analytical stuff and asking hard questions. Instincts comes before logic in those scenarios.
@@williamwallace410 yea because those structural bodies were very prevalent in society- religion, social practices, etc...leave women to their own devices and give them some leverage, now you get to see how they behave without structure...completely undermining what's ultimately important in the end. Women are very malleable creatures,..so all it takes is a decent amount and they follow suit.
Elon has children with multiple women. He's doing fine. It's true women don't usually care about intelligence as an abstract but functional intelligence is a big part of gaining status and women care if you have results from you actually being smart. They don't care about your potential but wait at the finish line - regardless how you get there. Being a fast runner doesn't matter if you don't run
Another problem is: If you flirt half-heartedly it's creepy, i.e. if you don't want to be creepy you either go all in or don't try. It's like when you decant a liquid from one glass to another: If you do it slowly the liquid spills all over the place. If you don't want to spill it you either decant quickly and confidently or you don't decant at all.
It’s not how you flirt. That’s bs. It’s how you look. Flirting while ugly = creepy rapey vibe = call police = sexual harassment allegations Flirting while good looking = acceptable = get phone number = go on dates = get snuggles =bfgf/wifehubby =make baby.
I understand where you are coming from but I don't generally flirt without the intention of commiting to said person. I feel like its leading someone on to flirt with them then decide you don't like them shortly after. Meeting them should come first then flirting when you decide you like them but that probably all comes back to overthinking things and trying to hard not to hurt their feelings.
@@Justsomenerd69 I meant it differently but I now see I should've made it clearer: By "flirting half-heartedly" I meant being insecure on how to behave, which is a problem for people who like to overhink things.
My best was 129 IQ on a Stanford Binet test. Standard Deviation 15.8. So I fall a bit short. However I can tell you my intellect put me in the friend zone many times.
It's because high IQ men have most of their focus on things of the mind. The brain bus energy is tipped towards cerebral things. Focus a little more on physical attraction on women. Pheromones and hormones play a huge part as well.
imagine being smart enough to have an understanding that some people just dont have said bandwith in their system, meaning not everyone receives the data you told us to focus on
I think this comes down to spare time as well. If you have high IQ you need the stimulation of structured activities for most of you’re awake hours to not get bored. Meanwhile the rest of us with stupid 9 to 5 brains will have more time for relationships.
Wanna know actual hell? Being a smart and attractive guy. Putting it in slowly (giggity) when it comes to getting to know her is a must when you're good in looks due to intimidation. But even a slow car can drive past its destination if it doesn't stop at it. When you're smart, it's easy to get carried away into the nerdy realm of discussion after you get comfortable.
I feel like I get more satisfaction solving a problem or designing a system architecture for a new app than working all night trying to get laid for 20 mins of pleasure. I have just never in my life found the chase of women interesting. I find most most conversations boring and annoying, especially with strangers. I also want to add there is no way I have a high IQ. I am just persistent and have extreme focus on problem solving for things I am curious or interested in, and women have never been a problem that I am interested in solving. Anytime I have been with a woman, I have never been able to relate to her beyond us poking fun at things like the expected social practices that everyone else seems to entertain or follow (like small talk for example.)
Very similar to boxing or fighting its a primal thing. We know floyd mayweather and lennox lewis are smart men. But there was times in their career where they had to drop the clever boxing and fight their way to victory throw punches in the trences without thinking. Manny pacquiao you can tell hes not thinking about his next match, he was just put them in front of me and ill kill. This primal thinking helped manny become the only boxer to win titles in 8 weight classes. A very dangerous thing to attempt. If manny had over thought this stuff he would have talked himself out of fighting biggers guys for fear of being crushed. Great video guys. This applies to life in general even beyond dating. Excellent stuff.
The best remedy is exposure. Go out and learn from mistakes, learn which audience to be depthful with and who to be shallow with. Look at it as a game in which you have to apply yourself differently at each point to get what you want.
Ahhh so this is my issue. I just need to manually drop my IQ with women. I see a lot of truth in this with my anecdotal experiences. I have two friends, one is very smart like me and struggles with women like me, the other is a complete moron and gets laid a lot. I really have to remember this.
Getting laid "a lot" is actually moronic. I turn down bootycalls and drop off chicks from the bar without a kiss. Unless she's super bad in all dimensions it's a silly addiction to chase.
I hope my wife never sees this comment, but the truth is we've had conversations where I tactfully said this already. I struggled with relationships because I analyzed them from beginning to their abrupt end. It wasn't until later that i learned women want to level up, and being smarter than others was a strength i could make sexy. I also learned bad traits need to be mixed, and girls want to be pursued regardless of their status. While i didn't like pursuing women already in a relationship and i didn't like using my intelligence to belittle the competition, it made women interested in me, which led to more unattached interest. And then compassion on the real issues took it home. However, conversations and interests are a total drag. The reason i married my wife, besides her being incredibly hot, was that she had a good character with which i could trust to raise my kids well. We can talk, but i have other relationships for the more stimulating conversations.
My biggest issue has been understanding women in the midst of conversation. They're emotional, erratic and tend to overlook logic in favor of emotion a lot. There will be times I say things most people in a room find outlandish because I'm slightly autistic and forget most people care about how things are said rather than what's said. Keeping this in mind, sometimes a woman will get turned on by this because they're not used to guys saying some shit or completely derail and go into hysteria because they overlook what I'm saying. Most guys will just focus on the message whereas with them you need to adapt more to the type of woman you're speaking to. It gets exhausting figuring it out and where to go from there.
Me exactly. I have learned how to smooth this out and be normal but it takes all my social energy and so my nature slips out sometimes. You’re right many women kind of like it though. L
The answer is that women should recognise the guy is nervous and realise that all she has to do to have the SUPER CONFIDENT guy she wants is to tell him she's into him. "You look nervous, relax...I'm going to value you for who you are, not judge you and treat you bad..I'm interested to find out if you're a really great guy". Suddenly he will be himself and super confident. Even better than the Chad bullshitting her...
The highly intelligent men that I know married intelligent women eg engineer marries a chemist , AI PhD marries a women in the aerospace industry , college professor marries a college professor . My husband is an engineer , I am a licensed medical professional . Super intelligent men are often on the spectrum ( no shade , they have super powers ) they can date women who are a little geeky , it can be a good match
I would argue that there is a small population of beautiful geeky women. They tend to be aite or below average in beauty and dont have much of a sex appeal. Most men focus on these qualities. I would put money down that the highly intelligent men you know who married intelligent women would give up their current wives for one that is far more attractive (assuming theyre not ratchet). Intelligence is a masculine quality.
Basically it because woman are mostly boring and know little of the world!! Hence the watch bs reality TV and bs more than the news ,most have no interest or hobbies they just want things so they can boast to their pretend friends! Facts ! If it wasnt for their vagina no men would care!! That's basically the truth and 99 percent act like Childern their whole lives and are accountable for nothing! Let's be honest here we all know this I could always get females as I acted indifferent around them and was cheeky and I always been in shape but feel for some guys tho they should put these females on a pedesastool ignore the f&&k out them! They want you they let you know never chase!
It's also got to do with the difference in intelligence. There are no common connection points if the difference in IQ is too big. Higher IQ women will value higher IQ in men. They will feel more of a connection.
@@edheldude if your close to 170 there's almost no people period in that range...150 IQ is about 1 per 1,000 people, 170 is probably close to 1 in a million
170 is profoundly gifted and most people could live several lifetimes and not meet someone at that level, regardless of gender or country you are living in.
I have an IQ of 124 Written MENSA test. I think we must try to Go with the flow more. and not overanalyze. when i get in to a BAR/Pub etc.. i scan the room and are looking for connections, - Is she in a relasionship? - Is that her Friend? The cute thing is that Girls approach me :) Tips: 1.lose som weight. 2. buy White shoes 3.buy a white Expensive shirt. 4.smell good 5. buy thin silver neckless 6. place yourself in a good spot so girls can see you. 7. listen to some Uplifting music on the way to the pub. 8. Fix you hair, skin, and beard/shave 9. Most important Find some people that you know at the pub. its hard to go alone (i did party with my 4-year old sons "pre-school teacher" i invited myself to here table and BAAM she had a good looking friend at the table) :) you never know !!
I don’t train my self to attract women, I train for skills qualification intelligence yes improvement of myself. If it isn’t wimin then it’s family, if it isn’t family then it’s friends, if it isn’t so call friends then it’s people. Don’t get me wrong I still communicate with people & mingle but have learnt from a very young age about people. I can be very social & also comfortable being on my own. I accept that I am different & have learnt how to manage & best control my life, but it has taken ill heath to really push this subject. There is so many benefits you can use to better improve yourself without being wicked bad or nasty it’s called wisdom, it all hard work but very satisfying. I Thank God for his patience guidance & Mersey 😊🙏
This is part of the Dunning Krueger effect. Because our society is technologically advanced beyond our evolution, the lower intelligence men are not getting ate by bears, like in the past.
@@cpt.honklerof3rdkekistania400 not really. they attract other drug using, broke/dumb, multiple baby dad having, 304 women that no man of value wants. I wouldn't call those good looking women
What does this have to do with the dunning krueger effect? Nothing. Incredibly ironic how people pretend to know more about that study than they actually do
the problem is not that the men have higher IQ and are not getting laid as a result, when your IQ is higher you tend to think very deep about things and you might not find pleasure in the things low IQ people might find it in, having a low IQ is a blessing while a high one a curse. high IQ people view things much differently and tend to find themselves very lonely even when around others as no one operates at the frequency level they operate in
