THINGS PEOPLE WITH IBS ARE TIRED OF HEARING | Becky Excell 

It's like a never ending stomach ache and on some days it's worse and sometimes it's better

"Does having IBS mean you might suddenly crap yourself?" Well actually, if you also have Generalized Anxiety Disorder on top of IBS like me, yes. Yes, it kind of does lol. Its a very unfortunate combination of things to have since IBS triggers my anxiety, and anxiety triggers my IBS. And with GAD literally EVERYTHING makes you anxious for absolutely no reason. Its a viscous cycle that makes it very hard to live a normal life, have a job, socialize, go to school, etc.

Biggest pet peeve: “well can’t you just hold it, nows not really a convenient time”... with IBS-D unfortunately not :///

My pet peeve is the "well I know someone with IBS and they do this and it helps/cured them you should do the same" yes because what works for one works for all 🙄

I also hate when people who know nothing about IBS try to tell me that they know how to fix it... I get that they want to be helpful, but I wish they could understand that there isn't a cure, and just because something helps someone doesn't mean it will help everyone with IBS.

I'm gluten intolerant & lactose intolerant and it sucks when people are like "that must suck, what can you eat?" A lot of companies are coming out with gluten free and lactose free things so it's only getting easier for me to find "normal" foods that I can eat without suffering from pain and feeling horrible all day. Another thing that I hear is "Eating a little bit won't hurt you, you'll be okay." That's a super frustrating comment.

Yes everybody tells me that if I stop thinking about it then it will go away but the reason why I’m thinking about it in the first place is because my stomach is killing me!

as an older person who has lived with IBS her whole life. the younger generation seems to find it amuzing that I suffer from pain and other symptoms. it still embarrasses me after 59 years. and I am so glad you posted this.

Loved this, so true. I also get "maybe if you just ate those foods your stomach would build a tolerance" ...

I have IBS and I eat everything I want because it's just stronger than me lmao.I do eat pretty healthy though. My IBS is IBS- C so it actually helps to eat some spicy foods at times, just to show that everyone's IBS is different and what works for me isn't gonna work for another sufferer. The fact that I'm bloated all the time is what bothers me most. If I don't go to the bathroom for only 1 day I will look 3 months pregnant and the pain is just terrible. I feel my intestines cramping and all I can do is curl up in a ball. Also when people don't understand the pain and when I don't want to go out or just want to stay at home all day and they judge me. It's not the end of the world but it's a pain in the ass... literally.

Actually having IBS is one of the reason why I feel depressed.

Another I heard recently "You have diarrhea all the time, you should be skinny" If only that were a perk to IBS.

Living with parents during Corona. So lots of: "You're not bloated you're just fat" "How can you possibly have a stomach ache everyday?" "Finish your plate" "Why are you always in the bathroom? You have to learn to share." Can't wait to go back to my own place. IBS is so much easier living alone. I wonder if I'll live alone forever.

Same for me..even my family dont understand me so well...they think that im exaggerating it.

I've had several instances when I've almost had an accident. It's the scariest feeling ever!! For the most part I can KINDA control it now after years of having IBS D but sometimes you just never know what's going to happen. It's one of the reasons I just choose to stay home and not even stress about it

Any body have mild IBS? It seems like I can eat one crappy meal a day for 2 days. Once i hit the third day my symptoms come and linger for a few days. Anyone relate?

I have IBS C and if i here this one more time : " eat more veggies, you need more fibre in your diet"... This Constipates me and Causes serious cramps. a lot of Healthy food flares me

"I think I got a bit of that sometimes" it kills me inside almost as much as fast food. I loved that you pointed out its mainly women who talk about ibs when it seems in life men are more willing to talk about things like this. Either way. This was a great video. Thank you for making it!

I told my doctor that I thought I might have IBS…. His answer was”what do you want me to do about it?

I have actually shat myself three times now due to my IBS. It was like water!

IBS-D here and yes, some times it hits out of nowhere and you can't make it two feet. Have incontinence often.

I have really bad ibs, so when I was put on the elimination diet I found that I couldn't eat from a lot of major groups so it's hard to find new foods that are still nutritious.

it looks like his shirt says anxiety when I look over at Becky, which is what I feel 24/7 living with IBS 😭

"It's all in your head";I've heard that one before, annoying. If your food is "bland" then what am I eating?

"what can you actually eat?" i get this ALL THE TIME too and i also make myself look a bit stupid because my mind just goes blank

You two are so cute. Please do more IBS videos. They help me get through my excruciating episodes.

So glad you shared bowels and all because being open about the symptoms normalises the illness for most people and then people feel less alone and we need to learn from each other because doctors cannot always tell us the full facts of any illness. Shared experiences are the key. Thank you 😊

Yep, I relate to all of them; but, what gets me are the folks who not only think I'm exaggerating (lying) but also believe I'm just being a "picky" eater. During really bad flare-ups, I've actually had to go home because I soiled myself. It's horribly embarrassing! Yet until recently, I didn't always speak up for myself and tow the line for my own health; so I'd just eat whatever people served. Lately, after a horrible arthritis flare-up, I've been more diligent about familiarizing myself with the arthritis diet (no nightshades) anti-inflammatory diet, vegan ketogenic diet and then stumbled upon information about the low FODMAP protocol. I'm so exhausted from being unwell for so long that I'm determined to find what will finally work for me. Thanks so much for sharing your experiences, ideas and life hacks with us. I'm so glad I found your channel!

I'm so glad I found your channel, and especially glad I found your playlist of videos about IBS. I've been living with IBS for almost 4 years now, but didn't want to accept my diagnosis. This year I've decided to take more initiative in taking better care of myself, so thank you for sharing your experiences about living with IBS.

Hi Becky ! As a guy, I really enjoyed this video. This could be good if you and Mark could do a video about men who suffer with IBS, how mark deal with his IBS-D how you support him if you have to adapt your meals because of the different types of IBS etc...

Oh my Lord - “I think I got a bit of IBS sometimes, too.” That one makes my eye twitch and I have been told that so many times!

thank you for having this channel, I was being diagnosed about a month ago with IBS C and feel like the whole world just turn 360. I have anxiety at the same time and feel like everyday now becomes even more challenging. I don't understand why this happens and feel like so much changes had to be made and I am not sure if things are going to get better. There are days feels good and there are days i wish i am dead. I am not having severe constipation, instead, having diarrhea and then it would really hard to pass motion even though it is not hard. Cramping and bloating on certain days. I can't even work properly cause i need to go to the toilet most of the time either feeling to defecate or to pee. I am also seeing a psychologist for my anxiety and learn about meditation and relaxing hypnotherapy. However, the cramping is so annoying. I have lost some weight and on elimination diet.....feel so tired......

I live at home still and having ibs-d with one bathroom and multiple members of the family home is the most embarrassing thing and always having to tell someone "just another minute" as you stomach rumbles is the worst feeling

Thank you for being so open about your IBS. It took 6 years for me to be diagnosed. It started when I was 11, extreme vomiting,stomach pains and diarrhea. Dr said it was puberty. The next 6 years I went through hell with it. I took my 9th grade finals drugged up on PM Midol because I was having a never ending flair! I missed the first day of 10 grade, had to make up one day of finals one year, wouldn't spend the night anywhere, missed out on so much my teen age years. During this time my parent's would take me to the Dr and one actually said she saw it all the time in teenagers, IT WAS ALL IN MY HEAD. My mother almost punched her. I had a bad flair the week I was suppose to go on my senior trip and my mother decided to take me back to the Dr to see if anything they could do so I could go. I was just done with them! An intern walked in, put down my 5 inch file, looked at me and said "I know exactly what is wrong with you, you suffer from ribs" and I was like ok, right what ever. Confirmation came weeks later. I missed my senior trip. I think the hardest thing hearing was from my grandmother, "it's all in your head, don't think about it, it's not that bad, it's all that pasta they feed you at your school,.." I loved her dearly, but what a crock! One last thing, for the childless ladies, labor feels like a severe flair😱

Thank you for this video! I'm not alone after all ;)) I have excessive gas and I always bloat after a meal. I've had IBS for like two years and I don't think it's getting any better. It's such a shame people still haven't found a cure, I mean we live in the 21-st century, still love your videos. Keep on making those videos!

"There's only a little bit in there." I get that one the most, and it drives me the most crazy! Thank you! 💛

*”Do you know what’s wrong with you?” or “Maybe you should go see a doctor?”* - Thanks for the recommendation genius! This is by far my biggest annoyance. Like they somehow managed to solve my stomach problems with one simple question I couldn’t have possibly thought of on my own. *”Stop hogging the toilet.” Or “Do you really need to be in there that long?* *”See you in an hour.”* - Said to me when I’m getting up to go use restroom. *”Have you tried not eating (instead food here)? I bet it’s from all the (food type) you eat.”* *”Maybe you should go on a diet.”* *”Do you want to go to (movie/show/activity/etc.) or are you going to have stomach issues?”*

As someone with IBS who CAN eat gluten, I often get the opposite as well: "How can you eat gluten if you have IBS?" Some people just don't realize food triggers are very individual, but others are really condescending about it, like, "If you can eat bread, you definitely don't have IBS."

It's so annoying when people say to me about my IBS "you should try this you're missing out...you have really good self control...I wish I got sick after junk food".

As an ibs-d guy, the worst is “Just hold it in”. I don’t think people realize my body is saying push when my brain wishes I could pull

Sadly I’m in never ending cycle, I have anxiety really bad sometimes match with my chronic IBS I have cramps that feel like someone stabbing me in the gut sometimes it even goes to my lower back and I can’t even move, people need to stop being so arrogant.

I just found your channel and I wanted to thank you for posting these IBS uploads - it’s kind of comforting when you hear or read something from someone who really “gets” it. I have IBS-D and recently I have been really struggling with this - luckily I work from home or else I would find it even more difficult. I have started to take Heather’s Tummy Fibres soluble fibres and for me they have been so helpful. I have been “stable” for the first time in months for 5 days and counting - those of you with IBS-D won’t think it’s strange that I am counting the days :). My doctors have not been at all helpful - they only became interested at all because my blood iron count is 7 when it should be 12 at least. If you have been struggling to eat healthily for 7 years or so it’s easy to cause malnutrition. Videos like yours are really helpful in seeing what other people eat and how they cope. X

It's debilitating and people who don't have it don't understand how disabling it can be. 😊

i feel like people think i'm overreacting when it comes to my symptoms so i usually don't tell anyone about them and have even avoided going to see doctors about it but last week i finally did a blood test and it's looking like i have celiac disease on top of being lactose intolerant 🙈

I have lbs where it goes from constipation then to diarrhea and digestion problems. It's really aggravating trying to explain why I can't eat certain foods.

Been diagnosed with IBS-C for the past two years. Thankfully onion garlic and spice don't trigger mine but if i touch anything with lactose, i go berserk.

People do that over most things they don’t understand. It is soooooo annoying. I can relate to that!

I can really relate to this! I had some wheat accidentally in a stock, and I'm still not back to normal 2 weeks later :( Some people also tend to think I'm just being difficult when I can't eat certain foods as well.

one of the questions i get LOADS is........when is your baby due? Really!!

I have IBS too, and its living hell. My social life is completely destroyed. Because of it I have developed depression and anxiety. I hate going out with my friends because im scared something might happen. And having Anxiety makes it even worse, because the more tense and scared i am, the worse it gets.

So happy I found you. The first comment is always a frustrating one; my own best friend said that. It's usually when my loved ones SEE me experience the pain that they realise how serious it is, and this can be years after I've told them I have IBS.

Yess!!! I hear ALL OF THESE all the time! It's like STOP. You don't understand me seriously. Please quit trying to diagnose me. Or don't tell me how my stomach and intestines are working....😱😱😱 you don't know! You and Mark did awesome. Love you two. This was a great video. Xx

Omg this subject can literally drive me bananas.....it's like "Oh I have anxiety too!".......NOOO, YOU DON'T!!! Just because you get anxious doesn't mean you live with GAD...or "why are you on a diet?You're skinny already" Ugh...every single time....or "Just eat a little it will do you good"....or "She never eats anything,thats why she's so skinny" (as if it was such an effing pleasure to not be able to eat cherries,tomatoes,watermelon, peaches,basically all my fav food!) ....or there's another one..."Maybe if you actually put that food in your mouth, your body would get used to it". I could honestly spend hours writing this....

Entertaining and emphatic. I think people who suffer from the same thing feel they are blood brothers and sisters in some way.

this is TOO relevant, especially the gluten free part. I have a wheat intolerance and if I'm out + about or at someone else's house I generally tell them I'm gluten free as that covers wheat free. They might then seeing me eat something with gluten but not wheat and think I'm one of those people that eats gluten free for fashion

OOo, excellent video...as a former IBS sufferer, I heard a lot of these, and now as a coach, I hear these things all the time from my clients, I feel so bad for them!

This video makes me feel so understood, I'm mexican and most of the people around me eat spicy and fatty foods and well it's pretty uncomfortable when "meal time" comes and i have to say "no thanks", cause everybody asks "why" but they actually don't care and they feel like they should make me feel better with phrases like "maybe if you have a bit it won't hurt you" or like "it's all in your mind". But i have learn that i want to be happy and if not being sick makes me happy... then i don't care what others think and I'll eat what makes me feel more comfier, eating shouldn't meant suffering.

I hate it when my friends always make a comment about my bathroom visits. For years, this one friend has made jokes about me being in the bathroom for “so long”. Well, I have IBS and it does take some time to go on the toilet. Sometimes i can’t even get out what I need to get out.

These questions are all incredibly rude...I feel like these people don't even deserve an answer. Nobody should ever have to "defend" having a medical condition or doing whatever is required to treat it.

I just found out I have ibs, and i dont really watch what i eat. I love food so much. But i find my self barely being able to eat because I'm in so much pain. It feels like im in pain 24/7

Ibs pain occurs at one spot that is lower left abdomen or sometimes it's like stabbing pain within abdomen. But it's alwys there. Especially Wen u r under stress.

Great video. I have had ISB-C for years, this year it switched to ISB-D (doctor confirmed still IBS). It's the best of both worlds, lol. Most of the items in that bowl were triggers but good to hear other people find them frustrating too 🙂

"It's all in your head" is the most aggravating one I hear from my folks. What makes living with my IBS-C worse is I have aspergers, pervasive developmental disorder, and anxiety disorder and because of that another one I typically get is, "just don't worry about it and you'll be fine" and well it doesn't quite work. I have one medicine for my IBS-C and it sometimes works. My flare ups range from the levels of mild annoyance to debilitating pain and I'm confined to a bathroom most of the day. Work is almost impossible.

Am I the only one that have Ibs and just try to ignore the pain

The worst part for me (and I've heard it from doctors as well as from friends/family/acquaintances) is that it's not possible that I have IBS-D because if I did I'd be thinner. I had a psychiatrist tell me once that I was too overweight (which I'm not) to have chronic diarrhea. I don't have the best relationship with my body and I usually use food as a way of basically punishing myself. But even when I'm eating well and following my low FODMAP diet, it's not like I lose weight! I hate having this condition and it affects my every day life so badly (together with GAD) but if there's one thing I'm thankful for it's that it has made me much more sympathetic to other people's pain.

Brilliant work! Keep it up!

When people all of a sudden think there my nutritional expert. And think they can tell me what I can and can’t eat

i had been mostly c but over time it's become a rapid cycle of c c c d d d c. delightful as it is, when i have a really bad flare up that causes colitis, control is out the window. if i could sleep on the toilet, it might be ok. there you go; more grossness i know, but honest grossness.

One thing that I am tired of hearing (as I am just now getting medical help and a proper diagnosis at 24) is that I need to be aggressive about explaining my symptoms and demand better care at the Dr.. The US healthcare system can make you wait a long time for appointments and procedures. I'm having a hard enough time just managing my symptoms and eating enough and I have anxiety that keeps me house bound most days. If they really wanted to help, they could come with me and advocate for me, but it always seems to be my fault if I have to wait for care or the doctors don't have answers.

I get the 'what can you actually eat?' every time I tell someone about my IBS. I always use the same answer - 'It's easier to list the things I can't eat than the things I can.' Then I go on and list all the big no nos and then say theres some things I can maybe tolerate a bit of. I think when people ask these kinds of questions they want a short answer that they can easily digest (no pun intended).

Great stuff. I suffer from IBS so this all makes sense!

I hear just about all of those from doctors and family. IBS has shrunk me down from a tiny person to an unhealthy, sickly tiny of 84 pounds. I miss sugar and fruit so much because I didn't know what was wrong with me for roughly four years. "Doctors" are telling me it's in my head and the worst one is when they give me this look like I'm a body image maintaining anorexic so naturally I'll say there are things I can't eat. It hurts so much. And my family, I just want to vent a little and not even in a depressing way and they'll run over my voice and talk about blah blah this and that that's good in their life or some sweet they just adore. It's stressful and hurtful. I'm happy to know that you'd listen and that you know. It is miserable sometimes, I think just take the pain and have a nibble of sweet or one bit of blueberry but it's horrible afterwards and draining, and can last for days just from that small fleck. Can you tell me your feelings on the rechallenge phase, I just started reading about it and would like to try it and see if a near anemic, white and red cell lacked like me even can

How do you get over the anxiety/ (really, paranoia) that comes with traveling with IBS?

I can 100% relate to this...sometimes people can be annoying

I love your video's Becky. I feel not so alone with your videos and thankyou too Mark you both are great

I’ve had a colonoscopy before when I was 8. And when I feel sick I have emetephobia (vomit phobia) which is like anxiety levels!! And I freak out so much about the thought of spewing

One of my sisters told me " you just want attention, you arent sick" You cant possibly feel hungry and sick at the same time! its not a real feeling! you are an adult you should know if you are sick or hungry !!!

So I haven't been diagnosed with IBS but I certainly have many of the symptoms including random extremely painful stomach aches that trigger after random food. Like I'll eat a banana one day and get a stomach ache and the next day I'll eat a banana and I feel fine. It's so random and so painful. I have other symptoms but maybe tmi ;) I feel like most of these relate to me too.

❤️ listening to you Becky 😊 Is it common to feel actual nausea during a flare?

I have ibs and gluten generally sets me off, or at least wheat. Dairy is kind of hit and miss. I’m still trying to fully figure out what I can and can’t have. My friend is lactose intolerant. We sit there commiserating on what we can and can’t have. They’re different things but we get each other.

When I tell someone that I don't wanna eat a particular food item they tell me " It's very healthy and nutritious" Hahaha

This made me laugh because it is so true...I cannot count the amount of times close family members have said this stuff to me, it's very irritating x

I'm 32 and my ibs d started when I was around 9. I myself have never shit myself.

Here's one that really annoys me: "So you just poop a lot?" Like, seriously? That's probably the least of my problems, it's the absolute stomach pain that is the big issue.

How do you guys say so upbeat and happy? I love your attitude. I have IBS-C for about 5 years I'm miserable.. my whole day involves trying to get rid of this constant feeling that I have to move my bowels.. if I have a party coming up I am so stressed hoping it's going to be a good day. I would love to know your secret on how to stay so positive...

Honestly I have IBS and it's completely debilitating. Every time I flare up I have to go straight home from whatever the hell I'm doing so I can lay down and just hope I don't spew. I'm not the type to crap myself because of my anxiety (my anxiety makes me tense up so my sphincter won't relax) but I still struggle leaving the house for a long time because I don't know what I'll do if I flare up far from home. (It's happened once but I was only ~15 minutes away from home so my parents could pick me up. Still sucked.)

Love this! From my experience, there is often so much more than just IBS for people(particularly in nerve related cause). I read so many stories of people with multiple diagnosis(ex/Gastroparesis & IBS). So when people ask what's wrong with you, you just have to shrug because who knows and you don't fit into a nice diagnosis box that doctors have. It sucks to not fit into a box that people can understand and sympathize with, but gut stuff is so individual.... no one can fit into such a specific label that people want to put you in.

I really enjoyed your video. I have been struggling with IBS for a bit now, and I can relate to mostly everything you mentioned. I hate when people that I know, say, “it’s all in your head.” It is such a selfish answer IMO.

I always get told it’s in my head but no it’s not. No one understands except people who suffer from it

I love you guys so much for making this video, I get so much bullshit like this from people who don't understand or care to understand IBS.

Got my diagnosis SEP 29th, 2022. THANK YOU for this video.💞💕 Yes i agree, the 1st one from the family, is the Worst comment !!!😖😖

Number 2: YES! I chose to remove gluten from my diet to see if it helped me. Endoscopy, colonoscopy and blood tests were negative so people, including my family, don't get why I'm doing it. 'But nobody has told you you CAN'T eat gluten' 😢😡

Try to clear your mind, not thinking in athing as a state of life, believe me you'll turn to enjoy a focus calm nonibs life.

Hate when people say “Maybe you just have food poisoning” 😒😒

Keep up the good it’s been amazing hearing people talk about similar issues I’ve been having

Definitely drag mark into some more videos! ;) just found your channel, you guys are super awesome. It's nice to have two people showing a perspective in general together

Do you have any tips on reducing bloating? I have ibs and I am constantly bloated and can't seem to solve the problem.

It's all in your head..my response has been..sit next to if I had eaten something that I should not have eaten for half an hour. Survive that ordeal and then perhaps we can talk. Always works for me.

Thank you so much for your videos explaining ibs and giving the tips because you have helped me so much more then any doctor has so thank you so much!

It's every single day and anxiety makes it worse