I mean, 15 seconds COULD show that a 9-year marriage is horrible and toxic and they should divorce. This isn't even close to that, though. This is just Tuesday. 😂
“People have divorced for less” People have also murdered for less, I’m not gonna do either to the one I love just because evil people do evil horrible things.
After the marriage, my wife gradually distant herself from her friends. Some have been her closest buddies for over 20 years. When I asked about it, she said, "Do you think they are genuinely happy about me. Naaa, a fundamental about friendships among women, they hate & envy each other. "
That's just your wife friends and probably the western culture. South asain and east asain don't have such mindset. It least not majority. @@luckyjayakody
@@San-jx1zdwhile it's true that majority are not like that, but the percentage of women of that kind ain't small enough to ignore either. I live in bangladesh btw
@@redwankhan3375 I know, the percentage is increasing due to the westernization of the east. It's expected. Even women in the middle are getting polluted with it.
@@San-jx1zdDo South Asian and East Asian women have a lot of single friends? Won't most of them are going to get married and at a fairly young age? In the US most women won't get married and the average age of first marriage is almost 30.
I have a niece that goes on about everyone else. Interesting thing is, not even her family wants to be around her. She was in Italy and her mother got a call from the embassy. She is detained to hotel room and thevmilitary is picking her up in the morning and escorting her on to a plane. But its everyone else
That clip of that wife responding to a bunch of boss girls online about why she only posts pictures of her family or pets and not of her self will live rent free in my mind forever. "If I'm going to pretty myself up and take a picture of it, the one I'm sending it to is my husband. Because he's the only attention and approval I need." -Goated Wife
How to get a bunch of pathetic manless slags to seethe with zero effort. Just show them your successful marriage and never respond. Bonus points for directly @‘ing them when something amazing happens that made you and your family happy. Then proceeding to ghost their response.
I'm guessing she asked him to play along for a short funny clip. When it was pointed out his fingers weren't moving (and the little laughing emoji), it seemed more like a skit.
@crowqueenamps His fingers were moving, but he was scrolling and not texting. He was likely watching short videos. Either way, when did not noticing someone become a divorable offense? Take away no fault marriage. 100%
To be fair like eighty percent of stories on things like AITA regarding marriage are absolutely awful recountings of one partner who got so accustomed to the abuse they actually aren't sure if they're not in the wrong. Like what do you mean your partner burned all the photos of your dead childhood best friend because the dinner was slightly cold and made you sleep on the couch when you protested and is giving you the silent treatment until you apologise? That's a psycho. (Example was a mash up of elements I recall from various stories with their own flabbergasting mix)
As a single friend, I’m happy for my best friend. As far as the one guy saying “single friends are single for a reason,” people suck. I’m not getting cheated on.
@@lordsithous4406this is the single equivalent to "people have divorced for less". As the only s8bgle friend in my group, I my opinion, married people need to get their head out of their ass.
@@ytalgorithmperfected3561 once I might have agreed with that, then I read the comment sections in the shit my wife likes to watch now I think I'm low-balling.
Not going to lie I am one of the ones who will stir the shit but only if you come at me wrong. Otherwise I will give legit advise, but be warned it won't be sugar coated I do not have the energy to sugar coat shit.
A lot of what people post is in fact abuse in one form or another, depending on the subreddit. Though many people label bad behaviour as abuse. Like no, it’s shitty and the person is selfish but not abusive. But people on social media giving life advice are sometimes very young with no life experience. Telling a person in an actual abuse situation to “just leave” or “divorce” isn’t helpful. Telling them what’s happening is abusive can at least make them realize it’s not normal and it’s not okay. Even people just saying “lawyer up” for everything. As if it’s so easy to find a good lawyer even if you have a case. People saying it have never needed a lawyer.
That's why the only advice I will consider on my own marriage, is that from older couples who have been married at least twice as long as me. We will be happily married for 12 years come april!
Someone please explain this to me. Why do angry, bitter, single women work so hard to keep every other woman single as well? Most men don't do this to each other.
Men will sabotage each other with paranoia and try to immolate what they hear from buddies or podcast in their real lives on real wives. The stupidity goes both ways
Sometimes it's jealousy. Sometimes it's a competition. Sometimes it's out of spite. Sometimes it's something against other women, and sometimes it's against men in general. I've seen all sorts of these types of people. And *all* of them are miserable.
I can't help but think that she's done this before and he caught her out of the corner of his eye and was thinking to himself "Oh good grief, go change."
I may pick on people who are fixing to get married by asking them if somebody hasn't tried to talk them out of it yet, but I also tell them that I'm kidding and that I hope that they have a wonderful life together. Just because I have two failed marriages doesn't mean I hate on married people. I think it's wonderful when I hear about a marriage that has lasted for a long time.❤
I’ve noticed that comfortable, happy & content Husbands don’t always drop everything to watch & follow their wives around like lil puppies but will ALWAYS show up, pay attention and take action when it REALLY matters. 👊🏼to all the Legit, Good Husbands out there!🤩
You just named the secret to a good marriage. People not constantly needing to be the immediate center of attention, and finding humor in unintentional lapses, while focusing on the things that really matter.
My longterm OH (not married) wouldn't have an idea of what day we first met, despite him making all the first moves, or notice stuff like Valentines, but when he was away for a bit with work and I pulled my hip badly, he jumped straight on the train, he buys CDs he knows I'd like, he loves me like mad, but wouldn't notice me done up if I wore a sign saying "I'm dressed up". A lot of men just don't notice or care - men & women tend to be very different.
@@SittingComfortably my husband is like that too. He's oblivious in many ways, but where it really counts, he's there for me at the drop of a hat. He works in camp, so often gone for 3 weeks at a time, he called one night and I mentioned I was passing another kidney stone and I think it was bigger/too big and I may need to go to the ER for that one to make sure it wasn't the 11mm stone that moved (I was awaiting surgery to have them removed). He called his boss and was like you need to find a replacement for me, my wife needs me. His boss was like I don't have anyone else, my husband said not my problem, you find someone or no one will be on location in the morning (surprise surprise they found someone lol). When we all had covid in the house, he immediately said we take 4 hrs shifts to sleep/take care of the kids. We did need more sleep, but 4 hrs is the max we could handle being awake, our youngest was really sick and needed 24/7 supervision to keep an eye on his fever that was hovering near the needing hospital admission levels. When I was breastfeeding my youngest, he'd wake up to change his diaper, bring the baby to me, then I'd feed him and put him back to bed. And that's just 3 things in over 11 years of marriage. He may forget to get me something for Valentine's day/mother's day, he rarely pays attention to what I'm wearing, I never wear makeup but I could do a full face and he wouldn't notice, but he can come home from a 12 hrs shift and notice I'm absolutely exhausted from a rough day with the kids and tell me to take a nap while he cooks dinner and wrangles the kids (and the reverse also happens before someone comes at me, if he comes home absolutely exhausted from a long day, I tell him to go relax, I got this).
If you want someone's attention you should say something. This just shows that he trusts her and is comfortable in her presence and that he really enjoys whatever he's watching.
@@goldenhate6649Do you have to be such a Gloomy Gus? The people in the comments were acting shitty, the wife looks like she's just having a bit of fun.
@@kryptonianguest1903we wouldn't be seeing it online and especially not with the caption "failed challenge" if it were all in good fun. I'm betting she's a social media junkie and this is for clout.
@@drl5002 There's a laughing emoji at the end of that title. Also look at her face during the video. You're a male version of the silly women in that video's comment section.
To be fair. I have no peripheral vision. And I have to take my glasses off to see a screen. Had she actually danced in front of him I’d figure he may be hyper focused.
Did people notice their fresh clothing, lovely kitchen area and very fresh faces for folk that have been in 9 years of marriage?? Looks like to me that they're doing just fine 🙂 😊
These people don’t understand commitment and have an “all or nothing” mentality. It’s 100% good or bad, no “meh” or just unimportant. So even in 15 seconds of the husband not paying attention, they 100% think the relationship is done.
clearly its becoming a popular way of thinking. The marriage and divorce stats are in the gutter. Especially if you have a kid.. They figure out most men don't want to raise another mans kid, no matter how good the woman is.. I mean behavioral history is very relevant and whos to say she just wouldn't do it again. I wonder what the next progression will be after all this current vapid streak
oooh, they think what they see here is the USUAL experience of the couple in their marriage and not the EXCEPTION made for a funny video... huh. At least it logics a little better for me now.
@@hyronharrison8127 Rough? They don't even see rough, they see a guy who isn't obsessing over her every move and they go NOPE YOU'RE TRASH and divorce the guy.
Misery loves company. They see a 9 year marriage and don't want other people to be happy together because it reminds them that while other people are capable of staying married, they themselves couldn't manage it.
15 seconds of a 9 year marriage? Unless those 15 seconds were of him assaulting her, then you're absolutely right. That is not enough time to judge a marriage.
Women run off group mentality. Enough of then think the same way the rest will fall in line. That's why covid became such a big deal and why immigration isn't being fixed. There's too women in positions of power and influence towards other women. You know how many people are getting hurt by this mass illegal immigration into western society? Tons of women and children getting raped and stabbed.
@@ModernDayRenaissanceMannah, if there's assault, they are almost certainly better off separate from each other. Apart from if it's a consensual bedroom thing. Apparently some people enjoy getting properly smacked around. That is one of those thing I *really* can't claim to understand though.
How is it healthy when after 9 years on your anniversary your beautiful and well maintained wife is recreating a memory from the wedding day, dancing around him to impress him and he didnt even give a look or a compliment? Forget being a part of recreating that memory where he was originally there and participated 9 years ago. No attention and love whatsoever. I'm struggling to see the health in this sort of relationship. Definitely dont think they need to divorce over it either... just talk to that man about why he doesnt want to talk to her when she is trying so hard to impress him. That's strange.
@@SteffiDon-b5wahh yes, bc women are entitled to a man’s attention whenever she wants, wherever she wants, however she wants. No. He was busy using two phones, likely bc he’s working from home/his phones. He is 100% innocent here. Stop validating women’s irrational feelings. For all you know, she’s the toxic one that he’s putting up with. She could be the reason to divorce, not him.
Lonely and begrudged single women create more single women with behavior like this. How’s about instead of playing games you just say how you feel, what’s wrong with that??
Amen!!! My wife gets pissed at me because I'm watching a video. (Hearing aids are Bluetooth) I keep telling her that if she wants to talk to me, get my attention, wait for me to pause my video, and then she has my full attention, but she doesn't. She just starts talking and then gets mad that she has to repeat herself. She's always had to repeat herself, after 20 years in the Marine Corps, I'm pretty much deaf.
@@PaladinSixformer relief worker in a war zone, lots of big ol' booms (some far too close for comfort-bye bye vision in my left eye), I'm the same way with my partner. They want me attention, they have to actually stop me in whatever I'm listening to/watching, and redirect it to them. Then again, I'm also extremely ADHD/autistic, so they'd have had to do that anyway, but that's back and to the left of the point.
They clearly don’t understand how a man thinks or works, I can go try to talk to my husband and think he doesn’t notice cause he doesn’t respond and he is so immersed in whatever he was doing. He will come find me 30 minutes later to talk or sometimes even answer what I asked and apologize cause he was in the zone and barely registered but registered enough to know I wasn’t in distress. It’s not that they don’t notice they are simply single minded in the moment
Bro looks like he's working, going back between two phones, so he's probably some kind of BOSS providing his lady a bomb ass house. That kitchen is on point!!
@@CryptikAcon She seems annoying. He probably deals with her attention seeking antics all day long. Can't blame him. You modern women are insufferable, really.
A friend of mine wife left him because of her girlfriends filling her head full of bullshit she destroyed a 10-year relationship now two years on she wants back and he won't have nothing to do with her people need to keep out of other people's relationship what makes you happy and someone else happy is two different things
That's difinitve proof that you don't let the internet decide whether your 9 year marriage is worth having. In fact, if it's 9 years going it's better than My 30 year virgin unmarried self. There can only be 2 people om the internet. Either they've never been married or they've been married for less than 2 years. 😅😂 I may be a loser, but I don't cry over other people's happiness. I swear, everyone think he has cheated on her without her knowing, over 15 secs. Video 😂😂😂❤❤
@@icantcook9998 thanks, but I know I am. "The only man who Can beat me is myself" I fired Myself from a job, because i didn't live up to My own expectations, of how that job should be done.
@@olemortensen3354 There was an author, most well known for his horror fiction & being involved with the Angels of Mons, who once wrote "I dreamed in fire, but worked in clay." Like Arthur Machen, so many of us experience the same doubts, so much so there's that famous quote that expresses something similar -- "The best lack all conviction, while the worst are full of passionate intensity." You are a good person, just as so many of us are good people, because we do goood things even when we doubt ourselves so much. And it's so hard for us to see this clearly, because we're too close, like the way we're too close to the end of our own nose to see it clearly without a mirror. So the way we know we're not a loser? When the people around us, who love us, our family, both blood relations and blood-kindred, our kin and kith both, they will reflect that to us, remind us when we forget. This way I remember that, for me, life asks me to be kind, and gentle, and loving, to those in my life--including myself--and to remember that too often I lack the chance to see how much of a difference, a positive diffence I can & do make. And, whilst Bill & Ted remind us to "be excellent to each other" -- it also we means we need to be excellent to ourselves when we need to be.
WOW! "Dadvocate" lady looks positively GORGEOUS naturally. The only thing I'm wondering is how small are her eyelashes? But she's beautiful in this video.
@@Literallytheplanetsaturnit's a bit more because of leap years (☝️🤓) And the percentage of marriage that people saw is about 0.000005282%, and that was enough to recommend a divorce.
@@Yahel792 yeah, assuming it was _this_ year, 284,083,200 seconds with the leap years. And that lowers the percentage too (to 0.0000052801%). Some people are *very* determined to announce that *_they're_* the red flag, with that level of thinking into major decisions. 😉
Why? When facts and stats show men gain more once married than women do? A man can marry at 125 pounds ( youth) a woman at 98 lbs. She ended up being 128 pounds and him 190.. women are judged too harshly. Why would anyone think a woman should be the same weight at 17-19 years old and a man not? This whole "WE " were pregnant is crazy.
You said it yourself, people gain weight. This is nine years married. As you agreed with his statement, he was surprised she still fit. He's not knocking her or being negative. You decided that. @@lorireed8046
@@lorireed8046 So OP is complimenting the woman on being able to keep herself fit and healthy enough after 9 years during which she has probably entered her 30's, and you're this mad about that? Like, they actively were not judging her. Just mentioning "We can see she's kept herself in shape for 9 years. That takes work and should be applauded."
10 years married next month, 5 kids, and I do not fit into my dress. Hubs has agreed to a break between any further kids so I can try to. Though I doubt my boobs will ever fit after all this nursing 😂
Yeah I'm like that too. I've been working from home before and at the end of the day had a crying girlfriend, completely clueless as to what the problem is.
@@Number_5for me, it is. Only sometimes tho; I’ve also have ADHD. Sometimes it blesses me with the greatest focus in the world, and other times it curses me with the attention span of a goldfish
She's clearly just showing how focuses he gets on the phone to the point he tunes out everything else. My father is the same with everyone, if he's focused sometimes not even shaking that massive man will get him to notice anything.
Don't take everything at face value, he's swapping between 2 phones there, kind of looks like she asked him to do something for her. This kind of content is often quite disingenious.
90% of people literally regurgitate what they've heard somewhere else They have no self awareness, they act on instinct like simple animals No introspection, no rational or logical thought, not questioning anything But oh boy good luck in achieving their level of arrogance, hatred and self-righteousness
People don't know how to think about things anymore because they're stupid. Not the things, the people. Stupid. From relationships to finances to politics. And if you believe that those things have nothing to do with one another, you should reevaluate your stance because each has EVERYTHING to do with each other. The problem is people listen to other people too much and too easily. No one wants to think for themselves today. Afraid. Cuz thinking is hard.😢... 😂
Fr, I'm so glad my parents always told me to think for myself and not always listen to the mass, cause a lot of times people's responses legit seem programmed-
"People have divorced for less" yeah why do you think its such an acheivement to have a 9 year marriage. 😂😂😂 My husband and I have been married for 8 years about to be 9. Its hard work lmao this ish👀 isnt easy but its WORTH IT to be with your person.
Congratulations to you and your husband. It is hard and it never got easier in my case. We lasted 16 years. Divorce was even harder than marriage. I hope you never have to feel the pain of divorce.
been married for 15 years and i agree sometimes it's work especially when things are tough but it is worth pushing through and staying faithful to your partner
@@synfinity oooooh you are right around the time of the 3rd crisis when people have serious problems in their marriage... push past this upcoming big issue and you are pretty much good until the end. We're pulling for you.
thanks, i'm blessed with a suppoting wife. i was in an auto accident in july haven't worked since, but since i was at work workers comp has been paying to help with bills but the strugle is pretty steep. I am just happy she is sticking with me until i can get back to work. @@thomgizziz
also, a) scripted, but if not, b) I can see me playing it off like I don't notice as a joke, since I OBVIOUSLY notice and seeing my wife in her wedding dress would absolutely tear me to shreds. Like what, he doesn't specifically look up during the clip, so he fails? bruh
Or because they are so miserable that no-one is interested in them, then they just become even more miserable and want everyone else to be miserable too.
My ex-wifes friend took offense and told my wife it was degrading when i would call my wife, wife. So sad, it was the most loving, respectful thing i could call her, said with soooo much pride.
I literally call my boyfriend “Boyfriend” that is his legal name to me and when we get married his legal name will be “husband” because I love him so much and I’m so happy to he’s mine and I’m his. I take pride in our relationship and we’re lucky to have found each other. Some people just hate to see others happy.
nah it’s just the people that don’t know how to care about anyone but themselves. insecure people try to please people in fear they’ll be left. these people think that they have to be doted on every second of the day or their partner is thought less of
They're also stupid. Smart people don't get involved in other people's relationships unless there is abuse going on that the abused partner can't escape on their own.
Yes!!! Yes! I am delighted you said it because lately we see this "divorce" stuff after the smallest thing! I wonder how many of these women who are advising divorce are unhappily married and have no intention of divorcing!!!
If he’s constantly aware of her he’s too clingy - divorce. If he doesn’t notice right away he’s not attentive enough - divorce. Being human as a man is unacceptable.
The job of every man is to do exactly what his woman wants -- no more and no less. And she won't tell him what she wants. He's expected to just know, somehow. Failure to live up to this standard is grounds for being kicked to the curb. The only way to win that game is not to play.
It is not about good or bad choices, it is about giving choices where every single one is the wrong one. How else will these toxic cishet white men ever learn?
She seems to be happy dancing around... He seems to concentrate on finding and booking a nice travelling trip for there's holiday. Maybe that's why she looks so pleased. ❤❤❤❤
Maybe he's looking for the Best restaurant to take his Beautiful wife of 9 years that still can fit in her gorgeous wedding dress. Happy Anniversary ❤❤
I always think it's crazy how many people think they know people, their intentions, and their lives after seeing a 20 second clip. It's like when people read a headline and make up the rest of the news article
Congratulations. They made it past the "7 year itch." 9 years!! Wow that's a long lasting marriage in this day and age. FYI --I personally know a couple who'se been married get this..61 YEARS. They were still teenagers back then BUT have stuck together for all of those 61 YEARS!!😀
If I tried to get in my wedding dress after 20 years of marriage and 2 kids, and dance around in front of my husband, I pray to GOD he pays attention! Because I'll sincerely need his help to get out of it before I faint from lack of oxygen! 🤣❤️
It’s a tragic but pervasive mindset these days. We’re so aware of our “other options” that we forget the grass is always greener. Why have a human partner when your imaginary perfect one is waiting for you?
You summed it up very well. Its what half of all that redpill stuff is.. And it wouldn't exist to this level if there weren't a causation.. A lot of its just pick up artists who pivotted. Not to mention the more partners you go through the more likely you'll become to be incapable of accepting and being satiated and comfortable with any single guy/partner in the future, or what they call pair bonding. It exists in all humans.
I've been married for 14 years. The only time my gal did anything for me was before we were married. She does nothing for me now, but is always expecting me to do for her when she does not even pay any attention when I am talking, much less have any concern for my well being. Certainly no encouragement or support. She did give me two beautiful daughters though, so I guess that is something that is priceless. If not for the kids, I would be so gone for sure. She is a good gal, just not where I am concerned.
you likely cant understand if your not a woman Id bet, a lot of it is conditioning. idk about elsewhere but growing up everything was about this mystical banger wedding you would have one day... And lover the years it builds up. But that isn't a reason to hate the nuclear family ideals where that conditioning came from. That should be put more towards the wedding industry IMO. So they want the giant party centered solely around them to happen and be extravagant. the man is expendable. Ive met many women in this mind set, but they never found someone willing to marry them as they could read it on their face. Plus the shit is expensive and I assume they assume the man will pay for it all in their heads. And then they get to roll out of it with alimony.. lol
Into a wedding? A successful relationship is WAY harder and takes much longer than any wedding. I think alot of people dont understand that a healthy relationship is constant effort.
@@kaileyenns A lot of people also don't understand how successful relationships worked before they could get married because laws prevented them from getting married. Thanks for proving my point
When my friend’s marriage was on the rocks, every single one of us encouraged him to work on it, go to counseling, etc. And he did. I’ve never seen someone work so hard to save their marriage. It wasn’t good enough for her of course. And we found out later, that every single one of her (single) female friends and even her own divorced mom told her to give up and divorce him. Women give other women the worst advice and I refuse to believe it’s not on purpose.
That's horrible & sadly, the truth. Women only want other women to fail & be a miserable as they are... As a woman, I've seen it too many times to count. And why growing up I primarily had male friends. Women are backstabbing, conniving & malicious.
Its bred into alot of their D.N.A . For as long as mankind has been around men do all the fighting in battles be it tribal or military, when those men die the wemon are left with 2 options , find a new man to be with and procreate or die alone. Those that chose to be alone after even though its the more noble route and shows strong will and character arent passing those qualities down to future generations
How DARE you imply that single women whose only source of companionship are lonely, bitter and angry! How DARE you imply that single men whose only source of companionship are virtual AI women are lonely, bitter and angry! Who are you to judge the happiness of others? Are you the happy police? Huh? HUH?! (I'm just playing with you, but you do make a good point.)
How can these people be so blunt as to urge her to divorce her husband over this? It's like they're petulant children who lose their minds if there's any suggestion that they aren't a fairytale princess.
