Yes. You are right. He lost control of me. And, the story begins…. 1-phone blocked & changed his emails 2-said he was moving out of town 3-left one night without a word. 4-five months later I start seeing back in town. Frequently. 5-now I’m being shadowed. Lisa, would you please address the subject of “How do you actually get the narc to leave you alone? Thanking you in advance from an avid listener.❤
I got retaliated against and it led to me getting my reputation ruined and led to me being gangstalked. This type of harassment follows me everywhere I move.
I worked with a few people who I ended up feeling the need to record by sound or video all of my interactions. They liked having conversations with me where they made a point people saw them with me but couldn’t hear then told lies about the conversations. I worked a job by myself in an isolated area. I’ve had supervisors use that leverage to ask me to spy on others. This was a factory position where I just went to work and installed the same part every day 500-1500 times a day. I didn’t see any need to play politics between management and workers and I really don’t like being a part of gossip rings. It was a constant arena of having to watch everything I do just to go to work daily.
I recorded before. And had people listen. It was like Dr Jeckel and Mr Hyde. The hateful tone behind closed doors but different around people on the outside
I'm not embarrassed about being previously naive anymore. It's great moving on, ready for something real. Congratulations for the 500,000 subscribers too. 🙌❤
Yes! Everything you said in this video rings true to my soul! It’s insane the amount of nasty character traits these narcissist have! They are real life monsters.
Inspired by your work, I put a group together for 5 Women (in my practice) who were involved with a Narcissistic partner. The group lasted only a few sessions, and apparently that was enough. After having heard one another's stories, and realizing "it wasn't them" who were crazy, all the women left their abuser and have availed themselves of legal services. I take no credit for these results, it was all their doing. I just brought them together. One of the most rewarding things in my career. Thank you!!!
@Therapist Steve I can only imagine how relieved the women were to hear similar stories from each other. Not only are they saving themselves, but if there are children involved the children’s emotional and psychological lives might be, too.
Wished we had a group therapy here because I feel like I’m living in a fog and losing my mind. I don’t know what happened between me and my husband. I’m very confused I know he has some of these narcissistic behaviors and maybe I do as well but DAMN! I’m need help, I want to heal my marriage and fight for it but have no clue where or who to go to get guidance
After almost two years of no contact/grey rock, an emergency medical situation was used to pull me back in where the opportunity was taken by another of my abuser/flying monkey to verbally and emotionally assault me. I was calm and didn’t react in the manner that I think was expected, and I documented the entire episode with a former US Attorney. The karma is that for all of the character assassination and smear campaign I’ve endured, it’s about to turn itself on its very ugly head as I remain in my healing mode and growth and love of life and all things beautiful and good. Xox Lisa - you’ve helped to save my life.
Waiting for my avenging angel (s)/ retribution one day soon for me and my children. It is NEVER too late for a RECKONING!! Endured some hard s#@t for 23 some years. May you receive what people stole from you and restore it a 1,000 fold🙂💝
I spent 20yrs + walking 🚶♀️ on eggshells! 3years free now. I became physically sick. Still suffering from anxiety🙃 Four children with this Monster👽 I'm in a much better place now. Thank u so much Lisa for your support😊
I noticed how my parents were sociable, kind, and helpful at church when everybody was watching but behind closed doors my parents were violent, critical, abusive, and criminal through domestic violence, child abuse, and put downs. 😭😢😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😢. I thought everything was my fault because people at church thought the world of them. I've been carrying around this guilt that never was mine. It's so liberating to get this off me.
Me too. I was so programmed to be become nothing but a worthless person that I started acting out on it giving them just what they want. I am 62 now and trying to just love myself with no expectations.
You remind me if my situation growing up with my parents but my father didn't fake that, lol! He wasn't even Christian, lol! Mother was and too this day has always acted self righteous. Both my children's fathers are the same way: Fake. One is a Reverend/Pastor fleecing his flock and brainwashed my baby girl. Felt that same guilt until I realized: CARRYING THE WRONG KIND OF GUILT.
“Whenever other people are around they are helpful”. Mine turns into Mr. helpful and attentive. If we are going to have someone coming over for weekend then a week or so prior he is soooo helpful and nice.
Spooky. Had friends, family and medical professionals tell me they noticed my nex was all of a sudden so busy when he realised their presence (child caring and tidying, whereas usually ain't here n when he is, sits on his chubby butt n watches me hoover for eg at 7months pregnant.
Yes, they are lazy and will do nothing unless someone is watching. They always announce when they've done something that you have done a thousand times. lol...It's laughable and yet, so damn annoying.
I spent a year in bed....literally. Depression took me over and I threw up every day, two and three times. I didn't even care about hygiene. Acid burnt my esophagus and erroded my teeth. I was taken to the er after 4 days of excruciating pain and thinking it was a gall bladder attack.....strictly stress. I can empathize with your truths in this manner, actually alot of this diabolical mess. I can't thank you enough for your time and healing education on this HORRENDOUS journey we here are, or have, experienced and lived. You are a big part of my healing journey and I am genuinely grateful for your passion to educate us on behalf of your own truth. Thank you Lisa💝 May God's face continue to shine on you....😌
Me too. I was in bed crying all the time and always too lethargic to get up and do anything productive. Wasn't taking a bath or washing my hair, nor was I brushing my teeth. Hair was falling out all the time, depressed, anxious, always having nightmares..It got to the point where I wet my bed multiple times..And the sad part is, the narc publicly mocked me via his social media accounts. These were just symptoms and the aftermath of his bullying and manipulation and he had the audacity to make fun of me publicly for this! All of his friends and acquaintances jumped on the bandwagon in bullying me. The mental abuse is unbearable. Narcs are truly horrible people. Hope you are in a better state now~. 🙂
I had her call the police on me when i ended it and accused me of harassment, having police on my front door with my young son crying thinking his Dad was being taken away broke me and i had a breakdown, i recovered but permanently changed me and I find that i struggle to trust women, but I think I've reached a healthy balance where I'm just very selective and never ignore even the slightest red flag. It's terrifying and ill still fairly often suffer panic attacks on dates or even talking to people, but it does get better but advice to anyone, it will but it takes time, your only defence keep very observant and never let these people in.
It’s not only women who call the police on men, because men, sadly, also falsely call the police on women, too! My spouse frequently calls the police on me & worse yet, has trained the adult children to do the same in support of him! It’s ALWAYS for things I have not done nor said, yet that doesn’t stop them from engaging in such foul behavior ! There should be a way for Narcissists & their supporters to be charged with false reporting & thus they would get arrested & have to serve time as well as go to Court & serve extensive Jail Time!!!
@@lindabermudez-hafer5440 "flying monkeys" who enable the N. as such a "nice" person - r also dangerous for believing the lies of the phoney N. For too long I have allowed other women a credibility that they do not deserve. I no longer assume that women r so-called "sisters". The white woman who fooled me created her false image of benevolence for volunteering her time to the so called community - she was an actress who loved to present herself as Exalted to cover for her false self of purity.
The symptoms of mental abuse. The hair falling out and rashes... Nobody believes that someone would do that to you. If it hadn't happened to me, I wouldn't believe it either. I like the red flags that you point out. I treat waitresses real good unless they give bad service.
People who've been through life long emotional abuse develop autoimmune illnesses. Rashes and hair falling out are 2 signs of Hashimoto thyroid. Its hard to get diagnosed from an MD. (Dr. Ken Berry explains why) I suffered 30 yrs and finally saw a homeopath who diagnosed it.
I was about to mention the auto-immune diseases and clicked to post a comment and seen that you had mentioned it!! My compassion goes out to anyone living through this. I’m trying to become financially stable to get me and my kids away from this. Thank you for all you do for us!! Wholeness!
I have both, in addition i have digestion problems, for many months now my stomach acid comes up, especially after he yells at me. I have put 14kg weight because my metabolism is distorted now. All from living in constant stress for 10 years.
The hardest part is to explain it to someone who hasn't been through it! So true Lisa. It just means that at the end of the day, you have nobody to talk to.
This was amazing, thank you so much! Every word goes straight to the center. Especially that part about the narc being a step ahead of us, kidnapping kids and making friends with the authorities just to win, dirty things that would never cross our minds... That is gold. Happened to me word by word. Thank you again. Best wishes to all who suffer, believe me, life after a narcissistic relationship, no matter how complicated divorce seems to you now, is real life.
EXACTLY...Been going through this for the last 23 years and counting. Never married single parents aren't exempt. Experienced it growing up and dealing with abusive exes with kids. Epidemic even moreso in this pandemic.
Being married to the malignant narcissist alcoholic I divorced was similar to playing on the same football team and he’s the player sabotaging his own team/family …tackling his own quarterback every play and taking the ball and scoring for the opposing team.. then when the game is inevitably lost he blames the quarterback and other players while spreading smear campaigns about the team. Sadly and horrifically I discovered too far into the marriage I was married to not only a complete stranger .. but my worst enemy and nightmare . A wolf in sheep’s clothing out to destroy his own family.
Thank you so much. Kids raised by narcissistic parents, don’t even get how they enmesh. Siblings can be toxic. We keep trying to help, they like that, until you say the wrong thing.
My siblings-so so depressing. Believed once parents gone we would still be a family. 💯% WRONG. Illusion all an illusion. Betrayal is how this feels. I trusted these people. Trauma upon trauma.
And yes enmeshed-I was unaware we shared a trauma bond and not a real connection. But the endless walking on eggshells and ghosting for months was given a “pass”. The first time I let on how it felt to be seen through a negative lens and obstruction as I tried to wrestle with our mom’s funeral plans collaboratively was the end instead of an opening to grow. I said out loud to the lead narc that was acting out contemptuously as usual whenever anything asked of her that our family “patterns” were frustrating and painful to me. That sentence/admission was an UNSPEAKABLE sin. The start of a prolonged persistent smear campaign and end of my membership in our family.
“All I did was point out to you (AGAIN) that other people have different values” over and over and over again even though we rarely see one another and not bringing up anything the least controversial, But you REFUSE to engage in a political fight that has no bottom…ugh. Flying monkeys saying the exact same line.
This has happened to me also. Emotionally baited to argue, or defend myself. She would criticize, I’d respond, then she’d say,” you sound angry. Why are you so angry and mean to me?…” She set me up, got a reaction, then accused me of abuse, anger, etc. And she did it at counseling also. Sick.
@@michignamymichigan thank you for that encouragement. I believe I am in the discard and smear campaign phase, and it feels heavy and sad, threatened with divorce often, guilted, you name it. And who knows what former friends and her family is being told. Then I’m told I am the reason for all our problems. I am daily praying, singing, smiling, and working on healing from my child survival responses to being kept at emotional distance. God bless you today.
Being a 46 year diabetic, no longer working, no one to really talk to, feeling tired and being married 5 years to a narcissist combined is more exhausting than it is worth.
I had to move away to a different city and I chose to “cut off” communication with anyone who knew my ex, including family members. I’ve never had so much peace. I love the new city I’m in with my son. I filed for child support. My ex isn’t expecting that but I don’t care. I’ve lost multiple jobs and haven’t been able to keep a steady job because he chose to stop paying daycare and chose to not keep him so I can work. He thinks he’s hurting me when he’s wrong. I have an interview tomorrow in the new city. Wish me luck ✨ I’m optimistic about my new journey and my new life 🦋
YEA!!!🎉🎉🎊 Wish we could celebrate..been going through this for 23 years and counting with two kids, oldest child, a son and now youngest and last child a beautiful daughter. ☹️
Life update 🌼 I found a great paying job near the new city I live in. I’m starting to get my confidence back and things seem to be working out in my favor.☺️☺️☺️ I couldn’t be more excited for what’s to come!🌺🌺
I thank you, for educating me about this. I have been married for 10 years, to a narcissist. He has been so emotionally, psychology, verbally, and at times a little physically abusive. He always go away without me, I recently realized he has been in another relationship for 9 years and this woman has a 5 year old for him. The child is heartbreaking to find out after I adopted his 3 kids from a previous marriage their mother passed away, so I took them. I miscarriage a set of twins for him plus 2 other pregnancy I recently packed his things and told him he has to go. I am so hurt and distraught by the whole thing.
I remember someone which I believe have high narcissist traits tried to love bomb me but I rejected his proposition because we didn't know each other and I simply maintain it brief... well... I received a narcissistic rage 10 seconds later and he called me all sort of ugly names. The next day he behaved as if nothing happened and tried to befriend me again surely because he thought that I will be so traumatized that I will not have other choice than to behave the way he want but it didn't work I immediately went Greyrock he later became bored and left me alone (after calling me disrespectful of course) but I admit that the fact that he switched from love bombing to discard and back to lovebombing in just 24h created a big cognitive dissonance in me and I almost fell on his trap luckily enough I was already mentally prepared to face their discard
Similar with one guy I did not have this wisdom nor self-respect to the degree that I would forgive, over and over. I didn't know about narcissistic people but instincts told me be boring, really boring and he'll get disinterested. I moved out without drama, it took weeks but the only way since I had gotten a job and quickly was ready to move out.
Lisa thank you for your videos. I’m back watching you again. Left one and codependently got into another. Am I the creator? At 55 I am finally seeing what I do and who my men are. It’s devastating. But at least I see the patterns here. Thank God for you girl. Here I go again!!! Melanie Beattie is my friend again too. How did I forget?? My daughter is following my footsteps as I’ve followed my mothers. This cycle has got to end!! Thank you for you!
He used to stand in the door way watching as I got ready doing my hair etc, then he would tell me to hurry, yep it ruined my day. I took him to court so all cool now.
Thank you Lisa, you explain the narcissist so well!! This video is so helpful!! We would never do the things they do to us so we have a hard time understanding that they did such damaging things. But they did! We give them excuses because we think surely there’s a better person inside them, but there is not! They are a whirlwind of pain and hurt and confusion and they cannot get out of their own massive damaging tornado spin of chaos and disaster building.
My mom still sends birthday halloween christmas ext cards every single year. We throw them away. Yet in person they are nuts. Some people think "oh wow thats nice at least there thinking about you". No I rather them appologize to my face not keep sending cards.
I no longer know if I am who I thought I was or if he is correct and I am the narcissist 🥲 I will do work on co dependancy and the mother wound along with my schemas .. I feel ashamed of myself for things I have said and done yet he shows no remorse and continues to chose other women over me as he has done for so long 💔😭 How do you even get over it all xxx
Now when I look back, I realize he acted out cruelly about tons of things. If I said anything about it then I was the one causing the problems for speaking about it. As long as I endured his abuse and bad behavior I was a good wife. The moment I said anything I WAS THE PROBLEM.
Chile, gone through with kids for 23 years and counting. Lost custody of two children to their narcissistic, controlling fathers. Rollercoaster doesn't begin to describe what me and my kids have endured☹️😠!
I didn’t reject the narcissistic family members - I pointed out the patterns I experienced that felt painful to me. Response from oppositional sabotaging person was “well you should do kind things for yourself alone and not expect anything. YIKES 😳 then came the RAGE 😤 essentially I have been kicked out of the family nest.
You should add a mic drop at the end of your videos! Most of your subscribers are probably already giving you a standing ovation by the end anyway! Great, great video jammed with spot-on truths and healing guidance. Thank you so much for your channel and the difference it is making in so many lives. Blessings!
Thank you Lisa for this wonderful content! You hit so many points with me. I'm getting out of a very narcissistic marriage and all of the things that you said that were red flags, in the beginning, I ignored but thankfully, by going deep within myself to find out why I was attracted to this person, ultimately led me out of this relationship.
Guess I was lucky getting into therapy early on, before I knew anything about covert narcissism. So now in the final discard, I know exactly what I am dealing with. Getting him in my rear view is my #1 priority. No guilt, no remorse, no wishful thinking. It is what it was.
You have no idea on how your content is saving lives. Bless you Lisa and thank you for helping me get the knowledge I needed to break the cycle of abuse and to live a mush better life.
My soon to be ex-husband used to become very angry whenever I would refuse to be intimate with him. He would start threatening me with..."Remember that if we get divorced, I won't help your daughters" "You don't have a degree" "Are you going to put daughters through worries for not having a father in their life and them struggle with you"? I would feel guilty that I would end up being intimate with him., that if I file for divorce. I started also to tell some people about his abusive behavior. The people would always ask me a question..."Does he do drugs and alcohol"? I would say No. I was watching a video of a sermon from a pastor from Grace to You church. Where the pastor said.. "The reason why men abuse women is because women are taking men's power. Because God created man first and women want to take control over man. This weakness man and this is why they are abusive. I was remembering that God says..."To stay away from mean, cruel and violent man" . I was like...men are carry this inside their beings. He would belittle me and always compared me with other women.
Thank God for your contribution to humanity. So much love could be saved for knowing what you offer. My family and I could have lived so much healthier, wealthier life had that leach not sucked our blood.
Your so on point and I’m so glad you get and understand everything, it’s such a breath of fresh air to listen to someone who literally knows all of how a narcissism is and acts. I used to work for a lady who would sits in bed all day. She doesn’t do anything and doesn’t want to work. Shes got kids and has many Nannies coming in and out due to not appreciating and paying them right. Shes the biggest narcissist. She’s cheap with the help, but not herself. It’s crazy and nuts out here. People can be afraid and scared of narcissists and to stand up to them. My toxic narcissistic mother accused of me crimes she committed and assaulted me and had the cops on her side and had me arrested and charged with something she did. I was sleeping and she woke me up attacking me hitting on me punking up on me. Then she had the flying monkeys my brother and my stepdad jump on me as well putting their hands on me. I had done nothing wrong, I had my bags packed to leave to go stay with a friend but I’m assuming she found out and didn’t want me to leave again without being unscathed. She broke my heart and traumatized me with the whole cop/jail experience. Everything was dropped and dismissed after seeing I had done nothing. What she did is unforgivable and I am still trying to let go of not being able to get out in enough time so I didn’t have to go through all that horrible crap. I never imagined my mother doing something so evil like that to me. I had a psychic tell me it was all my mom and that she betrayed lied set me up tricked robbed and stole from me. She turned me against people with her manipulative lies. The psychic also said Everyone in my immediate family judged me with no justice. She also said they are all just putting me down projecting their crap onto me. My mother is a deceitful deceptive snake. It’s so sad how narcissistic individuals can be so wicked cruel and destructive with their behavior. She has damaged so much.
Geez, I’m so sorry I can identify with you. My mom punched me in my face after telling me to go F myself, and I got in trouble for doing nothing all kinds of stories like that I feel for you.
These teachings have helped me and equipped me with the courage and tools to begin to change my situation. Its mind boggling and mind bending to go on this journey with members of my own family and a few members of my spouse's family. Thank you Lisa for your mission to help raise awareness!
Hi Lisa. They will spike your drinks. Most important to remember the most defenceless thing at home are babies and your pets yes neither of these can speak. Please get a home camera if they are alone at home with them. I found chips of wood missing in my skirting board, broom handle marks.
My soon to be ex-husband would blame our daughters for his abusive patterns and I would confront him about it. I would say...I can't believe that you would hurt our daughters and blame them for our relationship. You are really a full narcissist. My middle daughter is going through verbal abuse by her boyfriend. Her ex-boyfriend is forcing her to be intimate with him even though she already told him that she is done with the relationship but he doesn't want to respect her boundaries. Oh my God! I have so many health issues because I would cry so much due to all the verbal and physical abuse and I to started develop anxiety and get anxiety attacks.
Please make sure to tell your daughter the reason he wants to be intimate is to blackmail, exploit, sabotage, abuse, or TRAP HER WITH HIS BABY so she will be tied (soul tie) to him forever!!!😠😤. TELL HER DON'T GO FOR IT.
I FINALLY had the courage to mark my abusive Mother's letters & packages (payoffs) with REFUSED: RETURN TO SENDER. Before now, I'd just toss them or occasionally read them & then get pissed off. Baby steps. No means no!! Thank you, Lisa, for coaching me through my own rebirth. You are a godsend!
I totally understand what you are saying Lisa. Unbelievable! Years back I stood up to my husband! As a matter a fact I have for the most part all along. Because I stood my ground he would not speak to me for weeks and it eventually turned into a year! I could write a book on how bad my life has been. Hearing this information today brought back a lot of bad memories! I did not sit idle but the situation affected my health and I almost died from the stress. Wow!😮
A lot of people here are in relationships imagine if you are going through this and it's your dad. He has got me fired from jobs he has bought properties where I am living so I end up homeless. He told me I'm a failure so he does everything to make sure I don't succeed in anything. I have not been able to get a job and he tells everyone I don't want to work but he has destroyed my career and references.
Where would we be without you teachers! I like to collect people and your important information about psychology. One day there will be a great awareness of that too.
I filed for divorce from my narcissist husband and he has been communicating with my attorney (he doesn't have an attorney) and he has said so many ugly, nasty things about me to the attorney. He continues to tell the attorney that they need to understand the character of the person they have chosen to represent. He won't even allow himself to be served divorce papers. It has been a nightmare. I feel bad because I didn't prepare the attorney for the crazy, but I didn't think he would speak so badly of me to a perfect stranger. I never spoke ill of him to the attorney, I just stuck with the facts. He has shared intimate information about me to this stranger. Through it all I refuse to contact him in any form. I sometimes feel like he is up emailing my attorney day/night telling him horrible things about me to try to draw me out. I refuse to acknowledge him in any form. Getting out is hard.
I’m praying to God that my Narcissis never comes back .. I was in a relationship for 3 1/2 years the first year Was OK but the second year the mask fell of and I didn’t know who that was. Nothing made sense anymore A Did not add up to B Everything was always my fault but it wasn’t it was his fault the ghosting was almost every week and the rage Was unbelievable And may I mention they threw their own self out the house 10 times so the last time he did That i Ran couldn’t deal with it no more, they hurt me emotionally drained I couldn’t get out the bed I had a heart attack and I wasn’t taking it no more so these people are dangerous. Thank you for the video.
wow....they are crazy dangerous, they want to destroy you mentally, physically, spiritually they are satans kids !!! gurl when they take that mask off, its like demonic !!!
I told my soon to be ex my deepest vulnerability, concerning the death of his horrendously abusive parents who both died long ago . He weaponized it almost immediately; went to our adult kids and said their mom wished their grandparents dead, and what an insane, homicidal person I am. I’m paying attention here, learning, and I wasn’t surprised when it happened. Learned to remain shutty- shutty!
Holy cow, the parts about getting sympathy, mind games and gaslighting, and that emotional baiting- that is what is being done to me. All that and more. I’ve been working on the gray rock and shutty shutty more often, and am noticing more attempts to ‘talk about things’ keep coming. The other day I was told that I need to ‘let her know” where I’m going, what I’m doing, who I’m talking to, what they’re saying, what counselors tell me, what church I go to, etc. Lisa, your videos have been so helpful and I purchased your program from your website and I also downloaded the daily inspiration app Thank you very much and have an amazing day
I can care less what people think that would be a narcissistic problem just smile and move on if people believe them over you those people are nothing they never were they do attempt to cause damage mine failed miserably everything she did backfired in her face no she has the next seven and a half years to think about what she did in the woman who got over on her 50 different ways me I got this knowledge just in the nick of time to turn the tables to level the playing field to defeat her with absolutely no mercy and I did so with great pleasure thanks again your performing a public service without this knowledge things would offended differently very differently I'm sure
As self aware as I am I’m realizing when I’m In It I sometimes Can’t See It. Also, what you said about how someone acts in public as opposed to they act in private.. Ones in my life.. no one would believe what happens behind closed doors. Actual hell doesn’t scare me because of what I’ve been through. Most don’t care so I don’t speak about it. Your caring and sharing are helping me. Thank you beautiful Angel
Wow/ the whole thing spot on! Unfortunately I didn’t know any of this when I most needed it- leaned the heard way about almost everything you mentioned. So anyone wondering if Lisa is on the right track, it’s truth!!! But recently I was hoovered with a supposed ill and dying mother who I am no contact with. The flying monkey subs pulled every trick as Lisa said- to try to suck me back in. I did make a ‘death bed’ call to her and it was weird to say the least. In the end she was not dying and I believe the sins wanted me to come take care of her. In the call I let her talk and it went no where because I wasn’t going to go see her and she ended the call. Good grief- is there no end to all of this.
Excellent video Lisa! You covered every situation and toxic behavior of the narcissist. Every word of this is true and I've experienced this with several narcissists in my life.
As you say, after realizing I was involved with a female narc, I thought how could I get involved with someone like this? I loved a ghost, then I left. She hoovered me, I blocked her on everything. Thank you
Thank you so much for this one ❤ I finally understand how much I've lived my life with narcissists. My mom, ex-husband who I filed charges against. Case closed 😵💫 and my last narc ex a spiritual cult leader. I'm so grateful for you and Dr Ramani on really understanding what narcissists are about. 🙏❤️
Thank you Lisa, for one of the best descriptions ever, to be used for ordinary people to understand and deal with it 🎉 Still there’s so small information about treatment.., these people are in pain and they need help, as the victims needs help. It’s all so hopeless and cannot see health service system knowledges anything about it So needs to be more important how to deal with this Just to run away is not connected to reality in any action It’s not realistic
I lack the ability to communicate effectively. I have emotions, thoughts etc but I do not know how to communicate these things. How do you relearn or learn how to do this? My amount of shame and guilt really keeps me from asking for help for needs and even more so than for things I just want. I feel unworthy to ask. I do most things myself or just go without. I’ve done this since childhood. This also effects the way I deal with any relationship. I want much more meaningful relationships but shame, guilt and fear of rejection is a big barrier for me. I’m relearning who I am and beginning to feel comfortable with just the now. I realize the narcissists in my life and I’m doing a better job of recognizing and knowing how to handle those I do not want to just walk away from. Still I seem to have lost the ability to just be able to have a conversation other than the polite hello and such. I tend to just self mute and not say anything. I’m not discarding or trying to be negative. I just don’t know what to say. Quite often it comes out wrong and people get upset.
I'm still in the terror stage and not being able to get the help I need after over 4 MONTHS of trying but nothing works out. I've had a wellness check sent that allowed me to show some text attacks but, nobody gets how shattered I am. I don't drive and have been isolated for 18 YEARS, I can't just "go to the courthouse" about things I have no clue about plus I fall apart so easily. I'm so traumatized.. I haven't done anything alone except filming outside for DECADES. I'm so SCARED.
Sometimes I think, (after watching these videos), “my God, they are everywhere and I have meet and had to deal with the myriad of these issues before - when dating and in marriage, really there is no way of avoiding them….especially when you know what to look out for.
I was abused by both parents but I’ve always been loving and caring for other peoples feelings and I did have anger and hurt but I would never inflict pain i was going through other people .. but tell someone in a relationship how you have either tried suicicde but you got help many times to prevent it had physical abuse and mental abuse in relationships and you have hit rock bottom again because you have only given them love and I didn’t even get a hug from my parents but could hug everyone else and always make them feel better if they were down and you have done that in relationships and I’m proud of being able to speak out about everything.. not for pity but for survival and getting help when I felt like I didn’t want to be here anymore but it’s me getting up and heard .. every relationship I’ve told have used it as a weapon eventually it is me who’s crazy because it’s all my past and bla bla bla to get out of the abuse they are giving you and they expect me to believe that 😂.. no I’m not mental I’ve survived mentally abusive people and I suggest you get some therapy good try but it’s time to say goodbye 👋 😂
Loving all of your content! It’s been very helpful and encouraging after getting out of my last narcissistic relationship. NEVER AGAIN! I did notice something about this video. I produce videos, commercials, and promos professionally. Your hair is scrubbing the mic a bit and it’s causing some noise. I hope this helps! You’ve helped me! Keep the great content coming! :)
Lisa, when we feel like an empty shell because the narcissist, does this mean when they took their supply and left us drained, does the narcissist pick up our security and confidence? I feel like he and I switched places.
The whole spiritual meanings go way over my head. I keep it simple. The cluster bs whole purpose is to break you down, emotionally, psychologically. They are sadistic, they feel great amounts of adrenaline from doing it. That’s why you feel broken and they feel powerful
@@steve4524 When you say "spiritual meanings" what do you mean? The christians saying it's a spiritual battle or something because they use that as an excuse to not intervene..just need clarity that's all🙂? Another reason is growing up as a former believer (now atheist) I was brainwashed to believe these people just need Jesus or some bull 💩 and pray for them as they know not what they do, they need us to "love them more"....the fu&$k that meant? You like me are simple. I had to evolve to this stage of life to receive and understand what Lisa is telling us. Ironically enough, my Masters is in Psychology but I never put the pieces together until now. Thank you for the simple TRUTH 🔥!
They're really not scary when you know what level they function at emotionaly e. Q. . most of what they said was not true. If they are physically abusive ignore my comment.
