The TRAP of Idolising Marriage or Your Singleness | Let's Talk About It Sis... 

Love the biblical references at the beginning…. Not idolising marriage is freeing, because you can actually start focusing on living your life rather than looking for a husband or preparing for a husband.. which is what I did throughout my 20s … don’t be like me 😅 #HappySingle

The timing of this video is impeccable 👏🏾🙌🏾👌🏾... Not thirty seconds ago, I got off the phone with my sister, and we were talking about the public framing of singleness vs being married... It's a little annoying to me that single vs married is so often treated as 👉🏾levels👈🏾 rather than 👉🏾routes👈🏾... It's not a matter of climbing a ladder, where the top rung is marriage, and singleness is everything *beneath* ... (and by default) rendering everything outside of marriage *less than* marriage... It's more like-- just bc I didn't go to New York, doesn't mean I can't go to Los Angeles, and have just as much fun as someone who decided to go to NYC

I'm glad this came on my feed. I am single and have been since I was 20 (now 26) and I lately started feeling like maybe something was wrong with me and felt overly pressure by everyone else to find a boyfriend to marry or I'll be a "leftover" even though I didn't want too. I'm a late bloomer and so I think I started idolizing marriage in a wrong way of just having someone but then I realize, I have no idea what goes into a marriage and am I even ready for that? No! So I will continue to keep embracing my singleness until I fulfill what God has in store for me and the right person will come along on the journey. Love this video

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you Sister in Christ. Please keep dropping gems. The Lord is using you. No one discusses purpose and the reason God placed them here. But marriage in being shoved down throats as if singleness is a deficit. I do desire to be married one day but I am in no way less than because I am single.

Thanks for this informative video. I think social media glamourises romantic relationships, wedding photos and valentines 💝 day rhetoric and deceives us into believing these things are the only way to enjoy life.

While we may not physically give away our gold and jewelry to create an idol, I do feel this still applies in the spiritual, mental, and social sense. Many of us have given up important parts of ourselves such as personality (example: acting more “feminine” and embracing less of who we are to try and appease someone else). Also, thinking that we need to fix how we look, giving up sewing to friendships, and sacrifice our mental health, our relationship with Christ because we want the physical manifestation of what many desire the most in life: marriage. Sometimes we even covet those who have marriage, which is a struggle that I believe is a form of idolatry since we have such a myopic view on what God is doing. Where we end up falling in traps of despair because we’re only focusing on what we lack rather than what has been provided. It’s a constant battle.

Both being married and single are so important. God used marriage to show me that singleness is the best way for me, for sometime been alone and I love being alone. It’s so rejuvenating and peaceful even though I of course wish to find my divine match ❤

This is so crazy. Like just 5mins ago i was journalling just about this topic.

You're in your content creation era! Love to see it. ❤️

If there's something Courtney Daniella Boateng is gonna do, it's PREACHHHHHHH!!!! 🔥🔥🔥

Courtney never misses 🧚🏽‍♀️✨

This message is key!! Thank you Courtney so much for the messages. I wished I heard this in 2019 as I definitely felt pressured to get married from family and I also desired and idolised Marriage due to my biological clock ticking which ended in dating men below my standards. Now life is definitely lifeing. I have a beautiful gift of my daughter but I definitely regret falling into pressure from family and myself, still unmarried. I prefer the word unmarried than single as even when your married your single being an individual. Thank you so much for this beautiful message and I know that there is substance in myself, I am God’s daughter first before anything else ❤and I’ve got lessons to teach my daughter when she grows up to be a young lady. ❤❤❤❤🎉 Thank you xxx

Wow girl, you’re a really good teacher

Wow Courtney, that trusting God piece is profound

21:25 Amen! Heavy on the even if! Regardless God is good and exactly who He says He is. Beautifully said

Amazing teaching once again! I love listening to you and hearing a female perspective on the faith.

God bless you for this video Courtney ! 😭🙏🏾

This is so good!

Loved this, so we’ll presented and communicated !

urgh, what a great message. Thank you for sharing this Courtney!

Can peace become an idol too ? Thank you so much for this video❤❤🙏

PREACH SIS! So much pressure!!

thank you! it's really helpful

This is video is everything !!!

Such a great message, thank you for sharing!

Thank you soo much, Courtney 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

❤️❤️ Much needed ! Stay blessed Sis !

Needed this ♥

I love how balanced you are

Courtney!!!! You are crushing it with your latest content. A woooorrrrdddd

The Content blessed me so much...thanks a lot!!. Your are such a wise and beautiful woman:)

This is a WORD

Thank you sis, i needed this. God bless

This video is so phenomenal. I wouldn’t have received it had I watched it at any other time before now. Thank you for this edifying message queen 💖

Loved hearing this today. You look so gorgeous Courtney. What hair is this ??????

❤❤I love love every sentence in this video.

This was amazing!! I took so many notes! Thank you Courtney for this message!🫶🏾

100% agree with u

Thank you

God bless you it’s really blessed me

I understood what you meant from the title and even non Christians probably would agree

For anyone who wants more clarity, please do a deep dive on 1 Corinthians 7:32-34. Singleness and marriage is clearly defined based on what it prioritizes. As someone who is intentionally single, I am learning that being single really above being married gives a better spiritual connection and growth, if the opportunity is seized. I think on both sides it depends on your motive. I’m unlearning the assumption that God only blesses those who are married or with children and everyone else seems to be the remnants. Ladies recognize the motive for your choice and remember that pleasing God not yourself should always be an anchor. ❤❤❤

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We have almost the same story in the Quran about the children of isreal melting their gold and making a calf idol. We as Muslims believe in the same God as you Christians however we do not make Jesus an idol rather we believe he is a noble prophet who told his people to worship God alone with no partners (idols). Unfortunately Christians took Jesus as an Idol alongside God believing he is God's son. God has no children, he is capable of all things and He alone deserves to be worshiped, this was the true message of Jesus to his people.

I've been meaning to watch this video for THEE longest time & I'm so glad I finally did! This really blessed me! Thank you!🥹🫶🏾

Thank you for this video! 🫶🏾 I love the To My Sisters podcast. This was wonderful, I am thankful to God that he poured into you to pour into others as well.

Hey, I am drawing you check your dmsom Instagram its both you and Rene for To my sisters