I see it not so much as “I’m perfect as I am but I can always be better”, but rather as “It is absolutely fine that I am at where I am at today, but I can always become better tomorrow”. I.e I’m not perfect now, and that’s fine. And I won’t be perfect tomorrow either, but as long as I try to be better than today, that’s fine.
"I'm perfect as I am" gives you a sort of whole acceptance of your entire being while your idea implies a certain 'I'm sad that I won't ever be perfect but that's fine." It's better to just wholy accept yourself as perfect and still try to do better enjoybly
As a self improvement junkie, this episode was super helpful! Recently, I’ve been questioning whether my self identity should be “someone who constantly strives to improve themselves”, and I think that learning about self-esteem helped fill a missing puzzle piece. Thanks, u are epic :D
14:45 I've found that it's helpful to assess yourself based on the effort you put in, not the results. Learn to derive self worth from the direction that you're moving toward, rather than your current position. Growth mindset.
I've learned to view this as two halves of a puzzle. There *is* an element of self-accountability and personal responsibility. This is understanding what's within your direct scope of influence, and bringing your half to the table. However, there is a second half of this, where we all need something ELSE to show back up for US. This is outside of your direct influence, and is where acceptance work is; and admitting what help you need from others and learning where to look for it. Very few of us do everything all by ourselves, and asking for help and expertise where you're out of your depth is critical.
I noticed that im bad at talking, i cant really say out loud what im thinking because i always say something completely dumb and then think, oh, that was not even what i was thinking, why did i say it like this. But i also noticed that people tend to like me (that sounds a little bit entitled) because of that flaw im shutting up much of the time and they have way more time to talk about themselves. Thats really a good quality in our modern times to be able to actively listen to somebody and asking them the right questions. So its again the backwards law, by not trying to impress other people, they start to like you for who you are. Thats just my experience so far but maybe that counts for other introverts too.
The issue is not improvement, the issue is the desire to improve, the desire itself. Desire usually stems from a judgement of self, and the desire inevitably lead to pain, as anything is temporary. If you let go of desire, you let go of pain, and improvement just become the only way forward.
It's less about the desire but more about the motivation behind the desire. If my motivation is, "oh I feel content when I wake up early and follow my schedule" then the desire to improve is completely painless
Yes it is true you do go to pain you don't see those people but you know that you are in pain nobody else cares about you nobody cares about your thoughts but you know yourself but the one thing is we have to learn from it it's the heartbreak bre❤
Love yourself before you love other people and take care of yourself tell yourself today I'm loving myself learn from it have experience about that experience your mind and❤ your heart media can destroy you but if you don't know by now if you don't know by now you will never know learn from it teach yourself be a teacher on your own life and your own body look after yourself then when you know that when I do this it's gonna be fine or not ask your heart and your mind and your 💓💜😍
You can appear being good looking or bad looking but people are going to still judge you because by the way you look maybe there's other people they don't like your looks but they will still judge you you can look beautiful you can be skinny or slender but it's still gonna judge you if you do love yourself check first before you do that's the good question but people they always judge they're not happy with everything human beings they've got their own taste thank you so much we mustn't judge them because they've got their own live❤💖😊🥰🙏
With all due respect to the lady in the 3rd question, but treating every type of personal problem as an illness or disorder is creating an even bigger problem. Some people are just annoying, period. The world is full of Jimmys. We all know one or have been one at some point in our lives.
