A boy starts to become a man when he begins to realize and accept that no one is going to defend him, no one is going to stand up for him, no one will be there to look out for him, no one is coming to save him. If he’s lucky he will be blessed with precious few ppl in his life that will have his back in various ways, but ultimately, he is alone. When he goes quiet, it’s because he knows no one is listening anyway.
Exactly and Society has the nerve to think that man owes them something and that’s not the case and won’t be because the love u give is the love u get back if u show no mercy don’t be surprised when u get none
“Good men don’t get appreciated while they’re breathing” that was one of the realest quotes I’ve ever heard because I have seen it myself and I know this is what people will realize once I pass. Thank you sharing this video.
It makes me think how 2 years ago my wife had to resign from her job due to stress that caused her to have a nervous breakdown. She was worried about how we would manage financially until she was able to find a new job. The whole time I forced myself to be reassuring and supportive and not show anything to the contrary even though I can be pessimistic at times. She asked me "how are you so positive?" I said "because one of us has to be."
@@unpopularopinion9831Apparently not since…according to the story…she’s ALREADY handling the financial responsibilities because he isn’t…otherwise…why is she in such a rush to find a new job…get off the gas bro🤷🏿♀️…why ain’t he tryna get a job…
This brought tears. I remember telling my dad a good man that he's my role model and I wanna grow up to be like him. He's gone now and I wish I told him more often how much I appreciate him.
2 Corinthians 5:10 KJV “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Yahawashi (whom the world calls Christ), that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad.” REST IN PEACE TO THE FATHERS.
Real talk. I seen my eldest son once this summer, the rest of the time he spent at his mom’s house. Now that college tuition due, guess who I’m hearing from? It’s a lonely walk as a man. If you ain’t providing for others’ needs the world ain’t got no use for you. I take my daily runs, stay on them push ups, and keep it moving. Peace brothers.
I haven't seen my oldest son in about 6-7 years, done had a whole child himself and everything, not so much as a call. 🤷🏾♂️ If that's how you feel then, glad I could be there to give ya life kid, good luck with it ✌️
Absolutely. I’m widowed and alone going on 18 years, and have always been the one people come to. I have no one to go to. My late husband had PPMS, and we had 10 wonderful years. I told him all the time, rubbed his back, cooked, cleaned and did everything at the house except the trash. I was Blessed. To the Good Men. We See You and appreciate you very much. ☮️♥️☮️♥️☮️♥️☮️♥️
These are deep facts! Thank you for this. To all the men, my brothers out there, better days are ahead. Never lose focus of God's promise. He has our best interest and our backs! Change is gonna come. Stay strong and keep being your strong selves. We will be blessed in front of those very people who walk all over us. Can't nobody stop the Lord's will. One love. 🙏🏾❤✊🏾
The world would be much better if we could make this a popular trend rather than another set of 304 that only care for their own life, money and fun they have and then are surprised nobody is there for them, they are miserable and run through life...
Same here. I lost my father a month ago and now the responsibility of taking care of my entire family is all on me. But keep in mind that God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers and continue to push through my guy.
I got "truther" channels I'm subbed to (such as MGTOW content) that I don't ever even get notifications for, I literally have to manually search for any MGTOW content I'm subbed to. Funny how women can have all the movements in the world, but let a guy have one and it's suppressed into oblivion
No one is coming to save a MAN from whatever he is going through. But a WOMAN will be saved from whatever she is going through because she will be allowed to say what or how she feels!
I learned no one was coming to save me while living in a tent in the middle of winter, gotta get up, stop feeling sorry for ourselves and save ourselves, because no one's coming, nobody cares. Oh please believe they'll show up to the funeral and cry crocodile tears at how "deeply saddened" they are at your loss, but that's all just to get the last feel goods off you they can get.
Really? I am a woman noone had come for. Black women are the most disrespected person in this world and she could just be minding her business. Noone marched for black women who were murdered. Be a black woman then come to me and tell me your life, NOONE IS COMING TO SAVE A BLACK WOMAN. NOONE marched for Breanna a medic with a clean record until women complained after everyone marched for George Floyd.
Thank you for sharing your frame of mind. Never give up hope and faith. Believe in the good Lord, he's there for people with problems. He loves you and I do too.😊❤
@@EM-wo6wf nah this is wrong in so many ways . . .you have to stop judging every move that a person makes and see them for their whole selves. You can learn to forgive shortcomings and have long lasting relationships that mean a lot.
When we finally start to accept this world & the reality & harshness of it all, this is when we realize life is best done in silence… stay down, love your life & grind in silence..
This is like a, I can relate video. My relationship of 8 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
That's actually an accurate description of my abusive father. We couldn't even keep to ourselves without getting nasty looks & disrespectful comments from a man pretending to love us. That dumbass destroyed our whole family with his constant bullying & now neither of his kids live anywhere near him. I haven't experienced much of that from my GF & I'm thankful I don't.
It sickens me that I can't help the people I use to be able to muster energy for. It feels like sometimes it's just me and the family. I don't get along with no one anymore, based on morality. Based on doing the right thing bro. Im not motivated by fame or glamour. I left LA and a promising career behind to better myself and learn. Four years ago, the last person that seemed proud of me died. My children have no grandparents, I don't mess with my brother and my wife's family is always in her ear. It's like im sailing by myself sometimes... And yet... There's this light. Not hurting for cash, got a house, kids is A students and my wife and I are starting to chill more. That happened the moment I started standing tall like I watched my grandmother and father be as a child This has got to be one of the best videos right now. Hope it reaches as many as possible.
I’ve gone silent because I finally realized that most don’t deserve to even hear my opinion! It’s not that I’m perfect, it’s not that I know it all BUT, I’ve ALWAYS KNOWN that a simple life is MUCH MORE rewarding! I’ve ALWAYS been “minimalist” and zen! Being raised around noise, you start to think that you’re crazy for thinking life could be simple ! Then you realize that the noisy are ACTUALLY at war and if you don’t protect your spirit, they will drag you into chaos with them only for you to feel STUPID for not listening to yourself much sooner! So I STFU! No more words! Just actions FOR ME FIRST! Anyone with forward momentum can join my ride or I join theirs….. outside of that, 🤐 ISSA WRAP!
This is why men are better off in the country or in suburban areas, where less noise, urban disturbances and separation from a natural environment. The same peace exists at green parks and golf courses.
Great comment, when family or friends come ask my opinion these days I tell them “I’m not sure” or “idk” because they will find away to do the opposite or drag me into the chaos as you said.
@@HelloMyNameIsShun1omfg exactly! I can't tell you how many times people sit and soak up my advice and wisdom, agree with everything I say, tell ME Alot of things I planned on saying to them, and still turn around and do the exact opposite of everything I said. It's like wtf? Why even waste both our time and my energy just to disregard everything I said? 🤷🏾♂️
If you keep sharing videos like these, You ain’t quiet boss! WE HEAR YOU LOUD AND CLEAR and we APPRECIATE YOU! Dont change…. STAY QUIET!!!! Actions Speak louder anyway! Much love ❤❤❤!
The reality is men fail to set healthy boundaries, that’s why everyone can lean on you but the sentiments are not reciprocated. Any situation, no matter who it is, should not leave you longing for tenderness, for someone to show they care, or for someone who will truly appreciate your efforts. Men your job is to create healthier boundaries, sacrifice for those who’ll sacrifice for you. You don’t have to die to be appreciated.
Word bro. Im 29 and only a few years ago i would have been all over this. Eventually i got so miserable i pretty much said "fuck it, cant get any worse than this so lets spend like a year just throwing spaghetti at the wall and see what sticks." And here we are a few years later and i cannot relate anymore. I feel the most love i have ever known around me. I found my 3rd place and my people just by being unwilling to give up and isolate. It wasnt easy, and it wasnt without mistakes, but by god it worked. We're selling eachother poison man. We're telling eachother no one will care about us and its fuckin wrong man. Its so wrong it hurts. People really can love you if you let them. I intend to dedicate as much energy as i can spare to show my brothers that it doesnt have to be that way, if we can be brave and keep our heads up even though its harsh and uncertain out there.
The moment you set boundaries everyone calls you lazy, selfish, broke, etc. And you find yourself just as the OP described at the beginning of the video.
And see I don't mind when people use me up for energy, wisdom, advice etc etc I feel like I'm here to help people, and don't even mind if they give the same energy back, I understand Alot of peple can't, but what kills me is how they'll soak it all up agree with it, and then do the exact opposite of any advice I gave them. ¿🤷🏾♂️?
The good men are silent, resilient, dependable, consistent, reliable, GOOD. They do the right thing BECAUSE its right. Not for praise or recognition. A good man believes in eternity and conducts himself accordingly. Good men KNOW actions are WAY more important than words. Peace and blessings to this refreshing gentleman who understands and enjoys the consequences of his understanding.
man , needed this . at the age of 22 i’ve realized that no one is coming to save me. i gotta push through this thing alone. no one cares, keep it pushing. to anyone else going through this, we’ll come out stronger than ever 🤞🏾🤞🏾
This is just a small part of why we men say that women don't really want true equality. Sometimes it really does suck to be a man but that's what we are because that's what God wanted us to be. MEN.
As a woman…respectively, I DONT want equality. I want my man to be a MAN for me and I want to be his woman. But also as a woman, I don’t know what my man needs from me if he’s silent. So sometimes, I need him to communicate. Even if he feels he has no one and no one cares because he’s the one who I look to….I need him to know that he is NOT alone, and I DO care. Which is why I need him to communicate his needs. Otherwise, I cannot accommodate and we’re both just two robots to each other programmed to wait on an order. I don’t want to wait. Tell me what you need NOW so I can appease and fulfill that need NOW.
@moongosis124 if a man turns to be silent towards you he has already likely told you these things and you weren’t listening or “ hearing “ him . Men need to talk but when we do , women need to actually listen .
🫡Damn this almost made me cry im 25 and i go silent and distance myself sometimes,but it ard we shake it off and keep moving cuz this thing we call life isnt easy💯
At the End one has to go back to the Self. It is our Journey 2 keep moving Forward. Build thyself Reinvent thyself. One loves 3 times deeply & differently.
As a black man this comment is garbage... ALL MEN NEED to be appreciated not just us.. Y'all so brainwashed on how u think this world is that u don't even understand how lost and depressed most MEN r not just white or black or any other race but all men. Thank u for the words but its not just black men who need them.
I've never been a loud man, but at 40 I'm quieter than ever. Why talk when most people don't listen? Why engage when you are disregarded? I don't mind, and I'm happier than ever before this way. I do however find it sad that too many good men leave this world without being truly appreciated for what they were and what they offered. Please, be kind to yourselves kings
Even when it comes to just socializing and joking. For example, at work. I'll say hi/bye to people in/out the door, people will outright ignore me, I'll think, ok maybe they just didn't hear me, say hi again and make sure they hear me, still ignore me, ten minutes later they'll say hi to me, like they only want ME to acknowledge THEM or something. Or I'll make a joke or a smartalec comment, nobody laughs or reacts at all, I'll think ok maybe it just wasn't as funny as I thought, but then 2- 3 days later someone will make the same joke or comment I made and now all of a sudden it's hilarious. What is wrong with these people? 🤷🏾♂️ Sorry for the rant but the Internet seems to be the only place I can find others going through this shit with the world.
I got tired of everybody having such high expectations for me that I couldn't meet so I simplified myself and went into a cave in my mind and I've stayed there ever since
I really needed this. On the very day I went silent..This video came my way completely on random. I didn’t search it, I didn’t even speak it out loud. And you tell me this universe ain’t listening?? Oh it’s listening. And it gives us strength sometimes. Thank you.
I've been told before, that the reason I'm on this earth, is to provide a light that shines to make people smile and laugh. And while I don't mind helping people have a better day, shining my light continuously on others means I'm left alone in the dark in the end.
A real man saves himself. But can acknowledge help when needed. Apologizes for their f*** ups & stands tall in the face of adversaries. Is not a coward never runs away no matter what they did no matter why they're there they stand and they face what they've done that's a real man.
As a wife of a great man I needed this reminder. It's a rough world we live in and we often expect and demand so much of men, and at the same time assume that they don't need anything when they're just as human as us women. I admit I forget sometimes 😔
Stop the demanding of men and do it yourself. Contribute. It takes a village. There is no empowerment from relying on external sources all the time. AI will soon prove that slop mentality. You already see employers trying to use AI but it just adds workload due to mistakes.
Brother!!! You are a blessing from Almighty God!!!! Please don’t change the calm and smooth delivery! Don’t let wickedness overwhelm you!!! This video is the most powerfully recorded video I’ve seen in a few years!!! You get a sub from me!
Just had and said goodbye to my second son within 36 hours. A lot of people are gonna see me go quiet. I've been seeing this in my reccomended videos for a while but I'm glad I saw this today. I know there are people out there when you need em, but this video is straight facts. 99% of this world don't give a damn about you and those closest few that do need you to just keep on keeping on for them.
I felt in my heart right here so many dark nights by myself in my room nobody there for me to vent to we all gone get through this regardless stay strong kings💪🏼
I swear I just keep shit to myself and keep pushing and cry when no one is watching things get hard sometimes but I look up thank god and keep going nice video brother
Damn this is deep , these heartfelt words struck a cord , I feel this .. even tho I’m a woman I’ve had my share of bad relationships and toxic people and issues, and so many people just don’t get and don’t care, I have a wonderful person in my life for once for the first time and it amazes me , you start to think there’s not much better out there , that you gotta selttle or and that’s all your gonna find or that’s all your worth , so when you find a good one hold on , to all the good men and women out there hold your head up we are strong , we’ve already been thru hell , we are strong enough to keep on going, the world out there is crazy and there’s so much toxicity trying to infiltrate your life just hold strong and y’all are amazing. When I see the few good people far and thru that occasionally restore my faith in humanity it hits hard . Wish it was much more often.
Just found your channel and I love it wholeheartedly, Brotha. Keep spreading those messages of uplifting and dessecting HOW us men go through things. For the sake of not only articulating to our fellow men what's going on with themselves internally, but also to present a platform in which the opposite sex can start to understand. I am grateful for existence 🙌🏽
I just keep going through obstacles like for so long it’s they aren’t even there anymore. Every time I get over one and think it’s going to get easier another comes up. All you can do is smile and ask for more. We are all capable of life. We are men. One love ✌🏼
Sir, I sympathize with you. Every thing you said was absolute truth. Sad thing is, all other men will watch you burn up with these thoughts. The only thing you can do is get hard and not give up.
“Love the Lord with all your heart and with all your mind and with all your strength and He will make your path straight.”Even if you feel like no one has your back, God is still there for you. Trust in Him. I’m a sinner just like any other person and far from perfect but I know who has already won every battle I might face. I do not walk this road alone.
