“Dad, you get what you give. I’m showing you the same grace you showed me. If there’s no karma with what you did to me, then there’s no karma in what I did to you. Koj hlub kuv li cas kuv hlub koj li ntawv os. Tsis muaj kev npam os”😄
Based on your story, you and your mom suffered too long. You know the answer to your question. No outside can make the right judgement for you. Only you know the truth. So, move on, take care of yourself, your wife, your own family and your mom. Respect those who love and support you.
Life is too short so when it comes to family: Love those who love you, help those who help you. Hmong ogs need to stop with the, "Kuv yog lub ntuj nas," crap because they are NOT, they are just humans with human faults and failings---when you don't admit to your faults and apologize, you can never become a better person! Your father is a horrible husband, father, and human being all around. If anyone has bad karma, it's your loser father & his niamyau, that's why their children have amounted to nothing so far. Stay strong and never give in to cruel and selfish a-holes.
Tus menus kuv thov qhuas koj ua koj hlub koj niam and stood on your ground, like I told my children peb Hmoob mas lawv hais tias cov laus thiaj li hais thiab ua thiaj yog, but for me elders ppl can’f eccepted when we corrected them…love your mom
Here my 2 cents, I hate parents whose always cursing their children if they don’t get their way, and using curses to control their children. I am so happy you are very smart and strong mind to stand up for yourself and protected your dear mom as a young child although your life. Being loved and respected works both way, I respected your decision don’t let other opinions bothered you. You do what’s right for you and your friend family. Good luck and find peace.
I WILL JUST SAY IF YOU KNOW AND BELIEVE YOU HAVENT DONE NOTHING BAD AND NOT AFRAID OF YOUR DAD 'S WORDS(CURSE) THAN NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. GO THE SAME FOR YOUR DAD. IF HE BELIEVE HE HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG AND BELIEVE HE RIGHT THAN HE HAD NOTHING TO WORRY ABOUT. KARMA ALWAYS COMES TO THE ONE THAT HAVE DONE OTHERS WRONG ONLY. SO GIVE IT TIME KARMA WILL COME AND YOU JUST HAVE TO COME UPDATE YOUR STORY ON HERE. JUST KEEP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST. ONLY PAY ATTENTION TO THE ONE THAT LOVES YOU.
Koj tsis npam li os. It is only your dad and niam yau who are npam. I’m so glad to hear a story of a child who is standing up their ground and not letting parents who do them wrong walk all over them.
Brother, you are not wrong. Your father never helped you and now that you're your own man, you don't need to explain yourself to anyone for protecting yourself, your mother, and your family.
Niag ntsej muag txiv laus2 dab thawj dab yug ko qhov koj yuav lub niag pim yau ntawm ko xwb twb txhau rau lub ntuj loj heev lawm los koj tseem los ua phem rau tus tub toj thiab mas koj yeej yuav tuag mus dab teb zaum no ces koj yeej yuav tsis tau yug ntxiv lawm. Npam ces npam txij niag txiv dev laus dab yug dab thawj thiqb niag pog pim yau txeeb luag tug xwb os. Koj ua tau yog tshaj lawm yus twb yog neeg muaj siab muaj ntsws tib yam txhob cia luag ua rau yus. Zoo qhov koj tsis pab nawb yog koj pab mas ntshe yuav haj yam ua phem noj tau koj ntxiv. Zoo tshaj plaws qhov koj txiav tu kiag li koj ua ko👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Mus lawb dab kiag xwb mas kom ua neej los tsis txhob sib ntshib hos tuag ua mus los txhob ua nws dab lawm xwb mas kom lwm hnub nws thiaj li tsis tau los ua mob ua ntsaj rau yus rau yus lawm os cov neeg phem li no mas tuag lawm los yeej tseem phem ho
Forgiveness is such a powerful thing for you to do but that doesn't mean you need to fix what has been broken. May God give you peace. Good luck to you. ❤
I hope we have more sons like you out there standing up and protecting women like your mom. I understand your situation 💯 because my husband is in similar situations. Kudos to you!
Proud of you for sticking up for yourself and your mom. Don't waste any more time on your dad. Let him talk and say whatever he wants. You know you're a good person and if people believe him, always remember that bee's don't waste their time trying to convince flies that honey taste better than shit. Be the bee!
Tug me brother aw...we as children deserve to be love care for and respect too...mloog koj zaj dab neeg xwb mas remind kuv txog kuv txiv thiab os..(my dad is in heaven now) kuv yeej nkag siab koj thiaj koj yeej tsi muaj kev txhaum vim koj txiv twb tsi hlub koj niam neb lo ntev lawm . Sometimes kuv yeej tsi nkag siab thiaj yus txiv nas ib txwm yeej tsi hlub yus nas tabsi nws hos ntshaw2 kom yus hlub nws thiab no tiag....thank you koj tseem share puj peb mloog thiab nawb...it's ok, you loved your mom and take care of her...Cia koj txiv thiab niam yau nkawd mas take care nkawd cov tub mog... So happy you stand up to your mean father.....be BLESS 😊
Wuag, ib lub hamburger xwb los twb tsis kam yuav rau yus tus mi nyuam noj es ua cas yuav cuaj khaum ua luaj li os niag txiv siab phem. Twb tsis paub xav, tsis paub hlub mi nyuam li ces tsis tas toob kas yuav niam yau ua mi nyuam ntxiv lawm os.
The brother, I walked on your road and I know how it is. Mine is actually worst than yours. My father wished the worst shits on me that you can think of and even more worst when he did it to my wife and kids. So I'm done with him the same way you did. I was never liked as far as when I remembered. Never been a bad kid or trouble with the law. Now I'm 50 so I do the best with my wife and kids and have moving on. No more contact with my elder man anymore. "Sad"!!!! Good luck to you and your family.
I'm so proud of you os me tub aw. Ib leej txiv phem g hlub koj niam neb koj yeej ua yog kawg. G npam koj li os. Yuav npam niam yau nkawv xwb mas twb npam2 es me nyuam thiaj mus ua laib tag ne. Koj yeej ua yog lm os Puam chawj li cas los nws yeej yog yus txiv mog. Qhov niam yau nkawv foom2 ces yeej g khaum yus os vim koj txiv yeej g hlub koj ne.😢😢😢
I'm very proud of you stand up for yourself and your mom. You should tell your dad that he doesn't get any good sons because all the curse that he threw at you bounce back to his love once.
Brother I am so proud of you for protecting your mom and your rights as a man. Yes, cut your Dad off he has no right to use the Dad card to reap your services. Stand your ground, and stay loyal to you and your Mom. Your Father have no love for you or your Mom he will never love or acknowledge you, but he feels he has the right to control you because you are just poop and pee to him. Ignore that evil man and yes on his death bed you owe him nothing, you owe his second wife nothing, and you owe your half siblings nothing. Don't let the noise your Dad currently make scare you karma hits only those who commit evil. Dont ever believe the line "Im your parent so I can curse you." That statement only applies if you hurt and were evil to your parents of which you weren't. Your Dad treated you like crap your whole life. In fact, you lived a life as an orphan. It is best to love your Mom, wife, and your kids. There are people out there who don't have parents or only have one parent, and they live a fulfilled life. Don’t care what your Dad or other people say. You live life once, so be true to yourself and dont ever be afraid to protect and confront mistreatment. Remember set a good example for your kids to follow by showing them when to step up to mistreatment and speak up to abuse. Bless you, your Mom, and your family. Stand your ground Brother and stay strong. Your Dad is experiencing karma but he is in denial let him carry it to his grave because he ego is too high. He will never apologize and acknowledge what he did to you and your Mom so stay in your lane and let him keep running in circles whining because in his whining us quilt and for him he shows anger to legitimize it. Just smile, stay positive, and have a good laugh because clearly he's not the one happy now. Tables turned so dont let his status and age fool you he was once young too but he was born evil in this life time so stay clear and do not drop a single give credit where credit is do. Do not fall for your Dad's reverse psychology. You are human, you have feelings, and you want to live this life time too.
Twb yog koj siab ntev dhau lawm yog kuv ces kuv xa ua Niam yau khwb nkaus tim niag maum dev ko es kuv txiv thiaj muaj nplus npaum no ob niag dev. Brother never go sorry them take your family to go church never look back period
Yog lam yus twb yog neeg thiab! Tus niag txiv laus tuag dab thawj ntawv nws txhua lo lus foom koj thov kom lub ntuj tig rov qab mus rau nws 1000000000 npaug Thov kom npm kom khas nws vim nws yug tau koj nws tsis hlub nws yuav koj niam nkim sib sim neej nws tsis hlub tus niag niam yau tuag poj dab ntshaw luag tug nws foom koj los kom nws tau txhua lo lus phem 1000000 npaug rov qab nrog ra nws thiab niag txiv dev laus ntwv nkav cov niag phev npam phev khuam tsheej thooj tub ntxhais ntawv kom puas tshuaj txog kawg nkawv tuag tsis mua neeg pam 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Koj ua tau yog tag nrho txhua yam lawm! Thov kom koj zoo mus nwb tus nus koj ua lub neej kom nce tes ua kom ta txhua yam zoo li zoo mus lawm yav tom ntej.
Tu siab kawg. Kuv lub neej tsuag ciaj ces pauv tsis ntau koj lub. Niaj hnub no los kuv txiv wb tsis yog txiv tub. Kuv ob tug me tub los yeej tsis paub nkawv yawg yog leej twg li. Kuv ob tug me nyuam nug kuv hais tias ua ca nkawv muaj pog es tsis muaj yawg. Kuv tsis pom qab yuav hais li cas es kuv tsua qhia rau nkawv hais tias kom nkawv txhob tu siab es tsis muaj yawg los yeej tseem muaj kuv ua nkawv txiv.🥲
Niag niam yau mas cuag li ntiaj teb tsis muaj qau lawm... 2 niag pim thiab qau xob txhiaj tiwm neej nov neb ua phem ua npam ua khaum rau 1 niam tub no thov kom neb tuag mus ces neb poob qab qhov ntuj tsis tau thawj thiab lawm nawb
I didn't need to hear anymore after hearing that your dad didn't take you to McDonald's for a hamburger and drink. And then he also left an 8 year old child at home. I am with you, brother!
At the end of the day, it’s your money/credit, so it should be up to you to decide who to help. If u don’t want to help ur dad and ur younger siblings, it should be up to you. I personally hate it when parents or “older siblings” use their status to manipulate their children or younger siblings (I’m a middle child). I stopped caring about what people think of me or say about me, bc right now, I’m living a drama-free life! That’s all the matters.
Tsis ua li cas os mog. Koj txiv yog tus pib. Nws yeej paub nws tus kheej qhov nws ua. Nyias ua rau nyias ris xwb. I’m so glad you stood up to him and do the right thing.
Nyob zoo os tus kwv aws cas koj lub neej zoo ib yam li kuv lub thiab muab xav mas tu2 siab tshaj plaws tiag ntshe yog yus txoj hmoo tsis zoo tej laus yeej ua tsis yog lawm os. 2. 21. 24.
Tsis thas mus thov os tus neeg ntawv nws ua koj yug los nws khua them nqi rau koj tib si Niag ntsej muag laus ntawv ces yog kuv tus no mas kuv twb lawg taw nws tuag lawm os Thaub laus thiab niag pog laus ntawv nkawv yim foom koj ces nkawv tej lus phem rov ua vij saub vij sw mus lauj kauv nkawv xwb Ua siab loj os tus niag thaub laus ntawv tsuas yog tib niag txiv dev los thawj vim nws tsuas ua muaj xwb nws twb tsis khwv yug twb tsis hlub ces yog dev xwb thiaj rov tig los tom koj thiab koj niam thaum nws thiab niag pog tov niag tub yuav poj niam os Phibbbbbb 2 niag ntsej muag laus qias neeg Kuv mloog mas kuv kub heev vim yam kuv ntsib mas tseem tshaj tej yam ko lawm
Koj yeej ua yog lawm os me tub Txhua Txoj kev Phem uas koj txiv tau ua rau koj thiab Tsim txom koj lub siab lim hiam rau koj niam neb ob Niam tub qhov koj hais koj ua rau koj txiv twb tseem tsis tau txaus kiag li os koj txiv cov lus foom2 koj yeej tsis npam koj li os mog koj tsis txhob ntshai kiag li.
Koj ua yog kawg li os me tub Kuv tseem xav tias muaj lwm txoj kev ua neej thiab txhob nyob ntawm lwm hnub nws tuag kwv tij tseem yuav yuam kom mus ua npaum ub npaum no rau nws Coj koj niam thiab koj cov niam tub mus ntseeg Vajtswv Yexus xwb mas
Brother you did the right thing. Who cares wtf that dude have to say. You know your life is better just continue to love your wife, your kids and your mom. All these dumb Karma sh*t he be saying isn’t gonna happen because the sky knows who’s in the right and who is in the wrong. Take of your self brother. God bless you.
Me Tub, you are doing the right thing. Don't feel bad about not helping him. He did not love his wives and children equally, you don't owe him anything. Nws tsis hlub koj, nws foom foom koj. Nws tus niam yau cov niag tub thiaj li tsis tsim txiaj. Thov ntuj foom koob hmoov rau tus tub ntsuag kiaj os.
Kwv koj zaj story zoo li kuv zaj thiab! This story is similar like mine at the moment! I cut all ties with my dad too this life! Ua zoo tsis tau zoo, ua ib siab tias yus tsis muaj txiv lawm tiam no!😢Tu siab heev tau ib leej txiv tsis muaj kev hlub yus!
Brother, only victim kids like you and me know the pain and suffering of horrible parents. It's the #1 saddest thing for a young child to not feel love and value. Hearing your story, I tear and feel for you and see no wrong doing on your part. It's ok to distance yourself from evil people like your dad and step witch for the sake of your own family. I give you permission to be free of pain and obligations for parents who not only failed their parental duties but themselves too. Remember you are not a slave. You are so valuable and beloved by your mom, wife, and children. You must be strong for them. May God bless you❤
You are in the right, the old man never loved you now just want money from you. It's a good thing you didn't fall soft fall into his trap like so many other stories that we hear. This is one of the most satisfying story that I've heard. Good for you, cog paj ces tau paj, cog pos ces yuav tau pos...
Cov tsis tau nyob lub neej muaj niam hlob niam yau ces paub los tsis cuag li yus raug kiag. This is similar to how my father in law's behavior is, too. I hated how all his wives (my mother in laws) can tolerate him, but I can't, and Im so done with his bs, I dont even have an ounce of respect for him or any fathers like him and your dad. Im glad you see your mom's worth and struggles and you stand your ground for her. You're a great son. Dont worry about his curse, he is only trying to scare you and that's common what the og would do.
KOJ YEEJ UA YOG KAWG, QHOV ZOO CES TXHOB PUB COV NEEG NTAWM TUAJ ZE KOJ TSEV NEEG LAWM. NIAM YAU YEEJ PHEM, LUB NPE UA LUAG NIAM YAU XWB CES KUV YEEJ TOTALLY AGAINST TXOJ KEV UAS MUS UA NIAM YAU.. .yog kuv ces kuv tseem lawb tshaj lawb dab thiab os TUS TXIV PHEM LI NTAWM FOOM YEEJ TSIS KHAUM KIAG LI.
I feel that you have the right thing. I am admired the way you protect your mom. People like your dad can only see and do thing that benefits himself. You shouldn’t regret anything.
My biggest regret in life was not calling the cops on my abusive father. Due to the culture protecting these abusive men and making woman fear losing face. The emotional and physical abuse my mother faced all those years. I truly wish I would have put him in jail. You are amazing! You did amazing. The unjust some of these worthless fathers do. You stood up for your mother and you deserve all the good there is in life. ❤
Peb ua neeg ces yus ua qhov zoo txhob tsim txom leej twg ces txawm luag foom los lawv tej lus foom rov qab mus rau lawv xwb. Koj txiv twb tau txais nws tej lus foom koj lawm los tseem foom quj qees. Hlub2 koj niam thiab koj tsev neeg rau siab khwv rau lub neej xwb txhob nyuaj siab txog koj txiv tej lus foom, koj tsis tsim txom koj txiv ces tej lus tsis raug koj li os me tub.
The part that he come and force you to give money or go help loan is so wrong. You just the brother, it not your place to pay any of your siblings bride price if you don’t want to.
Only u know best what u did. If what u said is true then there’s nothing to worry about. No harm should come to u because of ur father’s curse. I’m glad u stood ur ground and also defended ur mother. Protect ur family well n live a happy life. Best of luck!
Tub mloog koj hais koj niam neb lub neej mas mob siab kawg kuv lub neej zoo ib yam li koj niam neb ko txhua tim koj txiv txawj ua txiv nws ua siab phem tsi hlub neb niaj hnub no twb npam me2 lawm qhov loj tseem yuav los tom ntej koj txiv twb yuav luag tsi muaj neej tua nyuj rau tshuav tsi ntev
If your half brother knows that he needs a pim, then he should go work for $$ to pay for it. Idk why hmong people always make it seem like others owe them when it comes borrowing money.
Mentality of OG hmong men, "kuv yog lub ntuj. I can treat you like crap but you're supposed to love me and take care of me when I'm old." P. Quav dev. Everyone has heart and feelings. You get what you give.
What's been done already done. Not sure what to say but my husband is in similar situation as you too. We pay our own wedding. He don't even have a mom to help him so it's just me and him, but we choose to forgive his parents. We don't give much as we not rich but we help out wherever we can. We don't cut them off and we don't hate them. You have kids too you should show a good role model to your kids to forgive and love and be kind. Be kind and one day your kindness will return you 10 fold. That's how I see life.
Tus brother tus txiv dev zoo li koj txiv ko tseem muaj ntsej muag tuaj khoo kom koj pab thiab koj txiv tsis txaj muag rau lub ntuj los koj txiv twb tsis hlub koj niam neb meme li nws tsuas hlub nws tus niam yau mob nceb thiab nws cov niag kas tom menyuam dev xwb ne lub ntuj yeej muaj qhov muag kawg tsam nws tuag tsis tau hleb ntim nws xwb siab phem li koj txiv dev ces muab nws lawb dab thiab muab nws tso plig kiag koj coj koj niam nej mus church kiag xwb lem hnub nws tuag ces tsis muaj neeg laig nws nws yuav rov los nrhiav koj niam neb thiab muab nws tso plig kiag tamsim no zoo dua
You are not wrong. Cut ties completely and move on with your life. Keep loving and protecting your mom and as well as you and your little family. I hope for nothing but the very best for you and your family brother.
We all need grace. Forgiving someone is usually NOT for their peace of mind but for our own mental health. Forgiving your dad doesn’t mean you give in to his commands but standing up for your rights. The difficult challenges we face in life only make us stronger people. My point is if your dad and his wife had treated you and your mom better maybe you wouldn’t fought so hard to be where you are today. Peace!
I'm glad you are able to stand up for your mom brother. Better now than when he is too old and on his deathbed. Lowkey, every old folks counter to end all convo they are losing to their children be like " Koj yug kuv los kuv yog koj na?" or "Kuv yog koj niam/txiv na, Kuv tam li lub ntuj na?".
