What a tragic story with that ladies son...how horrible. As a parent of a teen boy who has moments, and a mum (me) who has moments...lol...how do we say no to that extra biscuit or put a rule in place without thinking that it could be a tipping point?? How do you set boundaries without the worry that a teenager may do self harm? Parenting is soooo hard sometimes. I enjoy your advice. Thankyou.
Ash we can do this by focusing on creating moments of warm connection as much as possible, so to stop the biscuit eating we do it with lightness, kindness and a hug or a shoulder rub....so always connect warmly before correcting or giving guidance. Be the 'safe base' during this time of stress and massive change... that's a great start anyway.
I’m so happy I found your channel! Your voice is calm and soothing to my fried nerves. I have been raising my four sons on my own for nearly six years since my husband passed away. I struggle to cope more than most moms because I have adult ADHD, which means I have very poor organization, time management, boundaries, discipline, filter for my mouth, and emotional regulation. Now that the oldest three are teens and tweens I am finding it even harder. I am very worried for two reasons: 1. How are my boys going to turn out as adults with such little discipline, manners, or respect, not to mention the countless hours glued to computer games 😩. 2. I honestly don’t know if I am going to be able to survive twelve more years (my youngest is 6) without loosing my mind or commuting suicide.
Hi Mollie, Maggie has so many resources that you might find helpful in navigating this... please take a look on here (and maybe start with this: www.maggiedent.com/blog/moonlight-relaxation-mums/) www.maggiedent.com/common-concerns/self-care-parents/ and www.maggiedent.com/common-concerns/raising-adolescents/ and www.maggiedent.com/common-concerns/raising-boys/ Mollie it's really important to seek support of friends, family or professional help if you ever feel you're reaching breaking point, sites such as Parent Helpline (kidshelpline.com.au/parents/issues/how-parentline-can-help-you) or Lifeline (www.lifeline.org.au/) are there to help. - Team Maggie NB This information is to be considered as general information only and does not constitute professional advice.
Not wanting to get to the ‘tipping point’ while living in a teenage induced hell- wilful damage to property, poor decision making, truancy, no respect, living in squalor- I can see no light at the end of the tunnel!
