I think the more online you are, the more likely you are to hold a negative view of dating and relationships. Social media fosters negativity because hate is what gets clicks! I deleted my socials over a year ago and not seeing people bash others all day is really refreshing
yup, thats the issue! negativity gets clicks cuz no one finds posisivty interesting unfortunately. and negativity creates buzz and and gets engagement so that's why we see it all over our timelines! i deleted social media for a year a while back and it was great however I ended up getting it back because I felt like I was missing out lol
@@NkirukasWrldthe thing with speedy relationships, is many women guage your authenticity by bogus timelines. 😒 A lot of women think if you're not propsing by 12month, then your gonna waste the next 20yrs too. There a too many weirdly excessive, extremes.
I think the “love crisis” is just mainly woman not putting up with the bare minimum bullshit anymore, so there are less and less woman getting into relationships! And I don’t blame them, be single and happy rather than in a relationship and miserable🙆🏽♀️
That’s women and men too because I see many men in the internet saying that they will not marry and prefer going pay for a prostitute even in real life
We do feel more secured in the woods with a bear than a man anyone remembers that was asked all around the world it speaks volume 😂!! The bear in the worst case ....will kill you end of the story...men can be wayyyy more creative 😅
This is a strange notion that, for men, there is this demand of "bare minimum", but what about women? What is the "bare minimum" for women? And from what is seen in social media, women just prove that they demand too much, and offer nothing in return...
listen, I’m 26 and have NEVER dated. I see value jn it, but I don’t hold it as the most valuable thing anymore. I see all these people and dating gurus and I just feel bad because abuse it feels like they hold their entire identity in dating.
A lot of people do view dating as the most important thing and make it their whole personality which is damaging because I strongly believe we should all be okay with being alone first before getting into relationships. I agree we shouldn't see dating as the most valuable thing! thanks for being honest n sharing 🙏🏾
A guy once told me he had doubts about staying in his relationship BC what if he was missing out on someone better. But then he also said he didn't want to leave BC his gf had done a lot for him. I think when you start having doubts, which is normal to have sometimes, you should find out why u started thinking like that and if it persists then it means you're just staying to not be alone. I don't want to believe love is dead, but I do see it's very hard to have meaningful relationships nowadays, especially since everyone is chronically online.
I agree, it's hard to find genuine relationships these days, whether it's friendships or romantic relationships because most people have sold their souls to social media
i mean i've definitely had some bad experiences with relationships but i still love love 😩 even if my love life is trash i still love that ppl are in love
This is not new. This is the same "Where are all the good men?" that started in Generation X. Ladies, stop doing wife labor (sex and childbirth) at girlfriend wages (inadequate child support). Men will not marry you, if they can get you without marriage.
As a person from the Caribbean wining in THAT context is madness. One ting to wine 4 carnival & when u single and one ting to wine on a guy that ain’t yo man
RIGHT!! If you Caribbean, you know that there’s different levels of whine. Sis went way overboard like she was single or something , then took no accountability 😬
My thoughts exactly. As a Caribbean woman dating an Asian man, we did have a talk about whining culture (because it’s important to discuss things with your partner) and decided that for us, it’s completely fine. Because it’s like any other partner dance where you can trade and dance with someone and it’s just for fun. But obviously there are levels and boundaries. For me personally, I don’t mind dancing with another man but that’s only if we’re **friendly** and he’s not flirting and I wouldn’t put myself against him or back up on him, it would just be a side to side sort of “leave space for Jesus” situation. That girl was FAR out of line and I mean FARRRR. Those are moves I’d only bust out for my man in the bedroom.
Yo ✌🏾 guy here. I’ve been trying to watch some videos from women about this just to try and understand how y’all are feeling. I’ve heard horror stories from some of my friends who are women and I can say that some of the stories have shocked me. But personally, I’ve seen just how vile guys can get treated by the women they choose to be with too. I mean a close college friend of mine got his life ruined by a false SA accusation at the age of 22. I’ve seen a friend go through a divorce at the age of 21 because his wife cheated on him with one of the groomsmen in the same month they got married. Bro has turned into someone I can’t even recognize. I’ve personally experienced a list of emotional abuse situations in my relationships and have been taken advantage of by a woman to the point where it was dehumanizing. Some men’s lives and mental states are getting ruined or seriously damaged by women before they’re 23. And the thing is, we were all in the transitioning point from boys to men. Now I’m 25 and honestly, as much as I would appreciate a loving relationship, I’m hesitant to pursue it because of the possible emotional abuse. Furthermore, I wouldn’t look forward to watching that abuse be protected behind “you men are trash.” All of this being said, I feel like the only reason why this “gender war” and lack of love exists is because we try to make excuses for our respective gender’s destructive tendencies in the name of making the other gender look worse. Instead, we should just accept the statement that there are good people and bad people in this world. And most groups you can’t just easily generalize as all one or the other. Alongside of that belief, we need to start just calling people out on their BS whether if they are a man or a woman. Defending or even entertaining the defense of extreme disrespect is always insane to me.
boohoo poor you 😢🎻 come back when you experience being threatened and unalived simply for refusing to give your number out false SA accusations are statistically so rare that you're (as a man) more likely to get SA'd by another man than be falsely accused and falsely convicted of r*pe you just don't want to hold your buddy accountable 😂 it's extremely difficult to prove and convict r*pe cases even with medical evidence so if someone is found guilty they really are
I was so sure that I’d be single forever but when I met my husband, it seemed like getting married to him was the only choice. You'll know when you meet the one, I guess 😊 good luck girls out there searching for the one❤
That clip you showed of that woman dancing on that singer like that is crazyyyy. Like girl should've said no because she has a boyfriend, it was that simple. Also allowing a fan to dance on you like that is crazy too, like sir this is a fan have some boundaries💀
Actually NK, this would be a very valid way to stick up for our sis on stage: people in power should not be using their status to take advantage of fans, especially putting them in compromising or risky situatioms
@@lilyofthelabyrinth How did he take advantage of her??? He didn't force her to go on stage. No one forced her to grind on him like that. If she acts like that without prompting, I highly doubt his "dance moves" bothered her. She's just trash.
I honestly feel like that social media is causing this “love crisis” bc people make up all these sorts of terms that don’t work (ex: situationships, 3 month rule, having a “roster”, etc) and it just ruins the concept of dating. All these people have are “situationships” and it’s just such a toxic mindset to me. People always have these arguments on what is and what’s not “the bare minimum”, what’s frustrating is the fact that dating isn’t really all that hard like they’re made out to be, I’m not a dating expert nor have I been able to get into one but I feel like dating, being in a relationship would just be so much better without social media.
I don't think there is anything wrong with labeling things and setting boundaries, as long as the two people agree with it. Dating can be frustrating if people aren't clear on what they want and what the goals of their relationship is. It's why you have woman who want marriage but are in 5-10 year relationships with men who treat it like situationships but were never open about it. Being open and direct with what type of relationship you're looking for is the best thing and helps prevent people from misinterpreting or getting their hopes up.
i don’t think situationships sre toxic, at least not often. it’s just a label for the “talking” stage of a relationship and sometimes relationships don’t progress further than that and that’s okay! have a roster is kind of crazy to me but i can think of it as keeping options open. i don’t know what the 3 month rule is though, care to explain?
Good take, I even disabled my ig especially knowing that I got some personal shit, and these past 6 weeks have honestly been my most productive, I'm working out more and even started modeling which was something I never took seriously 😅
That’s why I loved the videos of the women on TikTok sharing what their healthy relationship looks like. I try to consume more stuff like that rather than the negativity What you focus on always amplifies.. you have to look for the good content out there because unfortunately it gets buried under the toxic stuff
There is a love crisis cuz it’s too many fake and fraud ppl out here ready to use ppl and take your soul and leave you with nothing. Self love is the best love and I’m getting back to that cuz it’s seems like nobody has your best interests at heart. Everybody out for themselves so you have to protect and put yourself first. This shit is actually sad.
I promise there’s as much good as bad but good news doesn’t get as much press as the bad stuff. Don’t let like experiences make you cynical … don’t let the evil Win your perspective
Have people just gotten more selfish these days and just don't care about others' feelings? Sad to think, that people enjoy seeing others in bad situations than in good ones
Social media is definitely making people more toxic, that's why I'm not interested in dating right now. Most people seem to be very disrespectful and have no remorse for their actions. I do hope to meet a genuine person and have a genuine and loving relationship but if stuff like that continues then I'd be better off single.
I had a coworker who I became friends with who was a pathological liar. I realized bc I found out that she wasn’t single (she said she had a bf but they were on and off a lot and said she was single at the time) but she had been hooking up with another coworker of ours 😳 Turns out she was telling her bf they were exclusive and they never broke up sooo she was just cheating. That made me think back to a time when she told me that another coworker of ours who she knew for years was a pathological liar…and I realized THAT was a lie looool. It was a wild experience tbh.
There is a love crisis!!! I wish in this video you also incorporated the Netflix series “love is blind” cause GURLLLLLL if you saw the recent episode, you’d definitely say that we are in a love crisis.
I think it’s a lot of things between social media or real life, there’s always two stories to everything The one thing that annoys me is the bad eggs ruin everything, like people who either cheat or abuse the people who don’t deserve it makes it much harder for those who don’t actually do that to others.
I wouldn't say it's loveless era but mostly people exposing the toxicity from their partners when back then we didn't have much use of the internet. I don't use tiktok anymore and i see many people still living great relationships and marriages, being happy and feel loved. Not everything is hopeless for romance it's just that internet algorithm values negative concept
i don’t think there’s a bigger ‘crisis’ because of social media. before stories were spread by word of mouth. the bigger thing i think going on is due to the internet we have much more options to experience (even if just virtual it’s as if these events unfold in front of us) and also more experiences. more options makes us open to the idea of not tolerating as much as we were forced to back then. also with more social media we definitely hear more stories and which ones we are biased in hearing out making many approach not just romantic but all relationships with a wall up. this emotional wall is what we feel protects us but also fuels loneliness. the hardest thing to accept is we need to risk being vulnerable for emotional connection and that trust is hard to give.
The only thing I gotta say is that, social media is about sharing one’s pov, so the more u watch something the more u doubt n ur view point changes. So the conclusion is be clear with ur own perspective n gain something U find is beneficial to u, that helps with ur understanding better😊
The girl wasn't pressured to do *that* dirty of a dance. She was the one doing the dirty part, backing herself into him a while after he bent her over. She continued for a long time with the moves she was doing. The nerve she has to do that in front of her bf, who knows what she does when he isn't looking. No matter the gender, a bad person is a bad person.
the problem w people is they are dating, marrying, having children with people they don't even genuinely like nor love. They be chasing money, fame, looks everything but personality which matters the most. Love is not dead people forgot how to look for it and probably they have even forgotten what tf is love. that's my own take on this topic.
I think the so called crisis just stems from the fact that being alone is less stigmatized especially for woman so society doesn’t do as much to help people get together if that makes sense ….like before hand your entire community was searching for a partner for you and young people themselves had a lot of places where they went specifically to meet their future husband or wife. Nowadays though with the loss of third places and an increased attention to personal growth and understanding people are less likely to open up to strangers or to ask someone for help since those are the ways you can meet people organically without that step where you step out of your comfort zone and really try to understand a person not just as your partner but as a human being. That last part is especially hard to do in dating apps. And worst part is that behavior is encouraged! We see people online listing of topics that shouldn’t be talked about on their first date ecc when it’s through those uncomfortable conversations that you really get to know a person and understand what their morals are that way you can avoid the future disappointment of finding it out through something they do. Apologies for the mistakes English is not my first language
To me, problems are known and exist in the real world. Social media is just a means that over saturates said problems. So, if you stay on social all the time, you will believe the problem and be affected more negatively about the problem. You will be constantly reminded about the problem while before social media, you were free of that bombardment so you were more apt to experience.
The saddest thing is that there is currently a DIFFERENT “Legion” (won’t say his actually name for privacy but he shares the same name as Reesa’s legion). He looks kinda similar (basically their both older black men) and everyone has been harassing him 😭😭😭 Now they’re just apologizing.
Not a fear of someone better out there. I do have a strong aversion to "settling down" the relationships i witness in my entire lifespan has made me extremely repulsed. I want a platonic lifepartner, most stable relationships of my life. Looooonnngg before tiktok even existed. And the trauma of the interactions i had. Love has more choice nowadays. Be with someone because you want to not because you have to.
I think there is a love crisis because we are transitioning from an old way to love to a new one where both partners are equal (both in masc & femme energies for lack of better word) Women wont put up with a man because of money and protection. We have money, we can buy protection Men wont put up with women because of a wide birthing hips and a full belly. Children aren't the end all be all, men are learning to cook/he can buy takeout. The older generation fought for this for us, but didn't show us how to love past equality. This is a generalisation....but I think the old way of what makes love love is changing but it didn't come with a manual.
Idk girl when you said that women don't trust men because of the who tf did I marry situation and men don't trust women because of the omah lay situation, I just sighed and was like, typical. the omah lay situation was a girl going on stage after she had already talked to her man about that being a thing, and did a sexual dance. the who tf did I marry situation had that man cheating on her with prostitutes, on other dating apps, and texting other women using different personalities. and that's JUST for the infidelity portion. none of the other horrific lies and abusive manipulation tactics he used on her. the infidelity ONLY. she didn't even cheat. she did wrong by him, sure, but she did not cheat on him. it's so typical that men equate their struggles with something like this and blame all women but then turn around and spit on women's struggles that are truly life endangering and/or debilitating emotionally or physically as if they ain't really shit.
I’ve come to terms that men are children and very sensitive. Women dying, being r worded is the same as men not being able to partner up. Men are just more important than women in this society
Whats wild…to think that Reesa tessa and this whine story as two examples of ruined relationships is a JOKE to me. She did a bit much, sure but that was the energy and the point of going on stage. Male ego ruined the relationship more than anything else. To even compare 🙄
@@WordsofHarmonymale ego? Would you be happy if your bf got on stage and did the same thing to a female artist? Just admit when a woman is in the wrong, it won't kill you, I promise🙄
I see all the negatives qnd its sad but i see ppl around me in good relationships as well as happy couples online. So imma stay on that side cuz the streeets is messy
I feel that this mentality of not trusting men is fed to young women from a very young age. Like my father and brother often told me not to trust boys my age when I was in high school because all they wanted was sex. Even my mother told me to be wary but more from a personal safety perspective. From every angle you are told not to trust men from a young age and it makes it difficult for women to see the reason to put in the effort. Especially considering the male loneliness epidemic, it seems most women are standing on the idea that you should not consider dating a guy unless he only adds to your life or simply not dating at all. I could go on about this for hours
Love crisis for sure, I'm pretty young but I think love was better in the older days. People held values more than they do now. Most people now view relationships for benefits. I think commitments were more important "back in the day". I've often thought that tragedy makes people love each other more. Like the depression and world wars. As terrible as those events were, they really set priorities and made people appreciate good humans around them. Obviously there are always the rotten apples no matter what day and age we're in but some of the most beautiful love stories I've heard took place in like wwii and such. I also think media is rotting relationships as a whole. Not just romantic, but friendships, familial, Great break down of this topic!
To answer your question No because I believe that the person that is for me will be for me that God will put him in my life when i’m ready so even if someone else came along that was “better” I wouldn’t even notice because I feel like I would be so content in what God blessed with me that the other person would more so be a test or a distraction like to see if I was going with the lust or just looks basically like it wouldn’t be genuine.
30:28 love was definitely better for me personally "back in the day", but I believe it's going to be different for everyone. I was in college 2010-2014, and those were honestly my favorite years for dating. Despite spending most of my free time working in a lab, I managed to meet and befriend some of the most wonderful guys. Some I dated and later remained on good terms with, others I never dated but wish I had because I could have seen them working out really well. It all comes down to how you connect with people and only accepting genuine connections that have a strong foundation of openness & shared values
12:38 This guy sounds like the same guy that I heard off of a investigation discovery show called evil lives here the episode is called sleeping with the enemy. The guy in the episode lied all the time too.😢
To answer the question, I'm not afraid of settling down with someone because there might be better. I am afraid of settling down because the last time I did, I got married for years, pregnant (last summer), and told that my husband of years suddenly wanted to start hormone therapy and did not support me at all with the pregnancy. This was completely out of nowhere. Our world is unpredictable, and that's why I hesitate to settle down again. I lost a baby and a marriage with someone I trusted because he was never truly honest with me. The state of love these days is weird
I dont think its a love crisis more like a general crisis.. i feel maybe technology evolved society more then it was ready for. So people who shouldve never had a platform and never been in th3 spotlight not only are there but also they are thriving and becoming role models. Some people responsible for crisis in our community are leading the way for us on national television and th3 internet. And unfortunately by th3n they have a loyal fan base which means that even if you point out their toxic behavior people wont care or at worst they attack you. I feel there are much more healthy and productive ways technology can be used but society doesnt like change so we just say eh its just how it is.. but how things are is a reflection of the inner life of society. We probably shouldve did some more introspection before making internet a house hold thing.
I had terrible experiences. But I still believe in love. I have a lovely partner. BUUT when I talk with my girlies about some experiences, they share something from their dating, I am quick to say something like I hate men etc. How weird is that. It is like genders have to fight each other. :/ there are too many gaps... I can work on myself, but I doubt this tendency will ever stop... just the world goes in this direction. Everyone can find someone nice, have good experiences. General underlying views still can be negative :I
The bf agreed that he was okay with that possibility of her dancing with him but became upset afterwards jst bcz he was laughed at and she paid for their tickets too, atleast the show understood and gave him 10k to maintain his new gf with bcoz she might dump him if he treats her like he treated his ex. I don't feel sorry for him , i only feel sorry that not only was she upgrading him in silent but now she did it publicly too. It's sad but Barbara the builders never win. And now her reputation is ruined for believing the dude wouldn't turn on her for sympathy
I think fomo and fear of rejection are the biggest problem in dating for this gen. Dating apps don’t work for this reason. Also most men are really not it, they tend to conform more but also switch up as soon as the find something “better”. I’m bi but i kinda decided i wouldn’t date men because most of them cant fulfill me emotionally. I really feel for my straight friends when the complain about their mid boyfriends… I met my long term girlfriend through a mutual hobby. Tbh i still cant believe i have a love so pure… I think what is most important to maintain a relationship in my case is apologizing when i was wrong, never take her for granted and always analyze when there is trouble if it is from you or from your relationship.
Depending how far along you are too, a pill might not even be the option on the table. I had my miscarriage only a couple weeks shy of viability, where I could have an emergency C-section and have a NICU baby. A pill was not an option for me. Sadly, the sooner you miscarry the better for the mother physically and emotionally.
As a married 38 yr old woman I don’t think I would ever get a date during the time of social media 😂 dating before was fun since you had to actually talk to the person you were interested in person. Not yo mention I don’t use social media like that so I would be a loss cause
That could be true about the Reesa affecting women and the Woman dancing for the concert guy affected men but to me the more reinforcement was on the concert. I am a woman and I just find women recently tend to not realize the roles they play enough. But I am harshest on myself personally for things more than others. I do also have an almost hatred of some men by default if their actions head more towards misogyny. I think I am pretty balanced on my opinions generally. I hate on both men and women but I do feel for that woman Reesa she deserved better of course. The Guy at the concert deserved better too. Both went through bad situations on the part of their partner doing them dirty. I am strongly against anyone being misandrist or misogynist. Both are bad. They both further the hatred of the opposing gender. I understand people having reasons for thinking the way they do, we have all been hurt. But that'd be my point, we have all been hurt and we are all human so we need to make an effort not to just project our own experience's onto others especially if they haven't shown themself to fit your stereotypical assumptions. I think love cannot be decided as better at any time period. Back in the day it sucked for many people(basically didn't exist and harmed women especially, sometimes men I guess) and modernly it sucks for many people. The only time love is good is when both people realize and accept each other deeply and without too much judgement yet able to appreciate each others judgement and opinions as it's actual love with effort and not love with assumed expectations being shoved onto the other that the other doesn't agree with. Communication and effort.
To be honest i dont think its a crisis. I think todays generation is more honest. So to me its no different from last generations time. And although i can understand your point, sometimes we forget that family and freinds can sometimes be snakey. So while i do think that we should talk to our freinds, sometimes we should rely on people outside our own comfort zone... if that makes sense?
Oh yeah about that dance...if it was husband and wife dancing like that, it would be ok. But, since how sexual the dance was between 2 people that didn't even know each other (both of whom have different spouses) is what made it wrong and made them adulterer and adulteress.😅
You made some false statements: TikTok drama ex lied about his family, he didn't have 6 siblings, he dates of grandma and uncle's death (they were dead but before he met her) He claimed that he is Vice President of production in company, not company itself. He for sure give her shoe because she kept it so maybe it was with gifts.
I think the omah lay thing was staged the production value on a “random audience member” was WAYYY too high I’ve been to concerts and other shows with crowd participation but the performers were never THAT good
Shera didnt have to do anything that she didnt want to so her bills could be payed. Dont lie on sheras name claiming she sold her body or whatever bs ur tryna say abt her. She gets all them bills payed for her. Do u? ✨Sprink sprinkle✨
omg u should do a video on mukesh amabani's son's pre wedding. it cost 150 milllion dollars. its not even the main wedding nor is it a custom that is necessary in their culture. they did it just to flex their money. plz make a vid on that
I think that the love crisis is because of people trying to break societal norms. Like for example women doing the opposite of what they would in the 1800’s including marriage too. Which isn’t a bad thing necessarily but in a way they’re accepting those norms (men too) and people should just stop doing that your not in a box if the box is thrown away (Does anyone get what I’m trying to say?)
love this video but i hated the weird “anti men” undertones. 27:19 like yes, you’re being very biased here. as a woman, i don’t know how you can’t understand how harmful it is to treat a gender as a monolith. you can’t just say “men do” this or “men are” that. it’s so harmful to men’s mental health (especially young men who are educated on social issues and respect women) to hear that some women just assume that all men may be crazy like Legion. he literally has bipolar and schizophrenia… obviously he is NOT like most men. i know many young men who really struggle with feeling like women automatically hate or fear them just because of their gender.
This is just my own opinion, but it came across to me as less "anti men" and more "this is what is making women 'anti men', and this is what is making men 'anti women'". You shared so many good thoughts here tho & I have nothing further to add 💌💐
