Hey Amani really love you Podcast and really enjoyed it and I am man from south Africa and I will really like you to bring out the husbands of this ladies also this will help you see man in different way and in Good way because if the lady is happy with husband that means good man do exist and we all need exposure to that as black community
Love this episode ❤. I absolutely agree on the point of threading lightly with building/investing in a man when he is down, especially if he is not your husband.men who are financially down or building shouldn’t even be dating, everyone situation is different but be careful ladies
I feel SO seen especially when she was talking about her dating experience in DC. I used to lived there and hated every moment of dating. The men are either DL, cheating on their spouse/girlfriends or just straight up losers. You couldn’t pay me to go back LOLLLL😩😩
I respect your personal standard for the men who grew up without fathers. However, I disagree with this idea considering how many Black men grow up without fathers especially in THIS country. Something super out of their control. I think it's about how they have coped with the absent father: Did they find other father figures who weren't necessarily biological fathers? Have they gone to therapy and worked diligently to fill the void of an absent father? Have they been intentional about making God their father? I think that idea/"standard" eliminates men who could actually be beautiful partners/husbands. For anyone watching who may be considering which "standards" they want to have when it comes to dating, I think it's important to push back on that one. I'm enjoying the pod though! Thanks for sharing.
Wait it’s desperate to online date? lol.. I would be single forever if I didn’t. She had a huge friend group bc she was a literal pageant winner and in the military. I work from home, go to church, workout, and so I have no choice. Making over 200k makes it tougher as well. Having a 13 year old son also turns men off. Plus I live in Atlanta 😫🥹
Men don’t date on potential, they date on face value. Either a man loves you for you and want you for you, or they don’t. A lot of women date on potential. Which is not wrong, but it gotta be going towards something. Like are they in grad school,nursing/med school, law school, working towards starting a business. Just working hard to be a better person. Everyone has the potential to do anything, but they got to make that potential into reality.
Yes cutting out men that grow up with a single mother is cutting out a large population of black men and especially black women. I did this when i got married. It pretty much made the pool of women smaller. I ended up marrying a black woman that parents take care of our child when we are at work because they dont believe in daycare. They live in proximity to my parents. Its realky pleasant.
I learned it's about asking questions and watching how they behave in their daily lives will show if there is true change. It's like when people say they are men/ or women of God. Asking questions and seeing the fruit of their lives will reveal the truth.
@@carlinetheTycoon yeah, that’s why I threw off the engagement and decided to leave. lol, only took a month to see there was no real change, only masking.
Loving these videos. It kind of irks me to be called "you guys". A. I'm a woman. B. Now men are calling women dude. C. I'm honing in on my feminine allure and D. It doesn't help the cause.
I understand the intent but let’s talk to people who have been married 10+ years. Let’s not act like the divorce rate is at 50% and higher for BW so taking advice from people who have not passed the rest of time is giving everyone thinks they know something about a successful relationship and you haven’t been in one long enough. How often we find out after the fact that these women married the same tragic men that a lot of women date.
I actually agree with you in some way. It's always great to see seasoned couples. At the same time I think it is great to interview couples at all stages in their relationships and marriages. We all have something to offer in these discussions and lessons that can be learned from all our experiences. Personally, I think there were a lot of gems in this interview, and I hope you were able to enjoy the discussion. - Deshauna
@@SourLossSweetLessons everybody has a story and experience and too often we rely on garnering gems from people we don’t know in real life or wouldn’t or because of proximity counsel in real life and how often do we find out people are not living these realities they claim to speak about in real life. Not saying that’s the case here but the problem is everybody searching for meaning and going to everyone but GOD. People change their lives all the time and their mind all the time as in the case of the podcaster dropping bad habits that at one point she was justifying. People thought many of these celebrities were living right and they weren’t and goy many stories are out their about domestic situations where to the world they were giving advice but suffering silently
@@Allie82386 it’s called a comment section for a reason… for me to comment. People need to stop acting like someone needs to agree with content 100% to engage in a designated comment section. I’m glad you are enjoying the content
6:44 I liked your men of God talk but I think we should be careful when we call women delusional. It doesn’t have the best connotation. We ALL have made mistakes in dating and should be encouraging women in love to see and require their value. All love over here! 🫶
I agree I never dated or considered marrying any woman that did not grow up with an intact family or a woman with children or a divorced woman that broke her covenant since 80% of divorces are initiated by the woman. I'm teaching my 21 yr old son who is a chemical engineer how to find his wife and the biblical characteristics she must have. We believe in 'Parental Involved Courtship' . Yes we take our legacy very seriously with both our son and future lawyer daughter.
