Therapist Reacts to UP and Grief 

Really poetic ..........and ....wait why I am crying

​@@SieMiezekatze not the only one

Dammit Joel, I already stopped crying.

At last a classic! 😭

Cross your heart…Russel’s heart is where he is missing his Assisting the Elderly Badge. This movie is perfect in the way so few are.

Jesus Christ is the propitiation for the whole world's sins. They that believeth and are baptized (with the Holy Spirit) shall be saved; but they that believeth not shall be damned. Those led by the Holy Spirit do not abide in wickedness. *God is ONE manifesting himself as THREE;* the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit! Bless him! *For these three are one.* As I am led by the Holy Spirit, nothing I state is a lie, but the truth of God. Anyone who tells you differently is misinformed or a liar. They do not know God, nor led by him. Anyone who *claims* to be a Christian and is against what I am doing, and where I am doing it; the Holy Spirit does not dwell within them, they lack understanding. They know not God, read his word, and their religion is in vain. Do not hear them, they will mislead you, the lost cannot guide the lost.

Another truth many have been deceived of: When you trust in God and cast your cares (worries, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts) upon him, they will be NO MORE! Know that there is power in the name Jesus Christ! His name casts out demons and heals! The world is wicked, evil, and of the devil. I too, was a wicked sinner of the world before I opened my heart to God. I am living proof of God's work and fruitfulness! He is an active God who hears the prayers of his! God's children are set apart (holy) and righteous. The devil is a liar that comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy; that includes your relationship with God. Open your heart to God, repent of your sins (he will forgive you), and let him direct your path. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands and purify your heart, lest you walk with the devil and follow him to hell.

@@Call_Upon_YAH Cool. Nobody asked.

@@CIoudStriker Honestly I reported them for spam lol - It's got zero to do with the video and all to do with pressuring stuff over people's heads, just like spam does

It's so true. I just lost my Dad to cancer and it's the little things I miss most.

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I love that message that they show at the end, and I love how they show it, instead of cramming it down the audience's throat. Another beautiful example of that visual storytelling is actually in the opening montage. In one scene, Ellie and Carl are dancing in their living room and the Paradise Falls jar is tucked away. Without obviously telling the audience, they deliver that message. That Ellie doesn't need a big adventure at Paradise Falls, she has all the adventure she needs right there. Damn you, Pixar, you've done it again

I am going to show my age when I say this but, your comment makes me think of the second My Girl movie. Vada sets out to find out - for a school assignment what her mother's greatest accomplishment was. She goes on a whole journey to find out about the mother she never knew and she learned that her mom made mistakes and didn't always do the right things and she dealt with, i think addiction and stuff and we see Vada come back to school after the break and when she is asked to present her findings she tells the class that she is her mothers greatest accomplishment.

It makes the scene in the beginning montage where they either miscarry or find out they won't be able to have kids and Ellie is just in the backyard thinking even more impactful. If there was any adventure Ellie felt like she missed out on it was probably raising a kid with Carl. Now he's living out that dream for her vicariously by being a father figure to Russell.

literally was going to comment that! sometimes your life perspective changes when you meet someone that changes it for you, and life becomes a more fulfilling adventure than you could ever imagine for yourself

Yes, in the end Russell helps Carl crossing "something", He makes Carl cross his heart for a brand new promise. Love it too.

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I like that! I also saw it as Russell helping Carl cross through his grief, to the other side of that obstacle

I believe in a dark theory is that Russell helps Carl cross over to the other side 😅

I felt this a bit yesterday. Quiet Sunday afternoon, kids playing in the living room listening to Holst’s Jupiter (or, the music for Bingo’s egg as our daughter puts it - if Bluey makes her a classical music fan I will not complain), cooking using the last of the turkey stock from Thanksgiving while my wife took a nap. Nothing special, supposedly, but still special - a moment of happy peace and comfort. As someone that’s had some pretty serious medical issues and is more than aware of how much misery there is in the world, it’s a moment I do not take for granted.

And honestly its so true, my favourite memories of my Gran aren't the big things. It's baking in the kitchen, having "picnic in the car" at the seaside, cutting her damn hedge because she couldn't do it in her old age. It's her opening the front door with arms wide and a smile on her face and the smell of dinner in the oven. Everyday normal things, made so much better because she was there.

​@@__-fm5qv And it's amazing how often your "it's bad at the time" memories become the treasured ones. My grandfather would take me to my bowling league and then give the opposing league pointers when I wouldn't listen to him. I hated that at the time but look back on it fondly. He also painted me a clown painting. The eyes would follow you wherever you went. My parents didn't blame me for not wanting to hang it up as I was afraid that the clown would leap out and grab me. We'd only hang it up when my grandparents came to visit. Now, I treasure that painting. (Even though my wife refuses to let me hang it up because it freaks her out too.)

It is sad!! I remember after my dad passed, my mom said that the one thing she missed was just making coffee for him every morning. It broke my heart.

@@Justanotherconsumer i was the same way with early exposure to classical music from tv and movies, can tell you from experience that she will be a fan later on! 🫶

yooo that's exactly what I thought too, glad I'm not the only one who saw that symbolism. UP is such a masterclass in storytelling, it's one of the smartest and most beautiful movies that I've ever watched, and pretty much anyone from any age can watch it and understand the message.

Not only that, but it is filled not with what he was actually looking for but with Carl sharing what was the most treasured part of his own heart for most of his life. Which is another message, Carl wanted to do this on his own because it was his and Ellie's thing, but in the movie he is forced to share it with this kid, a bird and a dog. By the climax, not only does he achieve the goal, but he found more reason to live on and continue the adventure and he helped the other characters to find a better and more fulfilling way to live their own lives. Another note: you could read the souring of the villain's relationship with them being his refusal to share his big adventure and search for meaning with anyone else. Alan's right, such a tight and well written story.

Undergrad research on this movie would be so hard but soul-fulfilling

It really is. Damn, Pixar is good ❤

@@Sean-ne3gx true

That's such a fucked situation i wish to never have to be in, that being said if i wasnt already crying i think id have cracked laughing

Well, thank you, random user, now I'm gonna cry my eyes out! But seriously, I would absolutely lose it in this situation. The innocence of the question after this gut-wretching scene is just... brutal.

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She's watching down on you from Heaven, stay strong king

"To grieve deeply is to have loved fully." God of War: Ragnarok

Only 7 years? Not an equitable trade.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I'm so glad you had such a beautiful love with your wife, and I hope that, wherever you are, you're okay.

Oh great as if it wasn't gut wrenching enough - now that's there in my mind! 😭

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As someone who works daily with people with Alzheimer's, I'm bawling now. This is so beautiful ♥💔😭

@@BenjaminDolphin, do you perform some kind of mental gymnastics to detach yourself emotionally from the situation of your patients? Or does it come naturally? If not, how do you sustain yourself mentally, working there?

This comment right here made me cry ngl .He was Her Adventure 😭💗💗

Oh man that gets you :')

Ellie never got the adventure she wanted as a kid (paradise falls), but she got something even better. Her life with Carl, which was a whole adventure in itself. I always believed that was what she intended to tell him with the scrapbook, and I’m glad others think the same. It’s such a beautiful statement. We may never get that grand life we imagined for ourselves as kids, but like Ellie, we shouldn’t let that stop us from enjoying the beautiful life ahead of us.

Awww ❤😭

What I liked about the intro was that we never see Ellie seem sad about not going to Paradise Falls. She was just happy to be with Carl, except for the tragedies of life, but they got through it.

Boom! Giacchino'd.

This.

Yeah, like they each don’t care if the other isn’t perfect. They still love each other ❤

@@Overseer2579 exactly! That I true love right there seeing the beauty in each other flaws 🥰 it’s helps when your in love with your best friend

it’s the small stuff.. the seemingly simple stuff we end up cherishing in the end

No, I think it's something more like he believes a piece of his wife's soul is still in the house, or as he touches it, he remembers her.

I think he just talks to her when he looks at the house - not like he calls the house Ellie.

It’s interesting to see how people interpret it differently. That’s the beauty of symbolism. I really like all the ways people have seen it here. 😊

Meanwhile, Monster House:

Whatever the case, it's clear the house represents his last remaining connection to Ellie.

That last bit has me tearing up, I can't lie about that.

A full on sob escaped out of me when I read the last sentence 😭 That must of been a huge comfort to you to know she loved you so much 💗

Jesus Christ is the propitiation for the whole world's sins. They that believeth and are baptized (with the Holy Spirit) shall be saved; but they that believeth not shall be damned. Those led by the Holy Spirit do not abide in wickedness. *God is ONE manifesting himself as THREE;* the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit! Bless him! *For these three are one.* As I am led by the Holy Spirit, nothing I state is a lie, but the truth of God. Anyone who tells you differently is misinformed or a liar. They do not know God, nor led by him. Anyone who *claims* to be a Christian and is against what I am doing, and where I am doing it; the Holy Spirit does not dwell within them, they lack understanding. They know not God, read his word, and their religion is in vain. Do not hear them, they will mislead you, the lost cannot guide the lost.

Another truth many have been deceived of: When you trust in God and cast your cares (worries, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts) upon him, they will be NO MORE! Know that there is power in the name Jesus Christ! His name casts out demons and heals! The world is wicked, evil, and of the devil. I too, was a wicked sinner of the world before I opened my heart to God. I am living proof of God's work and fruitfulness! He is an active God who hears the prayers of his! God's children are set apart (holy) and righteous. The devil is a liar that comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy; that includes your relationship with God. Open your heart to God, repent of your sins (he will forgive you), and let him direct your path. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands and purify your heart, lest you walk with the devil and follow him to hell.

@@Call_Upon_YAH Look, I love Jesus with my whole heart but this isn't the place and doesn't honor Him.

Yeah, thats how I thought of her doing it too. Because, the book would have been around for years during Ellie's life. It would have been very odd for Carl never to have seen Ellie putting pictures in there. However, one of the life stages you learn about in dealing with people is that when a person comes to the end of their life, they start to evaluate it and if they are happy with the life they lead, growing older or even even knowing that they are dying is easier because they are happy with who they are and what they accomplished. I like to think that Ellie was evaluating her life and thinking that she lived a good life and that Carl was her world. He was her adventure all along! As for Carl, Ellie knew him better than anyone. She knew that he would keep the book.She also knew that opening the book up again wouldn't be something Carl would be able to do right away. It would be too painful. Ellie theoretically didnt even tell Carl she completed the book with the adventure of their life together because of this. She knew that he was going to have to take time to accept her death and that when he was ready he would finally open the book and Ellie knew that when he got to that point it would be good and healthy for him - and he would be ready to have a new adventure. That is true love!

Adding in here 10 months late that you can actually see the scissors and tape on the side table next to her in the hospital so your theory is all but confirmed!

@@QuillWorks oh my god, you're right! I've seen this a thousand times and never noticed that.

There’s a strand of Buddhism that teaches that joy in the mundane IS the meaning of life. I believe the Greek Stoics believed the same thing.

And nobody went to her funeral. If anything that goes to show that not only did Carl only have Ellie, but Ellie only had Carl.

stwapp now im crying more 😭

Fuck that’s not fair, man!

24:54 it was great that Ellie left a message for Carl to continue to live. When death is sudden, or unexpected, a loved one does not always leave such a message. And those who remain behind in this mortal life, are left without the loved one in their life; without such a clear message that it's OK to continue to live a life after they have left. The pain of grief, of loss, is real. Comfort those who are going through their journey. Some journeys are longer than others.

There's a short novel by Leo Perutz called "The Cossack and the Nightingale" with a similar concept. It plays in the 1920s, shortly after the Bolshevik revolution in Russia and is about an aristocratic couple, who had to flee from there. The wife adapts to her new life of just being an ordinary citizen in Western Europe and works as a singer. Before the story started, she broke up with her husband over a case of infidelity (on his side) and at first he isn't really in the story - but he interferes with her trying to find a new relationship. All of her love interests suddenly vanish (and it's because her husband kidnaps them or does something to them) and she knows that it's him doing this, which makes her quite paranoid. And his schemes get more outrageous over time. At one point she is convinced, that he must have bribed the king of Spain to prevent her from dating a new man. SPOILERS from here on In reality, Count Ogolenski (the husband) is on a mission: He's part of a Tsarist group, that rescued one of the Tsar's daughters (I'm not going to say which, but it's not the one you think of right now), got her out of Russia and hid her in the Netherlands. They're trying to get the crown jewels to her, because they're planning to install her as the new empress to combat the Bolshevik takeover. The count's main job is to bring the actual crown to her. He's ready to let his marriage crash and burn over this, because it's more important to him to save his motherland, but he still cares so much for his wife, that he takes precautions to keep her out of the plot and prevent her from finding a new man. Because in the end he hopes, that he will be able to save both his country and his marriage. To get his wife out of harm's way he pretended to have an affair (which he didn't) and agreed to a separation. But he keeps an eye on her, either personally or through his agents, and tries to discourage or remove every man she shows interest in, while at the same time managing his political activities. This costs him all of the money he was able to put away... so when his wife starts retaliating and attacks his stocks, that doesn't hurt him, because he sold those long ago to finance his mission. She can't bankrupt him at this point, because he has nothing to his name anymore. Late in the story she learns what he has done, and that he was never unfaithful and only pushed her away to protect her (so if he became a target, she wouldn't be associated with him), and that does save their marriage (aka the thing he was willing to give up for the greater good). On the other hand, the thing he wasn't willing to give up - Russia and its new empress - is destroyed: He succeeds in bringing the crown to the hidden princess and learns, that it doesn't mean anything to her anymore, because she's a young womanm, who just fell in love and doesn't want to be drawn into politics. She simply calls off the mission to conquer back her country from the Bolsheviks, because she found a boyfriend in the Netherlands and wants to focus on that. The count is pretty devastated about this, but she's his empress (from his POV), so he can't do anything and follows her orders. He worries, that his wife may have gotten away during this last hot phase of the crown jewel mission, because he wasn't able to personally stalk her, and didn't have the money to pay someone to do it, but because she found out and understands what he did, he can at least get back with her.

I hope you are doing well. I know it can be really hard to miss someone.

Can I give you a virtual hug?

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I am sorry for your loss

I think I can relate to you, recently my bf passed it hasn't been a month since his passing and everything just feels so hard right now. I attempted but failed. He is my everything to me, he meant a whole lot to me, I can't see my life without him. We have been together for three years and dating for four, we have known each other for eight years. Its been a real struggle since his passing, we planned on getting married but because of his sudden passing we couldn't. My heart goes to yours

Yeah, that hit me super hard too, definitely made me tear up all over again (bc let's be real, I teared up multiple times during this video 😭)

I wanted to comment just to highlight this quote. Very uplifting.

I'd say a few bricks in one shot!

So true

Exactly. It was too painful for him to think about turning that page and see it empty. That's why he never saw it until so long after her passing. He didn't want a reminder that he let her down, when in reality it was exactly the opposite.

It is also difficult for some bereaved people to look at photos/videos/reminders of their lost loved one and can take time to build the courage.

my exact same opinion

Ow… It’s okay, I didn’t need my heart today. 😭

Jesus Christ is the propitiation for the whole world's sins. They that believeth and are baptized (with the Holy Spirit) shall be saved; but they that believeth not shall be damned. Those led by the Holy Spirit do not abide in wickedness. 👍🏾 *God is ONE manifesting himself as THREE;* the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit! Bless him! *For these three are one.* As I am led by the Holy Spirit, nothing I state is a lie, but the truth of God. Anyone who tells you differently is misinformed or a liar. They do not know God, nor led by him. Anyone who *claims* to be a Christian and is against what I am doing, and where I am doing it; the Holy Spirit does not dwell within them, they lack understanding. They know not God, read his word, and their religion is in vain. Do not hear them, they will mislead you, the lost cannot guide the lost.

Another truth many have been deceived of: When you trust in God and cast your cares (worries, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts) upon him, they will be NO MORE! Know that there is power in the name Jesus Christ! His name casts out demons and heals! The world is wicked, evil, and of the devil. I too, was a wicked sinner of the world before I opened my heart to God. I am living proof of God's work and fruitfulness! He is an active God who hears the prayers of his! God's children are set apart (holy) and righteous. The devil is a liar that comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy; that includes your relationship with God! Open your heart to God, repent of your sins (he will forgive you), and let him direct your path. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands and purify your heart, lest you walk with the devil and follow him to hell.

Not on the topic of this video but i wanna recomend reacting to a netflix series called raising dion! I think it has some very good representation of famillial bonds and how to raise a child. A lot of it, especially in the second season, hit really close to home for me and i think it may for the two of you aswell. Give it a shot!

@@Call_Upon_YAH Good for you. I hope you have a nice day.

Right: Grief, at its healthiest, is essentially an adjustment period to a very different reality from what one was previously accustomed to. Any kind of major change can trigger a grieving period, not just death. The important part is staying aware of what's helpful and what's harmful to the individual in question. You don't "get over" death, you incorporate and accept it.

@@HexIsme beautifully said.

@@HexIsme Hmm. Yes. Absolutely well said. It becomes incorporated and accepted. I cannot tell if it is disconcerting or positive that the more I experience the loss of people, the easier it is for me to quickly accept it as a natural process. I think it helps me support people. Although, It can isolate me. People look at me oddly because I am able to just accept it. I treat all the negative as an acceptable part of life that can be experienced with love and joy. People I know that don't have loving families said that they're surprised that my family cares-- The stages of grief are openly important to my family. Other friends don't know how to talk about this stuff. I wouldn't change it for anything because I can help people. Yet... I realized recently that I was experiencing disappointment during the semester because I'm still going through grief still for having been born different from most people. Every time I'm reminded of it I'm thrown back into it. I guess if people don't accept what happened then it can be an ongoing process.

@@HexIsme dude you don't actually honor your nickname. That was beautiful

To me it also feels like the society I live in doesn't really help with this process at all...? Showing emotion in public is not really considered okay, and there's a practical expectation that people will move on logistically, even if they haven't done so emotionally. People only get a few days off work for funerals and even while they're dealing with all the practicalities of losing someone & the up-&-down emotions, they're usually expected to keep up their duties as if nothing's wrong. It seems to me like many other cultures maybe have a more integrated approach to grief, which treats death as just another stage of life (rather than fearing or hiding it), and normalize supporting each other through loss in a more community-focused way...?

I lost my elder brother 14 years ago but I clearly remember this exact emotion. I never wanted to be in any sort of limelight or photos. If I ever enjoyed anything, I always wished my brother was there just to experience it.

that was me but when Robin Williams died via.....how to say in a youtube comment friendly way....unsuscribed from life. I just SPIRALED for about 24 hours questioning everything, since i had also been going through depression. Why was I still here, why was I alive and he wasn't, it's just a weird sense of survivor's guilt that I am glad I kinda got over. But every once in a while, around August....man. I just wish that man was still here.

That was how I felt when my favorite youtuber died. I thought that by smiling laughing and having fun it would be disrespectful to his memory. Then I watched some of his older videos and I realized "he would mock me for thinking like this" his name was technoblade for anyone curious

I think you just nailed what Jonathan mentioned. I'm so sorry for your loss and everyone's above me. I think the second part only makes sense to those who have moved along a little in their grief journey. Which sadly means it maybe didn't hit as broadly as it could of but for those who have found a way to keep the memories in their hearts but also the knowledge that their loved one would never want them to mourn in shame or regret, I think that speaks to that. The people who truly love us would only ever want us to be happy and continue with life as best as we feel capable.

Oh I feel you it’s a lot less close for me since it was for the recent passing of technoblade I still feel very guilty to have anything connected to Minecraft and been very disconnected from it without paying attention I could watch the on going stories on theire and for a while unsubbed and tried to run away from anything related to Minecraft because I felt like if he lost his passion why am I aloud to touch and interact at basically his life.. Like I said lot less personal but I still feel the guilt :(

Jesus Christ is the propitiation for the whole world's sins. They that believeth and are baptized (with the Holy Spirit) shall be saved; but they that believeth not shall be damned. Those led by the Holy Spirit do not abide in wickedness. 👍🏾 *God is ONE manifesting himself as THREE;* the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit! Bless him! *For these three are one.* As I am led by the Holy Spirit, nothing I state is a lie, but the truth of God. Anyone who tells you differently is misinformed or a liar. They do not know God, nor led by him. Anyone who *claims* to be a Christian and is against what I am doing, and where I am doing it; the Holy Spirit does not dwell within them, they lack understanding. They know not God, read his word, and their religion is in vain. Do not hear them, they will mislead you, the lost cannot guide the lost.

Another truth many have been deceived of: When you trust in God and cast your cares (worries, anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts) upon him, they will be NO MORE! Know that there is power in the name Jesus Christ! His name casts out demons and heals! The world is wicked, evil, and of the devil. I too, was a wicked sinner of the world before I opened my heart to God. I am living proof of God's work and fruitfulness! He is an active God who hears the prayers of his! God's children are set apart (holy) and righteous. The devil is a liar that comes to steal, to kill, and to destroy; that includes your relationship with God! Open your heart to God, repent of your sins (he will forgive you), and let him direct your path. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands and purify your heart, lest you walk with the devil and follow him to hell.

@@Call_Upon_YAH This psy-op is crazy

Exactly!! Well said.

What is with these bible bots lately?

The Ellie Badge was the embodiment of all her honor and respect she felt for a person. It may just be a bottlecap, but when given a proper designation, it was a sort of vessel for everything she valued. That's why it's a huge honor.

You could say that the boring stuff was the stuff that Ellie remembered the most.

"Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans" And when she gave him the album on her deathbed not only (unbeknownst to Carl because he didn't look at it until the final act of the movie) was she showing him the adventure that their life was, she was also giving him permission to continue having his own adventures.

Especially when you think of the fact that he couldn’t have children 😢

@@bushitwo6367 He could have kids, they just had a stillbirth or miscarriage

@Mqgawario maybe I'm projecting because of my own struggles but I always thought it was implied that she found out she would probably never have children. Not for lack of trying. I never thought they just gave up after one. But maybe....

Russell’s father doesn’t deserve him.

@@mqgawario8722 sometimes a miscarriage causes infertility.

Also, I think this movie has a great message of “your heroes can’t always be who you want them to be.” The adventurer dude that Carl and Ellie look up to being a violent immoral lunatic, but also Russel’s dad (who at the start of the film is Russell’s hero) isn’t who Russell wants him to be.

Don’t let him go…

exact same scene in my household, hubby had never seen it and often benignly pokes fun at how easily I cry in movies. before minute ten he was sobbing grossly. I held him while he cursed my name and we ended up eating lots of ice cream watching the rest of the movie ❤

My husband said the sweetest thing to me after watching this. He said he better go before me because learning to live without me is going to be a long and painful process and he'll be a grumpy old man like Carl.

I watched "Up" with my last boyfriend before I met my husband. All I knew about the movie was that the wife died, and I started getting choked up when Ellie took off her hat and I realized they'd known each other since *childhood.* When they got to the doctor's office after painting the nursery I just lost it, and he looked over at me and went, "Are you crying?" That was pretty much the exact moment I realized I was wasting my time with him and needed to move on.

​​@@meredithcarroll6209 hope you and your husband are very happy together! You deserve it after that nonsense

As these two have said before, pain is the price we pay for love. To experience love, pain is inevitable. But to evade love to prevent the pain is to be empty, which will be so much worse. We need connection.

Reminds me of this line from HTTYD: The Hidden World: "With love comes loss, son. It's part of the deal. There is no greater gift than love." Such a great and emotional quote.

@@madeleineallen7758 "But in the end, it's all worth it." Words to live by.

"Callahan's Law: Shared pain is lessened; shared joy, increased-thus do we refute entropy." - Spider Robinson Have always loved that quote. Carl and Russel have found a way to share both.

I LOVE the score he did for FRINGE.

Yep. The 1st time I noticed the tape dispenser, I thought it was a strange thing to have on a patient's bedside table...then I realized it was her adding to her scrapbook. This movie is just a masterpiece.

Wow, I never noticed that before. Had to go back and see for myself. Great spot! I agree, this movie is an absolute masterpiece.

I'd like to imagine that the nursing staff helped get her everything without Carl knowing for sure. If he had just opened the book instead of feeling like his gaze would taint Ellie's memory, things would've turned out differently for him. But of course, Russell was able to save Carl from himself, and Carl was able to help Russell in return.

Oh, I noticed...and, something only a CNA would catch - no toe pleats on Ellie's covers. I may be the only person in North America to catch that - good thing I did, because the alternative would've been a 72 hour involuntary psych hold. Yeah, "Up" hit pretty hard. 😭

OMG you're so right. I wouldn't have known to verbalize the lighting effect or how t's coupled with the music but now that you've pointed it out it's even more magical.

Your poor class, how can this one be studied through the tears?!

It’s some of the most beautiful 4 minutes in cinematic history.

@@bobbiejoputnam459 seriously! The film making in this movie is incredible. Every detail is so intentional and wonderful!

@@Sunari we were all in tears. Even our teacher swiped a few away from his eyes before he turned the lights back on for discussion!😂

Will do! Thanks for watching!

And the recognition that memories don't have to be attached to stuff. A person can live forever through memory alone.

His heart feels lighter once he's able to let go 🩵

The fact that his grief was LITERALLY weighing him down 😭

I'm so sorry for your loss. Zoe mattered. ❤️

Reading this comment has brought me to tears. My mom went through a similar situation. She lost her twin boys before she had me. I could sense her tears and sadness when telling me this. Now makes me wish what it would be like to ha e older brothers

@@erasibuthhigie2627 thank you for your kind words ❤️

@@stephanieflores277 my daughter who's 7 now has told me she wished she could have met her big sister. It's amazing how siblings can feel that sense of loss too. I'm sorry your mom went through that, she's not alone.❤️

Thank you so much for sharing this. My wife and I lost our first pregnancy at 7 weeks. Even though it was so early, we had already begun to feel like parents and made plans for the future. We’ve gone on to have a beautiful, healthy daughter who’s now 4 years old, but we still talk about Baby T (my wife made a teddy bear with a ‘T’ stitched into the foot, I wrote a song about her). Thank you especially for sharing Zoe’s name. It’s so important. So was she, and so are you.

How did this video not get hit by the Disney demonetization fairy? Disney go after fair use commentary videos all the time, I don't know how these guys do it!

@@cbpd89 its only been up for less than a day. Give it time.

@@cbpd89 Might already be, doesn't matter since they are doing publicity (demonetization cannot be seen by the viewer I believe, maybe you're mixing it up with a strike, or the vid being taken down)

@@cbpd89 with commentary it becomes fair use from what I understand

I had to skip parts because I cannot HANDLE it right now

*hugs*

I applaud you. Thanks for sharing. You are giving us hope and a sample that life CAN go on. 👍🏼❤️ Thank you.

Thank you so much for sharing your story, there's always hope, and you'll eventually find happiness again, while never forgetting your loved one. 💕

I am sorry for your loss

I lost someone too I was with him from 18 to 25. When I turned 25 he passed three days before his birthday December 1st. I still get emotional about it but time has certainly made it easier for me to move on, and to appreciate the loved ones I have in my life now.

Thank you so much! 😊

You're right I am crying 😭

Crying SO MUCH 😭❤

Every time! No matter how many times I watch it.

🤧 I'm trying not to....🥺🥲 and failing

Oh god I never considered that, in a way he's sharing the love Ellie had given to him in life back to someone else. That's so fucking beautiful.

That was the scene that destroyed me. Up is my favorite Pixar movie (though Soul comes close).

Damnit. Your comment got me crying now. 😭

Give your grandma a hug for me please

Managed to keep it together for the whole ep but this really got me 😭😭

Thank you for sharing this with us. For me the movie brings back memories from my grandpa. He died just a couple days before turning 80. I could not say goodbye to him... So I cried during my first watch but it also made me happy. A great movie for sure!

This reminded me of my grandpa, and how my grandmother never really recovered fully after his passing. She still had a joy for life, but she was duller and less full without him. She looked almost like a ghost, barely tethered to the Earth. And now, age has robbed her of her faculties, and I have to watch her body slowly realize that it's dying as it catches up with her mind. The moment I realized that she was gone beyond our ability to help was when she started talking about me rather than talking to me. She forgot how to play cards and board games (things she prided herself on being particularly good at), lost her intense focus that helped get things done, and her once sharp wit has whittled down to nothing. It makes me sad just thinking about her. 2022 took a lot from me, and this is just one of three horrible losses that accursed year saw fit to bestow upon me. I'm trying to move on though.

The way the music changes when the infertility is revealed to when he Carl smiles with the idea of finally getting plane tickets to the funeral it’s an absolute masterclass and he won an Oscar for it the only Oscar he won and it was well deserved

@@JohnSmith-wh2ob She is at the doctor because lost the baby, meaning she was pregnant.

I'm crying just reading this 😭

So sorry for your loss.

Was just thinking that, obviously one is a therapist so it's a much more mature, safer environment to show emotions, but it's great to have two guys be totally open about crying and not pushing it down into a little ball of aggression in the pit of their stomachs.

every single person needs to be like them, really.

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​@@thegr8johNo, thanks.

They shouldn’t be in jail in the first place sometimes.

Same, after some years i re-saw that scene and it *clicked* pretty hard

Not only that. They had a baby room. The crib, the blankets evrrything. What that implies is heartbreaking.

It seems to suggest a late miscarriage. And that the scene of her pointing out the babies in the clouds might have been her pregnancy announcement

@@henrytims4745 I was just about to comment on this. I always translated that scene as her having a miscarriage and rather being hyper focused on it, they decided as a couple to just enjoy their time together and if it happens it happens

I had always assumed that it meant that she had a miscarriage. That’s why they were getting the room ready. Because they found out that she was pregnant.

Sorry for your loss. He lives on in your memories of him :)

I hope you're doing okay Aargent.

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This is so beautiful and wise. Thank you.

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Beautiful words man,,

Even if the pages had been empty, if Carl could ever open the book and just be with those feelings of grief and shame, it would be healing too. Maybe not "positive" or heartwarming, but he would have had closure. That's the gift Russell gave him, that he was able to finally look at it no matter what it contained

Oh, Pixar, always giving us immense joy and laughs but then leaving us sobbing in a puddle of tears just as fast

The grief never really goes away, but that's ok. It's a reminder of the love you have with your brother. I wish you all the best.

Praying for you. Grief is so hard.

Sending lots of love!!!! You are NOT alone!!!! 🥹😭❤️

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Sorry to hear your loss. I lost my big brother in 99 and my little brother on the 20th November 2022. I can relate to loss.

Beautiful insight

I really love that story and I really want to thank you for taking the time to share it! It's really beautiful.

This. You said it. "It's the mundane thing". My mom lost her battle against cancer. But it the little things,I miss the most. Doing the groceries while looking for the best deals together. Playing video games while she watch me and giggle if a fail that section. Or coming home after work, hungry and exhausted,but the nice smell and the warmth of her meals, welcome you.

I lost my grandmother almost 9 years ago to cancer. She was a tough woman, and had already beaten cancer twice before, but it just wouldn't leave her be. My parents had to focus on their careers when I was young to give us a good life, so my grandmother raised me just as much as they did. And when I think back I remember the gentle way she brushed my hair before school, the way she'd tell me I reminded her of my grandfather and then tell me a story about him, the smell of her cooking, and her carefully ironing mine and my sister's clothes- 7 and 4 at the time- because she was just that kind of a meticulous person. It really is those moments you remember more than anything. I *also* remember the time my younger sister told our grandma she was being bullied and Nana told her to punch that kid in the nose next time. My sister took that seriously. (It all ended up okay. The kid was the principal's grandson but luckily the principal understood the bully was at fault and no real damage was done. My sister and her former bully actually became really close friends after that.)

I lost my dad too and yeah..

Years later I was just offhand telling someone how he used to call me Sparky and started crying because I realized how much I missed it. Came out of nowhere.

I’m sad that I don’t think I’ll have memories like that with my dad. He does a lot for us but we don’t spend a lot of time together. Rarely when we sit down to watch movies with the family does he join us, and it’s harder to get along with him like when I was little. When he passes I think all that I’ll have are the things he left behind for us, but not any moments between him and I that I can treasure. It’s weird.

I hope you've seen this movie by now, and that it was as cathartic for you as it was for me.

I second that. No argument here.

True.

No arguement. It's so simple and pure, and most of the beginning isn't even spoken.

@@JennieOkami That's half, if not most, of it's brilliance. It communicates SO MUCH without a single word being spoken.

No, because I don't want to change your mind.

Sorry for your loss. Your grandpa sounds like he was an amazing person.

Honestly, that's great advice. Your grandpa sounds like a very wise person.

And now I’m hearing Carl say that to Russell someday and I’m sobbing all over again. 😭😭

Mine couldn't talk at all I'm happy yours could

Very well said

I think in my case it didn't make me cry because it was the life I never had. Certainly not as a kid and teenager or in my twenties. Because I spent over a decade being treated as less than human by abusive special ed schools on the one hand and having that perception be validated by behaviors of an overprotective dad on the other. To the point that the stories of the residential schools Indigenous people were sent to were immediately relatable to me. It took me like two seconds to see that his life was NOT wasted. At least he had a life. At least he was treated like an actual person. At least he didn't spend a day in his life being subjected to any dehumanization whatsoever, even Dehumanization Lite (read: having your behavior read out like you're a literal lab animal or robot and they leave it at that and don't dehumanize you further).

My dude, that was devilish of you. And I LOVE IT! XD

I did the same, but with my sister and Grave of the Fireflies...Same results! (although we watched it togheter and she yelled at me at the end of the movie ahahha).

Yeah, you definitely have the perfect screen name 🤣

I love it

Colby (the sick little girl) didn't watch it ahead of the premiere; it came out in May but she was too sick to see it in theaters. So her family made frantic calls to Pixar to beg for them to send a copy for her to watch. Pixar flew out an employee with a DVD copy (this was in June, so it was still in theaters) and 7 hours later, little Colby died. From what I understand, it was a great comfort to her mother. The best thing about it to me, is that after Pixar didn't try to use it as an attention grab of "look how great we are" or any other kind of press. They just quietly fulfilled a little girl's dying wish and helped make a good memory for her and her family.

@TheKkf1015 oh I see. It was so long ago and I know I can't trust my memory so thanks for clarifying. Still, it's really nice for Pixar to do that.

I was about to comment that, but it’s such a small detail that I love about this movie

I hope you’re doing okay now.

So sorry, hope everlasting is going well

Blessings for you and your ex. That's a terrible hardship I wouldn't wish on anyone. May you find peace and stillness inside, both you and your ex.

@@sh4rky466 we're better now, but I'll never forget the sledgehammer this movie hit me with.

My condolences, I hope that you're both in a better place emotionally now. 💕

This is why, in the end, Carl gave Russel the Ellie badge.

It's really interesting because it also says that Ellie did not live her dream of travelling the world and all, yet she was 100% happy with Carl, living their simple, every day life. It's also an important message, that relates to Soul as well, that sometimes, your dreams don't work out. Doesn't make your life worthless or you an unhappy person. Your dreams are dreams but sometimes, just living life as it comes and as beautiful it can be, is more than enough.

It's the message written at the back of the book that breaks me every time.

Yeah well carl as a loser who never better himself to make it happen