In May 2015 I was given an unforgettable behind-the-scenes opportunity to see the cremation process.Many thanks to the kind staff at Worthing Crematorium who assisted in the making of this.
It's so weird to think of a human being being turned to ash. It's very natural, but when you think "that used to be a person" sometimes it's hard to wrap your head around it.
Its not really ashes, the corrrect term is cremains, its pulverized charred skeletal remains. The rest of the soft tissue organs fat hair etc of the body is vaporized because of the intense heat of the retort/ cremator.
My father passed away 10 days ago unexpectedly and his cremation is scheduled to begin in one hour. We saw him to say our goodbyes yesterday at the funeral home. Seeing this video and getting a better understanding of the process and what will happen to him helps me a lot. Thank you
@@HappyHorse23 Thank you for asking, we're doing ok. Mum still has her bad days, we all do I suppose, but overall we have come a long way from where we were last year. Life moves forward and we learn how to adapt and cope without dad. Last Sunday for Father's Day we went back to the beach where his ashes were scattered.
Sorry for your loss, two years ago I also lost someone very important to me, she was my dog, but we were always together & she was the best companion I ever had. I too found understanding the process comforting, I went down to the pet crematorium & attended, as I was allowed (I wanted to see with my own eyes it was genuinely a single cremation as with animals they often go in together), & I found myself asking questions, & the gentleman took me through the whole process. Despite my deep grief & the macabre nature, I felt reassured to know what goes on, & to know I was there with her for her last journey.
I'm not afraid of dying. I'm afraid of being in such a state that everyone thinks I'm dead, but I'm actually not. I just cant move. Imagine being burnt or buried, alive. 😱😭
That is the reason of death to make you afraid of being "death". But if you think "Reincarnation", you may not be afraid of being "death", the death is like about same while we are sleeping. Can you feel? Can you acknowledge everything as like you are doing something when you are sleeping? The difference between "Death" and "Sleep" is you cannot wake up.
I'm not afraid of dying. I know it's going to happen. I'm just afraid of leaving my vulnerable children. If I die, I wanna die at least when they're all fully independent and doing well. But no, I'm not afraid of dying. Just afraid of the suffering it could cause my children if I left them while they were young. 🤷♀️ no one else loves them more than I do.
I like how they use the words “them” when addressing the remains, I can tell they are really respectful and acknowledge that these remains are actual people
I lost my grandfather on the 26th October 2020. I miss him so much. I remember I was carrying his coffin with my brother, father, uncle, and 2 of his good friends. His body was cremated. I wish I could see him again, to hold him and hug him one more time, to tell him I love him. I love you grandad. Fly high and I’ll see you soon. I love you.
@@charlieknibbs6203 iam really sorry for your loss dear may his soul rest in peace. please let us know if any of your friend or relatives are looking for funeral plans. we are providing very affordable and personalized services for families all over uk.
My mom died almost 2 years ago. She was cremated in accordance with her wishes just like my father was. I went to the crematorium and said my final goodbye to mom and watched as she was put into the crematory and the door was closed. I needed that bit of finality to help me accept the loss and keep on with my life.
Those moments are realy heavy to accept. the world is like this we need to accept it. Stay safe and healty everyone… condolances to all for who lost their loved ones
You were very brave.. I was too upset to even attend my mothers funeral. I chose to remember her alive not dead in a coffin. I have no regrets not going 8 yrs hence .She lives in my memory and heart
My daughter died and I've had her ashes for nearly 20 years. I recently took care of my end arrangements. She and I and ashes of about 12 cat from thru the years, including her cat, we'll all be scattered together.
That's just so beautiful and so precious. Sorry for your loss, dear ,and rest in peace you mom! Cant even imagine the agony you're going through..I'm so sorry
Sorry about your loss 😔 my mom passed away 8 years ago, I should do the same , put a little bit of her in a necklace, I saw someone getting a tattoo with his brothers ashes in the ink, but that's a little bit extreme for me but not a bad idea though.
My mama left 2/28/18 and I also have a beautiful necklace. We were best friends as long as I can remember...miss her always. God bless you, and your mom.
This how I want to be 'disposed' of when I go, rotting 6 feet underground is not for me. I don't want anyone now or in the future to feel beholden to tending my grave...in most cases, once those that still remember you have passed on themselves, graves tend to get forgotten and sometimes fall into a state of loneliness and disrepair that is rather sad.
Natural burial may be an alternative you could like. For natural burial, bodies are buried unembalmed in a biodegradable shroud of coffin and allowed to become part of the earth again. Graves are marked with native plants rather gravestones, so there's no cemetery upkeep, and natural burial cemeteries are given the same government protections as traditional ceremonies, so that land will never be developed. Rather than your body simply being forgotten with time, it is given back to the earth and becomes an important part of sustaining the environment.
Bless the workers there..such an important job! My 85 year old mother died just before Christmas and was cremated at Mortlake last week ,after her funeral at Our Lady of Grace ,Chiswick. God Bless Her..miss her so much!
I prefer it to the clinical, industrial experience of watching the coffin sink into the catafalque, to be honest. At my uncle's funeral, I saw the curtain as the end of a play, the close of a life well lived. Then again, I'd already been struck by how much of the funeral itself was theatre... I guess that's why they're called funeral directors!
The curtains slowly closed at my dad’s funeral. I didn’t cry throughout the whole thing to support my siblings but when the curtains closed at the end I just broke down in tears. It felt like that’s the last time I’ll ever be so close to him
People think it's morbid but really it's not. We see people get buried or in-turd but cremation isn't common to see. When my Gran died we were not allowed to see the cremation process. I wanted to see it because I've never before seen a cremation.
That's what I want done with me then scatter part of my cremains over the train tracks here in Red Wing and some over some train tracks in Chicago. Just saying. Have a great weekend everyone
@@georgeedward1691 I know what you mean. You have a morbid curiosity seeing your Gran cremated. But could you stand to see your Gran cremated? Seeing the person you knew and loved being burned and reduced to s pile of ashes. I don't think I could handle it. Just something to think about. Have a great day everyone.
It may be , " all that's left of him now ", but one or more things, of him are still very much alive . Every time you speak his name, reflect on the lessons learned, the "lectures" , and all those trips , he's still alive , in you. We're not here for long but for the time we're allowed, we do make an impact on the lives we touch.
Death is ugly and spoon sad. I just never get over it when I l lose someone, especially when I lost my mom and dad, I just never got over it. I still cry over losing them.
My father passed away 7 yrs ago and my family and I had him cremated. It took me this long to see how the process goes. He was a WWII veteran and I know one day I'll see him again in heaven.
Sorry about your dad. I lost mine in 2017 and right after my mom in 2018, they were both cremated as well. Never seen how the process goes, this just popped in on my recommendations.
I went to my brothers cremation. Literally 30 feet away from the room he was in. Was a break room where I remember 2 people laughing about something, just having a good day at work. while we passed by. It kinda made me happy for a second.
Just goes to show, after all it doesn't matter if we are rich or poor, black or white, we look the same on the shelf in a box. I dont find that sad but it does make me think!
I have done this for my mother. I pushed a cardboard box in the fire hole/box and raked the larger bones(cranium and hips) back under the central nozzle, a few times. Love is what I had in mind. Yes, this was one of those RARE moments when you do something for someone, that you REALLY wouldn't do normally… ALL ALONE with my feelings and pain, and my heart beating through my chest, I didn't want to be anywhere else. Even when the ashes were ground I stared and I absorbed the whole process… The mind calmed when it was over, and all I had left was a small plastic box with her ashes. And the thought, that maybe for once in my little life, I did something unselfishly for someone that no longer exists elsewhere than in my mind… Mom got her wishes exactly as she needed, and my love emerged from the ashes eh…
That was beautiful And very brave of you to do that for her. I can't imagine how painful it must have been but as you described it seemed that no one else could do as good of a job as you did in caring for your mother. Thank you for sharing. I have had moments when my grandpa was dying that only I needed to do. I lived with my grandparents and I needed to be there for him and make sure he was taken care of til the very end.
Professional Commenter Same.. I was there with both of my grandparents.💕I was also Power of Attorney. The hardest thing I’ve ever done, was tell the hospital staff to not resecessitate my grandma.. it was my privilege to carry out both of their wishes. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever fully heal from losing them. Thankfully, I know that I will see them again soon enough.! Bless you ❤️
@@jerilee7141 you're very fortunate to have had grandparents. I had none on both sides of my mom and dad. I often wondered what it would be like to have had grandparents. I'll never know, but the Lord will introduce me to them in Heaven.
Hugh Haefner ❤️ I am beyond blessed! Not only were they a huge part of my life, but my two daughters as well!! I do know we were/are so blessed .. but it doesn’t take away the pain I feel not having them with me. You will meet your grandparents one day! ❤️ And one day , you may be a grandparent yourself!! 😊
I just lost my aunt today. She was 67. Fought five cancers and was a Godliving woman. She wanted cremation. Also, I saw her body, and hugged her for the last time. I love you Aunt Marcia. I’ll miss you. And go run through the heavenly streets as you wished to.
So sorry for your loss, sweetheart. She's in heaven in the everlasting arms of Jesus! You will be with her again one day! I lost my dad to a terminal brain cancer (Gleoblastoma) just over 4 yrs ago (January 16, 8am, on a Monday, 2017). No more pain, no more suffering. He to is up in heaven with Jesus our Lord & Savior. I hope dad had the pleasure of showing your Aunt Marcia around. I cant wait she be up in heaven one day. What a gloreous day that will be to be with God Jesus & the Holy Spirit, & be with my dad & other family memebers & my animals. God bless you! Take care!
Godbless you mum only just passed away recently and had funeral, I pick her ashes up this week, none of it is nice,Very upsetting I love you mum I know you spirit is here, Godbless you beautiful lady RIP
Ohhh :( I’m so sorry to hear this. I lost my mom last month on the 24th. It’s heartbreaking to say the least. Had my mom Cremated also. The funeral home where she lived in Oklahoma said they’ll be shipping the Cremains on Monday to me here in Oregon. That’s going to be a difficult day. Bless you and have a great day!
Same here. I picked up my mum's ashes yesterday and took her home to the house I was brought up in. Was very emotional but had a sense of calm and peace for the first time since she died. I miss her desperately, but am now concentrating on keeping my dad going as my heart won't bear another loss so soon, and it will devastate the rest of my family, especially the grandchildren. God Bless you Beth mc in your grief.
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My dad was cremated. Felt weird at 1st and scairy. But after watching this video it seems much less morbid than a burial. It's all very clean & clinical which is nice.
Watching this video, especially at the last few minutes was interesting for me. Where all the boxes of the ashes where stacked, made me think of how these were all people, you and me. They all had their fair share of laughs and cries. They grew up, faced their own problems, found love, ate their favourite food, lived their lives, probably sat down on a porch thinking about life and others, only to perish one day, unknowingly in most cases. Its a bitter feeling if you ask me, this whole "journey" I dont really like to comment, I like to keep these thoughts to myself because if I come across them, I'd cringe at myself. But this time, maybe I just want to let my thoughts out. Maybe I'm just scared aswell.
It’s scary knowing life will come to an end less scary when it’s no pain and you just go to sleep. This is the end for all of us either way. Much respect to the ones we’ve lost and to the staff for being respectful.
This life is only one phase of our existence. Before we were born, we were living in our mother's womb. We lived a completely different life. No talking to people, no eating the way we do, we didn't know about money, cars, houses, relationship, and all the worldly things. Then comes the second phase, we were brought into this world. With a purpose. To seek the one who created us and submit to Him. We're all being tested. Some are tested with power, wealth and some are tested with sickness, poverty, adversity, disaster and so on. Then after that comes death. A phase where our test ends and we begin to see the fruit of our deeds. Where two angels will come and ask us questions regarding our belief. "Who is your God?" "Who is your prophet?" "What is your religion?" These are the questions that everyone will be asked on their graves and know that our soul will be the one who answer, not by memory. Those who answers right will be rewarded. Whereas those who couldn't answer will be punished. Then we'll wait until comes the day of judgement. Then we'll be resurrected from our death. Everyone from the very first human to the very last one gathers in the same place. To be judged by God himself. Then he'll put us in our final place where we'll remain exist forever. Heaven or hell.
"Those who died yesterday had plans for this morning. And those who died this morning had plans for tonight. Don't take life for granted. In the blink of an eye, everything can change. So forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never know when you may not have that chance again.” 😞🙏💕 The best gift you could ever give someone is your TIME, because you're giving them something that you'll never get back. "The more the world grows evil and moves away from God, the more the Light of Jesus Christ shines and the beauty of the Gospel of peace and salvation grows brighter each day." 🙏🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈🌈🌈🙏🙏🙏🙏
I was surprised at how clean and professional it all looked. Lots of stainless steel and mirrors. All the people were very nice and they didn't mind answering any questions. Thanks for the video and explaining the process.
Thank you for this video. I'm impressed at how respectful the staff are, and how clean and modern the premises are. All of my family are cremators, as in we're always cremated when we die, but we never got to go to the "backstage area" so thank you!
I used to work at an animal crematorium/funeral home and I must say it's the same process as we used. Your machines are very nice!!! We had a viewing room where the owners could do an "attended cremation". They found peace in watching the whole process. You guys have a very hard job, but do it so respectfully, it's comforting.♥️
These guys are very professional, very dignified and seem to really enjoy what they do. I'm amazed at just how normal it all is. Literally all in a day's work and busy busy busy.
My grandad was loved beyond measure. We had his service at the city of London and then had his ashes committed to the sea by the Royal Navy......Portsmouth. I’ve never regretted seeing my wonderful grandad off this way. I love you gangadin! 🌹
I can’t be the only one who is afraid to die because when I’m in heaven I’m just going to be there watching over kids over the years and years wishing I was alive
My Dad died 24 years ago and he wanted direct cremation. He asked that I scatter his ashes in Long Island Sound. DONE! Having to pick his ashes up was MIND BLOWING. A once healthy veteran reduced to dust. My heart will never be the same.
When my dad passed few yrs ago I couldn't bring my self to go to the wake I couldn't bring my self to see him in a box I wanted to remember my dad driving his bus that he loved so much use to go to work with him all the time in Yonkers New York RIP dad miss u
Sarah Ledgard My guy of 10 years committed suicide last September. By his wish, he also was cremated. I'll forever have more questions than I'll ever have answers. I grieve for you and I grieve with you. God Bless You. 🙏
That was the most cleanest crematorium that I've ever seen in my life I am a clean freak everything in my house has a place in a spot for it I respect those crematory employees and the respect that they show the families
That’s exactly what I want for myself, So my two girls can have my ashes!! Who wants to be in the ground, where no one ever goes, and its cold and lonely.
This would be a job to be proud of! It would be an honor to assist someone on their last journey, and also just knowing you are doing a service to one's family would be enough for me! IDK how you would get a job such as this, but it would be an honor to do such a thing.
I feel the same, like its a calling to serve them on their last journey. I was worried I was nuts, but glad others can see that too & its not just me! I don't work in this field but am thinking of doing so, hopefully at a crematorium with a cemetery so I can also maintain the headstones.
You are all angels to those of us left by our loved ones. Thank you so very, very much for taking them thru to the end here on earth. I cant express how much your kindness means.
Most informative video. My Dad was cremated and now I am at the age now that I am getting cremated when I pass. This video is the first video that I could see the complete process. Thank you, I am comfortable with my choice.
My fiancé passed away a little more than a year ago and I was devastated. I couldn’t bare to watch her get buried so me and her family decided that we were gonna have her cremated and let me keep her ashes. Now even though that she’s gone she isn’t fully gone because she’ll always be with me and I move a lot so where ever I go, she goes. I love you sweetheart I hope to be with you again someday❤️
@@goldeneagle3678 we do not have enough land where we live for burial. Even cemeteries that are century old are exhumed. I find cremation perfectly acceptable even for myself.
A good friend of mine died unexpectedly in 2011 at only 54 from a heart attack, he was cremated. He had some of his ashes scattered in his favorite river, then his favorite camping spot, and finally some placed at his poker table in his man cave. Games were still played at his place and a drink always poured for him. The winner always got the drink.
If you have a big ego or just think you’re better than anyone because of your wealth, looks or skills just watch this video it will remind you that in the end we are all the same. Memento Mori to you my good friend.
I remember after attending my grandmothers cremation service almost 40 years ago and standing outside and there was a horrendous smell, that must have been it taking place. Thank goodness due to the filtration system now days family’s don’t have to experience that. I can still remember the smell.
I live down the road from a crematorium. It was hot and summer and i had my window rolled down and the smoke coming from the pipe up above the funeral home was rather short. The smoke went up my nose and in my mouth and Made me so sick to think that that was someones body being burned. These idiots need to raise the pipe up higher. I had the most bizarre taste in my mouth.
Very respectful Employees and presentation into something rarely seen. Cremation has come up recently in my family so naturally, I've been curious about the practice. Appreciate the way this is shown and the care the employees have. 💜
We spend most of our lives working hard, worrying and stressing over money and finances and other personal issues, then at the end,,,,, well, this video says it all .
Emily Prevot you’ll be fine. if you let her free she’d be killed that day. i’m sure your guinea pig is very thankful you are taking care of her! i have a guinea pig too and a good thing to do is make a little play pen with treats and toys so she can get some exercise! she’ll love it! and for going to hell, you can do something as evil as killing someone and god will still love you and let you in heaven. don’t let little things like that worry you! good luck :)
My Dziadek (Grandpa) was cremated in 2017 after he passed away inside his blok in Poland. Not sure if the process is different there and to what extent but at least he is now together with Babcia (Grandma), who passed in the early 2000's. I think it is a good idea to talk with loved ones so that there is no difficult decision making to be done once someone passes away. Sometimes people prefer one type of process over another and it is important to honor that in my opinion. Personally though I would much prefer a traditional burial when my time comes (though that is still a long long time away I hope).
As a hospice worker i can tell you that you would make things so much easier on your families if you told them well in advance what you would want ( cremation, burial, etc). I myself want cremated and have written this down for all to see. Sadly our society doesn’t talk about death and dying and as a result i have seen in my work so many families not knowing what to do, fighting with each other, feeling guilty about maybe not doing what the loved one wanted, etc. Sometimes life requires tough talks and thats ok.
Daniel R absolutely, I am making a funeral wishes leaflet on the lighthearted side. So many families I meet ‘what song would your mother like’ I don’t know, it’s quite sad. People are quite happy to say they have made a will and have life insurance, but a funeral seems to be a no no. Keep up the good work Daniel, get people talking if you can. Best wishes x
my brother passed away January 8th, and he got cremated, just having flashbacks now of when the curtain started to close, everyone was literally crying their eyes out :( god bless his soul RIP broo xxxx
Attended a friends cremation today, never ceases to amaze about the lives what they had lived and had worked during their precious lives, RIP VIC far to good to be forgotten.
I spent some time working at a crematorium last year and I did witness a couple of cremations from start to finish. I really was not sure how I was going to react but it was fine. The guys that worked there were great. The thing that really struck me though, even though it is really obvious, was when they opened the door to charge the coffin, even though I was standing on the opposite side of the room, was the intensity of the heat. Even though I knew to expect it, it was still quite a shock to feel it. *braces self for trolls*
5/27/20 makes a month my true LOVE died and cremated. This popped up on my feed. Thank you for the peace of mind. Ironically he enjoyed working in a funeral home. 🌷
Sadly i lost my father back 2006 R.I.P to cancer and was cremated by worthing crematorium. Dad will never be forgotten and loved by all the family and we thank the crematorium for the work thay do for our loves ones,thank you.
My little brother who passed away last year may 11th at the age of 11 was cremated and I was never invited or informed by my mother about the cremation. My parents are divorced and I live with my father so yeah... I missed my own brothers funeral and service and still haven't seen my mom since... Life is great.
My mother passed away on Tuesday 8th September 2020 from Leukemia. I gave the eulogy and then a month later collected her ashes. Her urn sits on my window sill at the moment, so she can enjoy the view outside. I will be scattering her ashes in 2021 and saying farewell to her a final time. It was a very shocking time for me. Hearing that she had died from the nurse. Seeing her after death, saying farewell to her at the funeral service. One of the worst years of my life. COVID does not even compare to this in my life :( Thank you for the video. I have avoided the topic a lot in my life until this happened.
I plan to be cremated and your video put my mind at ease about my decision. Video was very helpful and tastefully done. Thank you for sharing this experience. Much appreciated.
Doris Washington this makes me sad because my stepfather died june 24 2017 and he got cremated and I'm getting a gold bullet cremation chain with some of his ashes in it
I did my nurses training and going to a crematorium was part of my training...we watched the casket and bodies Mum and Bub go in and latter watched there remains be racked out into a bin ...half the class screamed in horror as all the bones werent ash...then the bones were put in a crusher...its was awful ...so glad crematoriums have improved turned me off them forever...ground and worms for me
just when you thought you were important, populare in immortal, you wind up like this. live your life to the fullest and pray to the lord for your life and pray before you die!!
My mom passed away this past Sunday. She died on September the 6th 2020. She was cremated. I miss her so much. At least I'll get to keep her urn. Everytime I look at the urn I can remember my mom. 😭
They must have both bery kind and guarded hearts to do this. Kimd because they're showing such respect and kindness in their eyes and guarded because if not youd be unable to continue to do this day after day. Thank you gents!
The boxed ashes at 6:05, I handled those 20 years ago working in a shipping hub. On the outside was a name and dates for their life. Thanks for the tour.
