Things Being in A Relationship Taught Us! (UNFILTERED) 

Just ended a 3 year relationship because of the friend issue. Have friends, yes. But when those friendships lack boundaries and overlap into behaviors of a romantic relationship, it’s disrespectful to who you’re with. I can’t be with someone who doesn’t respect me.

Not married but what i’ve learned in being in a four year relationship is that it is so important to learn how your partner recharges. Especially in introvert+extrovert relationships. Each person needs to understand and be accepting of how one another recharges in order for a successful and healthy relationship!

Marriage has taught me a lot of patience. It has taught me that I can't just expect my husband to get up and clean when I start to clean. I can't expect something I never communicated to him. I learned that when an argument is too heated its okay to walk away for a minute and come back when we have calmed down and can listen to each other. I learned to share my space and to not be so selfish. I learned how to communicate even though we aren't professionals at it. I can't ask for a thank you or appreciation for every little thing because it is a team effort and sometimes they aren't Donna notice the little things. I love how you said to always have the mindset of they aren't doing something to make you mad and that they always have good intentions.. it is very easy to quickly go to anger. I always try to consider that they just didn't know and that I just gotta communicate it. Marriage has helped me grow and mature as a person. 😊

Love listening to you guys! Not super seasoned but been married for six years and one of the biggest lessons I learned/learning was that I can NOT change my spouse, but I can control my emotions and actions and put the Holy Spirit on em. The Holy Spirit is cold with it though. Instead of griping ill pray for him, then next thing I know my prayers are answered. The Holy Spirit will convict them MESS out my husband and me too lol, but I do my job and pray and serve and the Holy Spirit does the rest. He is the best at his job, I'm terrible at it. Some prayers may not be instantly answered and may take time, but God does the best pruning and sanctifying during that waiting period. But yeah if I want them socks off the floor, I'll let hubby know my request but I'll lean into prayer too lol.

The relationship insight/advice that I can offer are: when you look at and/or deal with each other, remember who’s each of you are. You are a son and a daughter of God, treat each other accordingly. Also, there is a wise saying that goes: you have two ears and one mouth, use them proportionately. Those are the two biggest lessons that I have learned and am still on a journey of learning. They have priceless in helping me come so far in my relationship.

I’m not in a relationship or or married but I was in a abusive relationship 3 years ago and had a relationship a year ago. Being single I have learnt SO much. I’ve seen exactly what a relationship shouldn’t be and grown alone and learnt my love language and how I would like to be loved and how I like to communicate etc. but I love watching you guys, I love your relationship and your dynamic together, it’s really beautiful to see the life you’ve built and I’ve watched from day one 🥰

The main thing I have learned from being married is that you always have to remember your on the same team. Sometimes when fighting you get it in your head that you are against each other but if you remember your on the same team in those moments the argument heads towards a more of a fixing conversation than a fight.

This one is so deep! 25 years of marriage and I still get so mad when my husband stops somewhere to get a “snack” after he gets off work and doesn’t call me! I also have a hard time expressing/speaking my feelings if he doesn’t do something I expect him to do! I realize he’s not a mind reader but I feel like he should just know! Something else that makes me so mad is when he tells me I don’t have to leave the house to go to work because I’m a stay at home mom! It’s sad that I feel like going to the grocery store is my alone time! I don’t even get a shower without my 3 year old bugging me! I even lock the door but he’s learned how to unlock it! Marriage is hard and takes work every day! It is not just reading your vows and you’re done you must put your vows to work!

I’ve been married 42 years and if people will listen and heed your words life will be much easier. Marriage is hard and it’s too easy to blame someone else when your tired, hungry, frustrated ALWAYS think the best of them! Wisest words ever! Thank you

Me and my husband have been married for almost 3 years. We have been through A LOT. The thing I have learned the most is GRACE. You have to show your spouse or significant other grace no matter how hard it is at times. I love y’all!! ❤️❤️

Thank you for the section where you talked about the difference between thinking your relationship is God-centered versus what it's like to be ACTUALLY God-centered. Especially acknowledging that God showed favor AND the not so great things. That is giving others a better realistic understanding of what will happen!! I really really appreciate that because this is something I had to learn the hard way but being on the other side now, it is the most amazing and freeing thing to realize what you thought was for you is so much less than what GOD has waiting for you.

I love the realness! I love how you show that you can love each other and argue at times.

My husband and will be married 3 years in Sep. we have definitely learned A LOT in this short amount of time. I loved y’all’s transparency when you brought up not doing the dishes while the other takes care of Ry bc I think one of the biggest things I’ve learned and think every couple should know is “expectations” as in not assuming your partner knows what you expect, and making sure you voice your expectations and not expecting your partner to read your mind no matter how long you’ve been together ❤️

When josh was talking and savannah said he soothed her.. in the moment I was thinking the exact same thing. God was in the center of that conversation. Thank you guys for always being so real. I’ve been watching since black haired sav and prank days and I’m all for the growth. I love to see it! God bless you guys 🤍

Josh Wins!!

This is literally my favorite podcast right now!! It’s makes my day on Monday’s. Love the drafts as always Sav definitely won this one!! I love the name Blair.

Being in a relationship for 7 years has taught us a lot but three of the biggest take aways from our relationship that we would love to share is .. 1. It’s not always going to be 50/50 & that’s OKAY !! 2. When you get an argument / disagreement try to remember “it’s you & your partner against the problem not you & your partner against each other” you’re on the same team always ! 3. Compromise & communication is huge ! For example, Daniel always gets out the shower & leave the little plug up so the next time when I go to take a shower the shower just turns on right on top of me before I’m ready lol so when I brought that up to him he told oh baby I was just trying to save you a step but I didn’t like that even tho he was just trying to be nice lol so nooow .. when I get out the shower I leave the plug up for him & when he gets out he puts the plug down for me . Compromise 💗 ahah

46:36 I definitely relate to this; in most cases I don’t assume someone has ill intentions because they most likely weren’t trying to upset you. Don’t jump to conclusions!!! it’s true for other areas of life too, not just marriage

Sav: "it's a wife's job to keep the peace in the house." I like that Sav. 🥰😊🙏🏾✝️ I know when I choose to fight every battle, there is not as much peace in the house. Submission is really important. We've been married for almost 3 years as well, together for 8 years. ♥️😁 Anyways , I think it's important to choose your battles. Not everything has to be turned into a huge debate, or one trying to over explain themselves. 😅🥱Each of us are different individuals. We are one in marriage, but are still two different people that God knitted together (uniquely) in the womb. It's okay to have different opinions, etc. But still keep the peace and unity - With God in the middle. Ecclesiastes 4:4-9 are my favorite bible verses for marriage. 🙏🏾✝️😊🙌🏾

Marriage is what taught me to give grace. Just as much if not more than I give myself. My husband is not always gonna be at 100. My husband works his behind off every day so as the wife if he comes home and is obviously drained, I can't expect him to immediately hop on the list of things that I need his help with. Give grace and let that be okay. Have faith that we are a team and we do this journey together. So there will be a day where I'm not 100 and he will give grace and he has for me. Marriage taught me to give grace and have faith in that❤️❤️

I really love the accountability and great communication you both have I feel that you really portray a strong marriage and neither of you ever put the blame on eachother you speak on what part you’ve played in things and I love that

You guys are rocking. Almost reaching half million subscribers. I have seen that for the past weeks/months, the number of subscribers has been increasing non stop. Congratulations. I love you and your channel so much!!

I love the fact that you guys unapologetically talk about the importance of allowing God to be an important part of your marriage. I have been married for 35 years and I can hands down think back and notice the times that we allowed God to direct us and those were the times that he totally opened our hearts towards each other and made our marriage sooooo much healthier.

This is one of my favorites episodes so far ❤❤❤ Great job guys! 🎉

Having a 5 year old daughter and 1 year old son, married for 5 years. Your plan on how to discipline and what your parenting style will look like is forever a revolving door. You are a certain way for a season and then when your child gets older you discipline a different way and it is forever changing. I know once my daughter is 10 or 17 I will be parenting a different way than the season I am in. Marriage has taught me an exceptional amount of patience and that communication is something taught in your child hood home and if you didn’t see communication or raised in a house with communication, than you have to work really hard to communicate even when you don’t want to. And communication looks so different for a lot of people. So communicate HOW you both communicate and come to an agreement on what communication in your marriage will look like

not me wishing that i didn't listen to it all already an hour after i listen to it cause i didn't want it to be over and didn't want it to end! love y'all! and love the inspiration you are to many!

Being in a relationship has taught me patience is key and not everyone is used to an abundance of love !!

i literally love y’all!! and josh definitely won this won sorry sav❤

I think the draft was a toss up. There was a couple good and a couple not so good for both. If you do Melo with that spelling she would get called Mee-loh..

Loved this. These are my fav pods to watch. Thank you for the wisdom shared. I appreciate you putting yourselves out there.

Bro! The food thing MOST DEFINITELY!🤦🏽‍♂️🤣 Even if she says she’s not hungry… get her something you THINK she’d like … cause otherwise you’ll end up feeling like crap and have to share with her anyway! Then you end up with half a meal and half a full stomach 🤣🤣

I was in a 3 year relationship and I would say that before going into a relationship pray and go see a therapist. It’s important not to trauma dump on your significant other. Took a while for me to learn that!!

My family has started to watch these with me now cause mondays in not in the house im just here physically and we enjoying .... Josh list is bomb i love all them names 👌🏾❤❤❤❤ Sav honey i loved 3

Wow! This conversation was full of wisdom and truth. Thank you for sharing and being transparent. Love you guys🙏🏿🙏🏿❤❤

I can’t listen to the podcast I have to watch it because Josh’s facial expression have me crying EVERYTIME it never failssssss

This podcast makes my Mondays so much better 🥰❤

There is a drink name mello. Listening to you guys while I travel for work

I am a newlywed going on 2 years married in June. I see my marriage when I watch you guys. Ex: my husband washes the dishes and helps me cook. I love that he does that. We don’t have kids yet. That picture seems very scary to me so far but I really can’t wait to grow a family. You guys are amazing. Love you guys.

killin it w the pods 🔥

I don't like boys name for a girl at all, so Josh I'm with you. Josh won this one again.

this is soooo helpful, especially when talking about long distance. THANK YOU!!!!!

Team Josh! 💯

I love all the names Josh said 😊

Josh you would’ve won this if you didn’t put mello, & kota. Sav took this, but I don’t care for the name Zella- what if both of them want to go by Ella in the future? Love these ice breakers that you both do. You can do a combination of those names too would be cute. Y’all are a vibeeeee ❤ My fave names y’all both chose: Reese, Drew, Nova, Noah, Billie, Blaire

Yielding is everything!

Definitely my favorite episode so far 💗 thank you for sharing your knowledge!! Also you two crack me up 😂

For the next draft…. Can y’all do 90’s snacks??? ( like the kind y’all grew up on )

Small things in the end don't matter just to let it go. Figure out what really matters and really carries weight and importance vs the little things trying to make the other person perfect. Most things will end up not mattering and will be much happier not focusing on the negative

When my husband and I were dating, he had a best friend that was a female. She was married, and they met at work but were no longer working together. It was super weird to me. I did not like her. She was 10+ years older than my husband. It was super weird. Now, my husband and I have been together for 5.5 years AND she’s one of my besties too. We would not be where we are today in life without her. I very vividly remember her being at our home with our dog when we brought our daughter home from the hospital. She literally watched her while my husband and I took a few hour nap. She also helped us pay bills at one point when we were really struggling. There’s many, many more instances I can give.

This podcast is heavy on wisdom. Great convo and yes, Always listen to your gut.

Y’all killed with this episode🔥 so many good gems❤

I’m not a fan of the name nova because it’s becoming quite popular, but Josh wins HANDS DOWN. 4/5 names are 🔥🔥

Phew, so many things. In 5 year relationship and our first baby boy is just over a year. Be present, be kind, be generous. Communicate because no one can read minds. Keep dating as josh says and always remember to be intimate

This podcast was soo good I’m rewatching it now.

The way y’all go back and forth make me bust out laughing I love y’all

The way savannah acts so shocked at things 😂😂😂

This was a really good podcast!! Thanks for being so real with us! ❤

Sav… Omgosh the heating pad lol😂. Petty but funny

Y’all should do Dr Aron 36 questions and the 4 minute silence looking at each other in a podcast style.

I really love seeing a healthy example of a young married couple. I do believe you two are wise beyond your years but that could be a reflection of the fact that this is a season of life where you are trying to include God in your marriage more (as Josh said) and the wisdom may come from that. Keep it up.

Being in a relationship for 4 years has taught me that there are 2 true C’s in a relationship. Communication and Compromise. Without those being a focus and at the center of a relationship, for me I feel like a relationship cannot reach its true potential.

literally my favorite podcast, i love you guys

WAIT MY DOGS NAME IS MELO!! ❤ I’m with Josh in this one, fire name

Josh killed it

I love this! Please do more

Josh won this draft!

Dru immediately made me think of Dru Hill 😂

I really enjoyed this podcast. Thank you so very much!!

Sav has been so savage with these competitions… she’s getting heated. Lol 😂

Y’all really preaching in this podcast

Not bringing aluminum foil to the salon 😭😭😂😂😂😂

Josh’s spellings tripped me up but they are fire names. Sav wins for me because Blaire was going to be my daughter’s name but we decided to go with Sage instead. And I love Reece too! Close one

Matthew 19:4-6: "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." 💗

You can put up the poll with your picks without names then reveal who's list it was when you do the draft on the pod cast

I have a cousin who has a daughter name Zellie and it is super cute and fits her so well!! I think Riella and Zellie would be super super cute instead of doing Zella. Just had to say that in case you hadn’t thought of it!! Love you guys!!

Oh 100% my ex ALWAYS got me food even when I didn’t ask and it was really appreciated. He was exactly how y’all are describing. Even felt bad if I didn’t like my food, like he almost take it personally hahaha

Me putting every name you guys say down in my notes app because I love all the names 🤣👀

Reese and Kota are fire

im dead at josh talking about rue and nash 🤣🤣

Also a few podcasts I’ve heard josh mention things about not being 100% loyal with sav In The beginning of dating as you were fresh out of past on and off relationship and just curious if you would be comfortable diving deeper into that like how did you get over that and Sav how did you handle it and did you get resentment and how did you cope with going forward with it ??

I loved all the names but Josh won the draft!! Congrats buddy

really loved this one, got some great info

I just cant let it go. Josh won that chip battle.

Josh’s first point is so good but I think the reason why us women do that is because if we’re asking you to do something typically it’s because we’re doing something else and we need your help with that thing so we can continue or move on, if you wait too long it’s no longer helpful for you to do it and we’ll just figure it out lol

My sons name is Melo 🥰 I love his name so much!!

I super invested in these drafts lol…..BTW Josh won the last two drafts but Sav won this one! Nova is my favorite but Sav had more names on her list that I liked than Josh. Zella with a X would be cool and different, Xella.

Josh 100% won the draft. Not even close.

sorry Sav Josh won this one lol marriage has taught me to respect my husband (men need respect) always look at the Bible on how to be a wife, community is a necessity, communicate communicate communicate, sex is a weapon to fight against the weapons the enemy tries to form but can't prosper (; and so much more but I will stop there for now lol

I love Frankie. My girls are one unique and one more common because it fits them so well. They are individuals.. yes sister but are they the same or alike. No! ❤

Reese,Drew,kodaha very cool name ❤

Josh won this!🎉

You guys are killing me 😂😂😂😂😂

Josh won all these drafts!

I go to our beauty school in town and pay max with tip like $85/90. If I went to a salon, it would be like $150 I think. That’s crazy in LA that you pay sooooo much!!!

Josh got this one one but Blaire is fire I'm really feeling kota and melo

I paused this the second you said D R U. Cause my name is Drew but I prefer dru my whole life. And i live in Michigan lol. Much love sosh squad!

You don’t need to explain! A hidden love language for women is men doing some household chores. It’s like foreplay🤣😉 And going through hard times personally can be so hard in a marriage. You do feel like the other person needs to help, when you can’t depend on them fully for happiness. Especially as a believer, we must give it to God and depend on Him! Being your best self alone is so important and something I’m working on daily!

Josh wins fashooo

Omg i have a Nova and she is 20 months :-) i literally love her name. Also, I think Billie Jean is adorable!

Josh won, what do you think about the name Kit or Jude❤