Trans Men Share What It's Like to Come Out as Transgender | Tell A Stranger 

It's so refreshing to see adults talk about trans related subjects, instead of just teens or young adults. Of course it's great to hear stories from all age groups but adults/middle aged adults are rarely heard in the midst of the youth. This type of representation is also very nice because young trans guys can get an idea of what to expect (in terms of appearance etc.) when they become adults.

Not to be angsty or anything, but I don’t think I can express how much it means to see older trans people. For a while, I didn’t think we could live that long. Thank you so freaking much for this.

"Hi Cal"... So much power in those two words. I sincerely hope that ALL non-het/non-cis folks can experience that depth of love. Right now. Today.

“Shape shifting, that was survival.” That hit me so hard, so grateful to hear another perspective because I’ve struggled with guilt with not coming out sooner. I felt I was weak or a coward but really I was just trying to survive until I was strong enough and safe enough to do so.

Inspiring guys. I’m a trans man and came out to my mom over ten years ago, and my dad six years ago. They never accepted me and probably never will, but my mom has told me she will never disown me. I had a dream last night she called me by my chosen name.

I’m a Cis-man, but it’s so refreshing, so warming to my heart to see these two brave men talk about their experiences and listen to each other with profound empathy. The world needs more of that, and more people like them.

I know the guy with the tattoos he's super sweet. Always made feel good inside.

As a transman, these stories are so relatable, sat here wth tears. Thank you guys for this.

as a transgender boy, this is what i needed to hear. i just recently bought my first binder and this video in particular is giving me more courage to do things to be myself. thank you

My transgender son and my two daughters are the greatest joys of my life. I always wanted a son..........and now I have one ❤️🌈🇨🇦So many tears watching this

“All my life all I wanted was my father’s acceptance” hit so close to my heart & I’m not transgender. It’s proof that a lot of us have “daddy issues” regardless of who/what we are.

I needed to hear this I’m a trans girl and I always feel alone and scared but I have a good supportive mom and friend group

Two handsome men who's story I really appreciate hearing. Thank you for sharing this

I cannot like this video enough. I hate that society dictates 'coming out' and it being so difficult to be who you feel you are - whether it be transgender, gay, body issues, or mental health. I hope stories like this open others' eyes.

WoW. I can't imagine how trans-people feel knowing they were born in a sexual identity that they didn't identify with. I am happy to hear when they finally get the correct identity. Many blessings to you.

Damn, the replies on a lot of these comments are frickin brutal holy crap. How can you hate on people who try to live their truth and be happy?

I want to have deep conversations with my future children and tell them I will always love them no matter what they could be transgender, gay, bisexual etc. I will always support them.

I don’t care how much you disagree with people transitioning. If you claim to be Christian and hate on those who have different beliefs than you, you aren’t a real Christian. God says to love EVERYONE, even if you disagree with them. Maybe you believe that gender is totally biological, but they don’t. That’s okay though. All of us have the right to think and speak of our own will, including many of you scrolling through the comments just to reply with disapproval. Question: if y’all despise trans people so much, why do y’all search up these videos to begin with? Just let people do whatever they want with their lives and their bodies! If someone wants to get lip injections to the point that they look like a duck, I’ll probably not support it, but at the end of the day, they aren’t hurting anyone by looking like a duck. That's a light-hearted example. Trans people on the other hand are in a slightly different situation. Transitioning is a whole different topic that's way more serious, and I have deep respect and immense support for trans people, but the concept goes the same way. If a transgender man decides to take testosterone to achieve its effects, it doesn't affect you🤷. It's their damn body, not yours ffs. If y’all want to debate me, I’m up for debate. But my support lies with the trans community.

I am 31 and this guy made me cry. I keep having this feeling like it's too late and seeing him triumph through transition just gives me hope.

"I've known. Even I didn't necessarily have language for it, but I've known..."

This made me cry . It was happy tears. I used to be so closed minded. It wasnt until a friend of mine committed suicide that I actually started to educate myself on this. My friend was born female but identified as male. I couldn't understand those feelings. I love being a woman. I tried to understand it when he was talking to me but it was still difficult. I tried to be supportive . He said I was one of the only supportive people in his life. That saddened me. There is nothing that my kids could tell me that would make me love them any less. My daughter came out as part of the LGBT community a few years ago. I sat her down and said her name and told her I would love to meet her girlfriend and the only thing important to me is her being well and happy . She cried which made me cry . I think it brought us closer though. God gave me my children as a gift. I think every parent should look at their children that way and accept them for who they are. To me, if that happened suicides would drastically drop, especially among our youth. God bless

"There is always hope." As a mother of a trans young man, this is what I try to tell him... and myself. Life throws such curveballs and sometimes it's almost too much to bear. But, as my mom taught me, Love is the thing that heals and if we have that to share then we can find that glimmer of hope and come out to something beautiful on the other side. Bravo to these men and all who are struggling with their own shapeshifting.

As a person that came out as a transgender male a bit older in life, this makes me feel extremely emotional. It's so relatable. Watching this has helped me feel a bit more confidence in who I'm becoming. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

As someone who's questioning their gender, this felt so good to watch

This is for everyone whose down *if your trans your basically levelling up to be the best you you can be* So in a way you're a *pokimon* be happy you're different Hope this made you feel better

I needed to see & hear this today. I am 51 & it took losing my Brother/Best Friend this year to finally come out as transgender. He knew & that was good enough for me but now he is gone & I have to continue on....with a little help from my now Angel😇😇

I’m a guy. I was born in a girl body. I was born with a problem that I have to deal with and I am. Once this problem gets delt with life goes on. Get over the bump and spend the rest of your life normal and happy. That’s how I see it

My baby came out to her Dad and me at the age of ten as a gay female. We were struck by her courage to speak with us but she still was just a child and I said "let's wait till you hit puberty before we slap any labels on you". Sure enough she got older - and at 12 1/2 she came to me again and said "I got my period. BTW - still gay." Which was both comical and affirming to me that this child KNOWS herself. But that was not the end of the story. Later that same year - she told us she was trans. She said she was a boy and so HE became my son Dominic. YES sure there were moments where her Dad and I struggled to understand everything. But now - as we travel down this road together - it isn't anything. It's simply my son being himself. And I couldn't be prouder of him.

Two beautiful men. I'm glad they survived the journey.

The best way for people to understand others is by listening to their stories.

im a trans guy wand watching this has made me cry so much . My parents are not supportive and very transphobic but this is really giving me hope that one day they will finally see me for me and not someone they want me to .

This is incredible... to go against what everything deems as normal, risking everything.. just to be able to be yourself. See how precious that is.. Please. Live your truth.

It hit me hard when he said it’s too draining trying to figure out how to stay more feminine

I’m a straight cis woman, but, all I want to say is that if my daughter or son comes out as trans, I’ll still love them as much as I have since the day they will be born. Children are a blessing, and they deserve love and happiness. I will give them the best life ever and I swear that. 💕

Vulnerability = Courage Thank you both for your leadership. Your courage inspires and lifts us all.

Don't let people degrade you, instead show them who really you are, and what good things you can do to the society,

When the first guy finally said he and his dad were fine i realized I had held my breath for a while. I’m so happy for these two wonderful guys that they are ok, that they made it through and are now their true self. So beautiful, thanks for sharing.

What resonates with me so much is the knowing for so long. I "didn't have the language" when younger too, but if my family had actually been listening instead of unthinkingly repeating, "you're just a tomboy" to me at every turn, my language could have developed much more rapidly. Working on forgiving is no joke. (lol, just a little more unpaid labor)

“It can save lifes if you can just open your heart a little bit“ oh my god. The whole video. You could really feel their connection.

The second guy’s story really hit me. I’m 31 and just took my first shot of T last week. I’m so sick of hiding.

I can't imagine anything tougher than going from being a girl to a man. That's badass bro.

These two gentlemen are GORGEOUS inside and out. 😍

I recently came out as nonbinary to my parents and it didn't go well. Seeing this lifts my spirits so much to see that you can still come back even the darkest of places. I think I'll be okay :')

I'm a black transmen I'm 17 and Pre-T and this made me cry a little bit.. I came out already but my mother still refer to me a female I'm still fighting day by day but I think she will come through soon

They both seem so nice. Great on camera and are total empaths, you can tell.

Hello, I’m korean boy!! 🇰🇷🇰🇷🇰🇷 I love your video 🙆🏻‍♂️🙏🏻❤️

I'm a trans man, 17, I cried so hard watching this. I'm not out to my mother yet, she's straight, Christian, conservative, and like the man on the left said, she wants that for me too. I was almost certain she'll never accept that I'm transgender and will never see me as a real man, but I feel hope now that she'll still love me when I'm able to come out to her.

More of this type of chats should be done.

As a female slowly transitioning to male, I feel so much better and am ready to come out to my mom about this subject. Wish me luck on this one. :'))

As a trans guy this was really inspiring and touching. It truly is okay to be who you are. You are loved and to the trans guy or girl if No one else accepts you please know that i do. *hugs*

I wish the world could some day come to a place where the concept of "coming out" its not necessary, I wish people could just be themselves in every aspect with no prejudices

When he talked about his mum replying with 'Hi Cal', I couldn't keep it together. I'm so glad they both got the acceptance they deserve. I think that a lot of families need to realise that there is a difference between accepting who someone is and tolerating who someone is. When I came out, my parents told me that they loved me but they didn't think that they could 'do the whole name and pronouns thing' and it really stings. I know it must be hard for my parents to understand that I'm not and was never their daughter, but I feel so much worse. I feel depressed and dysphoric about everything. I feel guilty because of what I'm putting everyone around me through. I feel ashamed that I am transgender. I think about how whatever happens I will never be cis. I pray and wish that I could just be normal. And every day I wonder how they could not acknowledge it and act on it even after I told them. And I know other people have it worse and I am so sorry for anyone in a bad place, but if any parents read this I hope you hear the message I'm trying to deliver. Don't just listen to us, hear us and make a difference. Because honestly, I feel ignored by my parents and that's why I cried when I heard their stories.

I almost busted out crying when he said that she said "hi Kyle"

Seeing guys older than me talk about their experiences really helps me and gives me hope for my future as a trans man. Thanks for this.

As someone who has been on hormones as a bit I feel in this grey area, I see younger trans people and I see how they struggle even getting a binder or a gaff and I see videos like these and its awh inspiring and makes me feel amazing.

Trans or not, the guy with the tats is gorgeous!!! I haven't had many men turn my head but OMG, he did.

I am a cisgender male, And it’s so liberating to hear stories from trans man who have struggled with their identity, but still being able to not let what society thinks define them

Trans Guy here I'm amazed to see more Trans people coming out and feeling safe God bless us all 🙏

As a trans dude, im so nervous to come out. I feel the need to - people deserve to know the true me and hopefully, the misgendering would stop; but at the same time, even the thought of it feels like it would be a chore. The main reason i haven't come out to family yet is i don't believe im ready. Ive only been identifying as non-cis since October, so about 7 months, and labeling as a trans male for 3 or 4. I still haven't even thought of what to name myself yet, still figuring out if the they/them in he/they is there for a reason or not; i don't know. Being transgender really makes you scared of the future.

I just saw the gentleman with the hat on tell the truth. I love that he is spreading awareness of his story. I wish these people peace in their life and the ability to be who they wish to be

The guy with the tatts... just WOW 😍 ...

What a beautiful message from two courageous and handsome men. Thank you so much for sharing your stories!!!

They are both so sweet, but Cal has one of the kindest souls, he just radiates it.

I’m not transgender, I’m not even active in the lgbtqia community in any way, but I am a person who loves everyone. Who sees the beauty in any and all people. Your struggle is my struggle and the human in you and the human in me know that the only thing we need to look at and work towards is being good people toward others around us. Nothing else matters. And you can be good and be gay or transgender or whatever just as long as you do good in the world! It’s important for those in the community to know there are people like me on the outside of the community who care and respect and admire you too!!! This brought tears to my eyes. Fro my mouth to Gods ears, everyone is worth loving!!

you two beautiful men just had me crying from the 1st minute........I am still 'shape shifting' .....but getting there.....and thank you , things like this give me strength

I'm a 15 year old trans male struggling with anxiety, insomnia depression, and other issues that I have yet to figure out. I'm also gay as far as I know. (just to be clear, gay as in, if I was a cis woman, I'd be straight as a ruler). This is a beautiful video. I'm currently going through the process of coming out. Now, my parents aren't religious at all. We used to go to church when I was young, but we all just stopped going as a collective years ago. When asked what religion they practiced, they always say none. I even have a cis gay brother. But I came out to my mom a few years ago. She used the wording "maybe it's a phase". I don't know if that would hurt to any other trans guys reading this. But it really hurt me. As I'm trying to come out to my more accepting friends and stepsisters, I can't stop thinking of what she said. It's been a huge struggle. At the same time, I'm being stressed with school and I'm constantly not wanting to go. I hear my birth name all the time there. Not only does that hurt, but I'm also constantly bullied. Hated by the majority of my class. So that just helps my self esteem. I kinda went off track here. Point is. As a trans guy, this video really spoke to me. I'm the kind of person to rush things, so a lot of people know. When I finished this video and looked at the comments I cried. I always wished I could have a supportive family. It's just terrifying. Whether your family is supportive or not, the idea of coming out is terrifying. I had asked my friend to help me come out to my sister who I know is supportive.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for sharing your stories with a complete stranger, let alone the world. You are both such beautiful, blessed beings. I pray that this life continues to provide you with unexpected blessings.

I just came out as a trans male, and most people aren’t really taking me seriously. My friends kind of just said “I’ll accept you but idk how I feel about this” and one of my friends said that she didn’t know how to feel about it and if she could still call me by Autumn. At first I said, sure, whatever makes you feel comfortable, but now that I’m out, I just... I can’t handle being called that anymore. I make a point not to respond to people unless they call me my name, the name I chose or by my nickname, Teddy/Ted. However, most of my depression has gone away now that I’ve come out. I walk confidently, I accept who I am, I no longer force myself to only wear dresses, I no longer force myself to think that one day I want to get pregnant even though I definitely want kids. I’ve always wanted to adopt a bunch of kids that have trouble getting adopted because of their age. I just broke. I couldn’t hold it in anymore. I needed to be out. I’ve just been shoving myself deeper and deeper into a hole... I wish I could have come out to my dad before he died earlier this year, but it’s okay. I know he’s proud of me for being true to myself.

The one with glasses is just so cute

The dude with the tattoos is so attractive. Such beautiful stories ❤️

This is so important for people to hear. Especially young trans people. Thank you to these brave men for sharing their stories. Definitely about to shed a tear over here.

Wishing luck to anyone going through a difficult time. Promising things will get better eventually ✊

This video was so incredible for me to watch. They are both such beautiful souls

That's gotta suck being stuck in the wrong body god bless you all stay safe

I was scared to tell my family for 3 years even though they knew I liked girls at the time. Now I’m almost 8 weeks on T. If you don’t have the support from your loved ones you have my support and please become your true self don’t let anyone or anything stop you.

I met Laura Jane Grace on the weekend and honestly all I could say to her was thankyou. She is an absolutely incredible human being and has me so much.

Thank you for listening to yourself - so many ignore their own souls

such a beautiful video🌹💜 2 beautiful men. Really moving to hear them tell their stories and their courageous journeys.

I love you guys! This is a wonderful series❣️

Thank you for taking the time out to do this. A calm, sensitive, genuine insight. Wish all parents could love their children.

Bless these two beautiful, strong, amazing men. Thank you for sharing your story. Live from me to you

You gotta give me feels on a weekday soulpancake

Beautifully done! I love that they both got to hear each other stories and then discuss each other's stories. That was special!

A takeaway here, if you are a parent, your child should always know,that there is absolutely nothing that they could do, that could change the fact that you love them. Glad the two people in this video each found a new friend with whom they can relate, and have understanding from.

Emotional and deep. Important to hear their voice talking from their heart

I admit I didn't understand what transgender really was until Caitlyn Jenner came out. I watched her show to get more information on why? What was the need to transition? How did they know they were trans and so many more questions? Up until that show, I thought it was more of a transexual thing (or wanting to dress like a female rather than "being" female). Even Chaz Bono didn't pique my curiosity as Caitlyn Jenner did. After watching her show I started watching videos about children who lived their true self. I don't remember her name but a little girl had her friends over to her house, I think it was three girls and two boys and they all talked about how they knew "she" was a girl and not a boy. One boy said her having a penis doesn't make her a boy, who she is inside and who her brain is making her a girl. They all accepted her as a girl, they were her friends and defended her if anyone said anything against her. This absolutely melted my heart, here are these young kids around 10 - 12 years old that understand what so many adults refuse to even consider. I got it, I finally understood what being transgender is as clear as a non-transgender person can with limited education on the subject, it broke my heart that people can be so cruel to impose their beliefs and ideas on someone else. I have always been a supporter and defender of gay and lesbian rights, now I added support and defense of transgender to my crusade against bullies. If a person's beliefs in their religion, books like the Bible, etc is important to them then I can accept that and leave them to live their life as they choose. What I can't accept and won't sit idly by is a person belief in those things gives them the right to dictate how another person must live their life. Your religion is YOUR religion and not everyone elses. You have zero proof that YOUR religion is the religion of the Creator of the Universe and the "one true religion" to follow or that is right or only one. I hear people say, "God doesn't make mistakes". My reply Is always, God doesn't micromanage every pregnancy, therefore He doesn't stop a fetus from developing blindness, deafness, missing digits, limbs, part of their brain, so many other birth defects, etc. If someone believes that God doesn't allow pregnancy and nature to take its course and therefore allow the hormones that science knows are delivered at different times during fetal development for the body and the brain then your God intentionally causes birth defects. Abby and Brittany Hensel are the conjoined twins that have one body and two heads. If God did not stop this birth defect of Abby and Brittany from occurring in utero, then what makes you believe He didn't stop the hormone testosterone being delivered to a developing fetus creating a male body and later the hormone estrogen being delivered to the brain creating a female brain. The people that believe their Bible is flawless and without question want to have their cake and eat it too, meaning they want to use it to defend any position they take while completely discounting anyone's opinion or science that disproves their theory. Please please please just allow people to live their life as they see fit, it is THEIR LIFE NOT YOURS. To all the LGBTQ+, straight and everyone else out there, happiness and blessing to you. You be you, be safe, give the idiots and bullies hell. I love most of you, ha ha, I can't really say I love the idiots who preach their hate and torment at others. See, I am not perfect, I don't have all the answers, I am not always right, I make mistakes, my opinions and judgments are just that, they are mine and many time they are wrong or flawed. Just as yours are too. No matter what, having someone kill themselves because of bullies, idiots, religious zealots won't make you right just becsuse your denial of who they are forced them to end their life. Be kind to each other. Peace to the world and be happy. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜💖💗💓💞💕

That first story was so moving. Especially when he mentioned the medals. Not to mention the Thank You's and the Hug at the end. Good, heart-warming stuff.

Just cane out to my mom, like most people, I had a terrible guilt feeling, even though my mom was fine with it, and i was rlly stressed and decided to watch transgender-related videos, and this really calmed me down, teared me up, glad they seem happy now

This has given me the encouragement to come out as Trans ftm to my family. Only one of my closest friends knows at the moment. But I hope that the rest of the people I tell will be as supporting as her! Xx

Thank you for sharing this. Such amazing people. Thank you! As a transgender male, I definitely relate to many of the details in their stories and support and love are mportant aspects. I love their stories that they had to share. Thank you 💕💖🏳️‍🌈 Happy pride month!

This video really hits home. Also them using a mic to talk to someone 5 feet away is kinda hilarious lol.

Had a friend in high school commit suicide to dysphoria they were only 15. I was told he was missing and then eventually a week later i got the text, " i cant stand lying to you anymore, Josh is dead he jumped infront of a train" i collapsed at work in a flood of tears. One of the hardest funerals ive ever had to go to. Cant even properly say goodbye when it needs to be a closed casket. 15 years old, forever young.

I can't stop crying.....I love this video.

My mom says she love me no matter what but still tells me I'm not a man, I'll never be a man, and refuses to call me what I want to be called or get me a binder. Some love that is

“You can save lives if you just open your heart a little bit.” So true. I hope for that little bit of life-giving love for all those out there who need it. ❤️

Thank you both for sharing your stories with such grace and openness.

You guys are lucky that you live in the country that you live in and that you had the opportunity to transition. You can't imagine the number of people across the world that are gay/trans but are threatened by death for who they are and are not allowed to even speak about it of they want to live.

Just crying. So emotional! I totally relate to them and it's so scary

Love this! Thanks for sharing. Being trans and seeing these types of things u can relate to and learn from others is amazing

This gave me so much insight into trans people go through. Thank you for sharing your stories.