#intentionalliving #embracinglife #selftalk #dontgiveuponyourself #diaryoflife a digital diary where I‘m talking about detachment, my current struggles going through a breakup/separation and how I try to find ways to take my power back.
I relate so much to your approach in this video! I also find that making lists helps me navigate through the feelings of detachment and regain a sense of control. It’s truly encouraging to focus on staying grounded and nurturing ourselves✨🌟 Thank you for being you Nastja🥰and for sharing such an honest and heartfelt video. Your insights are inspiring and remind us that we’re not alone on this journey!🫶🏽
@@itsfai97 thank you so much sweet Fai 🫂💕 it just brings me a sense of relief and empowerment, realizing that a lot of the pain I’m feeling is coming from projection and a hurt self-worth. Reframing is a very powerful tool, especially when we feel a strong sense of emptiness. And I wanna thank you too for being your precious you and for making me feel less alone on this challenging journey. Sending you a huge hug 💕🌈🤗
I always learn from your words and wisdom. A loss & gain list is such a brilliant idea. I love it. It's something I will try going forward. Love 'Bowie the Cat' and the 'little spider from Mars' in this video. Have a lovely evening & weekend Nastja. 🫂🙏
@@jasonbroadcastsinabuckethat thank you so much Jason 🫂 and yeah! It’s a Bowie cat haha 🐈 I thought it looked familiar 😅 sending you a big hug 💗 I’ll get back to you soon 🤗
The Rainbow and the sun breaking through the wooded trail... that was so Beautiful! Thank you! Know deep in your heart that all will be Good! Blessings Nastja!
Gosh relating so much! Feeling the void a lot. My ex partner was also my best friend; as someone who is shy and introverted, i don't find it easy to make new friends and so I'm feeling pretty alone. I went to a social event today and struggled to make or feel any connections. I guess it's a season that must be weathered at this moment. But to follow your example: I have the opportunity to grow in unexpected and yet unknown directions Thank you for your honesty with us. Wishing you peace this weekend- Cee ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this with me Cee 💗 I know that feeling from social events so well… especially when there is a lot of superficial small talk I feel so alone. I‘m learning that it’s so important to stop abandoning myself in situations like these. just the other night I was at an event like you just described. And I went home early and cried the whole evening. But it was the right thing to do. Then I could regain energy and focus on my core again. Tonight I will listen to the podcast you recommended to me. Looking forward and sending you warm hugs 🫂🌈🍁
I will leave one last comment, and then i will never comment again. as i can tell we do not agree on this. But here are my last two scents: you were left, by someone you call a soulmate who you hoped and thought would be forever with you. but you have to twist your mind into finding the good thing in this. the power move of it, the independence and how it can be a good and beautiful thing. divorce can be beautiful ....well, this mindset is based on thinking we are NOT meant stay together forever. Those natural feelings of neglect and sorrow, and fear and grief, you feel them. you know the loss and yet, you HAVE TO be positive about it. doesn't this feel odd and contradictory to you? contradictory to your natural feeling? there are people who do not believe in divorce (unless affair or violence is involved) there ARE people who respects the concept of staying true. sure, we can find ourselves being left. by someone we thought would never leave. But we do we have to say it's good? why try to push a mindset of girl boss or independence or acceptance of the fact that someone hurt you to your core? can't it just SUUUUCKK and be horrible. and unfair. etc.. But knowing you will be ok. knowing you are strong and one day you will find happiness/love again. i don't believe in the words you speak. i don't agree. and i dont even fully think you do. it's seems like you are trying to tell yourself its all fine, to find a mental way out of the pain. i just wanted to tell you, it's ok to be in pain. something huge has happened. you don't have to accept it as good. you don't have to be girl boss lone ranger. and there ARE men who will not leave you and men who don't believe in divorce. i hope you take care and find your way. last comment i made, was not taken to well, and i expect this too to not be received well. but believe it or not, this is coming from the kindest of kind place in my heart. anyways goodbye.
@@Bamgeutcutiepie I think I get where you’re coming from. But these videos are just a glimpse into my life and thoughts. And they are a way for me to process my pain in a way that helps me. If it then helps others, that’s great, too. But we are all different. And I can understand that you have to distance yourself from my content if it evokes unsettling feelings, instead of helping you. Still I want to thank you for your input, which I always really appreciated 🧡
@@Bamgeutcutiepie Our problem is that when someone expresses their sadness and speaks kindly about the other person, acknowledging that they were a good person and that the relationship was healthy, they are often blamed for still viewing the person who left them in a positive light. A while ago, I talked to my friends about my relationship and how it was beautiful, even though it ended. Their responses were predictable: 1. If he really loved you, he would have tried harder. 2. A man who truly loves will come back after a breakup and make an effort to reconnect; otherwise, it means he never loved you. 3. Someone like you, and he didn’t try to come back? That must mean his love wasn’t genuine, he never loved you, or he found someone else, which is why the relationship didn’t last. That day, I felt really upset because it seems like not many people understand that I want to move on, but without being forced to hate him or generalize negative traits onto him, or assume he’s just like everyone else simply because we didn’t stay together. The pain we experience, for those of us who have to grieve not only the loss of a healthy relationship but also a person we still care for, is overwhelming. And when we try to express that pain, we are often met with responses that seem like they’re meant to help us move on faster-but they’re actually harmful. Just because many breakups happen due to bad treatment or toxic dynamics doesn’t mean that those of us who experienced healthy relationships should hate the ex-partner or the relationship that ended.
+ When someone goes through something as painful as a separation or divorce, everyone processes it in their own way. For some, finding strength in independence or embracing positivity is a way of healing. It’s not about ignoring the pain or pretending everything is fine, but about choosing a path that leads to growth and self-discovery, despite the hurt. Yes, it’s okay to feel sad, broken, and even angry. But for many, including myself, it helps to focus on the positives that can emerge from a painful experience. It doesn’t mean we don’t acknowledge the grief or loss, it just means we believe in the power of moving forward and finding light at the end of the tunnel. I believe that we can embrace both: the hardship and the hope. And while it’s true that there are people who stay and believe in lifelong commitment, there are also people who, for various reasons, find it better to part ways. It doesn’t have to mean either path is right or wrong; it’s just a reflection of different realities and personal journeys.
@@itsfai97 thanks for sharing your perspective. I think you misunderstand that I am not saying someone is bad person because they left. That doesn’t make you automatically bad. And good relationships can end ? Hm well can they? Would they end if there are so good? I’m not too sure I agree. But you can end it on a good note and be kind and friends. I don’t find fault in seeing the positives in order to move on and be happy alone. But if I was with someone for 20 years and we had a kid and they left me and I didn’t want this…. I don’t see how that is “ending on a good note”. Clearly you still love the person, but I think people try justify abandonment by saying “it’s all love. Things end. It’s fine. I should be happy. Let them go with love”. I don’t see that. But we all have different views on relationships. I believe in marriage and not divorcing your spouse just cause you feel like it. But if that’s not where others come from. I get that. Thanks for sharing your perspective and I understand to my bones how separation feels. Im sorry you are going through this too.
