That is how it works in reality as well you’re always expected to do everything and when you’re not good at anything you don’t have expectations and they will never look at your way And when you get back, can you feed the rug be back in your life? Then what
THE reason why expectations and favorites shouldn’t exist. It can make people become ugly within and, most painfully, very lonely as they become isolated 😢
I was in the brother's place since my childhood, with my sister. Now, we're both adults, our relationship is not one of sisters, but more of strangers. People and future parents, please never compare people and children.
I feel you there. Me and my brother was so close. I used to be bro-con when I was a child. But now (both adults) we don't even talk to each other let alone like each other. If anything I kinda hate him. Parents really f up their kids relationship but still tell them to love each other and support each other. Hypocrites
honestly she's acting like she's not at fault. She let expectations blind her, in her brother's point of view , he was always behind. You can't always make yourself the victim
@Chelseangel42 sounds like he is at fault. He turned his back on her just because she was smarter. He made himself a victim you turn your back of family just because they are better at something than you are
@@brookelynnenewcomer943 no he loved his sister, you can tell by the way he looked at her when he was young and then all of a sudden, her sister left him, and she didn't look back once. You can see in the video how she could just be praised while the brother had to work twice as hard and yet the sister failed to notice. She was blinded by the fame and i'm not telling that it's entirely her fault, it's mostly the adults around them that made made him feel neglected and then when he did exactly what she did, she all of a sudden made him the bad guy when all he did was return the favor
@Chelseangel42 she clearly was called out to him in the video and look right at him. All he did was turn his back to her and walked away. You cut cut the rope than blame the other person for the rope being cut.
That hurt- i remember doing the same thing to my sister. She was smarter, more child-like (everyone found it cute), had wayy better grades than me, she had ALL the attention AND she gets praised for doing things effortlessly while i was working my ass off to get praise, whenever I did and said things like "I'm better than you" (which was something my sister said all the time when she did things better than me) My family (especially my aunts and uncles, who had no experience with kids whatsoever) would tell me to stop and let her do things better, and after my sister pushed me down the stairs, I tried to get up and twisted my ankle, and fell again and i lashed out. I told her everything she did ever since she was born made me miserable. I told her about when i tried to tell my aunt (i really loved and trusted her) that i was being bullied at school and compared to my sister by the teachers and students almost daily. She shrugged it off and told me to "get better grades and that my sister was more important" That was too much for a 6-7 year old. That day i tried to get hit with a car, it didnt work but looking back, the fact that i did that was pretty messed up, me and my sister are fine now, but i have little respect for my aunts and uncles. My parents were the only one who praised my accomplishments at the time and had a 'talk' with my relatives after i lashed out at the bottom of the stairs. I'm 15 and moved to a better country with my family and we have a better environment to thrive in and the school system is great, no comparison and almost no bullying, im finally happy and im pround of my sister's accomplishments.
Hey,I read your story... I'm so sorry you went through all that. Your emotions are valid, and it makes sense you feel hurt, but I'm happy to hear you're in a better environment now. You're really strong and I'm proud of you. 🤍
As an only child, I can't relate. However, I'm glad you and your sister have gotten to a great place. 😊😊😊Having a sister must be awesome, keep the love😊😊😊
They won't be in hard time without the stupid people around compare them to each other what best they can do and who is more better. The expectation is giving this two siblings torn apart of how ti use to be so close together.. this is why,you should not compare yourself to someone so the jealously won't win in your heart.
Это так грустно, что все из-за общества. Оно считай переоценивало одного ребёнка, а другого недооценивали. И из-за этого сломали одному самооценку, а другой просто потерял дорогого человека
الشيء الذي يستطيع تدمير اي شخص هو ان لا تعترف بجهوده وتيتمر بمقارنته بالأشخاص الآخرين وللأسف بعض الآباء يظنون ان هذه هي الطريقه الصحيحه وسمعت احدهم يقول في ذات مره انه اذا قال لطفله احسنت سيتوقف عن التطور وسيظن انه وصل الا مرحله عاليه وهو لا يعلم انه دمر طفله بسبب هذا التفكير لذا ارجوا من ابجميع ان تعاملوا اطفلكم بقليل كن الرحمه وحتى لو بم يكن لديهم انجازات كبيره عليكم تقديرها وتقدير مجهوداتهم
@pink_flower_34. well he is the big brother an example for the little ones, and she followed his path and now look what’s between them there’s only hatred and confusion
@pink_flower_34. He begins to avoid her after several failures and not receiving emotional support from her , if she gave him this support, they would treat each other like they did when they were children. She was more interested in getting attention from adults, in the process losing the one who helped her in everything.🥲
@lower_34. As you could see in the manga, when the owner of her body changed, it took 1-2 days for her to change relations in the family for the better, which the original owner of the body could not do because of her great pride😮💨
He begins to avoid her after several failures and not receiving emotional support from her , if she gave him this support, they would treat each other like they did when they were children. She was more interested in getting attention from adults, in the process losing the one who helped her in everything
@@ukraine6801Actually when the owner was a child she tried to get closer of her brother by doing the same things as him, she was copying him and in the way she was getting better than him, and as the child she was she didnt know that and was blinded by prasises, but when she notices her brother avoided her, she decided to stoo copying him and also took distance of him, thats why theyr relation got broken, he wanted to separate from her, and she respect that by also being separate
That also happen to my older brother and i, at some point, i even try to mess up my grades so that he wouldn't feel bad, even without trying i always get better grades than him and he was really jealous. People was also saying that his sister is smarter than him...but there were things that they didn't see but i was able to see. There were things that he excel at, but he didn't know because he wanted to surpass me with the things i excel at. So i stopped messing my grades and work harder, i even try new things(he would always do the thing i did because he wanted to surpass me) i made him jealous so that he would work harder, everytime he achieve something that i couldn't, i would always tell him even with my grades i couldn't do what you did could you teach me how you did it...(I did it so that he would know that he shouldn't focus on surpassing me but he should find what he is good at, because we humans are all different, he isn't me and i'm not him, he shouldn't try to be me, he should be himself)now he know that even though i excel at something and him not doesn't make him dumb because there are things that he is better at and i am not. Took him lot of times to know that, now we are proud at each other achievements😂😂😂❤
Wow how did you understand all these at a small age? My brother and I were at the same situation, although I didn’t know. As long as I can remember he’s always hated me. But after we became adults he said everyone always liked me more than him. I was blindsided. Because my mother always favoured him above all her children.
Sometimes I feel so lucky that there was never too much of a gap between me and my brother. My parents never let one outshine the other. I don't know how I would've dealt with such a situation because my elder brother is the most precious to me
@@Akira_and_Adaавтор коммента не это имел ввиду, высказывание касается того что она заполучила всеобщее внимание но потеряла что-то более важное как любовь брата и отношения между ними
Experienced something similar back in highschool where I always find it hard to catch up to my sister but in the end she teaches me the things I don't understand. She never made me feel left out.
Sim ,mais antigamente até matavam ou se passavam por outras pessoas ou até outras coisas ,e principalmente rumores de vc ser bruxa por vc não querer se casar ou etc...(algumas familias quando viam o filho mais novo ser melhor que o herdeiro )o excluíam e outras coisas falavam coisas bem pesadas para uma criança,e nisso esse relacionamento de irmãos se apagava cada fez mais e mais...até não existir mais só odio no coração da pessoa,principalmente a sociedade da epoca que também era responsáveis por isso .e saber que muita gente passa por isso chega a doer o coração da gente
I refused to let this happen with my twin younger sisters and I. As much as it was sometimes rocky as we grow up. I didn't want them to feel like they had to be my shadow, in fact I was very happy being in theirs, most of my life because it meant they could do as they wanted and I was the one everyone looked down on. Now they are adults and do what they want, both finished uni as a nurse and theater/acting and I could be more proud of them!
Happened to my twin sisters they are always put in conflict by family member and of course as an elder brother i feel like more of a second father. Have to sit with them and talk things true now i have 2 overprotective sisters who doesnt let a single girl come near me in highschool. Even now when my gf visits i feel like i am put infront of a judge.
The sister is disappointing! As a sister who is better than her brother- myself, i always feel guilty and i ensure i shower with every love and defend him from everyone even my parents. It saddens me to see this.
I'm same like this, as an older brother my sis was exceptional and this made my parents to see that I'm a failure I could nevertheless succeed in life they think. This happen alot even now I get compared, framed and treated like a piece of trash when everything I put into a smile to forget what they did to me, I sometimes cry, get angry even talk aloud to make them understand and prove my point but even if I did they still think I'm not good. Always had a great childhood times when I was happiest but all came crashing down once that in my family they think I'm stubborn, disrespectful rude person (which i was not before) but still care for them more than what they did to me. My mental sanity drop so low when things became so hard when I could not think of anything but to end it(mt life). Somewhere inside me still wanted me to live even after this treatment.....
This only happens in novel it happens with me in real i directly said my sister im jealous from you 😅 and she brust out with laugh I think she is teasing me
@@justyeet2432 my personality is straight forward I don't wait for hint that someone is hating me instead I directly talk to him as I felt it . Am I sane 😭
Cuando leí ese capítulo me sentí identificada de niña tenia una hermosa hermandad con mi hermana mayor pero a medida que fui creciendo todos me empezaron a comparar con ella y todos sus logros ya que ella era mas inteligente ,linda, amable hacia todo bien siempre me decian que porque no podía ser como ella y las cosas que yo lograba no eran suficientes para ellos y por mas que me esforzará no era capaz de igualar los de ella fue sofocante ser la decepción mientra ella era el orgullo de mis padres y empece a sentir celos y envidia de mi hermana aunque ella aun intento acercase a mi yo la rechazaba porque ya me habían metido muchas ideas en la cabeza y nuestra relación se rompió no fue hasta que me hice mayor de edad que decidi dejar de lado todo y intentar recuperar el tiempo perdido no es lo mismo pero es mucho mejor a como estábamos,fue horrible sentirme asi durante varios años
I would have had a good relationship with my sister if it wasn't for my mother. I did very well at school, did most of the house chores, and took care of my sister. My mother made my life revolve around caring for my sister, and she disrespected me in every way imaginable. My sister picked up on that, and now I don't speak to any of them. My sister chose to have a relationship with our deadbeat dad than with me, so that's that.
My brother and i once like that, he is a good teacher and i am his student, as time goes by we change, the liking and idolicing become jealous and hate.
Me fuiste dejando que no supe como poder llamar tu atención lo que haga siempre te hara menos es mejor destruirlo todo y hacer que te noten yo ser la malvada 😢
Please make more like this I love it ❤❤ Please i want more like this Can you make 2 part of this story tho... Because i want to see what will happen next when they saw eachother again
The same thing happened to my husband.. He's a really good son unfortunately his mother like the younger sibling more.. They expecting more from my husband then less from them however whenever my husband couldn't fulfill their expectations somehow they're really good at sarcasm💆♀️💆♀️
i was in the brothers place i give my sister love without condition in return i got redness from her so little by little i get sick of her and i distanced myself away from her after 4 month she sincerely admitted her mistake i simply forgive her like any member of family would do but the love i give her not the same but our relation style better than all people i know ( you have to cherish your relation with those around you, your friends and especially your family and don't give up like me myself in the past and you will be amazed how people's character changing toward you) give love and respect to get the same or more just be patient
People kept saying... Grades are just numbers No, they aren't just numbers... They represent my entire identity. These numbers are the reason why I am chosen, why I am loved, and why I am cared for, because I knew from the bottom of my heart that my family only loved me for the things I could do, not for who I am as a person, as an individual, not as their child, I knew that all along, so I tried to do my best, tried to keep up with their expectations, but as the passing years come it gets higher and higher, I could no longer keep up. I don't want to be alone, even if they hurt me, that's because it's my fault that I'm not perfect, I'm not enough. I'm scared of the day that they stop caring, that they stop hurting me, the day where they stop loving me. They hurt me because they love me and wants me to be perfect, but it's so hard, I spend my days being sad because I'm never satisfied with myself, that anything I do will never be enough. That I'm not enough, I'm sorry if I'm not the child you want me to be, but please don't leave me.. it hurts, but I don't want it to go away. They are my only companion, my parents, who raise me and provide for me.. please, love me, I don't care nymore if it's fake, even if it's only because for the things I could do, but please hurt me, love me, and don't leave me alone. Even though I'm trying to do my best, I couldn't, even though these numbers represent my identity and give me love, these numbers also cost me to suffer, it makes me question myself, whether I truly did my best, or whether I am enough, numbers that challenges my heartbreaks, my sleepless nights, and my efforts but it's not enough. These numbers... are the proof that I am alive, that I am breathing, that I am learning. But these numbers.. makes me question myself, "Am I truly alive?" but it's okay because they love me.
I actually had this kind of relationship with my brother although now he jokes like "I am not going to marry before you because I don't want you to find a better partner" but the one who took the first step after growing was me. Although he never cut me off completely we became close again after I took the first step
Me and my older brother used to be like this but i haven't seen his face for 5 years after... but i have a younger brother now and i plan on not making the same mistake again
I'm the sister's place, older here. I never let this happen to my little brother, even though the family could put him down, he always had my support and affection and today we are adults and close.
Even tho we live under the same roof me and my brother are totally strangers, parents expectation and emotional blackmailing and because of parents mistakes we are no longer the normal family.
this is a little similar with me and my lil sis, she's smarter than me, and im more social than she, that makes us different and start the people comparing us, but still, we are the best friends ever. sorry for bad grammar, i'm not english.
