Hey guys! So todays video has a couple different tones to it. These try on videos are typically pretty goofy but today as I was filming I was in a little different head space. I almost deleted the video many times as I was editing because I didn’t like how the clothes looked on me or I didn’t like that I was feeling a certain way about my wardrobe or how I looked. But then I realized that was silly and almost everyone has experienced thoughts like this before and It shouldn’t stop me from making the video I wanted to make for you guys. Obviously nothing I say in the video about the way I am currently feeling is a commentary on anyone else at all whatsoever. I just want to share what I am really feeling with you guys! Love ya💖
By the way, it is not your body the problem, but that heinous bodysuit. Style should be things that you love and make you happy. Maybe lean into the jogging and sweats, but like more elevated. Sometime splurging on nice fitting staples pieces it is much needed!
We are all seeing a beautiful young woman (I am a few years older so I refuse to say anything other than young!). You are gorgeous. I know we can all be our worst critics but please be kind to yourself! The world is bad enough.
We all have these feelings sweetie, you are not alone and we totally understand ❤️ we are women, it comes with the territory, but so you know, you are gorgeous and you look amazing imo, we all gain weight, mine keeps going up 20 back down 20, it's so insane and feels defeating, but I just keep on trucking. I have to feel comfortable in what I am wearing or I just can't wear it.
As an old hippie, I'm most comfortable and confident when I'm wearing loose fit, flowy, colourful things. At 60, I've totally run out of F's to give about other people's opinions. We come here to enjoy YOU! Not what you look like, not what you're wearing, just you! You bring so much sunshine to my day whenever you post. I'm eternally grateful to have found your channel. Love & hugs from an old aussie gal. 🤗🤗
@grannym2880 You’ve said it beautifully!! At 66, I wish I could wear comfy clothes, but being in retail, I have to “dress appropriately”. So, it’s very few days that I get to wear my T-shirts and jeans, and feel my prettiest. When we’re comfortable, we’re at our best!! Nobody can tell me otherwise!!! Thank you for making me realize that!! ❤ P.S. Alexandria, you are beautiful!!! No matter what!! Sending love to you and all your followers!! ❤❤❤❤
I’ve had days where I’ve just bawled my eyes out in a pile of clothes while sweating. Outfit after outfit the worst I felt. This video is such a reality for so many women and I think it’s especially great for teens and younger women to know they are not alone. I had 3 kids during the ages of 17-21 and have struggled with loving and accepting my strong,capable and amazing body I should praise ever since. Thank you for choosing to share ❤️❤️
Possibly the most relatable video ever. I've just been living in black yoga pants myself. You are so right that we don't see ourselves the way others see us. Like I can guarantee you every single one of us here in the audience is looking at you and thinking gosh she's so beautiful she looks gorgeous in everything she wears.
The white sweater looked really good on you! And everyone goes through the struggle of hating every piece of clothing that they own. Good luck on your wardrobe journey!💜
Totally true because that is what I been going through for the last almost size years despite being healthy again & clean off drugs sober these last few years I just hate everything in my wardrobe and how everything looks on me. Since getting sober I am once again in my life to being the fat over weight female so of course I hate everything in my wardrobe but am to do expect just wear over sized shirts, spandex and over sized sweaters to cover up my fastness as much as possible because despite being sober & healthy this is the most ugliest I have felt ekkk..
I agree. I love the white sweater but I also am a girl who cannot wear white and I will spill on anything I put on nice. If I'm not in a sweatshirt and sweatpants I will spill on it. Is that your problem? Because that's my definite problem. Do not take me on an outing. I will have stains down my shirt before we even get there!
We are all here for you. I feel like I can speak for all viewers and say we all have looked in the mirror and not liked what we have seen. So just to be clear, you are beautiful and so is each and every other person who is watching this video!
I went through the "hating my entire wardrobe and body" period a few years ago and then I read The Curated Closet by Anushka Rees and she gives you ways to finding your personal style that really helped! My style is now what you would call Vibrant Academic with a spacecore aesthetic. (And yes - if you feel pretty in that sweater than you deserve it. Keep it.)
I literally wear t-shirts, hoodies, and sweatpants every single day. I even sometimes just go for pajama pants. I am a comfy person through and through! So I feel like there's no shame if that's what you feel most comfortable in and feel most like yourself. You do you cutie!
The white top and the jeans look INCREDIBLE on you. Like absolutely stunning. Obviously, feeling uncomfortable in your body is something everyone feels at times and your feelings are valid- even if other people don't see what you see. But for sure you are SO beautiful and you look amazing- and you ROCK sweatshirts and old lady sweaters.
After Covid, I have been a mess in the fashion sense: I don't like anything, don't know what my style is, hate hard pants... Thank you so much for being so honest today! I needed to hear another person struggling just as me hahaha I have been little by little modifying my wardrobe and I have realized that a piece of clothing that makes you feel good and beautiful is MUCH MORE WORTH IT to have than one that doesn't: in the end the one person that sees you the most in the mirror is you, and if you don't like what you see, it translates to your self-esteem, your attitude, and your mental health. If you liked how you looked in the white sweeter, buy it. That has been my cardinal run in the last couple of months :3
I started the peri-menopause early at 38 and my body shape has totally changed in the last three years. I've tried on clothes I used to love and burst into tears. I've refused to leave the house because I genuinely can't find anything that I want to wear. Thank you for being so honest and open about this.
I gained thirty pounds over the last year because I’m going through cancer treatment and one of the drugs causes mad weight gain and I just want to say thank you so much for sharing even though you didn’t feel great about it. It’s nice to know that we all go through similar stuff. Trying on clothes just makes me sad, even though I know it shouldn’t matter.
Thank you for your honesty! I’m almost exactly the same size as you (8-10) and have the same insecurity (my arms), so it was so validating to hear someone express discomfort in your body, even when others can’t see it (I think you look beautiful). I really can’t say enough how much I appreciate you sharing so openly ❤
A lot of us are right there with you. Gaining weight isn't just a few more pounds on the scale. It plays with your ability to be confident in a lot of different settings. I recycle the same few clothes I know fit, because I'm scared to try on anything that might not fit that once use to. I even find that my style changes with my current weight. When I was smaller, I was only happier in the sense that I could wear certain clothes. However, I found myself a slave to the scale and not being able to enjoy the foods I that I liked. It's an unfortunate system where I can't find a happy middle ground~ Here's to hoping the answer find us!
"I found myself a slave to the scale and not being able to enjoy the foods I that I liked." This may not be the answer, but - think 1) what is objectively healthy, and 2) what really matters to you. I have to say with point 1, being obese is not healthy; which unfortunately needs to be clarified in this day and age. Now, staying within the range of healthy BMI!!! If you can eat whatever foods in moderation, then that to me seems the obvious answer. I, for one, cannot do it. I tend to binge, so for me it's a pretty blanket "NOPE" to having certain foods 99% of the time. I realised that is fine, and for many people it is that way. I MUCH prefer my body now and being able to go for a 10k run, than eating a pizza. My friends around me complain about gaining weight, yet they eat doughnuts in front of me while I am having tea. However, you are your own person and maybe for you eating the fun food is more important. Again, as long as you are not an unhealthy weight, why does it matter? Make sure you keep yourself healthy (movement, nutrition, etc), but then who cares you are not Kate Moss thin? You need to accept yourself, which includes your body. If you are really not happy with the choices you are making and their consequences, then make different choices.
I had a green ribbed scoop neck body suit and a black rubbed turtleneck one. I had vests to wear with them. I looked terrible and I usually felt terrible in them-but I was trying to be in style! 😂
I tapped into fashion adventure a couple of years ago. I always dressed like you (nothing wrong with that). BUT I also had (undiagnosed) rosacea. Basically, felt as ugly as one can feel over the peri-menopause years. My son got engaged somewhere mid pandemic. My first thought was, I don't want to look old and embarrass the guy! Step 1 was I started seeing an esthetician who REALLY changed my skin AND my confidence. Step 2 (can't really help you here, lol!) shopping for a dress for the wedding. Wow! Total game changer. Found the color scheme that looks good against my skin tone. Same for neckline (I like to show a little skin as well). I chucked the clothes that make me look washed out (pinks, whites, yellows). Chucked the crappy necklines (and SO the ITCHY stuff!). Slowly added the stuff that looks better on me. Still love me a legging for sure! But I need POCKETS! One thing I hate about leggings. Started wearing jewelry which I hadn't in years (in fact chucked most of it a few years ago). Chucked the sweatpants. I bought a BELT! Girl, I don't have a terrible figure. Not a great one, either. NEVER tucked anything in EVER. Even when I was a size 11 in HS. But I do it now (size 14 gal). IDK, I've had a couple of friends say I have lost too much weight! Never lost a pound! Just the dress style/color. One friend said I look like a size 8 (damn, if I had that/your figure!). Nope. I can't even go to a size 12 unless I don't want to breathe! But I look good even on my "comfortable" clothing days! 61 years old! Ya just gotta keep trying stuff. Totally LOVE the white pullover on you! P.S. With many of your videos I watch, I get annoyed (total compliment!) that you look damn good in sweatshirts! Wish I could pull that one off!
I love watching you and I laughed out loud when you called it a onsie for a big baby!!!! I think you are beautiful and so funny to watch because I love how you make me laugh! I have always said that we all have our own "uniform" that we are comfortable in. I am 57 and 5 years ago, I realized I could wear what I like and not worry about what anyone else thinks. I wear "soft pants" everyday and love my leggings and boots. And I dress a little more colorfully than I did when I was younger. And after all these years, I finally love my closet!
Your reaction to the extra long bodysuit is right up there with your reaction to receiving underpants in that subscription box that one time. 😂😂😂 I cannot stop replaying it.
I so relate to this video. I have gained weight and just feel blahhhh about clothes actually about myself in general. It seems the more I try to find clothes, makeup, anything self related the worse I feel about myself. Thank you for sharing your insecurities with us. It helps to know we are not alone in this struggle.
"It seems the more I try to find clothes, makeup, anything self related the worse I feel about myself" Why are you trying to find the key to feel better about yourself into "things"? I don't want to say you should try to lose weight, but either work on that or accept your body. Something that helped me hugely was starting to work out, getting in touch again with my body and with what I can do. Could not believe what I was not able to do anymore! Also, how have you been eating? Junk food or nutritious meals?
I’ve discussed this with my bestie and we are LOST as far as fashion goes. It’s crazy. Most of what comes out now is so far outside our comfort zone. We don’t wanna buy cropped tops to LOW CUT flare jeans🤢 it’s so weird. When we were in high school there was a trend that lasted like for four or five years so you didn’t have to buy new stuff every year. Totally lost on things that aren’t athleasure
My mom would force body suits on me as a kid and now I despise them all with the passion of a 1000 suns, so I'm right there with you. Regarding the body issues, you already know we see you differently than you do, but it only helps if you believe it too. Just know you're amazing and beautiful and if you decide to make any changes, we support you whether you do or not 💓
Girl, I understand what you’re feeling. In August of last year, I went through a really stressful time, and my body hasn’t been the same since. It’s really hard to not feel like yourself or to feel like you’ve somehow lost yourself along the journey of life. Just remember how valuable and loved you are❤️ We’re in this thing together😊🥰
Just left Apparitions and met Alexandria! She is so sweet and so beautiful!! Alexandria you look great. Thank you so much for taking time from your busy day to meet me ❣️
As a fellow midwesterner like you said it is only a matter of time before we hit winter number 3 and that white sweater was so flattering so I vote keep! Thank you for being so open about how you felt in the clothes, it is nice to see that I am not alone in hitting that almost 30 what is my style crisis.
@@VV-nk1yj Yep..most sweaters I have in my wardrobe are cardigans, so that way I can remove them when the weather gets warmer just as long as I'm wearing an undershirt of course. Gotta be prepared for the bipolar weather we have here. 😂 Can get down in the 40s or 50s at night/morning but then warm up into the 80s by afternoon.
I think the pandemic did a number on a lot of us in terms of wearing "real" clothes while simultaneously making us also gain weight and be uncomfortable in our bodies now. I know that's true for me. I never thought about my weight. It had basically stayed the same for decades but somehow, I've out on 20lbs in the past few years and now I HATE everything about how I look. I know "weight is just a number" but it's not when it's also how you see yourself and how you feel in your skin. Other people might not see or notice thr changes, but I do. And how I look in clothes and how I feel in clothes is different now. I struggle finding things I want to wear in public too. So, it's not just you and I think many of us need to be kind with ourselves right now and allow ourselves some grace.
Yes, the obesity epidemic got worse because c19. "So, it's not just you and I think many of us need to be kind with ourselves right now and allow ourselves some grace." I don't agree though that loving yourself means inaction and accepting the status quo. It took me years after my ED to be able to exercise and kinda-not really calorie track (I don't think I will ever be able to), but I feel so much better now! Lost the weight over the pandemic and finally can recognise my body and am proud of it! The way I look is a small part. What I find amazing is being able to run, doing push ups (maybe a pull up in a bit!), and finally being able to hike and swim like I used to! What I used to do wrong was trying to lose weight because I hated myself. Exercising and eating healthy because it does wonders to my mental health is what actually worked! Losing weight was a natural consequence of that!
The first minute and a half of this video is me.. I completely and utterly agree with you so, so, so much. I have also put on some weight, hate the way I look, hate the way I look in clothes, and can not find my "style". I am so much more comfortable being in a hoodie and sweats.. You are such an amazing person and so real.. like someone "famous" that I think i could actually sit down and have a real life conversation like a friend.. keep doing you girl. You're amazing.
Girlie, I get it. I gained fifty pounds during my pregnancy so NOTHING fits. BUT I am taking care of my body now and getting back to what I used to be. And until that happens, not buying clothes. I feel you. It happens but we’re gonna get there together!
Girly, I think you look GREAT!! I’ve also been struggling with my appearance - I’m 8 months postpartum and still trying to “get my pre-pregnancy body back”. I hate that we all put so much pressure on ourselves to look a certain way. Anyway, you’re gorgeous! Great video, as always.
The white sweater looked INCREDIBLE on you and you were glowing! It’s a basic piece that can be worn across so many seasons, so I definitely think you would be able to get your use out of it! Plus you said it yourself- it isn’t always easy to feel pretty, when you do you gotta hold onto it!! And as someone who very recently/is currently changing up my style, I just finally got to a point of F it. I have to dress up and I like dressing up, but I’m going to do it my way. I have really leaned into emo & alternative culture, something I have always been in but not always dressed like, and it has made me feel so good and like myself!!
We all go through times in life where we feel lost and uncomfortable with our body and personal style. You are beautiful and if you feel more confident in lounge wear then that's your style at the moment. I'm now in my mid 40s and have just decided to change my style and update. It can be hard to find yourself and your style as life changes, but confidence comes with comfort. As long as you are healthy that's all you need.
I feel like I'm in the same place you are about clothes. I've been living in sweatpants and a school hoodie since covid. Like its so hard for me to find anything that 1. Still looks good on me and 2. I genuinely like. Clothes and styles have changed SO much in the past few years and I feel like everything I own is either going out of style or was trendy only for a minute.
YES! KEEP THE SWEATER! Keep everything that makes you feel pretty. That's what will help pull you out of your slump. You deserve to feel pretty and you deserve to be able to say something makes you feel pretty
80’s girl here, when the style was a turtleneck under a pullover sweater. Claustrophobia City. I haven’t worn either of those clothing items since about 1988. Also you are adorable so wear what feels comfortable! Your videos make my day. ❤
I can relate so hard. I've been struggling with depression on and off for 2 years and have gained over 3 stone. I've had no interest in doing my usual activities and have pretty much sat or been in bed. Most of my favourite pieces don't fit and then ones that do... People CONSTANTLY ask if I'm pregnant. No, I'm not. I would love a child but I am not healthy enough nor in the right head space to even consider it and it just makes things worse 😭 Many hugs to you ❤️
Going through those phases is something so universal but we rarely ever talk about it so I really appreciate you being open and honest! We've all been there and it might not help much right now but you are absolutely gorgeous and I'm sure you'll be able to enjoy yourself in your clothes again soon ♥
HARD PANTS! Yesss, avoid those like the plague these days. I too have gained weight and I'd rather die than wear most clothes. I commend you for getting on camera in clothes that made you feel uncomfortable; I won't even let people take/post pictures of me these days because I hate the way I look so much. You're a brave soul for facing the fears you had. Love you, Alexandria!
Oh, sweetie, you’re right, we don’t see you the same way you do. All I see is a beautiful, healthy lady with a sweet soul. Loved to see you in the white sweater! Be kind to yourself 💗
Thank you for being so vulnerable with this video! It’s so absolutely relatable. As a curvy girlie I’ve had so many times that I’ve felt the same way that all I want to do is live in cozy stuff that covers every bump. I’ve recently hit my mid 40’s and I’ve got curves in new places and it’s so hard to figure out how to dress and feel comfortable when your body changes so know you’re not alone in those struggles. Please know you’re gorgeous and I love that white sweater on you! If it makes you feel pretty then its definitely reason enough to buy it!
Omg, same to all of this. I've been living in sweat pants and PJ's since the start of covid because things they started changing. My aunt used to make me laugh talking about her big lower belly & her little upper belly...I now know what she was talking about! And like why is my waist technically 'there' now?! How did it move? The only bonus to being late 40s is now my monthly visitor is going a few months without dropping by. Just wish she'd call before she showed up though 🙄 lol.
Have only watched the intro…but girrrl, im right there with you. Ive turned 40, gained weight and forgot what clothes i liked before covid. Working in my pyjamas every day still. I need help and not the stitch fix kind 😂
You are absolutely gorgeous! I went through many, many years of hating my body, and only now at 35 have I started to love myself! We are our own worst critics.
I agree with you so much about a fashion identity crisis!! I literally have no idea what to wear in winter/cold weather. I feel like I look horrible in everything. I only feel comfortable in summer clothes.
I'm with ya on the hard pants! I live in my leggings and oversized tees at Hot Topic! I love the white sweater on you! It totally compliments your skin tone and dark hair! Those distressed jeans are amazing on you! Millennial to Millennial, you are slaying it! ❤️❤️❤️
Girl, I love you so much, and even the more for posting this video. It's one thing to know that everyone has insecurities and another to see someone as beautiful inside and out as you just not feeling it. 💜
In my early 30's i had a health issue that triggered my underlying Lupus and Lyme disease no one knew about. I ended up gaining like 60 pounds in a month. I needed new jeans and I sat crying in the fitting room as my hubby kept bringing me larger and larger pant sizes. I went in with a size 8 mind, came out with a size 18 jean. Oh and to top it all off :( I had to get new shoes. I went from a size 8.5 to a size 11. I was defeated mentally. I worked my weight down to a size 10 and was diagnosed. I recently lost 20 pounds (I am 46 years old now) due to another health issue and had to have major surgery. Last year was a really really bad year. I YT-vloged it if anyone wants a good cry and laugh, just look for me in the hospital gown. Any who.... I think you are beautiful, inspirational, and its a hoot knowing you have the same taste in cloths, food and stuff as I do. I just can't pull it off. On that note, I thank you for being a chatty cathy while I do my work at my desk.
I think the white sweater looks amazing on you. It looks like it was available in black & pink too so you could exchange if you're that worried about the white but if it cleans easily, the white does look beautiful with your skin tone & hair.
I understand completely the fashion crisis. I am almost 12 weeks pregnant and whilst I don’t have a bump big enough for other people to notice I am very aware of how much my body has already changed. I can’t stand anything that has a waistband even leggings are a no go. I’m living in very loose pjs and oversized dresses that look like moomoos. Combined with morning sickness that lasts all day I just look and feel disgusting all the time. I normally love fashion so I can’t wait for this phase to pass, to feel better and to have a cute bump I can dress up
33 weeks pregnant with twins here and have been feeling the exact same way, seeing all these ladies loving their pregnant bodies makes me feel guilty for feeling bad about my body so it's reassuring to know someone else feels the same way i do❤️ i used to be very very small so i feel self conscious about showing off my bump? i've been living in pj pants and plus size tshirts, counting down the days till i can wear cute clothes again lol you're doing amazing momma, this is only temporary and as uncomfortable as everything is now i promise you'll miss it when it's over❤️ it's so hard to feel good about ourselves with everything going on with our bodies, but you're growing a human and that's the most beautiful thing your body can do!! you'll have your body back, don't worry:)
I love the sweater on you! I recently got my fix too, and I’ve also gained weight since I got my last fix. It happens, especially to us women. Sometimes we tend up gain weight more easily. That’s okay! Even if you can only use the sweater once this year, you’ll definitely got use out of it next year! It’ll still feel new then. That’s how I justify things in my mind 😂
First two looks were super pretty on you! I think a lot of us go through the "I hate everything in my closet" phase, been there done that! Also to consider, spring fever is starting to hit. Personally I'm in cleaning mode! Clothes refresh is next on my list! Final thoughts: you are beautiful no matter what you wear. 💕
Loved the fact that you went through the app at the end when looking up the prices. It made it feel almost like we were shopping with you. Also, I was happy you opened the box in time to return the items you didn't want. 😂
💯 relatable with the no hard pants thing. I don't even wear pants much, just dresses and skirts. Something about the stitching and seams on hard pants drive me absolutely crazy!!
Girl, you just spoke to literally EVERY SINGLE WOMAN on this earth. We have all been there and some are there now and some aren't. I appreciate you and I commend you for normalizing women's bodies. REAL bodies. Keep it up girl, you're doing just fine ❤
I have always been tiny and in the last year, I've gained 30ish pounds and am having such a difficult time with my clothes. I'm 43, a mother of two, and now weigh 144 pounds which, everyone says looks food, but to me, it is huge. Weight is just a number but to me, it is more. I have been buying Skim dupe tank body suits and wearing them under my clothes and it helps make me feel smoother and better in my clothes. You look great but I totally understand!
The pandemic made me only want to wear comfortable clothes. I'm in my pajamas right now at 4pm. I love the white sweater and jeans on you. The T-shirt was super cute, too. If you don't like an item, it's not you, it's the clothes.
I love those first two outfits -- the butterfly shirt and white sweater with the jeans! The butterfly O'Neil top could be great for a comfy, casual, around-the-house top! If you decide to keep any of it, I'd keep those three pieces!
As someone who has recently be in the exact same funk with my style and weight gain/fluctuation this is a video that hit deep. It's so nice to see someone with a bigger platform be so relatable. For new ways to try to break out of your comfy lounge style try asking your close friends and family to pick out an outfit for you. They will know you best and more of what your style is but still pushing you slightly out of your comfort zone
Alexandria: "$48 is so much money for a sweater that I look and feel fantastic in." "$200 for an advent calendar that will inevitably have stickers and keychains? Yeah, I can do that."
@Winnie The Pooh Idk I just thought it was a funny observation. I'm not saying it as an insult in any way. I love her advent calendar unboxings and watch every single one, though I do agree with her that the ones that are so expensive but have cheaply made things you could get at dollar tree are hilarious and absurd. I was just making a funny observation is all. I also think she looks great in the sweater and am happy she thinks so too.
@@meaganmakiej I was thinking the same thing! I love watching her unboxing because well I just love her persona/vibe. So knowing how much she spends on subscription and advent calendars but won't spend that on an item she says she feels good in I think is a shame 😞 I know overall as a whole we as people do that a lot to ourselves though.
Keep the sweater. ☺ You are right that bright white complements your coloring and the shape of the neckline balances your proportions and draws attention up to your lovely face. It also looked like you felt confident in it, which is worth more than the price of the sweater.
Just finished months of treatment for a parasite infection after handling injured wild animals at work and I’m still so ill, I’ve lost all the muscle and definition I’ve worked so hard for in the past year. I barely recognise the body I see in the mirror and I don’t go outside often these days. Sometimes our bodies change for whatever reason and there’s not much to do short-term but to accept it. Hope you’ll see yourself in a more positive light soon, we’re with you! ❤️
I love the white sweater on you! And yes, I’m a fashion student and I’ve had fashion identity crisis’ many a time! It’s normal! I usually just spend time scrolling on my Pinterest feed until I like a style and I work with what I have to recreate it.
yoooooo i didnt know how to dress myself for years, constantly trying to find my ‘fit’ and just always hating everything. realised i like wearing loose pants - so i went with it! you like crop tops? id go with wide legged jeans and a crop top, or wide legged straight joggers - you do you!!!! whack a beanie on, accessorise what you love - buy a nice bag to match your sweatshirts and pants, get cool trainers to go with them - you do you!!!! you do NOT have to go out of your comfort zone / stay in your zone and vamp it up!!!! i love your videos, your style. youre a beautiful beautiful woman YOU DO YOU❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ughh I so relate. I have super broad shoulders and even though I love sweaters I am always so self conscious of how much they emphasize the shoulders! But I still love them so you gotta just embrace it. I get compliments on my broad shoulders by some people so I know I'm just hyperfixated on them and not everyone is thinking I look bad.
I think you should keep the sweater it's gorgeous on you and it made you feel that way and that's what matters. You are definitely not alone with struggling with your style and image it's something everyone deals with and you are beautiful inside and out don't ever forget that. Much love always, Amanda
You look amazing, Alexandria. I’m sorry you are feeling self-conscious. We certainly all feel it from time to time, but you are right- other people see us differently than we see ourselves. I love the jeans & the white sweater on you! You are absolutely beautiful.
First - thank you for all that you do. Reviewing the many, many, many boxes cannot be easy (also LOVE the advent calendars) - your truly honest reviews are a joy to watch. Second - the sweater with the jeans looked great on you - and did not need tucking. It is the right length for you annnnd as you said you felt pretty in the sweater. 3rd - I know this comment is 2 weeks late, but I hope you kept it🤞. Again, thank you!
I gained around 50-60 pounds due to a medical issue and the medication I was having to take. I was always a smaller framed person but, not anymore. I feel the best in jeans and a sweatshirt or tshirt. Or the little flare leggings cause I look absurd in regular leggings. I totally get what you are saying. I hate the summer because I do not wear shorts or sleeveless shirts, the more covered up I am, the better. I enjoy fall and winter so much more! Sending prayers, hugs and good vibes to you!!
100% percent we go through body fluctuations and hate how everything fits us. You are gorgeous with a beautiful body where what makes you happy and comfortable.❤
The white sweater looked great, and even if you don't get much use of it in this season, autumn and winter will be back again! Re: style rut - Pinterest is my go to. Just stalking style boards and inputting keywords I like plus style and then even a size can give some great inspo. I look up dark academia style, witchy style etc. And I lean very much toward witchy librarian style wise.
Yep, feel like that all the time. I have some major body image issues from 14 years of gymnastics. And after having 3 kids, some things refuse to go back to how they were before kids. The only thing that’s really helped me has been working out consistently. Walking and weight lifting. I haven’t lost weight or been able to “fix” those things I hate. But my body composition has changed and I have started to appreciate my body more for the things it allows me to do rather than focusing on how it looks. There are still days I can’t bring myself to put in anything other than my husbands sweat shirt and sweatpants. You’re not alone.
I’m in the exact same place right now - I feel so disconnected from my body and my clothes and nothing fits like it should anymore. Which is fine, my body has changed, but right now literally all I am wearing is my sweatpants and joggers and I don’t even want to wear my favourite leggings. Comfy cozy all day every day, I just have to accept that ❤ sorry you’re feeling the same ❤️
The white sweater looks so good on you! It's very flattering. The pointy sleeves on the t-shirt would go away after you wash it. I once had a bodysuit that was a similar ribbed jersey fabric. I could just get it done up at home, where I had room. Wore it out one day, and ended up meeting up with friends for supper or drinks (I forget). Of course I then needed to use the washroom, in public. Fun times! Must have taken me 20 minutes and some interesting poses to get that done up. 🤭
I have never related to someone as much as I can relate to you in this video! Thank you for posting even if you were on the fence. I feel like I’m not alone with my issues with clothes and not wanting to suffocate in sweaters and not wanting to look bulky ❤ you are so gorgeous and seeing you wear different styles of clothing really helps me to see what I might like on myself. Thank you!
I’ve 💯 been there. What helped me was building a Pinterest board and just saving items I particularly love the look of. Over time, I found the running themes and then identified what aspects would suit me or would make me feel beautiful. Turns out, I have insanely expensive taste! I have been able to pull together less expensive pieces with certain elements that speak to the styles I love. I feel far happier and more comfortable in my skin. And I’m happy not just fading into the background, though I still have some of those days.
I vote to keep the white jumper! Feeling pretty in something is priceless. And you do look incredible in it! Seasons come and go, you might not get loads of use right now but you will next autumn/winter! I also swear by a cropped top and high waisted bottoms, as a 5ft1" woman it's hard to find clothing that fits and flatters without making me uncomfortable. So I feel you! X
I totally feel you. 10 years ago I had 2 closets full of really cute clothes I loved, then I gained 15ish pounds and nothing looked or felt the same. Then about a year ago I threw out my back and then was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer and fractured my hip. (I had a pretty eventful few months.) I can't work any more because of ongoing back pain, so I basically live in pajamas, yoga pants, and leggings. I lost those 15 pounds, but not in the right places so I feel like nothing looks good. I'm in my 50's so I've moved into the "I don't give a crap what any one thinks" part of life, but I do miss feeling cute in my clothes. BTW you should keep the cute white sweater, it looked good on you!
Hey Alexandria, elder millennial mom here. You are not alone in the clothing issues. My kids (one Gen Z and one Gen alpha) are not fans of hard pants either. They would wear sweats every day if they could. You need to wear what makes tou feel good. The white sweater looked amazing on you and you never know what March weather is going to do. 😉
I have one of those 'feels like a hug' sweaters and it's amazing. It's what I change into when I get home (mine isn't really outside wear) on higher anxiety days. I have autism and clothes have always been tricky for me. If I find something I like, I buy multiples of it. I know how much uncomfortable clothes can affect me. Don't try to move out of your comfort zone if it doesn't feel right yet. From what you've told, it seems like you've been really stressed out lately (rightfully so). Don't add to that stress by forcing yourself to wear something uncomfortable. Be kind to yourself. Maybe in the future you'll find that you have the mental capacity to experiment with clothes and push yourself, but don't force it if the time isn't right.
Love this video thank you soooo much for it!!! I went from 105 to 140 in a pregnancy and haven't went back and I am trying to love my new self and new sizes and I'm a size 29 in pants so seeing you and seeing how absolutely beautiful you look in these clothes gives me hope that maybe I look ok too. I will say I do stitch fix for two years now in hopes to live my new body and I have my pretty curated and have had the same stylist for a year and she gets me! She gets what I like and don't like and what makes me feel insecure and what looks good on me. I'm a stitch fix fan for life and I just wanted to encourage you today that you are absolutely beautiful to me and your journey today made me feel more comfy with how I'm feeling too
Oh girl, you are so brave…lol we love you! WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH! Keep rocking it, you made me feel so normal watching this. Everything you said I feel 100% the same! We are women! We hate our bodies more than anyone in this world, just remember YOUR MAN LOVES YOU AND YOU ARE SO SO BEAUTIFUL, Alex! ❤❤❤ keep your gorgeous head up, girl!
The white sweater looks gorgeous on you. Also, don’t worry about what you can’t change as far as your body goes. You are such a stunning woman in every way. 😊❤. As far as clothing style goes start with basics and then add onto that. Once you have your basics you can mix and match every single thing together. The lounge wear style is cozy and cumfy and will never go out of style. So a basic wardrobe you already probably have some. White tshirt, black tshirt, jeans or jeggings. That white sweater, your top white top you have on, white sneakers or converse, a pair of black leather shoes and a pair of neutral colour shoes. A little black dress and any pair of pants and a black skirt. Then you could do a blazer, jacket, coat. The way to shop for things that fit is to shop your shape. The thing that’s makes your style with a basics wardrobe is accessories. You already have lovely necklaces and jewellery. So to elevate any outfit, you can carry a lovely handbag or backpack. Once you have the basics in your wardrobe you can make at least 20+ different outfits even more.
I went through this phase too where I just didn't want clothes on my body anymore. I switched to dresses pretty exclusively for a while. Just mostly old navy sun dresses with a sweater if I wanted to add to it. Snagtights became a blessing for tights in the cold or little shorts in the sticky part of the summer. Everyone thought I was dressing up and putting in effort but I felt comfortable all the time. I just wanted to be in the caftan phase of my life. Good luck.
Honestly the best way I’ve found for style is put in so key words that I like (ex. Colour) into Pinterest and scroll and see where that takes me in ideas then thrift store
I agree!!! I’m in such a style rut!! I think it’s Covid and retrying to the world and bring 40 plus 10 lbs more of me to love. I’m trying but as much as I love the 90’s fashion comeback I did it in my teens and I can’t do it as a 40 year old. Keep the sweater and save it for cooler weather.
I have struggled with my weight for almost 20 years and I have incredibly bad body image because of that I'm saying that to say, I understand what this feels like, since I too hate looking at myself in the mirror but you are not your insecurities, and I assure you there are things about all of us that we can fixate on that nobody else probably will even notice I truly believe that every body is beautiful in its own way, but I know that learning to see past the things you don't like is one of life's biggest struggles I'm proud of you for still posting this even though you are struggling so hard with body image and clothing right now you are beautiful and not even the ugliest clothes in the world could ever change that
