Yes I suggested reading books, especially if someone would like to read more as a challenge. I can’t say I find enjoyment in cleaning personally 😂 so whilst it’s certainly a needed daily task and can pass the time, I’d find more fulfilment in other goals. But I guess that’s the beauty of it, choose something that’s important to you as a goal as I said in the video, and divert the time and energy into that instead of shopping.
I’m finding it easier to taper and oscillate from “low buying” to “not buying at all”, by putting things on wishlists and just leaving them there. Several weeks or even months later, I find myself looking back, deciding that 1) I no longer need or want, 2) had found something to replace it on the wishlist, 3) realized I already had something similar tucked away, 4) the product either has significantly reduced in priced or is no longer available, 5) I found a much much cheaper alternative. Then, I can purchase an item on my wishlist as a reward for a goal accomplishment (such as passing a licensing exam) or for a special day. I also have more time for more important things, when I reinvest the time I spent shopping into doing something more productive - cleaning, organizing, decluttering, reading, studying, exercising, home improvement projects, learning a new language, etc. Taking the time to reassess your needs and wants, and becoming very “strategic” in how you spend your money and time will, in many ways, be life changing.
What has worked for me.... Since most of my ‘nonessential and nonsense buys’ have been on Amazon and EBAY, I am still putting my ‘potential buys’ in the cart, letting them ‘add up’ for a week and then shifting the money amount into my savings account and deleting the items out of my cart and sending them into oblivion. Big and aggressive and proactive wins for my savings. Anything I still want, I do a week ‘cooling-off’ period... as it turns out... I never buy after that week. And may I just say.... thank you, Kirsty, for all the encouragement. It’s been a wonderful gift.
Thanks so much for sharing! I love hearing different ways that have worked for people to challenge their shopping habits and I know other people read the comments and get inspiration too!
YES, I do this all the time. Let it sit there and when I come back days later I almost always think "nope I don't need that". I also like the hunt at the thrift store to find it second hand.
I do this too, this is a really helpful thing for me. I think of my cart as more of a wishlist. I always wait until the hyperfixation wears off lol. And then delete the item from my cart. It’s a small sweet win every time.
A couple of years ago I did this for a year. I travel 🧳 a lot as a flight attendant an also we shop a lot. That year I did zero shopping and saved all my allowances from the company (apart from food that is). By the end of the year I could pay for a 5 week trip to Argentina 🇦🇷 flights, accommodations food and a trip to Iguazu. And I had so much time during that year. No pressure to go the mall. I could relax in my room, at the beach or just have a stroll. I even downsized on unnecessary expensive coffee shops and restaurants. I realized what was important. And yes concerning clothes I still had enough to wear. Honestly: we only wear only 30% of the clothes we own ….our favorite items and the rest could realistically go. We tend to keep things for emergencies, but still… And 2022 will again be another no/low buy year. I will not be as strict as last time. But I avoid stores, online shops and window shopping (sundays are ok, here the shops are closed)
I'm actually starting a low buy year from 2024..I want to live My life intentionally and carefully.. life is short..my financial plan is to pay off my school debt and be financially free.. most times we invite poverty into our lives by buying what we don't need and over spending .. I am going to break the chain of poverty in My life and family..
this has really made me think. I am 50 and have wasted so much money on clothes over the last 30 years, I'm ashamed of myself. I'm going to give the no buy a go for 6 months, then treat myself to an outfit for my son's wedding in June. hopefully after that, i can continue with the no buy and save the money for home improvements. Thank you so much for sharing your journey and tips. I would love to see more videos from you. Congratulations on your house purchase xx
Oh bless you Sarah, please don’t feel too badly. I’ve bought so much over the years, and we are far from alone. I certainly will buy clothes in the future, and I will probably always own more than I truly need. But nowadays I try to get the greatest value out of my purchases rather than buying things because they were a good deal or I may wear it one day - better to spend twice as much and wear it till it falls to bits, than it be a good deal and hang in the wardrobe with the tags still on! Thank you so much for watching and good luck with your journey!
@@KirstyKirby thankyou Kirsty. I'm not usually one for New Year resolutions but this concept resoated with me and i' m determined to give it a go. You're a true inspiration xx
We are so conditioned to be heavy consumers that’s it’s hard to even think about not being one. Covid helped me break that habit and I’m in such a better place. In the past year, I’ve hardly purchased any clothing, only what I actually needed. When I did purchase the clothing, I made sure it was heavily discounted and I felt great about it.
Can really relate here. We are sold that life, particularly in the western world is just a conveyor belt of acquiring things and not joining in seems odd to some. So pleased to hear you’ve found a positive in the past two horrible years. 😊
@@KirstyKirby yes, they have been horrible and I don’t think the worst is behind us. Learning to live below your means will be critical in the next few years. Inflation, food shortages and high basic living conditions will be a hard pill for most to swallow.
Thanks Ruth! You’re welcome - I find myself getting so bored when I watch people waffling too! Waffling is absolutely fine for vlogs, but if I want the information, I want it stat!
Hey. During the lockdown period I realized that I don't need new clothes. I haven't used most of what I have. I found your channel and decided that 2022 will be my year of not buying. I want to become more aware of myself and only buy what I really need. Thank you for the tips.
Hi Maria! I relate so much re lockdowns and so on, it really made me question the amount of clothes I had. Good luck with it, it wasn’t easy but the money saving made it worth it!
Thank you! I decided to do a no buy for a few months and it has been almost a month now! And I just go my Mastercard statement and I was so happy to see that the only things on were recurring payments like Disney, Netflix and my charities I support. 🎉😊
I have been doing a no buy since Christmas…it’s way easier than I thought it would be, and your tips/tricks are excellent guidelines to follow. Thank you so much!
That’s great to hear Lee. I know what you mean, people think it will be crazy hard, and it kind of is at first, but it’s not anywhere near as difficult as the idea of it seems in our minds. Plus I always think as soon as you start to see the savings in the bank it gets a whooooole lot easier! Thanks for watching 😊
Just subscribed after watching your first video “no buy for a year” an eye opener. I am a shopaholic. It’s gotten better after I married but still there. At times I can’t stop thinking about an item until unless I BUY. I find myself obsessing over it and my mind doesn’t rest until it’s bought. And once it comes to me. Sure it makes me happy in the moment. Any tips to break the obsession ?? I have tried to talk to myself, tried to look in the other direction etc. It helps for a minute and then back in that awful trap again. Any tips would help?? I have tried the things you mentioned in this video 😢
Thank you so much for this. It is amazing once I made the decision to do a "no-buy" to see what my motivations were for buying and also to see how my relationship to the existing things in my life changed.
the corona restrictions threw me into online shopping. Sitting at home and missing friends or other opportunities to go out gave me a unhappy feeling. So I started to shop excessivly.
Hi Kirsty, I'm a new subscriber. 🤗 Already enjoy your content very much. My goal is quite different from most people. I don't need to save money, I'm quite frugal in most areas and don't overspend. My problem area is clothing, the constant feeling of not having enough (scarcity mindset) and obsessing over my purchases way too much. I want more peace of mind around shopping, being content with what I own and actually using my stuff!
I can understand this. And I think prior to discovering the RU-vid beauty community my problem area was always clothing, by a big margin. I’m hoping to dip into some of the psychology of shopping etc in the coming months so hopefully there might be something for you in that too. Thanks for watching! 😊
You know what is really challenging is when you do an impromptu stop at a thrift store and find some thing incredible that is on color tag sale that you end up wearing a lot and using as a staple piece in your wardrobe or it’s a staple seasonal item… Or a beautiful piece of furniture you were looking for. Those times are absolutely worthy of the time. I kind of follow my intuition when it comes on strong to stop and check in. That’s actually the only time that I will go to the thrift now instead of when I am bored or seeking distraction. It’s really interesting how the items I have found from these impromptu stops became well loved items compared to the times I plan to thrift. I actually do spend less and I don’t spend time browsing in the same way.
Amazon prime is the worst for me. Already bought things and then went back and canceled orders. I was tired hungry and bored. Seeing that really helped me alot.
My worst trickling away of funds is second hand shops. I find amazing things, for dirt cheap, but I also have far too much stuff. We are doing a no spend until May 💖
Good luck! Yes this is one of my issues with the rise in popularity of ‘thrifting’. Obviously it’s great that more people are interested, but it can be tempting to treat it similarly to ultra cheap fast fashion and buy loads because ‘it’s cheap’.
Good luck with it! It’s not something I tend to do on a permanent basis, but it’s a great tool to help savings, to manage the cost of living, or to simply identify shopping habits. X
Good tips. The only thing I’m going to do, which gives me joy, is going to goodwills but only buy if it’s on sale. This is better than buying luxury items. I’m also going to keep busy clearing out my junk, reading books, gardening and also pick up hours at work
Hi Olivia - I suppose it’s each to their own. I would prefer just a few more luxury items (or things I really want, may not necessarily be luxury) than lots of items. But this is kind of the point I want to illustrate, we all have different values, priorities, likes, needs etc. By evaluating our shopping habits and what we value, we get to cut out the things that don’t really bring us value personally, to make more room for the things that do. I enjoy gardening too, a great way to spend time instead of shopping.
Yes! This has helped me a lot. I try (and succeed about 75% of the time) in looking on used and second-hand websites for pieces that I feel are missing from my wardrobe. I needed (truly) a fall/spring jacket as all I had were heavy winter coats and found a brand new Levi's denim jacket for 25 bucks. It was awesome AND now I feel it has a story which is fun. My favorite leather jacket bit the dust after years and years so now I'm slowly shopping around for a used one (in real leather to last longer) and am finding some great ones for around 50 as opposed to 200-300 new.
These were great tips! Sleeping on it” is such a helpful technique for me. I shop a lot on preowned sites like Poshmark, and I add a ton of stuff to my likes page. I will sit on it for a couple of weeks/months and I eventually find I am not interested anymore. I have recently established a goal to read 1 to 2 books a week and that had really helped and made me really happy! I had forgotten how much I love reading. 😊
I have done a no buy fot 8 to 9 months back in 2020 but it was such a life changing to me, personally my behaviour about everything has changed...such a good advice video, I am going again for a no buy this year
Congrats! I resonate with that, it massively changed my shopping habits and the way I think about money. Good luck! I think mine will be a low buy again 😊
Similar to "sleeping on it," I feel like if it's something I think about wanting again and again, over weeks to months, then it's probably safe to say it's something that would add actual value into my life and that I will get a lot of use out of. This is one way to parse out the things that you REALLY want, vs. the impulse buys that end up getting shoved to the back of a drawer. I will actually keep lists of things I want too, let it sit, and often later when I come back to those lists, I immediately am able to remove at least 1/3 of what I had put on there.
Yes I would agree, this is really what I am trying to inspire others to do, to shop mindfully. If it’s something you really want, you know you will get value then that’s great! I don’t recommend not purchasing anything as a permanent lifestyle. This video was about those who want to do a ‘no buy’ or a ‘low buy’ and therefore not purchase anything or very little at all. Sorry I must not have got that across properly in my presentation.
@@KirstyKirby Sorry if my comment came across as a critique, just meant to add my two cents as to what I have done and another possible method for people to use when trying to buy less. I didn't think you were advocating doing a no-buy or extreme low-buy forever. I enjoyed your video! :)
@@kp74952 No not at all, I just assumed I hadn't explained the video properly. For me, what you described is more what I do as a lifestyle, embracing mindful purchases, rather than when on a no buy or low buy. I think if you REALLY want something that's where you should spend, even if it might be deemed luxury to some, rather than the random 'cheap' impulse purchases, as typically they are a bit of a waste of money as they don't offer as much value. Perhaps just a difference in approach. :)
I have a different method: when I get the urge to shop and buy, I do so only in stores where I can return and get a refund for the merchandise. So I do get the rush of the buy, the pleasure of having a new piece in my life, of seing myself in a different light, of touching new fabrics and colours. If, after a week, it still brings such an intense pleasure and fulfills a true function in my life, then I keep it or else I return it. 99% of the time, it gets returned and refunded. You learn a lot about your true needs this way instead of going "cold turkey" and cutting out all shopping. It's time-consuming, but sometimes, mentally and emotionnally, it is the best option.
I agree with returning things that you don’t think it will bring true value, but a lot of the people I speak with would like to not buy in the first place and vast amounts of things are not returned - hence so many items in charity shops with tags on lol. Really interesting perspective though, thanks for sharing.
very clever! I think it could help a lot someone with a bad compulsion when they can't resist the urge :) but I do believe it has to be a first step, not a long term solution. still, good idea :)
I needed this tips 🙏 I will save this video and writh down the points so that I can plan around them. Thank you for sharing great tips. Lots of love from arctic Norrway 🙌🌻🌹🏵🌼🌺
I just had an AH HA moment while watching tip #1..... the reason I haven't been successful yet with a no buy period is because I haven't had a firm goal. without that goal I can't say to myself something like "what do I want more, this yarn or my car paid off"
Honestly I really do think having a goal, be it debt repayment, house deposits, student loans etc, is key. I would never have been so strict if I hadn’t wanted to own my own place so much x
Absolutely mortified at how much many money I've wasted over the last 20 years on clothes, shoes, bags and make up....on everything! Said once I turned 40 I need to cop on and fund my future and well I turn 41 in June and have made very little headway! I own a lovely 3 bed house and each room if FULL of clothes...just senseless! Going to a hen in a few weeks time and was like ENOUGH!!!! I can wear something beautiful from what I already own. Will I enjoy the hen any less? Definitely not! I've unsubscribed from many retailers and unfollowed bloggers this morning to help my cause. I work shift so have time off mid week a lot and stroll through shops as a hobby or even go into for a appointment and then end up in the shops....this will probably be the hardest element for me to stop. But I need to give it a go.... only came across your videos by chance this morning!
Bless you Caroline, I can relate, clothing has always been one of my first loves - and yet I look after it all so it lasts years, and I never like parting with it! I do now look at a lot of my beautiful 'going out dresses' and think I could easily have had a few less and worn some a good few more times and been no less happy! You will certainly enjoy the hen no matter what you wear I'm sure. I love a stroll through shops (or at least I used to), TK Maxx was my fave, but I definitely think it caused me to buy so much I didnt need. I stay away now and it has really impacted my saving, as I generally only look for something when I need it. Good Luck with it! I'll be cheering you on from afar.
My elderly late step dad, still DARNED his socks and while helping with any projects would collect and keep any straight nails being pulled out. Know what else he did? Bought a brand new luxury car every few years…..CASH! I need to cope with my ‘all or nothing’ personality. Once I give in on something, I lose my focus. AGREE 100% on just staying out of stores and not browsing aimlessly online!! Buying more stuff never crosses my mind until I do! I know all the marketing and sales techniques……but I’m often caught up in them anyway if I encounter them. 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
@@KirstyKirby he was WISE. “take care of the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves”. Getting older/staying active ; “better to wear out then rust out”. 🥰
Sure thing. Thank you. I just completed writing out my new financial goals and included what you stated in this video along with a few other things. I truly appreciate you. Always taken care of everyone except myself. That has changed. Keep up the excellent and inspiring work! 😉
it certainly was helpful. thank you. the hardest part for me in ebay. i wish there was a way i could block it but i guess i have to block it in my head.
Thanks for watching Halley - I guess we all have our little vices with shopping. I know what you mean about ebay, I can always find beautiful furniture at amazing prices, but I have nowhere for it to go!
Yes I’ve spoken to a lot of people in the comments who are giving it a go in 2022. Lots of people overspent/over shopped during the pandemic as a way to manage their anxiety and boredom and want to readdress habits now.
Trying this year. My focus is to only buy food, hygiene, and repairs if necessary. Last year I did a capsule wardrobe so I’m in good shape for a no buy year. My only challenge is gifts. How to handle gifts for friends and family? I’m thinking they will have to be an exception because I don’t know how else to handle a wedding, birthday,etc.
Good luck! I’ve answered this in more depth in the comments and in other videos, but my family don’t do gifting so wasn’t a consideration I needed to make. If you want to gift you still can - each individual needs to make the ‘rules’ for their no buy as everyone’s life and circumstances are different.
I also like thinking about would I rather have the money or the thing. For example, a sweater is 30€, if someone said to me, I could have that sweater or a 30€ in cash, which one I would want to have? And tomorrow? Which would I choose
Great point. My job doesn’t feel particularly secure right now and I often think to myself, If the worst happened would I appreciate this item or the money in the bank? If I don’t love the item or truly need it, more often than not it stays in the store.
Watched a few of your videos and decided to completely block my credit card. I am much more likely to buy crap with it compared to if I am just using my current account. I don’t think I will ever trust myself with a credit card again.
Thanks so much for watching! I know what you mean, I avoid credit cards and have done since I was quite young as it can be so easy to buy unneeded items on them. They do have some benefits in terms of credit report, air miles in some circumstances etc, higher protection for large ticket purchases, but I don't currently have any and no desire to.
Hi there, I usually try to pop the details of whatever I’m wearing in the description, apologies if I didn’t. It’s from Karen Millen but probably 10 years old now!
What would you do if you have family/ friends birthdays coming up or special occasions where gifts are expected? I was thinking of making something handmade for my friends but I don't want to disappoint them. I told my friends not to buy anything for me because I'm trying to save up and wont be able to return the gesture.
I’ve had conversations with family and friends a long time ago in regards to gifting and we just spend time together on birthdays etc now rather than gifting, we perhaps still do a card as a gesture. All are absolutely fine with it. It does feel strange at first but most embrace it as the emphasis is on their time and company rather than something material.
You can make your own rules here. For me I would decide that I’m spending X on a gift for Y on this date and so on well ahead of time and stick with the plan. Or if you don’t want to do that ask if there’s something you can do for them instead. I’d live it if my best friend did my weekly laundry for my birthday!
I crucify myself every day for having spent so much on things I didn't need and “having the click” so late in life. I will never be able to have all that money back. Much less now that I'm unemployed and old. I hate being so dumb and slow. I don't understand why I was born if it was for me to be this stupid.
Please don’t be so hard on yourself. Hindsight is just like that, we look back and critique the choices we made, but at the time we likely thought they were the right ones. You’re not stupid, many people overspend for a multitude of reasons.
I found it interesting how "old money" doesn't shop the way the rest of us do. They mostly inherit their clothing, homes, & furniture from previous generations - an old fur coat, leather chair, or any other family heirloom. The few pieces they do buy are unassuming, yet timeless and of high quality. Their clothing is meant to hide them from the rest of society, yet have enough longevity to ensure they can be passed down. Old money focuses on legacy and family trust, rather than opulence and fame. They're not fond of "trends" or disposable items. They value the things they own as assets, rather than as consumer goods. This is bc they focus on building generational wealth, so that their lineage will have ongoing security. And when you have security in your wealth and class status, you don't feel the need to prove yourself to anyone or to even "need" society's acceptance. Your station in life is so firmly defined that there's no desire to entertain people's expectations of you - other than your family patriarch/matriarch, the refined tastes of history & culture, and the old guard of decorum & respectability. But the rest of us crave societal acceptance and so we do look to cultural trends to meet the public's constantly ever-changing expectations. That got me thinking that fashion isn't really for the wealthy, but rather for the middle class and the nouveau riche (new rich). It's mainly for those of us who need to buy a sense of self, or rather what we've been taught to believe as consumers. Old money invests in art, culture, and the finer things in life, and they do it quietly. I think it's a good perspective we all need to have. Invest in quality, not in quantity. Savor time and value family. Don't waste energy or $$ trying to buy respect, self-respect is enough and it's free.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the matter. Not all ‘old money’ behaves or thinks in the way outlined here to be honest, nor are the middle classes, the ‘new money’ or the working classes always driven to spend for acceptance from others so whilst I think there are definitely differences driven by culture and upbringing, they don’t apply to all. Not all ‘old money’ buys art and there are plenty that like to throw family money around ostentatiously. Do you watch Anna Bey? She has similar thoughts to you about ‘old money’
Its easy for me for a No Buy. I just don't have the money to spend on excessive buying other than necessities. Can't save anything either. The joys of living on SSA(im being sarcastic of course).
I came here thinking I’d find some tips on how to avoid the grocery store, and maybe DIY some household goods. Turns out your tips are.... just a day in the life for me 😂😭😆. If I want new clothes, I low key window shop for 6 months and then make a plan to get the one item I can afford that year. (Sleep on it, but x 3+ months) 😂. If I want to feel fancy I put on the one fancy outfit I own. Window shopping is something I have never really had time for, and it’s not that fun when you can’t actually shop. Restaurant dining is difficult with 1001 allergies so it’s something we do once in a blue moon. This was an eye opening vid. from a social perspective. I have plenty of good things in life to enjoy, eat fabulous home cooked food, and consider myself fortunate. I want to say though, that it is very respectable that folks who are much further well off are thinking about their habits around consumption and what serves best.
Sorry you didn’t find any value in the video. I don’t really know what you mean about needing to avoid the grocery store as it’s a necessary visit (did you mean grow your own type content?) and not really sure why you thought it would include DIY instructions for household items (did you mean DIY cleaning products etc?), but again I’m sorry you found it to be not providing of any value. The video is related to a concept called a ‘no buy’, something that someone tries to reset their habits or save money. I think it’s likely a case of crossed wires vs what you were looking for. Best wishes.
@Kirsty Kirby Hi, I did find value in the video, like I said it was very eye opening, and I appreciate that folks are considering their consumption habits. I share my own experiences as a way of adding perspective, that there are folks like myself who are thinking about reducing their spending and who don’t actually have clothing shopping habits like the examples to be able to shave off the habit of, but are still eager to find new ways to be financially resilient. In my opinion the grocery store IS a very modern luxury, that I do not take for granted, and I would love to learn ways to go without it! “No buy” is no buying, low buy is reduction of spending, so I don’t think there’s any conflict of understanding between us there, it’s just that it looks different from a different income bracket. I had no idea what topic of spending reduction would be your focus, other than shopping less as a whole, and my comment was made in good humor. Cheers!
It's called quality over quantity. Very simple. Furthermore, if you know how, where, when+what you're shopping for you can easily get rid of the tacky disposaclothes and find yourself in style for miles no matter the year/season/trend. Trendy is a 4-tee word. Friends don't let friends pay retail! #Upcycle #Repurpose #NoLandfills
I’ve talked about how I prefer quality over quantity. I have some clothes that are 15 plus years old lol, I rarely buy ‘disposaclothes’ as you call them, and have never been all that fond of trends. Bit confused by this comment, thanks for watching though!
@@terrysummers9424 ha ha ha - keep on being a bit odd and purposely missing the point Terry! You're obviously enjoying yourself and glad I could help! Best Wishes.
Wow imagine having so much money that you can afford to choose not to spend it. Us poor people have been living this way for most of our lives. This is no secret. Lmao. I've been suppressing my wants for 36 yrs and ONLY living on needs. I also can't afford to save money either so theres no reward at all for how I've been in survival mode for the last 36 yrs. So count your blessings of you can afford to choose what you want to do with your money as in choosing not to spend it and save it. Must be nice to have so much money. This is no secret among us living in POVERTY so don't think you solved some kind of secret of life. I also find it hilarious that people are giving tips to "survive" a no buy year.... Seriously? You are THAT fortunate to have that much money? Survive what exactly? Putting your wants on hold? Is it really that hard? Lmao. I've been living my entire 36 yrs on this planet ignoring my wants. I'm 36 yrs old. I've never had my nails done, never had my hair done, never been out of the town I was born in, never been on vacation, never done a lot of things or seen things that others have.... I'm still surviving. It's really sad to see people with so much money and privilege to talk about surviving through putting your wants on hold. How fortunate you all are and don't even realize HOW GOOD YOU HAVE IT. Ridiculous. Try only have 400 dollars for the entire month. Disability is a joke. I don't understand how they expect anyone to live life I do. And then we have judgemental people saying that those who don't work must have nice lives. Yeah. Real nice. I live in BELOW THE POVERTY LINE. So welcome to my world where wants are non existent. It's really not that hard. Stop being dramatic. At least you have ACTUAL money to choose what you want to do with. There are no "survival tips" because you don't know what true poverty feels like.
Why on earth are you attacking me on every single video? I really think you should stop watching as it’s obviously really upsetting you. I’m not being ‘dramatic’ at all, this is RU-vid, the titles are always optimised for search, I’m sorry you seem to have been so upset by that. You commented about ‘judgemental people’, yet you are being incredibly judgemental and rude towards me. Please stop watching and preserve your peace.
Apparently you are a hater and you hate people who have it better than you cos you comment on this channel multiple times about the same thing over and over. Poor you. Lol. 🤦♀️ If you don't like the video, don't watch it. No one is forcing you to watch it.
I did this for two years and was able to pile up money quickly. One thing that helped me was to toss catalogs without looking through them and to stop watching shopping channels. I paid off credit cards, too.
Hey 👋 I found you last week right in time for my No Buy year. I have been leading up to it for a few months now and I watched your videos on your journey and can relate to everything you said about it. I have my whole life and I’m 54 been a BIG shopper and way over spending and justifying it. My husband and I have been living in an apartment for 10 years because of my spending habits 😯 it’s very embarrassing to admit that. I have wasted so much money and so many years on so much stuff I don’t need or even want when I get them. I have given away things I was obsessed with getting and then didn’t even like or use. I don’t work anymore either but my husband makes a good living but the more he makes the more I would spend!!!!! I and determined to succeed in my No Buy and build our saving back which I spent all of on stuff that is so ridiculous I have no words and save money for a better place to live for us.I hope you continue to do RU-vid. Congratulations 🍾 on your house.
Bless you Wendy, I always think the first step on the journey is to recognise the issue. Then you can make a plan, and it’s never ever to late to make a change in any area of life. And you are not alone. Since posting videos on my journey I have spoken to so many people who with hindsight wish they had managed money differently. I wish you all the luck in the world with it. 😊
@@robinmeier6048 You sound very horrible. Go back to your bridge and find yourself a real life so you haven't got to be mean to people that (thankfully) don't even know you
I really hope some of these tips are helpful to you! I was really surprised how many people wanted to give this a go so I wanted to get this uploaded as close to the beginning of the year as possible. Good Luck!
You have encouraged my husband and me to do a low buy in 2022. I agree with you that it is so much better to save up to buy better quality items that you value, rather than a million cheap things. We have not been out to a restaurant in a long time and finally went to a really nice place yesterday. We enjoyed it immensely after depriving ourselves for a while.
Hi Robin, good luck with it! I’m aiming for somewhat of a low buy this year, but need some clothes. As you mentioned though, I’d rather just have a few really nice items that I love than tons of stuff that hangs there unloved! You raise a great point there, if you eat out all the time, it becomes the norm and the feeling of enjoyment isn’t quite the same.
Very encouraging 👏👍! Great tips! Thanks a lot! I , personally, find very helpful the fact that there are more people trying a low buying. For me it easier to resist when I feel that I am a part of low buy community.
I was so reckless with my money in 2021. I racked up over 5k in credit card debt buying things I didn't even need. Starting 2022 I decided to do the $5 challenge and saved my change and pay down my student loans and credit cards with the money I've saved. Praying I will have one of them completely paid off by the end of the year 🙏🏾
Hi Kirsty, thanks so much, this is a game changer for me. I love this video and the fact that you don’t waffle you just get to the point with some amazing guidance. I am an emotional spender and my shopping habits have got completely out of control. It’s so easy just to pick up my phone and spend spend spend. I found your channel at exactly the right moment. I’m also joining a no spend year and I’m going to do my absolute best so that I can save up and create a wonderful home for my son who truly deserves it. In the meantime I’m going to focus on decluttering my home and perhaps getting a little bit of money from selling some of the ridiculous purchases I’ve accrued over the years. I’m looking forward to lots more vids from you, thank you! Also congratulations on your house! Xxx
Hi Louise, apologies for the late reply, I don't always get notifications. I'm so pleased you noticed the lack of waffle! I try really hard to cut it down as it grates on me when I see it in other videos, I tend to do a bit of other content that's a little more laid back and chatty, but keep this type of video waffle free! I wish you the very best of luck with your no spend challenge, its not easy at first, but I found once you see the increments in the bank, no matter how small, it really almost becomes enjoyable as odd as that sounds. Decluttering is a great idea - I have a video coming in the next few days about how it's helped me to save. Oh and thank you for your warm wishes, its so great to be able to say all the saving was worth it! :)
@@KirstyKirby thank you so much! I watched the declutter video this morning and it’s really spurred me on! Looking forward to more vids and in the meantime I’ll be watching all your others. Thanks again for the little pep talk. No spend January is so hard. I’ve got so many emotions around money… stemming back a long way. But determined to overcome them and finally feel at peace with myself in the long run xx
@@louisemaris decluttering is awesome during a no buy because you start to see all the stuff you bought and it really stopped any feeling of wanting to shop for me. I’ve been encouraging my mum to declutter and she says the same, once you start, you think why did I buy so much?! You end up not wanting to bring stuff into the house unless you either love it or will 100% use it.
Hi Kirsty! This is my first time on your channel...the first video that I watched of yours. Wow...I am so super impressed. I really enjoy the concept of being more intentional with purchases. You are also so articulate and succinct! Awesome work!!
Ahh thanks for your kind comments Carmen. I try my best not to waffle as it bores me to a point of distraction in some videos I watch myself. I have other videos where I go for a bit more of a chatty approach but in something like this I try my best to be to the point a glad that’s how it landed 😊
Shopping my stash has helped me a lot! To create looks and put myself into thibking what can I create (in relation to eyeshadow looks) to enjoy new things and calm my desperate desire to buy and own. Sorry for my English and thank you for making this useful video. Kisses from Spain ♡
Don’t worry your English is far superior to my Spanish! Yes I agree with this, in fact I think it challenges you to be more creative when you use what you have rather than to keep buying new things. Xx
Thank you for this video. March will be my no-buy month. Only food and necessities. I'm tired of buying things thinking they will make me happier and they don't. They just clutter up my home.
Good luck with it Janie. My first experience with no buys etc started in a similar way, I had all this ‘stuff’, all the things that were supposed to be happy, yet I wasn’t. From there I started to try different approaches and I’m hooked. I’ll be cheering you on from afar!
Today I am doing a no buy for lip products. I splurge on them due to boredom or emotional or impulsively. But I realized after watching another video and yours, that I should add all makeup and perfumes to the list. In the past I tried to stop spending on lip products, it never worked out. And the days it did work out, I would spend on something else related to beauty. I should probably take a break from sephora, since that's where my biggest spending goes to. 🙃
Good Luck Lisa! And if it makes you feel any better the very first time I tried to manage my spending on makeup, several years ago now, I was really successful but then went nuts buying random stuff as soon as the period ended. We can’t return anything in the U.K. so I really regretted doing that. I definitely found staying away from stores and not browsing the Internet sites really does help.
Thanks for the advice. I stick with buying from sephora and ulta usually because I know I can return what I impulsively spent. Heb used to accept returns but due to covid they changed their policy. But I don't splurge so much on drugstore, like I do with high end.
Sometimes, I wish my lips were sensitive as my eyes are. That's what lessened my buying on my eyes. I only looked for products that were good for sensitive eyes. Eventually, I got tired of doing eye makeup and didn't have any interest in buying too much eye products. But that's when I switched to splurging on lip products. I splurge so much I don't have money for what I need.
@@lisamaria6644 i wish we had the option to return. I don’t tend to buy drug store anymore, I prefer high end too. I had fun seeing what was out there when I found the beauty community here on RU-vid l, but when I think of what I spent. My my 🤦♀️. I could have had several very high end products (sometimes things I would have written off as too expensive) for the amount I wasted on drugstore stuff that I have since given away.
Great video, reading and working out are definitely something I could do. But finding stuff to do as a family is so hard. They want to go the cinema, go out and eat etc. we have done game nights but you start to get bored. Easier in the summer. But winter is always a struggle. X
Hi TR! You don’t need to work out or read if it’s not important to you, I was trying to say, you can use the time spent on shopping for something that’s important to you. Sorry if I wasn’t very clear there! Thank you for watching 😊
What about movie nights? Take turns to pick a movie and snuggle up together to watch. I did this during lockdown, my boys are between 18 and 28. Make your own pizza nights , buy or make bases and then people choose toppings. Go charity shop shopping with £2 each and see who can get the best item. Try geo caching. Go to the cinema when it’s cheap, use meerkat movies. I worked on only one treat, ie if went to cinema we didn’t go out to eat on the same day. I know it’s hard, but hang in there!
Hi Kirsty, Sorry I was saying I think they are really good ideas. Just trying to think of similar ideas I can do with kids to prevent us from falling into those traps. Thanks xx Ruth- brill ideas thank you. Particularly the pizza one! Dinner/activity in 1! Thank you xx
Family activities with angsty teens: -something athletic (and possibly free) -something that develops a life skill they desire to leave home with -something crafty -something horizon expanding (travel to your destination of choice can be a reward for good grades, etc.) -something in the kitchen -something to do with their and yours (you can alternate) favorite kind of music -something your family has a history with. Start by opening the possibilities so wide that they could try new things, and then launch yourselves into genuine connection by finding shared interests. They might still participate in an way that reflects their detachment style, but as long as they DO participate, everyone wins, especially kids later in life. TV does not give kids nostalgic memories of family time. This is an opportunity to make memories. 💗🙏
Fantastic advice. Most people do not have an emergency fund. In times like today this is a great way to build one. All the best to your new path. Thank you.
Absolutely you hit thr nail on the head. Fewer things and higher quality. Its harder to find the quality now with expensive brands using cheaper materials than befote however when you find a brand that is good quality the initial investment is worth it. I still have jackets and suit's I got 15 years ago but becauss i spent the money up front i still get compliments
Hi Just discovered your channel, am so glad I found you just at the right time. My spending has increased through all of the lockdowns I think as a diversion/comfort and something to fill the time and I really want to make a change, have more time to do other things I enjoy and feel more financially secure, all things you have mentioned. Thank you for explaining your approach so well and sharing information which is helpful.
Thank you for watching! You definitely aren’t alone, many of my friends spent a lot throughout the lockdowns and so on in a sort of coping mechanism. Good luck on your journey 😊
Hey. Just found your page. While I regularly don't buy stuff, I feel like I go out to eat entirely too much. I'm going to try a few months keeping eating out to a minimum
Hi thanks for watching - if you get value out of going out, that's certainly not a bad thing - but a period of time cutting back can be really helpful to reflect on if the cost is worth it, but also helps save some extra funds. Good luck :)
Wow - completely new to your channel and blown away by the decent content and the quality. Really impressive, thank you! Shall recommend you most definitely x
What helps me is tearing out photos from magazines of what I want or saving the image on my phone. I look at it every day. Then I get sick of looking at it and then don't want it anymore.
