The key word here is "comfortable". You can NEVER allow any woman to ever get comfortable with you. EVER........if you want the to get the best out of a woman,DO NOT EVER COMMIT TO HER,DO NOT EVER BE NICE TO HER,REMAIN EMOTIONALLY DETACHED.........THIS CREATES THE "CHALLENGE" TO WIN YOU OVER. COMMITMENT+EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENTS =NO CHALLENGE/TO COMFORTABLE = BOREDOM = HER DUMPING YOU..........a woman can't dump you if you never committed to her in the the 1st place. She can't hurt you if you were alway emotionally detached. SHE ISNT YOUR,ITS JUST YOUR TURN
Take it to the next level........just stay away from her all together. No Contact = No Sex Either. To many other women out here for that. It's all about self respect.
Once she left you for the streets she gotta stay on that side where the grass was greener at bruh. What they don't understand is once you give it to another man we don't want it no more.
Ex wife hit me up telling me how she recognized ALL the mistakes she made in the marriage. How she realized that she had to do inner work to be a better person. It sounded good. But one thing I’ve learned about people in general, let them talk long enough and they’ll tell on themselves. She was the same woman. More angry and everyone else is the problem. Don’t just hear to the words coming out of their mouths. Listen. Watch their actions. We learn best when we STFU and pay attention.
Always remember, they can’t act but so long. If you do decide to consider opening the door for her. Do everything on YOUR terms and on your timeframe without being emotionally invested,no matter how long that timeframe is. Watch how fast her BS comes to light. It never fails.
5 minutes after seeing my wife following the divorce hearing, she called me and was BAWLING! It was bad! She said it was all her fault and she was to blame. Then she said that someday we could get married again! Say what??? Now, I'm living in peace, and my money is MY money. Her guy has physical issues now, and she's basically his nurse and is on a short leash. He controlled her temper by slapping her to the floor a few times. Not my problem! That's what she signed up for.
I've had the exact same thing a few weeks ago. Asking will I talk to her after she got off work 🙄. I said is it something we can talk over the phone 📱. She said no I want to see you in person. I said no. I don't see the reason meeting in person 😕. She got upset. Clearly you have moved on. I said I'm enjoying my life currently as it is. You take care of yourself. She hung up 😮
You know D’Neika, it’s funny that you brought this up. One of my exes keeps hitting me up now. She didn’t understand the vision then, but now she does since I now have a house, a great job and in decent shape. She left 4 years ago and now she’s trying to come back and now I left her…. On read twice.
So after the relationship ( with another man), she finds that her options have gone down over time. If the relationship ( with another man) had worked out, would this even be a discussion. The reason she treated you badly was because you weren't her first option, now out of desperation, she is back.(😆)
She had a failed relationship with another man. That's crazy to me. Either she doesn't know how to pick them or how to maintain relationships. She's the problem. How are you going to crawl back to someone u left?
@@KimberlyH. Hypergamy is in effect, when the upgrade (the new man) isn't an upgrade, you go back to the best option, just like women revisiting old relationships or friendzoned men.
@heyoka33 the women didn't know how to pick them because she should've known before getting into a serious relationship with another. Wasting time. That's crazy to crawl back to someone u left. That's a scarcity mindset. If I made a wrong choice, I'll just suck it up. Accept & move on
Problem is she don’t have options like she think she does. She has the illusion of options thinking all the options she has will treat her better than you and in reality they only want her for recreational purposes. If they get in a relationship they soon realize that who she is on social media does not match who she is in real life. She comes with so many issues and traumas that no man wants to deal with.
Allow these modern, strong independent women of the streets to stay in the streets. Let them struggle........Good Luck to them finding a Sugar Daddy. 😂 😂
They can't see the reality of the dream. Before I married my ex I sat her down and laid out my vision. A 5 year plan. I told her it would be a struggle, I woul have to put in a lot of overtime get a second part time job. We might not spend a lot of romantic nights but that after 5 years we'd have it sweet career on the upward projection house paid off money in the bank. It took her 1 year to get "tired of it" chrat on me and divorce. At least we didn't have kids. I stuck to the plan house paid off, upper management in my career, and plenty of money in the bank. She approached me one day saying the made a mistake and wondered if there was still a chance. Needless to say I told her "NO"
I love it! She had the framework for the perfect life, but she didn't want to even hand you a hammer! She blew it! Remember that she's still the SAME WOMAN that left you. She hasn't changed.
Went through this last year.. found the texts of her texting her married boss with all kinds of sexual messages and proof of them meeting at the hotel during work hours.. months of this at that. Naw ill let you do you and walk away.
Yep the struggle is real, and yes my Ex's left me, so it is too late now, I'm good, happy, and I blew up, as me as a man, I'm by myself, God was working on me. Good dope discussion.
Just because she’s ready NOW doesn’t mean shit to Me. She should’ve BEEN READY THEN. She has to Eat that and Deal with WHAT IF. It’s actually WAY BETTER women out here that actually spend money & DON’T say No
I blocked two women who were nothing more than beggers and kept trying to come back, more of a headache than a blessing. Now that I got my own place those days are over, I'm on the process of getting rid of those women who think like them and stop attracting them.
Oh man, just feel I need to share this one! She was a baby sitter, he went out to work. Provided everything for her and pandered to her every whim. Years and years came and went. Merriment, disagreements like any other married couple. Lifes good. UNTIL SHE STARTED TO HANG AROUND UNMARRIED WOMEN. Then, what she had built with hubby wasn't enough. She wanted to party more, be free, drive a convertable etc...... SHE DEMANDED A DIVORCE. She put that guy through hell. Fighting for everything. Trying to get his house etc. Years and years later after much lawyer fees they finally came to an agreement. She got loads including him having to remortgage the house which he managed to keep to pay her off plus part of his pension and more. The pain and stress cannot be enthasised. He had to leave his job, struggled with mental health, couldn't drive. Just lost himself. She on the other hand got all she wished for including the convertable, freedom, new man ...... Years later, the man she got with got deleted on a west indian island, her money run out. Then found herself living in a single room bedsite. I mean 1 room in a house with strangers sharing kitchen, bathroom etc. What does she then do!? Surprise, surprise circles back around looking to rekindle her marriage. Poor guy even survived a heart attack....... last I heard, he was still fighting to keep her at arms length. She tried to slowly worm her way back into his life. Wanting to move back in etc..... HELL ON EARTH>>>>>>real story>>>> met him for drinks a few time where he mention her trying to get back with. Lo and behold, whilst we’re in the pub the phone rings…. Guess who!!!?
The audacity and disrespect of this woman to even think she could come back to a man she nearly destroyed is off the scales........the question is.........WHY DIDNT HE CHANGE HIS NUMBER AND GET A RESTRAINING ORDER????? NO CONTACT FOR LIFE.
Mine tried to do me dirty thought she did something we have Son and he usually comes to visit me in West Virginia but this time I decided to go to Los Angeles after 20yrs she told me my Son was catching the bus I brought him a Benz str8 cash no note Johnny on the spot and I have my own 4 story home no help from any women nor fam and she tried to get back with me I told her nope you had 20yrs to Holla and you even used child support on me and when I ask you to stop the child support you didn't and I still made it so HELL NO! SEE YAH!
Basically what you are saying is........."Winter is Here" and Now they realize they spent the Utility Money on something that is NOT providing Heat !!!
😂 I will never figure out how my ex made $150k a year, thought I had no ambition cause I made like $60k Here we are 10 years later, she got lipo, a bbl, a bmw, then lost her job and asked me for $4k to pay her rent Who me? The “brokie” with the low salary, that now has a house, 2 paid off cars and almost $250k in the bank? Nah fam, you not coming in here and pissing away my future
Correct! Ex believed just because she made $50k more than me. She was a boss "b." Well, now I pay $100k in taxes a year. She listened to her sibling, and now she doesn't have a husband! Single bitter Spencer's don't give good advice.
Still the same person, only at her weak point. As soon as she get back strong, she'll revert back to her true ways. Plus she has more mental damage from other men that have used her, and more bodies than when she was with you. Horrible deal!
My ex left me for another dude instead of trying to work things out.. 3 months went by.. then all of a sudden she came back to knock my door talking about I forgot her hair flatirons and she just wanted to return it to me although I bought for it.. I was like ummm okay.. wtf 😳 well he used her and stole 3K cash she had saved up … 🤦♂️
My ex left me for the bad guy and I finally had enough. She tried coming back and nope. One day I seen him kicking her butt on the street. I just lit a cigarette and watched. Not my problem anymore.
Social Media has made people believe that its ALWAYS something better/greener/easier elsewhere.... Don't let them DMs trick you....Anytime ANY hardship comes, they wanna dip......smh Such an interesting time we live in..
@@ADayInTheLifeOfJames nah some of the most beautiful women move with grace and have the lowest body counts, mostly because they were brought up in a loving household. All these "baddies" are fatherless.
She knew better before she self sabotaged the relationship chasing pookie n ray ray that 🥷🏾 didnt want her n think ima pick up the pieces ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! stand on it..
Chances are, you could have left many times over, but you stayed. Think twice before you capitulate. Don't waste time, energy or resources. Climb, climb, climb.. When you elevate and are what you should be and where you belong, they will come. Furthermore, you will be able to select from a vast array of different ethnic candidates. Climb and never stop climbing. You have to marry someone whom is worthy of being a wonderful wife and mother to your children. Climb and never look back 🔙. Climb !!! OG 66/1957 🤞🏿
You can never convince a man to take an ex back once the man has called you out. Especially if you were hooking up with guys that he knows. Find someone else to play games with and good luck with that.
Relationships don’t benefit men. My last ex broke up with me and gets pregnant, she now wants me to back. No thanks The women before my ex was a 17 year marriage. She left with over $600K in property and in two years is legally bankrupt. She says she wants to come back. I told her yes, but I want $300K….she stopped calling me. Again no thanks
My Ex-girlfriend is trying to prove her wrong doings on me until certain realities are catching her off guard and you know what is fu_ked up we have child with disabilities
I was the typical soccer dad. During the time her affair was exposed. I was taking our 10 year old son to physical therapy for tip toe walking. Sadly, since I'm not around she doesn't give a f@k about his disability.
Just be aware that when they hit you up like that....she's hitting everyone on her roster up too! The game hasn't changed. Don't let her gas you up thinking its all about you being special. Money makes her #$%. If she's actually trying to come back...its because no one else wanted those headaches either...and she definitely tried selling that bag of nightmares to them first. She's not somehow a different person because she's desperate now. Let her get her foot in the door and get comfortable...and watch that old behavior or worse come right back. Even worse, now you have successfully shown her that you are willing to accept her having left you and getting run through by however many others...then bringing that second/third/fourth/+++++ hand experience...flavored by everyone else...back to you. You just set the precedent by taking that back...expect repeat performances.
lol my ex started love bombing me and saying she missed me and missed our conversations. In my head I’m thinking “you got pumped and dumped huh?” What I actually told her “I want to move on. Hope you’re doing well.”
I can advise everyone to never take an ex back. Never ever take her back. Whether she left your ass or vice versa. Dont take them back. I have been the Husband, boyfriend and side dude. Just enjoy your turn and humble yourself with the game in silence 🤷🏾♂️
Most of the time they dont see the value till its to late, your right last on the list. I will never be last. You will show me im first or im out...lol good show
I think it's more that she THOUGHT she was dodging a bullet but sees she actually took a loss by leaving and NOW she think she has an opportunity to clean that L off her slate. She just wanna get rid of that L and that's another ugly truth!
Man the disrespectful selfish entitled ex wife wanted to hug me after 3 years hell naw I told you. You took a short term gain for a long term loss not realizing you were at the end of the road...
Was fortunate enough to land a good job at a hospital clinic after me and my ex broke up. Took a year to get on my feet another couple months to move into my own place from my partna spot. After I got my new whip she sniffing my trail lol stay down until you come up.
Like a dumb ass i let my kindness and heart look over everything she did go out partying for 4 to 5 days then come home sleep for 5 days texting other guys giving them her number on the cell phone i paid for tried 3 times to make her decide what life she wanted but after seeing that a guy was at my house while i was working he was there 1230 am to 430 am she said he was there to drive her sister home i told her she broke the golden rule no man in my house that i pay the bills and utilities and put food on the table that was the straw that broke the camels back i told her to leave and pack her crap i am not gonna be with somebody thats disrespects me like that lot less stress and no i am not giving in this time Have a good evening thank you
Big Respects 2u Sister ✨👊🏾✨ You Keeping It 💯% Coz this is real talk to the highest order ! Exemplary video sweetheart, exemplary ! Everyone share this you hear, share this bloodclart everywhere, bless up 🙏🏾 You have the respect of the redpill brotherhood & community for exposing the manipulation... This video has wisdom with real insight, which I will multishare to the masses speaks volumes, your a special one, problem is there is not enough decent respectful like you, which is a damn shame ✨👊🏾👑
I met a real beautiful woman I tried to date but she ghosted me for 3 weeks. I was not hurt nor angry. When she called me three weeks later; she did not understand why I wouldn't date again. The sheer arrogance of assumptions was mind blowing to me.
Great insight as always my sister. On your comment about people staying together for kids (especially for married folks), agree that if things get violent that is probably time to go, but if things are just difficult, folks have to learn from past generations / ancestors; sometimes it is better for folks to stick it out and not just run because things get uncomfortable for a while.
Definately was talkin to me and my situation on this one. Paid car off, just got back from Italy on business deal, purchased new massive cash.... the whole time I was letting child support threats and disruption to hinder me. Now I'm paying for my freedom and still gonna take my babygirl out on vacation
When the struggling young prince turns to a king that built his own table in darkness is a real force some ladies don’t understand or when they do understand it’s to late
It all depends on how she left ! 1: for another man or woman? As a man DO NOT TAKE her back! 2: As a man if you get caught cheating take her back if you believed it’s worth it. 3: If a woman leaves you if you lose you job and you’re struggling and places you in a deficit and you rebuild and she wants to come back ? DO NOT!!!
A lot of them don't want to be alone too sometimes it ain't got nothing to do with you They still don't want you They just don't want to be alone so they're going to act like they want you to use you for your energy and comfort because the pain that they brought on you is now on them and now they want you to be their rebound after they didn't put that same pain on you and was nowhere to be found when you needed comfort
A few years back I ended my relationship with my ex. About 7 months ago, she attempted to reconcile her own sneaky way, but I paid her no mind, totally ignored the attempts over a 3 month period. Now all of a sudden she’s decided to pick up and move our son to another state to live with another man. It is disappointing to see how some women can be so desperate and willing to take advantage of anyone who falls for their misleading ways. But like they say, a fool is born everyday.
D'nieka you were really spitting some game today. When a man knows how low a women regards him its not depressing its liberating because a man can really assess himself and move on from there
There are too many, to be giving second chances..Why retrogress and risk a duplication of past behavior. When you can keep advancing your objective and perhaps, sample someone and something different. Don't do that..OG 66/1957
