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I love vlogs like this, just watching Abbie in her natural ornery habitat! Lol y’all are doing great and thanks for sharing your content, it’s very educational.
I watch your videos in the morning at 7 am before work. Your videos are so educational but fun and an easy watch! I’ve been watching for years and have enjoyed all the fun! Keep up the awesome parenting! Yous are awesome!
Idk, seeing Abby going through the session and completing her tasks, made me really feel happy for her everytime she succeeded with a task and seeing her smile.
Abie is acting a bit like a teen but also she continues to grow up and she will become physically stronger. This is why it is great to have help of a specialist to encourage parents to deal the right way with Abie’s behaviour. You deserve respect for sharing this therapy session.
My daughter takes things literal as well..if she had been doing this task she would have said “ you told me to unpack it you didn’t say put it away!” I love her impish giggle lol
It’s so funny when Abby is thinking of something naughty. My son is the same way he does things and know he’s being naughty and laughs when I notice or call him out 😆
Started watching you guys here and there a couple years ago but started diving into past videos and following each daily vlog since I got diagnosed with bipolar and I just wanted to say thank you because your videos have helped me calm my mind when I just can't seem to do it myself. You guys are amazing, you show everyone struggling with whatever it may be to never give up. Much love ❤
I love how Brandy talks to Abby so casually and as a conversation. I also like how she changes her tone appropriately as things escalate or de-escalate. That is a good skill to have for interacting with all people. I’m definitely going to be more aware of those things in my life as well!
I want to say that getting the bracelet/jewelry making kit is absolutely excellent for working with fine motor skills and a fun way of doing so. I have a lot of neurological issues myself and have found that working on creating jewelry has really helped for me. Plus it’s enjoyable and sometimes people pay me to do so. It not only helps me neurologically but also mentally and giving me confidence in something.💜
Can you please have longer therapy sessions like this as I’d love it will she be taught anything new in the next few months hmm just asking because when she stops school that be a big change and might rattle the mind a bit because of routine hmm .
Oh Abbie, You know Brandy has your number!! 🤣🤣Try as hard as you can and she still won't let you get away w/anything. Makes my heart smile that you are just continue to be a rockstar with everything you do!! I am excited to see how homeschool will go this next year for you!!
I love when I get your notifications for your video cuz I enjoy watching your videos every single day I love watching Abigail's learning she's learning more and more everyday you guys are wonderful love from Canada happy Thursday evening ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️👍👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🌞🙂🙂🇨🇦
@@angieang26 that's really cool I think I've been watching these guys since last year I'm so hooked on it I love Abigail she's such a doll happy weekend from Canada 👍🙏♥️🙂🇨🇦
For someone reason I took a hiatus from watching your videos for a little less than a year. But I’m back, all caught up and I’m happy to be here! I’ve also just passed my 3 year subscription anniversary!!❤️❤️❤️
💙 @10:45 when she looked up at her dad - her grinning profile looked just like her mum!! Beautiful! Sometimes, when I look at my non-verbal sister’s profile I could mistake it as our mum’s. She is terribly missed!
Abbie is such a teen right now 🤣 her mischief face is the best. And that protest with Brandy was great. “Fine I’m doing it. But I’m going to tell you how much I dislike this the entire time.”
We love Mrs. Brandy like her job is no walk in the park! I think when people think of kids with different needs they assume they’re incapable or they don’t understand! No they totally understand and they still have typical behavior of a child that’s A typical! Example- Brandy literally was trying to get her off the couch - Soon as Asa walked over she got up! She’s a teen going through her own stage in life! When people say “ohhh her mischief is so cute blah blah” hmmmm no it’s not people! If that was your typical teen you’d be annoyed! Great thing about Asa he doesn’t handicap her- he genuinely knows most times when she’s being a defiant teen and when she truly doesn’t understand something!
I feel like Abby does more chores when she’s with her parents …. Abby knows how to manipulate a worker … she’s know where everything goes and when to get up more with her parents than a therapist… she got right up for her Dad and played with her therapist …. she’s knows who can get over on and who she can’t !! Her parents are way better than any therapist ♥️♥️
Not in a bad way !! She knows her stuff … she actually laughs cause she knows that she can’t mess with her parents ♥️♥️ A therapist she can rule them !! I love Abby !! Smarter than that therapist… but she empty’s all her school bag stuff and knows how to empty a dish washer like a pro !!! You go Abby💕
Finding the right therapist can be so hard for families with children on the spectrum. We look to them for so much and sometimes we as parents can make mistakes because we become comfortable with just the familiarity of the therapist...almost like they become family. This can lead to periods where our children don't thrive or learn as much as they should or could. We get into the same patterns over and over and the therapist goes over the same things over and over, never really coming up with better ways to reach children on the spectrum, mostly going off book smarts and classroom experiences they learned instead of developing their own methods of reaching special needs children through their own ideas and methods. Sometimes you have to think outside the box when teaching any child. There are amazing therapists out there just takes a little work to find them. Sadly it is only the parents that are able to actually teach their children. The parents have to be the majority of the teacher as they know their child best. In my experience, if a child is bored or not being challenged enough they will show signs with the instructor they are with by their protesting or acting out alot. Any child who struggles with verbal communication should always have available visual aides when ever a instruction is asked of them. Just like a break sheet, a First...Then card with the project asked and then the result afterwards will help to reinforce what you want from Abbey. Your therapist should already know this. Using words only may not be enough. Just like that first bus trip to that convenience store Abbey went to and got cookies from was a clue to how well children on the spectrum do when their environment changes up and they see how communication works and they get new items and experience new things that they love. Remember how happy Abbey was. Everyone around them is so happy when it all connects and new words are learned when our non verbal children learn something new. It's one of the happiest feelings ever. Same old, same old...creates less enthusiasm. I doesn't matter how nice, how many years you may have known someone, if things aren't moving forward...time to research a new teacher/therapists.
They know what they are doing. Brandi has been working with Abbie for years. I have been watching them for many many many years and Abbie had made amazing progress with Brandi.
@@nleb1993 Many years and Abbey is still getting upset when she sees Brandi, and this therapist is still working on the same things. This is all about pride now.
I see so many behaviors in my own kids when they were teenagers as what Abby does. The stubbornness and the trying to change the subject. When she gets that smirk like she knows she’s doing the wrong thing I know that smirk well. You do such an amazing job with Abby and you have the patience of a saint.
I watched this on my other account just now I swear when she turns around after you ask her if she Can't remember when the dishes go... She mouths "member" while laughing lol
typical teenager trying to get out of a chore! lol You know how many times I got out of loading the dishwasher becuase "I couldn't remember the right way to do it"!!! Dad, can you show me again....I DID THIS!!! lol
"Now you're just transferring them from one counter to the next." This kinda hurt my heart. I know everyone with autism is different, so I'm not trying to educate you on your own kid. Just sharing another perspective. For me, it can be much easier to break a task into parts, repeat part A as many times as needed, then repeat part B, and so on. So it would be far easier for me to take out all the silverware, then move it all from one counter to the next, then put it all from the counter into its slots -- rather than to take a piece out, then move it, then put it in its home, and start all over with the next piece. Y'know? My brain just processes 'AAA, BBB, CCC' a lot better than 'ABC, ABC, ABC.' I think it has to do with creating as few transitions as possible and working with, rather than against, my tendency toward repetitive behaviors. But I can understand if you think this was just more boundary testing, as in, 'if I do part of the task, can I skip the rest and get to the reward.' That makes sense too. It just kinda made me sad when she was doing the thing and getting criticism on how she managed the task.
She was definitely being mischievous and testing you but could the slight confusion with putting the cutlery away be because you took the knife and put it on the counter? So she thought "OK we are taking the things and we are putting them on the counter."
LOL Abbie, you are a Sassy Princess and I AM HERE FOR IT!!!! The little giggles had me cracking up, and I was ready to see her sign "Wrestle" hehehehe. I love seeing these videos Asa, while my kids are verbal they still struggle with communication when they are having a hard moment. And Miss. Brandy gives some great verbal and non-verbal tips for me to follow :) For those commenting on Miss. Brandy "pulling" on Abbie, it's actually not pulling it's guiding to the next activity - Transitioning can be hard for anyone, not just those with additional needs. Just like you would guide a child to move away from a situation or onto the next place. If she was pulling, Abbie would kick up a fuss and Asa/Cilla would intervene. Brandy has worked with Abbie and her family for a really long time, and knows them very well. Thank you again for the therapy video, I have decided to make a break board for my children and the children I work with :)
Exactly totally agree! I love when they are patient yet firm with abbie to get her to be successful at what she is doing.. because they know she can do it..she is a smart cookie that one
Asa, just wondering why you jump in when the therapist is teaching her? For example, when on the couch, Abbie did not want to get up, and the therapist was pointing for her to get up, and you jumped in and told Abbie to get up? Why not let the therapist handle it? Just curious
Hey, so from what I've learned watching these videos, is that (one of the) end goals of ABA therapy is for the parent to learn the techniques. Brandy only comes to their house for several hours every two weeks. When she's not there the parents need to actively practice ABA in order for it to work best.
Yes, as Pamela said. Ultimately if we can get to a place where a therapist isn’t required because we as parents have learned the tools we need then that is fantastic. As I was saying in the video, this is a consultation session. Therapy isn’t for Abbie directly in this case it is for us as parents to learn.
I wonder what would happen if you let Abbie make the mistakes with the color stackers and then asked her to find and fix them. Could she identify the misplaced tiles and figure out how to correct the error without too much prompting?
You guys said break so much that all I could hear is “WE WERE ON A BREAK” I’m not sure how to ask this question but I’m just trying to learn. Where is the line of respecting Abbie’s body space and getting her to do something. When brandy was trying to get her up she clearly didn’t want to be touched. I know she didn’t want to do her backpack and was testing her limits. I also know you are working on standing up when you say so so that she doesn’t lay on the floor.
It wasn’t that she didn’t want to be touched per say. She didn’t want to get up. They don’t disrespect her in any way imo. like I kinda don’t even see how that is something you think of in this scenario 🤷♀️ 🤦♀️
I recognize that stubborn Taurus trait! 😏 If I don't want to do something, I'm the same way! 🤣 I'll drag it out until I lose patience myself and stomp my way through it. 🤣 Abbie is smart as heck. She can do almost anything. She just doesn't want to! 🤣 🐂
Are there therapists like this that work with older adults. I have complex issues and I feel I would benefit from this pitched at my level. I do feel I need to relearn how to be autistic as I was abused and I repressed everything in me that was ASD....it was very painful. I have lower needs in some ways to Abbie but in other ways I'm so similar in behaviour and need for support even if it's just reassurance I can do it. When someone I trust is there I feel encouraged, just having someone on my side is enough to get me over many of my hurdles.
I've read your comment 4 times Jilly, I am so sorry you experienced those things as a child. I feel you would have tremendous trauma from this experience :( From what I have found online, they do have ABA therapists for adults. All suggestions for adults with Autism is to use CBT - Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Google description: What is the best therapy for adults with Autism?: Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a type of talk therapy that can be effective in helping children and adults. During CBT sessions, people learn about the connections between feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. This may help to identify the thoughts and feelings that trigger negative behaviors. Hoping this helps
