If the state wasn't involved with marriage, I'd have no issues with it. When a court can (statistically in her favor) rip away what either of us have worked for, it's much different. My long-term gf is also a licensed therapist and knows my position on this btw
Hey I'm with you crimes guy. I do think that the courts lean favorably toward women and maybe it would be better if the state stayed out of it. Thanks for the comment!
@@arturjcrebelo3275 Thanks for your insight Arthur. Yes @arturjcrebelo3275 there are legal incentives for a woman to break the contract but there are plenty of relational reasons not to. Divorce is emotionally hard. people want to be in relationship and people want family. At the end of the day marriage is a relationship more than a legal arrangement in my estimation. People typically don't enter a marriage with the legal/financial benefits as the primary reason why they do it. Thanks for the conversation fellas.
Dave....those words are nails on a chalkboard to me. You're not a loser. Maybe you need to make some changes. Make the changes. A great girl is in reach! I didn't have a girlfriend until i was an adult and not I have a wonderful marriage to an amazing woman. I'm rooting for you brother.
So your telling me I need to go into the most impactful choice I’ll ever make, where I can be destroyed on a whim with only trust. . . yet the quote you used to make your point was from a world renown MILITARY TACTICIAN who was so successful in deception and strategy, his wisdom spanned over several centuries……. Got it 👍🏾
I am just using a wise analogy. I am not at all suggesting that deception and strategy should be used in a marriage. And the way you talk about being destroyed on a whim does make think that you have difficulty trusting people. Trust is well established as one of the most important principles in a relationship. Thanks for watching Ludavelli. I know you disagree but I genuinely appreciate your comments.
If a good marriage is about not being scared of the legalities of it, but just being good at relationships. Then somebody explain to me why it’s such a point of contention when I ask you to relinquish the proverbial knife (government and court control over me) that you brought with you when we agreed to do this together?????
I'm a little lost Ludavelli. Are you saying that the woman brings with her the proverbial knife? I don't know if I see it like that. The system is what it is. There could be a girl out there who doesn't even think about using the "knife". All she wants is to love a man and to be loved in return and to have a family. I think that a lot of people think that way.
56% end in divorce. The potential cost is scary. 20k on average. Thats just the court costs. You inherent up to half the debt, alimony a portion of your resources are taken and that can be the min. I was married, it didnt work out. I went from 310 in debt to 18k because I inherited half of her debt. Spent three years getting rid of it. I am not debt free as of two months ago.
I'm really sorry that happened to you Marvin. Sound terrible. I hope you mean you are now debt free! If you are congratulations! Thank you for sharing and for watching.
i dont want to get married , i dont care about those kids , people think life is about emotions , belief , ok well and good. life is also about statistics .
You don't have to get married or have kids if you don't want to Ravich. I don't believe that is for everyone. But I will say that human beings were created to connect and have relationships! Thanks for watching!
