Toxic relationships | Make you mine (Kdramas) 

- NAME OF MUSIC, COLORING AND DRAMAS IN THE DESCRIPTION - I use the term "form" to describe the aesthetics of audiovisual content, i.e. music, special effects, everything that shapes and is a way of presenting a story, a behavior, an object. I call "object" a behavior, here the unhealthy, violent behavior, with the warning signs of abuse, that is to say something that IS represented by the “form” but exists independently of it. - There is a difference between portraying an unhealthy relationship presented explicitly as such and promoting an unhealthy relationship by romanticizing unhealthy behaviors. - Here it is about romanticization of explicitly unhealthy behaviors. It is voluntary, it is a criticism to show the problem of the romanticization of unhealthy behaviors. This video was made as part of an academic project dealing with the special case of romanticization in an analysis of the consequences of the representation of unhealthy behaviors in kdramas. i have not yet decided whether i will include it, although it was my original plan. In any case, let me roughly explain the purpose of this video. It was meant to be included in a section of my explanation dealing with the discrepancy between the "form" (the music, the special effects) and the object (the unhealthy behavior) in the case of romanticization. The point is to show how uncomfortable it is to romanticize unhealthy behaviors when you use behaviors that are EXPLICITLY unhealthy. In the case of romanticization, we are not dealing with explicitly unhealthy behaviors, i.e. behaviors that are presented as such. Nor is it an implicit denunciation of unhealthy behaviors. It is a perpetuation of unhealthy behaviors by a romanticization of them. The purpose of this video is to show how disturbing the aestheticization of a relationship that is explicitly presented as unhealthy by the original work is. It is to show how the romanticization of behaviors that are not explicitly unhealthy is a problem, which is what I criticize in my explanation. When a creator takes a relationship that was presented in the original work as unhealthy and romanticizes it, everyone sees the problem (which I do here); but when a creator takes a relationship that was NOT presented in the original work as unhealthy and romanticizes it, no one sees the problem. Even though the "object", i.e. the behavior itself, is the same in both cases. It is just not presented in the same way in the original work. This video is therefore intended to show the difference between an explicitly toxic relationship, which I often call " portraying a toxic relationship " and a relationship that is neither implicitly nor explicitly toxic, which is presented as a healthy and normal relationship, which I often call " promoting a toxic relationship ". I don't know if I was clear in this comment that I wrote in one breath. But my explanation, done as part of my philosophy studies, is coming soon, to better clarify my point. In the meantime, I refer you to all my previous videos on the subject, and I thank you for helping me in the realization of this video. Thanks for watching, see you soon!

I really like the song choice, it adds more than just a tinge of creepiness it adds obsession and toxicity of that relationship, some may think that the relationship is that rose in your garden but in reality they are the thorns. "Till I make you mine", many people think it's so romantic but it isn't if that person isn't respecting your choice.

At first I was little bit confused by the music and the difference with the scenes shown, but the longer and more attentively I listened to the lyrics, the more the whole video made sense. And it disgust me, these types of romanticizations of toxic, manipulative relationships have always disgusted me, be it in real life or in fiction. But even though this disgusted me, I still appreciate the art and the hard work you put into this because topics like these should be discussed and not dismissed nonchalantly.

In the beginning people won't notice what toxic behaviors were portrayed, but you could already see jealousy and controlling behaviors as you watch the video, you will see mentally abusive behaviors and almost at the end you will see physical abusive behaviors, it's not normal to grab or make your lover feel pain, as it is dangerous for someone's life, I'm 14 and still learning more about those subjects to protect myself in future relationships and protect myself so that my traumatic experience won't happen again. Thank you for making this video it helps me know about these subjects.

i have heard the song before a couple of times in a drama edit but never went for the lyrics nor did i realise that the song itself is also romanticisation of toxic relationships....everything in the videos gave me creepy chills. Thankyou for yet another eye opener!!!

To all the ladies, im older now, so ive seen and lived through many different times. There are things I can guarantee you. If he makes you uncomfortable even for a minute, get away from him. If he begs you to give him a chance, he needs you, you understand him, run. He won't change because you love him. Your life matters, you don't need anyone who treats you less. Don't make excuses for toxic behavior ever. Stay healthy, happy and safe always.

I won't lie, since I'm so used to you directly criticising toxic relationships I was a bit confused at first 😂 Then as I progressed through the video it finally hit me: you were showing how the direction of a scene can change the way we perceive the actions of a character! This was very well done 👏🏽 The execution was great, I felt uncomfortable the whole time and the ending gave me goosebumps! Also don't worry, your pinned comment was very clear and I'm happy you once again shared your thoughts with us because I feel like a lot of kdrama fans still don't understand all this. I hope reading you words will make them understand that we aren't against dark themes being depicted in kdramas, we just don't want them to be romanticised. Once again thank you for your hard work! I hope your academic project will get you a high grade because you deserve it ❤ If you decide to include this video in ir may I suggest you add some of the reactions your video got? I'm saying this because I think some of those comments are very interesting! But anyway! Have a nice day 💗

before i read the note i was just like "what the heck was the editor thinking about ???" it was so fucked up, like a creepy clown in a dark street, the "happy" beat, the kinda obssessed lyrics, the scenes that goes from "happy" love to abuse and even murder was a really interesting way to demonstrate how romantization of toxic and abusive relationships in fictions is fucking up people's brain and why it should make us unconfortable to see it, even when the author is traying to make it "aesthetic" and all "cute"...... that was a really great idea, people should watch it and give it way more attention, it's more important than some may think :/

I've been waiting for this edit. I'm honestly disturbed by people who ship such couples. Some types of love aren't always good or nice. Especially if it's borderline obsession.

My ex used to be like this. He's obsessive, possessive, and extremely jealous. He wouldn't let me hangout with my male friends. He wouldn't let me wear shorts. He stalks me on social media and at my home. He will get mad if I talked to guys or get close to them. He always threatened to break up if I get close to guys. He always victimized himself and made me feel bad by saying "what if I were to get close to any girls, would you like that?!". I had enough and am really glad that I end things with him 2 years ago. Now I'm going thru a self-healing process. I've been hurt enough.

Such a cute and joyful song for couples who doesn't give their significant other freedom lmao Edit : now I read it and looked at the video again, "I won't stop until I make you mine" sounds possessive

Great edit. I loved how you started this off with just the clips of them being in "love" or the toxic protagonist "showing their love". Then how it fades to the toxicity; the control & how they must know and be involved in everything about their partner. Lastly, how it ends in the abuse the victim must endure. It really was powerful and summarized really wonderfully how some toxic relationships can really progress and turn into.

Art that arouses the desire to make art in others is the art that captures the essence of what it is supposed to be. And I swear to whatever god I believe in, when I see your edits, about representation in KDrama and various aspects around it, I almost want to make something similar. You make me want to follow in your footsteps and that's a rare feeling for me. I don't know how to describe just how much I value your videos.

You never fail to impress me with your works. everything's on point, great job! ❤

Please tell me non of these couples are meant to be a romantic pairing in their original series. I have goosebumbs.

Whoa the start! (Watching live) I just really am thankful for the fact that atleast someone bothers to point out and say HEY THIS IS NOT OK!! all your videos are just well put together!

I've seen many videos of yours depicting toxic relationships and romantcization of toxic behaviors and all of them have been an eye opener! I dont think you take requests but i really want to see your presentation of a healthy relationship! You have one video about it but i really want to see more of it T_T

The song choice is top notch! Sums up perfectly! One of my fav relationships (as in how it was portrayed) is the one of law school because of how real it was!

I have been watching your videos for quite a long time now and you are doing an amazing job in educating people that love is different from abuse, jealousy, domination etc. Especially when all this is so normally showcased as true love in several kdrama and other series. You should include Thai dramas too They are on top when it comes to abusing, manipulating, and controlling women in the name of love and care.

I loved the song in this video. Before when I heard this song I thought it was cute and romantic. But in this video it can also portray a very different meaning. "I won't stop until I make you mine" it sounds possessive and creepy here. Great work!❤❤

this deserves so much attention i love this masterpiece

I felt sad watching this compilation, knowing how real these kinds of relationships are in the everyday world around us and yet the entertainment industry plays on the emotions of gullible viewers, the majority of whom are still so naïve about toxic relationships. But is it really naivety or just an "I don't care" attitude because people like to think that such relationships are only limited to dramas? I say this because I was disturbed with some of the comments I read here on RU-vid about the 2021 kdrama " Nevertheless" - so many people were rooting for the ML and FL to get together and couldn't understand what the big hype about how unhealthy their relationship was. People are truly veiled or in denial or couldn't care less about the seriousness of the romanticization of toxic relationships.

Can you make a video about toxic friendships and how they are justified. I always see such friendships in kdramas. I recently watched full house and i realized how toxic the female lead's friends are. And i hate the way that the writers made it as comedy and gave them a very happy ending without any punishments for their misdeeds. This is the reason i ask you to make a video abt toxic friendships. Please include full house in it.. Ps:- If you can i would like see a bl au fmv about Jidwi and Sunwoo from hwarang. I love their ship.

omg I got chills ! the editing was so good T~T I always used to joke around with my friends about this song having a creepy meaning but seeing my it on an actual edit like this shook me 😬 well done ❤️

At first, I was quite shocked by the music choice because the cutesy, romantic feeling was so jarring when paired with the video content. However, after a little while, it made complete sense. The video definitely made me uncomfortable (but in a good way!!!). Thank you Marie TB for making these types of videos ~ many Asian dramas like to romanticise these types of relationships, making it seem like the main female protagonist could be the one to ‘change’ the problematic male character. However, it is NEVER the female lead’s responsibility to do so. I think this translates well into real life too ~ however, this goes for all relationships. It is never someone’s responsibility to try and change someone else for the better. This video has definitely given me a new perspective on this song ~ the idea that someone ‘won’t stop’ until they make someone their significant other is actually really problematic and scary, and I’m glad these issues are being discussed in such an engaging way☺️☺️

Please, if you are in such horrible situation with your man now - run away, there will be no happiness and no calm life, only destruction and harm. I wish every woman will be loved without being humiliated and beaten. If your partner abuse you in any way - please try to cut with him, there’s no way he will change. No way ‘cause he’s not a child but a man with not normal psychology and your children need to be born in a happy family, so try to think about your own feelings more, more about your further life and happy end. Wish you all the best, ladies! Be happy and healthy!

Looking forward to your elaborate comment because I think some of the examples are not the canon pairing, and the creator has set up the storyline in which viewers should have understood the toxic behavior portrayed is not meant to be romanticized in any way (e.g. Han Seok & Cha Young; Ye Seul & her abuser).

This is such a new concept editor-nim , I never realised that this song has that obsessive vibe , Well Done 👍💜

Holy shit. Got chills by the choice of scenes and music. So clever!!

love the song choice!! amazing edit as always💗

1:39 law school really fits the addicting and deceiving melody. It's her story about her boyfriend physically and mentally hurting her and manipulating her. She can't do anything but to keep quiet because her boyfriend has connections in law school.

Shit that was fucking terrifying but I am glad you made this video, i think your work are amazing

0:07 that smile really scares!

This kind of made me want to cry, making me imagine a different timeline where all these couples could have been healthy and happy together

I see that the toxic persons in here are good looking. This is why good looks is a marketable currency. We accept far more toxicity from good looking people than if they were average.

You’ve probably heard it a million times but the song choice really is amazing

the irony of this song. i was in a toxic relationship before and my ex dedicated this song to me...

Ur edit never disappoint us ♥️

2:33 That's the worst thing I know. People who are using genuinely true tropes and sayings in order to manipulate the situation to their favor. A relationship does require trust, but that doesn't mean you guilt someone into it by saying so. I grew up with an abusive mother and she'd use a lot of sayings and platitudes in manipulative guilt tripping ways to make me feel bad. It's such a twisting and gaslighting of reality to say something that is true, but use it in a perverse way. It's why gaslighting overall is so insidious, making someone question reality, their emotions, dismissing them and their experiences. It's what makes it so hard to see it for what it is, because the best lie told is one with a little twist of truth, so using a saying or genuine insight into truths into life in order to further a lie puts a veil over it. Abusers do this a lot.

HOLY SHIT! i fucking got goosebumps all over my body, you did a great job chosing the music, its just a masterpiece

Wow you're so talented. I have honestly seen many people who make these types of videos but u are the one who made me shudder while watching this video. I hope everyone who is in the same relationship is safe and will find a way out of it. P.s. You have a new subscriber.

This song has a stalker vibe going not because of the edit tho…since I came across it. But it’s open to interpretation for anyone who listens to it 🤷‍♀️

Another great work to discuss about abusive behaviour in relationship..

wow your videos are amazing, you are so good at choosing songs, dramas and the style!

Sometimes i don't understand men why are they so obsessed with woman - Remember when you love someone you will never hurt her in fact you will give what best for her. You can't force love especially if he's not really for you. You just have to wait for the Right person

Happiness has the one of the few healthy relationships in kdrama

Wowwwww. Did not expect that song choice but it was so perfect???? this is so good-

This song was so sweet But now this part " you know that I won't stop until I make you mine"🙂😂

Honestly as the video went on I understood your message behind this and I'm glad you decided to made a video on this topic because it's really important for people to know that what exactly the word 'toxic' and 'toxic relationships' mean. You did a fabulous job💜

I won’t be able to listen to the song in the same way now 💀

How can you be this mature i know there is nothing bout your maturity but how can you be so thoughtful how old are you?

More people should see your edits. Many people always romanticizing toxic relationships

I can never listen to this song same again !!! But loved the edit

First i saw the title i was like r u crazy or what sry” lol But after i watched the whole vd I realized this is the masterpiece thanks for this

the music: 🤩🤩🤗🤗🥰🥰 the content: 😨😨👥👥🏃‍♀🏃‍♂

the lyrics of the song have always bothered me a little so seeing this video and reading the comments i'm glad to see that i wasn't the only one

perfect song with perfect roles

LMO Earth was a drama that gave me chills. The first scene is from episode 30 and that episode is the most creepiest thing I have ever watched. Even the title of that episode is "My Ex is Obsessed with me". Idk how can people watch these things while romanticizing it. Its creepy to know that this kind of stuff happens in real life too.

I can’t wait for the video your premiering I really loved Tomorrow it had me crying 😭

It's not love it's just a obsession!!

1:25 what episode is this scene from?

This is so deep, I want to take this video to my grave 💀 AND UGH the editing it's so amazing

this is such a cool concept. good job!

All these people need counseling. That was not love 😢

Funny how they used such a cute song 🤣🤣🤣 i loved the song edit of Bad Buddy so much.

Now I can't listen to this song the same way I used to 😳 but great video it's really annoying how some people think that loving someone means they own that human and that person doesn't have any freedom to make new friends or talk to other people, It's Not Romantic It's Pure Toxic.

I like the Song choice

I won't be able to listen to this song the way I used to cause of this edit... but srsly Thnx for making this edit and showing people that this is not love but toxicity

Love your work. Thanks!!

HES SO CUTE AND HANDSOME 😍😍😍😍

Thank you for using this song! Bc I hate the shit out of it and how disturbing the lyrics is, yet the tone is so cheerful, man I hate it.😣

i feel so bad she have to go through that🙁

0:25 the way i thought he was a good person at first 💀

Love the ironic music. Amazing edit as always! I was surprised i missed this one!

I appreciate you make this video and put end message.

So far most of the shows I’ve seen in this list are surely disturbing, I’m so glad they weren’t romanticised in original sources either but the ones I feel much sad about is The World of the Married and Love in Sadness cause these ladies were stuck with these dude lawfully as their husbands. Having met at a really young age and being married right off “in love” whilst not having the chance to escape and face real meaning of love.

This is honestly amazing

This song is a double edged weapon

I was so ready to ship those two in My Name until he did what he did and became a villain and I was like damn there’s goes that one

Thanks for this edit I have received the message pass through it

Hong Cha-young and her intern also hits different.

I have watched couple of dramas and the only drama i liked like felt romance is perfect was search www..like all three couples...one has a divorce and honestly that showed he actually loved her and respected her as a human being and not as a trophy wife.. one ml did not interfered in the female lead's work life and that took my heart like you know how screenwriters writes fl as a competent enough and still whenever she is in problem ml just magically appears and solve that for her or someone will solve that and she did not even have to lift a finger.. I hate that archetype..

the 00:12 timestamp is wrong it's from Come and Hug Me (the guy is the psycho who was trying to impersonate the killer)

Start: fear Middle: force End: death

is there a let me of the earth trailer? i cant find it can someone send the link

Beautiful series 🥺❤️

Best one is love in sadness 💞😻

I had a toxic ex, who was a stalker, an abuser mentally and physically.

3:47 what episode??

I really really really really LOVE this !!🤩

I think guys like that genuinely really love the girl they just don’t know how to express it and just imagining the girl being from someone else they get really stressed and then their anger issues mix in with that and it becomes a huge mess we see a lot of them kill the girl but then they’re heart broken their anger got in the way and they did something the didn’t mean without thinking I have severe anxiety and anger issues and I yell a lot without thinking and then I break down crying feeling bad

Hello my twenties is such a masterpiece show

XX : Link:Eat-Love-Kill

Its so good in edit and choosing seans nice

Why all the psychopath here so hot 🔥 literally but it's still TOXIC. Relationship like this may only look nice in dramas & movies but in real life it's like living in HELL .💫

I have always thought that song is kinda weird but damn.... now it's super creepy🥲

I would like to appreciate the song choice because I've always found the lyrics to be quite creepy..

Lmao its funny cuz my lil brother used to play this song out loud and I'd listen to the lyrics and go "why does this happy upbeat song give me such stalker vibes" Esp the part about 'you know that i won't stop until i make you mine' sounds downright possessive & toxic. No wonder i never liked the song.

0:59 tf does he mean by that?

0:03 Literally all I could focus on was his lipstick lol. the actor is cute, can someone tell me his name?