They them pronouns: How I figured it out 

Thank you so much for sharing. I wanted to let you know I saw your TEDx about The Gender Tag Project a few years back, and it was the first time I’d ever heard the term non-binary. I was in my mid 40’s and as you described what it was and your experience I began to sob uncontrollably. I finally had a label for what I’d felt my entire life. It was at that moment I figured out who I was. I can’t thank you enough for your honesty and bravery. You changed my life.

If we had used 'we' pronouns to talk about ourselves in the 1st person, then there wouldn't have been so many questions about why enby folks ask others to use 'they/them' pronouns when referring to them. Thank you for this video; it delivers a very powerful message! Honestly, on this platform, I feel lonely as a non-binary creator. I've almost been convinced that nobody takes enby folks seriously anymore. I'm non-binary, but I more often go by she/her pronouns and he/him, plus they/them occasionally

Thank you for sharing. It's so beautiful when we meet people and/or ourselves in a safe place, our true self will speak." Be patient, be present, be kind to yourself"...exactly what I am feeling in it all. Continued work is hard work but beautiful work. Thank you beautiful soul. 😊

Been with you since the earliest days. Wonderful to see you pop-up in my subscriptions Atlas!

a thing i quickly found in my own recovery some years ago was that it was infinitely easier to tend to and care about myself and understand my needs, when i imagined facing a second azurelore-my ideal self, whom i wanted the world for even as i failed to acknowledge the current me. befriending that "perfect" azure allowed me to step outside my habits and doubts and preconceptions as to what options were really available to me, and see the task of self-care not as a chore but an act of love. and the clarity this perspective lent me, it's the single most profound time and decision in my life. forty-one years, and i had never actually gotten to know myself as a person. i had never seen myself as someone to listen to and respect and try my best to support and affirm, and from the other side of things, the sheer relief i came to feel from finally being heard-by myself-fed into the start of a sense of euphoria that i have tried to maintain on some level ever since.

I am so glad for your content. I have an 18 yo daughter who has changed prnouns as she has developed. So i came here to learn and understand. Thank you for your content! a grateful mom!

this is deep, thank you for sharing :) I have no idea what my self would be in 20 years, I certainly have no clear vision, but that sounds like an amazing experience and I'm so happy for you!

This is really powerful! Both the story itself, and how you ended by saying it’s ok to protect things about you if it’s not safe. Beautiful ❤

this made me cry (in a good way), thank you so much for making and sharing this, Atlas. when you said "dont be afraid that there isn't enough" and later "you are encouraged to change", both really got me. i love that the version of you that this exercise brought up was a protector of you, something about that really strikes me too. i think it's because i could imagine this exercise bringing up fears for people, where people might have a vision of a version of themselves in the future that's based on their fears coming true. but i work in mental health care, so that might be based on the types of reactions i often see. but it sounds like for you this opened a sort of portal where you could access this wisdom that was within you, coming from this place of deep strength, bravery, patience, perseverance, trust, that was already leading you here all this time. i always love your perspective and am grateful that you shared it. it lead me to think about the many facets of my own sense of self that i feel unsure of how to conceptualize both to myself and the world at times, and this video felt like an invitation into a space where it is safe to explore these things. thank you.

Eight or so years ago when I was going through my initial gender crisis, your video about being nonbinary but still using she/her pronouns was very important to me. I think I was in a similar situation where I am neither man nor woman but this is what I've always been called, therefore it must be neutral because I am using it...and it's the path of least resistance. I really appreciate this followup as I've started mixing up my pronouns since then. I still don't feel like my journey is over, but I know hearing about your journey will help me on my way.

thank you for sharing your story! 😊

This is going to help so many people. You are fucking incredible.

Thank you for sharing Atlas, been following you for yearsss and I'm so glad to see you finally live your truth 💜

LOVE the name Atlas. I use it as a nickname on one of my personal blogs. My pronouns are he/him and ey/em.

It's a super interestng story, thank you for sharing it! It`s a great reflexion to have actually I think.

formerly chiefdancingostriche. my new channel name is NBCWASWRONGTOCANCELQUANTUMLEAP. i am janis and i am a transgender woman.

I accept you for who you are but having attended public school they/them is plural used when talking about a group or multiple people. I don’t believe you have a mental illness so you don’t have multiple personality disorder, so it just doesn’t make sense. I’m almost 70 and I would be proud of you if you were my daughter so this is not hate or phobic, I just don’t understand when you say you want to be referred to as being multiple people. Best wishes and I hope you find yourself. I would welcome your response. With respect.