The truth behind VR DATING APPS 

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I'm an admin with Nevermet, I made my account on the app as a joke and ended up finding my person ♥and then was brought under Mr. Cheerio's wing :) It totally seems cringey, but through our app we have managed to cultivate some really meaningful relationships. Thanks so much for this video!

I'm glad you mentioned how hard dating on Tinder is. I honestly recommend uninstalling it and just dating irl most of the time. However VR dating seems to give a new dimension (literally) to online dating and a dating app specifically for that...might be worth trying for some out there.

Only issue I see coming up is that people still do in fact have a preference when it comes to how their partner looks. Like yeah it's awesome you can finally get to know someone before knowing how they look, but what happens when you finally see them and you really aren't physically attracted/attractive to each other?

This is much better for the general socializing part of vrchat. It is kind of hard to find chill people looking to just sit back and talk or watch something.

I FEEL YOU QWEEPH ITS TOUGH OUT HERE FOR MILITARY FOLKS 😭

This is one topic that both excites and confuses me. VR dating in genetal is such a troubled but unique concept, and on top of that a semi-dangerous one too. VR dating in general can be a tricky one. There's so many amazing people and amazing possibilities but also can crush people. A lot of the issues come down to moderation and restrictions. Thanks for the coverage Phia 💙

It's the trolling in public spaces that makes it too hard have real meaningful conversations, let alone build a relationship.

I feel like this is going to have the opposite problem of normal Dating apps. Where normal Dating apps build on physical attraction and relationships break on the personality front, VR dating apps build on personality and the associated attraction but relationships break when the physical attraction comes into play. Even though those aspects might matter to different degrees to people they still are both important. Disregarding that seems dangerous to me.

OMG Phia!! I been getting DM's all day hunny!! Thats my profile at 5:24 haha I love it! keep up the amazing work

My boyfriend lives in the UK, we’ve been together for 10 months and we also have known eachother for years. We got vr for this summer because we’re meeting in august and I love it so much, as with an already established relationship seeing eachothers body language and being immersed in random things together like escape rooms, fan made worlds of our favorite fandoms, meeting ppl together, it’s so fun, it definitely has enhanced our LDR

I would consider VRC an incredible tool for long distance relationships (both for wholesome and lewd purposes), or even just people who don't have a lot of time or money to go on dates otherwise. It's something I would definitely try to make use of in a relationship. But I don't know about establishing relationships where you haven't seen the other person (let alone don't have expectations to). Maybe I'm old fashioned but I have trouble picturing a relationship without the (even if unspoken) hope of eventually living together.

I can't believe we used to live without Virtual Reality for so long. I'm so glad I live in this century. VR is like the next huge leap after we had letters, radio, television and internet. Finally we can see each other, being present and experience exciting moments together in the most naturally feeling artificial 3 dimensional environment on distance. With each day spent in VRChat I learn more about myself and humanity, and the world around me. It's truly eye-opening and mind-blowing for people who don't travel much because of the health reasons or simply because they couldn't afford the expenses of travelling abroad.

So I can say I have dated on vrchat twice (mostly with other furries) and I can say even though they never worked out, the time I had with them made me feel safe and relaxed. It's a shame they couldn't make it last but it honestly made the long distance feel less...far away

I haven’t wanted to date, really ever, but I have to admit that looked like fun

I'm an awkward mess and I don't really see myself finding a partner any other way than in VR. I have a _really_ hard time finding people I connect with, even just with friendships I've always been too picky about who I'll get close to. The brief time I could spend in social VR though... taught me that I'm not an introvert like I always thought I was. I'm just an extrovert that only really vibes with other awkward people. It's been driving me insane living with my super christian parents, it's allowed me to save up a ton of money but I literally can't even hang in voice chat in my own home because they hear everything I say and will seize any opportunity to put me down. VR Chat has been a disaster every time I try. This winter I'm finally saying to hell with it. I'm buying a nice condo near my work where I'll have a 12'x12' VR space, and I'm so excited. Hopefully in the course of making friends, I'll meet another dork like me and we'll hit it off. But even if it never happens, at least I can try. That'll make me feel so much more hopeful for the future, and I need the social interaction desperately, all I get where I live now is text chat on games and the boomers at work and it's making me ultra depressed.

You can be lucky irl at work , when you go out etc but it never means for sure you'll find someone , especially if your confidence is very low or that your appearence is not that great (sadly). VR open the door to meet someone with similar interest and let the personality speak over anything else. So i totally agree with VR dating.

As someone who is incredibly introverted, lacks much self esteem and, at 34, having no dating experience has been hard. I’ve had no luck on the dating apps I’ve tried, but the one relationship I did have before was entirely online starting from an MMO. This app seems fun, definitely going to try to sign up for it and see what happens. Thanks for the video!

"My friends just call me Queef" ... Damn, straight-up!

I’ve been playing World of Warcraft off and on since 2007 or 08 and you hear stories all the time about people who met in the game and wound up going on to meet IRL, marry and have entire families! It’s amazing.

A pro of VR dating is the fact that someone's actual personality shines through. People have a tendency to put up an act when around certain people, but through a headset, you have a sense of anonymity. No one can really judge you for acting the way you do sometime because that's how they see you as a whole- This is who you are to them as a first impression. VR is a new life for people, and that usually means an entirely new personality. Plus, people can say and do a lot of things and simply evade consequences, either through an alt or leaving the current world, and what they do if they KNOW they can get away with it says a lot about them.

This was super wholesome (surprisingly for the topic lol), I hope these two kept dating afterwards!

While i love the idea of virtual dating apps i feel like going in VR or virtual just to date can lead to a lot of bad dating experiences. I have seen tons of online or VRChat relationships die or all apart because the two dating had a great connection but being far apart physically can lead to a lot of stressers. While yes initially its nice to make the connection online for most we would like to meet up and eventually be together IRL, and I personally feel like a lot of people dont consider how that will happen, one person or both people will need to move and thats a big life change unless they want to spend tons of money only visiting eachother for the rest of their relationship. So yes virtual dating can be nice, but also consider the IRL circumstances and ability to be together long term. Also should say that I met my BF through VRChat friends and we hung out in VRC before we started dating, we now live with each other so its not all negatives but there are some that must be considered.

I managed to meet my current boyfriend the first time I went on VRchat in Summer Solitude and even though he lives all the way in California and I'm in England, I can say for sure that VR makes me feel so close to him when we play together. It definitely helps to have a little phantom sense so I can feel when he touches my face a tiny bit, I really am glad that he is such a genuine guy and that he didn't catfish me LOL (also this is my longest relationship so far, we met almost 2 years ago on the 31st of May 2020) :)

Honestly I understand the appeal, I really do. As someone who met her current boyfriend on VRChat, I completely get it of course. But I think I can also say that physical attraction is still very important, regardless of how far apart you are. The idea that by dating on VRChat, your partner will completely ignore your IRL appearance is a little bit deluded. People still want someone they can feel physically attracted to on VRChat, and one day when they eventually want to meet up IRL- that will obviously become more important. Naturally for some people this will be more or less important than other aspects, but it still plays a role in the more sexual side of things: which can't be avoided. For some people it seems like the perfect option, though- like if you travel a lot for work etc. However for others, I reckon you're better off just finding someone IRL. VRChat relationships are great, until you realise that you cant physically touch the person. You can't lean on them, hold them, etc- which plays a huge role in just feeling generally connected to someone. I also think that when you have a VRChat relationship, you get used to being attracted to your partner's perfect anime avatar. But IRL, you will eventually find it hard to be attracted to real people as their appearance simply isnt perfect enough for you anymore. It's dangerous, be careful x

my soon to be husband and I met on VRchat over 2 years ago. it was almost love at first sight we were friends for a maybe like a month before we started dating. our relationship on vrchat lasted for about a year and half before we finally met in person and we would of met soon but ya know covid had to come say hello to the world but once we met for the first time it was love at first sight again. he stayed at my place for about a week and then 2 months later i would go see him in his state. fast fowarding to now we had just moved in together and we are so happy to spend the rest of our lives together. we both still talk about how we first met and how weird it now to think we use to do vrchat dates and even sleep in vr together.

My partner and I met in VRC and now live together. Definitely a possibility to find someone thru vr. I think never met will do really well if they continue with their efforts, sponsorships, and ads within the game. It’s going to become the next big thing. Vr is blowing up.

Met my girlfriend of 3 years on Tinder, in a parallel universe I would have absolutely hopped on this at the time lol. Good coverage on the topic Phia~

Honestly this seems pretty cool, especially with the VTuber Community also getting bigger and bigger etc I personally don't have a VR Headset tho, so I'm not sure how good it works for someone who can't have a VR Date

An option to select a transgender option would be a good way to prevent miscommunication and false assumption. (I'm not trans but i think the trans community would like that). Also giving the option to send IRL photos to each other after the first date would be a good idea too or IRL stats at least. Just spitballin ideas.

Awesome video! Keep up the amazing work!~ I hope you have a great day today!!

This is a direction that I feel VR will flourish within. Thank you for sharing this with the community.

This was a good vid! Love VR couples XD Nice one, Phia!

This was very interesting. Great vid!

VRchat dating is amazing ive gone to so many unreal places with someone accross the country. Haunted theme parks, meme worlds,nightclubs and cuddle rooms

never thought about dating in vr... time to take my shot

Hey I just found your channel. For the past three years I’ve only ever watched thrill seeker for my vr content. For some reason I was drawn to this video and absolutely loved it! Jaw dropped when I found out you two are together. Keep up the great content, will absolutely be coming back for more :)

Perfect Match *Wink* This is really good!! Thak you Phia

This sounds like fun, i'm doing my homework about VR right now and see for what things i can use VR, dating in real life is hard for me so, i might give this a go. Thank you for the video and have nice day.

I thought this was a wonderful video as I'm an anthropologist. I think that this a wonderful topic because we see how that in the past there was a way to date that was normal and it is always changing to what use to be in person, then to online dating like tinder. I honestly think that VRC dating and VR dating would expand the world of dating so much.

Im glad you touched on the age issue, its a constant concern when interacting with people online. I could see people using the app to also just find friends in their age group. I do think vr could be a valid way to meet people without some of the risks meeting in real life can have, because of the level of presence as you said does give you a better feel of a person and what they are like. Full body certainly adds to that because you are getting more of that body language and now with face and eye tracking the lines will blur even more.

HI PHIA ! love your content btw C:

Me personally I don’t think I could do this, physical attraction is important to me to a degree. I go for personality more, but I do have a physical type too. I wouldn’t want to lead them on and break their hearts if they end up not being attractive to me, that wouldn’t be fun for either party lmao That date between the two of them was wholesome and nice to watch, and I definitely think this would be a good format for people who don’t care about appearance at all.

I am actually trying to get into that in the moment… but getting into it is kinda hard if your new… so it helps to get into it

HOL UP, when I saw thrill I smiled, it is so nice I didn’t even know that thrill and TVRS were a thing at all but just started watching her and omfg. Amazing channel, keep up the good work. Ik this is a bit late but it’s still cool. And the videos she does is awesome!

It's so cute that you found your partner in VR Chat! You should definitely tell the story in a video one day. I find these things really interesting because I met my current girlfriend through Discord, I wonder if VR Dating could become a potential alternative for the "general public" in the future, if the Metaverse ever becomes real I can perfectly see this happening.

The only issue to me is that you can make a super strong bond online but when you end up seeing eachothers physical appearance it might not be what you expected and it might not work out bcus of that. And that majorly sucks.. Like I care about what others look like irl when it comes to dating but I also struggle with what people think of mine which puts me in a limbo between them both. 🤔

its nice seeing a video like this since me and my partner actually met on nevermet

I really like this idea, it’s like literal blind dating where you only know who someone is then once you finally understand one another you can maybe remove the veil. Though given my first few times in social vr (which were terrifying since i’m used to being in the background and being left alone), it will probably be a long time before I work up the nerve to try any dating site let alone a vr one.

Thanks for the tip about Nevermet, I’ve been interested in something like this.

I recently started playing this and didn't even know dating was a thing within vrchat. Well, you learn something new every day

Daring in vr sounds fascinating and like when ird evolved enough could even super comfy for anyone

The transparent raid shadow legends fake ad got me not. Idk why, but I was laughing out loud. Love your videos!

Great content keep it up Phia

ive been dating in vr for a bit now and i recently met someone who ive really started to vibe and get close with. We just seem to click so well and im so grateful i have vrchat to because i probably would have never met him otherwise. hoping things keep progressing and i can meet him irl sometime in the future!

That was adorable. I'm so happy that things like this are actually happening! What a cute meet up

another banger video queen

it was a mess for me dating in vr, lots of bad stuff but I eventually found someone very nice and we are similar in a lot of ways and get along well, hardly ever fight. My biggest issue is I don't know if I will ever be able to meet them in real life or if their would be a long term future in it. Just know you will likely have to go through a lot of problems before you find someone good. Know your boundaries, if you get treated poorly cut you losses sooner rather then later, as you'll be closer to finding someone better, and give others a chance who you may not have at first, they may surprise you, 1st impressions aren't everything, better to live a happy life with someone awkward and shy in your first meeting then going with the confidant person who made a stellar first impression on you only to have years of arguing and let downs. oddly enough the person I'm with now I was very very scared to let them know what I looked like, and scared once they see what I look like they'd just think I'm ugly and move on. a friend of theirs actually ciber stalked me figured out my real name found my family found photos from families facebook accounts... and then showed my girlfriend. And.. well she thinks I'm cute.... not the best thing to hear as she hasn't said hansom or good looking or anything, but.. I guess I'll take it.. granted I don't know if she's just saying that to spare my feelings. but she hasn't dumped me after seeing what I look like 6 months later. So that's good. I really do just wish I looked better for them.

Interested. Thanks Phia.

Ooo. Maybe have interest bubbles like tinder for what online activities you like. Like what games you play, movies, shopping, or even sleeping lol.

Phia! I met someone in the waiting room in discord lol before I even got through into the app lol thanks so much

I’ve been with someone on VRC for a year and 9 months at this point and we’re still super happy and we’re going to meet in person for her birthday! 💜💜💜

wow that's actually really cool ngl, vr really blurs the lines when it comes to these things. I don't see myself being able to make use of this but that's just because I'm convinced that I'm cursed and will never have a regular in person relationship but vr can mitigate that feeling a bit and also help with the feeling of disconnect I feel when dating to some degree. I can imagine how it could be fun to give it a try and maybe at least make some new friends.

I fucking lost it when they loaded up avatar as the movie to watch. I fucking love that movie.

I met my boyfriend Caleb on a vrchat sever and just fell in love. The feeling of falling in love for who he was just as a person has made me so happy. He loves me despite how strange, weird, and obnoxious I consider myself but he loves me for it and I never thought I would find someone who loved me for that part of myself I sometimes hate. The obvious long distance problem is that not only am I in the United States military but he lives in Finland with a 10hr time difference. I cherish what little time we get together on vrc. Now because of him I'm investing more into my VR setup (currently just a Quest 3 :( ) and learning more about VR and PCs. I never had these things growing up so I have him to thank for the feelings I never thought I would feel on top of the excitement for my future gaming experience. My last word is simply, don't be afraid of falling in love on VR you deserve to be happy and your S.O. will feel the same. ❤

From I can tell of the Google Play of the Google Play Store reviews, most people seem to complain consistently about a few primary things such as: *Staying on the waiting list for a long time (ranges from a couple days to up to 2+ weeks). ***This seems to be the most consistent complaint*** *Unable to upload photos (during sign-up mostly but sometimes after *Unable to start the app (even after restarts) *Generally buggy overall *One person said they were encouraged to get a "sister app" to be approved faster I'm sure most of these issue will be mitigated overtime but I do want to say I am very excited for this app and it's potential. This could easily allow users outside of platforms like Discord to have another option. I can also this or something like to be the starting point to getting VR as a whole more popular, encouraging more purchases of headsets and more capable pc's. I want to see this succeed!

its been a long time since ive hopped into vrchat, mainly because I haven't been able to afford a vr setup. its exciting to see from my pov how much things have been changing in the metaverse, and so many worlds that I have yet to see or explore. i miss it but reality has had my focus for too long

Well, the future is now I guess. I remember learning about Leonardo da Vinci and how he designed things that were ahead of his time. I wondered what the future would hold, and that more likely than not, it would be something that I would never have thought of. Then Uber Eats came along. I don't use it but something as simple as a literal food taxi blew my mind when I realized that my train of thought from years before had come full circle. Here we are again, something new, and incomprehensible for many, but oddly familiar. Food taxis after all, are not that big of a jump from pizza delivery.

I want to thank Phia for making this video. I gave this app a chance just for fun, and managed to not only find people to talk to on it, but also have a girl i am clicking with very well, and am getting close to that i matched with on it.

7:59 Phia has unlocked "Thrill" skin

I met my current partner in VRChat. Its a cool little story I like to think about because VR is a really unique setting for dating. We were part of one of those "VRChat families" where she "had two children" and I was the "stepfather." It was totally for jokes and for fun but that dynamic made it easy to progress to something further, naturally. We eventually started talking on discord, then followed each other on Instagram, then added each other on snap, then started voice and video calling. We were friends for a couple months and after getting to know one another and seeing who each other was irl (through various social media and video calls) we very easily moved onto dating. Though a little "strange" and unique, dating in VRChat can be absolutely beautiful, fun, and life changing if done right. I totally support this idea and hope it flourishes.

When you've watched Phia and Thrill separately for over a year and just realized they're dating... dumbfounded over here 😵😍

The one thing I don't like about anonymous dating is spending tons of time connecting with someone and getting close to them. Then seeing what they look like and not being attracted to them or even repulsed. :/

Great video!

Had no clue you were in a relationship with ThrillSeeker but hey its nice to see two great VR content creators together :)

I met my current partner on vrc, we literally just happened to bump into each other and started talking in a drinking night. I ended up convincing him to come play chess with me, we added each other on discord and that was that we sent face pics pretty early on too and I'm on a call with him right now while he sleeps half way across the world. He's one of the best things that ever happened to me

I was just scrolling through Tinder thinking "Man I'd rather go on a date on VRChat with someone I meet online than go through this. I sure wish that was a thing." And here I am.

I wish there was something like this but for friends.. Not dating.

I loved how this app is a lot better at trying to make sure the age range is right, yet a thing that bothers me that even if they are 18 there could be some like 50 year olds who are trying to trick them into dating them? Idk about personal opinions on that but there is still that problem. Another thing I’d point out is I myself have faced the horror of being groomed so id would never want anyone to feel that so I’d definitely recommend trying to get to know their friends a little to make sure what age they are telling you is the truth. But… don’t let that scare you from trying honestly if it’s going to be a wholesome relationship you probably don’t have to worry about the age that much but if your going further then I would recommend learning as much as u can about them from friends. Anyways thank you for taking you time to read and have a lovely day/night

I was not prepared for senior qweefs name

hey i love watching your vids but i can never find worlds with player pick up so i was wondering if you do a top 5 maybe

Where are you in VRC? the background looks lovely :)

I need to move asap and get myself a vr headset, can't wait to try all the things vr can offer

my long distance boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We haven't been able to meet in person at all yet but we're just about to try out vr to see how it goes. I'm waiting for him to get out of class rn actually, and we're gonna go, desktop mode, out in vrchat to hang out with people or find somewhere just for the two of us :)

I'm excited to get my GF IRL and myself a headset. The problem is needing the PC. Whatever I buy, needs to be doubled because I'm getting us both the setup. But, being able to just go out in VRChat worlds after we put the little one to sleep and too tired to get ready to go out, this is so appealing to me. We can share experiences in both realities and that's amazing. Not to mention we dont really need phantom touch... which could be interesting

Interesting how this topic is being brought up all the sudden... Thanks for the coverage!

i hang out with my friend that lives in az and i live in cali i moved back from az to my home city but we still talk in vr chat and on discord.

I met my now-husband on Tumblr. 😳 So in my experience, sometimes things are better when you're not desperately trying to find someone else. When it just naturally happens through constant interaction.

Ngl the textures and performance of this video really just makes me want to keep upgrading my gear lol

I've been lucky enough to meet some great people in VRChat ones good enough to randomly invade and join our collective friend group. I think the idea of a VRDate is fun and interesting esp if it's a common ground. I wonder what it's like for someone older or in the mid 30s range as I don't commonly meet or see people in the 30s or mid 30s range either.

the guy falling part 🤣🤣🤣

Never dated in VR but I can see the appeal. I've done long distance and a lot of times it was over text or voice of not seeing one another. In VR you can get more of a feel of their personality and mannerisms.

your a amazing person phia keep making amazing videos

I actually never knew you and thrill met in vr that’s so cute, that’s how me and my current gf met, was in vrchat, and now we have been living happily together for 2 years

4:57 ChinBobble is literally an old vrc friend of mine that i havent talked to in months! Funny to see him in this vid LOL

Anther fantastic VRshow!

Some people say VRchat helps with anxiety... But when I did used to attempt to go on VRchat, the moment someone says Hi to me I'd yeet my headset off and pretend I'm afk. So not sure how I could go from that to having a VR relationship. I've entered a LDR through other means since then - 5 months strong with a friend I've known for over 2 years. Our life saver? *cough*remotecontrolwoohootoys*cough*. Just imagine that, but also with your sweetheart in VRchat at the same time. I don't think it's too lewd given the challenges of maintaining a long distance relationship.

The first part, literally is me rn. As I want to say something to someone but can’t lol

I just realize at 5:52 one of my public avatars was shown. Didnt expect that

Phatmon sense is such an odd phenomenon. Like for me its not all over my body per say. If someone pokes my chest, boops my nose, or touches my arm I dont feel a thing. But for whatever reason I can feel the sides of my face. Like if someone where to caress my cheek or touch my cheek i could feel it. Most strange of all is that I can feel temperature. First time I experienced it I was talking to someone about the whole phantom sense thing and they shot fire from their finger onto me. For whatever reason I could feel the flames. Idk how or why