The Science Of Why You're So Awkward 

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Hey, question On your one year anniversary, I'm gonna watch all of your videos and maybe live stream it Do I have your permission? Because it's kind of stealing your content :/

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Don't be awkward

im gonna (awkwardly) abuse the hell out of that term

@@themightycxzeriallord looking too deep

@@allianyt no it makes sense, did u even go half an inch down to understand what they said, we're social creatures, miscommunications between group members its stressing, you see it will be like having someone with a broken leg in your group when youre tryna hunt a tiger together

Ayo I was thinking the same thing. I hate that “soft” language bs but our boy is calling what it is 😂

@@themightycxzeriallord hey man, I think I was talking about how it sounded so cool, not the lore of awkwardness and what happens if I die, cool paragraph anyways

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Yuh, ppl b sum hypocrites sumtimes

That sounds pretty fun ngl And when the enemy is captured you can throw a punch at their jaw so they fall over, just like in the real game. Incredible idea you have there 🗣🔥

Ye, their fault. This seems fun.

That sounds amazing, i would join you

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Why? He just made everything too easy to understand and sacrificed the potential depth the information posed. Simplification, if you will, and perhaps that's your reason too.

@@Cosmo_P0litanSimplification is great to get into sth or even get someone interested in sth. This content is great and there will always be someone else to explain it more in depth for those who got caught

​@@Cosmo_P0litan History classes aren't fun, I will do everything but try to pay attention to it

​@@Cosmo_P0litanabsorbing simple information is important to build a foundation before trying to comprehend and understand more in-depth knowledge.

I wonder what should I do if I am not interested in talking at all, but I need to talk? I can say that this advice is pretty good but it's also important to watch what are you saying or you will end up saying a weird thing

​@@C00KIEspace Don't worry too much about being weird, you're gonna sound weird anyways if you are not used to speak. If you need to talk but you're not interested in talking, maybe try to talk about something you enjoy with people that share something in common with you. It's not an obligation, just don't stress too much over it.

@@BlackDragon-tf6rv Okay! Thank you :)

​@@BlackDragon-tf6rvbut what if i don't know anything about anything so i can never understand whatever topic anyone is taking about since I know nothing about it and i also don't share anything in common with anyone

@@aquaponieee Then you know nothing so you can learn a lot from the other person, people love to talk about what they like

-The Joker

SANS?!?!?

​@@galvinvoltag Trie...

Me at the funeral

Why so serious?

that was such an awkward thing to say

thanks for this :) I just thought I would be like this forever I mean, even if I become a social butterfly it would always be kind of "forced" and not natural. I would rather stay in my comfort zone than forcing myself to be something that I am not.. Now that you said it gets easier and you because this butterfly, I will try my best hahaha :D

​​​@@umloiro3219same, If I would be more social then I wouldn't be me and I would act all the time, because it is just not natural for me to be very social and it's very draining to be with someone who isn't from my close family for 24 hours straight or even more

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Think it depends. I've been socially awkward my whole life and have made new friends every two years on average. I recently started uni too and talked to a lot of people at the beginning and go to societies but I'm still awkward. For some people it is inescapable.

Yeah, strongly agree, focus more on the conversation in general rather some of its foregoing aspects. Sometimes pretty gender makes you feel uneasy, but it is unavoidable. So, accept this and get use to it until you comfortable with it. Experience is everything, and so does the exposure.

I was being interviewed for a job and then a tip about eye contact just suddenly appeared in my mind. I started to think what makeup she was wearing and didn't break the eye contact because I was completely lost in my thoughts. I'm still unemployed and a useless shite in this society.

@@jaxonmcalley don't be so hard on yourself, you'll find a great job somewhere if you haven't already found one, all you need to do is uninstal league of legends

unironically what happened to me before and after quarantine

this sounds easier

as someone who has been unconsciously using this strategy for many moons, I can confirm it has not worked!

Basically a factory reset.

The Pac-Man Universe

predator have instinc to eat the weaker one. but human have more emphaty than a brutal predator. they just need to be informed, or collective consent, so no rule will be broken, certainty, no confution

how does it feel being true humanist? note. don't listen onto the capitalists or hedonists. i'd love to guard my humanists friend

@@insankamil2909ok then try instead

I feel like that could work but for the target audience, not very social people, it could be more awkward it works if u do it right tho

How

Why are you here then, normie? The last thing we need is for socially acceptable people to be even more socially acceptable 😭

@@krembryle7903Quick advice, just stop talking like that and stop talking about other people like that

​​@@krembryle7903 0:02. Does this answer your question?

​@@krembryle7903 gatekeeping self improvement is craaazy

You do get used to it and stop caring

Yeah, I absolutely hate embarrassing myself in front of everyone

She is true tho, I've struggled with social anxiety for 3 yrs and now I can say that I'm able to start conversations with people and properly socialize with my peers. Yeah I'm still a bit nervous but like, the feeling of confidence you get after overcoming such a life crippling hardship is insane 🙏🙏

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​​@@Alesti5I have gotten used to it 5 years ago and stopped caring. it has only gotten significantly worse over time. i never talk with anyone, noone ever tries talking to me, and interactions never go well, always feel uncomfortable and never last, but i still try to force myself into social situations just for the sake of it even though i feel horrible around people

Im schizophrenic which causes me to get super anxious in social situations but the thing you said is what I try too and whats helped me the most I am already awkward because of my disorder which is why most of the time people say I do drugs or so. Thats why I fear to interact with people

The hardest thing for me to do is to continue a conversation. When that happens I start to lose confidence and go back to being more awkward

Thanks a lot

This is excellent advice. Me from 15 years ago wholeheartedly agrees. It definitely works. Awkwardness is 100% a lack of practice unless you're ungodly levels of autistic. Practice more and you'll become less awkward. Just like any other skill. Nobody to practice with? No problem! While not quite as effective, this still works: Get your phone out, stand up, and record yourself yapping for 5 minutes straight. Can't talk for 5 minutes without interruption? Sure you can. Talk about anything. Then watch yourself back and cringe. Try again but try to correct any "cringe" behavior. Boring af? Try to make it less boring next time. Rinse and repeat a solid 100 times and you'll see pretty significant improvement. Write things down and track it.

Thanks for sharing, almost the same thing happened to me too! When I started at my job I was awkward and suffered from social anxiety I guess, and I chose not to talk to anyone. I just did my job and basically talked to no one and once the shift was over went home. This lasted for like three monts until I was like the heck I'm doing, I think it would make this job more bearable if I actually interacted with people. So just started talking to coworkers and it wasn't even that awkward, the conversations became longer and I made friends.

This is very insightful, and I appreciate your knowledge on this topic. I myself am very awkward, it used to be a lot worse but as time passed and I had more exposure, it has gotten better. I have gotten myself to a point where I’m not necessarily content with myself but I know enough about social interactions to at least look ok most of the time, so basically I’ve gotten good at faking it. In order to actually feel less awkward all together, I haven’t really gotten that part down yet. I know it involves more exposure in regards to social environments but I can’t help constantly overthinking and over analyzing pretty much any scenario I find myself in. I constantly feel like I have to explain myself to people or make them understand me for me to be comfortable around them. I always feel like I have to tell everyone everything about myself upon the second I meet them so they’ll accept me and I won’t feel pressured by them to live up to their preexisting expectations. So I understand that I need more exposure and I have to train myself in those areas but how exactly do you propose I should confront the overthinking/over analyzing aspect of all this?

Autism doesn't have "severity" levels. It has a spectrum of needs "levels". I (autistic person) can socialize very well, but I can't "read people" unless they tell me what they're thinking/feeling because I don't think it's logical to assume these things. Why? Body language isn't universal. Not even remotely. I won't guess how anyone is thinking or feeling because it isn't my job. It isn't anyone's. It's everyone's job to communicate in a clear and healthy way. Guessing people's feelings and basing my reactions on my guesses is a recipe for disaster. Direct communication and giving clarity makes life easier for everyone in the end. I suggest that people with trauma related to socializing (most autistic people) surround themselves with people who don't shame them for their "oddness". Essentially, being around people you DON'T need to socially mask with will make a huge difference. No amount of exposing yourself to inconsiderate people will make you more tolerant of mistreatment or social alienation. Essentially, I think everyone needs to find their "tribe" and not focus on seeking the approval of others that would've never accepted them for who they really are anyway. A lot of people are scared to socialize because of trauma through social ostracization/bullying.

Thank you so much

This is amazing advice!

Things that may help: 1) masking 2) be around people who don't perceive your awkward traits as awkward, or otherwise don't make a big deal over them

But preferably the later, masking is kinda exhausting, your friends won’t really know you, and it affects your mental health e.c.t.@@cameronschyuder9034

Fake it till you make it.

I was thinking the same thing LMAO

I'm autistic and I think I'm fairly good at social stuff. some stuff that's helped me: 1) linking what the other person is taking about to my current hyperfixation or special interest 2) instead of making eye contact, I look at their forehead or nose 3) practising common scenarios in a mirror (job interview, small talk on the bus etc) 4) giving myself off time after a long day of masking/talking to spend time with myself in silence 5) finding understanding friends that I can unmask around (especially helps if they're also autistic!!) I'm very high-masking so I've been a social chameleon my whole life but when I get home I completely crash and go mute. It's okay to put on a pretend face for strangers and coworkers if you give yourself time to recover at home and with friends :) Hope this helps!

I have a similar story, forever have felt awkward but 5 years ago I started to go and sing sober karaoke in full bars at weekends. Has helped a LOT :)

@@piuthemagicmanKaraoke requires people to look at you, draws attention to yourself. That's a little too advanced for my blood. No alcohol too? crazy.

That was pretty brave of you haha

@@officialpaulsinwill More like desperate, I didnt talk to any body. Not sure if sarcasm

@@kaelanmcquerry1285 at least you actually went out in a social area and had a bit of fun. some people can't bear the idea of going places by Themselves.

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Haha same

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Chillll

forgive yourself bud

Two minutes ago? Wow

Then it mentions autism... [✓] Autistic [✓] ADHD [✓] Weird and proud of it

You might have autism

You just motivated me so much ahahaha

I would laugh awkwardly in that situation because telling someone they are wholly unfunny makes everything more awkward by a tenfold.

i just fart so it negates all the awkwardness

​@@phosphosaurus6902LMAOO

@@phosphosaurus6902 you do you brother

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you might be sp3d

@@3n3j0t4 oh yeah no i certainly am i display signs of borderline personality disorder, autism and ADHD im basically a fruit shake with eyes

@@littlelobsters3850 wow you’re the least funny and most obnoxious person I’ve ever seen online

Wondering the same thing, this helps nothing. But considering all the positive comments it seems to help out neurotypical people

fr. i don't know if i'm autistic or not but i just feel like i don't belong anywhere and i feel like socializing is something i have to achieve and i don't know how to do that.

@@ennik7162 interact with others and reflect on the experiences. read the room and especially watch the words you say. some autistic people have a tendency to say unnecessary things or they may drag on certain topics. BUT I think being confident or at least acting confident (comfortable in your own skin) can make the conversation just a bit more smoother. remember though that you don't want to be focused on yourself all the time and more on the person you're interacting with. good luck yall 👍

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@@dizo-jp2tdlil random but okay. anyway

@@dizo-jp2tdmight've even been a lil.... awkward?

@@asparagusnoodleMaybe even a lil… autistic?

nah@@dizo-jp2td

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12-18 inches are 30-40 centimeters

Same, I was here at 30K and was like damn the quality is good and now he got 150K

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