@@Future-zx9ts don't get your hopes up. You know they going to save it until the end like a teaser and then we'll see the actual blow up next week. You know how mafs do
You all are spot on. I said the same thing. Stop matching people hoping they'll balance each out or change the other one. Match them based on shared values, interests, and lifestyles. It's ok to have some differences, but these are core issues that they are on different spectrums about. Give them proper counseling to work through differences too. Again here they go making ratings instead of successful relationships.
UGH yes! How are you going to match people who aren't compatible in religion, politics, or lifestyle (wanting kids, not wanting kids, financial practices)? They always say those are the things that can make or break a relationship, especially when they are a part of your core values.
My husband said, "why did they cast Myrla on MAFS but on Unmatchables they had a woman with the same character traits (likes to shop, likes a more expensive lifestyle, works hard to pay for that lifestyle)... so she was considered unmatchable but Myrla was matchable?"
@@nyashajoseph9684 Right? I mean I realize that they go through A LOT of questions, but it seems like a super similar situation and they were cast on two very different versions of the show 🤔
@@jaclynlee6386 yeah i think that’s probably true. i just think it’s interesting how it’s the trait they’re highlighting about her and that very same trait is the one they specifically used to label someone “unmatchable”. but yeah, i agree, i’m sure those reasons played a lot into their idea to match them
My opinion is they were matched b/c they're both Colombian. Experts will have to convince me otherwise. B/c -last I heard- finances are one of the top 3 things that cause divorce...
I'm frustrated with the Matchmakers for their "hyperfocus" on opposites attract. Just because 2 people may be attracted based on differences, doesn't indicate that either person wants to change parts of self they are comfortable with. You guys are spot on with your critiques of the matchmakers.
It has to be the right kind of opposite. They seem to find polar opposite on morals and values. Kevin said like it’s cool to not like the same band. My husband and I would not have been matched, but we were happy ( he has died).
I think y’all missed that Myrla’s father was murdered so there’s more meaning behind her wanting to honor his last name than her not wanting to take his last name.
@@ashleyhope821 probably because these episodes have been dragging on along. I finally got through all of them....I think the team is already over this season...or at least interest won't pick up until honeymoon time. The rest of this will give context for the disasters to come, I suppose. Lol
Absolutely, they're constantly trying to move people to the middle or "balance" certain traits by pairing them with opposites, but that's not how it works.
These people should have academic experience in psychology. There are actual studies that show that doesn’t work for long term relationship satisfaction
@@adebisiakinyemi7833 you would definitely think so. Makes me wonder who is really doing the matching honestly. Two drs should definitely be able to tell, with their current percentage after 12 seasons at 29.5% that they’re doing something wrong fundamentally
Ryan & Brett - Yes, my family owns a ranch type property, and although I myself don’t “ranch” the land, I thoroughly enjoy escaping the Houston city life by going out there. Horses, 4-wheelers, fixing broken barb wire on a fence, etc. If I ever do marry, I’m going to NEED my husband to enjoy those activities as well!
Aw I really hope you guys don't stop reviewing MAFS. It's the best review out there and I love hearing your take, both the humourous and the more serious.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who's fallen asleep while watching this season. I thought it was because I have a new job, but if y'all have fallen asleep, I don't feel bad anymore. 🤣
They paired Gil with great value Jlo to hope he balances out her being shallow. Anyone with eyes can see these too won't last. He can put out some fires over here though.
Brett said she's originally from New Jersey and she moved to Houston as an adult. Furthermore, Houston is not as country as the show is trying to make it seem. We don't all listen to country music like that. We are the 4th largest city in the US.
Imma need y’all to drink some coffee and WATCH these episodes! Lol I like this season and I enjoy your commentary…so please watch the show so y’all can comment! Thank you. 😂
I agree with Melissa, I don't think any of these couples are gonna make it either. At this point, please get new experts, because they didn't even try with these matches. MAFS is so hard to watch this season, it's like they're overproducing the show and it's become unauthentic since producers recruit people instead of actually matching applicants.
I'm glad you're adressing the Myrla and Gil situation. I really dislike that every time there's a woman on there that makes a lot of money and likes to enjoy herself with it/spoil herself and she asks for someone to match her pace, they put her with someone who makes significantly less and cant/wont meet them and in fact wants to tame their spending habits. I think it says something about how the experts want to police women and how they spend their own money. There's a lot of assumptions made abt an independent woman who can not only provide for herself but actually spoil herself. I think ppl are uncomfortable with this notion and seek ways to "humble" her. That's what I think is happening here and its gross. Like you all alluded to, uf it was a man who made a lot of money and took expensive trips and had a lot of cars, I don't think they'd even care to get him a girl who wasn't making as much as him bc there wouldn't be a need to bring him down a peg.
I wholeheartedly agree. Myrla’s not perfect, but no one is. She’s worked hard to have a life she can enjoy as woman in her 30s. But the producers and viewers seem to struggle with a woman wanting to travel and have nice things - especially if she’s already able to do that without a partner. It seems like financially they were able to find Bao a man of similar means, also Michaela. But because Myrla likes labels she needs to be “balanced out”. I don’t like that at all. There are plenty of men who are inspired by money, my only issue is that we normally don’t see them on this type of show. I wish Myrla had done her research because independent women of color often get the short end of the stick, financially, on MAFS.
I remember Kayne saying that then and I thought, poor Mike Myers, if he could have snapped his fingers and disappeared, I felt bad for him🤦🏾♀️ Y'all make my week💕💕🖐🏾
I caught that too. They could have combined, but I don't think they've seen episode four yet because they never discussed anything that was said, even though it could have added to today's conversation
As far as liking the “experts,” something interesting happened this season that we all need to remember. Michaela went around thanking the producers for her husband. If the “experts” are picking them, why is she thanking producers? The experts likely have VERY little say, and these producers are just out here messing up lives.
I think the experts were more instrumental in the matches in the first 6/7 seasons. Now they most definitely are not making the matches which is fine however if you have integrity as an expert why would you continue to put your face as the reason for these matches??
YES!!!! I’ve been saying this for years these experts take “opposites attract” too literal! My dad always says yes magnetic attract at polar, opposite ends but at the core they are the same element with the same composition, same with people you can have opposite or more so complementary traits in a relationship but at the core they have to be on the same page.
I think Rachel prob actually said to Jose “I told them I wasn’t into looks and I wanted a good personality, and you have the personality and the looks. “ or something like that. That scene was SO spliced up.
I'm actually fine with skipping episode 3. This season is moving too slow for my liking. Edit: this is the review for episode 3. The title is incorrect.
right. I want a season where they match people with what they specifically asked for. let's see how that works because the experts logic in how they match is an epic fail.
I agree with you Melissa about Myrla and her lifestyle. I’m beginning to have a problem with people calling women (usually women of color) “high maintenance” because they like nice things. In the most recent episode, Myrla explains that she worked hard to get where she’s at and she enjoys her life because of it. Who says she doesn’t save just because she spends??? If you make enough money, you can do both. Is it unfortunate that she’s paired with someone with more humble spending habits? It is, because I’m pretty sure she didn’t ask for that. But I think lots of people are looking at Myrla too harshly because she likes to live life. She worked hard for her money, so what’s the problem? 🤷🏾♀️
Wow! I wasn’t expecting an episode this week with the tragic event of last week. I hope doing the episode was a welcome distraction and not something you felt you had to do.
Just fyi I've lived in Houston my entire life (I'm in my 40s). We don't ride horses, we don't all live on ranches and farms. I hate that's how people always depict Houstonians. But I get it, I was shut down when I met my friends from Africa - they were like "We don't live in Huts" they were like we live in the city and have a house. I was so embarrassed. But just so you know we don't all walk around with co-boy boots and co-boy hats. We don't all listen to country music smh
I agree! Same here! I’m from South Louisiana and have been living between Houston and outside of Houston past 20 years and that is far from the truth that we all love Ranches and Hunting! No ma’am! I hate being outside too long anymore nor do I like country living, trail riding, hunting, ATVS...Nope! I have cousins that love it, but that is not all of our ministry 🙄😁
That’s definitely not what I think about people who live Houston because it’s such a huge city and I heard that it is so diverse, one of the most diverse cities in the nation. I’d actually love to visit Houston someday. I was surprised that they assumed that Brett would be more knowledgeable about ranches and country music because she’s a white woman from Houston, but Lifetime’s advertising of this season isn’t helping the ranch/cowboy stereotype at all. Even look at those bachelor and bachelorette parties 😬
I agree, I’m from the north Texas area and I hate when people think we all speak and live like we’re on an episode Dallas. I’ve been on a horse one time in my life and that was on a field trip. Larger cities like Houston and Dallas are a lot like Atlanta, DC, Philly and any other metropolitan city.
I agree with Melissa. The family gives away way too much. But not only with the vows. When they go to the brunch also. Hold it down. Give generic answers. Put plainly, just hush!
I think the experts should do individual counseling before they match the couples. They are definitely not seeing potential serious issues that can make or break marriages. I told my sister I'm starting to wonder if the experts are matching the couples or are the producers...
So they mistakenly put the wrong epi # in the title..y’all calm down. If you watch the show then you know exactly which one they’re reviewing. Reviewing MAFS is not their entire life.
I am strongly agreeing with Lis. Ion no who gonna make it but Jaime and Beth had me at a hard ANH ANH but they are still happily married. They divorced every other day on the show but they worked.
When i was in elementary school someone was like "ew your gums show when u smile" i 1. stopped smiling or laughing for atleast a year and 2. never forgot that comment. We are all adults now, but keep on laughing rachel
Independent women that don't have an interest in bending their lifestyle and interests have difficulty sustaining a marriage...Mural and Olivia. Most of the independent women who have remained married were less focused on their man " jumping on the bandwagon".
Allow me to sum up Myrla. If Gill was the Brooks Brothers suit wearing business man with multiple homes, expensive cars and working multi million dollar deals she would be wet all over him talking about how perfect he is for her. Gill is just a simple man doing the greater good of the community. You don’t make millions as a fireman. Myrla is checked out of this whole process and Gill knows it. I don’t see them lasting more than 7 to 8 episodes. It’s just not going to work. Jose is gay and that’s not going to work.
Hey madboyreadynow28, I hope you're doing well! Can I genuinely ask you why you think Myrla is checked out of the process? I personally didn't get that vibe from her. Perhaps stoosh and conservative ( I wouldn't necessarily disagree with those who call her materialistic either) but checked out? No, not to me at least
@@M-JACOY I don't get that from her either. Honestly, she's grown on me. She's one of the few cast members that's clear about who she is and what she likes and doesn't. She knows her values and those work for some. I don't think anyone can judge her values...and we're making assumptions about what the material items mean....as well as....that she would value those things over people....she hasn't had to make that choice....so, why can't she have them both? I don't see why everyone is judging her preference for what she considers to be nice things....she didn't diminish Gil....Gil and his friends are diminishing her values.
@@M-JACOY When a man asked to rub your feet and your response is not gonna happen that tells me everything. His friends and others were just trying to get them to kiss and she would not allow that to happen. Bottom line Gill is NOT allowed to touch his wife. This is married at first sight so she chose to bypass the whole dating process and the getting to know and trust that this process would find her a perfect match. I don't see anything wrong with her life style. If she has the money to buy nice things that's none if Gills concern until it negatively effects him. My bottom line is if your watching the show and you have dated woman you know when a woman is not feeling you and no matter what you do she will not open up and allow herself to be vulnerable enough to getting to know you. I have had years of experience to know this relationship sadly is going no where simply because of Myrla not Gill.
Merla’s brother said he handles her finances and she is able to sustain he lifestyle and also saves. Finance is a big reason marriages fail so they should have really took that into account when matching couples. Because Gil would need to be able to do the things she enjoys like travel and spend on entertainment which he may not be able to like she does. That is not a negative on her part she just needs a man that also enjoys and can afford that lifestyle on their own as well.
@@kaunagora6656 who said it's a splurge? I guess that's what people are missing....she budgets for it and does it. No where has she stated that these are binges or problematic in anyway.
My apprehension about her had to do with more than just the money. Gil wanted a more everyday girl, and she is more like that IG girl he didn’t want. Additionally, she comes across very cold and I worry that she won’t give him the affection he needs. He’s a firefighter and you can tell he’s a caretaker-type. She may be too strong and independent for him. Didn’t she say she didn’t need a man? I think he wants to feel needed.
@@Sharmoni66 I see. the producers did a horrible job matching them. I personally don't like his personality...and he seems stubborn and needing someone that will stroke his ego...I could see how both of them could balance one another out in another life....but where they are right now? I don't see it. I just hate that Myrla is getting a bad rep because people think Gil is the prize. They both would make great partners for other folks 🤣 because they both value diff things....and need diff things to bring out increased masculinity and femininity on both of their parts.
I LOOOVE TBTB wholeheartedly, but you guys are slipping lol. I know MAFS is unnecessarily long, but if you guys are going to do the reviews (which I really hope you continue to do because I don’t want to watch any of the other copycats AND you guys are on 100 when you actually watch which is unmatched) please watch the show or don’t let it be evident in your demeanor that you didn’t watch it. The lackadaisical attitude is quite disappointing especially when I come bursting with excitement to hear what you guys have to say. I love all of the off tangent commentary and think it better to use that as smooth fillers without the complaints and wrong assumptions that result from not watching the show. I know you guys are busy and have a lot on your plates; I sympathize. Love and appreciation for all you do ✌🏾❤️
Me and my friend were literally just talking about this. I think they’re taking the whole “opposites attract” thing a little too far especially with people who are ridiculous and *so* particular about what they want yet allow experts to pick their spouse. When meeting a stranger it’s probably more comforting in the beginning to have commonalities, figure out what they are and relate and build on that. Because you can see the sparks fly when the couple meet initially and discuss all the things they’re surprised they relate on.
Is it possible to get Pastor Cal as a guest??? That would really be awesome because I feel like he doesn't always say what's on his mind on the show lol
I hate to be one of those ppl because I love y’all I truly do. Whilst I understand the commitments you have outside of this, it’s honestly feels from a viewers perspective your not interested in reviewing this show at all. I’m also a little confused you skipped ep3 which is cool it was dry.... but then didn’t really mention much that happened in ep4 during this review.... like the fact they meet their parents/ family after the wedding which was a key component to ep4. Anyways I’m routing for yall and hope for the next reviews you bring back the energy you had when reviewing season 11...:.
Hey everyone, they titled it wrong, THIS IS EPISODE 3 that they are reviewing. The review for this weeks episode will probably come out this weekend. They had to push back filming for obvious reasons.
That’s my first answer to every random brainstorm… RENT EM SPOONS!! 🤣🤣🤣 Omg I knew y’all were my people but now I know that I know! Ok back to the episode :D
I honestly would rather have y’all just chop it up and talk like the mukbangs than to force yourselves to review a show you’re not interested in. Because it feels like a chore from the audience’s perspective, and I’d rather have y’all be happy and have good energy/chemistry. I can usually follow what’s happening just by watching your reviews, but I have no idea what’s going on this season lmao. Just saying! 😇
It sounds like the only thing that has happened so far over the last 3 episodes are the weddings and first impressions of the couples . It sounds like the show is really dragging it out with a lot of commercials .
I agree. They don’t seem interested at all, and they fall asleep watching each episode. This results in them not even knowing what they are talking about during the reviews. This was all happening before the recent tragedies. I was watching because of loyalty ( I love each member of the bald and the beautiful) but Maybe it’s time to throw in the towel.
Melissa, I 100% agree with you...no one will stay married. It's sad, but true. Can we please have the experts hook up people who have SOMETHING more substantial in common instead of the "opposite attract" method for each couple? And stop all of the replays from prior weeks...it will save us an hour!!
