Excerpt from A Whole Lotta Life | This Past Weekend w/ Theo Von #194 Full Episode: bit.ly/TPW194_AWholeLottaLife_ Theo Von reflects on his relationship with his elderly father, and how his views on it then and now effect him today.
Oof. Yeah, me too. When we start judging people, a lot of the time it's something we see in them that triggers or is similar to something we don't like about ourselves..
Jesus christ that has been something on the tip of my tongue for MONTHS now. When you're not happy with yourself or not fulfilled within yourself you get judgmental of others. Crazy sht energy is real.
This hits my heart..My dad was born July 26, 1909, My dad was 90 when he passed and I was 30. I was embarrassed of my father also in school. I used to tell everybody that he was my grandfather, I Regret doing that because my dad loved me with all of his heart.
Dang. This comment hits different. I'm 30 and I just found out my dad has stage 4 lung cancer that's spread throughout his body to his bones. He's only 68 but I still always thought the same when I was younger cause he was older than all my friends dad's. My dad is 11 years older than my mom. Idk how much time I have left with my sweet dad but this reminds me to cherish every day that he's here. ❤
This has to be one of the most beautiful forms of pure honesty I’ve ever seen, this had to be somewhat scary to do, I applaud you and pray more people would be honest and face what they’ve gone through, the world needs more healing, and less pain, thank you for showing people this.
Damn my dad passed two weeks ago at 77, he was kind of a control freak and had parkinson for 35 years, people where i lived called him robocop, especially people at school, yeah it was hurting, if only i knew how dumb i was, i wonder if i will ever be able to get past the guilt of being ashamed of him... he also had me at 44 so people tought he was my granpa as well, but that was never what made me ashamed, he was karate 3rd dan, if only he was not cursed of parkinson he would still be alive(died of a fall)...
I had this on whilst cooking but I had to sit down and watch. This is one of the rawest, most honest episodes I've seen. I love that Theo shares what's going on in his head.
Comedians are "ironically" some of the deepest people in the world. And in my opinion, I believe that's because a lot of the humor and imagination are built and trained through times of suffering and overcoming.
The famous “Stańczyk” painting known for its depiction of a Sad Jester shows this very well. Most of the comedians you see are deeply suffering inside and so they crack a little joke because they know how bad it feels and don’t want that on anyone else.
A lot of artist usually are from musicians to comics to writers their brain's are just wired differently...something about the way they learn to think to do the stuff they do is speical,so speical things can come out when they speak
@@alvarezgamers what makes it wholesome is how beautiful it is, it shows from an incredibly young age he’s been a really caring and giving person from the very beginning. I’ve never heard of someone doing this for their old pop.. made my eyes well up. It’s bittersweet in some ways as it is wholesome.
Resentment is corrosive, toxic, and will eat you from the inside out. However, the personal values and beliefs it doesn't destroy will be resilient to the very center of your being.
Dammit Theo. You got me right in the throat. My dad died on November 15 of last year. He had narcissistic personality disorder and loved putting me down in front of people, throwing me under the bus, stabbing me in the back, everything the shittiest friend you could imagine having would do before you finally choked them out. He was fucking horrible to me...and I miss him. How fucked up is that, bro?!? Thank you for sharing about your dad on your podcast. That's bravery, son!
It’s crazy isn’t it? My mom walked out on dad, me and my sisters at the age of 14 for me. My dad raised us rough but I still love him and he’s my best friend. He may whoop my ass or give me the worst griping imaginable but he’s gotten out of bed more than once in the early hours to get me outta any situation. From stories I was told his dad was very rough on the boys. Grandpa died when I was 2 so I never experienced it. I’ve heard stories of grandpa beating dad and his brother like a man. The ole timers where raised a lot more different and ruggedly then we where. I think that’s why there’s a lot of youngsters today are so disrespectful, because times have gotten much easier. People aren’t raised anymore getting that ass whooped because you got people like Dr Phil and other quacks so against it. I whooped my kids and they know to respect their elders no matter who they are. Anyways I’m rambling now lol. Take care brother.
I feel ya. I’m glad I realized mine had that sickness before they passed and I could forgive them and love them while they were here. I hope the same for you.
I’m 29 and my dad is 78 now and I’m glad I never grew up around people who would make me feel ashamed or embarrassed about it. He is the best father and I wouldn’t change anything.
My son was 8 when his dad died and his pop (my mom's long term bf she had known since childhood) stepped in and did the dad stuff with him. Taught him to play baseball, went on boyscouts camping trips, you name it he was there for him. My son is an adult and we lost pop recently. Pop was such a good man and we will miss him forever. My son would have never tolerated anyone saying a cross word to his pop, let alone joining in to tease him.Theos story is heartbreaking. It's so sad that sometimes kids peer pressure other kids into doing things they regret and can't change as adults.
I went through the same emotions with my own father. he was 43 when he had me. And I was 43 for my own son, died when I was 27. Love from Ireland Theo. He's somewhere watching you Theo and feeling proud.
My dad turned 85 this year and I’m 25. He lives a couple states away and watching this makes me want to go visit him and appreciate him even more. Thanks, Theo.
How can someone speak unscripted for 26 minutes and have people laughing and ok th verge of crying? This is pure and honest truth coming out of a comedic genius's mouth. If you ever read this, thanks for your honesty and openness. I think it's safe to say you've helped many people by sharing your story.
I think a lot of ppl are embarrassed about their parents for one reason or another. They are old, fat, a nerd, whatever. It's not until we get older that we realize they are just a person, trying their best to live life the best they can...just like we are.
Jezabel-in-Hell I caught that old Poe song in your username and wanted to reply. I agree, we dont know what we have until it's gone. Especially our folks.
@@ShivaRainchild I believe the original biblical Hebrew translation was spelled with an "a", not "e". But thanks so much for your input and contribution to the conversation. 😒
Can I just point out that we’re watching a man actively practicing the methods for therapy and becoming sober? This shows how self questioning, self reflection, and putting it down on paper can lead to learning to love yourself and others more fully. Therapy is so important, and a man or woman should never feel ashamed for pursuing happiness and understanding. Becoming sober starts with trying to understand yourself. Thank you to Theo for being this vulnerable.
I just started and it’s mind blowing. So many past experiences are connected to my present and to each other. It’s amazing what a fresh perspective and guidance can do. Seeing someone like Theo be vulnerable about this type of stuff really helps. Dude grew up right next to my hometown and most of the guys around these parts do NOT open up about this stuff. Good shit, Theo.
Man, when I fully realized how much pain was hidden underneath, causing me to abuse alcohol and just be angry all the time, it was a major ego hit. That's the hardest part for me is figuring out who I actually even am after dealing with all the darkness that literally made me who I was.
Anxiety and depression is also self questioning and self reflection. It's not always "easy" to do it in a healthy way. I wish people exerience tapping into that baseline and their essential human aspects, needs and values otherwise all that fishing for information and looking at correlations can make the world seem like a deterministic, dark and nihilistic place. It can make one feel like a powerless byproduct of shit circumstances. Questioning everything can become the cancer of the mind, overthinking. Most things don't have to explained to oneself through words, it's ok to just know. Words are for communication with other people. People do have the power of free will even if they never really exercised it in their life. People have the power of making different choices, having different thoughts, using their minds instead of it using them. It's very good to know the distinction between self and mind, not to say the mind doesn't play a large part in being an everyday human, it's needed, that is why we don't get lobotomies to solve mental anguish. Yet people get stuck and entangled in their thoughtprocesses and heads. People get identified with their thoughts and cerebral activity (like feelings or general headspace) too much. Ppl be putting all that weight on that stuff which are just mental projections, images and possible simulations of the future which are all based on past events. The mood can dictate if your mind will fish for good or bad examples from your past experiences to build mental images from, the mind is a tool, not reality or truth. I want to live how I want to live, I wanna live well, so if there is a behavior which is rooted in the past that limits me (I believe there are thousands of little things for pretty much everyone), it's ok if I realize it, but what matters more is that I don't even base my behavior too much on the past. The more present I am, detached from my mind, empty, the more freedom I have to make free choices, not ones which are controlled by past situations in the subconscious. I mean empty not as in lacking or missing something, that wouldn't be empty, empty is none of that. Empty is the lack of even that. Emptyness in me is like extra space, feeling light, clear air. Feelings I'm able to feel more, there is more clear space in the studio that is my mind and it's not cluttered. It's breezy. I'm not preoccupied in "solving problems in my head", "dwelling too much on correlations between past and present", "getting better". I'm getting better by doing stuff that is good, by not overthinking, by not caring about things which are not worth caring about. Action, action, action, silence awareness, sleep, food, exercise. Do something good and keep doing it. Edit: It seems most ppl lack different things. I might need less thinking, someone might need more, but either way, we will both benefit the same from being more present and seeing clearer.
"I'm obviously a reptile." The way you can intersperse such heartfelt sentiment with such effortless humor makes this all the more genuine. This 26minute clip has probably helped thousands of people Theo.
Agreed. I was crying in sadness when he dropped that zinger and I started to laugh while still crying from sadness. Well played Theo, and thanks for the beautiful share.
"It's like a little edge inside of you where it's supposed to be a curve. So everything that goes around there is choppy." That's such a great analogy. Theo's wisdom and intelligence is easily overlooked due to his comedy personae.
While I was listening to that part, watching his thought processing, wondering "ok where tf is he going with this?" And it was the most simple description, but perfect analogy just like you said.
His old dad is probably what made him have to be funny, and that became his career. Having and old dad was probably the best thing that ever happened to him.
@@naelyneurkopfen9741 32 when matched up next to 70 is pretty fucking young. That is so wrong on so many levels. In what world is having a child with someone over double your age a good thing to do? Genetically speaking people shouldn't be having kids past 30 because that's when complications become more likely, but a nearly 40 year gap is far too large to just be ignored
My dad was 62 when I was born and I have struggled so with these same feelings. I didn’t know him at all when he passed at 74. I judged him too and have regrets to this day, 40+ years later. I cried listening to your words, they really hit me! Thank you Theo!!
My dad turns 84 in June and I turn 20 the day after his birthday. You just put all of the thoughts and emotions that I've had for him over the years into words in a way I wish I could've for so long. Thank you.
if he's still with us then please just take what theo said to heart and dont take him for granted and tell him everything you want to tell him. anything could happen at any moment. my dad was fine one day and then dead the next. i just lost him in late july.
I became pregnant later in life when I thought I was through menopause. I am 54 with a 10 year old son. I feel guilty because all his friends moms are young. Right now we're tight. Best friends, and thick as thieves. My age doesn't bother him. But in when he geaduates, I'll be really showing my age. I just want him to know if he starts feeling different about me because I'm too old, not to feel bad or guilty. I don't want him to feel bad about anything. I didn't plan him, but I sure did want him♡
65sheilakay I feel for you. But one thing to keep in mind is that there are more older parents having kids than when Theo was younger. Many 40 year olds are having children. So kids are more used to it. But you should do some research as to how to approach his teenage years. So that he learns to be proud of you. I would do that and prepare instead of just dreading it.
Please get your estate plaining down now, and eat as healthy as possible. My older mom has Dementia, and its been a living hell for me as her only child and no Husband.
Don't worry. I think the love for your mother is much more of an unconditional love than the one you have for your father. He wont question the love he has for you as much as he would his father. The love you have for your father is also strong but.. you know. Not as much as the one for your mother.. Hard to put it in words.
You’re son will love you and also kinda be really aggravated with you - but your age won’t matter to him .... an old dad kinda really throws things off but mother’s are moms and they don’t have age really to their boys
My dad abandoned me at 12. I reached out to him on Facebook message when I was 28 to try and connect as an adult. I'm 35 now and haven't seen my dad since I was 12. My Mom I haven't seen in 10 yrs. I'm single, live in NYC, have no friends or gf. I could die and no body would know.
@@birdiedog5probably to prevent abandonment would be my guess, if he doesn’t allow anyone in his life then no one can leave him, very sad, hopefully he can find someone and learn to trust
You’re not alone you are like a ton of people, in the US this is a statistic no one wants to admit. But way more than other counties we live alone, we move for jobs, we don’t marry. We are some of the most isolated and alone. You have crap parents then it’s even harder bc culture isn’t strong here for many. It’s way harder, we are told it’s our faults but we are taught to value consuming vs human connections.
'An artist Has got to be careful never really to arrive at a place where he thinks he AT somewhere. You always have to realize that you're constantly in a state of becoming. As long as you can stay in that realm, you'll sorta be alright' -Bob Dylan.
Here I am replying to a 4yo video... On point 100% Well done kid. Pop would be so proud. By now you've completed all 12 and everything makes perfect sense. Your spirit has awakened and you are sponsoring others.
I’m 14 and my dad’s 65, this video randomly came up in my recommended, I had never even heard of Theo Von until I saw this. After watching this I’ll definitely be listening to some more now that I have a celebrity I can relate to due to our older fathers
yrko I had an older dad, get to know him and have him tell you about his life. I didn’t think about it until it was too late. Always thought I had more time
Theo, Your Dad probably remembers the times when you doted on him, not so much the times you walked behind him. He probably thought it was just a teenager doing what teenagers do. All teenagers are embarrassed to be seen with their parents. He knows you loved him.
@dhh488 Are you kidding with this post? I wonder how many people buy this hilarious BS. Some of y'all need to think a little harder. He's a comedian people, specifically he's an absurdist. Don't miss the genius of this bit. If you believe his Wikipedia page, i gotta bridge i want to sell you. Don't miss the punchline people, some of you sound like absolute mongaloids
My dad wasn’t any older than normal. But he decided he didn’t want to be in my life. He went off and had another family. I tried a couple times to contact him and never got a response. A couple years ago he passed away and that little bit of hope that one day I’d get to show him the man I turned out to be vanished. I had to grieve a man I never met and a relationship I never had. And even though I have my own family, Father’s Day is still difficult.
Anymore down to earth, he’d be in the ground. Witnessing Theo’s thought process unfolding is magic. “I win some how by doing that…but then I get to the end of my life and I realize I didn’t win anything. It was a trick. The only thing I won….was being alone.” That hits all the places you hide from everyone, man. Much love.
He's poignant too. That stuff at the end about judging others? It didn't have any Vonnisms, but it was magnetic and it was good and impactful. Dude should preach.
Listening to this four years later and I’m so grateful you were born. Grateful that a man in his older years made a choice to give you life rather than give up on you. We never know how many years we have with our children whether we are young or old.
I’m glad your daddy had you cuz you bring people ( me ) joy, laughter, understanding, acceptance and just lots of good stuff, man, for real!! You help a lot of folks, me included, and so I am grateful for your dad!!!💙
@@matthewmullin8168 as we get older we rid of the punishments/ways of our parents but don’t let the harsher memory’s take away from the principles that were being taught with those said punishments, in other word can’t get too soft the ways of the older have made the great men and women we are today
@@kaofen being obsessed with a person who doesn’t see or view you the same way is damaging too the brain you start learning one way relationships and forget how too work a two way one… therapist should not have obsessions
you may not receive this message but im 17 and my dad is 74, and I stopped myself from crying but I remember being a kid, at night crying to my mother cause I knew I would lose my father unfairly
My dad first became a dad while he was in his twenties around the late 80's هو توفى بعمر الصغير "٣٢" في السنة ١٩٩٤ Passed on at a young age "32" in 1994
I think your old man knew you Theo. He knew how old he was and how old you were. He knew that had to suck for you. He loved you and was proud of you anyway. It’s unconditional man…you’ll see when you have kids. Next level understanding of love, judgement, and acceptance. You made him happy and proud man. You did a lot to honor him in this video too.
Guy goes from being my favorite comedian to actually changing the way I think about my father. Actually had to pause this a few times and let the tears flow. Theo if you ever see this, this was very helpful for me, and I can definitely relate but you have done some deep self reflection which I have not yet, so this was extremely helpful to me.
I'm angry at my dad because he called me worthless I'm angry with my dad because he drank himself to death I'm angry at my self for not understanding his pain I'm angry with my self for nat being the best son i could have been but i am proud of my dad for bight there for me for most of my life im proud of my dad for making me the man i am today and im happy with my self for having the balls to forgive him rip dad i miss u
Very admirable of you. I have had a long road forgiving my dad for letting all of us down and the things he said to others as well... I’m glad you’ve healed!
My Grandparents raised me from >1, all my family was either in jail or on drugs and now some are not here any more. I went through a lot too. Very dramatic and bumpy childhood. Im 31 now and my Gpa (Dad) just got diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. Thinking about living more than half my life without either of them is over whelming. Helping my gma (mom) and everything that comes with all this. I go through alot of emotions and bumps too and I know I still will. Counsling was the best thing I ever did to help. Thank you for talking about this. It helps people feel not so alone and can maybe take away such positive things and integrate it into their lives. 🤙🏼
My dad was 76 when I graduated high school. I can relate to 99% of what you said. I actually hated him for years. Now I just want to talk to him when my life is messed up. See him with his grandkids. He passed in 2012. God bless you for sharing this Theo. It was therapeutic.
Lost mine in 2017. I felt the same. I just wanna talk to him when shits hitting the fan. When I was younger, all he wanted to do was give advice and I’d listen with both ears shut. Now that I want it, it’s unattainable. Life.
There's no guarantees in life. My father was relatively young 30 in comparison when I was born but died at 46. I treasure the 16yrs I had with him. Tragedy is if your parent is alive and they're a bum or you don't have a relationship with them at all.
My father died when he was 25, and I was 6. I never really knew him that well. I was instead raised by my grandparents. My grandfather just passed back in January, and I’m just happy that eventually in life I realized you cant be embarrassed of them, because they made you who you are. A lot of times we didn’t talk, but there’s still that love there. I’ll always cherish the moments we had together, and that’s what matters.
Lost my dad at 18. He was 60. I was blessed that he fought to be in my life and showed up for me as much as he could. Yeah I lost him young, but I can say that I got as much good quality time with him than some people who even have their dad alive today.
I can relate..my dad was 61 when I was born and passed at 85. I was never angry with him but always worried about him, it was constant. I stood up for him and was grateful for all of the things he was able to introduce me to.
Ever since he was in that wilderness show as a teenager talking about how his mother leaving him probably effected his ability to let himself trust and love others, all the way to this video decades later, just shows how genuinely intelligently and honest he is. Did not expect to gain so much respect for this guy, but I'm really glad I started listening to his shows.
I made similar mistakes with my mother, who died of cancer when I was 16 years old. I hated her for her mistakes but she did the best she could. Her childhood wasn't great either. One of my greatest regrets of my life is that I will never be able to look her in the eyes and apologize. She is gone forever and I'm more lost in life then I've ever been. I love you so much mom. I'm so sorry for everything.
She would be incredibly proud that you see that, and also grew from it. There is so much good you can do for yourself and other people because of it, and I have a feeling that's what she would want for you. Don't beat yourself up; that doesn't do any good for anyone. If everyone felt what you just said, the world would be an infinitely better place, and now you have that within you. Thank you so much for sharing that, and I hope you share that love and forgiveness with the world. We could use a lot moreof it. Sending love your way, friend. ❤
Matt Thomsen I don’t know her or you in the least bit but for some reason I needed to type, I’m sure if you had the chance to apologize she would say “oh baby don’t worry about it, you have nothing to say sorry for”
Bro I believe if you look to the heavens and say sorry to her, she will have listened and accepted. I think now that I’m older. Parents do their best and no one is perfect, even us. WE FAIL, but thru GOD , we can start over. That’s the beauty of gospel. Give it a shot.
Now this is a perfect example of a man that’s at war with himself. Great to see Theo be so open and brave. A lot can be learned just from this clip alone. Its never too late to change !
“From judging others.. The only thing I won was being alone.. & lost out on connecting.” “When I keep them away from me, I also keep me away from them.” Truth.
pointless opinion yes! Or maybe a little boy rolling his dads wheelchair! I know that sounds funny but I’m really not trying to make a joke lmao I can just picture it
I am 42. My dad is 84. Just lost my mom two Saturdays ago. She was 78. The idea of going more than half my life without my parents breaks my heart. Thank you for this.
Theo, the way I've been churning through content that features you, the more I find an affinity with you. You are a special breed of human, with top level candidness. So Candid. Swinging from dick jokes to Reflections on your Father. The way you pulled yourself up from your upbringing, into a rightful public figure. Keep being you, Beth
You never know if you’re tuning into funny, poetic, therapeutic or all three with this guy. God bless him and his beautiful mullet. It’s hard at any age to process your parents getting older let alone being just a kid.
CLEARLY Theo Von is a man willing to plow the dirt within himself searching for Truth and for a better Self. He's not just unafraid to go to those places, but he's unafraid to let us experience it with him! That kind of courage is extremely rare.
A man who can share such deep feelings with the world in hopes of conveying his journey of getting to a place of peace when thinking of his father. Theo is one of a kind. This is a prime example of a person being 100% himself, & opening up not to just monetize engagement, but to uplift others in elements we all face in one way or another. Lastly, man's not afraid to cry, & open up to his feelings... that's true maturity & beyond a testament to this man's journey of self discovery.
Mad respect for being this vunerable and showing us who you really are. To make a video like this takes a lot or courage both for what you are sharing with us, and the how honestly you have to look at yourself. Props man.
My dad died of cancer very suddenly. We weren’t close because of my anger toward him for how my child hood was. I would do ANYTHING for 5 more minutes w him. I love you dad
Hey bro, sorry for your loss. I got through the pain by realizing that my father did love me, a lot, he just struggled through life the same way many of us do. Now I have kids, and I tell them stories about my dad, and I just try to love them so much, pass on my fathers love. I know he would go to war in a second for me, he was just quiet and stoic, get through it by knowing you will be a GREAT FATHER!!!!! try to strive for it and thank dad
The pain a boy/man feels and continues to feel after losing a father is real and never seems to go away. It’s most likely because we all kinda took having our fathers for granted a bit. This hits home for sure because I had an older father as well.
I feel guilty because Theo brings so much enjoyment into my life but being really depressed i see it in him. He feels that pain of wishing he wasn't here because it means that he wouldn't have to feel the pain of his dad not being there. I lost my dad the same year as theo lost his dad but I was much younger and my dad took his own life. I get where he is coming from and I feel his pain.
Man I cried throughout most of this thinking about my father’s life and our relationship and I still busted out laughing to “slip and fall all the way into the Lord’s arms”. This guy is so relatable at times.
This comment is fucking relatable!😂 I was thoughtful and introspective as I was listening then, BOOM, He said that dumb shit! I laughed hard as shit, then sobered up a little when I realized that he was actually being serious.
Having a dad that old is traumatic theo. It just is. Any reaction you had to your father, embarrassment, resentment, etc, it wasn't your fault. You were a child/young adult trying to make it through an extremely unusual situation.
My dad was on a wheelchair since 1987 and passed away in 2017 so I relate to you man. I judged my dad for being physically weak instead of realizing he was doing the best he could.
Man you kinda sound like a piece of shit "I judged my dad for being physically weak because he was in a wheelchair" like wow you really fucking suck. What the fuck is he supposed to do about it? You're the reason I won't have kids. You're a POS.
Dude. I'm on my fourth step too. I came for comedy but you brought me home. Actually doing living amends re my father, taking care of him he's 90. More power to you and your recovery.❤
This got me. Self reflection is so necessary. The part where you talk about resentment for not having the relationship you wanted with your dad, and the sharp pathways that memories of him go down… I was always close with my dad, and he’s still around. He’s an alcoholic, and has caused a lot of pain. He cut me out of his life when things came to a head and I needed him to do the right thing and he just couldn’t. It’s been about 4 years since we’ve spoken. I could reach out, but I’ve done so much trauma therapy that I’m scared it’ll be a setback for me. I hope that one day he’ll contact me and apologize and want to do better…I feel like I wasn’t important enough to him.
It's pretty manly, but definitely NOT "the most manly". You gotta get TF outta here with those empty lame ass 'progressive' platitudes, wise up, & quit using men like Theo as pawns in your narratives, agendas, etc......
@@snowfrosty1 No shit genius, obviously giving your life defending an orphan from a tiger would rank a bit above this, but you get the semantics. No ones peddling an agenda, stop crying.
Been listening to him for a good 5/6 years. The ‘lack of feeling worth anything’ life sentence affects lots of us. All the podcasts I listen to have been like friends really,someone to listen to. A replacement more like. I’m so far from living it’s passed sad.
@@snowfrosty1 Im sure he does have some agenda. But in the spiritual sense at Church thats among one of the most manliest thoughts decisions actions you could make to become a better man. I have ingrained the thought no feminine males but now ive began to realize tomboys are as stupid. and theyre both wrong. I believe there is wrong and correct in this world. above mistakes mishaps what else is there. At Sacred Heart Church there was many tough guys and girls many tough women and men who seemingly want to put on a face that they dont want to cry. And I was one of those its not a leftist talking point or a political one its better than any sexual activity. because once I heal then I can have Marriage and sexual inercourse. I think the same thought process as you do but Church and to cry in front of all those men and women isnt manly or womanly its Brave most certainly and I cant do it when women and other men are around I feel pathethic that I couldnt cry and I was holding back I feel stupid its really annoying that your human ego restricts you and Witholds you from speaking when you want to say something valuable. Anyways Im sure Coal Mining Is 100% of what men have done as Brave and wars. No woman could understand even if she saw her partner being blown to bits. Being the man is different because help may never arrive so im not really discounting whatevers experiences but its also a nusiance that none are as focused on men and boys because thats what truly matters otherwise the whole World will be God Damned and no longer will all humanity be sane because The rot of good Males end of story.
The good thing about getting older is introspection. We are able to see patterns in our lives and connect the dots. We begin healing and truly maturing. It’s a beautiful thing.
My dad passed from cancer back in 17. I was 22 and 4 states away at the Air Force Academy. I dont think we ever really had genuine father-son bonding until I went to basic, when the only communication we were allowed was written letters. I feel like that was the first time we ever really bonded as adults. I was genuinely looking forward to how our relationship would move forward after I graduated and carried on with my Air Force career. A few months before he was diagnosed, for his 50th birthday, I got us tickets to a Broncos-Patriots game, and myself, brother dad and his best friend had an incredible weekend. I vividly recall thinking how incredible the weekend was, and finally appreciating our time together. Three months later he was diagnosed with neuroendocrine pancreatic cancer, and he died 9 months after that. And then, on the drive back from his funeral, my uncle died from a heart attack. It was worse than a nightmare. The irony of it all overwhelmed me, and sent me into a spiral that ive only managed to overcome after years of self harm and alcohol abuse. Doing all of this as a person with Aspergers made it almost irreconcilable. I still dont know how or why I am here today, but I am grateful for that weekend I got to spend with dad. I wish I had more time with him, I wish I had his guidance and wisdom, and I often wonder what life would have been like If I had a father to help guide me through depression, alcoholism, and just life in general. All that being said, If you have a dad- make the best of it. Take advantage of the advice, wisdom, and encouragement he offers while you can. There are a million things I wish I could have told him, a million other things I wish I could ask him. But there is no going back, as hard as that is to accept. It is what it is.
Puuuh... Brother, I don't even want to start my story here, not because it was in any way dramatic or lossy or anything like that. Pretty much all of my mother's side of the family died from fucking cancer. Like so many women, she had pelvic cancer, but both my parents are still alive, so at some point I still have the whole phase ahead of me, like everyone else. But, to make it short, I just wanted to tell you that I just blindly scrolled down the comments here, saw your text, read it, copied it and had it translated into German in the google translator, because my English is is fine, but doesn't do justice to an emotional text like yours, where every word can count. Conclusion: I was really touched, especially because a bunch of other people will surely find themselves similar to him and often regret that they realized too late that they actually wanted to say or do so much that is no longer possible. Apparently you've made your peace with it and look back positively. This is probably everyone's optimum goal. I already know that I'll be sitting there later regretting not spending more time with them etc etc... And with this text not becoming half a monological novel again, I'll just say, THANK YOU FOR YOUR OPENESS, KEEP POSITIVE AND TAKE GOOD. 🤘 from Germany p.s. If my text suggests a grammatical anti-talent in the author, or if it simply triggers absolute shame in its entire writing, I'll be happy to give you the google-translate-customer-complaint-address. That's not exactly what I stand for this time 😜
@@tobithomas23 Hey Tobi (assuming thats your name), Im so, so sorry it took me so long to see your reply my friend. I dont comment on youtube very often so I dont often check my notifications. I am so sorry for the fear you must feel, dreading the day that it happens to you since somehow cancer has found a way to pass on to future generations. My grandma also died of cancer (my dads mom), and her husband (my grandpa) died of kidney cancer as well. On my moms side, my grandma passed from her 4th bout of cancer (breast cancer when she was younger, ovarian later on, and it was her 2nd bout with esophageal that killed her just 2 months ago, after surviving THREE times- truly a warrior). All that to say, not to complain, but just to say how heartbreaking it is to feel like you (we) are destined to die young because we have noticed a pattern in our families and developed a sort of trauma response/pessimism/ whatever you want to call it, in response to the tragedy that befell us. I am both warmed and saddened to hear this, because while it makes me feel less alone in such a similar experience, it is saddening that you share in such a thing. The fact that you scrolled down, found my message, translated it, and put it so eloquently and with so much empathy makes me very happy. You seem like a truly wonderful person and wise beyond your years, and I want you to know that I appreciate your words. The peace that I have found comes from living with the flaws I cant fix and mastering those that I can (very similar to the AA’s serenity prayer funnily enough). I recognize that the events that happened to me in the past really fucked me up and put me on a bad path, but it had to be me that got myself out at the end of the day. Ive lost over 100lbs, am in better shape than I was even at my best, found a new career, getting a masters degree, in therapy; I am actually the happiest I have ever been, and the best part is, I did a lot of it on my own. I still fear that a sudden cancer diagnosis or traumatic health crisis will happen upon me when I am at my happiest though. And thats what I am working on to overcome now. I wish I could offer you better words to help you navigate similar fears, if you have them, but my philosophy these days is just to enjoy the good days, because you just dont know how many of them are in the cards for you. That may sound bitter, but I think its beautiful. Beautiful because of the hypothetical situation where you live the rest of your life with that mindset where you enjoy your good days as if they were numbered, only to find out on your deathbed at 90 years old that you have lived a full and happy life due solely to that same fact, that you suffered and feared and overcame and lived your life to it’s fullest, even when life showed you time and time again how cruel and unfair it could be. Your perspective on this is really beautiful, and I am so thankful to have heard from you! Stay blessed my friend (from America 🤝🍔)
@@samscott3505 Hey my friend. With us it is 06:30 in the morning. I just happened to see your answer after I've been up all night and had to inhale a few too many comedy specials 😄.. Thx for that, Tom Segura, Bill Burr and co. Will write a more dignified final answer one day, because I find it difficult to finish such extensive topics with a few clumsy words. (By the way, I write such long texts, if at all only very rarely for a single reason. I'm lazy to write as fck 😆) As a rule, I only like to write comments on RU-vid when it's worth it, i.e. when supporters of intelligence beasts such as Marjorie Taylor Greene etc throwing out their brain diarrhea here... 🙈 But first a few points quickly and superficially... 1. I am VERY happy for you that you can finally reap the fruits that you have obviously worked for and deserved.. R.E.S.P.E.C.T. and congratulations on that... 👌 2. Thx for your empathetic and compassionate words, but my life, the circumstances and everything around it is not that bad. At least not when you see it in relation to many, many other lost and forgotten souls in this world. Just a few basics as an example. Ukraine, Yemen, Iran, even the sight of the Streets of Philadelphia is absolutely horrific. Or I remember how about 25 years ago a buddy of my cousin died of leukemia at the age of 14 damn years. Etc, etc... As you know yourself, the list is shitty long.. 😔 At the age of 41, I can only describe my personal impression, which I have now noticed for myself. 1. You can only really develop yourself completely, or get the best out of yourself with everything you love, or with everything that comes easy to you..regardless of whether it is a job, hobby or anything else.. (otherwise I would have never taught myself to play the guitar again when I was over 30 by playing my fingers sore all night) 2. Anything that is extremely stressful on the inside, such as a completely wrong job, will DEFINITELY make you sick sooner or later. Apart from all the carbon monoxide that we humans have been blowing into the air for at least 20, 30, 40 years alone, in my opinion stress is by far the biggest reason why we get sick or die these days... So all the best to you and have a nice weekend 🤘 p.s. That's what I meant by "can't give a short answer to something like that"🙄😄 although the answer was only skimmed over..
My god this breaks my heart 😢 I can feel what he feels when he speaks and the regrets he has of being young and not fully understanding life and wishing he would’ve maybe done different. ❤
I hear you bro, I look after my disabled mom since I was 10 And now I also look after my aunty with cancer and my brothers father who had a stroke a few years ago..all 3 of um on my own and you serve a purpose. I'm 24 and realizing time is so precious.. Respect man. Keep your head up
Crying watching this bro my dad was pretty old when he had me he’s 73 now and I’m 17 him and I have a good relationship but i feel like I don’t appreciate him enough he’s rough around the edges but he means well and I just feel so bad because out of all my siblings I’m the only one that really comes and sees him I understand that a lot of my brothers and sisters are busy but it hurts him and I feel so bad but I can understand why they wouldn’t want to be around him because he can be hard to be around especially since we don’t agree on most things and sometimes it can be frustrating because we have nothing in common but I will always love my dad with all my heart thank you Theo for opening my eyes my dad has been pretty sick and I realize now I need to have this relationship with him while I can I’m sorry it didn’t work that way for u man😕
Damn this hits so close to home. He's describing feelings that I hadn't considered other people having. Knowing a loved one could pass at anytime and putting up a wall so you won't get hurt when they're gone
Heavy duty. Tuff 2 listen to. Hits home with a lotta males I bet. That's some real pain right there no way going back. Respect for that in depth hitter. If your pops listening down he gotta be proud now tellin him. Now I gotta call my pops appreciate while he still here... gizzangitang
My parents were older when I was born too….my Mom was 42 and Dad 45. I was embarrassed by their ages too. Said they were my grandparents etc. I miss them both dearly and wish I could ask them questions about things I think of now, but can’t. If your parents are alive….tell them you love them! You’ll regret it if you don’t! 😢
I just "discovered" Theo Von a couple of weeks ago. Before I had never even heard of him (I didn't watch MTV and I don't live in America) but the guy has so much depth and wisdom in him, and he's better in touch with his feelings the 95% of the human population. Just listening to him talk about this made me cry for a moment there. Also him talking about ending up alone reminded me so much of the song "Desperado" by the Eagles. I hope Theo finds true love and happiness in his life. He deserves it.
We have a saying in Ireland, Theo : "The seed in your heart shall blossom..." I resented my old man a lot growing up, but he was always there for me when he was alive, and now that I've grown up and had kids, I can see he was trying to do his best for his family. He tried. Nobody's perfect. I certainly amn't. Tomorrow is promised to no man. Tell them in the living years. R.I.P. all our fathers. They tried.
He's the only person who can do it via Videos and Podcasts and YT. I feel my recovery strengthen, my tears flow and my heart and soul heal with every minute he talks. One of a Kind.
As someone who has found Theo recently through funny clips on social media, I would have never thought this dude to be such a deep thinker and to address serious issues as well as he does. It's almost cathartic listening to him talk about this stuff, you can tell he is a true and genuine person and not some fake persona for the camera. Really admire him much more so now.
Things like this are brutally difficult to admit to yourself and acknowledge, actually vocalising them so beautifully so such a huge audience is such an unfathomable display of strength and self awareness and vulnerability, I hope to be all of those things tj half the degree Theo is one day
