I kinda get that, oddly enough. On the other hand, I have *never* met a woman who finds male morticians anything less than downright creepy. Can't say I blame em lol
It wouldn’t be an instant deal breaker, but I would on my toes. I’m *sure* that plenty of (maybe even most) morticians are perfectly normal people, but I feel like the potential for them to be weird is so much higher. Would depend on just how healthy their relationship with death is, cuz i could easily see them being way too casual about it or something.
genuinely felt bad about the girl who had grandparents as hoarders for someone who can relate. the only time i had my friends over i rushed them to my bedroom because a lot of people judge you for an environment you can't control
Same. Always felt so embarrassed to have people over inside. I only had friends over maybe 8 times the whole time I lived with my parents. Most of those were outside bonfires none the less too.
Same my great aunt hoarded everything from our family members passing and is like a vulture so no one ets nice stuff. My cousins were greatly effected by it. 1 moved out early and ended up with me for a bit cause they couldn't handle it. I have ended up taking in a lot of cousins while they get on their feet. While their subling hoards too now.
Humbly disagree. I grew up like this too and held a lot of shame for it. I actively avoided having people over and if someone got upset cause we always did stuff at their place, I'd give in, explaining that the house is.. "Well the house is a mess, but my mom is really sick all the time so the cleaning falls on me and it's really hard to keep up with it. So I hope you understand when we go inside." Like I get that every situation is different and how everyone deals w trauma is different but, at least w the way its explained, she had no shame with the way she invited him in - even going so far as to invite HIM to HER PLACE *FIRST*. I'd wager she is a contributor to the hoarding and is fine with it.
saw the video title like “oh, this’ll be fun, and maybe i’ll get a little insight into what to avoid on a first date” i think i underestimated how wild these stories were gonna be 😭 I was scared of being awkward on a first date, but now i realize that as long as I don’t ask them to sh*t upon my chest, or to have s*x in a restaurant on top of my fettuccini, or go on an exotic vacation and drink their only pair of contact lenses, i’ll probably be fine
pretty much, like 80% of the time other people are not even paying attention to you at all, just ask people questions about themselves and they'll probably like hanging out with you
Regarding the first story-- there is actually a really great youtuber called 'Ask a Mortician' and she has these crazy elaborate, thought out, and well edited youtube videos about things she finds fascinating. Her videos actually are really great and helped me de-stigmatize the natural happenings of death.
She makes great stuff! If there's 2 things I don't really understand, it's finding adorable rodents scary, and judging others for doing dirty jobs critical to society when you yourself aren't mentally strong enough to do them. Like do you think they ENJOY the dark and dirty parts of their job? No. It probably grosses them out as much as it does you. But they still do it without complaining and you should treat them like a fucking super hero for being able to do so.
I took a class on death, and my professor brought her up! We read an article she wrote and it was really interesting. We also had a mortician come in to talk about her job and the stigma around it. Anyways, she said that when they take apprentices and stuff, they look out for any weird people who seem to have ulterior motives and kinda fire them or turn them away. And her perspective was to show that they do what they do to respect the families and the dead, so it’s more chill and nice than the stigma behind it
god i feel so bad for the girl in a hoarder situation… thats so damaging for your potential relationships, both romantic and platonic, and there’s really very little that you can do about it except leave :(
One time I told my date I was a bioarchaeologist (I work w/human skeletal remains) and he seemed super interested and was asking tons of questions. He asked what was the coolest thing I'd seen and I told him about a time I picked up a skull and like a hundred baby tarantulas came pouring out of it. The look on his face made it immediately clear that I picked the wrong memory to share and for some reason that made me start stammering about how tarantulas are actually cute and fuzzy and not scary at all and don't worry they're not even close to as bad as the neon green scorpions I find in tombs sometimes and... He literally had to cut me off and told me he hated bugs and asked to change the subject. I never heard from him again obviously.
As a woman who attended Christian college, people like the one in the Christian fanfic writer story exist. They are usually homeschooled or severely sheltered I dated one
as someone who has talked to a mortician at a party and heard a bunch of those stories while eating food and was unphased, there is definitely a person out there for whom that ashes story would've been rad as hell. that person may be me. i still think about how the mortician i met said they kept using some cleaning agent as hand sanitizer and then found out it was formaldehyde
Yeah, I was also like "That person would be me". I mean it's really interesting to hear people talk about their work when it's something they love and are passionate about, isn't it?
Yup, I was that weird kid who actually DID want to be a mortician when I grew up, but mostly because it has the word Tish in it and I thought it would be cool to be Tish the Mortician. Gave up on it by 15 when I discovered the horror that is doctor-level student debt.
Ok but how great of a back story would that be. In my head, every mortician has some kind of super personal reason for getting into such an intense profession. Choosing a lifelong career based solely on the fact that it would be mildly funny with your name is such a power move
@@JesusOfPaign I have family that runs a funeral home. I have no clue why they started it but I highly doubt all of them dreamed of doing it. My great uncle started it, my great aunt ran it almost until her death 20 years later, and now their son and most of his family are running it. My other great uncle was also involved, but I think mostly did the headstones. When I was a kid, we used to have family get togethers in the usual viewing room lol
I gotta be honest I would absolutely tell the mortician story on a first date to weed out people who weren't okay with both it and what I assume is that girl's sense of humor. Like fuck it, go with the weirdest thing first. They'll find out eventually. Also my gf's sister went to mortuary school and honestly some of the stuff those people do sounds cool. It's like goth chemistry.
The coworkers were definitely doing more than flirting if the first date they have is a trip out of the country so tbh I think the writer deserves to ruin their chances lmao
I went on a first date where the guy asked if I liked being picked up. I told him no, that I'm very afraid of heights and that if he tried I'd probably scream bloody murder. But he kept asking, he asked like 6 time and I kept saying no! Eventually he insinuated that he likes litteraly picking up woman during bedroom times... Did not get a second date lol
I was on a date during my exchange year in Korea last year. The dude I met was recently discharged from the mandatory military service and I do understand that being in the military is probably hard but he was talking the entire time about killing Chinese people and I was so confused. I'm from Germany and when he found out he did the Hitler gestures. It's highly offensive and I was so embarrassed. When he offered to take me home I was like "nah I'm still meeting some friends afterwards". It was so awkward and I was honestly scared
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i dated a girl in HS whos mom was a hoarder. only semi clean room was my Ex's room but not really cause her mom had started using her room to put stuff in. and she was a anything hoarder. not just like collectables and stuff. i dated her for like a year and a half. and i never could figure why i couldn't come over, we always had to go to my house.. until like.... the last 4-5 months maybe.
funnily enough my worst first date was the first date i had with my current partner. we went to this lovely bar that was themed like a speakeasy in the 1920s. it even had a secret password and all that. anyway, later that night we were both held at knife point and nearly mugged... we've been together for 3 years since & use that day as our anniversary date lmaoo
The dominican vacation couple actually sounds perfect for each other. They both appear to have a complete lack of awareness about all of their own actions. They should've gotten married.
1:15 I imagine that they probably use that story to sus out any people that don't share their sense of humor, honestly kinda genius if they did that on purpose lmao
I've been on multiple dates I didn't know were dates.. it's a thing unfortunately. Each time I thought I was just hanging out with a friend until the end where it became clear they were expecting something more. Didnt end up dating any of them so I wouldn't recommend that move
My terrible first date was something I don't consider a date because it's the closest thing I've ever had to a date. I'm a gay guy and this happened when I was back in high school for context. He was working at a restaurant and gave me his number and we started texting and set up a time to meet each other for real a few days later. He wanted to meet at the mall and I got there late and when I got there him and his friends were getting kicked out. While we were leaving a homophobic bully at his school had seen him and was trying to beat him up for being gay which I could have gotten pulled into too, so we had to drive around town to lose him. We went to the restaurant to hang out for a while and dropped off some of his friends at home before him and one of his friends still went back to his house. Him and his friend decided they wanted to watch Peppa Pig and I didn't question it. His friend left after a while and he still wanted to watch Peppa Pig. After Peppa Pig was done he told me his mom was coming home and he needed to get homework done so I needed to leave. He told me he wanted to see me again and then ghosted me a few days later. Later on I made friends with another gay guy at work and was telling him about this guy and in the crazy small world that gay dating is, he told me that when I went out and met that guy, that guy was taking a break from homewrecking because my friend's now ex had been cheating on my friend with the guy I went out with and my friend's ex and the guy had stopped seeing each other for a while and he went to try and get with me and my friend told me that knowing the guy, he probably ghosted me because I didn't get nasty with him that night. Remember his friend was there and we were watching Peppa Pig. So I dodged a bullet lol
I also got asked on a date I didn't know was a date. It was my best friend who asked me to go to Fatboys for a skookie. I was like, "Man, that's a good idea, we should invite our other friend." And because I was really into fedoras back then I was like, "We should also all wear hats." So the poor guy ended up wearing a cowboy hat his mom made him wear (she thought it was cute we were all hanging out) and being a third wheel. We're still friends though and laugh about it now.
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y'all energy is great. I love all the collabs the both of y'all do. It's crazy I meet you guys both through Pengun0 and have stuck every sense. You guys just make being away from home (I @ college) a lot easier. Keep doing what makes you both happy, cause it brings me joy :)
I’m cringing so hard at that vacation story 🥴 I would tell my patients who are new to contacts to keep a small bottle of contact lens solution, a clean case, and backup glasses in their backpack, work bag, office, whatever- so you’re not SOL if something happens!
I dated a mortician and he told me about how smaller crematories have to manually bust the larger bones (like skulls) down during cremation. So now you all know that fun fact too.
definitely had one of those "didn't realise it was a date". met up with someone from tinder, thought it was gonna be an informal hang out, they were kind of awkward and i found conversation hard. at the end, they said "so...can i say we're dating". huh. No.
You guys gotta do a part two, I have so many bad first dates including a guy who brought his work colleague with him and another one who asked me if he can borrow my pyjamas when we got to my house. I'd love to get these off my chest in a nice descriptive essay.
Mortician here. I usually don’t bring up stories about my experiences unless prompted by my partner and definitely not while eating lol. It’s also kind of a double-edged sword. When i was dating, i’d meet a lot of people who had opinions about my profession. Usually one of three options. The person who wants nothing to do with it, the person who’s a healthy amount of curious, and the person who’s way too into it. I’d always look for the middle option when i was dating.
my first date *_ever_* was with this girl i met at the library at college. she was cool and we got along alright but for some reason she thought to take me to the schools mental health art exhibit. to be clear, our school had a student art show themed around mental health. it was, like, in a classroom not really in a central area of the school, i didn't even know it was happening until she took me. then we got dinner in the dining hall afterwards. we talked for probably another week then kinda just stopped. idk it was something.
For that last one, I feel like the guy either needs to disclose his kinks BEFORE meeting up, or go on several dates with the same person to get a feel for their personnality and boundaries. But you can't just pull that on a first date with no warning.
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My worst first date was contracting mono from a girl named Vicky, later dubbing her Icky Vicky. I felt like I was dying, had sores in my mouth (imagine strep but around your gums, under your tongue), fever, fatigue. After my second doctor visit they gave me Tylenol 3 and lidocaine for local numbing. So drugged up, numbed up, I watched Monty Python and the Quest for the Holy Grail and was finally okay for once in three days. Starting a ritual of every time I get sick I watch it.
The apprenticeship thing is probably a german story. In Germany we've got apprenticeships, which are basically 2/3rds work and 1/3rd special school education required for the job. And the apprenticeship thing is the closest you can get by word for translating the german word for it, even though the meaning is completely different.
I think apprenticeships aren’t *too* unusual in the US, but maybe just in professions that don’t otherwise have trade school programs or 4 year degrees or something. I know very little about them, but I know tattoo artists have to do apprenticeships, and surely other professions would too.
@@JesusOfPaign In Germany most professions have some sort of apprenticeship. Some being better paid than others, but in all cases you've got a degree of some sort provided you're finishing it and also nail the exams in the middle and at the end.
People studying and/or working to be certified as morticians in the US are often called apprentices, unless they are not currently working at a Funeral Home/Mortuary/Morgue because they typically “apprentice” under an established mortician. So it’s entirely possible it was in the US, but it also could have been somewhere else. Anyway, apprenticeships are still common, just not as common as they used to be. Just depends on what you’re going into and how you go about getting into it. We really only call it apprenticeships in the US if it isn’t school-sponsored (internships) and you’re working under someone. For example, lots of people apprentice as mechanics so they don’t need to go to school.
@@apmanda I agree, also for the comment about uk, but the main difference I was talking about here is the kind of work and school at once balance. It's also called a dual system or duales ausbildungssystem, whereas the apprenticeship known in the US and UK are more known as a Praktikum here.
1:18 I absolutely love that story and I would love that girl, not going to lie my dream job is being mortician and of that story was one-hundred-percent my type humor. Her sneezing and accidentally covering herself in dead people's ashes is one of the most hilarious things I have ever heard in the fact that she's the type of person to share that on the first date makes me love her even more.
In high school, I wasn't loquacious, I basically was bullied by everyone and spent my free time on this extra floor that nobody knew existed. All that was there was an elevator the teachers used. I spent my time there listening to Bob Dylan and playing GBA. By age 19, I still hadn't had a first date, and my friend wanted to change that. My friend was the exact opposite of me, he looked like a combination of Jamie Oliver and Channing Tatum and was the most loquacious person on the planet. We'd go shopping and he'd just have to nod at a woman for her to run into the bathroom and make out with him. Every week he had a new girlfriend and had this air around him that made him a magnet. My friend knew this girl, she was 2 years younger than me and he connected us. She asked me to meet her at Men in Black 3 on opening night. I assumed she wanted to watch the movie, nope, she wanted to talk and have a heart-to-heart, in a packed movie theatre with full volume on. Anyway, the movie was too good for me to focus on our conversation and halfway through, she stormed out. She was going to flame me online for being inconsiderate but my friend convinced her to give me one more shot. So, we met up five weeks later and started again from scratch. Hey man, Men in Black 3's an entertaining film, don't @ me.
Aw, with the pooping story I was waiting on it to end with "I left, but then I called him back and we're celebrating our anniversary next month. We go through a lot of soap." 😭 It hurts to be this much of a romantic sometimes.
on my first date with my bf he asked what i’ve been watching lately and I said well tbh I binged a youtube channel called ask a mortician and started to explain but he told me he’s watched that channel before and he found it super interesting blah blah anywho we’ve been dating for 3+ years now lol
