Nikole was not a pastor at the church. She taught sometimes during the course of a year while being mentored by the head pastor. She has not been at the church for 3 or more years. She changed at some point in the last 3-4 years, from what I can tell.
I can’t remember where I read it in the bible but basically it boiled down to “Love and respect the one we embody” I think that young women has definitely misinterpreted the teachings of the bible!