I love that Cooper didn’t get that the “I want to find my wife this year so she stops having sex with other guys” was supposed to be a pick up line not like a genuine thing 💀
The way the whole "find my wife" thing went fully over Cooper's head is making me giggle. He's saying he wants to find his wife as in he wants to find the woman he's going to marry, and he's assuming she's sleeping with other guys because she hasn't found him yet
When I was on Tinder I accidentally super liked a guy and within 30 seconds he messaged me just to let me know upfront he does c*ke and not everyone is cool with it. Needless to say I also wasn’t cool with it but I appreciated the honesty.
As a recovering pick me girl, I’ve realized there is a difference in simply liking things that traditionally the opposite gender would like compared to using those interests purely to attract said gender and putting others down in the process. So in my opinion you’re just sharing your passions with us and it just happens to align with the girlies (anyone can be a girlie)
@@piper3778 it’s kinda like when a pick me says “oh well I’m not like other girls because I like football, they aren’t brave enough to do tackle. Plus I’m not afraid to get dirty but all other girls are too into their looks and clothes to do that.” You can just like things and express that without making others feel bad that they don’t. Does that make sense?
Yeah….like Pearly Things is a prime example of appealing to men through only bashing women more or less. I hate that the phrase is ruined now because “I’m not like other girls” is a sentiment I’ve had for a good portion of my life-but not in a quirky, fun way…in a sort of autistic, I miss out on social girl cues sometimes and don’t always click with them. lol but I guess over time I’ve realized I don’t click that well with people in general XD Still, I feel like anything that even sounds remotely like the phrase makes people go into “oh she’s just a pick-me” mode
Using the term "sapphic" is not pick me. It is a more vague term that can apply to more people than just lesbians. Queer women, ace women, non-binary people, etc. can all fit under the sapphic umbrella. That is why many people like to use the term sapphic because lesbians are not the only people who have a focus on being with or dating women. I am a queer, ace woman and I use queer and sapphic interchangeably when describing my romantic interests.
@@MoonchildDontCry not all sapphics are women or feminine. this is extremely reductive. Also, the phrase "lesbian couple" is not disrespectful and to suggest that saying sapphic instead is more respectful is just ridiculous and honestly offensive to lesbians
hey coop. lesbian here. this is late, but i feel safe with dudes who use and acknowledge the term "sapphic" as an umbrella term for wlw/nblw. it's not pick-me at all. it's a green flag. when my guy friends use it in conversation, i feel especially seen by them in those moments. it makes me glad to know that there are people in my life who get it and want to understand us. keep using the term and standing with your sapphic friends the way you have, buddy! :]
yeah, lesbian is usually used as an insult a lot 😭 you never really hear anyone saying sapphic as an insult. You can usually find allies if they use that imo
I like how he keeps giving himself imposter syndrome after every little skit. It's like he goes into a trance and then briefly wakes up form it to scold himself.
top 10 reasons why cooper is always my favourite guy: 1. he's just genuinely confused, concerned, scared and overall just unsure of the plot of his videos. that's it I literally need just one reason
I can't seem to control my feed, and how do you know the women you like in your feed are also looking for women? Cause I know I got straight women in my feed before. Edit: I gave up on the app. I need a better app to finally have a woman. If it's not clear, I'm a woman looking for a woman to date and potentially marry.
Same, I met my husband and moved across the Atlantic because of tinder! I’m still not sure how that happened considering how many trash bags there are out there 😅
Can confirm as a pansexual person engaged to a woman that half of these dudes would do so much better if they just treated women as individuals and not a means to an end, and the women would do better by not starting on the defense immediately, its a two way street
@@yournewfarther nah bro. I matched with my man because he's a musician and had his instrument in his profile picture. 5 years later I'm a smitten kitten for him. He opened with "I have absolutely no idea what to say to you" and then a few messages down I threw Krigsgaldr by Heilung at him. And THAT is how you do Tinder LOL
Saying "saphic" isn't a pick me move. It's an inclusivity move, and I respect you so much more for it. (Inclusivity because the term is very inclusive, it also includes enbies (as an umbrella term) that are attracted to women too which I love very much)
@@Seeker0fTruth I'm here tpo help! What exactly don't you understand? Saphic: any women and womenly leaning person that is attracted to women and womenly leaning people, even if not exclusively. Enby: short for non binary, an umbrella term used to define anyone that does not fit the binarity of men and women. Any gender that is not "women" or "man" falls within this umbrella. The non binary umbrella is inside of the trans umbrella, because transgender is anyone how does not fit the gender they were assigned at birth with, and non binary people fall into that category (almost always) If there's anything else you don't understand feel free to ask, it's good to ask questions
@@sativadva THANK YOU!! Do you know if this is a newer word? I imagine not…I’m just surprised I haven’t heard it used before. Trying to think about what language it sounds like…its roots…sounds perhaps Greek? Which would make sense. Anyway thank you very much I appreciate the reply!!
@@Seeker0fTruth It pulls from Sappho, who was a sapphic Greek woman and poet. She is also where we got the term lesbian from because she lived on the Isle of Lesbos. The reason the terms sapphic and lesbian are pulled from her is because she wrote a lot of poetry about loving women (in a gay way). Also just to clarify the previous comment, by "femme people" it doesn't just mean people who present femininely, it's also anyone who is just non-man attracted to non-men. That includes butch women, gender queer people, non-binary people, trans women, etcetera regardless of presentation. (I've seen a lot of people mistake "femme people" or "femme presenting" in this context to mean people who dress/present themselves in a feminine way so I just wanted to make sure that was clear
As someone who is Polish.... Im disturbed by the girl from 9:12 who has Tinder pic in from of Auschwitz-Birkenau(Its located in Oświęcin, Poland.) train entrance. Like that is just disrespectful for all victims(Jews and Polish) to have "cutsie" pic of you intront of place where milions of people lost thier lives in there, via torture and inhumane working enviroment. It like making picture of yourself on gravestones, sitting buttnaked for your "cutsie" pics. Why people need to make a cute pictures of themselves in front of memorials or in front of places where national tragedies happened? How these people dont feel repulsed by themselves?
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Yeah, I feel like if you do that, you don't grasp the severity of what happened there.
Fr… I feel like taking a picture of the memorial because you want to encapsulate your experience forever… and taking a thirst trap in front of the memorial because ??? Are very different. Like wtf.
Thats their right. Just because they've got a sick sense of humor doesn't mean they deserve to be shamed. Thats really an orientation in and of itself, when you stop and think about it. As long as they're snapping these picts descretly, and kind of one the down-low, its ok. Freedom for human individuals and free expression must trump all else.
@@RaptorFromWeegee Dude, there is diffence between sick humour(Im saying this as someon who enjoys a fine dark humour as to way to cope with trauma)and romantize a horror place with your supposed thirst trap like that girlis doing. Also there is a rule at the place and its: "Do not take pictures in which you dont take place seriously or if the photographs are not for educational purposes without premission from administration". She basically broke these rules and she will be banned(As that b***h should be). She even brags about that. There is a a time and place to be joking around, but Auchwitz is not one of them.
@@claire.182 Im not against about taking pictures in which you take the place seriously. But Im disturbed by all people who need disrespect the memorial places to crave the attention they never got from thier parents.
One time my house caught fire and I went to the mall to buy pajamas so I had something to sleep in. I was 16. The clerk asked me how my night was going and I just burst into tears and told her my house burnt down. Got a 20% discount lol
The Germany train tracks lady got HUGE amounts of backlash online for those pictures if im not mistaken... there's been a few tik tokers who have done the same and got absolutely slammed for it
I took a small break from youtube and now I've been binge watching these videos. I Thoroughly enjoy his sense of humor and his videos. Thanks for being you ! And continuing to be authentic.It’s refreshing to see.
“This year I wanna find my wife so she stops getting piped by other guys” He doesn’t mean he’s being cheated on. It’s a pick up line kinda. He’s saying I wanna find the woman I’m going to marry so she stops sleeping with other men. Aka the sooner I find her the less men she sleeps with.
It's interesting to have watched the change in Tinder. It was originally primarily a casual hookup site but youtubers made fun of the sexually aggressive messages and now it's often referred to as a relationship starting site way more than when it started. I wonder if youtubers/etc had influence in that or it happened on it's own.
as a sapphic lady (or something close enough to a lady) from Colorado, watching this video was pretty sad. It's okay to not be attracted to every person, and it is absolutely fine to not be dating. take time to find yourself, try every hobby you possibly can, try every food you come across, and make a list of hard no's in a romantic and/or platonic relationship. but most of all, don't be so hard on yourself, Not every girl is the one, and you don't have to pretend they are. it's gonna be okay. :]
I think for the tinder charts, it’s important to point out the *male was swiping for 2years and 200days… the female was only like 70 days. That’s a huge difference for the data
yeah I did the math and it’s about 30 swipes per day. Still wild if he’s doing it every single day, but when you break it down like that it’s not as insane as it looks 😂
i think the “wanna find my wife so she can stop getting piped by other guys” thing is more of a joke about how he wants to find a girl to marry so she will stop being piped by other guys, she being his (future) wife. that’s how i interpreted it bc i’m pretty sure i’ve heard this one before.
Tinder is a hellscape that I have never used. Hinge is confusing but like not in a terrible way. I put in I was trans masc and was interested in men but for some reason hinge kept giving me men (good.) that were into cis men or trans women… (wtf.) eventually I did get to people who listed trans men in their interested in part but dear lord hinge really was like “here are all the people who won’t date you. Have fun!”
As an aroace, cooper's confusion is such a mood also did the math bc I'm procrastinating on stuff: She swiped right on 19% of people, 59% matched back, and 59% of them (10% of everybody she saw, 35% of who she swiped on) started conversations. He swiped right on 96% of people, less than 2 percent of them matched back, and 31% (0.5% of everyone he saw and swiped on) started conversations.
@@al3xisd3ad Being rejected 93% (I googled it) of the time is wild. But if only 31% of his matches started conversations (going off the comments numbers since), isn't that a 31% rejection rate since only 31% talked to him before saying "nope"? Still, I'm bad at math, but since casual scrolling and ghosting is common on dating apps I thought I'd give him some slack. Almost 3yrs with nothing to show is kinda sad.
@@kaivaughn7319nah cause he swiped on almost everyone so we gotta assume he further vetted after matching so some conversations didn’t happen because he subsequently rejected THEM after matching rather than the other way around since he was swiping yes on most people to boost his chances like a creep and then would have only spoken to or prioritised messaging matches he was mostly into
I laughed so hard at the first convo my dad asked me what i was laughing about and in an attempt to read the conversation to him i started laughing even harder and ended up crying
I just want to say, your vids have become like a daily routine of mine to watch them. The cool, funky brother energy is insane. Lets go weirdos✊️ Edit: I don't wanna be that one person, but THANK YOU FOR THE LIKES :D
Dude I feel like you genuinely understand women which is really refreshing to see because so many men think they're experts on women and they actually don't know shit(obviously) but they will still try to mensplain to you the female experience😃
COOPER, AS A LESBIAN FROM COLORADO YOU ARE SO BABY GIRL WE LOVE YOU also the term Sapphic is actually really good and I love how you actively try to be more inclusive and use better terminology I don’t think you are pick me at all
I'm aromantic and asexual, and flirting in general is so hilarious to me. Tinder, though... Tinder is a riot and I love to sit back and watch the chaos. Also, aro/ace people are 50/50 on giving great or horrible relationship advice because on one hand, many of us don't have experience with romantic relationships and don't know how to handle those situations while on the other hand, we understand relationships on such a fundamental level and we value connection offered by friendship and truly knowing a person and their personalities without any kissing or butterflies getting in the way of our metaphorical vision. So relationship advice is best from sapphic women and maybe an aro/ace person, or maybe only sapphic women.
I don't like online dating... especially because I'm a romantic who likes the idea of meeting someone in real person, building that connection in person... it annoys me that I feel like online dating may be the only realistic option for me. I feel like a lot of people aren't as open to talking to strangers, like they have less social skills now because they are used to social media and it can make a person feel more insecure and wonder are they gonna look at me like I'm an idiot for trying to have a conversation with them? Dating is hard in general, as a lesbian its 50 times harder because the dating pool gets a lot smaller. Just thinking about the odds depresses me sometimes but I hope to meet the right girl someday, hopefully somewhere like a bar and not on Tindr but I am tempted to try it again soon.
I’m SO happy he pointed out the whole match thing…. If anything you could make the argument that women have it HARDER on apps like Tinder BECAUSE of how guys swipe right almost 100% of the time…it’s more time-consuming to have to weed through a hundred or so matches to find out which guys are actually even interested in *you*. And it’s why they typically don’t initiate conversations and pick based on more shallow reasons… if you need to narrow the choices down to something manageable those are easy places to start.
The reason the numbers were so different was because the man was on the app for almost 3 years and the woman was on there less then a month it said how long they were on the app in the upper right hand corner
@@stephaniesimmons6113 This comment is irrelevant to my point though. The percentage of matches, which is clearly displayed doesn’t need the amount of time on Tinder to be equal-and I would say she did enough swiping to give a comparable sample size. I know anecdotes aren’t everything but, I’ve heard tons of men (online and ones I know irl) admit that they kind of just swipe right on almost every girl and her data and his data combined absolutely back that theory up… She HAS to use more discretion because most men are like him and swiping right on about 90% of women….when I used tinder, my male friends all had maybe 13-25 matches and maybe 5 conversations…and my number was far above 100 matches and maybe 10-20 conversations and the guys admitted they mostly just swiped right on most girls (to increase their chances-which ends up kind of backfiring). So, idk if you misunderstood my point but I’m saying this data backs up the reality that girls have to swipe left more often because it quickly becomes overwhelming when you have 30 people trying to get to know you and make date plans….so it quickly has to become kind of shallow… unless something in 150 characters really strikes you (ya know the bios that mostly all say the same generic things), then logically you’re probably gonna start nitpicking physical or financial things because…well I’ve already said-you have to have some process to narrow that down or you’ll still have no luck but because who has the energy to talk to 100 different potential relationships at once?
Few years ago I went on a date with a guy from tinder and ended up with a gun ti my head. If I hadn't stayed calm, and then started screaming my name at the top of my lungs as I head butted him the second he shifted attention I'd be dead. The only positive to the story is that I found out I'm Bruce Willis 😅
Cooper not realizing that hinge guy meant meeting the girl he's GOING to marry before she sleeps w another dude and going on an unrelated rant was worrying but adorable
To me this whole section 14:25 was so funny. The girl was on tinder for 75 days and the guy was on tinder for 936 days If you math it (I had nothing better to do) She averaged: 25 swipes a day He averaged: 32 swipes a day These are rounded to the closest whole number. So theyre not as far off as the data makes them out to be
i've seen cooper express anxiety about being perceived as a 'pick-me' before, and i just wanna say, if it's sincere, then you're not being a 'pick-me'! if you're saying/doing things because they're important to you, and not because you want to look better in the eyes of others, then it's not 'pick-me' behavior at all
who gets mad about people saying "u made any friends here?" and when the person theyre talking to says "okay, thats fine" to their boundaries, they get MAD???? they continue their rant???? bruh it was such an EASY answer or at least an easy interaction for "u made friends?" "noneya" "okay!"
Me, a pansexual woman, had a deep meaningful conversation with my ex-girlfriend, who is FANTASTIC and a wonderful woman. We talked about our favorite things about one another and how much we love each other. My inner monolouge was just Enchanted by Taylor Swift. That's it. That's all.
This is the first video of yours I've ever seen, and I cannot overstate how much I am on this exact wavelength, just. The hyper brain spiderwebbing from absurd point to absurd point, and I am so here for it
@@HomeschoolVouchersThe only person I met on Bumble turned out to be weird af once I gave him my number. Not as crazy as the house fire one, but along those lines.
My husband and I met on Tinder. Was just supposed to be a lil thing. Ended up married 10 months later. 6 years later we're watching this with our 5 month old! 😆
ok giving the dude some credit, he was on tinder for almost 3 years, and the lady was only on for 75 days, so if she consistently used tinder for the same time period she would have around similar swipes actually, but it's still funny how many times he got rejected
Yeah, it’s actually pretty normal on Tinder for guys to get WAY less likes and matches than women do. And just on dating sites in general because it’s about 80% men on there so they do end up getting even more desperate than they normally are and eventually giving up whereas women give up because they’re overwhelmed by how many likes, matches, gross messages etc. that they get. It’s kind of sad. Hopefully the algorithm at least works better for the gays. 😂
These ppl have a lot of time to swipe haha. But still, if you only swipe on people with lots of shared interests, you’ll have a higher success rate. His success rate is extra low because he swipes on everyone.
Love your channel dude, it's a lot of fun. My friends all think I'm insane because I don't use and Internet or apps to date. If I see somebody in person that I'm thinking looks good, and preferably have talked with them a bit, I'll give them my number. They can call, or not, and I'll just treat them the same if I see them again after. Sometimes they call, sometimes they don't, but I'll never have to show up to a date with a photo that's ten years old and a crazy that I immediately want to leave. My friends legitimately asked me what if the girl I ask out has a boyfriend? Or is married and not wearing a ring? That I had to just go "... well, she'll say no or not call it's just no big deal?" and explain that it's really not that awkward to see a person you asked out. The amount of confrontation avoidance in modern society is starting to really be a problem. Tinder sounds so insane to me.
Part of the reason the guy and girl analytics were so different was because the girl was in it for under 3 months while the guy had been in it for over 2 years
was in my therapists office and had to pause 2 mins in and decide to watch later bc i was shaking trying to hold in my laughter of the "blood and ash everywhere" 😭😭😭
lol the fact that he said he was “looking for his wife” and you actually thought his married wife. the whole time i’m thinking he’s talking about finding his future wife so she can get off the app. 😅😂😂
with the tinder analytics thing its also good to look at the years of use. the woman was 75 days and the guy has upwards of 2 years. but yh the rest of your points still stand :)))
Those insights make sense when you consinder that men outnumber women on Tinder 9:1. If you're a guy and you want to meet anyone at all you basically have to jettison any notion of "standards," swipe right on everybody and work out whether or not you're attracted to them later. I tried it for a couple weeks, as someone who had never dated anyone I hadn't met in real life, and the whole process was dystopian and surreal. At the end of the day only a small fraction of the people I matched with even responded to me, and the ones who did were throwing red flags from the rip. Anyways, I learned pretty quickly to just keep putting myself out there irl until I clicked with someone rather than to wade any deeper into that meatgrinder.
I just went to my first Comic-Con and genuinely after all the social exhaustion and anxiety this is such a treat. 10/10 would watch Filmcooper in a whatabburger in a Robin cosplay again
I actually did the math for 15:19 since she only had 75 days and he had 2+ years. She swipes on about 25 people a day, he swipes about 32. Not too much of a difference HOWEVER- he swipes right on 96% of his people (about 30/32 right swipes), she swipes right on 18% of her people (4/25 right swipes) 😭😭😭 additionally about 59% of her right swipes match (and another additional 59% of those matches actually talk)…. ONLY 1% OF HIS RIGHT SWIPES ARE MATCHES- and then he only talks to 31% of them 😭😭😭😭 bruh
honestly cooper, just be yourself !! the least "pick me" thing someone can do is be unapologetically authentic, if people interpret your actions and words as "pick me" then that's on them, not you. i really like your content, thanks for making me smile !! edit: also wanted to add that i think you using the term "sapphic" is so fun and opens what youre talking about to more people !! for example, i am non-binary and pansexual and i identify with both the term "sapphic" (wlw/nblw) and "achillean" (mlm/nblm) !! i have a fun experience where my gender identity and sexuality intertwine to make me feel queer attraction to everyone !! so i feel appreciated when people talk abt either of those identities/experiences !!
one point we are all ignoring is that, 14:44 timeline spent of male and female on the app, female barely spent for 75 days while spent more than a couple of years, so it is not genuine comparison.
& we will continue not letting you down. my entire monologue was just thinking of how many red flags there are for a lot of people male/female on tinder and it's just a big nope from me, sticking to crocheting and being weird :)
I PHYSICALLY CAN'T STOP MYSELF FROM TELLING EVERYONE I HAVE PSYCHOSIS AND DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY MOST OF THEM GHOST ME BUT PHYSICALLY CAN'T STOP MYSELF
What kind of makes me really sad about incel culture is that like low-key it does make me legitimately scared to come out as asexual. Because I just, as someone who doesn't really care much for sex, am scared of getting lumped in with actually brain dead men who claim to be "above sex" the second they get rejected by their crush after being really creepy and gross. Like I swear I don't hate women, I just don't really experience sexual attraction. I don't know though, like I get that there is a legitimate reason to be cautious about this stuff, and seeing how people just refer to me as a twink, I probably don't give those vibes anyways, but I don't know it just stresses me out.
Understandable fear, especially in the past. But now most incel men barely even put up those pretenses anymore now that society has done a hard shift backwards within the past 6 years. They're going full ooga booga mode in public and are barely even pretending to be disinterested in sex. The tiny tiny Tate boys have done an even worse number on men so if you're able to walk upright and successfully speak, women won't usually even be assuming too much about you because the bar is just that low. This is obviously a bad thing.
Hello! I'd like to say that there is a veeery big difference between what incels are and act like e.g the stuff they say completely out of pocket, and a regular person who's just ace! And anyone worth talking to will be willing to listen and easily see that it's not the same at all. Honestly I think some women, especially a fellow ace lady would be extremely relieved to hear that you're not talking to them just to get in their pants but because you are genuinely interested and want to have a meaningful connection. So saying, "by the way, I'm asexual! If you're not sure what that is, it basically means I don't experience sexual attraction. I wanted to put that out there now so that I'm not accidentally leading anyone on." kind of thing, totally understandable and respectable. Versus some incel being all "umm actually I'm totally above sex because women are inferior to me and I'm not a wh0re like them 🤓☝️" or something then obviously thats an extremely gross vibe that indeed no woman should want to interact with. TLDR my point is I think more people will be accepting than you might think! Even if they say "thats cool, but I'm looking for something different" or say nothing and move along, thats fine - at least you know they weren't the person for you if you want a genuine relationship Anyway sorry for the ramble lol. I wish you much luck! I understand the struggle, as an aroace person myself, but you got this man 🙏
Cooper being so wholesome that he just legit does not fathom the appeal of "Hey, I'm super mentally ill, and you are too. Wanna go have blurry sex in semi-public? No, I don't need your name." is so funny to me.
