This is Part 1 ~ Toxic Relationship Cycles, Divorce, & Your Well Being. There are many different types of toxic relationships. This is just a small part of what I experienced over 25 years. I will go more into depth in Part 2.
At work i sometimes work with this guy, he's a pain in the butt, after several years, i now hardly take to him, he's definitely a narcissist, nfc boys, your right.
I'm still in limbo, waiting for my lawyer and his lawyer to agree on anything. But I'm safe and scraping by. The world will keep spinning, husband or no!
Don't let your ex husband and his family intimidate you. If he doesn't like it he should not have mistreated you and you kids. I was a single Dad due to my ex being so toxic toward my son and violent toward us bith so I fought to take my son off her. He is now 22 and in a good place, he is in the Brittish army as a heli engineer. He did go through a lot of depression so did I but we have both come out the other end as better people. Thank you so much for sharing you story.
James McGinnis Thank you James❤️I’m so sorry you went through that! My husband was never violent to me or the kids, Thank God. Thank you for sharing💕💕💕🌟
@Joni G My syster lives in Las Vagus has done for 8years and just past the BAR in NY so hopes to stay out that way. Sounds like you love it out there...I hope to visit end of 21 if all goes well with covid. I have now had both my Vaccines for covid so fingers crossed I don't grow 2 heads or any other side effects..lol. You and your family stay safe 😃 safe
@Joni G exactly. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing it! And we don’t forgive and forget because we aren’t God. We learn by remembering. We obviously have forgiven. I have to say, there are somethings I’ve forgiven and completely forgotten until someone reminded me. So, I guess it is possible. But, remembering doesn’t mean you haven’t forgiven as long as you aren’t holding a grudge against the person.
Girl you are smokin hot..you have your whole life ahead of you and I could cry at how great you are doing!!!❤❤ please keep doing content..they lost the right to have any kind of say so and he is,mad that you are going to be massively successful on RU-vid. The greatest revenge is being better without them.
I am glad you talk slowly cause it helps us to be calm and process it better. Don't be hard on yourself cause I am glued to this channel. You are doing exactly fine. Please carry on and do not be hard on yourself cause we love the genuinely and authenticity
It's never too late..keep only positive people in your life..the rest comes along..I ve become so selective I've kept only 4 or 5 tops..a professional that knows about narc abuse and Yt videos on the subject help a lot too..I've started liking myself a lot more..choosing the wrong partner ultimately boils down to just a wake up call that we need to work on ourselves..and find help..hope you don't give up on yourself 💕
Also had a very strange story as to why my husband left me and my kids after 13 years of marriage. Hearing your story is inspirational so don’t stop - we all need to be transparent and to share and support each other
I have NEVER heard anyone share a story so close to mine. Every circumstance. Every thought. Every feeling. It is terrifying to hear it coming out of your mouth. Thank you so much for sharing your truth. I will never be all the way well. And it has been 10 years.
Keep posting videos. These are very helpful for those out there going through emotional abuse. Codependency is real, and we need to learn how to overcome it.
I have just watched your video and your description of a toxic relationship is so accurate clear and true . It was my life for 22 years . But I'm free now . Please believe that there is a good ,healthy and joyful life out there for yourself and everyone else who is lucky enough to find freedom , it just takes time . Belive in yourself , get to know YOU again , trust your instincts again and when the time is right, how every scary it is ,let love in. Stay stronge many thanks 😊 🙏.
I can tell you already know not to listen to that garbage they’re trying to put in your head. People do everything to try to keep you under their control, you’ve already freed yourself. Keep going. Don’t look back. Nobody rules you. Make your own choice, and make it for you. And keep doing videos. I recently started doing the same. You live your life, nobody else lives it for you.
What is wind and Raven? That is the question. Lick my name. I talk all about it. It also has a link to my website we can find out who I personally am. I hope that helps.
Your father was so right! My late husband’s Slogan was: you’re greatest wealth is your vital health. So so so true. Thank you for being brave - kind snd committed to helping others. ♥️💟♥️
The brain fog is no joke!!! I'm fully convinced that the through the trauma the brain is injured!!! I can remember after 2 years of emotional hell on earth, I stood on my back porch and could hear the world around me like I was hearing it for the first time in my life - birds, children playing, cars, dogs barking. That's when I knew I was going to be ok!!! God is so faithful and He loves his children! He is with us and HE IS MORE THAN ENOUGH!!! When the world walks away and we are fully broken, He runs to us! So many reject His love in those moments, and that makes me so so sad! His love is the only love worth living for! Accept it as a gift and share it! New and BETTER life will follow! Peace that passes ALL understanding that NO ONE can take away.
My husband leaving me is still pretty fresh so sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I think albeit briefly that its all just a really bad nightmare. Then reality hits and I feel devastated all over again. The chaos you talked about is so true!! He's with a woman now who is an alcoholic and they fight constantly. I still can't wrap my head around any of this and probably never will.
Being in a situation that is so difficult when you wake up do you think it’s all going to be back the way it was a very tough spot to be in. Try to remember that life is a journey, society tries to pigeonhole especially women into thinking they need to be in a couples/married relationship. If he didn’t develop a career it’s probably exceptionally hard on you. I’m very sorry you’re going through it. It does get better and eventually the pain goes away and eventually you actually do have another life. It doesn’t have to be ground it just has to be consistent. Good luck
I just found you. I went through this many years ago. My wife was cheating! Keep forging ahead, and God bless you. If I hadn't met my present wife, I fear that I would not be here today! She had the love and affection to pull me from the depths of despair. We have been happily married for 31 years.
"Your Health Is The Most Important Thing" These words are very true and spoken from a wise father. I believe that people that live through these experiences and the cyclical nature of them have to be aware of depression and not the typical short-term term depression of just sadness, but a long-term progressional depression that can lead to Major Depressive Disorder that is often treatment resistant. The cyclical nature, multiple episodes, and years of stress build up and and can lead to brain fog and many other symptoms that require professional help to work through. Thank you for sharing your experience. It takes a lot of courage.
Your videos have helped me, my ex had an affair with our couples therapist and it has been devastating to me and our children. Listening to your story has been really helpful. I hope you keep making your videos and you keep them, and don’t let his family stop you from sharing what you have been through.
When me and my ex narc boyfriend had lovely day out and i was so fuzzie with love for him! Next day he would go ice cold and a lot of the time he would finish us! This used to hurt me real bad but ot was a cycle and he did it over and over! Narcs love to cause misery.
Please continue, something similar happened to me and I've been frozen, these types of people, we have to learn how to protect ourselves and others. Don't let them bully you into silence, you're helping others to stand up too. I'm very grateful to find you
Chrissy South Afrika again this is the 5th video i wached of you in the last hour. Please keep going. Those family members have no right. They dont know what we going threw cuz they just here on side off a story so its hard for them to see the destruction. Thats their problem not yours. You have the right to share stories on your life. Its not like they supporting or helping or sympathizing. With you.
your words right now gave me so much strength! My husband of 10 years just left me four days ago.. He's a narcissist and as much as I miss him, I'm hoping I'll be strong to never beg him to come back again. We were separated back in January and he got a girlfriend in two weeks time! I cried and begged for him to come back.. he did. And now this.
Hi! I did the same thing you did!! He came back as well, for 4 days. Then he left again! This happened a total of three times. All three times I felt like my heart was splattered on!! The one thing I know is I will not give in again!!!!
@@kimmyball4961 Good.. don't..you are not dealing with a person.. there's most probably nothing there...when you get really convinced by that fact you won't even care...bonne chance!
Please don’t stop. You are inspiring to so many people including myself. You have no idea how many stand behind you while you witness only one that fell in front of you. We are the silent majority. God bless you!!!!
Our exes n their families who are upset at us can go eat their own self hatred. Keep doing what YOU WANT do girl. I get the same thing w my ex of 22 yrs, his replacement, n his family for 3 years now. It's sick. When rotten people want to ruin happy people, there's the proof they're rotted from the core. Sending all of us survivors what BADASSES we are. We shine naturally. Evil hates the light n evil will never admit they're evil and evil will always deny they lie cheat n abuse. Otherwise others would see their evil. Let's keep exposing evil together!
It’s your story your life and you have every right to tell your story. I know I stayed to long in my bad relationships. I should have left sooner. I was trying to prove that I was worthy of a great life and great marriage. Prove I was worthy of being loved by a man. My father had left my mother. And I felt everything my mother felt about herself. Unworthiness, stupid, poor, ugly. I believe it’s because life was momma and me against the world. I hated seeing her suffer. I saw it all of my life. And even watched my father beat my mother badly when I was age 5. I had seen them fight before and this was different. The events of that day sent me into hiding where I prayed for what must have been hours. And that night change my life in a profound way. To this day I feel responsible for my mother. Many times I have tried to get her to live with us. She did live with me for a year once. After breaking off the only other marriage/ Love relationship she had besides my father. I say i feel responsible because she doesn’t have a husband to take care of her and I need to be there for her but it goes a much deeper than that. She is so prideful. I took that after her too. That stupid pride kept me in those bad relationships longer. Instead of having the confidence to say I’m better than this! I stayed to prove I’m good enough, now momma is getting close to 80, still living in the city. But shes been getting scared. Just last week after a trip to the grocery store she went home turned on the news. And the reporter was saying the story she was at was just robbed. According to her register receipt the robbery happened when she was checking out. She called me because I was shot at in a store once while there picking up a rocking chair to rock my daughter. After my husband left me and I was trying to set up a home for us. Yes I’ve had bad stuff happened to me more than just bad relationships with men, I’m disabled and need help myself but I’ll drop everything and go get her and take care of my mom. I’m a fixer, fortunately my amazing husband, my best friend understands. We just cared for his disabled father in our home for over a year before we lost him to heart failure. I miss him so much! He had learned to love me as his daughter. It had always been that I was just his son’s wife, more of a temporary fixture of no real importance. Something changed in him and we became family before he died. My husband will do what ever I need him to do to help my momma. He saw that I dropped everything and went straight to the nursing home to get his dad after a 5 month hospital battle. We learned that caring for your parents is what God wants us to do. And that’s a good thing. But little girls should not be made to feel totally responsible for a parents happiness. I have learned ( it’s not how long you make it with that person you started out with. Its who stays by your side till the bitter end ! ) that’s the one worthy of you. Leslye
You sound strong and wise. With time, your life will blossom, his will not. you are out of a toxic relationship, he has spiraled into a poisonous one. He will never be happy because of what he has done to someone who loved him. See his act of betrayal as a huge blessing in disguise. Take care of your health, as your dad says, as it is the most important thing we have in life.
Thank you so much for being strong enough to share so much of your pain. I admire you and being vulnerable enough to share your story in order to help others. Because you’re a real human being & hearing it through the person who experienced it rather than a psychiatrist or other “professionals” talking about this type of abuse. It never comes through authentically from anyone but the person who experienced it. I can’t believe how strong you are after it’s only been over a year and a half (from what you mentioned in prior videos). Much 💕 love.
The timing of your videos are meant for people when they need to see them. I have been divorced for 3.5 years but was in a toxic relationship right after that and it continued on until I wasn't providing a benefit to her anymore and started seeing a new supply while we were together. I have moved on from that and it is a struggle because they check the lines just to see if u are there and I give in and thats when it hurts me the must. I love the strength that u have in your videos and just keep on, we will overcome this and better things await!!! Much Love to you!!
You've got this! Do not stop! Keep pushing! Keep fighting! Even if these videos only help you, then they are worth it! This is one of the most beneficial therapies you can do for YOU! I actually have a wonderful husband. He has never hurt me, never cheated on me, only unconditional love. However, I still fear he will leave me - even after 13 years- because of how my dad treated my mother and me. You are strong, you are beautiful, you are brave! Please keep fighting this fight and posting these videos! ❤❤❤
Jennifer, you are an amazing woman! I applaud your courage to share your story and being transparent. Just keep on being you. God will give you the words to say when you need to say them. Your voice will be a light to many! 😁
Nicely presented. I've seen a few of your videos and your sincere parting words are most inspiring. One component to meditate on is why we get stuck with toxic people. They destroy how you view yourself. They constantly blame so we take that on and think (erroneously of course) that if we just do better things will change. If I were only good enough this would change, they would change. That, of course rarely happens. Keep doing what you are doing. I wish I had your courage!
Dam, I am glad you didn’t stop! You would Have been giving them control! Some may think that’s not control or that’s not that big of a deal. Yes it is!!! So glad to see you stood your ground. Silence in the situations, I learned from my brother who was a drug and alcohol Counselor after getting clean. Won’t go into much but basically. Broke up with me. Living together. Knew each other all our lives. Dating and living together for 2 years. The very next day, he moves his new girlfriend in! Yeah. I lived in a house with his sister. He got divorced moved in. Well his sister couldn’t believe it. Whatever. So days go on. I started working out and just said F ‘k it!! Would go out to friends house etc. well… every time I came home it was like the 5th degree. I was like 25-26. Where have you been? Not that I am being busy but ya know you could have the decency to let people know so they don’t worry! Stuff like that. She, the newby, sitting right by him. So at first I would say something crappy back. That was just the way I was but his words started getting really mean. They both had lost their jobs, so I was the target as he started regretting and wax agitated because he who thought he had control was living his job, she did, so… Crying one day , my brother happened to call. He knew Michael very well . And this was some of the best advice he gave me. After I told him the whole story, he said. Why do you feel the need to respond to him. I said well actually, I would like to just be civil. We are living in the same house and my axx is not moving out! He said ok ! But you realize what he’s doing right? I said yeah being an AH! He says well he’s that anyway and always has been. That’s not it. Your his ace in the hole. Every time you walk in at night after being out, he needs to know what you have been doing in case he needs to change his game plan . This already isn’t working out. They are both out of work, his party is petering out already. Once you respond to him, he has control. He’s going to keep saying things to tick you off until he finds out where you have been, with who etc. You are his ace in the hole! So you want to be civil. Who ever said you had to talk to someone to be civil! So that’s what I started doing. Every time I would. Come home, he would start his crap, it was like he was invisible! Completely ignore him. There’s many ways people gain control. Glad you didn’t give them any.
I hope you get better soon coz you have been through so much, you deserve to be happy. Me I meditate and connect with my higher self, and since i started doing that things have gotten a lot better for me. Im 22 and i am woke but still havent found my purpose yet. I know i will be fine.
Well, unfortunately I lost my wife to cancer after 20+ yrs of marriage. It’s no less heart wrenching and devastating. One goes through all the emotions, did I do everything I could? Why did she leave me? I didn’t want to go on...I decided that I was not going to allow this tragedy to destroy me. So I moved forward and made a choice to be happy. ❤️
I know this video is from awhile ago but i pray u can still share your truth! I too have been through this with a narcissist! By not speaking out he still is controlling you, so i pray if you feel the need to load more videos on your journey that you will! Helping others makes it a lil better when you look back upon what you been through im sure. It does me! Being with someone so controlling changes your life and is like nothing anyone can really explain as they try and smear your name, put blame on you and turn people against you etc. I thank you for these videos. Mine did all the above and i cant even get a job in my town becouse of the lies and rumors. He now has run off since he can no longer controll me and realizes he cant, and now wont give me a divorce!! I last spoke to him in oct 2020, when he said he wouldnt divorce me cause one day we may get back together . as i begged him to plz get it cause he was thanking me for making him a better man!! Smh! Telling me he has a house and how good he is doing while im staying with family and can't find a job! I wished him well and promised to never speak to him again. I did however print out divorce papers and send word for him to plz sign them while he checked the message and didnt respond. Anyways again thank you for these videos!! I too pray that i can look back in a year and have this chapter closed and be happy!! God bless !!
Speak your truth beautiful girl! God is the wind behind you pushing you into your destiny! The enemy wants you to quit! Because your story is a healing balm and strong force for good to others who are suffering abuse and horrible chaos in their lives! Your content is gold! Be strong and be bold being yourself and speaking out your story👊🙏🐬💕
I'm really enjoying your content x I'm just binge watching now. Please continue to share your journey into your new, happier, more fulfilling life. God bless you xx
Your videos have just been recommended to me, and while I haven’t had any experiences such as this, I’ve learned so much by watching your videos. I hope you’re doing well and have been able to find peace and closure❤️ god bless you and your children
Girl I’m hooked on your content and overall the message you are hitting the target 🎯 with the messages you received from all of it! Keep sharing Beautiful, lots of people need to hear our truths-I like you have figured it out because I’ve been going through it a long time but most of these young girls have no clue what they’re in for so you’re helping a lot of ppl with these truths
I do feel alone because I have been used and hurt so much. I love to find the right woman one of this days and be happy again and make her happy again too
Jennifer you are an inspiration. I would agree your health is everything. This is therapy for you and your followers. I know you are suffering and traumatised. Forgive those who have hurt you. Not for thier sake but for yours. May God bless you and heal you.
Sometimes quitting is the best way to stop failing. Its ok. : ) When you are too tired to go on swimming, its time to quit failing as a fish and crawl out on land. Fish metaphors help... I have quit before and the pain did not last as long as the pain of being cheated on.
You opened my eyes,to my ex After 17 years of being with a boyfriend Now you look beautiful and smart Write a book and call it ex's are ex's for a reason 😅
I never comment but I just need to say “you’re awesome, stay strong, keep going! Love your videos! I’m currently in the exact same position as you...everyday gets better than yesterday!
Realize this is June but please continue posting your series. You haven't used their names so I don't see where they could object. Wishing you continued healing and prosperity! Now this new revelation is ...I have no words.
I just found your content! Please don't stop. Write a book or two or three!! You are absolutely gorgeous. He f'd up big time!! Did you go on the divorce diet after or have you always had a great figure? Great personality...you deserve so much more!!
This happened to me but you have to toughen up. Pray like never and say psalm 91 every day. You can do this as time goes by you will realize that the Lord is separating you from things that he doesn’t want you in. Don’t ever show defeat
Found your videos randomly, and I find you have a very commonsense approach to your issues. I, as many, have dealt with much the same situation. Great videos, you're cool as shit; best of luck.
Such good advice Jennifer. Well done for going through the ordeal again and coming up with your logical reasoning of the whole scenario which more than likely helps you as well as, to what ever degree, helping other people. All power to you and the very best for your future. Thank you. :)
I didn’t quit and never have quit anything. Divorce was forced on me. I believe that all people have the ability to change with the Lord. HOWEVER, they have to submit to the Lord. You can’t make anyone stay in a relationship especially a marriage. And I was married to a Christian MAN raised in the mission field! Yet, when we separated which he had left home many times, he went on a dating site and met the woman he divorced me for. He dated her while married to me and introduced our kids to her. He was still my husband. He had an affair three years into our marriage which I forgave him. I’ve realized people will do what they want no matter what. Being a Christian and a godly man are two different things.
What a selfish man to do and tell you something like that while you were 5 months pregnant.😢 Everyone knows emotional stress could cause you to loose the baby or hurt the baby.
Never date a tattoo artist, their choice of career is to intimate with the opposite sex with a permit reminder of that interaction for the client who often feels a connection thru that, the artist only makes money when they build loyal clients with many of these interactions and "friendships" or "relationships" are built...it also seems glamorous and fun because they are not the person working in tge background to buy that shop or ink or gloves etc. Tattoo artist live in a different world that a loyal committed relationship can not survive.
