Really love your Chanel in my English gipsy culture we married at 17 16 18 years old the men would work. But now the woman work but many romany family’s in uk 🇬🇧 still go by some of the old ways woman look after children and stay home. But it is well known that Ugandan woman love money remember in the bible it says the love of money is the root of all evil ? Not money you can have money but not love it. And one thing that you must recognise in Ugandan culture there are many single mothers? In the romany community’s there is only 12 percent divorce the same as China or Pakistan it’s sad watching this. And remember in the north the war the poverty they had so money is important for the woman
That's the main problem in the states...men aren't complaining about having to provide for their woman...the problem is many women are thinking they don't have to earn it.
It’s wonderful that they can speak a second language but most of them sound as if they’ve not dated much or like they don’t know what they want in a relationship or what a relationship should consists of.
Their tradition is based on money because if you want to marry a girl you have to offer the family prized possession like jewelry,livestock,landers basically you can’t just love with nothing else to offer
@@kadraa4831actually this comment goes over alot of dummies heads its truth neva let a woman trick you. This topic is worldwide and its all about survival and leaving your conditions. We can't be mad but men need to stop being suckas. U a big spender huh?😅😅! Bruh u letting these women rip u off?
You make very insightful videos. I have Ugandan heritage, born and raised outside Uganda though. So uganda was a bit romanticized to me by my parents, who are from a much older Ugandan culture. One thing that's worth mentioning is that dating is a very new phenomenon and a result of Uganda opening up to global culture since probably the 2000s. So I think there are ways in which it clashes with our traditional values to some extent. For example, in the past a girl would live in her parents home until a suiter came along to ask for her in marriage. She would then marry that guy for better or worse. His explicit promise would be to provide for her and her children till death. Even if they fell out of love, divorce was never a way out. It was totally unacceptable for a man to abandoned his responsibilities. And a woman was loyal as long as he honoured his commitment. A man could get more wives but his responsibilities remained. In other cases the parents would arrange a marriage for a girl, but still the man had his duties and she hers. In my parents generation, the few who had the opportunity to go to university also had the opportunity to meet people there. Those who did followed a more western model of courtship, but still gender roles remained the same once they got married. I have a feeling there were much fewer games in dating back then. However, in the 70s Uganda went through a brutal civil war that lasted till the mid eighties. The entire economy was burned to the ground, families torn apart and many people exiled. Every family lost members and some entire families were wiped out. Out of the ashes of that war emerged a broken society, many widows and single mothers. Because of near starvation people turn on on each other and many became cold and self centred. The culture of hustling and even scamming emerged at that time. That society was then ravaged by hiv and aids, which caused masses more to die. Many children were orphaned others endured the trauma of caring for dying parents and endured devastating poverty and deprivation. Though things have improved massively, one must acknowledge that the people who are now in the dating and marriage markets are the children of those lost decades. Rapidly losing touch with traditional ugandan life, but not yet quite fully westernised. They are somewhat stuck in the middle where they dream of the simplicity of traditional gender roles, but can't find partners who have the character, resources or grit to fulfill them. This generation are also raised on a trashy diet of Hollywood Rom Coms, Bollywood, Nollywood, telenovelas and lately South African soap operas and internalised a totally unrealistic view of love relationships, which they compare to their very pragmatic traditional relationships and find them bland and boring. They also find themselves lost and confused in no-mans-land because, while the romantic fantasy offers excitement, it also brings lots of drama, while the traditional, which hardly exists anymore promises more stability, but no excitement just hard gender roles. The natural result is disappointment, disillusionment, lack of fulfilment and, here I make a huge logical leap... I think they give up and default to the only simple practical and controllable element which is money. I'll wait for the abuse😂
One of the best and most insightful comments I've ever got on this channel. And I agree completely. African culture is hugely romanticized by older generations. But on the ground it has become a wasteland.
Have you not seen the huge amount of Ugandan women running market stalls and such like? None of them are rich despite all their hard work. These young women are doing what they feel is right for them, it's not for you to tell them what to do.
@@mickymouze1224 you're right, they can keep being delusional then, because nobody want's a ticking timebomb for a wife. Imagine you're rich one day and through bad luck lose the riches, and she leaves you and takes what you have. What's worse is some of these women come from poverty so what gives them qualification on the value and growth of money? Their 😺? The F out of here.
@@mickymouze1224 that’s okay, but they shouldn’t see men as an opportunity. women need to feel empowered to get a good education and build their own career, just like two of my Ugandan lady friends who work hard and don’t need a man for money
@@loughrey101 It's swings and roundabouts, there's always gonna be men ready to exploit women so why shouldn't women tap in and play them? There's not enough jobs or opportunities for everyone to work hard and prosper, there's always gonna be people who need to find alternative ways to survive.
It's his deadpan approach. Pure gold! He knows women "virtue signal" and look for emotional queues in communication, as they're always checking the temperature. And their responses are based on what *they* think the recipient thinks about them, and rarely on what they truly think or feel.
When you talk about love in America you're wasting time as well. So I can relate to what the ladies are saying. It's not being cold hearted, just dealing in a truthful way. Now contrast that with all these people in America who go to the alter and they're so in love. And before the last guest leaves the wedding they're in bed with they're husband or wife's best friend. Thank you African women for being so practical and truthful.
What a comment you wrote. It’s a shame that you categorized every American married people to one group. The lady in the beginning didn’t even know what a woman supposed to do for her man but she wanted all his cash. 😅 wow these people crazy.
The difference is that American ladies are not money focused and they are happy to support their man too. my American wife paid for everything for me while I moved to America to be with her from Ireland. She covered all our expenses and never complained. So when American ladies get married to you, they married for what they believe is real love at the time but obviously marriage just don’t always work and that’s outside of everybody’s control. But they don’t go into relationships with a materialistic agenda.
God forbid wat wrong era to experience, this world is finished . No love anywhere . I was about to take a trip to Uganda but naaaaaaa , I will pass . Thanks for the update bro you are awesome
Right 😂! Who told these silly men that women don’t want money in Africa. Women all around the world want money, resources, wealth. It’s in our biological nature. Patriarchy lied to both men and women. Told women to pursue marriage and offer only love because the system knew that men are inherently lazy and aren’t going to elevate financially. So if you tell women to choose love over resources, that eliminates the need for men to elevate, gives them access to women regardless of wealth and tell women to offer love cos men are incapable of love
Western ladies, don’t look for men to pay for everything, they contribute the same as the man as they work and make their own money. It’s African ladies that tend to be very focused and believe that they should be pampered. Not every lady is like that.
Exposing 'women for what they are' in a society that leaves them bereft of direction and opportunities. I think it exposes a disgusting patriarchal attitude. I feel sorry for these women who are learning what is a parallel in America for many of us and that is that men cannot live you and learn how to manipulate from other men. Uganda women in a way are forced into a type of prostitution. And where there are 'golddiggers' there must be the predators, who must precede them. The first man you interviewed is a loser. I didn't listen to the second one at this point. They can stay in Uganda. I would never go looking for men who perceive women in this way. I really liked what Sandra tried to explain
The women are living in a culture developed by men. What more do they expect of them???? This society, by Western standards, is dysfunctional. It can only change with much upheaval. The first guy said, like any other woman anywhere else. If women are approached by MEN, right, who set this sht up but now they criticize the women they created... Jesus. The women want what they've never seen - real love. And if women cannot get or afford an education, they're left with only their bodies and some elusive sense of worth. It's very sad. I'm glad I wasn't born there
I dated a Ugandan woman here in the states she been living here for some years now. Beautiful thick always dressed very nice and not too revealing. When it came to money (she worked) i always paid i usually do on the first date. I took this woman on 5 dates or more never offered to pay, she told me she was dating other men but i thought after couple dates she was gonna be with me. She said my ex would never let me pay... i was like ok i get that in African culture specifically in Uganda but i aint your ex... She told me "i feel comfortable around you" i took that as a good thing. But i feel she used me and was like im young still "i want to live my life" i was like okay then... why didnt you tell me you were serious about settling down. I really liked her but there was first red flag I always had to pay for her. Second we differed on beliefs in LGBTQ movement i dont support it, and lastly the Feminist movement she was like women can do it all, i was like ok they can do things but dont be emasculating men. I left her after those convos. Shame.
In summary she wasn't into you she was just using you.Trust me they actually do have the ability to love you real good am Kenyan and I know we can't catch up with Uganda ladies on that note 😂
@@nubian_queeeeen i like to give people a chance usually after the first date. It seemed like a normal first date nothing crazy happened. After second, third date i realized we were different i liked her physically she was my type 100% but yea i called her out on the money issue.. it led to an argument as soon as i dropped her off i was like nah way i cant do this. Maybe ill meet another ugandan or kenyan or another type of african women who checks my boxes. I do blame social media, the feminist movement, and lgbt whatever bs they pushing on everyone. Its affecting alot of young, middle aged men and women too.
You talk about women as if they were objects and complain because they exploit you financially It is as if you entered a supermarket and liked something, took it and bought it Appearance changes with time and youth disappears, only personality and morals remain No wonder why women became materialistic because men became superficial They care about appearances and high standards, sometimes imaginary A woman's life is short, so she will not waste it with someone who does not waste his time When a man gets older, he can find girls if he has money As for a woman, even if she has money, she will not be able to regain her youth
Willie, that young lady was right on point about toxic relationships! The guys responses were classic. Awesome vid & reporting my brother. I love what you do.....keep up the good work 😉👍🏾
A woman's life is short, so she will not waste it with someone who does not waste his time When a man gets older, he can find girls if he has money As for a woman, even if she has money, she will not be able to regain her youth
At least in Uganda they have at fault divorce. A woman can't just divorce you on a whim. She has to prove you wronged her. Now, how hard is that? Idk. In America, she can just wreck your life because she feels like it.
Individual self-sufficiency outside a supportive community is the end of culture and of social cohesiveness, the social fabric demands we cluster together for the maximum self-sufficiency of our whole community.
poverty is a lot in uganda you just have to do what you have to do. There are girls out there who are looking for a love and barely care about the money and they want to succeed with their husbands but can’t find that perfect match and then there are women who want to be in relationships because they need someone to take care of them and they find that guys but the wants love instead. So there is a lot of mis match and when people are looking for love they go based on looks rather than personality.
Remember a city girl in Uganda is the same as a city girl in America or Europe. No money no love. When the money goes the love goes so look for a village girl who is more traditional and who has value as city girls have no lost all these things
Great topic and very good insights into the dating culture, there in Uganda. Lots of worthy comments in the comments section, also. Good work, Willie Fungo! 👍
Sorry!! The lady just said that children in Uganda do not get enough love because they are raised by "Single Parents". You can't have a country of 45 millions to have more single women responsible for the population of the country. It a Scandalous !! Uganda has fewer single women who make up the population of Uganda.
It impossible to find Love threw money you will always be used,but possible to find money threw Love, GOD will always provide and it a beautiful thing to find both Love first then the rest will sort itself out,even when u run out of money the Love for one another will never run out,money comes and go but true Love always remain no matter what
Awesome video, thanks for sharing this local culture life, although the individual can’t represent the whole community, but really enjoyed the conversation, Happy Holiday season my friend ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏
Again my guy great work..another fwd video..i thought about my x bc of sandras words ..which i believe alot of in construction of how children turn out. AT HOME!!!! And that first heartbreak..so i never believed in love again until 2021 and now still patching up whats left of the old ticker..never again.
News flash: Women everywhere care about money. There isn’t a place on this earth that they don’t and it has always been this way. Romantic love is a very new concept in human history. Unions have always been economic and political.
Right. Romantic love was forced on women and the desire for marriage. Resources and wealth have always since the beginning of time has been what women look for in men.
Wow! Money “can” be the root of all “evil” or “JOY aka GOOD”. We get to choose, choose wisely. You can hear the pain in the voice of the 21 year old. Therapy needed.
There's no woman on this earth who doesn't like money whether white or black woman. Unless when a woman has made her own money already and that woman will also get man who loves her because of her money. am a Ugandan but men are the ones who changed women into loving money.women used to be loving. You start with your man from the scratch and when things gets better he gets another woman who fits in his status.that made women change into something else...that's why you find a woman saying i can't date a broke guy ..coz she once stood up for someone and she got disappointed. That's why you even see ladies going abroad to work as housemaids.they trusted men and they disappointed them.they have responsibilities to take care of like children coz being single mothers.my point is, men are the ones who changed African women into that. Coz women used to be loving, obedient and caring
U see a woman putting the blame on the men😂 do u know the number of men who picked women from poor homes and made them into somebody then later these women changed and became ungrateful and disrespectful? My dear sister men can be wicked and so women can be wicked, some men are good and some women are also good.
Ok , so what happens to your son's in future , how would you feel when your son is been taken advantage of ? Men did not make women change rather women accepted to change because all men don't roll same way , do you know that the number of men looking for real love are more than those that inflict such pain on these ladies ? Well , check out the Chinese the Indians , there dating and marriage cultures are still intact , Africa was badly influenced by they west and in the next 20 years from now on there will be no more marriages , so Africa should be ready to embrace LGBT, because the foundation that could resist it totally is broken , if it doesn't come now it's just time not far from now .
I thank these beautiful black sisters for their honesty. While yes money is of importance especially when if impoverished it will be a priority but never let the need or love of money tarnish or take away the true love of and die a mate/man…you wouldn’t be just selling your self short but selling your self/body as well aka sex worker. It’s not just an Uganda thing…it’s across Africa, and to slightly lesser degree a world wide pandemic. I thank Sandra for honesty seems like a cool girl with decent heart.
I was fortunate to have worked with 4 of those Ugandan women for about 14 months abroad. During those months, I observed them to b friendly, kind, caring and understanding. There were days when they will buy me a food during break time, while other times they will bring me a prepared food from home so i can eat during break period. But in a nutshell, they're very nice set of women anyone can easily relate to......
"Afro Feminism": I had to laugh out loud with a cough. And I love your deadpan explanation. No outrage. No being upset. No intrigue. Just simply the facts, and reality.
Unfortunately, women like this tend to end up alone and broke or in abusive relationships when the youth runs out. I respect an independent woman who works for her own things because at least you would be gaining marketable skills along the way and learning how to feed yourself for life. And just you wait until those kids come along, good luck getting random men to pay to put a roof over the head of someone else's kids. Disaster in the making.
One of these beautiful women said that if you are emotional then you will not be fit for the dating game in Uganda. How refreshing. They want to play at love as a sport, as a game. They do not find the seriousness or neediness of "relationship" attractive. They do not want to stare at a guy with a face with all sots of analysis and expectations like richcooper's across the other side of the table. If a man wants to have fun and doesn't want to be "trapped", he must also be non-serious and respect himself by becoming self-empowered, intelligent and as well-heeled as possible. And when it is no more fun, just learn to let go. There are so many flowers.
I met a Ugandan online..I helped out her family with money even though she never asked me. She told me so many times how much she love me and asking me to come move to her country..I did really intending to do so until I watched this and see someone on this video look and sounds just like her ..I even offered to buy land for her..iam so disappointed..
A young man from America who doesn't mind playing the game would have a field day with women with their mindset. When these women are talking about men with money, they're talking about men who make $750-1000 a month.
@WillieFungo yea, not too many men in my circle are going to allow a woman to dictate how much he is going to contribute to her life. She gets what he offers or she can keep it moving. 8/10 she's going to fall in line. The reason that a lot of men have problems with women like them is that they come to the table too docile and too willing to compromise on their standards and principles. I've never dated a Ugandan woman, but I have dated women from Kenya. They aren't too difficult.
@WillieFungo 3 months ago I hooked up an AA guy from Florida with Ugandan girl from my tribe but with east African mentality She never asked me What to avoid if u are dating an American She ended up by asking him $600 to buy an I phone He blocked her right away Narrow mind seeing 1 meter instead of 10000 km I knew he was going to take her to the usa
@@Kulmusha Exactly. Some of these ladies ask for money immediately instead of playing the long game. This is the biggest difference between Ugandans and Rwandans.
True traditional men aren't complaining about money being necessary and using it to take care of their woman. The narrative now is that women don't need to respect men period. No one wants to be betryed and or deceived especially for money. This is the major problem.
The girl in the gold dress said “I was once in love but l gained nothing from it“… WOW!! Poor and average guys beware and realize that 5 beautiful women would rather share 1 wealthy man rather than have their own regular guy.
There is nothing called true love. Any woman who comes to a man for a relationship is not actually for love but fulfilling her basic and luxurious needs who she can't get on her own. (Clothes, shelter, drinks, clubbing & nightlife) Living off a man's expenses. It's not just Uganda, it's a global phenomenon. I had many girlfriends in Nigeria, Kenya and all wanted money and not love. Now I'm happy being single.
not true... a man will provide for his family, not for his girl, according to the Bible. plus, how do i gonna love someone who just want me for my money? how?
Been working my ass trying to help support my household ladies listen it’s better to be single then be someone who can’t help provide it’s stressful on a woman and she won’t respect you
Every girl on the earth have similar agendas, but they usually hide it or they are not even aware they have, so after seeing these ladies, I would say at least they are honest , and well - aware of their own nature
Am a ugandan lady but i can say that you must have interview slay queens and gold diggers. All of us ,especially me are not like that. I dont see men as opportunity to get out of poverty. And i can never exchange my body for sex like majority of the women are saying . Am bit old school and a Ugandan woman with traditional values, God fearing . The women in the video sound like they sex workers, other's want the men to play husband role when they are girl friends and most of them are not even worth it. I dont expect a man to pay my bills unless we are married . When dating its my responsibility to look after my self , pay my bills and to those who dont work its their parent's responsibility not the man they are dating. If a man youre dating can provide well and good . But its not a must and money shouldnt be priority but rather focus should be put on other qualities.
I have been to Kenya and the shocking truth is if you come from Europe or America you are just a money machine nothing more so never believe in a girl telling you she loves you😂 and I will say out of 10 girls 9 are for sale you can get them with money, not sure about other places in Est Africa but in Kenya forget it. If you have some free money you want to waste then go there but if you looking for a woman for something serious you better forget about it, you might be lucky to find one but that will be like a drop of water in the ocean.
Exactly. These men need to stop glorifying African women. Generally, they aren't "traditional" and they aren't "submissive". They are also much much more promiscuous than Western Women.
Money is important in all levels of life. In relationships and in single life. The problem is that to many people forget to put the Lord Jesus above Money.
As a western man, I have strange feelings to listen these interviews. But also it is difficult to judge, being born in western Europe, therefore in a priviledge context
