This Is Why So Many People Are Chronically Single 

I'm having a migraine just watching this woman talk. That guy dodged a bullet.

This women is living proof that it’s definitely better to be alone than settling with anyone’s bs just to avoid being lonely.

I’m a wife and mother to small children and I couldn’t handle the drama of meeting her as a friend for coffee.

Imagine people called each other instead of texting. That'd be absolutely wild.

He probably missed out on a ton of headaches.

Poor woman, I feel for her. She is consigning herself to an unhappy life. She seems to be subconsciously sabotaging herself with manufactured outrage. Constantly looking for , or even manipulating situations so she can feel affronted.

The « I didn’t hear back from him » while showing her non-response sent me off 😂😂😂

I love how soft spoken you are. Most RU-vid commentators are not, it’s refreshing

People. PLEASE stop trying to develop initial communications via text! You can't hear tone, inflection, emphasis and other things that help facilitate communication, clarification and understanding. Until you get to know someone and can better interpret their personal mannerisms... misunderstandings are inevitable. Use your (verbal) words!

Oh....this woman again. I remember seeing this video somewhere else, and to say that she's the problem is an understatement. She's the type to start an argument for no reason just because there isn't any chaos in the relationship. She just gives off that energy.

I think it is totally disrespectful to the guy for her to post his private text messages to her for thousands of other people to see. This is why men now check a woman's social media post before confirming any dates and then they ghost them when they see that they post all their dates on tik tok or instagram.

okayyyyy I came here directly after seeing the video of her getting rejected by a matchmaker and I have to say...that matchmaker is SO good at her job omg. To be able to see this amount of red flags in a single meeting. good for her. no wonder she's so expensive. I hope she's out there living her best life.

What is with women posting everything and blasting everyone on social media these days? Such repulsive toxic behavior. I once had a girl from a certain social group I was in, ask me out, I politely declined. Later some mutual friends sent me a TikTok that she posted complaining about me, actually using my real name too. Couldn't be happier I said no.

She's the epitome of she will be single for life. Too many try all these BS tactics, and then when they get the opportunity, they squander it because they've lost their minds. She's done a decade of therapy which kinda is painting therapy in a bad light. Therapy is not meant for life. Leave people like her alone

Her posting her dating experience including the texts is such a major red flag, at least for me. What's wrong about being private about your dating life? Anyways, love how eloquent and calm you are, just subscribed to your channel.

I am 58 and I am trying to date women in their 40s and 50s and I can attest that it doesn’t get any better, in fact it gets worse. Women as they get older, for some reason just cannot communicate their intentions, or even answer simple questions. It’s just horrible.

She wanted him to read her mind, send her an itinerary and then fly up to her balcony on a magic carpet and show her the world. Is that too much to ask for on a second date? Jeez what’s wrong with that guy. 😂😂😂

My wifes an excellent communicator, i really suck at it. I get upset when she asks detailed questions 😅, i am really tired by the end of the day, but you helped me realize i need to work on myself

This is why so many people are single. It's people like this that hurt people and change their minds about dating. Thanks for this video.

I see that self-sabotage a lot. My coworker puts it this way; nobody (or at least, not most people) wants to acknowledge their failings, so they either date abject losers or sabotage a relationship with somebody “better” then them. It’s a lot easier to say to yourself and everyone “s/he was a loser” than “man, I really screwed that one up.”

you can just feel her arrogance via insecurity in 30 seconds.

There’s a 3rd update. She turned him down because she didn’t like what he came up with for a plan to meet up. I’m not lying.

I confirmed a date for Saturday with a girl on Friday afternoon when I was in college. She said no, when she agreed before. I'm grateful to have known the day before rather than be stood up on the day of

I really appreciate how correct you are about communication. No one can read another's mind

He handled that a lot more politely than I would have.

IMO, The "laziness" and blame she is projecting onto him, is actually a clear description of her OWN behaviour and lack of accountability, since she: 1. Used minimal words to convey her meanings 2. Didn't reply to his text. 3. Avoided seeking further clarification on the already-minimal communications on the table ... and 4: She did him a favour and took her 'bullet' elsewhere ... helping him dodge it.

The proper dating technique: Create plans for a definite date and general time (eg. Sunday afternoon) a few days or a week before. This lets the person get excited about the date, show you off to their friends, and generally give them something to look forward to during the week. Touch base at least 16 hours before the date (6 pm Saturday for a noon Sunday date). This is to confirm the date when women are most flaky early on, and lets you judge their interest and how to approach the date, romantic, unserious, etc. Set a definite time and location. Women do not like making decisions so even if you are traveling to them, pick a restaurant local to them that has great reviews, and make a reservation. Do not text again! Meet them inside the location exactly on time! You want them to have tiny expectant butterflies.

Courtney is so surprised but being in that guy’s position is 90% of dating for men. The other 10% is girl flaking, not over her ex, using you for validation, or worst of all, thinking things went well after a first date only to get ghosted. And we men go through all that just for the “reward” of potentially getting married which basically means we lose half our shit if she gets bored.

the 1st women is what I hate bout online dating... people overthinking the situation and assuming this stranger knows what you want

This reminds me how exhausting dating can be, and why I don't usually bother with it. Being single is a nightmare these days. And don't even get me started on dating apps. Such a waste of time and a killer of happiness.

I don’t have a Valentine this year, so I was feeling a little down…. Then I saw this video and realized that it’s probably a blessing in disguise being single in this dating landscape

There was a third update from her as well. She cut the guy off. He suggested a hockey game for their date, presumably to gauge interest, and she decided he didn't have a concrete enough plan detailed in his text. Like, I guess he was supposed to buy tickets and call an Uber before he knew if she wanted to go, LOL. On the plus side, the comments on her videos restored my faith a little bit. Plenty of people, mostly women, trying to call out the absurdity. So that's something, at least.

This is the first time I have seen your channel. You are spot on. It is refreshing to see a sensible young woman. I would hate being young and dating in today’s dating climate. I am a 70 year old woman that has been married 45 years. I have watched decades of my kids and grandkids dating. It seems to have become more and more difficult to find the right person for many people.

Man if this guy saw any of her viral videos about her thought process, he'd be running for the hills screaming.

I am a doctor: Pick up the phone and talk. texting is confusing, leave out information and leads to confusion. A person can tell more by sound of the other person's voice. With the tone of her voice, I would have told her: "My mistake, have a great live." Second date, I going to the dog fights, care to join me? LOL

I am aging myself, but well over ten years ago, I tried some of these internet dating apps. Everyone one that met with was nuts. Then I said the hell with it, went about my own business, and I met several attractive women just being myself.

I’ve been with some women who were unfortunately very egocentric and left me in shambles for a bit, but I am blessed to have had other women who were truly inspiring in the way they carried themselves and cared for me. Plenty of great ones out there! Patience!

You analyzed the video perfectly! 👍🏻 I can’t count anymore how often I had similar experiences with women. These women will be single for the rest of their lives and they don’t even get it. They’re so narcissistic they just can’t think that they’re maybe a little bit the problem.

I've been on dating apps for about a year. The exchanges I've had with women mirror the above very closely, but the typical exchange begins with a woman matching with me (I don't match with them), continues with me writing to them (if they meet my criteria), and ends there - no comment, no acknowledgement, no sign that I'm dealing with anything other than a bot. I've spoken to some female friends of mine and they're adamant these women do exist. They're just looking for validation from random men whom they never plan to meet. Imagine being so painfully insecure that you feel compelled to reach out to complete strangers to gain their attention. Then ask yourself this: why would you do this and not actually meet up? I'll tell you why: these women are *already in relationships* and are using the dating apps to keep their options permanently open. They have no honour, no integrity, and no future with a self-respecting man.

“he missed out”. Oh absolutely. He missed out on a traumatic life experience. Somebody somewhere was really looking out for this guy.

You know that you are giving incredible advice, even to me 2 years in a realtionship! You can read things in so many ways, so clear communication and comfirming what you think is said is so important!!!

You hit the nail on the head. People act like this girl because they want to stay single. It’s sociopathic to act like that girl. These are the types of people that are chronically single and they go on tons of dates and are never in relationships. She’s even sabotaging her dating life by going on TikTok and talking about/bashing guys she’s dating. If you are a guy and find a girl who is on TikTok bashing guys she’s dating, you would never want to date her.

"let me do all the heavy lifting for you buddy" The sense of entitlement that it is his job to do all the planning to make their second date happen.

In my opinion, in the case of the above-mentioned story, neither side was sincerely and realistically interested in each other. After the first date, there's a week of silence and then the tiring arranging for the second date. This TikTok woman may be tiring in places, but I think she had a good sense that the guy wasn't interested. He spoke out of boredom and lack of other options.

Another tip: *Call on the phone*. Voices carry 100x more information than texts, and get instant feedback with 100x more. There'd have been no misunderstanding about the second date if they'd talked. The "call" button is right there next to the "text" button. I've seen countless misunderstandings about texts leading to fights and worse that would never have occurred if someone had bothered to hit the "call" button instead. The two of them actually could have had a pleasant conversation they both enjoyed while planning the second date. Why is everyone so addicted to texting instead of calling when trying to communicate with someone else?

I’m glad men have a sympathetic ally. Thank you for being so compassionate, reasonable, and understanding. 🎉

She set him up for this knowing he couldn’t get a reservation. If he comes across her video, he’ll know he dodged a bullet. Then she’s furious he’s not bothered by it as she was expecting him to be upset she cancelled.

This is exactly what happened with one of my dates. I offered to drive her way, asked if she knew a good spot, we decided on a spot. When I texted to confirm the date the day before I got ghosted. I assume she found someone else, whatever, but I didn't even get the courtesy of "no I'm not available." I stopped dating completely because being constantly ghosted was taking a toll on my mental health.

I told my date back than I was relatively new to the city so if she knows good places or want to try out one she hasn't tried yet we can go there for a date. She was looking at me weird at first but she knew I was genuine and she liked that she can be a tour guide sometimes and explain the city to me. Now she is my girlfriend and happy to show me around. I take care of her and she takes care of me. It's not that difficult.

My man dodged a bullet. She doesn't deserve him.

Totallly agree - I am stunned he followed up! Some red flags in women you should never ignore.

Saddest thing about modern dating is almost everyone expects the other person to be a mind reader we’re not! Basic communication, understanding and good manners seem to be getting rare these days.

Dude dodged a bullet. She's insufferable.

This is the issue with communicating via text message instead of verbally whether by telephone or in person. In person is best because you also get the body language. This miscommunication could have all been avoided.

I like how this was uploaded on Valentine day lol.

This video cured half my trauma and self-gaslighting I put myself through thinking I'm the problem.. 😭😭😭 thank goodness this exists and I crossed it

Courtney, you are a real sweetheart. Thanks for being a voice of reason and sanity.

Ya this one girl was telling me she was busy working. 6 hours later I get a text saying I guess you don't care to talk to me... Like what the actual fudge popsicles??? 😂😂

She's so bad at communicating that she said "you missed out", when what she meant to say was "you dodged a bullet".

Courtney looking into the camera concerned lol

I watch this channel because your perspective and personality are a breath of fresh air :)

Ms. Ryan, you are doing a great service to civilization by your video critiques of the verdant, adolescent behaviors of twenty-first women. I am married 51 years in June of 2024, and cannot wrap my mind around the attitudes and behaviors of these twenty-first century women, or their "requirements" for finding a life partner. Men are human beings and have never (at least in my lifetime) been a "build-to-print" commodity. Please keep publishing. My wife, the psychiatrist, laughs at the women in your videos.

When will there be a college major in deciphering dating text messages to take student loans for?

Man is down bad if he's still pursuing her.

The “ok cool” response at the end 👏🏾. Hes seen this type of woman before and he’s over it.

I've encountered women like this. I simply saw it as lack of interest in going any further and moved on. Back when I was dating we didn't have texting but talked on the phone which I think is better. This woman wouldn't have made the cut. There are actually lots of women out there (even today!) that have it together. What's important is to get yourself out there and gain experience like this. P.S., been married now for over 40 years; house, family, cars, plane. You can do all of that with the right partner.

As a man just listening to her and miscommunication of everything is causing me high anxiety, it's no small wonder why men have had enough

“I don’t know if that’s what happened” muttered under your breath 😂 pure comedy and reality

I’m definitely not defending this woman’s immature behavior and poor communication in the 1st video. That said - and this is just my opinion as a dude - if you’re inviting the girl out, you should be proposing a time/date/location days or a week in advance (under normal circumstances). This doesn't mean you always have to do 100% of the planning, but you should at least be taking the lead for the first few dates until you get the ball rolling. To me that is just proper planning and being respectful of people’s schedules. It shows that you're confident, have your life together, and care. To illustrate my point - you wouldn't invite your friends to a dinner party and then text them the night before, "so what time do you want to meet and what should I make?" Well, I wouldn't do that at least! It was nice to see she was able to communicate better in the 2nd video. In my opinion, after she said she likes a solid plan and is free Saturday, the guy should have responded with a proposed plan for that Saturday. Instead, he said he would “plan something as we get closer.” I guess this dude just isn’t much of a planner - but IMO that’s a lame response. She just said she’s free Saturday so now you’re going to make her hold her schedule open the entire day until you come up with something? If he wasn’t sure if he could commit to Saturday, just say “I am not sure yet if I’ll be free, can I let you know by Wednesday or can we plan for a different day?” Or something like that. So the dude here could really work on better communication himself.

Omg I'm slightly feeling sorry for myself since I'm single on valentine's. As I'm watching this I'm thinking about my ex who recently dumped me over text on new years eve. And this is the kind of crap she would pull right around 4:05. She would say I haven't heard from you...when I was the last one to text!!! I'm laughing so hard right now because Courtney is my conscience when she pauses the video around the 4min mark because these were my exact thoughts going through it and watching the vid. I am no longer feeling sorry for myself, I'd rather be single than deal with that anymore lol.

Could immediately tell based on the brunch places mentioned this is in Philly (where I live). Have many friends who are single and can confirm anecdotally that dating dynamics here are trash.

This is why as a man I’ve given up trying to make plans with let alone date a woman nowadays, they either go all passive aggressive like this lady and pick apart everything you say or do, or they agree to do something then end up just ignoring you and blame you when things fall apart. Someone make it make sense. 🧐🤔

Yeah, I've seen this woman before. She's a real gem. End sarcasm. She's the type that blames others for her failures.

Had a very similar situation once or twice while on the market, good thing they showed who they were before I spent my time and resources further.

She wanted him to make the reservation and let her know what time he decides it’s going to be, she probably expects him to order for the lady as well…

Now you see why we struggle so much 😅😂😂u literally have to get to the point of not caring until they put in the effort to try something with u which again still makes no sense to me

This dude can't even imagine the bullet he dodged LOL

My advice focuses on yourself goals and dreams the table will turn.

She is literally a human public service announcement!! I’m so glad she’s getting the exposure of being *that* woman

Poor guy. He was out and went back in willingly... 🤦‍♂

Things like this always remind me of the song, "If you don't know me by now". Unfortunately this happens both after 1st dates and 20 years of marriage. We all need to be better at communication. No one is or ever will be a mind reader, so communicate as effectively as possible.

This woman sounds like she is avoidant ...finding fault and being overly critical to create space because she is uncomfortable with closeness. She may feel closer to an abusive man. This guy dodged a bullet.

lol, looking at the text in the background, I would swear that were me (if I were available) 🤣 Your takes, as always Courtney, is spot on. Confirming and asking where your date wants to go, is always a good idea IMO. And "The Dutch, Aye" is confirming. No different than if I were to text back "Ah, yes yes" It seems that there are some women who will complain if we don't show an interest, and then by the same breath, will complain that we ask questions related to catering to her. No offense Danielle (the woman on the TikTok), but that was not a good look. It seemed rather manipulative to flake, and I'm sure the guy found a better date. Bullets were dodged with this. I hope the guy found a better date shortly after.

the way I see it with women who expect immediate understanding about things who seem like they want you to read their minds is they're looking for people who are already on their wavelength instead of making the effort to get someone they like on their wavelength.

Yes, this dude dodged a bullet. With that said, how 'bout we use our phones for the thing it was originally designed to do, like make a phone call. An actual voice to voice conversation could have prevented any confusion.

It would be interesting to be a fly on the wall during one of their dates.

The fact that she will be single forever its actually good for humanity.

Courtney & Team - I wanted to start by saying your production value and content are incredibly crisp and well done. As I watched some videos, I was a bit conflicted in that while I appreciate someone who is great at their craft, it didn't really resonate with me. Took a bit of reflection to figure out why. I had to think back across my own life after 51 years on this planet. And I arrived at my actual problem...the problem that your content does not address. I haven't watched all your videos, so maybe I'm jumping the gun a bit. But after watching a few, and perusing your titles, I *think* I know what my issue is. What I realized was in my younger years, the surface priorities your videos focus on to generate attraction was where I spent my time. The right hair cut, the right clothes, the right demeanor, a solid flirt game, and an emotional indifference that bordered on sociopathic. I enjoyed a great deal of success. What I found out was....all those things...they have nothing to do with who I am. Who I want to be. After a few horror show relationships, I started to revaluate my life and who I was and it became important to me to be a good person. To conduct myself with honesty and integrity. To treat people with respect and kindness. To understand my role in the world in relation to all other people. To hold myself neither above or below anyone, and to lean in hard to the idea that we all have value, we all deserve equality, and we all deserve a modicum of compassion. To work hard, to contribute, to look after the ones I care about and to provide for them a better experience than I have had in this life. To be true to myself and my inner narrative. Now lets pivot back to the lion's share of your advice. What shoes to wear, what haircut to have, how to best present yourself with what you have to work with. But not one thing at all is about....who you are as a person. Your advice and insights are accurate. You are providing good guidance to help men find partners. But none of your content actually address the problem a lot of men actually face. Here is the problem from my viewpoint. I have spent my life figuring out how to be a good person, a positive influence, someone who cares for the people in my life and actively works to build meaningful, deep connections. That is who I want to be, that is what makes me feel good about my path. But as you have abundantly illustrated....those things...they clearly do not matter when it comes to attracting women. So for the men that did the heavy lifting in becoming...A man, we are learning....that isn't what will get you a woman. But the goal...the real goal has never been....getting a woman. The goal is always...how do I find the women that value the meaningful things that are important to me. Ironically, the standard advice is...spend all your time and effort on your attraction game, because substance doesn't matter. When to us...substance matters more than anything. And quite frankly if who I want to be isn't attractive to women...they are not the women for me, because I need to be something more than the guy with a good haircut and clean nails. Its genuinely just not worth our time. I am absolutely sure there are women out there who do fit that bill. Here is the thing...they are probably already married, and my slow coach ass missed the train. Anyhoo....just wanted to present a point of view I don't see reflected in many of your videos. You go pretty light on the schadenfreude clickbait of women regretting their choices, and I applaud you on not dropping to the LCD of mass appeal. Of all the things you get right in your videos and your content creation...that clue to your integrity is the thing that stands out the most to me. Maybe you could cover this particular topic. Might be pretty popular. Oh I suppose I should give my stats, the ones that seem to matter in these situations. I'm 6'3", 215 lbs, top 10% of earners in the nation, mildly attractive, decent fashion sense. I wear grown up shoes, I dress like a grown up, I have a well put together life. I am intelligent and funny, and navigating social situations with great skill is critical to my work. Oh and I trim my nails. :) Its not that I cant follow your advice. I already am there. It's just that...the women I encounter don't value the most important parts of me to me. And that's just....eh it is unattractive AF. And once I get there...I truly just don't care. Its not worth it. My time is valuable as is my mental and emotional well being.

He probably didn't pick up on the red flags on the first date

This woman is 38, picky, and acting like all these men are missing out on her. I would absolutely hate being attached to this woman. Nothing you do would be right. She's perfect and you're lucky to be with her. She would put no effort into you and you would be expected to hurt yourself showing attention to her. I would say this woman needs a cat but why torture the cat?

When I get i to text chains…I just pick up the phone and call….she is a little crazy…but 99% of my ‘bad communication episodes’ with girls is over tex.

I checked and she’s from Philadelphia PA. That’s a red flag 🚩 by itself. She’s an ignorant person. And he did his job, and walked away when he realized he was dodging a bullet.

I've noticed that a lot of people in the dating scene right now are terrible communicators. If both sides would just communicate what they actually want instead of playing sexy mind games or trying to seem really cool to the other party, I think you'd have more effective relationships.

That's an amazing video Courtney. Right on point.

Courtney must have had great parent who taught her. She's 1% of women in this world who just gets it, but unfortunately most of us men won't find someone like her.

I want a girl like courtney soooo many girls aint it and good girls are rare to find thats sad

Courtney your videos are really needed this days, toxic people tend to go viral spreading misinformation on how a date/relationship should be… when they are the ones with no communication skills or any common sense to have a relationship…

Kids insist on texting which is the worst way to have a conversation. You miss so much information when texting. I’m surprised they even know how to talk anymore. This is sad.

I love The topics you talk about

Happy Valentine's Day, Courtney and Fellow Viewers! Stay positive, appreciate those who are in your life, and treat yourself to some sweet chocolate! 😊 P.S. If you need a good laugh, watch the SpongeBob Valentine's Day episode!