I don’t think a lot of people understand this at all. It’s not that she can’t actually drive the car. She can! It’s just that her anxiety of crashing into someone and killing them makes her so nervous it’s clouds her judgement and decision making skills. Anxiety is root of the problem not the fact that the car is an automatic or a manual. When she learns to deal with her anxiety then there is nothing stopping her from driving a car. If you’ve never experienced a high level of anxiety in your life you wouldn’t understand. It’s a real problem and it’s not something you should be making fun of.
This is what happens to me. I’ll be fine one minute but if something a bit “crazy” happens like I accidentally run a red light or I don’t see people standing in a crosswalk then I start getting really scared and anxious and from then on it’s like I’ve never driven before, I seem to forget all the rules of the road.
@daycel13 Yes I accept what you said - definately not as easy than it sounds to beat the fear of driving. Be cautious and get help from others. I searched round many websites and found a lot of great advice by searching google on sites like Roys Quick Fix. I wish you luck and hope you succeed!
This 100% I've been watching reruns of Canada's Worst Driver, and honestly I feel like the main problem for a lot of those that are on the show is just anxiety and fear. And speaking from experience of having overcome fears in the past and even struggling with anxiety, I know too well what happens when you get faced with the thing that freaks you out the most. Your brain just shuts down and all you can think of in the moment is getting away from the thing that freaks you out.
I don't find either her boyfriend or the host very supportive and extremely judgmental. If they were not in the car, I am certain her anxiety would have been reduced immediately.
I wish people wouldn't think this is funny. She took all the jokes well but this is a real problem. I have drivers anxiety and I can't help it but have extreme anxiety the entire time. It has made my life extremely stressful because I find myself relying on other people and am not able to live a normal adult life. I often get frustrated that I can't just do everyday things that people do on a daily basis. I've tried to get my license around 4 times due to my family pressuring me to get it. and have failed everytime. I am 20 and my younger brother has to drive me to work. This is serious and has a major affect on my life.
I agree, there's nothing funny when someone has anxiety issues. I can't believe so many people aren't able to see how stressful driving can be just because they happen to be good at driving.
I strongly suggest finding less critical people to drive with. You'll be amazed how you're driving miraculously improves when you don't have people criticizing you in the car. My family and boyfriend were very critical of me while driving but when I switched over to learning from my Bible study leader who is very mellow and very calm I made lots of progress. You can get your license you just need the right teacher!
Macy Linn Do you live in the US? Because I think that they try to make people pass the test too early. When I learnt to drive (I've always been a rather self-confident driver to be honest), I had 24 hours of practical lessons after the theory exam, then at the age of 16, I was allowed to drive but only with my mother, and eventually I passed the test at 18. Now, I am 21, and I am still learning. Driving seems like quite a complex task, but I tend to think about it this way : it is a succession of very simple tasks. The diversity of situations that you can encounter is not that important. For example, if you know how to correctly get through 1 roundabout, then you will be able to get through any roundabout. And the same goes for every situation. One entering lane on the highway is like any other. If an intersection scares you, don't be afraid to slow down, process the situation. The second time, you will process a bit faster. After ten times going through the same intersection, you won't even have to think to know what you have to do. And as almost every junction looks about the same... well, you get the idea. ^^ Tackle one difficulty after another. I am not a driving instructor, but I would recommend trying short distances. You say your brother drives you to work : maybe drive on a small/simple part of the road to work, even just get through an intersection or a roundabout. You can drive quite slowly even. Who cares if people around get angry? They are idiots who forgot that we all have a lot to learn about. You will slowly get more comfortable with the car, the speed, the distances,... Then, *progressively* increase the difficulty : you can maybe drive a bit longer, or in a different place. The only thing is to always be very attentive, even if you know the place where you drive by heart. If you get too anxious, no panic : your brother takes the wheel! :D I hope I helped even a little bit! Good luck, and stay safe!
David Rogers Well, you're welcome and I'm glad I helped a bit. The positive side of what you told me, is that you are afraid of hurting someone on the road. It may seem odd, but you just gave me the definition of a good driver : someone who considers safety as a priority and who sincerely cares about others on the road. Everything else - not maintaining a stable speed, having difficulties with reversing, other maneuvers, even scraping cars - is secondary. It takes a long time for a good driver to be really comfortable behind the wheel. Believe me, every time I take the wheel, I see people who drive as if they were alone on the road and they are convinced that they are good drivers (they are generally the ones who get angry at you because you are a learner; idiots are idiots in every circumstances). Between the two, I'd rather meet you on the road than them. (^^)/ No need to turn this rational and good fear of driving, into a paralysing and bad anxiety : your life isn't at stake on Friday. Good luck! :D
Why does this show take place in nyc? That place is fucking hell to drive in. They should choose a place with way less traffic, but she does need to chill
I do accept what the previous commenter have written - it's more difficult than it sounds to overcome fear of driving. You should be aware of this and take advice from experts. I searched round many websites and discovered plenty of expert help by searching google on websites like Fergs Driver Dismay. Good luck and hope you are successful!
Ally kat, you shouldn't start at max difficulty. Take it out to the country first, learn, become comfortable, and get to know the basics before you try barreling through the streets of NYC.
I had immense driving anxiety and I practiced on my Mom's Jeep Grand Cherokee. It was fine actually, given my anxiety was mainly concerning my performance on the road rather than my maneuverability with a large vehicle.
Confidence is key when driving. People who don't have any confidence in their driving ability second guess everything, and that's what causes accidents. Even when things go wrong, you have to stay calm and in control. Plan ahead, scan all cars around you and know where they are. Build a 3d map in your head of the cars around you and take note of cars driving in an unpredictable manner and cars driving fast and aggressive. Driving is a lot of work, and the frustrating part is responsible drivers who understand these things and practice them get hit by people who have no business driving. It's easy to just go down the road in a car, but you'll get into a lot of accidents if you don't have the right mindset and practices.
@ϟϟ White Wolf ϟϟ believe it or not a lot more men wreck cars compared to women so maybe re-think your comment. I've never had an accident and I've been told by driving instructors and testers and other passengers in my car that I'm a good driver but I'm still terrified of driving women just usually lack a lot of confidence compared to men, men can lack confidence but a lot more women lack it compared to men. My boyfriend is obsessed with cars and a lot of men are but men are just usually unsafe drivers. One of my exes almost crashed his car into a a concrete wall. Men get into way more accidents than women because men usually care about racing someone or only care about driving fast "cool" cars. So yah it really seems to me that most men shouldn't be driving. Women lack confidence but that doesn't mean your a bad driver. Most driving phobias is because your scared of getting into an accident not because you have been in one.
@Just D your wrong that's not always true, I actually never knew women got into more accidents. I haven't gotten into a single care accident and I've been driving for over 2 years. I am nervous about driving cause I have a hard time seeing a night and cause I don't trust others around me.
@@kitkatgirl5673 just because you havent gotten into an accident doesnt mean the 70% goes down still stays the same of course there's women who never crash but that a small percentage compared to those females who wreck at some point in their lives
Why do they continually bring her anxiety up? Throwing a snake on her lap, a clown in the car...they point is to _lower_ her anxiety, not teach her to make good decisions while being anxiec.
Because otherwise it won't help her in the real world. You can't preempt things, either learn how to deal with things at that moment or get out of the drivers seat.
Sarah Beauvais come to Australia and you may find snakes in the back of your car. It isn't about snakes though, it's about how she handles a stressful.situation that requires a quick reaction time.
Sulueti that is why I said usually. Also after reading further on down the comments I found out she is an actress. If anyone stupidly tried to do this to someone in real life with driving anxiety they would crash the car. This girl had real tips and a much better video. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-6jgysps4CGc.html
Half her problem is the passenger sitting beside her telling her what she should be doing next. There's nothing worse than a backseat driver when you are already anxious. She may not be a good driver, but while her partner is sitting beside her, she isn't going to get any better
Paul Olsen Dam right! I so badly wanted her to just punch the boyfriend! While I was learning to drive my ex would do this to me and critize me and it made me more anxious and my driving was worse. When I changed out my driving instructor to a less critical person magic happened and I got better! I wonder why...
It's New York >_< that's definitely not an easy place to drive or even learn to drive in for that matter..I don't blame her for being nervous, those drivers are nuts
The written test? They pass it easily. Anyone can do that. Just memorize what it says in the book. But the driver's test? Well it's a short test- with enough effort anyone can wake up on a good day and pass that too. But actually driving through a major city and expecting to be great? That's a MUCH more difficult struggle.
The USA drivers tests in most states are a joke. I heard of a guy who had all four tires up on a guys lawn and he still passed cause the tester felt "sorry he failed 8 times!" In New Rochelle NY, all you have to do is drive around a block do a 3 point turn, parallel park and drive back to the start of the test. I also had a friend who asked me "you don''t have to fill up antifreeze in the winter do you?" his car broke down on the side of the highway and his parents just purchased a new car for him. It is a total joke.
surething baby how easy is it to pass the driving test in america? Wtf. "Wake up on the right foot" Bruh where I live, is not as easy to pass the test.
Im literally like this and people always tell me to just drive more often and they don't understand it at all. Like some people just aren't built to drive also the thought that cars are potential death cages just never escapes my mind when it comes to other drivers on the road around me. Like you have to put so much trust in yourself and everyone on the roads..
I’ve driven for 30yrs, had an anxiety attack in a jam 10yrs ago, then had another about 2yrs ago then it got really bad to the point where I couldn’t drive anywhere without someone with me. The way I got rid of it was to get out and drive. I just did it when it wasn’t busy and went from there.
Aida: Throwing a snake on Jessica's lap so unexpectedly--besides getting her heart rate up--could have caused her to have a really serious accident ! I don't think that was wisest thing to do !
I didn't get that either. That's like someone being afraid of guns, so a group of guys come up with a plan to point 20 guns at the person's head and tell them to recite the alphabet without making a mistake or they get shot.
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I also have driver's anxiety. I totally feel what the girl is going through in the video. I was pushed to get a driver's license because my dad was always at work and I needed to drive to get my siblings and I anywhere since we live really busy lives. But whenever I was on the road I always felt anxious and overwhelmed that I realized that I shouldn't be on the road for the sake of others' safety and my own. My mental health did play a role on decision-making skill and judgments while on the road. It was really bad for me that I'd rather walk than drive ever.
@anayaandme599 everybody had their own experience. So don't let my experience doubt you. I believe everyone can get better. For me I'm still learning and I'm still trying to be comfortable driving. It's still hard, I had multiple incidents where my fear and anxiety skyrocketed and I ended up not driving for two whole months because I was really scared but I tried my hardest to ease my way back into it. I have to always reassure myself that I'll be okay and I can take my time.
@anayaandme599 when I started to drive I was really scared too like really really scared that I would have panic attacks. Especially driving on highways and changing lanes and driving long distances. I get what you're going through. You have it rough because you have an instructor that's not patient. Just know the road will be unexpected and it demands alot of decision making skills and attention. You don't have to perfectly have those now, it takes time.
I used to be the most relaxed and vigilant driver when I first got my license. People felt so comfortable riding with me, but then my anxiety worsened in all areas of my life and now I can’t even park right. It sucks
It’s not the driving causing your problem, it’s your life. Sort out what’s screwing your system and it will all fall into place, but it will take time.
I got like this after a plane crash... I couldn't drive without freaking out. I felt like I was about to loose control any moment. My hands would cramp from gripping the wheel. I got over it... but it took alot of relaxing exercise
I have anxiety when driving due to how I learned to drive. My heart used to race soooo bad. But it’s getting better. But it’s hard when you have ppl in the passenger side yelling at you. It’s so better when they don’t talk or play some calming music low not loud
I am NOT the least bit surprised- she's learning to drive in New York City!! I go to the city all the time and EVEN I get a little anxious - who wouldnt!? I've been a pizza delivery guy for 4 years; i drive a car and a motorcycle so I know my way around driving. AT LEAST take her over the bridge to New Jersey where the traffic isn't as horrendous and i promise she'll do better.
@@caralho5237 No. Horrible idea. People start their kids off in empty parking lots for a reason. The consequences of failure are small. The consequences of failure or of another person's failure could be fatal. If you don't know how to control your vehicle and driving situation on a semi busy street or highway, you shouldn't drive in a big city yet. That will come with time. In all honesty, many drivers aren't ready for heavy traffic until they've been driving for a few months. That's why so many teens get in crashes. Overconfidence, recklessness, little experience, and absolutely abysmal driver's education. They don't teach you what to do when you enter a skid. They tell you, but they don't show you. They don't show you the limits of your vehicle. Many people get into accidents by pushing the limits of their vehicle too far because nobody taught them how to find them and how to not break them. Other people don't know the limits of their vehicle at all, so they'll take turns at 5 mph. Do not take new drivers into big cities
I'm 18 and driving is one of my biggest nightmares! :( my parents bash me for it! >_< and my best friend used to hate driving too, then suddenly she's like its fun once you get used it. Like did she freaking betray me?! Lol :'D
@@aestaeticedits7998 betray you for liking driving? Seems to me that youre insecure and jealous of her confidence. You want her to be less confident to make you feel better Thats not good.
+secretxla I certainly agree with the previous commenter have written - definately not as easy than some people make out to beat the fear of driving. Be careful and seek advice from others. I looked many websites and found a lot of expert advice by searching google on websites such as Roys Quick Fix. I wish you luck and hope you are successful!
My ex was an absolute twat in the car. He would scream for no reason, pushed my seat back so I didn’t have control of the car, scream and shout that I was useless. And he couldn’t understand why I was nervous. I had two crashes when I was with him. When I got rid of him my driving miraculously improved. You can’t get better when people are constantly reminding you you’re shit, you have to be alone and believe in yourself.
What was the point of throwing the snake at her, I get they're trying to teach her how to handle stressful situations but like it just seemed like a dumb move that could've caused an accident especially when you have a nervous driver.
even when I'm not as nervous than her, my friends and family don't want to accompany me. Even after i hired driving instructors to teach me and passed my exam. She is lucky someone wants to teach her, she should take full advantage of his willingness and support.
This is not something people should criticise or make fun of-that makes it worse. She probably is a HSP, a Hyper Sensitive Person, whereby flashing lights, loud noises, etc. freak her out and confuse her. It's very common. Some people learn to deal with it through patience and understanding, others are made fun until they hate themselves enough that they change.
I learned to drive in a manual at 17, it’s super easy once you get the hang of it, I’ve also driven a automatic and I always kept trying to press an imaginary clutch pedal 😂😂
I started to watch these type of videos to try to help myself to get an idea of how to drive with my anxiety and what I could be doing wrong. I've had my permit for over a year now and refuse to drive because of how bad my anxiety is when driving. My parents really want me to get my license but I have less than 10 hours worth out of the 60 I need so I can't get it, and really don't want to until I'm over 18. Hopefully it'll lessen over the time.
Here's some tips for how to overcome fear of driving 1) Take control of your own life. 2) Learn about the power of your mind. 3) Follow in the tracks of people who have already overcome the fear. I got these tips from the Roys Quick Fix (check it out on google) without a doubt the no.1 course on success that I have ever seen.
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People like Jessica should be on the show, people who want to be better drivers verses the idiots who just don't care about driving and take it for a joke. This was a good episode. Keep it up.
There was so much wrong with this. 1) Start in a quieter area with simple roads, NYC is one of the worst places to drive in the world not only because of the number of cars, tight lanes, and crazy street layout/intersections, but because the cabbies and other locals love to do whatever they want regardless if it's illegal or wrong. 2) Get her a smaller car that's lower and easier to see out of. Even I hate driving vehicles that large and especially in places like NYC. People think they're great drivers in their giant trucks/SUVs, but those same morons are constantly going into other people's lanes, etc. and are just too arrogant and delusional to realize how bad they are and how hard it is to drive a large vehicle cleanly in a city with narrow roads. 3) Take her to an empty parking lot and have her do some extreme maneuvers to get a feel for the limits of the car, a lot of driver anxiety is from not understanding when and why tires will slip, skid, or skip. Even a few sessions at a fast rental kart track can do wonders for people's understanding of driving dynamics. 4) They adjusted some of the seat/controls, but it still seems like it's not enough. If her seat can't be adjusted higher vertically, then might need to get her a booster cushion to put her up high enough to see what she needs to see. I've seen a lot of short people struggle with driving simply because they can't see properly out of the car and the controls feel too far away and hard to reach. Most of anxiety comes from a lack of familiarity or understanding with an environment, if you never develop a deeper understanding of vehicle physics or get comfortable reaching all of the controls and seeing out of the car, it's unlikely you'll ever improve in that regard.
My mom has the same problem. I give up no use stressing myself she's been like that for years and people got lives can't always stop your studies work ect to drive a nervous individual around. She needs to go to the driving rehab....
I watched about half and my nerves are already up. Good grief i literally feel so bad for her and myself for this. Going to watch something that doesnt make my heartrate 200... be safe everyone please.
What you don't realize that in many places you need to drive to survive. It's basically impossible to just decide not to drive especially if you live alone. It's easier said than done.
I don't agree with that. If you put in enough effort and dedication and have a good instructor that deals with anxious drivers cuz from my experience a lot of driving instructors just don't know what is going through an anxious driver's mind, especially if you have harm OCD. Driving is a great thing and can give you so many good moments in life and take you places you never could otherwise.
she is actually a less anxious driver than i am, because she drove on main streets, while i drive so slowly (15-20 mph) that I can only drive on side streets
She, the worst driver? PLEASE. I could top her. I'm easily more anxious than she is, I once slammed on my brakes while approaching an intersection then, once at a complete stop, realized the light was still green. I live in a small town thank God, I couldn't imagine living in NYC.
The whole point of driving is to be focused on what you’re doing. Distracting her isn’t helping anything. She’d be fully content and fine if there wasn’t people screaming, blowing horns and cutting huge scissors right next to her face.
She still sucks after your program. This doesn't help at all. Really? You're gonna use 1 day on making someone who's shit at driving, be a complete proffesional? Fucking impossible - especially with this one. Damn...
Here's some tips for how to overcome fear of driving 1) Take control of your own life. 2) Learn about the power of the mind. 3) Follow in the tracks of people who have already overcome the fear.
Be an anxious driver. Your partner shittalks you constant while you are in an anxious state. Now two more strangers sit in your car and make fun of you constantly. A truly remarkable solution to the problem.
