I work in the hospital and this just breaks my heart but I really am amazed at how well you and your brother do with your dad and not allowing him to be in a place where he would be mistreated. You both have earned a crown in heaven.
Its amazing that in the last stages of life, even as parts of his brain shut down he still consistently asks how he can be of service to those around him. What a humble, amazing soul.
Bless his heart. he covered all the things in this one, where's my car, my checkbook, where do I live? But then he also wants you to get that garage tidied up! 😂 And there's always dinner. You're a patient son to answer all those questions over and over. We might all be where he is someday.
1/19/23: 🙏😉I've had an extremely stressful life for last 27 yrs, you and your DAD have a Good LIFE, it's hard living at other people's homes, DAN, but seems y'all can keep track of everything🤗 Thanks for Sharing, puts a smile on my face. Patty Sue in MARYLAND
That has to be so difficult to see your Dad like this but what an honor it is to take care of him! I know it has to be very hard at times repeating yourself over and over it shows that he cares and cared for his family making sure he has money and a home and his car God Bless you and your family you are all amazing really!! Hope he’s doing well and you all are doing well
I'm slowly getting to that point. It's hard when you have taken care of your family, taken care of your parents, and then your family starts taking away things that you knew would happen some day, but oh that some day is coming on too fast.
Dan, you were raised very well by your parents. Your Dad is a fine example of his generation. My father was born in 1929. Family, responsibilities, courtesy, self-respect, respect to others, and raising children to be good citizens were on top of their list. God bless your dad and the rest of the family.
Maybe giving him a few more simple tasks might help. You're doing an amazing job guys. He's a treasure. Every day and every memory with him counts.Enjoy each other. Thankful he's still mobile and eating good. 💓💓
My Mom always wanted to "help" so we gave her little things to do and she was so happy to feel like she was helping. Folding laundry, towels, easy stuff to do sitting down. Peeling potatoes or carrots and such was great for her. Money worries are comman, the car, even small stuff though might bring worries to their mind.
Haaaa so sweet eh? I liked the part when he found out he had 5 or 6 kids and he looks so defeated on how he is going to take care of all those kids. Haaaaaaaaaaaa sometimes you want to just start laughing. I took care of a lady whom we were trying to get her dentures in and it was a bit challenging that day and she said to me r u sure these r not your ?? Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa lol. Have to find the humor in it all
Goodness, Grandpa is a remarkable man. He loves his family! He worries about his money, his car, his brother and Mark! Dan, you are his shadow and always calms his fears!
He has a great attitude. He is confused and disoriented, concerned and worried, anxious and restless but never seems angry or futile. He has a great life filled with people who appear to genuinely care about him.
I was a CNA for 20 years and specialized in Alzheimers/Dementia. You're doing great! Here's a tip: play music from HIS Era. Tunes his mother and grandmother would have played on the piano. This can calm a confused state and the memories he will recall and lucid stories he will tell will blow your mind. Music therapy is awesome. Bless your heart. You can also add little reminders near his mirror. "I live here 3 days a week" ,"my checkbook is at Marks"
Yes I am a retired CNA/GNA and worked in a nursing home. I agree with what you said, play music from their era. Yes put up signs this is my room and reminders to help them. You are doing a wonderful job and your wife and brother is too. God bless you! ❤
He wants to feel needed. As a man of his generation, he needs to feel needed. He’s a sweet man and you are a good son Dan, as is Mark, for taking such fine care of him. 😊
Thank you..for you thoughtful words..I was just going to say simular.. He is sweet..he needs something to do..to feel needed..even small.things To help him..not get bored.. Can even help hime..a simple hobbie Painting is therapeutic...nothing fsncy..really God Bless You all Ephesians 6:2-3 King James Version 2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
Your dad is so cute and funny, especially when it comes to his money. My dad is 95 years old and always worried about his money. He gets around like your father, pretty much self-sufficient, but his memory is starting to decline as well. I love your patience and the banter you have with your father. Watching your videos has taught me to be more patient with my father and the process. Thank you so much, you are a great help to all of us.
GRANDPA has a beautiful smile! I love how Grandpa smirked when he was going to show Dan his license! Dan I really respect how your father is very cordial courteous. He always says pardon me excuse me I am sorry etc. it’s a shame Grandpas generation is slowly disappearing and so is this generation’s salutations and class! You are a GREAT SON Dan!
I took care of my dad before he died and I took care of my mom before she died too. My younger brother and sisters think I got stuck with them but I knew then and I know now I was the lucky one. I have many more memories and stories to tell. And I know much more about the family and everything else than anybody else. I have figured more things out about my parents I was the lucky one.
I like him. Thank you for publishing these videos of your Dad. He's obviously a grand gentleman that's loved immensely by you. Well done, sir. You're a fine son. 😊
Dan, you and your brother Mark and family have done great job of taking care of your dad! You have inspired many people around the globe! God bless you!
I've learned a lot from Ed. I've learned about what a man gives to his family and what is important to him to achieve that. He needs to feel needed and strives to keep track of who he is to himself and to those he loves. He is a good man.
Oh I just came upon you guys this last week . Thank you for sharing . You are so wonderful with your dad Dan . Bless you all . Your dad is a sweetheart . I love how he wants to help . guess he won’t remember what he’s doing but do you give him little jobs .
That's how my mum is..the same thing over and over and over...and u have to ensure u don't snap or make them feel bad cos they need keep knowing as forgot..it's tough but......
He wants to be " useful". As we age it seems we need to feel useful and not any, "burden". I absolutely love how good of a son he's got to love and support him. You are all blessed to have each other.❤ My son aged 29, died recently in my arms from organ failure and for some strange reason, these videos help me.❤
So sorry for your loss. The Lord will give beauty for all ashes, oil of joy instead of mourning. He is in a better place. Your son is no longer in pain.
This is how my dad was with Alzheimer's. He was always concerned about the car and about what he had to get done around the house. Never a dull moment lol. RIP Dad.
He shows us plainly what his priorities were through life. Taking care of his family, he’s so polite you are blessed to have had him as your dad. Tons of integrity.
I love you guys. Grandpa is amazing. Always worried about money, dinner, his phone and his house. I feel so bad for him but you’re giving him a great life. Amazing.
Dad is a wonderful soul! My sisters and I shared the care of my Mom who lived until she was 82! It is great that you share in the care of your Dad! God bless you all!
2/1/23: 🙏It would be Soo GREAT, if everyone lived their life's caring for their parents like Dan and Danielle and Mark. I was raised by God parents, school teacher, brick layer and their mom Vanamee lived with them, we all had our own rooms, it was all nice-Grand piano, Fireplace- just warm, safe and nice. Ya can't need much more. Patty Sue in MARYLAND
Longsuffering and being abke to do it graciously like you do is a fruit of the holy spirit. You certainly are honouring your father and your mother to im sure, if she was here.
I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I swear I can feel the hands of my parents in mine. I miss them so much it actually hurts. I’m so sorry you feel that pain too. 😢❤️😘
I lost my dad at 49 in 1984. I enjoy watching Dr. Salinger interacting with his sons and other family members, something I'll never have. My mom passed at 67 so being a caregivers of 80-90+ yr old seniors is a very humbling experience. I am learning by caregiving and loving them too!
You are so kind to your Dad . We took care of our Mother with dementia. Keep your Dad off medication . Our Mom live to 96. She sang all the time & we sang with her. She remember all the lyrics. She is an angel in heaven. Love your Dad ❤
He’s such a kind and caring man. Smart as a whip, and a strong desire to be useful and help out. I’m sure he was a fabulous Doctor and I bet his patients loved him just like his family does now. God Bless.
He has forgotten many things but he has not forgotten how to want to help others. The gift of Love is undeniably his strength. God bless him and his family.
I've been a nurse's aide for 32 years I've always dealt with dementia patients. This guy warms my heart! And he's lucky to have you. You're so patient with him and that's the key!
I love this guy. He don’t like sitting around he’s always wanting to stay busy and do something. Amazing how even with his memory loss he’s still got it for being 90.
@@kellymendez He was 90 when I made the comment 4 months ago and Dan tells him he’s 90 it’s year 2022 and he was born 1932 so yeah it’s in the video of you watch it. He may be 91 now but your being ms obvious. 🤣
I look after my 90 year old mom who lives with me. This video reminds me so much of our interactions. I pray for patience as they ask the same questions over and over. God will bless you Dan.
It's evident that he has always prioritized taking care of his family! His children. He wants to have money to help out and wants to physically help too. What a father's heart... I bet he worked HARD for his family growing up. 🧡
Aww. Love him. Car mention tick ✅ Cash mentioned ✅ Cheque book mentioned ✅ Wants to help mentioned ✅ Bless him. What a cruel condition but you handle it so well 💪❤️
Not such a bad condition, they literally do not mind too much, which is the only good news about it. God bless our elderly and eventually take them home to paradise. They deserve our best.💜
OMG…your Dad is exactly like my Dad! My Dad is 83, great physical shape with stage 4 dementia. All my Dad cares about is driving, cars, money, and what’s next! High five to you and your wife for taking such amazing care of your Dad. He’s very lucky to have you.
@@user-st6nt4ou6fbut that gets negated by 3/4 because he is a 49ers fan, just kidding OP you seem like a solid dude. (And that's coming from a Dallas fan, yeah yeah let me have it lol)
I feel so badly for him when he gets confused. It must be hard to not know why all the things that are important to you and everything you worked for your whole life - car, house, money, being independent - are either taken away from you or you don't remember it. He remembers they exist but he doesn't remember why he doesn't have them.
Gotta find things for him to do. They need to feel useful. Just like when I worked with disabled people. I have been working with seniors like grandpa the last few years. And I love it.
Men of that generation were defined by their work and productivity! Hard for them to not be that hardworking productive person anymore. My dad had dementia and he focused on these same things!
You will cherish these videos one day. I wish I had videoed my dad often, he was 90 as well.... lost him 7 years ago today..... keep it up. Keeping him talking will help in keeping him going....
It’s hard to care for someone you have to tell the same thing to all day everyday, not everyone is cut out for it, Dad, is so blessed to have Sons like you Dan, and Mark Patience is a virtue Dad is a fine man, who raised, fine sons. ❤
I took care of my stepdad who passed at 95. He had alzheimers. Its very stressful on the caretaker. My dad would get very mean at times. Dan does an incredible job❤❤
I cry every time I watch these clips. My dad is 83 and has the same issues except my dad is really mean, hurtful and nasty 80% of the time, but it’s those few moments of clarity that are special to me. My heart goes out to you and your family I know first hand how difficult it is to watch a once highly intelligent man become so lost. This is the worst disease ever. They say it is the long goodbye. Prayers to you all ❤❤❤❤❤
I have never been so invested with a family as I am with the Salinger household, I wish I was a Salinger! 😁 love your videos. Thank you for making us smile all over the world 🇬🇧❤
I am just fascinated with your Dad! You, Dan are so caring! You are so sweet to your father! He is so very Blessed to have such a kind Family! I am an 81 year old widow! I live alone with no family here. I'm doing ok but after seeing your sweet father, I envy him. You are so very patient with him. I know that it is not easy by any means, but you are just the greatest! Keep it up, Dan and Mark! You guys are Wonderful, especially your Dad!
every single time i watch your videos i instantly start crying. it is so clear that when he was able to be on his own he cared about others and did everything he could to help out wherever needed. When people who lived a life being angry and bitter towards others and their mental capacity diminshes they resort immediately back to their natrual ways of emotions when told whats going on and usually yell and scream and get mad. This guy immeiately responds and is so calm and understanding even though he is confused beyond anyone is able to even understand. I cant even put into words how much i admire this family and seeing how great of a son this man raised is the exact reason why he is able to be cared and loved in this state of his life. SO MANY people immediately drop their loved ones off on the door step of an assisted living, leaving their family member without the only people they can still remember to be taken care of by people who are irritated by their existence. Its so sad and shouldnt even be an option in my opinion. if your parents are in this state its your obligation to take care of them. after all they didnt sacrafice anything for bringing you in to this world or anything like that. Bless your family for being an example of what a good family is supposed to do in these circumstances of life. I absolutely love your pops he is an amazing man and im sure he lived a life worth writing a book about. Thanks for bringing us into your world, it is so so appreciated.
@Matthew Randolph. Sometimes it is the only alternative to enlist the assistance of a facility that can take care of your loved one. When my mom needed 24/7 care I had to move her into a nursing home. Although we love our parents we can't be there day and night to take care of them. Because I was the only one to care for her, I had no other options. So it's not like family members just drop them off and leave (although some do) we just need help. I was a constant, nice, pain in their butts when it came to taking care of her.
I took care of my father for 10 years. I lost him year ago. And your father reminds me so much of my father. It brings tears to my eyes. You’re so lucky that you still have your father. You are such a wonderful man taking care of your father. It is such a gift from God to be able to take care of our parents as they age. I cherish those 10 years that I had with my father. I wish I had one more day with my father. God bless you and God bless your father. ❤
GOD bless you Mary. I took care of Mom for 15 then Dad for 10. He lived to 94. Turns out not only was he a Wonderful father but also my best friend. Not to many can say that. 😁 Boy! I do gotta say though after they hit 90 they turn back into a kid! Stubborn as a mule too! 🤣
Amazing how only short term memory is affected. He remembers his birth year. He remembers his siblings. He remembers how to speak. Its fascinating. God bless. Hes great company.
Am sorry but am loving Dad here, so lovely and such a beautiful son to take care of him. God bless you for adding dad to your family and taking good care. Thank you for sharing… we just love him❤️❤️❤️❤️
My Mom passed almost 2 years ago. She had dementia. I was her primary caregiver, and THANK GOD, my sisters all helped me! I would give anything to have her back. I miss her so much every day. Just because a person is forgetful doesn't mean that they aren't lovely, kind, funny, cheerful souls.
This man is such a sweetheart. He must have stayed active and worked hard. I can tell he's energetic and wants to help. He is trying to feel needed. If there's any little project that he can do without hurting himself, please let him do it. Maybe get a couple of bird houses for the yard and let him paint them. I'm sure he would strive for perfection. And regardless of how they look, they will be the most beautiful thing you have ever seen. Cherish this time as life goes by way to fast. You will never regret taking care of him. And be thankful he's not mean and wanting to fight.
Grandpa is so blessed to have you and Mark still around to help him. My father was born in 1932 as well. He passed away in 2006. My son just celebrated his 30th birthday on Ed's 91st birthday last month on the 26th! Cherish every day you have with him!! He is truly a treasure!!!
LOVE how he asks/ offers to help with anything. His BEAUTIFUL character developed over a lifetime shines through his dementia. Love you Grandpa. And love your patience, Dan. So glad that you, Dan and Mark, know how important your caring for him is --- as did I and my 3 siblings caring for our dad in his last 3 years. NO ONE else in the world would know how fantastic our dad was, nor what his food preferences are/ were, nor his communication style ( my dad spoke many languages, so we spoke them all with him - NO one else would know that many languages), nor his food preferences, nor his music/dance/ relaxation/exercise (walks!)/media preferences (National Geographic magazines!), nor his deep family-orientedness, nor his amazing work history, etc, etc..... THIS is ONE of the MANY reasons why it is SO IMPORTANT that knowing, loving family care for our elder(s). Stay patient and appreciative... after our dear one(s) have passed away, you'll treasure and miss those times, yet feel 100% that you were prioritizing correctly by caring for a parent -- similar to how they cared for you when you were a dependent child..... 💗
He genuinely is a good father. Even at this stage of his life, he still want to help out to his kids. He must be a real good foot doctor to all his patients look at him he so kind and compassionate when he talk. ❤
I've loved watching him. I can only imagine how organised, honest and hardworking he was. He still knows what he's supposed to do but just can't join the links anymore. It brings me hope for my Dad. He's exactly the same and loves to help although he's not able. The way he wants the water put a way properly. Old school! 😂
Grandpa reminds me of my Dad who passed away 3 yrs. ago at 94,I miss him every day. He had dementia and said the same things. Where is my car,why can't I drive,how much money do I have,etc. It is trying sometimes but you have to have patience. You are doing wonderful to keep him with you instead of a nursing or memory care home.Thats why he is doing so well!
dan you have done a amazing job taking all these beautiful videos of your amazing lovely father. you are respectful compassioned just like your dad. respect to all of you from bali. its a beautiful example hpw everybody should deal with their parents.❣👏
I love that he wants to help... My mom doesn't want to even do the few dishes in the sink. I may have handed him a broom and said can you sweep the garage 😊 Bless his and Your hearts 💟
