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You got my phone tapped??? You speaking the contents of my heart.thank you for your commentary on vulnerability and choosing ones self.... Being vulnerable is a super power, I recognize society confuse vulnerability with victimization.... total opposites. Right on aaron...
I'm having trouble w understanding a lot of this online stuff,I have only a phone but couldn't get on the free podcast and workshop. I really love and resonate w these videos but having trouble making connections. What should I do ?
After my divorce, I was desperate to find love. But now I’m really just wanting to fully love myself and I do enjoy being alone as well. I no longer feel alone
yes i totally agree, i think it’s because we are so use to receiving love from someone else that we go out looking for it right after the break up but we fail to see at the moment that we can give ourselves that love!
U attract who u are. Choose urself . Enjoy being alone . Become aware of ur traumas and realise that it's not ur fault that it turned out the way it turned out. Become aware of the energy u r embodying. It's ok to rebel ppl and make room for new one. It takes courage to be vulnerable and authentic. Allow urself to step into new you .
"It takes courage to be vulnerable and authentic" Strange, this lesson seems to be popping up into my life a lot as of late. I keep hearing it over and over, in one form or another.
After experiencing a relationship with a narcissist most of this is very relatable, when you feel so unworthy that anyone showing you love is almost miraculous to you, then some people might take advantage of that, just because they can. You need to feel worthy of the best things in life, and you don't need anyone else to validate that.
🎉🎉🎉 that’s the ultimate thing to bring it all to ahead! I’ve been in recovery for 17 years, and for the first few years, things were getting better and better in my life. Then I contracted Lyme disease, lost my health and ability to work and location all at the same time! bouncing around for four years trying to get better, met my borderline/narcissist ex in 2015. Right in the middle of the most excruciating illness imaginable. Every single thing that I’ve been through shit twisted around, used as knives and ammunition to try to destroy my life. Ran into a few more of these in the past eight years as well. And I’m like “WTF God? I’ve been doing everything right and you just keep punishing me, destroying every inch of my life…“ being in recovery, I was look at my part in things first, and really couldn’t figure it out. For years and years things just got progressively worse while I tried to keep everything together with bubble, gun and duct tape for the sake of my daughter. Ultimately, continued, seeking and trying to find out what my part is in all this. And I think it all comes down to self-love. Although I was trying to live my life, I was still operating under a lot of the spoken and unspoken rules of my family and society, many of which I’ve known are not true for me for years or decades. But I had no other map to go by in recovery, or so, I thought! But it has been a wild journey of being taken advantage of, abused, and betrayed in every imaginable way. Try to just have the tiniest bit of a healthy boundary with these creatures, and they act like somebody’s dropping nukes on them.
Yes when I give a fuck about manipulating to get what I want I feel like fucking shit cause I’m not being me it’s a complete disrespect to my own natural sense of self confidence, also got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this that you might like too 😈🔥💪🏋️♂️☯️
Finally Found emotional available man. So according to this, I must have grown as a person. He and i talk about our feelings and insecurities etc. It's new, fresh, for me. First time a man and not a boy, i cry because I'm so happy.. i feel secure and Safe with him, because we can talk about every experience we have together... We are putting in the work together, never had this before.. Thank you for this👌
So true Aaron . I was emotionally unavailable. So kept on attracting same type of person over and over. Different face , same scenario. Yes , thank you for teaching me to chose myself. I wasn't.
Yes. A few days ago going through a deeper phase while spiraling upward in my ascension as I do with my team in nonphysical, I was told 'The only thing wrong with you is you believe there is something wrong with you." So many of us in pain who have withdrawn and are shielding our hearts without realizing it, thinking this is our natural state and that we are being loving when we are really so much more. Love you, Aaron. This is so brilliant. You are an amazing person. This planet is lucky to have you at this time in human ascension. You came here taking on the issues of alignment and you move through them these challenges showering lightcodes as you go.
This is me. I love being alone and dreaming and watching RU-vid and learning learning learning. I got so lost in a “twin flame journey “ constantly chasing and I’m like no- I’m the vibes - I am awesome to be around. I validate myself . I show myself consistent affection and attention.
Recently have adopted the idea of "I am the one" and today's video just had secured it, wondrous to be on this page to reflect on my existential 'vulnerability'🙏🏻Feelings projected on another person to be returned un accepted was heavy, damp, manipulative, angry and hollow, which is when I realized why it deserved 'No, thank you'. That's when I start taking care of deserted self I had been abandoning , looking for another person. After all, a person other than myself won't have to be a 'medium' to feel a human being.
It is the 100%truth!!! I had to heal & step away from dating. Men are chasing me down at this bc I don’t care and I am busy doing my hobbies & creating my artwork
I am so happy U said u like being alone with yourself cuz that's exactly where I'm at. I stepped away from a 13yr relationship that was decent but I felt the call to be alone with myself. I absolutely love being alone. I love watching my videos cuz I'm always wanting to learn, I love meditation and reading books. In my relationship I was scared of being alone but I'm so happy I am now. I'm learning to appreciate myself.
I'm trying to leave a narcissist after 8 years. I feel like an empty shell. Thank you for helping so many of us to navigate past trauma. I always feel so elevated after listening to you. ❤❤ 🌌
I love myself so much I don't spend any time with the people from my past. I feel so sorry for my younger self for not choosing her sooner. But I keep learning and improving and I have much better friends and also a beautiful kind lover now ❤
I whole heartedly resonate, I went into a situation where I was not ready for a relationship neither was the other. We managed to find ourselves in a web of situationship until I had the courage to walk away… it was hard but I’m happy that I’ve been able to recognise this and now focus internally!
So true! I choose myself. You rock, Aaron. I love being in my own energy and my own company. Still working my way out of survival mode honestly. Much love
You know your right and it is hard for me to hear that all this time I have been emotionally unavailable and it’s hitting me hard today! I thought all these years why am I attracting toxic partners or this past relationship wouldn’t commit to me. And it hit me today with the words your saying .
Thank you for being so genuine with us of how we can really change our lives… I finally had the epiphany that I need to choose myself!!! I choose myself ❤❤❤❤
Wanted to let you know that I just started watching your videos and your words have opened the blinds for me. I get it now. I understand. Thanks for that. Keep going, you're making a difference. -Maria
Extremely true!!! Life lessons karmic relationships twin flames soul mates n eternal soulmates n flames. Knowing u don't need another to find your self worth which heals co dependcy issues. Setting assertive boundaries with clear communication. Can I recommend a book Louise Hay Heal your Body, n The Secret (Power).
If you atract with someone .. and at that point you are emotional not ready, that person will react on you with the same energy.. You 2 together make a circle so the energy will be in no time reach the same frequency, it can be a split second. You always get your mirror in front of you. So work on your own frequency, be aware of what you really want and who you are. Than you will find deep love in yourself and others ❤
I think I will sign up for this challenge on Friday. I have had deep abandonment issues from a very early age, and haven't really dealt with them in order to be free of them. I am committed to making myself my most biggest project because I am worthy and deserving of this opportunity to heal and grow as a person and to be able to raise my vibration and authentically love myself again.
Dude before I even watched the rest of the video, as soon as you said “you clicked on this video for a reason” I paused and wrote this comment. I was actually thinking twice about watching this earlier but now I was like no this looks like something I need to see. Thanks in advance lol
In the past year, I've realized almost everything you are SAYING DUDE. This makes me so happy. I was obsessed with core beliefs and attachment styles. People are not informed on that like they should be. THANK YOU for spreading this information. Thank you thank you thank you because you are the voice for the voiceless. You're wording everything in a way that makes so much sense for people to understand and its 😗🤌 chefs kiss dude. Love love love. Keep doing what you're doing. Cause you're doing amazing.
Are you my Life Doppelganger? Because your journey so reflects my own and the place I'm currently in that it's eerie 😮 Thank you for your authenticity! I love it!
Grew up abused, depleted my soul.... I am closed off, so I am working to heal I love being in a great community. Right now I am not...looking to move and be happy
When you described narcissism, I kinda felt I am because I always ask so much of everyone to feel safe/heard and seen. I don't know if it's by fear or narcissism or both. It was really interesting to reflect on how we project the unavailability
This is so true for me. I'm on this journey right now and it's so freeing. Thank you for sharing this! Its a confirmation that I'm on the right path! I really needed to do the self work and drop the 'story'. Very excited for the future ❤ Thanks!
Thank you. I really relate to your videos. I think it’s true what you say. I attract emotionally unavailable people for a reason; and it’s a flat line when people approach me wanting something. Now that I’m aware; I will heal. ❤🙏♥️
Bc I hadn’t healed my past, I’ve only dated narcissists. I grew up with a narcissist stepdad and a mother who wasn’t there for me physically, although she was very kind to me otherwise. With these repeated relationships with not only male narcissist partners but female narcissist partners as well. I came to a point where I decided to love myself after getting treated the worst I ever have been by a partner. I choose myself and lost 17lbs in the last 6 months while gaining muscle as well. I love where I’m at mentally and physically. I just started talking to this very kind man who is literally treating me the way I always deserved but… I’m starting to think should I choose love with a partner again and receive the love I’ve always deserved but take the possible chance of getting hurt in the future? Or just choose myself this time bc I am literally SO happy with myself for once and where I’m at!
Yes when I give a fuck about manipulating to get what I want I feel like fucking cause I’m not being me it’s a complete disrespect to my own natural sense of self confidence, also got a bunch of comedy skits on my channel about this that you might like too 😈🔥💪🏋️♂️☯️
Im the same way I like being alone and I’m always learning things and I need space to do that. I also sorted out recently because I had so many ailments on the right side of my body the spiritual meaning was daddy issues which I thought couldn’t be right because my dad was safe and steady, but it lead me down a rabbit hole of realizing that was almost worse because he really didn’t give me the time of day even though we were all together and he was a “good dad”. I always thought my mom having narcissistic tendencies was the root of my attachment style but it’s my dad, never feeling worthy of him. I was highly emotionally neglected by both parents but my dad on another level, my teenage journals are full of rants about how he won’t even speak to me. And as much work as I do on myself I cannot get to a place where I feel genuinely lovable. I don’t know what it feels like so it’s tricky to pull that energy in.
I think it's the same put in different words, unless you fully accept yourself and work on becoming the best version of yourself, you will radiate neediness. Or you will build walls around you because you are afraid to be hurt, which is just another way of putting you are not comfortable being alone. Hence you attract the same energy. But if you realize you can be alone and you don't need anyone, yet you chose to work on yourself and become the best version of you, you will radiate fulfillment and self love, which are like magnets. No I am still not there, but sometimes I was in the past. Its a process.
Aaron you are brilliant!!! I love the way how explains things!!! After your video I saw about twin flames I started to to work on my self and I discovered my partner is a NARCISSIST !!! Thank you very much for great advices ❤
It's really a circular argument (that people don't choose us because we haven't chosen ourselves). It's just a lens...it's not describing what is actually happening, but setting a standard one can conform to and get results...and using that as contrast. If one needed to chose oneself to attract happy relationships.....that'd be a pattern in all good relationships......and it's not. It's like trying to find a reason why some people have money and others don't. Well it's for NUMEROUS reasons....but it's not ONE code one needs to crack. Besides this formula doesn't personally fulfill me. Yes, I have extracted benefit from choosing myself......but I also start attracting attention from people I don't really share core values with. That's the paradox of this journey.......raising your vibration doesn't assure you attracting the people and things you want..........just people and things COMPATIBLE with your higher frequency. This is not just semantics........the difference is huge. I personally only want to attract relationshipsthat accept ALL of me...........not ones that are drawn to my light only.
You really hit all the points! Everything you said resonated and reflecting some of the internal work I've been doing. Thank you for confirming that I'm heading in the right direction, as always.
Sounds ok, but the issue I havent solved yet is the hurt that I feel (and sticks) of being rejected or abandoned. So, the test try of being vulnerable is an excercise that drains a lot of my energy to recover from that.
