Things I HATE about being a KOREAN guy 

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"I really like when everyone talks about the truth, even if they are good or bad, I really respect them.

7) The whole drinking culture, in general, bugs me about Korea. I've never really enjoyed drinking and although I did it socially with friends in my late teens and young adults, it now bothers me when I'm with friends who go "just have one drink". Like, if I don't want to drink, respect it. I've always told my friends, "look, I don't drink or smoke weed and if you want to do that, it's fine, but respect my choices and don't do it around me or pressure me". This doesn't mean I don't drink at all, but the point is that it's MY CHOICE and it doesn't determine who I am as an individual. Just because I don't party or drink, doesn't mean I'm "NO FUN". Just because a guy doesn't enjoy going to a strip club, hostess bar, or whatever overly masculine thing doesn't mean they "AREN'T MEN".

I love how your accent goes from Korean to British to Straight American all in one sentence! Enchanting...

Love this young man for being honest and up front about how he feels. He’s adorable and I love that he isn’t a man who feels the need to please everyone. Kudos Danny 🥳🥳🥳

My mom is Korean. She is 91. She came here to the US in 1963. Korea today drives her crazy. She thinks everyone has become so shallow. It really bothers her a lot. As far as the skin care regime. It amazes me that men have better skin care regimes than most women in the US. I don’t drink at all so I don’t understand the whole drinking culture.

A "real man" knows how to express himself and you did it with truth and conviction. I appreciate your grounded views of feeling pressured to live above your means, drinking and what it means to be a man. I tell my children to pursue their talents and the income will follow. It worked for them. Be proud of who you are, be resolute and not swayed by others opinions, it's your life. Be happy, be healthy sweetness.

As an Asian American, who lives in the US, I can relate and understand some of these expectations of us as developing beings. This has been nice to learn about some of these cultural differences in Korea vs the US. I didn't realize the korean military had paid so little 😳 😅 😕 I'm sorry for your struggles, and I just wanted to thank you so much for sharing your experiences and the expectations that are placed by society there. Just know you're doing great and that you are very much appreciated 😊

As an Australian it's crazy to hear about these social expectations. I'm so used to Aussies not caring about what car, social position, or how much money you have, we have such a relaxed culture; of course there are some people in Australia that aren't like that, but mostly we care about how you treat other people, and your personality. I generally don't care about judgment and pressures from society for this reason, but I could understand If I grew up in a culture that was, It would be tough to try and break free from that and the stereotypes that proceed. This video was an eye opener for sure

Korea has had such a surge of attention in the past few years due to k wave. It must be so difficult to deal with all the unrealistic expectations from fans whose knowledge is based soley on k drama presentations. Thank you for speaking so openly about this. Best wishes. 🙂

I just recently became interested in K-POP and Korean shows on Netflix. It made me curious about ‘real life’ in Korea. Thanks for providing your perspective. I love learning about other cultures and your opinions seem to be very reasonable to me. I look forward to learning more through you and your videos. Good luck!

3) The whole "brand" name purchasing without the financial capacity to afford it from young Koreans SHOCKED me when I first saw it. For me, if I can't pay it with my debit card, I shouldn't be purchasing it. My credit card currently has $0 due and I wouldn't even own a credit card if it wasn't a huge part of building a credit score in the US.

Thank you for your honesty. As a complete k-drama buff i can see what your saying because all of that pressure you talk about is very clear. I sincerely respect your integrity and your core values, of course we all do stuff at times that might not be 100% for the right reason, but we learn and move on, right? Thanks again for sharing this, very interesting and so important. I want to visit Korea someday and see all that amazing nature, hopefully i will find a bunch of ppl who are out of the judgemental zone.

I have never been in Korea but just by watching Kdramas I already realized all the issues you pinpointed. Especially the drinking culture is really bad and needs to change. The age hierarchy is the second weird thing to me. I understand that it very important part of the culture but still, being forced to do stuff just because of your age is a huge factor why people are depressed, get bullied and increase the suicide rate and all other mental problems that are still tabu to talk about openly in Korea. But I happy to see visible changes for better in the past 2-3 years especially.

When I visited Korea I met one of my friend’s friend who lives there. When we first met I complimented and called her beautiful (bc she was) and she instantly said “omg no I’m so fat” and I promise you she was not bigger than a size small. I felt almost ashamed of myself for a split second bc we have similar bodies but snapped out of it quickly. I’ve never been one to dislike my body or really anything about myself so that moment was so bizarre for me. I also went to the club one day and a group of drunk Korean girls kept squeezing my arm and saying I was so healthy haha I was like damn! 😂 I was glad to be able to return to America for once, where people don’t care too much about these kinds of things.

I'm an Indian brown girl living in south korea from last few month. In all these months I found that there's a big life difference between kdrama life or real life of korean. people judged me or sometimes gave me weird looks because of my outfit or my skin color. But still korea is beautifull 😊😊 and I appreciate that you freely describe the things in agood way.

My husband feels the same way about going to bars. He does enjoy playing darts but doesn’t care to drink. I always felt that a man who can say no to things like that is more manly. I can see your point about military service. It’s not for everyone. Some benefit greatly from the experience but not everyone. It’s interesting to hear your points of view. Thank you for sharing.

My home country is actually the same, so while I was initially hesitant about leaving, I eventually left my country to live somewhere else, and the freedom I felt from public criticism brought a lot of inner peace. It's a generational problem, and it was just toxic.

Hi Dan ...I'm from India. I suddenly stop by your channel and subscribed it. For Indians like me who like everything about South Korea your channel is like a cultural Window. Keep up this good work. Wish you good luck.😊

Thanks for being so transparent. As an African American living in the Washington DC area I relate to everything you said except the military. I find you to be a genuine person and wish you the best.

So interesting. Good to hear your honest opinions. I had the feeling that kpop stars and their managers were diet obsessed but did not realise that Korea itself placed such a high value on slenderness. The women seem very small boned and dainty in your country. Perhaps they worry that every pound will show! Thanks for such an insight into Korean lifestyle x

Dan, finally someone says the same things I also don't like about life as Korean guy. Thank you. 😊

Lovely talk. Being generalized really sucks. I always feel unfair whenever foreigners expect me to be a good singer just because I am a Filipino. I love the jacket btw.

I think in a lot of cultures have their pros and con (lol being Hispanic definitely has those has well, surprisingly very similar to this too) but I think it’s so great to think and be outside the box! We should all accept ourselves for being different because there is only one of us in the world, why not show it🤷🏻‍♀️ The people who truly care about you won’t care about the other things!

I love your British accent and your honest about your cultural. The fact you feel at ease with who you are and not pressured to fit into other people's unnecessary social norms shows real maturity. Thank you for your post. 😁

You are so refreshingly honest...I think the focus on all the education is a huge pressure on young people....there seems to be huge pressure for success as if an ordinary life is something to be embarrassed or ashamed of! Not everyone can be a CEO...an Actor..or live in top class accomdation...this is definitely a negative in Korean culture. The older person should not always have to pay for drinks or a meal as thats unfair! And I agree with you that its not totally fair to conscript your male citizens without their consent...though I do understand to a small degree that the Korean government may have concerns about maintaining the freedom of your democracy which was hard fought for ❤ I still think your amazingly refreshing and I love listening to your videos

Dan it's okay to be yourself! And it's okay to say no to the pressure others feel they have to put onto you! Life is short, be happy

Thank you for your honestly! I am an American that fell in love with kpop years ago. Now days I am trying to understand the Korean people not just the entertainment side. There are pro's and con's to every culture. Thank you for sharing your onions and personal experiences.

Mad respect for mentioning that last one, I always found it was weird and uncomfortable- especially when you're being pressured into it... and turning that down takes the strength of a real man 👍

no one should be judged by his look or his thoughts as long he doesn't affect me directly, cause we are living together and we should respect everyone's boundaries. i can feel the same as you are, i'm wearing hijab, and you can imagine what i face for being a muslim girl :))

Thank you for having the courage to speak the truth of how you deeply feel. It takes a "real man" to do that, so kudos to you!

About #7… I think a real man is the one that keeps to his values, morals and standards he set for himself instead of the one who caves into peer pressure from coworkers, trying to coax him into doing something he simply doesn’t want to do. Yes, it is good to get along with others and go places together but I am not sure if it can authentically be called “getting along” when others coax a person into grudgingly doing something or going somewhere with the others. It may not create a peaceful relationship but a resentful one. In any culture/ society.
 Great video! Very interesting topics.

When I saw the title I was genuinely shocked. It's refreshing to hear you be raw about these things and I'm sorry for the mistreatment you have gone through. I hate when people try to put men into certain boxes like...it makes no sense. Embrace yourself and do what you love! Best of luck to you !

Your honesty is refreshing,I think the recent KPOP/Kdrama boom has really raised too much expectations on korean guys that are not idols/actors and everyone wants a Korean boyfriend because they can't be with their idols😅🤦🏽‍♀️Hopefully the sooner people realize there's more to relationships than them being korean.But I'd say I'm glad the old stereotypes about Asian men are dying out but maybe there's new ones being formed too🙆🏽‍♀️ I guess more and more it's important to remain true to yourself, "I'm sure"(a very South African expression 🤣doesn't necessarily mean I'm 100% sure_side note)these changes are also somewhat affecting South Korea and the more everyone experiences different cultures the more vocal and open we become about addressing things we don't relate to with regards to old culture in our own spaces.

Loved your comments on the drinking and hostess bars. You are a real man because you are not easily lead to situations you are against. Stay strong and kind. God bless.

I wish more countries do this concept video. I would love to hear different perspectives.

This video really cleared up a lot of things for me, specially the part that you are forced to study. I was watching this Kdrama ( i think it was Reply 1988) and it was shown there that they would go home at 11pm. I was really wondering about this part, i mean when i was in highschool, we were suppose to be in bed by 9pm. Also, i guess its kind of normal in Korea where men are more concerned about their face (skin) and body and do put on creams and stuff, which is kind of unheard in my country unless you are a model or an actor or something like that.

The thing that absolutely grinds my gears being a Korean is being judged by your appearance, the clothes you wear, whether you're slim or fat. Everyone is a trend chaser in Korea, and as a result, the majority are basically just carbon copies of each other, it's absolutely baffling and gross. I live in Japan now with my wife and despite the countries being so close to each other, its like night and day. You can go outside wearing pretty much what you like without getting weird looks, and they just mind their own businesses. It's such a breath of fresh air and I wish Korea could learn a few things from Japan.

I love your transparency and find it really interesting as many people don’t speak on these topics. Thank you for the insight Dan.

Hello Danny. I was thinking the same as u said here. Society and it's judgements are same every where.., now a days good looks n physic is becoming more important that ur knowledge and self...nd truly it's hard to ignore self as well as the society we live in.

So nice to hear your honest opinions, very eye-opening. 😊Even though I'm not a Korean, I do agree that Korean society, the pressures they had created through education, being judged and compared with the celebrities had given a lot of mental problems. Also ironically the drinking culture is actually making things worse because alcohols tend to increase the depression, rather than lowering it. I hope it will change or at the very least, they would be more open and give people options to do whatever they want without judging anyone. We eventually have our own ways to live, our principles, our thoughts about life and I hope the people in Korea would be more accepting and giving chances to the young people to enjoy life ourselves the way we want.

Thanks for the insight and expressing what's in your heart. At the same time, opening our eyes non- Koreans to the Korean culture. God bless you as you seek what's best for you. Watching from Florida, USA 🇺🇸!

I just started watching some of your channel and I have to say, especially on this video- I like the way you think and you seem truthful even if it goes against the norm of the society. Honesty and integrity 👍🏻👍🏻

I have many Korean friends and yeah they have a quite interesting way of approaching life. So much pressure from their society and so much focus on appearance ahahah. There are also things from my upbringing that used to bug me too and still do sometimes, but as I'm growing I came to realize that every society has its drawbacks that has to be overcome , so wishing you all the best.

You look like Dan! He looks fantastic! This vlog was helpful in revealing a bit of Korean society.

I find koreans to be such an impressive group of people. You guys are so beautiful to the eye; you all seem to get things done. No excuses! But I have always suspect that culturally there is pressure to basically "Do It All". Wow

Sending you some love to counteract the hate thrown at you. I truly admire you young man.

This gave me so much perspective and also made me realise how different and similar India and South Korea are! Thanks for this video it really was insightful!

2:27 Being forced to study , that's probably an issue that every Asians had to face . I'm from India and my experience was also just like the same , my family , society always had the thought that you would only became success through studying . If you ask most of the students in India, will not have their interest in studying but probably in sports or in music or something else... It's hard to focus on something that you are not interested in and let something go without even pursing it ....

This was a really great perspective about Korean culture from other perspectives (including from your time spent abroad). It'd be great to hear from you more about this topic, especially the ways you find your identity in this kind of culture. I appreciated your candid description of the challenges you face in this society. And it probably wasn't an easy video to make either. Great video Dan!

I am an older American who finds other cultures very interesting. I grew up in a time when many of the social pressures you spoke of were just beginning to be rebelled against by the youth here. We managed to get beyond some of it but wound up with other stuff to take it's place. I think there will always be something that needs improvement no matter where in the world we are. I know here in the US we could take a few lessons in manners from other cultures for sure. I love learning about life in other places and seeing what we can learn from each other. Thanks for sharing.

Romania loves korean's people and culture..I'm glad we can learn from your experience, we can learn from each other. Thank you and good lock. God bless all of us !

That's really true that each and every country has their good and bad sides . And we need to accept it and openly talk about it because everyone know that no country is perfect in this world , every country has their bad and judmental sides and peoples like you , have guts to talk openly about it . Love from 🇮🇳.

I really enjoyed listening to your honest opinions. Experiencing life abroad enriches one's perspective in many ways. Appearances seem to be a priority in Korea, I say this more out of curiosity with regards to deeper societal reasons than a criticism. I look forward to watching more content on your channel. Cheers! By the way, you have a lovely British accent!

Thank you for being so sincere and humble. Every society is going to have some weaknesses… God bless you!👍😌

Thanks for being genuine and sincere to voice out your true feelings.

What a really down to earth young man you are, You are so honest about how you feel about life, I wonder if some of the ways we live in the UK influenced you? I have lived in UK all my life. Plus, we nearly all have Netflix and have seen some of the KDramas and thought about how excessive stress must affect people's lives and having to follow that trend. Well done for being so open about the realities of Korean life Always be proud of yourself and your own views on life. regards from the UK

Dan, you are amazing for being honest and speaking about how you feel about parts of your culture! I really have respect for someone who can realize who they are and who they want to be, even with social pressure. The world doesn't need robots ,it needs individuals who shine with their own colors and do things from their own will not the will of programing. :) It's nice to see people for who they were meant to be. Rock on Dan the Man!

I really like how honest you are about all of these things, I know the pressure gets to everyone that lives in S. Korea. even the foreigners end up getting sucked into it after living there for a while. I went to visit a few years ago and loved it. I did however really notice that people are constantly fixing their markup their outfits and stopping at any mirror or reflection to fix things. That honestly got annoying at times and made me feel sorry that they can't just relax and have a nice day without constantly having to fix any minor thing. What you said about #7 I am so glad to hear you are able to tell them your not interested in these things I know they get upset when people do not want to tag along.

It's nice to see someone sharing their perspective about the country and i guess it's necessary since a lot of us from different countries have a very vague and imaginative idea about korean culture in-depth. Thanks for sharing 👍

thanks, it is always interesting to hear what somone doesnt like about their own cultures, and i agree with what u said about drinking. I no longer drink alcohol, not for years, but being Australian, it is a culture where everyone drinks with the mates, etc, so many people are shocked when I say I dont drink

I feel like you're talking exactly about what happens in my country. I get impressed when i finally finding someone speaks logically and thinks nit just dragged in what society created and cancels their brain. Btw nice accent 💜

Thank you... recently there was a kdrama that brought up a school where children had to stay at school until 10pm. I was shocked. How can that be good for a child. My daughter went to a gifted school in Los Angeles and they told us that the smarter you are the more down time you need so our children shouldn't be pressured. Thank you for sharing your thoughts...I also think the drinking culture is very strange everywhere...I don't know how I escaped it...I like having fun with all my mind intact...

It's great that you're exploring who you are as a person and that you're not trying to mold yourself into who other people want you to be. Keep up the good work and thanks for sharing!

Hello Dan. Your vid came up in my feed, I think your time spent abroad, living in two different cultures has broadened your perspective. By doing so, you can see, reason and analyse more than your Korean compatriots who have not had that chance. Respect your honesty, as Mother of adult sons I have always maintained that not everything is learned in the classroom, I get where you are coming from. Always try to be yourself. I hope you have managed to find your niche in life, a career in a field that comes easy to you, not because you were you under pressure to do so, because let’s face it, you will be doing it for a long time 😊. You are you, no one else, I admire your stance on not wishing to go to places because of business hierarchy that you have no wish to. Here in Australia we call it “ brown nosing “ my sons have no time for it either. I hope that part of the Korean culture eventually goes by the wayside, as the new generation of more progressive thinkers like yourself come onboard, as the English would say “ a changing of the guard “. FTR I think a lot of the KPOP and Drama crews are trying to push SK into the modern world, especially with having topical series which even up until say 5years ago, would not have made it past the boardroom. I wish you all the best, and thank you for a most articulate, candid and honest video from a Korean male perspective I have seen to date.

I am happy I found this video. I like consuming culture from other cultures like music and movies (not really romances, but movies and TV series that want to show the reality) and it is enlightening to have the perspective of someone living day to day life in that society. I think we can often find parallels with our own, either for being more alike than expected or for being the complete opposite. I'm Brazilian and men also have to attend mandatory military service when they turn 18, but a lot of them end up being dismissed if they don't fit the profile (it can be height and build, something that happens is they will not keep you if your feet are too flat, don't know really why, if you are in any type of controlled medication for like mental health issues or have some disability you are definitely getting dismissed), so even if every men needs to register, most don't actually need to actually serve and it is considered something dreadful here, most people do not want to enlist and be picked at all. Opposed to that, offering to pay for someone can be disrespectful, like you are saying that person cannot afford something. That doesn't happen if you give a gift, but if you offer to pay for dinner, most people will not accept easily. Drinks I don’t really know, since I don't drink, I think then it would be different. Views on study and status change a lot depending on your social class here, but it is very striking to see the differences and similarities between countries on opposite sides of the globe.

I find it fascinating the attributes of masculinity changes based on where you live in the world. Thank you for sharing your culture!!! I'm glad you are standing in your truth and realizing that you are a man even if you don't like to do the same things your friends pressure you to do!

Good for you, your truthful telling of the ‘not so great parts’ of your society will surely help other young people and teach the older ones that to not be pressured would be a healthy way to live.🌈

I know I'm two years late, but I just found this channel. This was very informative. I wish I had seen this sooner. I had a korean acquaintance, and we kept having culture clashes 😢.

I really respect your candour and courage in making this video. Good luck with all your chosen endeavours!

First thanks for being very honest about korean... this makes a lot more sense now after listening to u.

1) I still remember what you said in one of your ig live that "having 100 quality soldiers is worth more than having thousands of useless soldiers" and I totally agree to that and i even screen record that and show it to my friend🤭🤭 2) Its kinda same with us,here in India we are kind of being forced by the society that if we don't study and go to good colleges we wouldn't get a decent job or like we will not be success but at the end of the day all we care is how much we earn and how well we feed our family,many can do that without going to Universities.😊

Thank you for your honesty Dan. I love how you express how you feel. I believe it's an eastern culture thing. I've seen big differences between west aand east culture. There are positives and negatives from both But what matters is what makes us fulfilled and happy. Thanks Dan for sharing ❤

All of your complaints make perfect sense. You represent a new generation, and one of the jobs of a new generation is to question and change and improve upon the generation that came before them and the social system they were born into. There is a good reason why you feel these things. Keep listening to your heart and thinking for yourself. That is part of your contribution and what you bring to the world. ❤

I found your channel surfing for more BTS videos lol. I'm from HI living in the mainland lost count how many years. I normally DO NOT surf You Tube for entertainment. After one night after work I came across BTS (3mos) I've enjoyed their clean performance and music I guess I'm hooked. I so appreciate your "do's and don'ts" lessons and culture of Korean. I like to visit Korean one day, soon as I can speak basic Korean sentences that might be years lol. Mahalo nui loa ia 'oe in sharing your home and experience with us. Keep teaching us about Korean! Gratitude and Respect.😊

Dan, you are a nice guy, so you don't have to worry about your looks! And I feel you are doing fine in every aspect of your life. The best of luck!

Hello Dan, I’m sooooo happy to found your channel ! It’s exactly what I was looking for since a few weeks 😅🙏🏻! Thank you for your good idea to do that! I’m a french girl (60 years old but often 20 in my head ahaha 😂) and in this pandemic time I discovered the K-dramas and fall totally in love with, due to Netflix 🤣) ! Also in music, the last 4 weeks I was listening Coldplay with BTS ! So good! Than a passion took hold of me: discovering Korea! So I ‘m going to watch all your videos and then I’ll come back to you with my questions and feelings and feedback 😁 ! Love and kiss from France 🇫🇷 🙋🏽😍

As an ajumma myself, I laughed a lot when you warn visitors to korea not to mess with an ajumma

Hostess bars are creepy imo. You're a real man for turning it down. You have class, dignity, integrity and guts to stand your ground in the face of adversity.

Now that I think about it, it's so unusual for men to come forward and talk about the issues they face. Because they have been taught from a very young age that men are supposed to be strong, not supposed to cry or be vocal about their problems. Which is very toxic and detrimental to their mental health. Gender stereotyping is an issue not just in Korea but all over the world. I'm happy to see you talk openly about the issues you face also making it clear that you are not okay with it. Hope things get better for us in future.

" Having the pressure to have nice car and house to impress others " that is also common in India and it matter alot . If you have these things society behave very well with you other wise .... they treat you so disrespectful .

I am so late to this lol but I think that being constantly told you look like/act/talk etc like someone especially someone famous takes away your identity and makes you basically ask yourself why people aren't seeing you as an individual. I also feel like Kpop singers and drama actors almost have this sense of "globalization" to them, or any other actor/singer etc. They lose their individuality because they are so well known, if that makes sense. (trying to describe things in a longer form and not just one universal word is hard, hopefully the intended meaning came across correctly)

It's rare To see people who talk truth with any pressure. I really respect u. As u said u may get more hate after saying all this dont worry in every dark there will be light of Moon. 🤗

Thank you for sharing experience in being a Korean guy🙏😊 ...I also heard that Korean people are often very stressed especially for careers and studying because there are alot of competitions, right? I already understand why sometimes you're not in a good mood or you're stressed because of being under much pressures. Btw, being yourself and doing whatever you love are the best. I always support you ka...화이팅!! 🙌✊😊

This is really interesting, I’m from the US and this is exactly how the US is becoming in terms of society pressure and what’s expected at certain ages and what you should be doing…. Also, I have a Korean friend and he was explaining to me last month how every male in Korea in that age bracket has to go to the military. It is dreadful that y’all have no choice, but I find that cool in a way as well. Every single one of you in Korea from the age a 18+ has knowledge in military intelligence. I’m a new subscriber, I’ve viewed one of your videos a few months ago and started watching a little more today. It’s nice to see videos from not just foreigners living in Korea but from a korean as well.

When I was in my 20s, I used to "bartend" at hostess bars and honestly it made me feel like "real men" shouldn't have to pay someone to sit and have drinks with them. I have seen all walks of life come through those doors and no matter how successful or unsuccessful they were in their endeavors, after a certain point, they really all turn into the same disrespectful, obnoxious, perverted creature. So in my personal opinion, a "real man" might actually be one who does speak up for themselves in situations where cultural or societal pressure would really make it difficult for them to do so. Or at least under the circumstances of the example provided in this video 😅 I actually have a lot to say on this subject but I also had a lot of wine this evening so don't mind me 😊😇

It's so good to say how you feel about something a lot of people hide the discomforting part of something and it's always a big shoulder you can't carry .Thanks for sharing😊😊

Very enlightening. I lived with a man for 3 yrs who was born in Seoul and raised in the US. He was pressured a lot by his family. We finally split because his parents didn’t want him to live with a Caucasian woman.

Hey, Dan, you look like....uh....like an honest person...and you don't seem to need to act like one. Good for you. It is obviously honest from your video.

Hey Dan - you are one of the fortunate ones that was able to leave Korea and travel and experience a different type of culture, values and norms. At that time you became more aware, you were open to the differences and of course you made your judgements - and that's you'r right as a human being. I do enjoy kDramas, movies and have notice all of what you pointed out about the materialistic, superficialities and the needing to belong. Korea's regime has been so harsh and repressed that in the south, there came an opportunity to be more like the West. More freedoms, more of everything. While that can be good, it brings many negative aspects and people who have a long history embedded into the old, struggle to belong, join in and be part of "something or someone". I live in Canada and there are the same issues that you pointed out. It's all over the world because we humans need to connect with others in order to live. No man is an island - have you ever heard that statement? Look it up. What's important is to be aware of how crucial it is to be our own individual - to keep boundaries so as to avoid unnecessary conflicts, to decide whether we want to spend or not to spend money and on what we believe is right for us etc. All that pressure comes from, society, parents, friends and how old we and our level of maturity. Most people who are responsible, mature, have lived through certain challenges and see people for who they are - whatever that is - do not compare us or expect us to be other than what and who we are. It takes a certain strength of character, values and ideas of what we believe we are as a person, not to be swayed by anyone. This attitude of others who act and speak in the manner you presented to us is mostly negative. These others people are not satisfied nor are they happy within themselves, otherwise they'd refuse to pay for everyone when they don't feel like it and stand their ground - unafraid of what their friends would think. You've learned to differentiate between what's advantageous for you and that's more power to you. Also, others who meet someone like you have difficulty because, they are not at that level of being consciously aware, as well as they are not as mature and responsible as you have become. We all walk our own path in life and you spoke well, clearly, with common sense and were very candid and to the point. Merci, thanks, gamsahabnida!

Your English is very good. I enjoyed learning about Korean culture. Thank you!

Totally agreed with you. Keep up the good work. Stay healthy. Be yourself overall. And... yes.!! is the end of May 2022. Greetings from Florida.

I think it's very good that you speak up and that you are strong enough to be yourself and question these rules. If you always do what is right for you and in your situation you should never feel intimidated by stupid rules that become social norms. Perfection is overrated, live your best life the way you want or swap where you live.

I am learning a little corean because I like to understand better other cultures, and now corea got me with kpop :) but it startet in a sad way, when a guy called Moonbin from Astro died, I was so shocked and couldn't stop wanting to know why. and then Kpop Kdrama in general got me

Love the last one. Very good point. Do you! Whatever makes you happy, don’t worry about judgement, it is you life. I get the expectations sorry the world is judgmental.

Wow it's interesting to get views about different cultures.thanks for sharing

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on your Culture! After watching your video, it make sense now how much pressure and competition it is to be a Korean! I wish you well and good luck in all you do! I think your doing awesome job! God Bless you 🙏😍

Strong, mature, and mentally healthy. Awesome. Stay strong.

I feel all this u said are also shown in d kdramas. Discrimination from class, skin color, shape, race, educational background, alduh i believe there isnt as bad as it used to be. Korea is a country that is based on principle and discipline.

Korea is a fast changing country. In engineering and IT, the drinking culture is almost gone. I never heard of forced drinking for people in tech companies like Samsung. There are a few who enjoy that kind of night life. They usually hang together their own kind these days. Other industries might be different.