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@@milalami8219 Una,GOD send HIS Faithful Forgiven People Na Koreana at Haponesa. Pero bago pako mag abroad, may nagpadala sakin ng Biblia( but i wasn’t interested pa that time,and i met a Pinay sa Magallanes and invited me for a fellowship(year 89) and was my very first time seeing and attending a fellowship,before my first departure from PH). Many times GOD is calling me thru those signs,actually lahat po tayo ay TINATAWAG,with so many obvious signs,like hearing a Bible Preachers In The Street and Much more now mas pinadali ni GOD thru Internet 🛜 but people are too busy fulfilling their personal dreams like wanting to be rich 🤑. Dekada bago korin naunawaan,but Jesus Never Giving Up On Me…Until…i really heard His softened my hearts 🥰 and I felt HIS LOVE and FORGIVENESS. Until unti,nababago na ang kalooban at unti unti,naalis ang bad habits…at natutunan ko Oys NOT About Me Pala…Its ALL ABOUT HIM JESUS. Unti unti sa Haplos ng pagmamahal nya,maliliwanagan ka,aaluin ka nya,hinding hindi mo na maratamdamang nag-iisa ka,kase ipaparamdam nya ang pagka DIOd nya at mawawala na Takot. at ready ka sa anu man Sya Ang Bahala.
@@kuyab9122 If you read the bible kuya it will change your POV of life, lalo na if you read it from cover to cover. The bible is the manual of our life, it will show us how to live uprightly and christ-like. 🙂
Unfortunately, narcissistic parents are a real and legitimate problem that many people face. Narcissistic parents often lack empathy, manipulate and exploit their children for their own gain, and are primarily concerned with their own needs and desires rather than their children's well-being. This can cause significant emotional and psychological harm to children and can have long-lasting effects on their well-being as adults. To all victims of narcissistic parenting , know that you're not alone. You are worthy and deserving of love, respect, and happiness. I pray for healing and inner peace. May your voice be heard and valued 🙏♥️
🥲Somehow naka-relate ako kay Salome. I had childhood trauma generally from my father (mostly verbal with some physical abuse) and one of his siblings (sexual abuse). Kaya lumaki tuloy akong sobrang tahimik, aloof sa mga tao, mahina ang loob at maliit ang tingin sa sarili. Worst pa, I am a part of the LGBT community kaya nabully din ako outside ng family. I am still thankful though that I am alive at have no suicidal thoughts. I just pray everyday to survive this.
This is the reason why I want to be a Psychologist and it will serve a great impact to our society na mag-bloom pa yung awareness ng mga tao when it comes to mental health issues and how it will affect you in your adulthood. Nasanay kasi yung iba na kapag may problem ang bata, baka nagt-tantrums lang or nag-iinarte😢
What you want in your life, either good or bad is your choices and decisions regardless of your childhood traumas or not. There are people who has good childhood still choose to become bad persons. Your life is your choice. So don't blame anyone because God gave us freedom to choose what you want in your existence.
I have 3 years old son. I will try my best talaga. Inaappreciate ko ang mga bagay na gngawa nya. My son is very advance even his pediatrician told me. kailangan balance talaga ang pagdedesiplina. pagmamahal at pang uunawa tlga. Napaka strong nya talaga.
Sobrang swerte ko pla sa parents ko,Never nila kami sinaktan magkakapatid, very kind and gentle sila sa amin magkakapatid. Never ko din sila narinig na namintas o nagsabi ng masama sa ibang tao. Kaya siguro naging mabait din ako and understanding na hindi maintindihan ng ibang tao, na kahit yong kinakabwisitan ng lahat eh nakakasundo ko pa. Kasi siguro lumaki ako na hindi judgmental I thank God napunta ako sa mabuting pamilya.
@@arasyard noon po hindi ko naman naappreciatpe yan. Never sila nagkulang sa amin magkakapatid, Wala na po parehas parents ko pero yong mga lesson na tinuro nila nagiging guide ko sa everyday na pkikitungo sa ibang tao po.
Sanaol. 😔 Lumabas anxiety ko noong 26 years old (year 2023), possible daw talaga sa childhood trauma raw ito sabi nung psychiatrist ko. Pinapalo kasi kami noong mga bata kami at laging sinisigawan.
Most of the batang 90's (I think) have this kind of parents. I myself have these kinds of parents, up to now they continue to try to ruin my self confidence. Sobrang sakit pag sa kanila galing na pangit ka, mataba ka, hindi ka pwde jan kasi hindi ka pasok sa standards. Salamat sa Diyos at meron akong kinakapitan. Hindi ko masisi si Salome na galit parin sya sa parents nya. Ako napatawad ko na parents ko, I became aware na it's not a reflection of who I am but who they really are. At the end of the day, yung faith talaga na meron someone higher na pwede mong sandalan at yung nagpapatunay na importante ka kaya nya ikaw nailagay sa mundo. I pray for you Salome, wala kang naging kasalanan. 🙏
Ang swerte nung mga hindi maka gets nung ganitong situation tapos magsasabi na its a matter of choice like dude kpag family mo mismo ang toxic since bata ka, what choices do you actually have? Hindi nila magets na wala kang freedom mentally and physically sa narcissistic parents dahil they manipulate every aspect of your childhood.
@@wilbaliton8421 Okay so say 9 years old ka, aalis ka na sa bahay nyo, find a job and rent an apartment to live independently away from toxic family? Sure? Bro not all 9 year olds are capable of doing that. Panu yung mga may disability pa like pinanganak silang blind or may kulang sa katawan. Different people, different cases. Good for you na "chose to be different" ka or kung nakaalis ka man sa situation mo way quicker than these people. But do not close your mind to people who are having way more difficult situation than you. Again, good job and good for you na nakaalis ka. I'm hoping of instead na ganyan ka, maging gentle and kinder ka to words and maging sensitive sa mga tao. Or if itong comment ko ittake mo as negative, then take a look at a mirror. Baka narcissist ka rin. :)
relate aq ky ma'am salome ranas q yan sa mama at papa q laht ng di maganda salita naranasan q at palo kht ano maipalo sa akin ng mama q hanggang sa nagdalaga aq kya unti now hirap aq kalimutan ung nangyari sa akin ng bata aq kht nong mamatay papa q umiyak aq pero dq talaga mapatawad.pero pasalamat na lng aq at naging independent aq until now
Very pretty na bata... She can inspire people thru other means. Sana she is done with her adult profession pero constant yearning for dopamine release means may hurt pa and she needs healing. She needs to open up to God, turn to faith and spirituality so healing can start. You have to be brave first to be strong to fight your demons.
I grew uo sa ganitong environment. Hanggang ngayon ang trauma nandito parin but mas lalo ko tinatagan ang sarili ko at mas lalo nagdasal sa panginoon mag isa at doon ko sinurender ang lahat para hnd makagawa ng hnd magandang bagay bagay...
Pray and meditate please believe in yourself kaya mu yan,kaya natin to kahit minsa there's a time nakakapagod na at parang dina talaga kaya pero patuloy na lalaban, even me at this point of my life kakaiyak ko palang 2 kanina I just prayed and I surrender to God everything.
Magsimba ka tuwing lenggo at magdasal ka bago matulog at paggising sa umaga. .tanggalin ang inggit at galit sa kapwa o kahit sino man. . .Gagabayan ka at protektahan ka ng DIYOS AMANG MAKAPANGYARIHAN SA LAHAT. . .talagang babago ang buhay mo
sabe nga ni doc alvin ang narcissist marunong mag manipulate, baka namanipulate kana ni salome kaya na touch ka kung totoong iba talaga trato saknya ng parents niya bakit pinasok niya ang p-rn industry? tapos may case pa siya dati na na abuse siya diba nga dapat ma trauma siya doon? hinde ko magets bakit enjoy sya sa pag gawa ng malalaswa?
Kahit ako lumayo din ako sa family ko dhil yun ang mas makakabuti at maging mapayapa ang takbo lng ng buhay...tahimik at magagawa mo yung tama na dapat gawin mo sa buhay para umusad ka...Pag ginawa mo at pinilit mopa makasama sila dhil baka magbago sila someday...Ako na nagsasabi sasayangin nyo lng ang oras at panahon nyo pag ginawa nyo yan...Di masama lumayo kung yung ang alam mo mas ikakabuti at safe ng buhay mo...Minsan kc ang hihila pababa sayo at maglalagay sayo sa kapamahamakan minsan kung sino pa ung mas malalapit sayo at kadugo mo pa...
Hindi na sila magbabago. Kung gusto nyo mag stay kailangan i accept nyo na ganyan na sila kung di kaya i cut nyo n completely sa buhay nyo. Walang point makipagtalo sa kanila
Maswerte Ako na Meron along parents na Hindi mayaman sa pera at material na bagay pero mayaman sa respeto at pagmamahal ❤ thanks doc for sharing this topic
I agree with your explanation Doc Alvin. I got a terrible childhood back home in the Philippines very traumatic chlldhood. Growing up I thought it was normal to experience emotional trauma, but in the end I commit suicide. until one day I just realized that I have to chance my way of life so that I'm not gonna turn out to be like my parents. At the very young age I pursue to be good in school and eventually migrant in canada. somehow looking back the emotional trauma that cause me when I was a kid are still there. Now I've been living in Canada for 20 years as a Family Medicine doctor. Good Bless Doc
Hi Doc, I am a parent of a 5-year-old child. Having grown up with a narcissistic father, I am concerned about my own parenting style. I want to avoid perpetuating the same negative traits in my child that I experienced growing up. Unfortunately, I have noticed some similarities between my own parenting and my father's behavior. Can you advise me on how to break this cycle and parent my child in a healthy way?
We are in the same boat. I had read some parenting books but still different child different approach. You will be the one to decide what parent you would be. As for me, the things I didn't experience from my own mom (narcisstic mom) I will give it to my son unconditionally. I'm not a perfect woman but I will give all my best to my son until he can do it for himself. Fighting momshie!❤️
@@marymiracle5413 Thank you, Momshie. I appreciate your support! I always aim to practice gentle parenting, but I understand that each child requires a unique approach. However, I will make sure not to be too controlling and instead focus on boosting my child's self-confidence, which is something I didn't have while growing up.
Same here.. Parang nauulit ko yung cycle sa 3 kids ko. Madalas kapag gabi at tulog na lahat, ako gising pa, nag iisip kung paano ko ba maiiwasan yung hindi maayos na parenting style na nagagawa ko sa mga anak ko (na nakuha ko sa nanay ko). 😞 I always try my best na hindi maging katulad ng nanay ko pero parang nakadikit na siya sakin. Pilit kong iniiwasan talaga. And everytime na nagagawa ko yung way ng nanay ko sa parenting sa mga anak ko, laging nagfaflash back yung pain and trauma sakin mula pagkabata ko. Lalo akong nagagalit sakanya/sakanila. Lalo ko siya/silang sinisisi kung bakit ako nagkaganito. Kung bakit hindi maayos yung buhay ko. 😔
@@_kmhnsn hugs sis! ganyan din ako sa gabi ako nagmumuni ng mga bagay kaya puyat lage at overthinking. di madali maghilom as in super hirap kahit malayo na ako sa nanay ko. pero kailangan ko maging malakas para sa anak ko at sikapin di maging gaya ng nanay ko. magpokus ka sa positibo, magsorry ka agad sa mga anak mo after mo sila mapagalitan para di nila itanim sa isip nila yun inis natin sa kanila. mahirap maging nanay lalo kung alam mo sa self mo na need mo ng healing from your childhood trauma. laban lang sis. ❤️
@marymiracle5413 Pareho tayong malayo na din sa Nanay/pamilya. Pero yung childhood trauma still lingers to this day. It's as if it's still haunts me even more these days. 😔😩 Kaya si Salome Salvi hindi ko yan tinitingnan na nakakadiri siyang babae/tao. Napaka hirap kaya ng wala nag guide sayo habang lumalaki ka. Kaya sobrang tagos sa puso ko nung mapanood ko yung interview niya kay Toni. May naturingan kang magulang pero ginawa ka namang punching bag ng frustrations sa buhay instead na gawin kang inspiration at lakas. 🥲 Oo, nagsosorry ako sa mga anak ko kapag alam kong mali ako. Kasi di ko naranasan yon sa Nanay ko. Malakas pa ngang mang guilt trip eh. Kaya nung sumabog na ko at naubusan ng pasensiya, talagang di ko na kinausap. Pero at the same time, ako pa din ang nafifeel bad. Ang lakas ng hatak ng pang giguilt trip nila - ng toxic filipino culture. 😩🥲
nakakalungkot na mag end ka sa ganitong kalagayan pero at the end of the day wala ka parin dapat sisihin kung bakit ganyan kalagayan mo kasi you have a choice, you know what is good and bad for you
In this situation its not about knowing the good or bad imagine it starts as a child they are innocent what their parents show them is the one that imprinted in their mind or personality. Ive been there i look up to him yet hes the one who puts me down, humiliated me in front of others, and not being believed about what happened to me, i survived but a bit twisted in the mind and i just recovered recently when i learned to love myself 😢 its not a good experience ul always doubt yourself when your in that situation.
I grew up also like Salome na I hear bad comments, and I get appreciated when it comes to my studies. but i think the difference is I also hear good comments from my aunts and uncles. my parents are not affectionate also like hugging or kissing the cheeks. never experienced that. maybe i always have self doubt because i felt i was never good enough and through the years ive met people who showed me my worth. forever be thankful for the people that helped me break that doubt
Almost the same with my experience with my father and mother, all of them says bobo ako at tamad, but other persons found me with extraordinary knowledge and I finished from college, masteral to doctor of philosophy...thanks for your vlog doc.
Cut ties muna,lumayo muna sya…Si Jesus Talaga ang Sagot. Kahit kase pinatawad mo na sila eh,hindi nila kinikilala si Jesus, ay hindi nila mauunawaan ang mga inuugali at inaasal nila.
Nauunawaan ko siya, kasi galing din ako sa isang narcissistic environment. However, kailangan na ang Diyos sa buhay niya. Sa nakikita ko kasi, poot ang naghahari sa puso niya sa ngayun.
@@dennischua3956 Kahit di ganyan nangyare sa isang tao, need pa rin ng Diyos sa buhay ng isang tao..walang ibang pinaka magandang gawin ang isang tao kun di ang mag lingkod lang sa kanya..hindi pdeng gawing option ang paglilingkod, pero at the end, free will pa din ng tao ang masusunod, tayo ang magdedecide kung san tayo mapupunta after life, sana makahanap din sya ng spiritual family nya gaya ng nangyare saken
I saw myself to her until now that childhood still hurting and destroying me But i always put prayers for everything im not perfect humanbut i ask God for every situation i face
Be sensitive to your comments & at least not judgmental. If you followed the video closely enough she was a victim too of a narcissistic family. I pray for her healing & to all of us who are broken . 🙏
nakakalungkot, i heard her story and damn sobra din akong broken for her. i relate because i grew up in a household na similar. kaya naiinggit ako sa mga family na close kse i never had that. But as a person that believes in God, we must learn to trust him that all this pain that we experienced magheal. mapapatawad natin ang mga taong nag take advantage sa atin at ang Lord na ang bahala na icorrect sa kanila.
Kung patawad na ang ibig sabihin eh balik sa dati eh maling mali ka. Cycle of abuse yan. Napansin mo yung mga binubugbog na mga asawa. Daming nagsasabi ah engot ayaw umalis. Ang di nila alam na hindi araw araw eh away. May times na masaya kayo pero syempre madalas yung conflict. Dun kumakapit mga tao sa masayang araw pero after nun away na naman. Cycle lang yan conflict away bati. Hindi sya healthy tapos daming manipulation na nangyayari.
Bkit prang binibigyan ng justification kung bat nagkaganyan sya. She has a choice to move away from that job. But the thing is she enjoys it. Whar do we learn from this when she is aware that shes destroying herself but insists shes like that because of her childhood. A lot of people didnt have good childhood but knows how to value themselves. She has a choice she can find a descent job. Wag nt8ng i patronize mga ganyang gawain. Buti sana ung hirapnhirap kumapit lng sa patalim. Pero eto, nag eenjoy sya sa act itself kya nag stick sya sa pagiging s%x worker. Naging ganyan dahil sa family? Ang alam ko lng n ibang nasa ganyang trabaho, eh mga kumapit lng sa patalim.
I have a Narcissistic Parent too. Pero hindi katulad ni Salome ang trabaho ko, wala yan sa kung anong klase ng trabaho. It's her choice that she chose that kind of job. Sa ganyang trabaho sya nakakahanap ng Validation. Iba iba ang tao, ako naghahanap ako ng Validation sa Office. I don't like her job, pero at the back of my mind, titigil rin sya. Let her be. Be kind.
Ito ang problema kapag gina-glamorize o niro-romanticize yung masasamang experiences para sabi mo nga, ma-justify yung gawain niya ngayon. Appeal to emotion para lumabnaw kahit papano yung bad perception ng mga tao sa kaniya. Ang hirap dito, baka maging role model pa ito sa ibang mga kabataan na dumadanas ng similar na experiences kasi nire-reinforce ng interview na ito na "kapag may ganito akong experiences, hindi ko kasalanan kung bakit ko ginagawa ang mga ito". Ang favorite quote ko nga e "Awareness is curative." Alam mo na na dahil sa masasamang mga nangyari sayo kaya ka napadpad sa kinaroroonan mo ngayon. Nasayo na ang bola upang mag-iba ng direction. Kung hindi ka pa rin huminto sa nasabing gawain, ginugusto mo na ito.
lumaki ako sa ganyan, maltreatment, emotional at physical, sa tiyahin ko. Sobrang hirap grabe to the point na nagka depression ako, diko alam na overly stressed na pala ako, buti na lang lumayas ako sa malaimpyernong environment ko...by the grace of God, na save ako...ngaun may edad nako, may PTSD ako, pero keri lang. Masabi kong napaka strong ko din talaga. Diko sukat akalain kung panu ko na survive lahat ng paghihirap na dinanas ko sa kamay nya. Hindi ko kayang humarap sa kanya ulit up to now matanda na sya. I ask forgiveness kay Lord, napatawad ko na sya, okay naman ako pero ayoko sya makita.
I ended in a situation like this and here I am I have a lifetime treatment for my major depression disorder syndrome 😢😢😢 Akala lang ng iba madali tanggapin yung masasakit na salita lalo na kapag galing sa mga taong akala mo naandyan para sa yo…. 😢😢😢 #FAMILY #FAMILYNASASAKTANKALANG 😢😢😢
or baka naman kaya nya sinasabi yan s parents nya ay gusto lang nya i-justify yung ginagawa nya..? possible..? hindi tayo pedeng mag bigay ng conclusion kung isang side lang yung narinig natin.. pwede n exaggeration lang yun s kwento nya para i-cover mga ginagawa nya..
pornography is illegal here in the philippines. nung kailan lang may ni-raid ang law enforcers natin na mga nagbebenta ng porn cds and dvds. bakit kaya ito na lantaran pa sa mainstream media, may docu with atom araullo, nag guest pa sa isang gma series ay di mahuhuli huli at pinapupurihan pa ng mga tao?
thanks to this one, many people di sya naiintindihan ang easy na ijudge sya because of the work she's doing. Hope na maopen ang mind ng iba na intidihin at alamin muna ang ang nangyari before they judge other people.
I can relate on this video. I have same mental health issues for now, na I'm going to be treated soon. However, I'm afraid to open to my family about my darkest secrets since teenage years until now kasi I getting hurt much and the worst is judgemental feeding that really kills me. Kung malalagpasan ko mga hardships ko in a hard way but confident with faith, I would be a motivational speaker and life coach to the youth and adults who have same or similar problems just like you or me. Salome Salvi, go your way and renew your life as a woman with strength na ma-overcome mga pinagdadaanan mo.❤
I grew up in a narcissistic household wherein both my parents are narcissists. Year 2022 I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder 1 and Persistent Depressive Disorder. Hanggang ngayon di pa din nila kaya iaccept yung role na plinay nila sa lahat ng nangyare na to.
Kaya kung ikaw ay isang parent or kayo ay parents na may unresolved childhood trauma, having your own kid WILL NOT SOLVE your trauma. Ang ginagawa kasi ng ibang tao, mag-aanak sila kasi paniniwala nila ay "magagamot" ng anak nila ung mga unresolved trauma nila. So if you're single and have an unresolved trauma, don't enter into a relationship or have a baby. Kasi hindi ikaw ang kawawa kundi ung magiging anak mo.
Salamat my isang doc Alvin na Gumawa ng Ganitong Content sana maraming makapanoud nito at matuto din para ma iwasan Yung ganung pagpapa laki ng Kabataan.. Bilang magulang napaka importante po nito para di kawawa yung anak at di mapahamak pagdating ng Panahon kasi alam ko ang daming tao out there na nakakaranas ng Ganitong treatment sa magulang pa nila nararanasan na Dapat ang magulang maging Role model sa mga anak nila
Ako din naka relate ako kay Salome. It is the reason behind the action that is logical not the act itself.. She is a strong and brave lady. I never was so brave and telling people what I have been through because of fear na walang maniniwala sakin.
Ganyan ako nung bata PA.... Kunting pagka2mali nanakit ang relatives ng side ng aking ina.. Ultimo kpatid ng aking ina.. Kya akla ko tlga normal Lang.. Child Abuse physical abuse and until now khit na my aswa na sinsaktan prin ako ng kpatid ng aking ina..binagbabantan nila ako tinatawag nila akong baliw at aswang tiktik!! Na umabot na sa panghaharast skin!! Kya minsan Yong mga na,experience ko sa kanila tinandaan ko.. Lumaban n ako sa kanila lalo n snbi ng relatives ko na sila ang magdadala skin sa kamatayan. Kya nagkaron ako ng trust issues sa knila at sa kapwa ko nrin.. Minsan nka2rnas akong manginig ang katawan, manlamig ang kamay.. Matinding kalungkutan tlgang abot sa kanila ang pag iyak ko n umbot n sa pagwawala Hindi ko n tlga macontrol ang emotional.. Ang nag,attemp nrin ang mag,pakamatay.
Malaki talaga ang role ng parents sa paglaki ng isang bata.Pro as time goes by tayo pa rin ang responsible sa ating mga sarili.Its our choice kung saang way tayo pupunta.Kung ano mang negative naexperienced sa buhay kumapit lg sa Dios kasi sxa lg ang totoong andyan,hindi tatalikod sa atin kahit gaano mn tayo kasama .Try not to hold grudges.Piliin pa rin nating mgmahal at maging masaya.
Actually naranasan ko na rin yan mula pagkabata palang talagang kinamumuhian na ko ng mga magulang ko na alam ko naman kung anong puno't dulo yun ay hindi ko tunay na tatay yung tinuturing kong ama. Halos walang tigil na bugbog ang inabot ko sa kapatid ng stepfather ko that time ang nanay ko walang ginawang any action ang mga kapitbahay ko lang naawa sa kalagayan ko, hanggang ngayon buong pamilya ko nasusuklam pagnakikita ang pagmumukha ko kahit anong gawin kong kabutihan sa kanila susuklian parin ako ng mali 😢😢 sobrang nakakarelate ako sa buhay nya hindi talaga madali magkaroon ng narcissistic parents!
Self destruction, usually happens kapag lumake ka sa pamilya or magulang na narcissistic, it's just sad lang na UP graduate and she has a lot of things to put her focus to be an artist pero mas pinipili nyang mag blame Ng parents nya kahit na it's her own choice to be in that industry, An author or a book called "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" he said if your parents did this or that, then that's YOUR EXPLANATION to your problem BUT NOT AN EXCUSE TO YOUR BEHAVIOR" She should stop blaming her parents for her own choice of self destruction💔 god bless her soul, sana mahanap mo Ang aNg peace of mind Salome❤️
ang daming masasamang mga sinabi sa kanya without even thinking deep sa mga nasabi nya... njudge lang sya without getting deeper kung bakit nya ginagawa ung ginagawa nya. kesyo kawawa daw pag nakita ng kids nya... sinabi din nya na ayaw nyang magkaanak... (malamang kasi naisip din nya yan). basta madami pa... ang hirap ng pinagdaanan nya pero nilabanan nya yun to be able to stand up and fight and most importantly, she learned to love herself. it's an everyday process... di sya madali. kahit na minsan alam mong ok ka na... may kurot pa din un pag nababalikan. God bless everyone. Stay strong. Laban pa and laban lang
mga self righteous dyn wag nyo invalidate ang mga nararamdaman at mga pinagdaanan nya. there’s 2 sides of the story. napakingan na naten yung side ni Salome sana marinig naten ang side ng family. pero sa kalagayan nya ngayon need nya ng counseling at prayers for her
I agree po… need din natin marinig ang side ng parents… bakit ganun ang way of parenting nila… doc Alvin … can you also find a case on parenting issues. Thanks po.
This is my take on the situation the mere fact that she is indeed a very smart lady at may edad naman na sya hindi kailangan gamitin ang katawan para hanapin ang joy or kaligayahan sa iba... Kasi ang kaligayahan na yan is instant mawawala and malungkot na naman sila then pag makatalik sila masaya na naman. Everyone ang tao sa mundo iba iba ang dinadanas pero hindi dahilan na maging porno ang trabaho tha fact na gagamitin mo katawan mo para ilabas ang emosyon mo. As a child i was bullied sa school all the way hanggang high school pero hindi naging hadlang sa akin ang mga bully na yun to be successful in my own. Mga kamag anak ko rin i--bubully ka din...Pero lahat yun wala lng..We should treat our body like a holy temple. 1 Corinthians 6: 19-20...Again i feel pity kay Salome i hope mahanap nya si Jesus Christ sa buhay nya only our savior can heal her.
Mga batang 80's at 90's karamihan ng magulang ganyan. Magulang ang manglalait sau. Depende na lng sa bata kung magiging matatag sya or kakaawaan nya sarili nya.
Hndi lng nya naintindihan kung anong ibig sabihin ng magulang nya sa kanya. Karamihan pa naman sa babae ngayon sensitive masyado. Hanep na paraan yan para pagtakpan ang kanyang kalagayan. Akala nya yata sya lng may problema. Lahat ng tao merong problema nasasayo na yun kung papaano mo issolved. Pero saknya naging worse. Naging balahurang babae. Pagsisisihan nya parin yan sa huli. At dinaragdagan nya lang ang problema nya imbes na sulusyunan. Sinong lalake ang papakasalan tulad nyan pag nalaman na napakaraming tumikim sa kanya. I cant imagine myself. So do you?
Ikaw yung hindi nakaka intindi sa NARCISSITIC PARENT PERSONALITY DISORDER, hindi lang naman BABAE ang nakakaranas nyan pati lahat ng LALAKE or ALL GENDER, I have a NARCISSISTIC PARENT at hindi kami pareho ng trabaho ni Salome. Hindi po PROBLEMA ang NARCISSISTIC DISORDER, mag GOOGLE ka para alam mo, di yung masyado kang nagmamagaling kahit di mo naman alam pinagsasabi mo. Oo nga pala, TOXIC ka nga rin pala na walang pakielam sa MENTAL HEALTH issues. Sana lahat ng Problema namin, mapunta sayo since mukhang alam mo naman pano isolved ang problema. Anyways, di ka naman papatulan ni Salome. Di ka nga naghuhubad pero kitang kita naman na buhay ka pa eh inuuod na ugali mo.
who are you to say na tila wala siyang karapatang sabihin ang kanyang personal experiences at struggles? Have you walked on her shoes and felt what she felt to say she is just making things up??
May mga tao talaga na naliligaw ng landas, but for me I would admire a person na alam nyang mali ang ginagawa nya at magsisikap na baguhin ang buhay sa tamang paraan… yan siguro magiging inspirasyon pa sya sa nakakarami na pwede pala baguhin ang buhay… in the end, choice pa rin nya yan…
In my opinion, strong person will not choose a path where in the end it will likely hurt her more. She clearly has a trauma from childhood resulting on where and what she is doing right now. Strong person will not let them dictate their past of how their future will be but to turn things around and make it better rather. One day, if she is 100% healed, she'll know the better path. May God heal her.
Kailangan nating patawarin ang mga magulang natin, kahit mga taong nakasakit sa atin para maging mabuting tao tayo. Sa huli tayo din lang ang kawawa. Kahit anong idahilan natin, ang mga choices ni Salome ay kasalanan. Ang ating katawan ay templo ng Diyos kaya kailangan natin itong alagaan para sa Kanya.
Yes kung ano kinalakihan mo o experiences nung bata ka, dala mo yan pag tanda mo. Pero ang mga gawain mo ngaung matanda ka na ay kagustuhan mo na, pinili mo na, naiintindihan mo na. Hindi natin pwede ijustify ang mga gawain nating mga mali ngaun dahil lang sa masamang nakaraan. Ginagawa mo yan dahil gusto mo, nothing more nothing less. It is you, your body, your rules. But justifying wrong doings is not acceptable, baka gayahin pa ng mga new generations.
Yes thats the Negative side having a narcissistic Parents. But if you know the how handle and follow them. Soon pag laki mo you will be able to realize that sinusubok ka lang ng tadhana. In order for you to be strong in the future❤
My family (cousins and aunts and uncles) called me "baliw" when I was a child without knowing that I was just enjoying my life as a child. I'm very sensitive whenever I heard that word or someone's circling around their fingers on their head. I was compared to my cousins because I ugly. I'm the laughing stock of everybody. As an adult, it gives me a lot of trauma. I searched for love and validation from other people because I knew they will not understand me and they will just judge me.
As a mom and having a baby girl nag woworied nga ako in todays generation nakaka sad nga kasi inaallow ni Toni G. yung ganon klaseng interview yes talks nga kaso magkakaroon lang ng ideas ang kabataan ngayon lalo na nung nisearch ko sya sa Google lumabas nga account nya sa porn site omg why she allowed her life in that kind of healing process marami naman pwede pa gawin i feel shes encouraging to do an evil eye huhu mas marami pa pangit pinagdaan but God is the center of our life to direct us in the right path I hope she correct herself and found the real peace
RU-vid can be access by ages 13 and above. If your baby girl can access this platform then you need to filter the apps that she is using. As a parent you have the contol. Don't blame it to the content creator.
@@den9472 Hi dear I hope every mom can't control they kids how about the working mom as single parenting. As mom I can do it of course even I'm worried but how about other? Critical thinking is a must
@@JoyMomTv You didn't get the point. Did you watch the whole interview? May disclaimer pa sa umpisa. You cannot dictate content creators because they can post whatever is relevant to their platform. However, you as a mother can control the things your kid will expose to. Ang dami nang apps ngayon na can restrict and limit the apps that they can use. Us parents, are responsible for their safety. Don't blame other people if you cannot do your part.
@@den9472 I said how about the other parents?mga content creator mas may mas isip naman paano yung di nakapag aral na magulang naiintindihan ba nila yon at lalo na yung single parenting at kung ano man pinaglalaban mo opinion mo yan I am just saying too my opinion to be disappointed
@@JoyMomTv Why are you concern to the other parents, you need to take care of your kid before thinking about other kids. The world is full of negativity, we need to be firm on our boundaries in order to protect our child. Ikaw ata ang may pinaglalaban because I'm just trying to enlighten you with another perspective. Again, RU-vid is for ages 13 and above. Kung may access na sa regular RU-vid ang anak mo, maybe you need to revisit the apps that she is using. Kaya nga may RU-vid kids because videos there are appropriate for kids age. Again kids.
Nakakatakot yung mga ganito...hindi naman mali yung pagiging religious pero hindi niyo naman dapat i-give up yung kakayahan niyong mag iisip na halos dumating na sa punto na napaka close minded niyo na. 💀
Salome is highly intellectual. I think Salome came out in open because she knows she needs help. Aside from emotional support, she needs medical support from a qualified therapist. Healing from traumatic childhood experiences can be a complex and challenging journey. She takes care of her physical well-being, but she needs to build a support network. Individuals who can provide encouragement and validation, some who can lead her towards the right direction. Lastly, she should learn forgiveness. It may not be easy, but letting go of anger and resentment towards those who have caused harm can be freeing.
Malaki talaga epekto at impluwensya ng childhood sa paglaki ng bata, ako iniiwasan ko talaga magkaanak kahit married ako ayoko mag anak because of my traumatic experienced caused of my family specifically both of my parents. 😢untill now naiiyak ako ng di ko alam ang dami kong tanong na di ko matanong kasi nung bata ako sinubukan ko magtanong tinawanan lang ako ng ate ko at sinabihan ng mama ko na ang OA KO daw ang drama😭😭😭😭😭
Kapag kumakain ka nagagalit sila, sinusumbat lahat kaya sa asawa ko ngayon na a-amazed ako kasi kahit gaano pa kadami kinakain ko di sya nagagalit, naiiyak ako tinatanong ko sya kung bakit di sya nagagalit, bakit hinahayaan lang nya ako, di nya ako nilalait kahit tumaba ako.. Di ko kasi naranasan ang mnga good traits from my parents e
I think Oo my mom ng pinagbuntis nya ko may problem sila ng father ko so ung feeling nya na moody, iyak lagi, loner, bugnutin, may sariling mundo o ayun npasa skin. Usually ung feelings ng nanay within first trimester i think e naaadopt ng baby kya sbi ko sa mother ko ngtaka kpa na gnito ako kadrama 😅
@@lindziep6319 hi mis lindz.. thank you sa reply.. mukhang same tayo pinag daanan sa sinapupunan ng ating ina😁 wala na ako napag tanungan about pag bubuntis ng nanay ko pero ung kapatid ko sa ama kasing edad ko lang.. alangan naman nagpa fiesta pa nanay ko sa tuwa.. xempre cgurado stress nanay ko.. and nung bata ako tanda ko pa pag d umuwe dad ko init ulo ni nanay ako napag diskitahan..😞 tuturuan nga ako mag basa ng ABAKADA ni nanay pero pag nag kamali may palo na mag sigaw pa tinututukan pa ako kutsilyo sa leeg😢😢 pano ako makakabasa kung may nakatutok na kutsilyo sakin? kinabukasan pag umuwe dad ko ikwento ate ko pinalo ako nanay ko kc ayaw ko dw mag basa tinuturuan na nga dw ako.. si dad naman parang si voltes v hugot agad sinturon padapain ako wala short hahatawin ako..😭 kaya eto ako wala narating sa buhay takot sa tao takot sumubok takot sa lahat..😰
Sa interview nya with Atom Araullo sa GMA last year. iba ang story nya at hindi nya pinag usapan ang parents nya. Cguro naghanap lng sya ng justification Sa ginagawa nya. Choice Nya yan kung jan sya masaya at kung para sa kanya ang pagkakita ng private body nya ay part ng art. She seem happy nmn sa mga ginagawa Nya. Pero sana Hindi e normalize Ang kabastusan bka kc ma mis interpret ng mga bata na viewers at bka sa tingin nila normal lng tong gawin.
May point ka rin naman. As much as we cannot judge a person, only God can judge. Dapat i limit yung mga ganitong interview, baka kasi mag send ng maling message sa mga bata. Baka mahimok ang mga bata na COOL ang mga ganung gawain.
Hindi ko jina-judge yung work nya as a porn star pero hindi dahilan yung childhood nya na hindi maganda para pumasok sa ganyang work. Marami akong nakikita na Hindi naging maganda childhood nila pero inayos nila ang buhay nila.... Maayos naman naging buhay nila...
Kung mapapanuod mo doc yung mga xvideos ni salome, sa tingin ko yung interview niya kay toni parang nabalewala. Hindi ko nakita yung salomeng may self-love kundi isang salomeng sabik sa laman. Pero at the end of the day, may pag-asa pa siyang magbago lalo na meron siyang oportunidad hindi gaya ng iba. Para saken wrong choice yung pagpasok niya sa porn industry. So yun lang 😅
Nakakalungkot pero totoo po. Binababoy niya sarili niya sa pakikipagtalik kung kani-kanino kaya pano niya nasasabing "self-love", eh ung ginawa niya ay hindi simbolo ng pagmamahal sa sarili kundi kababuyan. 😢
When she said that her parents always questions her decisions in life, I felt that. When she also said that her parents use her to uplift themselves by having a gifted child, I felt that. I also have a narcissistic mother, she's with her 3rd husband now. I left home when I graduated. From Cebu, I went to Manila, to get away with my controlling mother. I felt proud for taking the risk. At first, I'm scared but now I'm free. Though sometimes they would contact me whenever there are problems at home. Mostly, about my brother who also grew up like her, narcissistic. It's just so sad to think he hasn't healed from the abandonment trauma my mom has caused him. We were left by Mom at the age of 10 to be with another Man. I'm in my healing phase. Discovering myself, engaging into hobbies as coping mechanism. Honoring my emotions and being aware of my toxic traits to really find ways how to fix them. I hope my brother will soon too. I hope he will have more self-awareness in order for him to put in the work too not only for himself but also as a father to his son.
naalala ko, may pamangkin ako sa pinsan tinanon ko kung ano gusto nya pangarap nya sa buhay. sabi ng pamangkin kong mga 7yo, nurse daw. sabi ng nanay nya "nurse nurse!" in a negative tone. sabi ko "wag mong tanggalan ng pangarap yang anak mo"
