Therapist Reacts to FINDING NEMO - Parenting and Trauma 

😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉😂❤❤❤❤THANKS I NEEDED A LAUGH ABOUT MY FUCHIN CHILDHOOD TRAUMAS😢😂😂😭🤮🤮🤧🤢🤕🤬🤪🤯🤯🤯🤯TRAUMA CAUSES BRAIN INJURY AND P.T.S.D. ,DEPRESSION, ANXIETY! HELICOPTERS 🎉😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉😂🎉😂😂WTF PARENTING IN (***FINDING NEMO***) ARE YOU SMILING YET??? IT IS FUNNY BUT NOT FUNNY (** CHILD ABUSE, NEGLECT, ABUSE ,TRAUMAS?*😢

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How was this comment made 7 days ago when the video was only uploaded 8 hours ago?

Happy 20th Anniversary to the Pixar’s 1ST Academy Award Winning Feature Film RELEASE! (May 30th, 2003 - 2023)

@@reubenmanzo2054 videos can be uploaded to the website before they're made public, and a lot of youtubers have their uploads scheduled to post automatically, especially larger productions like Cinema Therapy. So they would've uploaded the video to the site and gotten their promotional comment in order before it ever hit public view a week later. Some also do that to make the video unlisted for a short period of time so patreon members can have early paid access to youtube videos, but I'm not sure if they do that with this channel.

And the best part is that Nemo's character isn't just "disabled." He has an actual personality and it makes you forget that he's disabled sometimes, which is what stories are SUPPOSED to do!

​@@Barnowl65i actually never realized until I read this comment lol

It does a good job of making Merlin’s behavior and Nemo’s frustration all the more nuanced! His disability serves as a reminder to Merlin that danger and accidents can happen at any moment, whereas Nemo doesn’t give his fin much of a second thought past it being another thing for his dad to worry about, instead wanting to focus on all else that’s around him

Plus Gill had basically the same disability (though his was acquired through injury rather than a birth defect) and was able to help Nemo overcome his insecurities instilled in him by Marlin and teach him problem solving skills.

I was born with a disability similar to Nemo’s, in my right arm just like Nemo’s right fin! Nemo was such good representation for me because I hadn’t seen a disabled character such as myself be treated with such respect and acknowledgment in the cast without making him an anomaly to be singled out. I relate to Nemo so much, especially with dealing with overprotective parents and not knowing why I’m not being treated normally like my peers. I still call my right arm my “lucky arm” solely because of this movie and I’m proud of it :)

I know!!!!

" I look at you and....and..and I'm home." Gets me EVERY TIME.

You understand her even better in this situation after Finding Dory. "I don't want to forget." She spend her entire life alone by herself not rememering what it was like to have someone, a family so to speak of. Marlin was the first thing she could finally hold onto.

And then we understand why she doesn’t. She’d been alone her entire life

​@@chattycatty3336Good on the acting! That was delivered perfectly!

Dont forget dads ptsd and aunt flow

Every main character has some form of disability. That’s what the movie is about!

i agree completely, as someone with ADHD it was so amazing to see Dory as a kid because it reassured me that even if my memory is kinda trash, the people who matter are gonna love me anyway.

😂

Dory always was one of the characters i connected the most with. Seeing someone with memory issues (like me with ADHD) was super comforting.

Nemo is the last piece Marlin has of his Wife Coral and rest of his Children. Marlin is willing to do anything to never let that last piece go.

Please don’t make sexual jokes or advances or swear God wouldn’t like that and there are children here May God bless you and your family and help you Give your life to Jesus Christ and repent. I pray that God will lead on the path to Jesus Christ and send the Holy Spirit to be your helper. I pray this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ I pray Amen! Jesus Christ loves you. Give your life to Jesus Christ and ask for forgiveness for ALL OF YOUR SINS. Even the ones committed in the past and repent. He’s coming soon. Please pray and repent. GOD IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!!! THE BEGINNING AND THE END!!! GOD SENT HIS SON DOWN TO DIE ON THE CROSS FOR OUR SINS. PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM!!! PRAY AND REPENT AND GOD IS COMING!!!!!! THERE IS NO TIME. FELLOW CHRISTIANS GOD WILL BE COMING DON’T LOSE FAITH!!! PLEASE!! PRAY FOR STRENGTH AND DON’T DOUBT HIM!!! Romans 10:9 “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.” Romans 10:10 “For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” 2 Peter 3:1-18 “1 This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance: 2 That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour: 3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts, 4 And saying, Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation. 5 For this they willingly are ignorant of, that by the word of God the heavens were of old, and the earth standing out of the water and in the water: 6 Whereby the world that then was, being overflowed with water, perished: 7 But the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men. 8 But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. 9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. GOD JESUS CHRIST AND THE HY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!! 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” GOD, JESUS CHRIST, AND THE HOLY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA.

@@KyleEvra Please don’t make sexual jokes or advances or swear God wouldn’t like that and there are children here May God bless you and your family and help you Give your life to Jesus Christ and repent. I pray that God will lead on the path to Jesus Christ and send the Holy Spirit to be your helper. I pray this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ I pray Amen! Jesus Christ loves you. Give your life to Jesus Christ and ask for forgiveness for ALL OF YOUR SINS. Even the ones committed in the past and repent. He’s coming soon. Please pray and repent. GOD IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!!! THE BEGINNING AND THE END!!! GOD SENT HIS SON DOWN TO DIE ON THE CROSS FOR OUR SINS. PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM!!! PRAY AND REPENT AND GOD IS COMING!!!!!! THERE IS NO TIME. FELLOW CHRISTIANS GOD WILL BE COMING DON’T LOSE FAITH!!! PLEASE!! PRAY FOR STRENGTH AND DON’T DOUBT HIM!!! Romans 10:9 “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.” Romans 10:10 “For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” 2 Peter 3:1-18 “1 This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance: 2 That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour: 3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts, 4 And saying, Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation. 5 For this they willingly are ignorant of, that by the word of God the heavens were of old, and the earth standing out of the water and in the water: 6 Whereby the world that then was, being overflowed with water, perished: 7 But the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men. 8 But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. 9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. GOD JESUS CHRIST AND THE HY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!! 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” GOD, JESUS CHRIST, AND THE HOLY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA.

@@angelemeana2754 What the fuck are you talking about?

Considering the phenomenon of clownfish in the wild changes sexes when there is a lack of male/female mates this theory is so wild

Yup, tbh not every story needs characters to end up together for it to be a good movie, infact if your film or show is relying on romance (when its not a romance show/film) to hook the audience then it isn't a good show/film. An example of this is how Star Wars episode 8 and 9 just introduced a bunch of random relationships for some reason (remember when everyone thought Rey and Kylo were originally siblings in episode 7, lol good times)

Also they're different species so +1 for biological accuracy

It would be weird since they're 2 different species of fish.

Yeah also it good to have people of the other gender be friends and see each other as equal not one more capable than the other on some things or more emotional that the other as not seeing the opposite as equal can lead to bad thingss

Actually, I think the director’s commentary asserted that Dory is a surrogate CHILD for Marlin. She teaches him to be a better parent, while Nemo gets a surrogate parent who lets him take bigger risks (not all of which are good).

Not the correct timestanp?

@@Spido68_the_spectator fixed. Thanks

An even better time stamp is 2:18 when he says THREE and then deadpan stares into the void lmaoo.

mhm

Yes! I've been in therapy for years to deal with exactly this. I didn't realize it wasn't normal until I was nearly 30

Glad it was thought provoking. Thanks for watching!

I’ve had a similar realization after watching their videos in the past. Firstly the parent situation, which became what I describe as inaccurately as baby panic attacks when trying something new or something that could potentially be challenging in front of others due to fear of failure. Going bowling, playing instruments, singing, swimming, anything competitive, etc. in front of others would cause me to freeze, stop thinking, shake, lose hearing, sweat, etc.

Exact same here

I'm afraid of failing because I know my parents tend to react disappointed or negatively to it, and because of it I tend to hide my failures and not be open to avoid criticism. They're great parents otherwise, it just bothers me how every little mistake turns into "you shouldn't have done this and that", and then rephrasing all the ways in which I screwed up over and over, like I'm completely incapable of learning from my own mistakes by myself. Never understood why they focus so much on what already happened, instead of on ways to move forward and fixing the problem. I feel bad for hiding my personal issues from them, but at the same time I'm terrified to own up to my short comings and failures because I know I won't get a supportive response from them.😞

I am now 26 and for the first time in my life I've finally truly realized that it's okay to try things and fail. That if I do fail everything will be alright and I can figure out what to do next. I expect I could've come to this conclusion much sooner had I been raised to be comfortable with trying new things and failing, but I, too, was raised as a perfectionist. So despite this realization actually being able to pick an avenue to try and fail at still comes with difficulty and I'm prone to indecision.

I was coming down to the comments to say this!! The two of them are such perfect foils in this story about the pain of memory. So good, so beautiful.

One of the best movie ❤️

Early Pixar was incredible at this, with Nemo, Toy Story and Up all being able to be viewed and loved by kids but also telling you a story that sticks and can even be relatable for many, they really did dive into more mature concepts which I adored

cat the in hat

Not to mention that Finding Dory showed how disabilities shouldn’t have to hold you back, and when you have a system, you can do anything.

You gotta love how in the next one, they let Nemo keep the confidence and wisdom he built for himself in this movie

Nobody touch him!! When my son was a baby and me or my wife would rush to pick him up or get him unstuck before he had a chance to try himself I would hear Willem Defoe saying that in my head.

​@@aawillma O. M. G. I never realized Gill was Willem Dafoe. Holy crap...

Now that I know that, I can’t unhear Gill saying to Nemo, “Gill’s on sabbatical, honey!” FTR I was also considering “Can the clownfish come out to play?”

​@@catdragon2584 **insert maniacal and sinister laughter**

@@aawillma OMG... Gill was william the dafoe?!?! Now I can't unhear it, I thought yo were talking about spiderman he's in and I'm like he doesn't have that line there- oh... 0_0

I can't NOT cry at Dory's plea for Marlin to not leave her! 😭😭😭

I cried too ❤

❤😢 I went to see this film with my co-worker, who is a mom. She was the one who suggested the film. When she saw that I cried, she said "You're crying over a fish??!"🐠🐟🪸🦀🦈🐡🐳 We never went to another film...🥲🙄

@@amandamcquade1272 I mean shouldn't she cry too? Who can feel nothing when seeing that?

@@amandamcquade1272 Thank you for sharing. You are an empathic person whilst the lack of empathy is strong in that one.

I also think it comes down to timing. You don't really have a reason to be invested in Marlin's relationship with Nemo if you don't have his backstory. An overprotective parent going to save his son leaves gaps to be filled in, namely that he's doing it out of obligation as a parent at best and to be a control freak at worst. When you know it's rooted in having lost all but one child, wife included, it's no longer about being overprotective as his nature. It's a life experience, and there's a focus very early on.

Really good point

Exactly. That's why you don't be a dick to certain people that look like they are angry all the time. There's a reason and be kind.

This is where I kind of do have to make a point that just because something is understandable, it does not make it acceptable or forgivable. When you take into account the history of most abusive and toxic people, many of them have a crap upbringings, many were abused or grew up in a toxic environment themselves and life events may have just made things worst. You only have to look at Hitler, Putin and Trump and look at what is known about their upbringing and childhood to make some of their actions more understandable, but not acceptable or forgivable and this is where I think justice is currently getting things wrong. Far too many people are being let off from criminal convictions or given lighter senses because their crappy lives make their actions more understandable. Now a lot of criminals also have other issues like Bi-polar, ADHD, Autism, etc. I don't want to diminish the lact of support and assistance available to people, particulier in the earlier years when it has the most effect, is still very lacking and requires a lot more funding and research but I do still believe people need to face consequences for their actions regardless.

​@@Songe467this. And I think this is a point they made clear in the movie. Yes, Marlin's fears are understandable but his demeanor ultimately proves harmful to himself and the people he cares about. Just as Nemo comes to understand how much his father loves him and how brave he can be, Marlin learns thorough the film to trust other people and respect their autonomy.

Preach, it's understandable to try to protect our children, but as they grow, they need to branch out on their own, and they can take little risks every now and then.

Absolutely right! 👍

Beautifully said!

You’re so right man ! ❤️

Agreed, a lot of the times parents can forget that children need to experience the world, yes its painful, yes it may hurt them, but they need to know when to let go sometimes or they will never understand the real world when they grow up and that in turn makes it harder for both the parent and the child

My favorite quote was “Mine.”

"Nothing worsens, nothing grows."

I'm glad you're still with us.

Well I'd argue their duo protagnists since they both have an equal amount of focus in the first movie and for good reason. Since they both need to grow throughout the movie.

I’d argue that “FINDING Nemo” implies Marlin to be the main protagonist, despite its being Nemo’s name!

Yeah, also the title is about the journey Marlin takes, he is finding Nemo and changes as the film goes on. That said Nemo does change as well, so both are the main characters, it’s just that the movie is clearly Marlin’s film because we follow his journey far longer than Nemo’s, mainly because Marlin is the one that really needs to change and overcome his past trauma in order to trust Nemo and let him live life without constantly worrying about something bad that might happen.

@@martyshwaartz971 It'd both. Marlin is finding Nemo physically. Nemo is finding Nemo emotionally. Marlin is trying to find out WHERE Nemo is. Nemo is trying to find out WHO Nemo is.

As a kid I thought Marlin was Nemo despite the script clearly stating otherwise simply because Marlin was the main character but the title had Nemo in it.

Exactly, I can totally relate to that especially since I have Aspergers and I hate it when my parents convince me of what I am and am not capable of.

its one of the things i learned from avatar with toph and her overprotective parents. she is blind and needs some assistance but she is still capable enough to take care of herself. as well as the damage it does when you feel like everyone is babying you. because that is what you are used to despite not needing this absurd level of care. hell i'm pretty sure that was a topic the show brought up. toph doesn't want to depend on and open up to other people and the desire to not be pitied because of how she was raised because of her disability. the disability itself was never a problem. it was the response to it that was upsetting because it became her personality. it wasn't she is a blind girl who enjoys her hobbies it was the blind girl who is doing something. personhood is completely stripped away

Same here. In my youth (like 10 to 20 y; now I am 34 y) I got told, what I am able to and what I am not. And I proofed them so much of so wrong. What I still miss on this date is a "Hey I am sorry I told you, that you can't and I see now that I was wrong and you smashed that." - But I guess I will never get that ^^°

​@@suuyasha2496 Your phrase of "I proved them so much of so wrong" brought back so many memories of my own, LOL: 1) I remember the first time I baked a complex cake-like dessert for my mom by myself without even ever baking while supervised before. I did it in secret, before she woke up (and even cleaned up all traces of mess)...so that really surprised her LOL. 2) At age 9 or 10, just to see if I could do it, I built a wooden box-like trap with a sliding door and tricky mechanism to trap (and release!) a squirrel. While I was building it and fine-tuning it, I actually had to lie and tell my dad that I was "just playing around" and "never actually expected to trap one" (in order to more easily get him to "indulge" me by providing some proper boards). Boy was he surprised when I woke him up one morning saying "Daddy! I got a squirrel!" He was like "No you didn't". But he soon saw he was wrong :P There are many more examples including some that are more dangerous, but those are a couple of my favorites.

I had the same experience. When I was about 20, my therapist at the time told me that my parents adopted me knowing I had a disability. Because of my disability, I needed a lot of help & when you help someone a lot, you control them a lot. My parents love me very much. However, I don't believe they always trusted my judgment. Even now, they sometimes doubt it which is very frustrating. I feel like I'm not taken seriously as an adult, as opposed to my older brother who doesn't have a disability. I'm in my mid-thirties now and have a child of my own. My husband and I are raising him to make the best choices he can, let him do things for himself (as well as he can, with help at times) and be there for him in case he falls. Granted, there's not much to it yet as he's only a year and a half old (tho, kids that age already start to desire a sense of control and independence which really kicks in when they turn two. It's a pretty standard part of their development.) For example, we're already letting him go up and down stairs by himself. We'll be right there behind him in case he stumbles. I'm pretty proud of myself for letting him do it his own way. This is why cultivating independence is so important for people in the disabled community, regardless of what kind of disability and/or disorder you have. So often we're not seen as capable or even a whole person and we really need to realign how people view those of us with disabilities.

RatBirds

Wishing you all the love and support!! You are brave!!

It's honestly frightnening to think that if this wasn't a cartoon about colourful, cartoon fish, this movie would have been quite traumatic to children, Pixar sure was good at doing this, Up is another great example of them adding humour to an otherwise very sad and tearjerking story at its core

Rare? People lose their whole families all the time. What wonderful world do you live in where that is rare?

@@brumfield2893they probably meant that most people lose every family member in one setting. Usually it’s rather one or two (which is bad enough) but rarely two dozen (or however many eggs clownfish lay)…

@@brumfield2893 Yeah, I think they meant it's rare to lose your whole family at one time, like in one fell swoop. Most tragedies include one person (whether it be a parent, sibling, grandparent, etc.), but entire family murders aren't all that common. They happen, but they're not the norm.

@@hnichole I mean, has your country ever been at war? Has your government genocided anyone? What about plagues or famine? Natural disasters? Murder isn’t the only way to lose your family.

I wonder if that was written with the implication there would be a sequel with her parents one day

@@RB01.10because there was a finding dory movie, the movie was great too ngl, made me cry.

Wow really I was a barely a baby when this movie came out

And also of course that he feels incredibly guilty that he didn't listen to and manipulated her when she tried to warn him they should go *through* the tunnel, and then she ended up almost dying because of him!!!

😂

@@KyleEvra what in any of these comments would emit a smiling crying laughing face??

so clever for the movie to do that perspective.

I was 34 weeks pregnant with kid #2 1st time I saw Nemo...the opening still kills me 20 years later.

I am so sorry to hear about losing your mom :( And yes, regarding what you said about this movie, I can definitely relate to not knowing exactly what "bugs" me about a particular situation sometimes. There's a particular decision I've made in my life recently that involves big pros and cons (and the pros outweigh the cons). At first I mainly felt anxious and angry regarding the "cons"... but after some time I realized I mostly felt sad about them... and thus "tried out / had" a "good cry"... and that actually helped me clarify my actual feelings about the situation, and progress toward adaptive behaviors regarding the situation (i.e. being able to move on). I think that's the first time I used "a good cry" in "real life" since the following event: I have a very recent appreciation for tearjerker movies. It was "Inside Out" (in my 30's) that did it- first time I noticed actual endorphins coming along with the tears (which I later researched is definitely "a thing"!). Prior to that, I had a VERY sparse / almost-nonexistent history of crying to movies that I can remember... the first time I can remember was around 12 years old but I honestly can't remember a time after that until that "Inside Out" incident. But after "Inside Out", I became a tearjerker-seeker lol. The desirable result is still rare and unpredictable so it's been a bit frustrating, lol. Sometimes 7 months to a few years go by without stumbling across a REALLY good one. Between those times, the occasional movie may make me "tear up" but that doesn't last too long (THIS reaction did it to me during the late scene and line of "You're right- I know you can!" but those were on the side of "happy tears").

@@sathvamp1 thanks for the reply about my mom I highly appreciate it. I still miss her even though she passed a couple of years ago. But, I appreciate your thoughts about crying to movies. I definitely cry a lot to movies too

​@@maryumgardner737 It's interesting how you said "almost" spilled tears because that's actually more-accurately what happened to me during "Inside Out." I know I had I used the phrase "...endorphins along with the tears" but I was just trying to simplify the story. Here is what happened in more detail: In particular, during that scene where Joy was in the pit and said the line "Do my you remember how she used to stick her tongue out when she was coloring?" THAT line hit me like a truck, and I almost instantly cried, BUT... my roommates were watching it with me, and especially because I had a very sparse / nonexistent history of crying to movies or in general, I just REALLY did NOT want them to see me cry :P So... I did suppress actual tear-shedding BUT with such great effort that it actually felt painful to my brain! In fact, if I could rewind time, I actually think I would have decided differently and not cared if they saw me crying or not :P But despite the suppressing of *actual* tear-shedding... apparently that didn't stop those usually-associated feel-good brain endorphins from getting released. Because... AFTER the movie, when I started thinking about that reaction I'd had, I realized I had a very strong craving to seek out MORE tearjerker movies. THAT was VERY surprising to me, given my history (or lack thereof) with such movies. BEFORE that, I'd either simply not cared for them or flat-out avoided them. So. yes, I did try to seek more out, on purpose... which apparently (for me) was easier said that done. BUT a few really push those buttons of mine, such as: "Interstellar," "The Land Before Time" (rewatching that one after not seeing it for about 20 years... triggered the most intense cry of my life), and "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" (well, for that one, my cry was AFTER that movie had ended, when the wheels in my head had some quiet time to turn).

Good for you. Did you get bullied?

😂

Nice try, but new generations aren't having kids.

Not all are choosing not to have children. But you are right for the most part. And who can blame them?

​@@tyrant-den884 Was there a specific need for you to try & detract from their valid point? Are fewer people having kids? Yes. But for those who are, this expression still rings true!

@@tyrant-den884 New generations aren't living on as solid ground as older generations were. Everything costs more now, people are crushed under student debt, and wages are stagnant

​@@PS-dm1dqTrue, there are many people I know who grew up in loving households yet still chose not to have kids for these reasons.

I almost cried reading this. Congratulations on your squirt graduating! You're doing great

I hope your son is doing well. He’ll be alright. Being on your own is an adjustment and just remember that it’s OK to make mistajes.

He also definitely had shared cinematic insight by that point as well 😂

Mine neither (well, with mine, it's more of a case of "can't do virtually anything on my own without risking getting killed or hurt), but, here are all my related stories: 1) I remember the first time (as a child) I baked a complex cake-like dessert for my mom by myself without even ever baking while supervised before. I did it in secret, before she woke up (and even cleaned up all traces of mess)...so that really surprised her LOL. 2) At age 9 or 10, just to see if I could do it, I built a wooden box-like trap with a sliding door and tricky mechanism to trap (and release!) a squirrel. While I was building it and fine-tuning it, I actually had to lie and tell my dad that I was "just playing around" and "never actually expected to trap one" (in order to more easily get him to "indulge" me by providing some proper boards). Boy was he surprised when I woke him up one morning saying "Daddy! I got a squirrel!" He was like "No you didn't". But he soon saw he was wrong :P There are many more examples including some that are more dangerous, but those are a couple of my favorites. My mom did teach me that the world is very dangerous (which it IS)... BUT I merely took that as "information". On the other hand, whether or not I actually TOOK certain risks depended not only on the "degree of risk," but MAINLY how motivated I was to deal with that risk, to get what I needed (OR what I really, really wanted). There is ALWAYS going to be a need for juggling SOME risks; if one takes NO risks, they can't even get what they NEED, and that is of course not sustainable (i.e. when they were stuck in the whale; it was actually riskiest long-term to take NO actions). I took most of my risks AFTER I got to college (there, my parents didn't need to know about everything I did, haha). But I still had friends who acted sort of like "workout spotters" with whatever big risks I was taking. But the difference was... my friends LET me take the risks (whereas my mom would not have let me). I really like Gill's "tough but empowering encouragement" for Nemo to accomplish things... Gill reminded me so much of my dad, who is the reason I joyously tackle even very difficult situations without later regretting my actions (regardless of the outcome...as long as I truly tried my best AND worked with all information actually known to me).

Maybe she sees it as just a movie, simply intertainment purposes?

​@@sathvamp1thank you for sharing your experiences! That clarifies how it is that parents make us feel like we can't accomplish things by ourselves. My mom, in this case, was the one who wanted to control my entire life and even now as an adult she wants to control me from afar and expects me to text her daily. I *don't* want to, but it's hard to stand up for myself because she doesn't really listen to me anyway.

Old toxic patterns and behaviors are not just difficult to break sometimes, but to even become aware of... all you can do is learn from your mother's mistakes and not to subconsciously repeat them somewhere else along your life.

Same. And then she tells me to just do something I was never taught or shown how to do, and when I tell her I can't magically do it, she uses it as “evidence”.

I know for me, one of the worst pains I’ve ever gone through (which is saying a lot bc I have a truckload of trauma), was when I found the person that felt like home, and suddenly realizing at a certain point, that person was no longer home for me. And it broke me in a way, because I had never ever had that before, and then to lose it, its been five years now, and I still feel that loss. They didn’t die, but the love between us did, and not on my end. Even now just writing about it still hurts.

I’ve had that happen. I carried that pain for years. I did eventually find a support group that helped me find home outside of that person that left me.

@@SuperSparklesGurl I’m saying many of us have never even experienced that at all. I’m sure it’s hard overcoming losing that person. But it hurts badly to never even have it to begin with. You know the saying… better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all…

Some people still have the drive to be independent even if it takes a while for them to "be allowed to practice" it... like in my case: My mom is the one who taught me that the world is very dangerous (which it IS)... BUT I merely took that as "information". On the other hand, whether or not I actually TOOK certain risks depended not only on the "degree of risk," but MAINLY how motivated I was to deal with that risk, to get what I needed (OR what I really, really wanted). There is ALWAYS going to be a need for juggling SOME risks; if one takes NO risks, they can't even get what they NEED, and that is of course not sustainable (i.e. when they were stuck in the whale; it was actually riskiest long-term to take NO actions). So speaking of your mention of college... I took most of my risks AFTER I got to college (there, my parents didn't need to know about everything I did, haha). But I still had friends who acted sort of like "workout spotters" with whatever big risks I was taking. But the difference was... my friends LET me take the risks (whereas my mom would not have let me). I really like Gill's "tough but empowering encouragement" for Nemo to accomplish things... Gill reminded me so much of my dad, who is the reason I joyously tackle even very difficult situations without later regretting my actions (regardless of the outcome...as long as I truly tried my best AND worked with all information actually known to me).

And those kind of parents are the ones that called me and my wife neglectful parents when our kindergarten age kid was able to put on all snow equipment by themselves! They make their lunch(supervised of course) and now that they are older they can cook, clean, and make their own decisions. The 9yr old can make KD or other simple things(again supervised) and the 13yr old is a decent baker. But yeah told we were neglectful parents because our kids can do basic things by themselves

​@@brokefangmagepunk3685 Wow... don't listen to them! That is awesome how you've let your kids do all those things! I remember the first time I proved to my mom that I could make a complex cake-like dessert completely on my own... I didn't tell her I was doing it. I did it very quietly in the morning before she woke up, to surprise her, lol! I even cleaned up every trace of mess to increase the surprise factor :P When I showed it to her in the fridge... she was like "OMG where did that come from- did Grandma bring it?" She was sure surprised to learn I had done it all in secret... and ESPECIALLY that there was zero mess left, LOL!

Both my best friends are like this. One went to college and couldn’t cook, couldn’t do laundry, didn’t know how to do any of the basic functions of an adult. My other one could do basic adult things, but literally had to call home every single day, and drive home Every single weekend (even though her school was 3 hrs away), and to this day, in her 30s, she has panic attacks if she travels away from her family.

​@@anjelica948 I love my family, but as soon as it was time for grad school, I HAD to 100% strike out on my own (I SOMEWHAT did it for college, but wasn't yet 100% independent)... simply because I had to prove to myself that I could provide for myself in all ways, especially financially. It just made me feel too anxious to even wonder if I maybe couldn't do it. Because, I mean, even though my family loved me and WOULD TRY to do all they could (well my parents at least) for me especially if I was in trouble... I ALWAYS KNEW this question was a very real concern: "What if THEY got into trouble themselves, and suddenly just COULD NOT help ME anymore, despite wanting to?"

Be brave and take the risk to have children! It’s so worth it ❤❤

@@EH23831worth it?? In this economy?? 💀

If choosing to have children is what you really want, you should try to go for it. The fact that you’re concerned about how you might do means you’re probably the kind of person who should be a parent. If you have a feeling that you might have helicopter tendencies it’s good that you recognize that, and it’s something you can work on with yourself.

Love from a random internet stranger ❤

I just wanna say that I’ve given up some of my dreams so that I could have kids, and I’d do it again a thousand times over. My family is my best dream

What I did to help this process was ask people the petty questions about certain adult things I'd be struggling with. Do you do anything for your whites outside of just bleach? What job finding app do you use? Where did you buy your car? What would you suggest for [xyz]? It's daunting because the perception is they'll think you don't know something "you're supposed to" but the real truth is that they'd be acting irrationally if they actually acted like a bully on it. Anyone who would get smug about the fact that they "know about spot treatment products for bleaching your whites" while you don't isn't someone who's gonna give you stable information anyway. If they don't know themselves, and act terribly about it, same difference. Oftentimes confidence isn't in thinking "no one will act negatively to this", it's realizing that even if they do they're the ones who are wrong. You're allowed to want to take someone with you to Walmart if it's how you can best trick yourself into grocery shopping. You're allowed to ask your "friend who's a car guy" how to change your own oil. I'm not gonna say "please just try I promise no one will act badly about it", because they might...but that won't be your problem. Not really.

Good for you!

That is amazing, I am 40 years old and to afraid to do what you did, my life sucks but I'm paralyzed by fear. whish you happiness and health.

I love that!!!!

That's all it is, Miles. A leap of faith.

I'm sorry your mom died at seven no less. The loss of a parent isn't something that anyone should have to go through much less a child. I am glad your dad is slowly learning to let you be your own person I wish you luck with your school trip. Also I don't mean to sound ignorant but could you tell me what CP stands for?

@@Viod753 I believe it may stand for Cerebral Palsy, but feel free to correct me

I hope everything goes well with your trip my friend

@@Viod753 It's a common insult in some places unfortunately

@@SofieArts OH!!!!!

That's sooo important! Even loving parents who want the very best for their kids can parent in ways that accidentally instill over-perfectionism and fear of failure? Which makes it tough as the kid to have the confidence to try new things, get creative, and have the risk of not doing things perfectly? 😔

YES- "Gill", the angelfish... I really like Gill's "tough but empowering encouragement" for Nemo to accomplish things... Gill reminded me so much of my dad, who is the reason I joyously tackle even very difficult situations without later regretting my actions (regardless of the outcome...as long as I truly tried my best AND worked with all information actually known to me). My mom is the one who taught me that the world is very dangerous (which it IS)... BUT I merely took that as "information". On the other hand, whether or not I actually TOOK certain risks depended not only on the "degree of risk," but MAINLY how motivated I was to deal with that risk, to get what I needed (OR what I really, really wanted). There is ALWAYS going to be a need for juggling SOME risks; if one takes NO risks, they can't even get what they NEED, and that is of course not sustainable (i.e. when they were stuck in the whale; it was actually riskiest long-term to take NO actions).

If you could tell everyone one thing that would help you for how people treat you what would you choose? What is ok to ask and what isn’t? I want to learn so I can be more respectful in public

I understand your POV, but trust me, it's worse when people just roll their eyes at you for moving slowly, *never* offer help, or outright think you're faking a disability for sympathy. Set your boundaries, but also give thanks to/for the good souls willing to help, however clumsily.

Your mum sounds incredibly strong and doing an amazing job of preparing you kids to survive, but to also keep things in perspective? That's truly impressive!

Your mom sounds like an incredibly strong woman. Good on her.

well that makes the scene ten times worse

Oooh yeahh I really, REALLY like this comment! I have a recent appreciation for tearjerker movies. It was "Inside Out" (in my 30's) that did it- first time I noticed actual endorphins coming along with the tears (which I later researched is definitely "a thing"!). Prior to that, I had a VERY sparse / almost-nonexistent history of crying to movies (or anything, for that matter) that I can remember... the first time I can remember crying to a movie (or maybe even in general) was around 12 years old but I honestly can't remember a time after that until that "Inside Out" incident. But after "Inside Out", I became a tearjerker-seeker lol. The desirable result is still rare and unpredictable so it's been a bit frustrating, lol. Sometimes 7 months to a few years go by without stumbling across a REALLY good one. Between those times, the occasional movie may make me "tear up" but that doesn't last too long (THIS reaction did it to me during the late scene and line of "You're right- I know you can!" but those were on the side of "happy tears"). A handful of years after "Inside Out", I accidentally stumbled upon "Interstellar". Then a few years later, a 20-year-later re-watch of "The Land Before Time" triggered the most intense cry of my LIFE. Then 7 months later, "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" yielded an about-as-intense result (but AFTER that movie was over, interestingly enough).

But I feel weak and like an child when I do...

@@sathvamp1 Have you ever seen the Japanese film Departures? It got my best friend who never cries at movies to cry. A great film about death, grief, and dealing with different kinds of loss.

@@RosheenQuynh Just think of crying like the equivalent of blowing off steam. Think of it as a release, or for maybe a funnier comparison, think of it like going to the bathroom for a poop. Yeah, you'll feel rather bad during the process itself, but afterwards you'll feel relief.

@@RosheenQuynh that’s OK 😞the point is that it’s not healthy to keep it all in

Congratulations! We're so glad to help. You got this!

Woah. This was my experience too. Not because of helicopter parenting tho; my parents were exactly the same way themselves. My mother was physically unable to leave the house much, and I suspect my dad's autistic. He's more interested in his writing than in going outside. They never left the house, so as someone who was dependent on them for transportation and everything I also didn't leave the house, except to go to school like you say. They settled into the life that worked for them and never thought to push their own limits in order to allow me to find out what kind of life worked for me. Because guess what? I'm a lot more physically capable than my mom and a lot more sociable than my dad. And I did not know this until very recently, because I logistically could not access any opportunity that was different from what they'd pursue until I was a legal adult. Until just a year or two ago, I believed myself to be an asocial introvert because that was all I'd been allowed to be. Thankfully, as I type this I realize they may be changing. My mother has expressed concern about the way I never interacted with the wider world during my high school years, and my dad went out of his comfort zone to make me get a job and learn to drive. They're a lot more supportive now of me doing my own things. Well, they always were. Or would have been. If I'd been able to do my own things. Man, screw car culture! Needing help just to travel anywhere is horrible for both parents and children. It stunts everyone. I wish I lived in a more walkable area.

My experience was bit different in that I had my first job at 16 by my own choice and was rather out-going or at least more engaged in social life before I was 19. I grew up feeling like I wasn't ever going to achieve greatness in academics, culinary, career which got amplified by both society and parenting. I now realize just how little I could really choose about my life from my early childhood with toys I wanted to the clothes I wore in teenage years. I earn my own money, buy what I want in moderation, but I can't push myself to truly live for myself since I still live with them & my response to the parenting is to avoid it. My academic standing is average but it's not as bad as I ever expected. At 23, I was grateful one of my parents caved in and got me my first gaming console as a kid because I wouldn't have the friends I have today without it. I still ended up regressing into a semi-hermit lifestyle, only leaving for classes, work, other responsibilities when I have to. I'm in therapy nowadays to get some sense of control back but always wonder if I could have lived without so much anxiety if they truly wanted to learn how to support me positively. The only thing they've ended up doing is screwing me over in their near retirement age, as I have to pick up years of their incapability to find a way to support myself back up *alone*.

I feel seen

You are so welcome.

For me it was Wall-E, probably still one of my favourite pixar movies

@@Ditto.007 Oh I cried for WALL-E too, pretty much every Pixar movie has made me cry which means they’re doing great!

I have a recent appreciation for tearjerker movies. It was "Inside Out" (in my 30's) that did it- first time I noticed actual endorphins coming along with the tears (which I later researched is definitely "a thing"!). Prior to that, I had a VERY sparse / almost-nonexistent history of crying to movies that I can remember... the first time I can remember was around 12 years old but I honestly can't remember a time after that until that "Inside Out" incident. But after "Inside Out", I became a tearjerker-seeker lol. The desirable result is still rare and unpredictable so it's been a bit frustrating, lol. Sometimes 7 months to a few years go by without stumbling across a REALLY good one. Between those times, the occasional movie may make me "tear up" but that doesn't last too long (THIS reaction did it to me during the late scene and line of "You're right- I know you can!" but those were on the side of "happy tears"). A handful of years after "Inside Out", I accidentally stumbled upon "Interstellar". Then a few years later, a 20-year-later re-watch of "The Land Before Time" triggered the most intense cry of my LIFE. Then 7 months later, "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" yielded an about-as-intense result (but AFTER that movie was over, interestingly enough).

Everything you said is the exact situation im in. I feel like i cant express my feelings. My mother reacts poorly to many things, so my dad has told us apease so we dont upset her. Most days i find it difficult to anything because i feel i cant make any of my own decisions. When did you feel like you could be your own person? What happend in your life, or choices you made that helped you to progress? I would be grateful for any words of wisdom you could give. And good luck with your youngins❤

Really, a lot of changes happened after I moved in with my now-husband and realized how much control my parents had had over my life previously, and how unusual it was compared to the experiences of other, more successful adults. Independence grew on me very uncomfortably as I adjusted and that’s when I started experiencing a lot of anger towards how ill-equipped I found myself to be. I had struggled to live independently previously, really only having real freedom when I was in college, during which time I didn’t know how to utilize it and mostly stayed home and watched TV. When I started building healthier adult relationships outside of my family I was able to start healing. And I won’t pretend that therapy isn’t helpful. I got a therapist during Covid which helped me work through some things. I don’t have a personal therapist right now but I do watch a lot of this kind of content online to try and process my feelings and boost my coping skills. I push myself to confront normal relationship conflicts when they happen rather than letting them fester like I used to. I don’t want to have that kind of anger in my life again. I do still struggle with expressing myself honestly and I find that it’s much easier for me to do in writing, so I tend to text when I want to broach a subject and then we talk about it later. That way I get the baseline expression part out of the way. I hesitate to give advice because I don’t know your personal relationship dynamics. I’m in a better place now because I’ve been reflecting on a lot of things lately. I knew I was depressed before I became independent but I didn’t recognize what was actually happening in my relationships until I had something to compare it to. And nowadays I’m reflecting a lot on other things that I know contributed to some of my issues as well, for example school bullying after a traumatic move as a young child. That created a lot of scenarios that I think my parents were unsure of how to handle which left me feeling lost and unimportant. But it wasn’t because they weren’t trying. Parenthood has helped me recontextualize some of the things that happened in my childhood, realizing that every parent is just as dumb as me 😅 sometimes you don’t know what to do. I have the advantage of the internet to look things up when I am uncertain and they didn’t have that. I wish you the best, the whole world is out there. You can do it.

Hehe, it CAN actually be a good thing to protect against serious injury while climbing things as a young child because the "careful" part of their brain isn't working yet! I know this firsthand (even WITHOUT having any traumatic experience myself, actually): I remember there was a rocky shoreline with some cliff-like rocks my family and I would take my childhood vacations to... and there was ONE year when I suddenly gained a sense of "carefulness" in terms of not climbing recklessly and not getting too close to the edge of cliffs, and I remember asking my dad, "HOW did I not accidentally fall off these cliffs LAST year? I don't remember feeling like I needed to be careful last year!" My dad told me he'd had (with his hand) hold of my shirt collar the entire time I was running around like a squirrel LOL. I didn't even remember that :D I am definitely sorry about your earlier experiences with not feeling like you were able to branch out independently- I can say that my mom is the one who taught me that the world is very dangerous (which it IS)... BUT I merely took that as "information". On the other hand, whether or not I actually TOOK certain risks depended not only on the "degree of risk," but MAINLY how motivated I was to deal with that risk, to get what I needed (OR what I really, really wanted). There is ALWAYS going to be a need for juggling SOME risks; if one takes NO risks, they can't even get what they NEED, and that is of course not sustainable (i.e. when they were stuck in the whale; it was actually riskiest long-term to take NO actions). I took most of my risks AFTER I got to college (there, my parents didn't need to know about everything I did, haha). But I still had friends who acted sort of like "workout spotters" with whatever big risks I was taking. But the difference was... my friends LET me take the risks (whereas my mom would not have let me). I really like Gill's "tough but empowering encouragement" for Nemo to accomplish things... Gill reminded me so much of my dad, who is the reason I joyously tackle even very difficult situations without later regretting my actions (regardless of the outcome...as long as I truly tried my best AND worked with all information actually known to me).

I feel like a lot of (good) parenting is stopping yourself from stepping in and letting your child try it themselves. It's so hard to stop yourself, but I keep reminding myself that it'll pay off in the long run.

My mom is also an overprotective helicopter parent. I'm fiercely independent so even though I did learn a lot of life skills the hard way, i was so ready to learn them when I moved out at 18. As a parent now, i do understand the fear of something bad happening to your child, but I'm working with seeing that fear and choosing to allow my kids to take "safer" risks in order to learn, gain confidence, and grow. I do feel bad about the first scar my firstborn got while she helped me cook. But I also love cooking with her, something I don't really have memories of with my mom (it was deemed as too dangerous of an activity-- I'm near 40, and she STILL winces when I use a knife lol). My toddler often asks for help with everything, and I find myself saying "you can do it!" a lot. It's a different flavor than my childhood for sure.

Perhaps, but maybe not. I’ve been aware of all of my mother’s traumas my entire life. The damage that she does and continues to do doesn’t change or lessen because of her past traumas. Abuela’s cruelty towards her granddaughter is what made her unlikable.

But while Nemo knows his father's trauma - he is almost certainly aware of it, though it isn't mentioned, as he is the only child with a smaller fin and no mother - with Abuela, Mirabel didn't. She may have known that the trauma itself happened, but Abuela never truly let it show how much it hurt so everyone assumed that it didn't, including Mirabel and the audience.

Encanto is such a good example. I was wondering if maybe the later flashback would make it a more powerful moment with a bigger payoff and redeem the character but it doesn't actually erase how much contempt has grown for that character to that point. I think in the case of Encanto, it's ok that we dislike Abuela. She isn't the main character, and her bitterness, and everyone's resentment of it, is part of her growth arc.

Yes, but it's all about the POV! In Encanto we see things out of Mirabel's perspective. We as an audience know what she knows. So we feel about abuela the way she does, and that's important so that, when they finally talk, we have the same feeling of "oh. So that's why." In Nemo, Marlin is the protagonist, and we see things from his perspective. We need the context of the flashback/prologue to understand where he's coming from.

Abuela was cruel and mean to generations of her family. Knowing ahead of time wouldn’t change my mind. She decided to put that negativity out there. I know my moms trauma and my dads trauma and they chose to be cruel to all of us as a result. Marlin while panicked and having moments, didnt place the value of Nimo on what he can do or provide. There are a whole other set of issues there and i think anyone that doesnt like Abuela is fine to do so and it makes sense. No one is just going to forgive you cause you had a bad past. You are your current actions not your past so Abuela is going to need to earn trust back and has her own arc to really go through which is true for real life.

Aw, that was very sweet to read.

Pronatalists be gross.

Speaking of crying to movies in general: I have a recent appreciation for tearjerker movies. It was "Inside Out" (in my 30's) that did it- first time I noticed actual endorphins coming along with the tears (which I later researched is definitely "a thing"!). Prior to that, I had a VERY sparse / almost-nonexistent history of crying to movies that I can remember... the first time I can remember was around 12 years old but I honestly can't remember a time after that until that "Inside Out" incident. But after "Inside Out", I became a tearjerker-seeker lol. The desirable result is still rare and unpredictable so it's been a bit frustrating, lol. Sometimes 7 months to a few years go by without stumbling across a REALLY good one. Between those times, the occasional movie may make me "tear up" but that doesn't last too long (THIS reaction did it to me during the late scene and line of "You're right- I know you can!" but those were on the side of "happy tears"). A handful of years after "Inside Out", I accidentally stumbled upon "Interstellar". Then a few years later, a 20-year-later re-watch of "The Land Before Time" triggered the most intense cry of my LIFE. Then 7 months later, "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" yielded an about-as-intense result (but AFTER that movie was over, interestingly enough).

I don't blame ya! My favorite scenes are with the "surfin' sea turtles" -- Dude Crush and his homies. I love that Crush teaches Marlin, by example, how to let go and let the kiddos experience stuff, creating confidence. The whole story is phenomenal, as are the visuals. 😁

Hope you enjoy it!

Agreed! they're just ticking off my checklist of movies 😂

​@@CinemaTherapyShow I looked up Finding Nemo on Google and Nemo doesn't exist that Marlin is going through greef from losing his family, depression from seeing something devastating happen to his family and hope in a better outcome through his friendship with Dory.

​@@CinemaTherapyShowCould you guys do the Hangover movies please? I think that would be funny.

@@CinemaTherapyShow Please do Finding Dory! That would be amazing!

So glad it helped. Thanks for watching!

Wishing you all the very best in your journey of healing, learning, and managing your conditions! ❤️‍🩹 Reaching out to seek help can be super hard, esp. when dealing with multiple interlocking issues? (sadly often means one has experienced past gaslighting & rejection even from medical professionals who should know better...) So glad you overcame that barrier and were able to find an expert who really helps and listens!

I remember seeing this in theaters with my mom and best friend. It's so crazy it's been so long.

Really? I haven't seen any in a long time. Which ones?

I remember getting the VHS for Christmas 2003 when I was 8. I still have it to this day, and it’s still one of my favorite Pixar films. Time flies doesn’t it ?

I have to disagree. Unless it's from a low budget studio, most animated movies look better than Finding Nemo because of how much technology has improved.

Thanks for watching!

I always loved that distinct sound the score has, it has that ocean like theme. Oddly enough, the documentary film “Ghosts of the Abyss” has a somewhat similar sound