The Shame and Recovery of being an Ex Porn Star 

Same is said about people who commit suicide.

@@seekeroftruth1200 Applies to a lot of things really

Really how wise is it really? When people save huge amounts of money is it still considered " a permanent decision from a temporary place." If not might want to rethink the truth of the statment!!

⁠@@donaldlyons17pretty disingenuous comment here. Come on. There are so many examples we can understand where a bad decision is made in the heat of the moment, or at a time when you’re judgement is clouded. Quitting your job after a stressful day or event. Breaking up after an argument that can easily have be mended. I think this statement is profound because it is very open, can be applied to so many stances, yet still rings very true.

They sold their soul!

Then why can't I find my favourite articles (not talking about pr0n here) or websites anymore? If they're online forever where the hell are they hiding? DNS is down.

​@@Brother_Boney Just because it's there doesn't mean you can view it. Access restrictions will result in your page not loading and an error message "Access Forbidden".

​@@Brother_Boney hire a good hacker and you will find it

@@Brother_Boney porn is different. it's the basic need of humans surpassed only by food. that means men will be extra motivated to immortalize every corn clip out there in the internet

Yes, regardless of all precautions. Data security is never perfect, but especially when hosted to the public or private access public.

I think he's the one who said "It was a long time ago."​@@mahmoudsaadeh5171

It's different but it depends on how these situations are handled..live & let live .

for western world maybe. non western females instinctively understands about all these even without her testimony. it's like talking to toddlers, why do we even need to tell western females about these basic facts? female promiscuity is ALWAYS insulted

Actually NO. Modern Porn is a gross distortion of adult sexual entertainment. Far too many vulnerable males are being negatively influenced by design.

@@JobyJoby-iw2wr Agree. The normalization of porn is a virus. Sex should be a spiritual event shared by two people who love each other and Im saying this as one who's regretfully had numerous one night stands, but at least they werent filmed.

she belongs to the streets.

doesnt matter, she a damaged goods. majority of men would still sleep with her, but never commit to her

There is no coming back from being a porn star. If a person was a paedo or murderer. are you going to ignore that?

@@raymondfloyd9046 If you think being a porn star equates to raping children and murder then I guess you are going to think that.

@@raymondfloyd9046 You are comparing the two as equal?

why? there are tons of used females out there shedding useless tears for their promiscuity. it's even harsher outside of western world, which is the majority of this planet

so just like in the rest of capitalist society you mean.

But you get to fuck. Fair tradeoff

It's basically a rape and sex exploitation abuse agenda posing as a business. Chicks hit the wall at rapid speeds in porn

​@@SuperDirk1965🤓🤡

Have you heard how male performers only in their thirties have already destroyed their "abilities" by injecting to be able to perform. And they find themselves paying 75k to surgically implant a pump in their organ, controlled by a switch near their scrotum. All of that for a job with a median of 50k..... We're talking guys with 7"+. What a waste of life.

Too late. As long as good exists so will evil.

The problem is that it is only popular where it is most forbidden. My Danish relatives expect their children to have sex as soon as they reach puberty. It is supervised by the parents. It is seen as a right of passage into adulthood. So temptation is not there to the degree it is in western culture. Porn does not sell well at all in Denmark. American doctors add to the problem for men who are celibate by insisting we are depressed and need therapy. Why? What is so important about having to go out on dates on Saturday night? What if I find pleasure in looking through my telescope on Saturdays instead? Sex is boring. Once forbidden it becomes tempting.

* standing ovation *

"My Danish relatives EXPECT THEIR CHILDREN TO HAVE SEX as soon as they reach puberty. It is supervised by the parents." Oh yeah. That's also on the hub.

@@drakeequation521sex is boring? Damn you must lead a miserable life. I’ve been with the same woman 11 years and it’s very exciting for us still even after having children

Personally, I would say that the best thing to do is to think of past engagements with others (ex girlfriends, etc) when masterbating. Anything real (except prostitutes, obviously, or anything similar). No visual stimulation. No films. Maybe photos of the exs, girlfriend, real people. Just for starters. But the goal is to try and do this with your imagination. Then become comfortable talking about sex, in a mature and respectful way. So if you’re dating or have a partner, we can talk about sex. There’s nothing shameful about it. It’s just knowing when and how. The key, I found, is to talk about it from the perspective of how it makes you feel. Ask yourself, honestly, about the things you enjoy. Ask if it’s ok. If it’s with someone you love and they just want to pleasure you then there is absolutely no issue with it, in my opinion. But yeah, engage with real thoughts, real people and start with that. To be honest, you just can’t beat being with someone real. Doesn’t matter what they look like. It’s always better than porn. Just because they actually want to be with you. Most of these pornstars? They would be afraid of what we say or think here, about being addicted. Or they would exploit it. They wouldn’t touch you with a barge pole in reality. You could be the most good looking guy ever. They won’t care. You know what is a really sobering activity. To go on an onlyfans and message these people. They seriously only care about money. Try to message the as you would somebody on here, for free, have a conversation. You won’t get anything back until you start tipping money. Don’t believe me? Do it. Message them about yourself. About your issues. Tip nothing. Wait a week. Wait a week or two. Then tip. The more you tip, the more they will pretend to care about you as a human being. Trust me, they don’t. Find you favourite pornstar. Find their onlyfans and message them. Assuming it’s even them messaging you back and not someone pretending. They can afford to pay someone to manage their content, so why wouldn’t they? Ethics? Lol. I don’t think so…

read the bible, get into reading scriptures, take life one day at time, improve yourself, work out, walk, tap into your God given talents

Go and watch "Hamza", watch his videos on how to quit it

Or just realize it’s human nature to try different things a lil exercise and will power goes a long way towards feeling healthy mentally and physically!

Get busy, meditate, join gym, do gratitude journal, quit social media, these obvious bare minimum things are more than enough to quit any addiction

They don't have to be masculine to do it. Or fight. The girls just need to change the fashion and not walk the streets half naked, so people will assume that they care more about other hobbies, sports, music etc. Turning off the TV also helps, because television wants to sell all kinds of trends.

Scientists found out that meditation and practicing empathy, love gratitude daily make the brain and body younger. Some call it orgasm between the brain and heart. Because the emotions and feelings coming from the heart such as love empathy and gratitude, activate an enzyme called telomeres, which makes you feel happier, look younger, and live longer. They found out that the heart has its own brain, that the electromagnetic field of the heart is much bigger than the electromagnetic field of the brain. The brain is about logic. Heart is nota bout logic, as love is not about logic. Therefore people feel empathy and gratitude easily. It increases the energy of the body, because it doesn't require a reason to feel happy and loving. Dr. Joe Dispenza and Dr. VBruce Lipton and Gregg Braden teach these stuff how to brainwash yourself to be loving happy person.

Amen I agree 💯. Unfortunately it's worse in America than any other country in the world. We are a sexually depraved nation. We popularized rappers like Cardi B, Nicki Minaj Megan Da stallion, and call what they do is sexual liberation and women taking control their desires and monetizing it. The young girls look up to them

@@SkeleTonHammer I agree, but another question is: is it the same for Men? If not, then what's the "black mark for life" on Men?

@@SkeleTonHammer I agree because every time your intimate with them you’ll always have the amount of men she’s slept with on your mind

@SkeleTonHammer @jaredharris1970, that's a lot of judgement for someone that has literally never done anything to you before. People have and do some of the same thing every day, but you'd shake their hands without a second thought.

​@@SkeleTonHammer All she did was have sex on film, not that deep. All women have sex in their private lives.

I'd never be with someone that watches porn and thinks it okay@@SkeleTonHammer

There is not enough such women ,most commit suicide ,porn is HELL

Women have no accountability.

Good point.

and in the meantime they continue on onlyfools.

@@PeterMasalski93 NONE WHATSOEVER !

You are naive. She willingly and happily engaged in this opportunity to make easy money; now that she’s aged out she’s speaking out like a good samaritan. She’s a burned out 304, reserve your praises.

Religion does more harm to people than porn does.

@@SuperDirk1965 Said the commie. Because off course he does.

I'm wondering who locked you up in a small room for 3 hours and forced you to watch porn. By large screen I assume you mean 25" which was the average biggest screen size 23 years ago.

What do you mean, you were raped or you were an actor?

​​@@BLacShirtRBjrBroken spirit. I don't care how convincing some people try to be...No one who is genuinely happy in life and within themselves is doing porn. No one.

you act like they never chose it....wow

@@seanautilis15 I will argue only for the half that have done it from a "broken" place, and it is true they made a choice, but making a choice in a dilemma is not the same as making a choice in an "open market". I guess this is all a case by case basis.

Do you speak from experience?

Some are, but some women just want easy money, and some guys just want easy access. Onlyfans proves that some people are just willing to brand themselves as part of this industry. It's not that people don't believe you have changed, it's that you have associated yourself to this type of industry and behavior. Teachers get fired for posting seductive photos of themselves on social media because it creates assumptions about the school if the public knows that about her. Some aspects of your life should be private if you don't want it interfering with your public life especially if your career depends on your public image. Would you vote for a politician who hangs out with convicted mobsters at their restaurants? Maybe they are child hood friends and the politician doesn't do anything corrupt or illegal, but people will make the assumption just cuz of appearances.

@@snorfallupagus6014 only from seeing podcasts of survivors telling their story. Albeit they would be different from an industry defined “porn star”. It’s just that not all videos are consensual, tho they are shot to look that way.. curious as to how many onlyfans models have someone behind the camera manipulating them into filming..

@@tcoving31 I can tell your a total outsider to the world of modeling and etc, onlyfans women are rather independent and usually have entire self brands built around being a sex worker. Believe it or not some people enjoy that type of thing, it’s called exhibitionism and it’s been around long before cameras and the internet. There are dark sectors of the porn industry for sure, but it’s a stretch to go and so your average onlyfans model is being controlled by some mystery man lol.

@@Eric_Bassett yea I’m no expert. Also not claiming “your average OF model is being controlled” I was simply expressing curiosity to that qty. which is moot because who the F knows..

How many people were murdered in the name of the person you mentioned just last year? I guess more than there are porn actresses.

The frustrating thing is most people especially most men consume porn, especially in the Bible Belt. So a lot of people judging her or her kids are also probably consumers in private. It’s absurd how hypocritical people can be.

Speaking only to the actresses that do this, NOT from a broken or "bad' point in their life, before choosing this: Count the cost before sign the dotted line.

Would you marry a former porn star? 🙄

@@ishma2100 would you marry an ex con ? People do that.. would you marry a pathological liar ? A cheater ? An abuser ? An alcoholic ? Here’s my point.. love is not contingent on someone’s background. People have been known to fall in love with the most unlikely individuals that to the outside make ZERO sense for them. There are people on death row with spouses out there that come visit them regularly. Not that I’m comparing a corn star to any of those categories. I don’t think it’s right to condem a cornstar (WHEN MOST MEN ARE HABITUAL CORN USERS) It’s a 2 way street in my opinion. If you have EVER willingly and on your own accord utilized corn to get off.. you are no better than that corn star. Not that being on either end makes you a bad person by default. Like with anything else that can be addictive and abused, such as alcohol or gambling or etc. Its all about moderation and self control. In a perfect world everyone would have the perfect marriage and corn wouldn’t need to exist. But we all know darn well loneliness and unhappiness and frustration drives people to both participate and indulge in that industry. Nobody has any right to judge. To be clear I think very few people in modern society with internet access can truly say they’ve never viewed corn. Get over yourself.

@@ishma2100 No.

LMAO! You make it seem as they are forced to work there and didn't choose it. I swear, the mental gymnastics lots of women do to avoid accountability is mind blowing! As for the last one, yeah it would be very hard to take the choice to break up with her but I would. No way I'm with a girl that had that past. Plenty of others girls who had a normal sex life out there!

I think it's interesting how I see a wave of men wanting to punish people for temporary places of confusion making permanent decisions. Like "get what you deserve" attitude...it's actually creating a lot of issues like you should "know better"....well. a lot of people don't know better and you know what pushes them into perpectual self damnation? Shaming people for taking journeys to help them understand what they do or don't want through experience... I'm 38. No men, man or anyone in life told me how bad porn was....doctors said jerking off decreased chances of prostate cancer.....that's literally it. How the hell can I hold it against someone for not doing anything in this world...a world that doesn't teach important things. If you've used porn once you're just as guilty as someone who is a porn star... If you're a shaming kind of man, let that sink in that if you live by the sword...you die by the sword. If you think shame is okay for others you deserve it back.

True, there are women in the porn industry who eventually run their own agencies and companies. The truth is, women also need to take accountability for making men addicted to pornography. The shit that these girls do on onlyfans are most likely voluntary and not forced. Now im not saying the situation is always like this, yes there is sex trafficking and there are women who were coerced into doing it, but i'm hoping women need to call out their own women too.

​@@ooneybird27well said. Period

Making men addicted?? Lol. If you are addicted to something it's your own fault unless you are being forced. Men aren't being forced and men created the porn industry by their demand.

And right there it tells you something is very wrong.

Imagine smashing a different toe each day with a hammer. Eventually tylenol isn't going to get the job done.

Exactly….it’s not like all of the bad things that come with it are some kind of secret.

Ya she did a great glory hole testimonial! Lol

Being a cum dumpster brings you back to reality pretty fast

I lover her interracial scene with an Asian guy it gave me hope when watching then I came to reality and all white girls said no t me mother fawker!!!

Well for some it's trafficking so basically sexual slavery and the women are not permitted to leave. In some situations it's a case of the golden handcuffs. They'd like to leave but the money is too good.

👍that is the problem with people today, so short sighted

Probably the best possible outcome she could have experienced. And if that was the best, imagine how much worse it would have been if she had stayed with it. Some people will sell their soul for riches.

As terrible as the 18 blond girl filmed with Max Hardcore in 2004. She's completely broken after that

They made porn thousands of years ago? Always thought you needed a camera for that.

Sounds like one of the most challenging aspects of leaving the porn industry is the judgmental people who aren't in the industry. I have often wondered to myself, where does this negative view of sex come from? Why do humans have it?

@@drewj4297 It's not a negative view of sex in general. It's all about how and why it's implemented as well as who it's being made available to for viewing purposes.

You're not the boss of me!

@@cm6534 could be.

My opinion: everybody is free to make the choises they want, nobody is free from what it bring with it(short term AND long term)

nobody was forcing them! you maniacs

Well, to be fair, that's not always true. But its also true that some enjoy it, some find success. It seems that this is true across the board regardless of what you do in life.

What does that have to do with hiring aomebody

@@MrDucksBill She raises the question of "who's ever going to hire [them]" and the answer should be anyone who needs her current skills. She is an author, maybe a software engineer, or a math whizz, maybe she's good at mechanical stuff. She, and everyone, should only be limited by their current skills and their current potential. But the responsibility isn't on them to outshine their porn careers, instead, it's on us normal folks' to look past whatever hangups we have with porn stars. Usually those that are against porn are also religious, so I remind those folks that Jesus loves porn stars the same as he loves a pastor. I hope that helped clear it up for you... if not, I'm sorry you don't like what I said, just trying to help spread the love and support for those that want to better themselves.

@@ivanlawrence2 no it's for them to outshine their porn career. You're not the only one with those skills and do you make up for your distraction. She will diminish the productivity of everybody there by a certain percent. So does her skills make up for a new hire and the total of the distraction she causes. It's not just hiring a person.

​@@MrDucksBill it seems like we are saying the same thing from two different perspectives. You are saying she will be a distraction, I'm saying she is only distracting to people who are the problem. If all the other people can't exercise self restraint and focus on their work then it is they with the problem, not her. You can test this theory with any work distraction; instead of thinking that RU-vid is distracting my employees so I need to block it I would rather hire employees that have enough self control to do their job. In the real world it seems most people don't mind their business, and curiosity about our co-workers past lives are normal, but getting hung up on something as trivial as a co-workers unrelated past employment is immature and as you pointed out a waste of time... but it is the time waster that is the issue. They are the same people that take long smoke breaks or let their daily personal business disrupt their work.

@@ivanlawrence2 Any place of significance is going to look at your past decisions. Would you be comfortable knowing your husband, son or daughter is working on a team which includes former prostitutes (porn in Greek means prostitutes)? Would the public be comfortable doing business with such a company? We kick out teachers for posting pictures because we are worried of their influence. But mostly we are worried of normalizing behavior we do not agree with. It has nothing to do with love and compassion.

Why would it be banned? Consenting adults should be permitted to live their life as they wish. My definition of freedom. Freedom is allowing others to do what you don't like.

For the same reason that state-sponsored gambling happens, non-tipping restaurants all went back to tipping and the NFL routinely gives men brain damage. People want to hit it big and they're going to resist any attempt to remove that opportunity. In this case, Brittini De La Mora decided that she'd rather take the shortcut to having a net worth of $3 million per year. She made the choice to take the shortcut to make $500K a year. Sure, she could have decided to get a different job instead of stripping and later porn but then she probably wouldn't be worth a tenth of her current net worth. You can get rid of football and have fewer men with broken bodies/brains or you can get rid of porn and have fewer women with naked videos of themselves out there. However, you're probably not going to get a whole lot of buy-in from the people who want to hit it big. If you went back to 2005 and gave Brittini the choice with a full discussion of everything that will happen, she probably would have made the same choice to be a millionaire at 36.

12-14 Billion Industry...It's Protected.

​@@drewj4297What a silly definition of "freedom" you have. According to your logic, someone with "freedom" can steal from me or hurt me and I have to respect that, even if I don't like it. Wow, you're a genius (sarcasm). No need for arguments, I already realized that you are most likely @dd1ct3d to corn.

@@Johnnyjsbu67 Pardon me, my definition of freedom, “Allowing others to do what you don’t like, excluding things that clearly violate rights of individuals.” Rape, murder, theft, assault clearly violates the rights of individuals.