Tom Sandoval Finally Tells His Side of the Story | Howie Mandel Does Stuff  

Tom listed plenty of valid reasons to break up with Ariana. He listed zero valid reasons for cheating on her with her best friend behind her back for a year.

Howie being an advocate for mental health while allowing Tom to trash Ariana's mental health is fucked up

“Never did I think I’d get myself in a situation like this…” You started out Season 1 in a situation like this.

Tom takes no accountability for his actions. He is blaming Ariana basically for him cheating! He is the crazy one here!

Bottom line...you have to end a relationship BEFORE you start another. It's the betrayal and disrespect that is hard to overlook

He told everyone his relationship with Kristen was terrible because he couldn't talk to her, and she was crazy. The twins in his apartment he slept with were crazy. Then he told everyone he loved Ariana because he could talk to her, and she wasn't crazy. Then told everyone Miami Girl they talked, but she was crazy. Then now he's telling everyone he couldn't really talk to Ariana anymore because she has mental health"issues", aka crazy. Now he got close to Raquel because he could talk to her. How long before he says she's crazy?

Imagine being a 40 year old man being entirely incapable of taking accountability for your actions.

"There were so many perks to the relationship...such as the image of it all" LMAO this dude is wild

If this EVER happens to Howie's daughter. I bet he'll understand the hoopla real quick. 😂

"I don't need this house" ... proceeds to refuse to leave said shared house

This is so crazy to watch in the wake of the last episode before the finale, when we saw Rachel confronting Ariana about how she should want to have sex with Tom and questioning whether she’s even attracted to him. To hear the situation spoken about so casually is insane, as if it wasn’t a calculated, vindictive betrayal.

Howie should have just said “boys will be boys” and saved us 1:19:03

Man..howie just dismisses everything his daughter says and she's the one that actually knows whats going on.

Sandoval is a legend in his own mind and Howie is fueling his clearly inflated ego. I'm nauseated by this interview.

Thank goodness Howies daughter is there and knows what's going on. This interview should have been done by Andy.

If someone could tape Howie's mouth shut and let his daughter just run the interview that would be amazing. He's giving NOTHING.

him blaming her for not noticing as if she shouldn’t trust the person she’s been with for a decade is DISGUSTING.

They asked him probably 5 separate times if he had a conversation with Ariana explaining that he was unhappy and wanting to end the relationship and he dodged it every single time. What a joke

It is absolutely not the ending of the relationship that is worse, it’s the affair because now everyone feels betrayed, lied, & manipulated to say the least

Howie please please do not ever interview someone, when you are clueless about what is going on. This interview could have been better!

How can you interview someone embroiled in a scandal and not do your homework?

The irony of Howie talking about how stupid the TMZ interview was, as HE himself is conducting the worst, most ill-informed interview!!

He tried to break up means he tried to get her to break up with him so he could be the victim

Howie is completely missing the context of the fact that Raquel is one of Ariana’s closest friends- and the fact that Ariana was literally the only one of the group who embraced Raquel and supported her from the very beginning. And Tom is conveniently neglecting that fact. Gee Tom, it was a hard thing for Ariana to accept because you were lying to her and she was living in a completely different reality than you. If he had told her that he was having an affair with one her best friends she would have broken up with him. She DID notice that Tom was distant, he told her that he was working on the bar. She said multiple times how much she missed hanging around with him. Seriously dude, did she not notice you were distant or was she being super supportive and did a 180 because of the therapy.

The disrespect he has for his partner of 9 years is truly disgusting. I hope Ariana knows how fabulous she is and he fades into the sad irrelevancy he deserves

I’m just trying to imagine Howie justifying this if it was his own daughter this was happening to. Would that guy be “super nice and talented” still?? This is bulls***

For 7/8 months Tom and Rachael were lying to Ariana's face constantly as they were hooking up There is no excuse for this whatsoever!

Love that Howie is preaching mental health while allowing Tom to shame Ariana’s symptoms of depression

So Tom started an affair with Raquel, started therapy to break up with Ariana but told her it was to work on the relationship, told her he was distant because of the new bar. She completely trusted him, she started doing the work in therapy, was supportive and doing everything she could to save the relationship and living in an entire different reality than Tom was.

So many missed opportunities to ask relevant questions, and Howie cutting off his daughter at every opportunity and not finding anything wrong with how Tom handled this is just disgusting.

sucks to have a dad that supports a man like this. he sees himself in tom that’s why.

You guys had such an amazing opportunity to interview maybe the most sought after person at the moment and this felt CHAOTIC. Howie has no clue what’s going on lol.

Why the hell is howie trying to mansplain cheating and justify it by using mental health 🙄 disgusting

If I were Howie Mandel's wife, I'd be nervous about how easily he identified with justifying an affair

Getting a ad of Ariana during this interview is GOLD!!! ❤❤❤ GO QUEEN

How big of him to say he accepted the lack of sex. Holy shit he's blaming her for the entire affair.

this is the most unprepared, so far fetched pod cast i’ve seen in my entire life. like blind leading blind

Pretty disgusting that Tom is discussing her mental health & her laying in bed. As if she hasn't been humiliated enough by him. He sneaky insults her. "I deal with depression by getting up and grabbing life by the balls, she deals with it by laying in bed all day." The best karma..watching the Universe open up to her & seeing her absolutely blow up!

How this guy didn’t bother to binge watch season 10 for the interview is beyond. I had to sacrifice two days worth of my life to get myself up to date for scandoval.

It's funny that he claims he had such a difficult time breaking up with Ariana because she was "in denial" and "threatened to self sabotage". Yet when she figured out about his affair with Raquel, she broke it off IMMEDIATELY. Which just proves that had she known the truth from the start, it would have resulted in the end of the relationship. So gross that he forced her to go to couples therapy and only talked in "hypothetical" terms when he was actively being unfaithful ..

So basically Tom has a mid life crisis at the age of 40 and realizes he needs to “change something”. He gets a band, business, and gets rid of Arianna. He blames everything but his own actions. He’s such a joke!

Howie saying “but they weren’t married” is the biggest crock of shit ever. So unprepared for this interview.

i am not mad at Tom for falling in love with someone else, I am mad that he cheated and basically blew up their entire friend group!!

Good lordddddd the narcissism is REAL. The entire way he spoke about the scandal was ALL self-centred and took ZERO accountability for his behaviour. He justifies his behaviour by l deflecting and shifting blame to everyone but himself. The constant blaming of Ariana is disgusting. He betrayed his gf of 9 years with one of his gf’s best friends. Then they both lied and hid it behind her back for months… it doesn’t get worse than that. No wonder why Ariana lost interest in him, he lacks depth and awareness. He doesn’t have the capacity to consider others everything is only seen through his perception of what’s beneficial for him

The disgusting part is he allowed the mistress to be in his house, letting Ariana feel like they were best friends for months. She was allowed to be part of everything their group of friends did. This whole thing is not just a betrayal to Ariana, it’s a betrayal to all their friends and the people who watch the show. If Tom had been having an affair with someone outside of the friend group, it would be a whole different story. You and Rachel had an affair right in front of Ariana’s face. Stop gaslighting Ariana and take your punishment like a man.

I’m learning that Howie is a terrible judge of character

Sandavol makes Jax look like an angel 😂

Tom speaking so nicely about Rachel and trashing Ariana is the lowest of lows. Can’t even speak highly of the person you did wrong .

Here's the thing: People break up with someone pretty easily &move on quick all the time. Tom was hedging his bets. He wanted to sneak around with Rachel and keep Arianna-- that he had a house and money tied up with. He can say whatever he wants, but the bottom line is that he and Raquel are both sneaky snakes.

Howie and Tom are like 2 peas in a pod. Narcissists recognize each other.

How are you gonna do zero research before a serious ass interview such as this 💀 cmon Howie 😭

Howie talking about how his soap box is mental health yet he’s given this guy a platform to blame his partners mental health for him cheating is just… there isn’t a word for how disgusting this is.

Howie respectfully isn’t asking good questions. We need someone who actually knows what’s going on and didn’t get briefed on the topic.

I feel so so bad for Ariana… I can’t imagine seeing this and being blamed for what he did. How disgusting.

He legit convinces himself he’s a good guy for all of this 🤣🤣🤣

❗️I rewatched this interview after the reunion & secrets revealed. Tom lied through this entire interview! Howie you truly missed the boat on this one!!!!

I cannot believe how many times Howie cut Tom off to do bizarre summations. He literally would cut him off when he was revealing all the information people have been dying to get. Why 😭🤦🏻‍♀️

This is the short of it: Tom turned 40. He panicked because he’s getting older, real life is setting in, he’s not as attractive as he once was, he’s not as fun as he once was, the same things that used to make him happy and/or excited don’t anymore. He’s looking for an escape from his reality. In comes Rachel. The young, fun, new, exciting single girl that is giving Tom all the attention he so desperately needs. Classic narcissist. She feeds his ego and thinks he’s the best thing since sliced bread. This makes Tom’s brain feel really good, releasing dopamine, etc which is making him believe he’s in love with Rachel. This is called limerence. Tom’s brain is acting that of a child. One day he will wake up when the pattern with Rachel repeats. If he doesn’t get a grip on his mental health and the reason he is acting like this, he will continue to repeat the pattern. Thinking he’s found his true love of his life, reality sets in, his wandering eye is awaken, he cheats, and moves on to the next girl. Wake up, Tom! He honestly might have borderline personality disorder, but definitely Peter Pan Syndrome!

Howie. Please give Jackie more of a voice. We want Tom challenged by someone who knows the storyline.

It blew up because Ariana was ride or die for both of them. She stood up for both and had their back no matter what anyone said. That is the ultimate betrayal regardless of what problems you were facing as a couple. Tom said they both had each others back but where in this situation does Tom have her back? It couldn’t be further from the truth. He not only betrayed her but he did it with her supposed best friend who she defended to everyone who hated Raquel. That’s why it’s blown up. It doesn’t matter how far you guys have grown apart in your relationship. You have self control, act like an adult with respect for not only yourself but the nine years spent that you shared a life together, and walk away with dignity. You don’t burn the bridge in the ultimate way by cheating on her and humiliating her in front of the whole world! How is that having her back? Tom doesn’t even have his own back because he humiliated himself. Raquel is irrelevant really. She holds nothing of value in this situation because she showed her cards and she’s disgusting. A snake in the grass and the tables will turn on her at some point in her life. The jokes on both Raquel and Tom because from this point further, good luck ever finding someone who will trust you. That alone will prevent you from having a healthy relationship in your future ever again. Hope it all was worth it!

Howie is so dismissive of his daughter and also justifying the situation.

I love how no one mentioned that Rachel was very very close friends with Ariana. That’s a big huge part of the problem.

Whew not only did this confirm Sandoval is horrible but now we know Howie is too. Two men with no moral compass stroking each others egos

What Adriana said in the finale was The best assessment of who Rachel is. This girl has no identity she’s looking for her identity in men. Something to that effect. Smartest line I’ve heard in reality tv. Adriana is smart and beautiful and will have her next act. I thought they should’ve separated when she didn’t want to have kids and he wanted to be a father. Best wishes to all in the situation!

After watching this I couldn’t help but wonder… how many affairs has Howie had?

Wow watching Howie justify in every breath 7 months of cheating is about the cringiest thing I've ever seen. 🤮

THE MOST PAINFUL THING FOR ARIANA IS THE ENDING OF THE RELATIONSHIP? No that’s the best part. The worst part is the betrayal.

Unpopular opinion but I agree w Howie that Tom is getting way too much hate. I get why ppl are upset and shocked but idkw. For many seasons I saw this coming. They weren't happy anymore this break up was inevidentable. I also don't like how much Ariana is being victimized. She played a part in this r/l not working out. I mean Ariana was the other woman too!! Karma comes back around. I've been in the exact situation.

The way he failed to mention important parts of the situation - like Ariana struggling with depression due to a family loss, like sandavol trying to get his friend to hook up with Raquel despite his ex wife also being part of the cast, like James being his friend, like Ariana being the only person on the cast to be friends with Raquel. like the fact that he’s cheated in the past. And then he does this interview and is like I basically take care of the house so I’m staying - so basically fuck Ariana and the life she’s built for a decade

Why was Howie not brought up to speed about this whole situation before the interview? It's a struggle watching him justify Sandoval's actions when he's completely out of the loop.

Why are we disregarding the fact that Raquel was great friends with Ariana?! Completely being underplayed. So bizarre to take this stance without wanting to know the whole story, Howie.

Insane howie didn’t do his homework. He didn’t get the full story. No wonder he didn’t understand why everyone is attacking him 🤯

Ariana….if you watch this….I hope it helps you realize how lucky you are that he’s not your problem anymore.

I've loved Howie Mandel since I was a little kid in the 80s. Seeing him in this interview being an apologist for a dude that's sat there shaming the ex that he betrayed horribly for her struggles with mental health while Howie can't even shake a persons hand due to HIS mental health issues is hypocritical. Decades of respect that I had for the guy was washed in a single podcast. What a jerk.

Uncle Howie, with peace and love you don’t need to justify this man’s actions. He knows what he did was wrong

What gets me is Ariana saw Tom was willing to cheat on Kristen with her and then admits she knew he slept with Miami girl but went out of her way to lie in order to protect Tom (or her ego as Kristen was right) so she saw red flags early on.

the guy who lied to his girlfriend about his whereabouts (bc he was cheating) when she called distraught by her GRANDMOTHER dying? he’s commendable?? he’s all good??? wow. literally disgusting

Tom could literally say that he killed someone and Howie would say, "Well, you're human, we all make mistakes, and you're single" WTF

If Tom thought this was gonna help him look better he is delusional

The fact that Howie is babying Tom so much and has never even seen the show

I cant be the only one yelling at Howie to STFU and let Tom tell his lies 😂???

Thank you Howie for teaching me that victim shaming is an important part of mental health advocacy! Thank you! 🙃

Tom’s eyes give away the magnitude of lies he/they have concocted. His body language tells you all you need to know.

translation of this whole thing: “my narcissistic supply ran out with Ariana and I was having a midlife crisis, but I liked the image of our brand for myself so I kept her around for my benefit. at the same time I found a new narcissistic supply in Raquel because she’s young and fun to *uck and thinks I’m the best, so I kept both narcissistic supplies around for my benefit” my god he’s an insufferable and selfish human.

I'm sorry for Howie's daughter. She should've done this by herself, and Sandoval did a great job at showing us that he has no remorse and regrets. He's probably proud of himself, disgusting

#Scandoval thing is huge because it brings Season 1 - 10 to a full circle. Sandoval + Kristen. Kristen + James. James + Raquel. Raquel + Sandoval. Bizarre

He was singing with his band with Ariana & Raquel (his two women) cheering him on at the stage! He is Very sick!!!📣

Part of being a mental health advocate is also holding those accountable for their actions…plenty of people struggling with mental health don’t have 7 month long affairs in a home they share with their partner. Placating bad behavior and commending someone for openly talking about their mental health now that they got caught with their pants down disrespects those who come forward as a voice when not backed into a corner

This is some of the craziest shit I’ve ever seen or heard. Tom is beyond crazy. The fact that he has the audacity to blame Ariana for everything tells you all you need to know about him.

Lost all respect for howie. What a shame to give this man a platform and not be responsible enough to at least hold him accountable for his actions or at the very least ask some hard questions

LOL I’m cringing this whole interview because Howie was CLEARLY the wrong person to have this conversation. He doesn’t know anything! And he’s defending Sandoval while knowing nothing! Genius idea

We’re expected to believe that he tried so hard to break up with Ariana and she just refused? Sure, Jan.

this is the first and last howie Mandel podcast I will ever watch

We aren’t being unfair Howie. You don’t even watch the show.

If you go back and watch Seasons 1 and 2 you will see the exact same things were going on. Tom was living with Kristen and Kristen slept with his best friend Jax; while Tom was cheating on Kristen with Ariana. Then Kristen started sleeping with Tom's friend James. Then in the third season James admits to only sleeping with Kristen to get on the show. Then Raquel became a fan of the show, sought James out, started sleeping with him to get on the show; broke up with him; while pretending they were engaged; then Raquel started sleeping with Tom. So it's all a circle of everybody using each other sexually to get what they want. It is their group dynamic. It's why Peter doesn't have a bigger part on the show - he's too normal. He dated Stassi and Kristen; they acted a little crazy; he broke up with them. These people are incapable of relationships. They do not know this. That's why it is compelling.

They way Tom tries to remain calm and articulate and then you see his true emotion come out in spurts of temper tantrums and hysterics of believing he truly is the victim before he catches himself and goes back to playing it cool is definitely something they study in psychology classes

A weak person throws out hints. A strong person seeks solutions and communicates.

“Ariana’s way is just staying in bed all day and isolating herself”… wow. this is a partner who wasn’t emotionally there for their other half so the connection wasn’t there and she was on her own in her mental health journey. Men are just sad. The way some of them can’t account for their part of connecting to someone will always astound me.

What woman says my life will end if u brake up with me?. That is so low.....he broke up with her. What part of this do people not get? He didn't want to be with her. She wasn't honest with her friends. I wish at the reunion Tom u would of said u were broken up with her. It's a big deal because Arianna didn't tell her friends they were broken up. She didn't tell her friends they weren't having sex. She didn't want to deal with it. She always would play with everyone's relationship be there but like tom said didn't want the world to no here's was going to end. Arianna knew. That's why she let him do him because she didn't want to brake up. Now she wants to cry about it. The whole world feels sorry for her. I don't because if Tom would of told her or left her who knows she might of really hurt herself maybe killed herself. Tom or no one should have to be in a relationship when people won't let the other person go.

It's absolutely disgusting how Howie is essentially for all intents and purposes saying cheating is fine. I'm sure if his wife or if his daughters husband did this, this wouldn't fly with him.