Y’all better start looking at men and women’s character and integrity! We are living in a time were peoples hearts are turning so cold To the point that they aren’t willing to receive love nor give it! Good men and women are starting to become rare!
I so agree… times is changing and many hearts of people are cold and not open to give or receive love . The most high has blessed me with a loving man that is courting me and we both are looking forward to getting married this will be my 2 and his 2 marriage … we are keeping Yah 1st always because we know where the world is headed and it’s not good .
Can we also talk about how some women are now wanting to classify ANY guy doing nice things or being a gentleman as "love bombing". I've experienced love bombing firsthand from a person with "Narcissistic" BEHAVIOR...so I know what it looks and feels like. But guys doing things like opening the car door and bringing you flowers...? Really? Have we gotten so far from being treated with consideration from genuinely nice guys that EVERYTHING we're NOT accustomed to is love bombing?
And the last thing I want to do is let social media or confused woman confuse me. Because men doing these things foe the woman they care about is special and to not be taken for granted. Hold that man and cherish him! I agree
As a young woman getting to know a wonderful "Nice guy" what Mr. Gaskins said 100% true. My unhealed teenage version would've been turned off by such a man because my father was toxic. But now that I've healed (To lord be the glory) I regonize REAL men from a mile away. Yes, sometimes I get that old trigger but knowing has helped me keep myself in check. He's so masculine in a gentle way. He's consistent and makes me feel like I can finally be a woman. That's a real man! Not a punk who has a huge ego and uses people for his pleasure.
Preach It Brother! Chivalry is NOT putting a woman on a Pedestal! It is Protecting, Providing and being a Man in God’s Eyes! “Nice Guys Do Not and Should Not Finish Last! God Bless You! 🌺❤️
He worked for 2 years to get me to love him - love bombed me I guess. I had vetted him, looking for his social media (he had none) and googled his job, etc. I knew he'd been married twice before but ignored those red flags...he said he'd been too young, etc. Thank Heaven I never would sleep with him - he was supposedly a Christian too.. could quote scripture like a preacher. I actually thought the Lord brought him to me. Then I discovered the real him under a different name - nasty social media contacts, cam girls and sex workers. When I confronted him he ghosted me. I will be single from now on!
wow, thank God for protecting You all along and good riddance!!! 🙌🔥💛 remember, Satan quoted scripture to Jesus!! He's the master preacher! May God continue blessing and protecting you and leading you unto salvation! 💛🌻
and another thing, because you said, you though that God brought you together, so to speak. Well, I had that experience too, it was confusing a bit and now, looking back, I can share with You from an insight I got - God will NOT act in contrary to what He has revealed to us in His word! If He has said, that marriage is a covenant and only death breaks it apart (marriage oath in church is very biblical actually ), God doesn't recognize 2nd and 3rd marriages. So that man you dodged, he is divorced in people's eyes but not God's. He's still married to his first wife unless she is dead. And for you to get together with a divorced (because for God he is still married! hence adultery ) man would be a sin. So you double dodged that bullet! 🔥 So God would not bring to you a man to be together with, a man that is married already... or a woman, to a man, who is married , has been married.. 🎯🔥 God would NOT bring to a non married, single man a woman, that has been divorced ( God does not recognize divorce only death of a spouse can do a couple apart!) God is not a God of confusion. HE won't say - this is wrong, don't do it ⚠️and then go on and bring it in your life like it's His will!!! It's Satan's work!!! ⚠️ That is why it's so important to know what Bible says.🎯 No wonder it is the most ridiculed and attacked book known to men!!
@@AmericanDreamerAmen!!People need to wake up about DIVORCE!Many are going to hell for not reading and being obedient to scripture!One must be careful who they marry and realize it’s a life long covenant.
This is real! Before I started healing I wanted a street dudes but now I want a man that's chill and not in the streets. Yes when you're broken you want things that are breaking you. I want someone that loves God, his mental peace, his kids and his money.
Just think about it..will that "bad boy" be there holding the basin as you vomit after chemotherapy treatment due to your breast cancer. Will he be there as you birth and care for a child which is birthed to the both of you and has special needs. Will he be there as you go through the depression after losing your mother/father? Is it really worth seeking a bad boy?
👸bingo!!!👍 steve harvey did his ex-wife dirrrty🤬& so did B. smith's husband when (r.i.p sadly) she became ill. he moved the side chick in to help take care of his wife👹. these grown-boys will only be there in illness if they're getting paid 🤑from ur illness or waiting for ur life insurance. ladies don't settle. better to be alone than sleeping w/the enemy👹.
I agree, as someone who experienced trauma and had an absent father, I choosed to stay with emotionally unavailable men. This felt familiar to me, I allowed narcissists in my dating life. The moment put everything together and encouraged my self to have self respect and self worth and put boundaries things changed.
We are never too old to learn and apply biblical lessons to our lives. We must heal, rebuild, restore to achieve more! Continued blessings Tony to you and your family! 64 and learning more! Keep it coming Tony! We are listening, learning and applying daily? HalleluYAH! Praise YAHUAH!
Tony I feel Some people say they want help but deep inside they really don’t that’s why you get so much Negativity when you’re trying to help somebody. God bless you
Yes, because I know nobody listens to me so Mr, Gaskins is our only voice in here.thank you Sir..and thank you our Creator God for having women like me , and Mr, Gaskins here that we are here representing good people..The Creator God knows we need more of us here.. cause as a good woman I'm tired is sad 🙏
This man is telling the TRUTH. If the Bible was a walking person THIS is what it would look like. I admire you Mr. Gaskins. You helped me a lot as I didn’t have a male ( father figure) in my life and being raised by a single mom was a lot. Also, my mother mom ( my grandmother) was a single parent. And now I’m a single mom. We all need to take a moment and do some serious soul searching. When you mentioned a few videos back to “get off our backs”. I’ll never forget that statement. Sexual sin and mental health issues are real. I’ve battled them both for a very long time. Telling myself to be strong because it was pushed on me as the oldest child, but I’ve always felt like anything aside from being strong ment I was weak.! I’m still battling “the bad guys”, “self worth” and true self acceptance. I’m holding my self accountable WITH MEN because a simple NO and moving on with life is better than A RUSHED YES and now life is all over the place and uncivilized. History respected itself in my family. And I refuse to let it continue but also I think about my children now, and their future. It’s not ok to KEEP this vicious cycle going on having children out of wedlock, risking our bodies and souls and losing who we are as people because of “sex”, or just to say we got someone. Every video you post I watch and I’m doing my best to learn from it. I don’t want the devil having his way with my life. I want to hear “well done daughter” from my father in the throne. Thankyou for all that you share.
Hi Sis, I feel you on the forced to be strong, because you are the oldest. I was told that also, it made me want to wait to have children with a husband. So I ate birthcontrol pills like candy. Eventhough I didn't repeat the cycle of being a single mother, I was still heavily into sexual sin. I can't have children now, but I pray for those you who do. Tony, is heaven sent, keep listening to him❤
Sexual perversion is the real pull towards manipulation and going down the wrong path. Cause its what God created but can be twisted when its outside of husband and wife and in turn destroy your soul.
Bad boys just want to put you down to claim their crown of badness. Ladies, listen to this again! Lord! Don't let your insecurities tell you that settling for someone who is making you an option is the only man in the world. Let God heal your fears and trust God!
Yeah she wants a bad boy alright until she gets a Diddy.. gentlemen when you meet a woman who doesn’t value a humble heart she’s telling you she’s not worth being humble to so turn your back toward her and don’t look back because she’s trash so don’t be desperate digging in filth! She is not a prize & please don’t get that confused! -Sincerely, A Grown Woman 🙏🏾
This is the BEST thing I've seen on the internet lately. As an African woman, I have struggled with identifying as "black" when every value, tradition and wisdom that my parents raised me with is completely up-side-down here in America. It hurts to see how black American men treat their own women. The family structure is non-existent, adults want to remain rebellious teens partying well into their early 50's. Women have no requirements/standards for access to their wombs - they churn out children with anything with a pe**s. Because of this free access, the men so no need to improve themselves first before approaching a woman or sticking aropund after the baby is born. he gets busy immediately with the next and the next........so sad! Women deride GOOD MEN but desperately seek them once they hit their 40's. Please tell them Tony, We can get anybody's respect if we continue in this stupid cycle.Look, Bill Gates, Zuckerbag, Mudroch, Buffet, us Presidents etc.....all of 'em were married. They had all the money ikn the world to run through women and make zillions of out-of-wedlock kids but chose to be married instead.............just think about that for a second.
This comment hurts my heart. I am African and this isn't Black American specific. Africans are also exhibiting the same behavior here and on the continent. I think the implications are worse for us because we adopt American culture and culturally we offer more deference to/do not challenge our men. What I believe Tony is referring to is a mentality/thought process spreading through music and social media like wildfire. It's in dating culture and friendship culture. Separately, I mean this with all kindness: It's possible that your circle is small. Widen it by meeting black professionals, developing deeper relationships and even attending HBCU on campus events. This reads as a gross generalization of the black family structure and bolsters mass media representation of the black experience.
Very true! I have traveled to Africa...Ghana and Nigeria. There are single mothers out there! There are deadbeat dads down there too! Let's not create a narrative that Africans are better because they are leaving their homeland to go anywhere except Africa. European Caucasians look down at Blacks from Africa and Caribbean. Single parenthood from Black immigrants in Europe is huge like America and so is racism.
How can I make this into a commercial that plays while these type of men watch games or reality trash TV? My ex was/ is a grown boy which is why I had to walk away after slipping into believing something was wrong with me for wanting a REAL MAN. It wasn’t until I left that I realized what I was dealing with but I needed to get out and go NO CONTACT for my sanity. It’s been 7 or 8 months now and this message is what MEN and WOMEN of all ages and backgrounds need to see and hear. Wow!
Hello, May I ask how y'all met, how you accessed his personality & behavior, if he's a believer and how you knew God ordained your relationship? Thank you!
I’ve seen toxic men on social media calling any man who shows a woman even a basic kindness a simp. I’m like well give me a simp then, they’ve made that word synonymous with a decent man.
Yes I agree always calling them a simp, making up all these new words if you're doing right by women or living right .. so give me a simp any day too I'm with you 💯
I'm thankful to God for blessing me with a man that exhibits these very characteristics. I feel blessed to have him in my life. Coming from a toxic marriage with a narc makes me know the difference. I made a list of things I wanted in my next partner and God blessed me with exactly that. A high value man with a solid character. A narc will shower you with words and no action to back it up. At the end of the day, you can only vouch for yourself. You can't predict every move or read people's minds. Be vigilant, pray, observe and act accordingly! Thank you TG for this message. It was much needed! God bless you!!
I agree with Tony. The world tries to normalize this behavior and say if you were the one then he/she would treat you better. A decent person treats everyone good no matter their past experiences. Mental illness is real and many need to go seek help.
I know the person for me is out there and i will continue to watch these videos to motivate me and guide me through the vetting process. I recently met a guy and i really liked him, however about a month in to seeing each other i realized i was an option and he lacks empathy. It was sad, however i realized that he didnt give a care, and i want to be with someone who gives a care. Kind men are attractive, disciplined men are attractive, secure, respectful and confident men are attractive. Lacking empathy is a red flag and a deal-breaker.
I affirm and love this message, it's like a breath of fresh air in a dusty polluted environment 😊 I don't want a bad boy at all 👋🏿, Lord please send me and help me to recognise the good, real, sensible man in Yashua's name Ahmein 🙏🏿
If you’re genuinely a nice man you shouldn’t let less than favorable dating experiences change that about you. Instead do better vetting and focus less on the superficial
Can we just have the jezebel women and the bad boys go over there so that the healed men and us healed women can find each other?? 🧐 All the jezebels exit stage left!!! Please and thank you!
I don't have a lot of wisdom from a father figure because my father wasn't around but I always thought this way. But was put down for thinking this way. I've said this several times in my failed marriage, he wanted to be treated like the woman in the relationship. I had no problem with reciprocating but it was expected without me receiving. Good video Mr Gaskins
So true! Thanks for that reminder. I no longer want nor need the bad boy! I have been accepting and dealing with that for years. I prefer the REAL man to this single business owner Woman who needs a Real Man. Because believe me I will and want to cater to him. ❤
I was raised to be with the bad boys because i live with two of them. :’( my dad and brother. And it’s hard to get away from them. My adopted mom is no help either. It’s hard to get a job too!
This video is truth!! Every bad boy I have been with they all have a childhood history of pain. That pain is what births bad boys and they take their pain out on people around them and the women they are with. It comes a point in your life that you are tired of the bad boys because they drag you down with them and you are so ready for a nice man, and you tell God I'm tired of doing it my way and I will take the man that you want me to have and let your will be done. It's not my will Lord but it's yours.
I love a traditional man’s man. The exact real man Tony was talking about.The enemy is really working full time, we need to get our minds right out here.
This message was so clear and very true. Love how you gave that serious look when making statements. Both men and women need to hear this. Blessings to you 💜💜💜
You are absolutely right sir. Thank you for helping me see that I'm fighting for a man that never treated me right in the first place. He's never put me first. No reason to think he'd do differently if we got back together. Thank you.
Tony G., always speaks the hard-truths... ya have to respect it! But the disgust in which he ended this video was funny to me "get therapy & God bless ya!" 😂😂❤
God bless you man of God for the work you do. Many of our perceptions of relationships have been polluted by the toxic shows and movies we have watched for most of our lives, also from bad advice from bitter men and women in our lives. We all have to renew our minds from those garbage to create and hold on to healthy relationships.
Such a fantastic speech. Wish we had this long before I had a child with a terrible guy many years ago. My son is 31 and I had to help him get off drugs because living w his dad made him so stressed out.
I was married to a good man that made sure I wanted for nothing but he passed away in 2008.I have struggle to find a decent,caring loving man ever since.
The mindset is mainly with black Americans. A man taking care of his woman is normal in the country where is am from 😂. I stick to my foreign husband because it’s my culture
As a woman I’m fed up hearing other women who don’t treat guys right moaning about their disastrous love lives. They deserve everything they get imo . My man will always be my King bc I know I’m his Queen- that’s what a healthy relationship looks like 💕
