I always say my greatest regret in marriage was that I didn't finish "me" before getting married and having kids. Even though I did it at 29..I was not done pursuing my own goals/dreams.
@@smileyatthebeach3452 it's never to late to follow your dreams and goals I think 🤔 u should still pursue want u want it just may take a little longer with a spouse and kids.🤷🏼♀️👌🏾😊👍🏽💞
Yes. There are so many factors: judgment from others, judgment from ourselves. Love is the most prominent energy in human life so it’s a natural and fair desire but people warp this and settle and/or abandon themselves in order not to be alone and mess up the authenticity of partnership. Relationships should be just as unique as the individuals in them but society is not there yet
At 28, I have been putting pressure on myself to get married and have kids because I see so many of my friends doing it but I now know to take this precious time, work on me and be selfish
Mrs Pope I am guilty of ignoring past signs of incompatibility to avoid being alone. As a result I put my passion and purpose on pause. Thank you for being used by the Most High to awaken us.
Talking to me …. Dang this is all me and my toxic relationships . Maybe this why I’m meeting the same type of men in different bodies, I’m not the healthiest I need to be, I’m not that financial secure. Wow this is so deep.
Love this Rebecca! Makes so much sense! Ive been single for several years and I love it., I think marriage again for me would be much harder at this point. Marriage/relationship is not an attractive option for me anytime soon. I am FREE to do everything to make myself better with no distractions. 🙌🙏🏻
I recently found Rebecca Lynn Pope as one of her talks “suddenly” appeared in my timeline. I saw the title of this one and thought oh, poo, I don’t need this one but okay I’ll listen as I finish cleaning the kitchen. Well, this was a message I needed to hear and apply. My fire has been stoked for me in my single season. And, I have more questions for the man I’m talking with. Thank you.
I have been thinking about these things when looking at potential partners. I want someone more disciplined than me in a healthy lifestyle and eating and my business plans etc thanks for your amazing channel
Now, I like what this young lady has to say here. I do agree with her.👍⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐❤️ I've been married (he was unfaithful/I divorced him/he asked me 4 times to remarry him🙅♀️🙅♀️🙅♀️No way!). I'm single and I like my freedom, but maybe I'll marry again one day. True, your partner does influence a lot of your decision making. Absolutely.👍🙏
🙅♀️I've been divorced since 1995. I understand and agree with all points you made, however, sometimes I wonder if being content with my singleness has created a stubborn person who doesn't do well coupled with anyone. As they say, "we get stuck in our ways." 🤷♀️
👌. I often think if I’ll have a freaking meltdown when I wake up one day sharing the bed with a partner. I don’t even understand what having a roommate is like at this point
I love and enjoy going to the gym 💪but if my purpose partner doesn't like 🙃the gym that much he can stay! home but I will be going the gym is my therapy!
When I tried to pursue dreams while married, it was a disaster. He resented me, sabotaged me and became abusive. I’m divorced now. Ive seen marriages fall apart, when people attempt to pursue dreams!
It’s crazy that ppl say you need to go through things while you are single, but ppl get married at 19 and stay together 40+ years. You can do all these things with a partner, we just live in a self centered society, that’s always looking for a finished product. Ppl need to understand that real love from god is patient, and kind, and long suffering. It’s about duty and honor and god. If that’s both ppls focus you don’t need to be single. Single ppl are just selfish the majority are only thinking about what they gain, and not what they can give. You need 2 givers. There is a huge downside to being single. The only downside to being in a relationship is responsibility. Ppl now a-days are too selfish. Being influenced by someone who truly loves you will only encourage your passions. I helped one of my ex’s find her career path, she was lost when we met. I loved her. I fed al of her passions and now she’s business owner, doing exactly what she loves. Another ex always wanted to go to school, I helped her get back in, now she’s working in her dream field. Your partner will not deny your desires, or passions. Your partner loves seeing you elevated.
@@Heyu7her3 if you are a selfish person how does that make you available to a relationship? Doing things for yourself is not selfish. Do things w/o thinking of other will. Like if I want to be married I shouldn’t behave like a hoe. Being selfish is off putting, the Bible says he who findeth a wife findeth a good thing. Selfish women aren’t wives. This is the problem. Even having that mentality will lead to ruins. Relationships are about give and take. Selfish ppl only take. They give so they can receive not of them self. It’s counterintuitive to want or seek a relationship, after a life of selfishness. Your just gonna change overnight? That’s not how human beings work. Only a narcissist would praise selfishness while speaking on preparing themself for a relationship.
@@Heyu7her3 theres nothing wrong in making yourself a priority and taking care of yourself. Self care is very important if someone isnt going to love on themselves how can they love anyone else. Dont buy into the lie that loving on yourself is a bad thing.
It isn't single people's faults that they have that mentality. This is the first time in the world that there are older (30+) single/ never married people. It's because marriage is pressured and socialized into us at an extremely young age, and many of our institutions center marriage. Also, we're at a novel time where jobs aren't as stable and people have more options. So, the pharmacist could one year decide become a chemistry teacher. Of course, there needs to be conversations and planning, but changes are more common. Yes, I do agree that work needs to be done. But single peoples' unrealistic perceptions of marriage doesn't come out of nowhere.
I've been single/divorced for 4 years now. Our children are grown. For first time, Im actually alone enough to "do me" and I'm struggling to let that sink in. I feel like I'm not even the same person. All of this time for me? I am doing things that I enjoy. Went back to learn a beauty industry skill that I can work in. BUT. I needed this message. Thank you! Also.. Do you have a hair line? I love those colors you are wearing!!!
A partner should be able to grow with you and respect you enough to support you bringing your dreams to pass. If he's not like that, he's usually a selfish person who doesn't truly love you anyway.
Taking The Work Masterclass, and I’ve been struggling to figure out how me and my bf can possibly be together after my healing. But truth be told, it’s not working because it’s not meant to!!!!! My dreams and aspirations are SOO SOOO much more important than a compromising relationship. Im in my singleness stage and it’s time I embrace it and make the best of it! You are God sent, this was absolutely necessary to hear to help me move forward in my decision. 🙏🏽❤️ XOXO
It's like a mind block for me , that I'm praying about rn. Relationships aren't all that. Life is more than a relationship, especially when you have a good relationship with God, relationship with men/women won't be like a goal that u "must have". I think today as how i see it all around me and then everyone asking if u have a man or whatever just makes u think u must have it. I don't think so . My goals should be more than wanting a relationship and I'm working on it.
I wish I knew this a long time ago. I was always focused on love, forgetting what I bring to the table. When I started working on myself I entered relationship and stopped evolving. That ruined my relationship and me.
Rebecca, do I hear a "Misery-loves-company" theme in here somewhere or was it the "Why -you-doin'-that?" part that should've raised my antenna? ) Lol)) 🤣👏🏾 🦅✨
I’m 27 and every single one of my close friends are in relationships/married so I’ve been feeling down about this , feeling the pressure to be in a relationship. But I do have goals that I’m working to achieve and I’m so thankful for this message to keep focusing on just that! I really needed this. Thank you! 🙏🏾
i never understood people saying dating sites are horrible or that the people there were wack I always thought I"m not those things and I'm there soooo i rebuke that ...
I love this! I needed to hear this! You are so right about getting on your path to your goals while single before being in a relationship. Your partner’s energy is so important
I'm in my 40's and I'm not where I would like to be. I begin having children late in life, although I have various trades under my belt. Now I was very focused on relationships that I lost time in the aspiration department, and he feels I should be just taking care of the children.
Thank you so much for sharing this, I have been struggling with these thoughts myself. This was right on time, as I am entering the next step in my career! 🙏🏽💗
💯 agree! One of the reasons why I am single. Everyday when I have to make a hard decision, I say- gosh this would be so hard if I had to consider someone else. Btw I love your hair color.
This is such an important topic that not enough people discuss. I've seen this happen to many married women around me, but I couldn't quite explain what I was seeing.
I watch this almost every day! 😅 Love this!! Now Im power lifting and finishing my masters studies!! Thank you for this message and opening us up w this perspective!
I don't get what's wrong with someone asking to go out to eat though? lol like i am PRO entrepreneurship but i think work life balance matters even during the grind. Men often focus on work and neglect their partners... to me that's too much.
Wow! I was told that marriage is not a partnership, it’s a business, there are no copilots(man=pilot/CEO; wife(flight attendant)... please clear this up, I’m confused 🤷🏽♀️ P.S. I developed a friendship/relationship with a Spaniard man(9 year Houstonian). It’s been four weeks now. Both of us artists in our own right (he’s an interior designer, I’m a teacher/freelance commissioned artist). Wish me luck! Btw, I’m still busy working on myself, developing my own business, having a healthy appetite for life, no negative vibes allowed 🙅🏾♀️😁
I was JUST talking to God about this exact topic ... Literally, just now! Then I saw your email including this video and OMG I realized God was sending this YOU to explain THIS to me! Thank you God and thank you Mrs. Pope!🔥🙌🏽🙏🏽🥰💕
This Jewel is dropping JEWELS!!!!💎💎💎💎💎Thank you Sister Pope!!!!! Getting back to work!! In my single season!!! Hopefully my wife to be is doing the same before I meet her!!! Our future family will be fruitful because of the seeds we are planting NOW!!! This is exciting!!!!💯🔥🔥🔥
God has me walking in my purpose as a single woman, and there are certain things in my purpose that I need to get back to doing since I'm not in a relationship right now. Thanks for this, Mrs. Rebecca!
