This is so important I WAS a professional dominatrix for 15 years and now I am therapist and help people understand and release there past trauma which keeps them trapped and stuck in cycles like using fetishes/addictions etc.
I'd love it if you made a series of this, explaining different fetishes. I think it would help a lot of people, like me, who are severly ashamed of our fetishes and don't understand them.
Absolutely. Introspection and being extremely honest with yourself does work, but it really helps to listen to her analysis to gain the perspective you need to address it.
Myself Myself better to have a fetish and have sexual desire than to be totally shut down. you have nothing to be ashamed of those who have fetishes have nothing to be ashamed of in fact none of us have anything to be ashamed of sexually or asexually.
I'm of the opinion that if you accept yourself, it is healthier than being ashamed and going to someone to try to stop it. I say, accept your sexuality in it's entirety, unless it is actually harming yourself or others, and is to do with minors, but if it isn't, then you got nothing to worry about. Find someone that will accept you, and you will be happy. I personally like BDSM and men in uniform. That's my thing and I actually love it. It is awesome to me. I have never felt guilty for having these likes and I have never had a complex about it. Having a complex is unhealthier than accepting a harmless fetish. I have always been sexually open, accepting and without guilt, but I can understand how hard it must be for someone to not accept themselves for who they are. There are a LOT of kinky people who say "YKINMK", "Your Kink Is Not My Kink" and who have very open minds and are very accepting of others kinks, even if they personally are not into it themselves.
@@vienepiccolina I appreciate that perspective, but let's also remember some things we just naturally want. There's some things that are just authentically just ourselves.
I kind of knew this already, but not quite this deeply. It hurts my heart to know of people's torments in life, how deeply people suffer and how they manifest relief because they haven't been able to make these meaningful connections in their everyday life. It's those people that are labeled with the most hanis of crimes or that people are the most repulsed by that are seemingly the most tormented. This is not an excuse for certain behaviors, but definitely an explanation. I hope that they can someday find and make those meaningful connections and find peace of mind & peace in their hearts so their lives will feel more fulfilled.
I just wanted to say, that this video probably had one of the biggest impacts out of all the videos I have watched from you. You broke Psychology down in a very simplified easy to understand way in a matter of minutes. I have lived half my life not understanding WHY I crave the things I do, and you laid it out so simple. For the first time in my life because of this video I can actually start to love and accept myself for who I am. And the biggest realization is that it's not my fault, but it's okay. I can accept it now, because I understand it more. Thank You, you never cease to amaze me.
I have a fetish for having sex with virgins, I think its because of my unmet desire for being the first choice. I was constantly the second option and I remember traumatizing moments of me being very hurt because of this.
Well looking at your profile photo, you have turned some young guys into very lucky young men... 😂 Wish I had met a girl like you when I was back in college. 😂
I can't speak for necrophiliacs but you're bang on when it comes to foot fetish & domination vs submission. It's nice to see someone recognize that masochists are just looking to let go of control and it's the sadists who are more likely to have an abusive past... I'd noticed the same from my discussions with people, we all seem to be looking to experience what we don't get in real life, but some of the connections you made are really insightful
When I feel impulse or triggered from my personal fetish I find it helpful to embrace my inner child who feels powerless until he feels safe. I find this very freeing as the impulse is not as strong as it was way before
i think the submissive fetish could also be caused by being made to feel guilt or shame around sex and what they found sexually arousing, so they fear being held responsible for that
Rachel Lowe Exactly! You phrased that so well. And the same is true for alcohol/getting drunk fetishes too. The person is ashamed of being sexual, and instead prefers to feel like/pretend they're not responsible for the sexual act, despite how much they actually enjoy it
That would complitly be acurat for rape fetishes (more comen then you think) but subission is a general term in kinky circles and can look very difrent from person to person
@Mr. 8-Bit Doggo one partner is tuned on by feeding the ozther partner and making them as fat as possible. I would say this might have an underlaing theme of being a nurturor/ being nurtured. Mother theams. Often its Guys feeding Girlfriends. To the point of imobility, so maby also the subconcious idea of her being unatractive for others and depending. You can finde a lit of documentaries online. Sadly its a fetish that realy is risky for your health. I realy dont get it personaly. I am a nurturing typ but to me that is taking care for someone to be healthy. (Sorry englush isent my first language :-)
No. I prefer being submissive because I enjoy the use of dominace from a male energy. I like being held down. Etc. Because the assertion is not only something I enjoy . It's a projection of confidence and guidance I never had growing up. Also. Assertive men who know what they want are hot
@@AA-ti9od Old comment I know, but I have to tell you, being submissive isn't just a bedroom activity. It is seeped into many people's personalities, even in non sexual situations. Being submissive or dominant isn't just sexual, it is a part of their makeup.
A family councilor wrote a book (I forget the name..) She said that adults need love affection affairs with children, and children need love affection afgairs with adults. If this is denied them, it can become a sexual fetish. She was not in anyway suggesting sexuall affairs. I rmember how I had a crush on my second grade teacher. A few boys did. At last I became brave enough to put a rose in the handle of her red Ford Mustang. Then I hid to watch her look all around happy to wonder who was her secret admirer. It was the third or fourth time I left a rose in her door handle that she saw me hiding in the bushes. "Ricky, is that you? Come out..." "Is this rose from you, Ricky?" "Yes, I love you Mrs. M_____" "I like you too, Ricky." "Can I have a hug?" "No, I can't," she said, as she smiled adoringly at this seven year old boy , whilst hugging her arms across her breasts as if she were holding my head to her bossom. "I can't; You understand?" I said, "Yeah. The other boys would be jealous if I told, and you might get fired." "Thankyou for the roses. No more roses. See you in class. Bye. " After that, it was easier to be around her cause I didn't have to hide my feeling, and she had sent me the affection I so needed though her eyes her smile and said body language. So i got over her. (mostly) Still gets my heart pumping when I meet a women of that temperament and facial type.
That was so adorable! I've heard a few times that our ultimate 'type (s)' will always be our first crush and/or first love. I have to agree with this. My first crush as a child was a singer (I wont put his name here though) and to this day when I see someone of his style and features, I get butterflies. Same for my first love as a teen who was my second BF, though the opposite ethnicity (coloring/hair/eyes) of my first childhood crush I still find myself very attracted to similar men.
@@Heidi_137 The deep emotional connection and love between two people is what really makes sex great anyway, it can raise it to an almost spiritual level, a transcendent state, becomes more than just two bodies but two souls intertwined, mingled in love, it has a sacred element to it, the body then becomes just a means of expressing and experiencing the beauty of this reality, its sad that modern culture has lost sight of this truth and has reduced sex to just something "fun", a means of pleasure to be "had", in other words a product to be "consumed" etc, The ancient people's truly knew the true depth and sanctity of sex, aswell as every other aspect of life i believe, whilst we have in large part have lost this way of viewing things, the reasons for all this could fill thousands and thousands of pages if it were to be written down in full, in short though it is because of the destruction of religion and the spiritual/metaphysical framework that society was once built upon and ordered by and towards and the replacement of thus with what is ultimately a practical nihilism which itself grew from philosophical nihilism, the belief in no ultimate objective truth, god etc, the Natrual consequence of this ideology been that people then live their lives without the experience of a higher reality because the very subjective experience of man has been altered as a result of all this, so when it comes to sex it also is experienced only in its most base form, hedonistic pleasure seeking, instead of an expression of a spiritual inclination.
Consent!!!! If your partner is not willing to take part in whatever fetish you desier, dont go through with it!! have compassion and address the real issue behind your fixation
I think the domination/devotion fetish can also be related to a wish for amalgamation. this can be the result of emotionally unavaillable parents, so the baby never lost the craving for the closeness they need in very young age. If you are in complete control of another person, who does all you wish, you can extend your own person into another one, fusing together.
Love exploring the human condition. To understand others is to understand self. Love that you can carry on a dialogue without a bunch of wasting my time mannerisms like mr. Deep waters.
I always find Teals videos shatter my original thoughts and opinions of things in the best way. I find some videos so truthful you really do have to have the courage to recieve her divine knowledge and expand. Amazing!!
Me too. I have a friend who claims to be asexual, but I know my friend likes sex, she just does not like having sex with another person, but rather likes to have another person turned on by her. Is she truly asexual, if so, what exactly is asexuality or is she fooling herself for who knows why. I would like to know more.
Thank you. My question is what drives adults to pedophilia? Is it a fetish as well? I feel it’s most important for humanity to know what causes it. So we can help heal the ones who do it, save our children. Also so we can forgive those who do it.
She has a video on pedophilia. The pedophile feels detached from their own sense of innocence. The attraction to children is a subconscious desire to reconnect with their innocence.
Although I don't agree with the term use to describe a Dominant as an "abuser" or submissive as being "abuse" I can relate with the explanation given to understand somehow the fetish or as we call it the live style. It is important that we'd understand this. Because in the end many of us have a sexual fetish.
My fetish is having the most soft, gentle and tender intimacy, with him in control. So gentle we hardly notice we have bodies anymore. I want to be adored for my existence and my vessel in that moment, told with words how I am making him feel and how grateful he is for me. What could this explain? I was abused growing up physically, sexually and mentally toyed with by my step father. I've steered away from my sexuality and from men completely, have never been in a relationship let alone held someones hand. I'm afraid, and feel like my fantasy of physical intimacy is but a dream- because how could anyone reach that level and gentleness with me at my most vulnerable state when I'm nothing. How could I make anyone feel that good, it seems like the most mind boggling idea. It's crazy because sexual energy is so much of who we are so when you feel wounded and afraid of it, it affects you on every level. Thank you for this video, all your videos. Much to think about.
What you want is possible to get. But as long as you dont leave your fears and scars behind and look at it as “it happened but Im over that” than you will never be able to get what you want. Nobody can heal you but yourself.
I'm sorry to hear that you were experience truama when you were growing up. Hopefully , you will learn to let go the past and I knew this is not very easy specially it triggers you when the past experience it remind of certain situation. I believe the healing begins when you forgive the one who did wrong to you so you can move on and start practice a healthy boundary.Is not your fault and sometimes the victim was to blame , anyway as long you knew the truth and speak your own truth. Thank you for sharing and I want you to know that you are not alone..
I only just found your videos today. Lovely. I was just discussing this same concept with a friend when talking about phobias. Like homophobia/transphobia. It's somewhat of a flip side but sometimes the desire can be so warped in this physical existence that we seek to push it away even as we are drawn to seek it out again and again.
i used to have a strong fetish for tickling (weird i know, i decided to just be transparent ) but as a young child i was tickled excessively by a caretaker at my daycare when i was 4 or 5. i feel like those actions had influenced my fantasies, but i’m grateful that it’s starting to go away after years. it’s crazy how it starts before we are even conscious of it
I don't know how you do it, but you speak my language perfectly! It was like I understood this HUGE new, but old part of myself I haven't felt in so long... that I finally reconnected with, like a lost part of my emotional self akin to a parent finding their runaway child..., that helped me answer (although painful as hell) some long unanswered questions. An most importantly helped me accept my most embarrassing fetish and aspects of said embarrassing fetish... it even helped me understand what went wrong in virtually all my relationships and even re-asses one relationship thag could've gone well, and if that one doesn't turn out to be salvageable, how many more people out there that can understand me..., a rebirth in the zest for life!
This is so eye opening... I've had a fetish of having my body be indulged in by multiple people, which made me feel ashamed because in relationships I prefer loyalty and being sexual with only one man. I realize now that the source of the fetish is my own desire to benefit as many people as I can, but felt "powerless" to do so. I'm a Sun in Cancer, Moon in Pisces, and I've always had the desire to be the giver and provider to everyone I care about because so many family and friends have given me a lot. But whenever I did give or try to give, they didn't accept it. Idk why...maybe they didn't feel worthy of receiving? In any case, I know what I must do now. Thank you, Teal 🙂↕️🙏🏼
Thx. You explain enough examples for me to more clearly see why I think of going down on a woman. I was molested by a girl baby sitter when very little. She wanted me to eat her out but all I could think of was germs so I said no. After that she was sad (guilt) and then lost interest in me finally stopping baby sitting me. A lot of emotions to deal with for a 5 year old. A lot of adult emotions and subject matter that even adults can hardly deal with, so why should kids be able to deal??? It has affected everything in my life negatively... But now I understand a lot more after your video here! Thank u!!
These kind of psychodynamic explanations are too easy and convenient and can be very appealing to people to fel like they've finally figured themselves out. They MAY play a part but even then it's impossible to really tell and there are definitely many more factors at play - natural characteristics of people for example or random encounters with something which then become deeply ingrained.
This makes a lot of sense... I totally agree with them too but I'm not ashamed and I know why I have certain fetishes that's why I plan on trying to act them out with someone I trust and love that loves and accepts me...
Hmm, I'm a gay guy who has always had a raging muscle fetish. Never really super into dominance or BDSM, but literally just ripped guys flexing their muscles. I think this obviously translates to wanting power and confidence, but even after I feel like I've already accomplished those things, I still continue to be a little bit obsessed with muscular guys because they're just realllyyy fun to look at lol
Seriously Teal!! Been watching you for years! A year in rehab amd i learned more from you than i did anything including the 12 step programs!!! Which i love but i ve grown more from your teachings along with my pain that lead me to you than any other means of learning.
First time having contact with your channel through a great short on women being different than man, then I decided to take a look around and this is your first video I see and the first contact I had with such topic. And I got to say I was surprised with how interesting it was to watch, you offered such interesting insights into psychology and how even our fetishes affect and reflect our everyday lives. Thanks for the content!
thanks for sharing! , always educational, entertaining, and usually uplifting to get notified that there's a video awaiting. , I'm so grateful you feel comfortable disseminating information this way.
What about a cigarette smoking fetish? What emotional state does one want to experience but feels powerless to manifest in reality if he finds cigarette smoking women extremely extremely sexually attractive? (Asking for a friend 🙄)
Psychosis yes it is helpful. As for me. I feel guilt and ashamed for being kinky. Hard to fit in and find like minded friends and relationships that like the same. I don’t know any more? Hope you’re doing well. My name is Chris. 🙏❤️
I used to be into dominant S&M then switched to submissive S&M 🤔 I was both physically, mentally, emotionally abused and told to be responsible and strong and excel in childhood. Actually the abuse theme was stronger first when my dad was with my mom then when my mom kicked him out the responsibility theme was huge because I was the oldest male in the house. Damn that makes a lot of sense.
Teal I love your work. I’ve honestly gained more understand of myself through your videos and precise explanation of the subject in a way that is clear to understand and doesn’t leave me more confused. Thank you 🙏🏽 ❤️
I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you! Especially during a world pandemic where so many people have lost so much
Thank you for explaining this! Nobody has ever done this to my knowledge before! It should be commonplace information - so incredibly helpful and freeing. :O) I always wonder WTF is that about, lol? :OD
I need a fetish that would make me feel safe. I have a phobia to feel lust, I instantly supress it. I only feel it when nobody knows / can see me. Any suggestions?
Kimasxi It doesn't matter what you choose, but whatever you watch/masturbate to/orgasm to often enough will cause associations to be formed and you'll ultimately feel comfortable with it. Then you can always access that fetish/memory during sexual activity with a partner. But idk -- just a thought!
@@hup1699 oh, thank you for explaining that fetish for us. I think my friend's got it although he's never told me that directly but there was a point when it was his turn to choose a movie and he chose something that was kinda erotic movie about two necrophiliacs lol :D Very poor one btw. At least he watched it with someone who didn't shame him for being too much of a freak
@@elana5113 I actually chose not to watch/masturbate/fantasize/orgasm at all. I don't like it anymore and I´m fine this way. Fighting against that "something-is-wrong-with" self was terrible. I chose not to have a life partner but have the long-forgotten peace instead. :-)
one thing that I'm totally aware of being absolutely afraid of is cannibalism that apparently can be linked to fetish, and funnily enough, perhaps why I may have spectrophilia/phasmophilia (and exophilia, even)--- subconsciously hoping that the afterlife (or those 'elsewhere') can provide unconditional nurture and love because it's too fuckin' scary to be around a lot of (unconscious) humans being absolutely uncertain of their intentions....it's DEFINITELY HELPED ME to dig so deep into shadow work....thanks for being a trailblazer, Teal.💚
I have a personal fetish for crossdressing, specifically in wearing women's one piece swimsuits and leotards. I also have a fetish for transgender (Male to Female) time lines. Although the gender orientation is on a spectrum, I am very attracted to femininity and not masculinity. Am I in denial in becoming transgender/a woman? This is hard for me to understand because I am fine being a male, although I do not really take things for face value. It seems too simple for me to accept that 'dressing up as a women=wanting to become a women'. And why is it that swimsuits/leotards specifically attract me? I think it's the shape that it creates, although again, that's too simple.
Well, just because you want to dress like a woman a) doesn't mean you HAVE to want to be a woman b) doesn't mean you have to be transgender because you might not want to change your sex even if you'd like to be a woman (you might just not want to go through the actual changing) c) you're fine, it's totally normal, OK and understandable. I suggest you just explore your fetish and accept it but it seems you already are. I don't think you're in denial of anything nor do I feel you need any help, I feel from your comment that you are OK with that and it sounds great. BTW, what are mtf time lines?
I was abused as a kid by my dad and now like to be dominant. What exactly is my true desire? To have control? I’d like to manifest what I healthily want
I am into BDSM and I have not had a bad childhood, no abuse, no daddy issues etc. I am not into physical pain, but I am into a tiny bit of humiliation. I just like it. I have always been shy and submissive. I am just looking for someone to compliment me, as a sub and a sub together won't really work. I have said this before, but my submissiveness is something inside me that is deep, it feels primal. It feels good. It doesn't have any negative effects on me, so it is not classed as a mental disorder. I also have a thing for uniforms. Men in SWAT uniforms and motorcycle gear are my fave, as well as gas masks. I remember playing a video game when I was young. It was a fighting game, Rival Schools, I think it was called. There had a character in there which had motorcycle gear on, including the helmet. I LOVED that character. I always played as him/her (idk what gender it was) and I just loved what he/she was wearing. I thought it was so cool. As a teenager, I always loved it when I saw guys in the army or couldn't help looking at men in motorcycle gear riding past. Then came the colonial marines in the movie Aliens. I had a soft spot for them, especially for Hicks. But only in his uniform. So, there hasn't been any negativity or anything like that with my fetish. I just like it, and actually, if you are in the fetish/BDSM community, you would know that a LOT of people can remember that they liked things as children, and it grew into a fetish as an adult. Such as, say bondage. I have heard of some people talking about how they were as a kid, fascinated by cartoons of damsels in distress tied up, or played with being tied up as a kid. I personally think that fetishes, as long as they are not causing you any distress, are consensual and with adults, and not harming anyone, are OK. I don't like the whole "fetishes are caused by some sort of negative experience as a child" type of thing. As I know, for me, all experiences have been positive as a child.
+TricksterLove+ Sounds like maybe you led a pretty much straightforward respectable life with you in control of it and therefore (craving opposite) you like humiliation etc Lol Your bored of a good life
Sorry for the late reply, I never got the notification that there were comments... No, I had a great childhood and I have VERY supportive parents. They may not get certain aspects of me, but they understand that I am me, and I like things that they may not like. These ignorant assumptions of having something wrong with fetishists are outdated, to put it mildly. Not just that, it is insulting to fetishists, would you like it if your sexual preferences were so questioned that you have people saying "that poor person, they must of had a bad childhood", just because you are different? Quite a few steps backwards into DSM territory, which is obsolete. Hey Teal, you hear that?! It's so out of date to think this way even the DSM doesn't agree with what you are saying! Everyone is different. So, isn't it fair to say everyone will have different likes and dislikes? Why is sexuality any different to other things? Is it because sexuality is still seen as taboo? Of course, I am not saying every fetishist has a healthy relationship with their fetish. I mean, if you become obsessive to the point of not being able to do daily things, then yeah, it's a problem. If you just like to spice up your sex life with something that gets you going, then that is OK.
I share one of your fetishes: Men in uniform, especially cops. I also have a bondage fetish, but that occurred in young adulthood (sometime between 19 and 21, I would say), when I saw a cop handcuff someone and started to wonder what it'd be like to be handcuffed.
@Teal Swan I get it now. My fetish, which you didn't cover in this video. Wow! It makes total sense about the hidden cry. Truly enlightening, subbed for sure 🧡
Hi Teal, I have a fetish for being submissive to women and being used and abused. However, I always had supportive wonderful parents. Could you please explain what my reason/emotional lack could be? Any help would be great 👍 thanks
Hi Teal!! Thank you for this video. Could you make a video talking about modern day relationships and sex; is it true that we exchange energy with people during sex? What if I am not in a place where I can have a long-term and emotionally healthy relationship with one sexual partner, but I still have physical desire for touch and intimacy? Is the only solution celibacy? Thank you Teal!
Wow how interesting and even more so ur information that made me feel the complete opposite when u first mentioned u would explain about ppls ferishes with necrofelia omg gosh how heartbreaking and never would I ever thought this two things would have a connection . It literally blew me away with the saddest not repulsion or anger 🙀
This video has helped so much on a personal level. Thanks Teal. I didn´t know about your work until today and I feel very appreciative I have found your channel. I hope you come to Berlin soon!
Ok, the concept behind manifesting by using an orgasm is very logic: sexual energy so powerful it can create life, so simply focus on what you want while you're orgasming and then you'll get this thing into your life. But there is one big flaw on that: why men that masturbate visualizing an attractive woman end up DON'T MANIFESTING this kind of women as sexual partners? Please explain.
When ever you're creating something, it's first on an energy level... you must stay aligned emotionally, your thoughts and vibrations must match what you want in order for it to finally manifest physically. If you doubt your manifestation you're stopping its manifestation and killing it! Men who visualize attractive women during sex but are sure that that could never happen in real are killing their wish right from the start...
Faith and intention is not enough. Everyone has faith and intention that they'll get hot girls and money. You have to set goals, put the hard work in and be willing to fail. And then try all over again. If faith and intent were just enough then every fat, pathetic, out of work troll who lives in their mommy's basement can beat off their way into mansions, cars and gorgeous ass on both hands lol.
Basically, *(1)* some faith is definitely required and the MORE, the BETTER. Faith affects the quality of the intent vibration. *(2)* orgasm helps set INTENTION & GOAL - both INTERNALLY (your sub-conscious) and EXTERNALLY (the field/universe) *(3)* Your ACTIONS, along with those of the universe, ultimately need to produce the manifestation. *a)* You are more likely to engage in consciously-willed behaviors aligned with your desire when your sub-conscious has been programmed via orgasm *b)* Orgasm helps program the universe to "meet you halfway" by aligning external actors and favorable synchronicities towards achieving your goal. The universe lines things up for you, basically. *This is the value of the moneyshot.. I mean ORGASM.* Peace ;)
In Teal Swans video "Using Orgasm to Change a Belief", she says that during orgasm the ego is removed, and advocates changing beliefs by telling ourselves things we don't actually believe, and that the thought will penetrate due to our state of openness during orgasm. So according to that theory, focusing on something even that we don't believe doesn't prevent manifestation during orgasm because during orgasm the ego is removed. So therefore I think another explanation is needed, I still don't understand the full explanation as to why the attractive women are not being manifested according to this theory.
what if you can point out now where your fetish might come from but you dont really want to give it up because you still find the fantasy to be very pleasurable and it's a source of strong emotion you don't want to miss?
Teal is there a cure for fetishes that ashame people? I'm embarrassed of my fetish to be dominated by strong women I want to not be attracted to tough women..I want a relationship with a gentle sensitive woman. I think if I had a healthy sexual relationship it might cure my fetish. I understand that your video explains why we have fetishes and it's not our fault this helps us heal thank you teal I really grow from your videos.
Being ashamed, it is not the fetish that is the problem, it is how you view your fetish that is the problem. Shame is never healthy, good, or a positive and helpful emotion for anyone to experience. It is only detrimental to a persons psyche. It has no positive effects for that person. Maybe it has positive effects for others, but others don't need to poke their noses into others business to satisfy their cravings of telling others what they should be doing with their lives, in other words, it is none of their business what another does, so should not be so judgemental and horrid to others for being different. It is not the problem of the person with the fetish, it is the others problems if they shame you. They need to have deep contemplation on themselves if they shame you, as there is something going on for them if they feel so self important to feel like others should do what they say always, and if they come across difference, they shame to satisfy their own ego. Shame has no positive effects on the people that hold it inside, and others can f off if they feel they can shame people for being themselves and giving others such negativity inside themselves. Shaming someone is being cruel to them, it is hurting them and is harming someone. It is a form of abuse, to me. A subtle way to abuse, but it is still a form of abuse.
So funny how you're trying to keep a straight face lol you're so charming! This piece makes me feel like fetishes are more obsessive than anything than myself - or most of us- feel compelled to act out on pathologicaly (I'm only confident that's out of context and I'm simply sharing"imho" drivel), even if you like a well-taken-care-of this or that body part (whyd they mention that LOL), indeed evolutionary and social reasons for these hard-wired commonalities between humans becoming exacerbated in individual cases; indeed it is where we put focus and cultivate these tendencies that we draw fundamental associations with
...ever since i was a kid, i was attracted by brunettes with blue eyes. My very first girl i ever kissed was like that. She seemed very powerful and strong and i became obsessed with it (my pattern). I could never stand any girl that would not fit my profile.... is this any kind of a fetish? an obsession? How can i get rid of it or should i? When i listen to you or even look at you, you know what is happening, right? I am very attracted to your videos and what you are talking about and i really hope that there is another one like you out there....
I have a foot fetish and I was the 1st born in the family and I do have a dominance fetish to some extent, and when I think about it, the bullying, slander and deception I suffered growing up must have triggered it somehow.
I'm not sure I buy your foot fetish explanation. I just like women with beautiful feet. I'm the first born and when I was young my mother always made time for me. I don't buy your explanation.
@@Helloworld-ps3qd The reason why i know is cause i attended a coaching course for cureness od masturbation. The reason is because of very rare external circumatances i couldn't marry till i reached 30 now, so i looked and somehow still to women as something hard to aqcuire, thus even the slightest and most humiliated part of any human being - feet - is like a dream for me . I know it sounds weird but i am just explaining the uncouncious reason behind this fetish in my case, but who said uncounciousness is built on logic anyway
@@krimo5700 that's not how you have a foot fetish, you are either born with it or you aren't, it's how your brain is wired, maybe you like humiliation? That doesn't mean you have a foot fetish. I like feet not because it's humiliating, but simply because my brain is wired to like feet.
Thank you, this was a real eye opener to me with regard to my desires and preferences. You are a great teacher, your explanations are very clear and easy to understand with real life examples. Thanks!.
