THIS Mindset Will Help You Cope 

Hi! I hope some of these tips can help you manage stress in your life. But, more than anything, I hope you enjoy the little jump in my tennis serve. #growth 🎾

There’s a third mindset you’re missing. The one that’s like: This is a great opportunity to procrastinate!

“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality” ― Seneca

While I agree that a growth mindset is important, I think it's important to see it in context. In Maslow's hierarchy of needs (there are better models but I'll use this for now), I feel like a growth mindset is up in the self-actualization part. In other words, there are things that people need to take care of before they can even begin to think about growth. Focusing too much on "growth" can make it feel like the real struggles people are facing to just survive are diminished or not important. The ability to have a growth mindset is a privilege afforded by being able to satisfy the other needs in our lives, and some people don't have that privilege. Growth involves risks, and some people can't take those risks. That said, it's still an incredibly powerful tool and many of us spend way too much time in a static mindset because we haven't recognized that we've moved beyond mere survival and can start taking those risks that are needed for growth. That's where past trauma can really hurt our ability to grow, as we have trouble moving out of that survival mindset.

Type 1 people: "This pandemic has ruined my life!" Me: "Jokes on you pandemic, I already ruined my own life."

"There's one technique I use...phoning a friend" Is there a backup technique for those of us without friends?

I'm bouncing around between all the mindsets. It's my exercise program.

When you showed the two types of people I was like Oh yeah I'm was the first one yesterday And I'm the second one right now

Stress is a spectrum with damaging extremes: A state of no stress is actively harmful, just as is over-stress. Finding the right middle ground is hard, as it is constantly shifting, so it's more of a balancing act than a destination. The state of "just the right amount of stress" is called "eustress", and it applies to all types of stress, including psychological and physical stress. Early in the pandemic I learned that working from home was way too stressful for me, as emotionally it felt as though work had invaded my home (my Fortress of Solitude), meaning I was totally unable to find separation from work. The direct result was a massive drop in my productivity, which I tried to make up for by working more hours. After two months I was fearing for my equilibrium and sanity, and was experiencing wide mood swings. Just before rage-quitting my job, I realized I could go back to my office in the now-empty building. A much better solution! I've done lots of volunteer tutoring and mentoring with high school students, and found Carol Dweck's observations to be extremely useful. I have seen students rage-quit a math problem and either storm out of the classroom or burst into tears. Getting them refocused on "success through failure", and sharing some of my own major failures (one of which literally was a million dollar failure), let them focus on the process of learning as a whole, rather than it's fits and starts. To me, being an Engineer, and being good at it, inherently requires a "Growth Mindset", as technology is steadily improving, our tools are continuously evolving, and industry itself is changing daily. When working with students and things start going off the rails, I encourage them to have an "Engineering Mindset", take a step back, and look at what just happened (or didn't happen). Then to find a different way, a better way to try again. Never stop learning. Never stop trying new things, or doing old things in new ways (such as taking a different road to a familiar place). Make it part of who you are, how you live and breathe. It is one of the best possible ways to add "good" stress to your life! That's right: I believe a Growth Mindset is eustress.

Wonderful to see your channel continue to grow and I hope plenty more can support you. As always your work is encouraging and a refreshing reminder.

I seriously love this video! It's just so amazing how the thinking pattern can change everything.

Very interesting, Vanessa. This was really well made too.

This was really helpful to learn, especially during this pandemic. I'm going to try embracing this growth mindset!

This is an exceptional video, really easy to follow and retain the info, good on ya❗️

This is such a great video!!!✨🌟thanks for resetting my soul into reaching for the unattainable during this time!! Much appreciate 🥰🙏🏻🍁✨

Vanessa,you have expressed so well!Congratulations!What a pleasure to listen to you.

Vanessa, recently I’ve been trying to follow your footsteps to communicate scientific research on how to strengthen the mind on my channel. Thank you for your inspiration!

I’m glad I found this channel......... now I have to catch up and watch the previous videos

Very good simple information, that’s so awesome!!! It was great thank you 🙏

Growth mindset helps deal with stress and failing forward.... My mindset surely grew in these 8 minutes. Loved your content. 😃

Thank You for wonderful video... AGAIN!

fabulous message and vibe!!

Thank you I took notes!

As an Aspie. I believe in a growth mindset. The world is just predisposed to make all my effort worthless as i am not embraced the same way and have experienced that dispite me going above and beyond my peries the powers at be much prefer ppl that can bs rather exel in the job. It is heartbreaking and turns all self purpose meaningless. We are social creatures we are all affected by each other.

I lived in social isolation before it was cool! I'm ecstatic to see how people handle living my life. LOL i'm fish in a water during these times!

A social science claim having weak evidence? Preposterous! But seriously thank you for that disclaimer at the end. I don't mean to yuck anybody's yum but I would definitely take that research with a grain of salt.

The bit towards the end was a nice positive thing. Saying "you are here, so you are already on the right path" can help with motivation. I'm sure there is reason to this, but it made me feel good, kind of like you're saying a nice thing about me but also making a joke/ being humorous. Anyway, thank you for this!

huh.. ok, I guess I had a growth mindset without knowing. This is such a great channel.

I really liked your content, presentation, editing and music. It was all teriffic.

Here are 7 effective ways you can upgrade your mindset: Change your Self-Talk. Change your Language. Determine the mindset you need and act as if. Learn & Apply. Surround yourself with people that match your desired mindset. Create new habits to support your mindset change. Jump out of your comfort zone.

I really missed those stop motion animations

I like your friend, Olga!:) Her smile made me smile!:) She also seems like the person I, personally, could learn from and just talk to. I NEED an Olga in my life. I have very few friends, but they don't have the positive mindset that your friend does.

very interesting and informative

Thank you so much Vanessa for this video. These little pep talks during Covid 19 really helps. I am learning from Dianna's AP Physics course too. We can be study buddies. - Justice Constantine

thank you!

Congrats on the animations!

Nice explination ❤️

Nice video, I hope you can keep it up. A follow-up video I would like to see is how to work on being able to "get off my ass, and do the things I'm procrastinating from". I easily can spot when I'm procrastinating and I can make plans for what to do. But when the time comes to do the things (like homework), I just can't get around to do it.

Mindfulness affects your stress level even more than a common mindset can ;D It has so many benefits

I had a great growth mindset at the beginning of the pandemic and it was good for a month or two but now I’m just really struggling spending 99.9% of my time completely alone even with a very stable interesting well-paid job, but working from home

Another great video Vanessa! -Rob

"Anxiety is okay. That's how the rent gets paid."

There have been recent stressors that I’ve had to endure. But it’s opened the door to some stoicism. So the stress wasn’t endured but it was an opportunity to learn some stoic values. Like whether peer approval is truly needed. I guess this could be a form of growth mindset?

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Nice video 👍

thank you

thank you my dear.

my brain does apply the growth mindset, though for everyone but myself :")

I'm in a 3rd group mentally where I don't exactly care.

At the end of season 1 of Star Trek: TNG, there's an episode in which a capitalist from the 20th century is thawed from cryosleep aboard the Enterprise. To his surprise, all of his investments are no longer worth anything because money no longer exists, contrary to what he believed when he froze. Faced with the realization that the accumulation of wealth is no longer the driving factor of most people's lives, the man asks captain Picard what the challenge is. Picard responds by saying: "The challenge, Mr. Offenhouse, is to improve yourself. To enrich yourself. Enjoy it."

Well some people don't like coming home they rather grow at work almost all the time plus learn is hard to learn something new if you don't really know what is needed. There a difference between learning something technical through self-paced web/cloud based learning instead of from a general textbook and/or journals.

I wish i had any money at all. I would have definitely joined your patreon

Damn, my high school drilled the 'growth mindset' into us like crazy, but it really didn't work because it was just a thousand+ teenagers staring at a PowerPoint in a sports hall, wishing we weren't there.

Plz make a video on hypnotism 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Doin ANY kind of sport fosters the growth mindset. Start basic calisthenics or even simple bicep curls - you do them for some time and gradually you notice you're becoming stronger, your muscles are growing, you look better etc. It's easy to then make this assumption: if exercising your body makes it stronger then exercising your brain does the same thing. That's why I recommend physical activity as the natural pre-cursor to a proper growth mindset.

Is there any work on showing these correlations are causal? I find it equally plausible that people who cope better with stress are more likely to report positive associations with it? If it is causal is it actionable? Is there a clear set of behaviours to adopt / behaviours to avoid?

I've just had a huge, crazy challenge drop into my lap- I've only recently discovered I'm transgender. And I'm growing into it (I have too), but it's hard to cope withe the stress, pain, and doubts.

This year has kicked me in the balls more times in the last 6 months than it has in the last 7 years and I'm only 23.

00:16 I love those kinda people

i have learnt more about how to make a game than ever thanks pandemic

your larynx is fascinating....

How do you make "chapters"?

1:52 Agh scare quotes. Fed up to heck of people putting pure in scare quotes.

I have been affected by Covid-19 the most, the eternal feeling of regret and rejection v.v

Gamers: "Wait, there's a pandemic? I thought this was just what we always did."

How about those other people who don’t over-analyze or overthink things for the “positive “ or “negative”, but just do what is in front of them.

The problem is the problem is still there. I'm not stuck in a loop. I'm tired of people dragging their feet to solve anything wrong before it gets worse. People aren't solving long term problems.

Actually those two mindsets are "I'm not wearing a mask! My freedom! Rawrg! This is a conspiracy!" and "I'd rather not die and take others with me while I do it"

I thought I was managing stress well until October. Nothing will help until November 3.

we need different thinking types video...

I KNEW IT I HEARD THE GRIAN MUSIC I GOSH DANG KNEW IT THE MOMENT I HEARD THAT MEOLDY I WENT BACK, LISTENED TO IT AGAIN I WAS RIIIIIGHT

I listen to Carol Dweck audiobook on growth. She complains about the integrity of the education system and how we are allow too many students to pass. It was like she wanted to establish a meritocracy hierarchy of achiever vs non achievers. Her attitude wasn't if people develop a growth mindset they can achieve anything - more like the strong should be in control. She has a very negative mindset

WAIT WAIT WAIT, ESSENTIAL OILS?!

Thanks to Tom Scott for introducing me to this.

I think most of the people could be laid off and thinking positively during pandemic, unfortunately lots of people lost their jobs and have serious financial issues at the moment.

Where some see disaster others see opportunity. Like vultures or rich people wanting to get richer ie vultures.

I Learned this in school

I cannot say I have anyone that is happy go lucky unfortunately I usually was that one.

Hi, you don't know me but if you're reading this and have some time to spare, it would be a great help to an existential question that I've been facing for a long time. I think I see a "Great Filter" in front of us in the form of "Reward Death". To understand what I mean by 'Reward Death', we will have to understand the relation between consciousness and reward. Now, for the sake of simplicity, we will divide the human experience into two parts.One deals with the mental capacity of performing actions and the other deals with reward( say reptilian brain. ) One can easily self reflect to realise that all his actions and thoughts are either to propel himself towards more reward positive future or away from some reward negative experience or possibility. This method of reward worked pretty good for all conscious beings that evolution has produced so far. Now, by observing the exponential nature of the increment of adaptability ( or problem solving capacity ) of the living system, that we are a part of. One can easily entertain the possibility of so called “Singularity by ASI”. Assuming you have solved the ‘Alignment Problem’, i.e. you can command it as per you desire. As soon as you get your hands on the device, a very interesting thing will happen and the device will act as a ‘reward hack’. As the basic nature of brain is to shoot for the most reward positive future and avoid any reward negative. Your conscious feeling will have a very little disturbed trajectory towards more and more reward positive state. The more reward positive you feel the more reward positive you want to feel. Eventually leading to reward induced coma like state that is ‘reward death’. This reward death will not be much different than overdosing of opium, cocaine, or any other reward hacking drug. One might think now that he is aware of the fact. He will choose not to go in that direction just like one knows the happiness associated with drugs and yet choose not to take them. But your body don’t feel a natural desire to consume drug thus providing you with a choice. This is not the same case with your natural desires for example SEX. The more sexually aroused you are the more sexually aroused you want to feel and when you hit orgasm your brain breaks the cycle and you return to normal again At the point of organism if you are provided with a choice not to break the cycle.. You will choose to prolong it a little more and then a little more and then a little more... In the condition 'Reward death' your brain will stop the process of thinking and if somebody successfully force out of it you will I want to fall back in it with a urge worst then any addiction case we have faced so far.

You missed my attitude. I believe this is a natural result of human "progress". Animals overpopulate, disease LOVES it! I feel that future humans will thank God this happened.

Venessa gr8 work i wish i could talk to u someday and i am 15 😅

Did you lose weight? Either way you look great! Thanks for great video!

Next up relation frame theory?

Random fact People who stay up late tend to be risk-takers, a study found. -The Shades

Anybody have practical thoughts on how to execute Jordan Peterson's "theory" on order and chaos?

good mythical morning

Most People are on Quarantine Speed .. way Slower than 1st Speed

What about that funny line from "Fight Club"? "Self improvement is masturbation" also resonates with me and part of the repulsion from people are using that kind of "up-speak"-styled lectures about growth and happiness. Happiness is not a goal, it's a side-effect that happens about half the time to me. Your video was good because it's more matter of fact in it's approach to mind over matter. thanks

I recently perfected hard boiled eggs. 15 minutes.

*My Mindset* - "Wot - eva!"

im not any of the people i just dont care about anything im just chilling

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Hey, I'm new, I'm liking this channel. But I figure just because you have a growth mindset, does not mean that you will be happy.

You and the Psych Show simultaneously uploaded a video about coping. Was this intentional?

She's left-handed :0

turn down for what

P.S. = Post Script - Never knew that, not to diminish the rest of the video...

Hello guey...🖐🤝👍❤

Less than 10% of the people outside your "Bubble" Have ever read or choose to understand an old crusty book written in the early times of Henry Ford. I that book it is said, "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and or believe he can achieve". I know it is written at a different time, yet if you take the time to translate it you just may learn something. Your "Box" is only as small as you choose to make it.

And then university comes along and says "you'll grow regardless of your current situation, and whether you like it or not here's 8 assignments due next week" and the whole thing kind of crumbles :(