Exactly... Need some help regarding one thing .. How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."* How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
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I haven't joined the program but i must say, this channel has been a huge part of my growth in the past two years. I'd always been someone who was looking to learn and grow. Having grown up with crippling (and I mean Crippling) social anxiety, I was always forcing myself outside of my comfort zone with karaoke, door-to-door sales, public speaking and more so that by the time I was about 20 I'd gotten myself to a point of just being shy instead of completely incapable to speaking to anyone new and having constant panic attacks. Then I discovered this channel a couple years ago, met a supportive girl and worked my way up at my job and now I walk into parties and bars like I'm already everyones best friend 😅 it feels great to have this much progress and I can't express enough how amazing the free content alone is from you guys!
It was between 2017 and 2019 when I saw one of yalls videos for the first time. Im 22 now... Really big thanks to this channel for jumpstarting my self-actualization journey. The content still holds up to this day.
Need some help as I am suffering from low confidence.. How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."* How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob I think the real question you're dealing with is, what do I hate about myself so much that turned me into an online troll, and how do I fix that so I get satisfaction in areas of life that doesn't depend on hurting other people. Good luck with your self improvement journey!
@@Vivi_9 Yes.. A kind of like that... You are so experienced... You just reached the depth of my comment... Fantastic... ! Anyway... If I answered them like this "I am not interested" 👳 Why you aren't interested? 🕵Because its a waste of time for me. 👳 How dare you called going to mosque as a waste of time for you? What will I reply.... Also what would ypu have replied if they said. " Is that the arrogance you have towards Allah?"
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob I think you can defuse the situation the same way with any proposition you aren't interested in: "I appreciate your enthusiasm, but I have already made my decisions about this. Have a nice day." Respectful, but firm. No value judgments, simply letting them know that you are not vulnerable to their pitch and you are now choosing to move on with your life. Then--here's the important part--DO move forward. Keep walking, head held high, eyes straight ahead. You are silently communicating as your stride matches your words.
@@WynneL Also another thing...... How can a non Muzlim🐬🏵 (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim👳 if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Accept islam otherwise Allah will throw you in hell."* How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation? Also sometimes they say this sentence.. *"is that the level of arrogance you have with Allah?"* How to respond to these mean statements from them?
Not always. If the person being talked about is a terrible human being, then the problem is them. Not everything is some convoluted, psychological projection.
@@Nmdixon-cu7vm Yes I understand that, but for a lot of situations this is the case, I understand sometimes people are just jerks, just like my coworkers who don’t like me, but I understand your point.
This is so true. A few years ago hearing someone said something bad about me. Made me feel aweful. Like it shook me. But now that I get this. If I know it's untrue or just to be unkind. I genuinely look at that person and think. How sad must your life be that you think that. Or have time to think that about me. Changes everything. Its freeing
Your point about surrounding yourself with an inner circle really resonated with me, and it touches on the ingroup bias. We often give too much weight to the opinions of those close to us, sometimes limiting our growth. I watched someone close to me go through this, holding themselves back for fear of disappointing their small group. This video is a fantastic reminder that even trusted voices shouldn't hold you back from personal evolution
Thank you so much for making the clarification that saying you don't care about what people think is not narcissism. To me. It really does sound very narcissistic so I don't say it. What I say instead is I don't let other people's cynicism stop me.
My key takeaways: - Reframe the question "How to stop thinking about what other people think of you?" to "How do I not let other people's opinions stop me?". - You should have something more important to care about. What would be your ideal life? - Have a set of core values, such as honesty, and promise yourself to not break them, even if it's bad for you in the short-term. - You are not going to like everyone. You should aim to be liked by, at most, your inner circle, but ideally just yourself. - Leave the validation casino. Don't rely your happiness or unhappiness on people you don't care about. - Other people's judgments affect you, because you think a hint of it, it's true. They can't make you feel shame, they can only trigger you to feel it. That's why you should fully accept yourself. - Use the best friend friend trick. - "You can't get where you want to go, until you accept where you are".
Thank you. I've been living in a nightmare, being judged by other people for as long as I know. This video really made me change my view on the entire world.
Most of the people in my life don’t know this, but I didn’t have friends during my middle school. I was completely alone for years, and struggled to make friends even later in life because of my terrible social skills. Then I ran into this channel years ago, and it helped me become a better leader, friend and sister and aunt. I created relationships, and help so many people I can support with what I learned from you. Your channel is a huge part of what made me who I am today, and I can’t even describe how thankful I am to you for that. Yet I still want to write you - thank you so much, because of you, I can smile ❤️
The biggest confidence game changer is progress and achievement towards the things you value. Once you are living your dream and pursuing it, you care 10x less.
@@RussellClausse I am suffering from low confidence while dealing with bullies.. How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."* How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation? Help me... Please reply
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob it depends, what happens if you refuse, saying that it's not for me? since you're saying the word "diffuse" i assume it gets quite confrontational and perhaps even violent. any way you can get help from somebody or avoid this person completely?
The channel went downhill. Back when Game of Thrones was at it's peak Charlie's breakdown of characters and their behavior felt like watching previously unseen footage of Game of Thrones. This channel went from breaking down famous people and their charisma into quick cookie cutter tips.
Hey, today at school I got an award for the most socially improved student. You are only one of the people who's advice on learning how to speak well helped me to acheive this big W in my life, can't thank you enough.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really loved him so much I can’t stop thinking about him, I’ve tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Self acceptance isn't always an easy thing, and if it was - there probably would be too much peace and not adequate progress. And often times, self-esteem; which is similar to self acceptance is meant to be a barrier to shield us from harm or danger, and is often interchangeable. But I suppose it depends on the situation.
Thank you so much this was the exact video i needed its so weirdly specific my problem. I struggle with insecurity and trauma that costed me my self esteem and this video gave me great advice. Thanks
I don't know about other people, but i'm 34 and all these inner demons and doubts i feel like i don't have them on my own, but my parents make an effort to remind me to instal these flaws to "self regulate". The feeling of not being as good as others or not deserving of something or to bash yourself is to fuel improvement as other examples... I know it's taboo to blame the parents for your weaknesses, but i trully feel that i am a "perfect" healthy human by myself before their active meddling.
You guys have changed my life in such a great way. I started watching your videos 3 years ago and I have come a long way with my conversation skills. Thank you guys🎉❤
Thanks for the video Ben :) You provide a lot of value. How much of this video reflects your personal experiences? Charlie spoke about his feelings of co-dependence on you and you stopped hanging out. Hope the two of you are doing well!
5:41 Dropping bars man. Only way I was truly able to find peace and happiness within myself was through fasting. Took me years to figure that out and have a consistent energy level💁🏽♂️
“This video is so inspiring! 🌟 It’s amazing how much our confidence can impact our lives and how we live them. The reminder about the number one regret of people on their deathbeds really hits home. It’s a powerful nudge to stop living for others and start embracing our true selves. Thanks for sharing such valuable insights!”
It's been awhile since I've watched your channel but I dropped by to say this: ever since I watched your videos on body language, behavior, correct speech, I have been a wreck. I've become so hyper vigilant of everything I do down to how I speak, posture, eye contact, everything, trying to do what you say in these videos I just can't relax and be myself anymore. Every ounce of my behavior has to be micromanaged now. I'm hyper aware of myself and every imperfection that's there and it's hell
because you must not force yourself to become like said in the video, it must become an habit which means that it takes time. You can't change everything in one day, just take your time
That’s called anxiety. I agree to some extent that watching videos like these can negatively affect you if your goal is to become socially accepted. However if you use it as a tool to improve certain parts of your personality. It can be extremely helpful. It’s more information on how you can act if you want to be more open, genuine and confident in yourself. Not to affect others
If you're having these issues, I suggest just forgetting all the tips they give. A lot of these tips focus on communication skills, but the most important thing, just like they often talk about, is really just relaxing and being genuine. So, not micromanaging everything you do will probably make you more charismatic than being so hypervigilant - even if you are not applying all their tips. To improve, you must first accept yourself. It sounds paradoxical, but think about it this way: to improve who you are, you need to first know who you are. Otherwise, you won't really be improving who you are, you'll just try to be someone you aren't. Remember that you're imperfect and you will always be. However, you shouldn't ever think you are not enough because of that. No one is perfect, and I don't think you hold anyone else to that standard, so don't hold that standard to yourself. I know that everything I'm talking about is easier said than done, it's close to telling someone who's depressed "just be happier", but sometimes I find that I need to be reminded of everything I just said, and hearing it helps and motivates me just a little, I'm hoping it helps you too, however slightly it may be. If that really continues to be an issue, then just seek professional help if you have to. I know there's still a stigma about that but it makes no sense to hold a stigma against trying to feel better, and seeking the help of someone qualified for that.
Thanks to the videos, I have finally developed the courage to become what I truly am, and I find that I resemble God Of War's Brok in many ways. I am very brutally honest, I speak what's on my mind with no filter, and I am not bothered if I have to pay consequences for it. If something is good, I'll say it is good, if something is bad, I'll say it is bad. And I have developed more friends than enemies this way.
I’d like your analysis of The Breakfast Clubs interview with Vivek Ramaswamy. It’s a very fast paced back and forth with so much material to unravel between him and the female Q&A.
Brother please help me.. How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."* How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
I don't care so much about what people think; but, I do care very much about what those thoughts propel them to do against me. Furthermore, when they make their thoughts known to others and those people also take the actions against me.
I got recommended a video from this channel today after a long time. OG CoC had some good tips on conversations but it looks like it devolved into a manipulation channel. Charlie did always have a dead expression on him. Happy to see its been 9 months since an upload.
One caveat with the letting other people make you happy/unhappy part is only about external validation. You can let people make you feel happy/unhappy by caring for them. For example; I love my mom, she goes through depressive periods, every time I see her like that makes me feel unhappy. That's not because I care what she thinks or care what I think about her but because I care about her happiness. And the 'they can't grow because they can't admit to themselves they need to grow' part is really contradicting. If I hate myself because I feel like I'm not good enough then I'm already admitting I need to grow. The mindset is toxic not because you don't have that realization but because you're in your own way by being too busy beating yourself up about it and won't even try because if you fail even in the slightest bit you've just proven that you're loser. Once someone feels like they will never get where they want to go it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Will you please help me a little... How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."* How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
Can you guys make a video on Calvin Grindz? This man has amazingly charismatic interactions in his prank videos, being able to quickly communicate, connect, and deescalate.
Very helpful advice. I do think it's telling that Tate proved his own words right not personally, but by how easily Greta Thunberg controlled *him* with dismissive amusement at his fronting on Twitter. This is a kid who's known for passionately ranting at politicians, displaying a tremendous amount of emotion--but she deemed him so far beneath her that her mocking was absolutely lowkey stuff, and he came across as the kid instead. Losing his cool like that was ultimately the reason he was collared by authorities. Should've taken his own advice. I guess she knew her core values and self-validated better than her adult opponent. Age clearly doesn't govern personal strength. A valuable lesson.
Nonsense. Passionately ranting at politicians and showing emotions is not indicative of intelligence, but her resorting to body-shaming and amateur insult is rather indicative of her actual mental capability; that of a toddler groomed by her activist parents and serving as a puppet for politicians to push flawed policies. Her "core" values are rooted in naivety of a toddler and her only "strength" stemming from fallacious appeal to emotions.
Awesome video, and interesting that this was the last one you posted. Your fire calling to go into a different direction perhaps? Wish you the best with it if so
My big problem is when somebody (a narcissist) deliberately talks bad about me to my friends. Usually there is just enough truth that I can find myself being excluded from that circle.
Just came to your most recent video to say that you guys should take a look at Action Bronson, not like you should do a video on him or anything like that, but I think he is extremely good at meshing with all sorts of people. When I think of a charismatic person he's the first person that comes to mind for me.
With age and maturity, you will slowly grow into a better person. Big contributing factors are your friends, family and acquittances, pluss how you treat yourself on a daily basis. Treat yourself with love, honesty and respect. If you want respect, start with yourself and set yourself boundaries. Quality knows quality. The less you seek external approval; meaning you don't care too much about strangers opinions, the more people will admire you. The ones who love you for who you truly are, are the people most likely to accept you, which in turn makes your journey to self acceptance easier. Don't let rejections stop you, let them be a lesson you can can learn from. However, keep in mind... Being rejected is a natural part of life. Actors are one of the prime examples of not giving up due to being rejected after multiple auditions. The more you get comfortable with being rejected, and it not affecting your joy and happiness too much, the greater are the reward long term. People often look to and swarm the ones who are happy, because they feel good around them. "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts" - Marcus Aurelius.
What do you enjoy? Hobbies and interests (put these inside a circle) What are you good at? (Put these inside another circle). There will be some things that compliment each other, and that is what i would suggest you focus on. I give this advice to people not sure on what career they want to pursue, but it can be applied to other aspects of life such as relationships or finding a hobby.
I understand that feeling lost and not knowing what you want can be incredibly frustrating and overwhelming. It's okay to feel this way, and you're not alone in this experience. Remember, it's okay not to have all the answers right now. Be gentle with yourself, and in time, you'll discover what truly matters to you and what your ideal day looks like.
Please advise me about what are the best dialogues to use. How can a non Muzlim (christian, hindu, buddhist or atheist) respond to a arrogant muzlim if the muzlim starts to bully the non muslim by saying: *"Come to our mosque even if you aren't a Muzlim come to our mosque, leave everything."* How can a non Muzlim respond to diffuse the situation?
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob "I am happy for you that you have found your spirituality, but I too have a spirituality which is different," and then smile. And in "Pentimento," Lillian Hellman said she finds spirituality in all places. You do not have to be forced into anything. You have your own feeling and beliefs,
@@melindaaimeeroth5580 But how will we respond to diffuse the situation... Please tell me some dialogues.... You seem to be very intelligent... I am fond of your response..
@@OmarHamza-nz9ob No one should be pressuring you to be anything except what you yourself think and believe-Christian, Moslem, Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist atheist, deist, or agnostic. . . have you read "The Pit and the Pendulum," by Edgar Allan Poe when the narrator asks what proof is there of God, and the prisoner thinks that when humans dream they dream of loved ones who are deceased and that is our proof of God. Every human has a theory of an Afterlife, because this is a very difficult life because we humans leave at different times. The most important thing is that the humans respect other people's theories as long as they are not committing violent crimes. Don't worry what other people think. You have your beliefs and you are important and entitled to that. Smile and say, "We can agree to disagree."
@@melindaaimeeroth5580 Absolutely correct... I don't worry what other people think... I just worry about what extremists think because such a situation gets quite confrontational and I am afraid of their violent behavior... You know na that anger and anxiety kills spirituality..? Actually I am an exmuslim and I am sick of hearing the word "Allah"... I also wana get rid of Allah how can I do that with spiritual support.... Also I had a dream in which i saw that I am entering somewhere by a gate and the word Jehova is written on a board above it... It felt so calming in the dream... But, I don't know the spiritual meaning of the dream..
Can you make a video of Janis Joplin? She had such a pure, intelligent, genuine, depth, and shine. A bit of humor too. A much interesting and unique type of charisma.
I struggle with the part of, someone saying something and you slightly believe it. Although this has been carved in my brain from bullying and such. I am a great person with strong values and workmanship, I strive for the best in life and have taken away the bad/toxic/negative things away from me. But when someone says something to me it's like I want to prove them wrong. Any advice on combatting this? Just self acceptance/validation is it?
You guys should do an analysis on Miami dolphins head coach Mike McDaniel. I find him to be a charismatic individual that’s not an actor or celebrity. Especially in a job position that doesn’t really have the most charismatic people.
