Transference 

Psychology should be a mandatory course in high school.

I'm not lying, this is one of the best channels. I can look for any interesting topic here and then be amazed by one of these spectacular videos. Excellent work guys!

The music in the video is incredibly creepy o.O

Both of my parents have personality disorders, and as a survival tactic I developed an enormous resilience and sense of responsibility, of which I am proud. My struggle earlier in life was accepting that being so resilient is exhausting. I begged for a break, often putting too much pressure on my partner to carry me while I finally relaxed. Therapy helped. I finally had to allow myself to, every now and then, be completely irresponsible and fragile. I’m in a phase right now that has lasted for months. It’s very therapeutic. Thankfully my partner understands.

If you have a horrifying parent (or two) what you have to do is the following: List on a paper their worst character traits and the greatest difficulties you had to face with, back then when you had to live with them.Then take the example of an ex-partner of yours just to see how much he and your experience with him had in common with the things you have on your list. The result is often really very scary. But you may learn something from it, for the next time... And here is definitely some hope: Psychologist William James said: "My experience is what I agree to attend to. Only those things which I notice shape my mind". So, the most " aware" you are of what's going on and the more things you notice about the hidden forces which seem to determine your life, the more you can change the way your mind works, and hopefully, but very slowly free the rest of your life from that curse. To some extent I mean. But it is a lifelong battle, and you should always remember not to be too harsh on yourself. Because you are fighting against something within yourself, which was there before you were born! It sounds a bit complicated, bu indeed it isn’t: Argentina's most beloved psychologist Gabriel Rolon explains it, saying that long before we were born, we have already existed in the mind of that mother, who already dreamt of us, who had a name for us, who imagined a world and a future for us. In Rolon's book Historias de Divan, there is a sentence by Alejandro Dolina, which I will never forget. It shows you how strong that force is, which constantly operates inside you and literally can ruin your life: "Steps that were born before my steps are carrying me towards my breakdown. " ( "Me llevan rumbo al fracaso pasos que nacieron antes que mis pasos" ) There is also a wonderful poem by Paul Celan, that describes this so beautifully. You must read it till the end though, to feel the connection: HOMECOMING ( Heimkehr ) Snowfall, denser and denser, dove-coloured as yesterday, snowfall, as if even now you were sleeping. White, stacked into distance. Above it, endless, the sleigh track of the lost. Below, hidden, presses up what so hurts the eyes, hill upon hill, invisible. On each, fetched home into its today, an I slipped away into dumbness: wooden, a post. There: a feeling, blown across by the ice wind attaching its dove- its snow- coloured cloth as a flag. This is all very melancholy stuff though... But when you feel like you need to lighten up a bit, you can always get back to Sam Cooke! Especially the song " A change is gonna come" is very helpful. That's where he says: "There been times that I thought I couldn't last for long But now I think I'm able to carry on It's been a long, a long time coming But I know a change gonna come, oh yes it will" ( Thank you very much for this very important reminder. I loved the animation and the music too:-)

Yet another great video! I truely love this channel! This is a great example why early education and parentship is so darn important! It is a shame that some parents are allowed to "destroy" a childs early upbringing by misusing or abusing them. My mother always told me this old german saying: "The hand on the cradle rules the world".

You have no Idea how much I relate to this. In my case, I've known for a while but I'm not sure when It happens or what I can do about it. This helps. Thank you

Wow. You got me, on the picture that could be interpreted as an intimidating father-figure... Luckily I have reallized that most of the people trying to intimidate, have had very bad childhoods themselves, or maybe they are very insecure deep inside of themselves. It is very interesting to discover some of these unconcious reactions, that have deep roots in our childhood. Also, it is difficult to not end up having some of the same bad behavioural patterns as our caregivers may have had. Thanks Alain, and the rest of you magnificent people at The School of Life, for sharing these revelations with us aspiring thinkers. I think what you are doing is great. Sincerely I, myself, to all of you.

Jesus, all this self hate, I just want to hug you all. How can you possibly get through life without loving yourself?

Very interesting music. I always enjoy these videos. I like how the animation style changes from one video to another.

Peace on earth could be achieved if the majority of the population understood transference and our unconscious minds. Not an easy task but videos like this and more debate can't hurt.

I cant believe how few views videos like this get compared to how many a guy screaming at video games can get......its a bit disturbing really.

I blows me away how different people respond to some of the comments I’ve made on random videos. I usually don’t bother unless I have something funny to say, or , at least I think so. ( granted, my sense of humor isn’t for everyone). But the range of responses I’ve gotten is extremely broad. Some people will laugh at stuff others are very offended at. They cherry pick words and are oblivious to others, seeing only what they want. This video is an excellent explanation for this phenomenon

I've tried so many times to explain this to people with out even realising it was a thing. Yet again the school of life has giving me a title and directed me to what it is known... Transference... Thank you School of life.

The diversity of animation this channel has is the most refreshing thing on youtube.

It's always funny when people say they are becoming like their parents, when in fact, they were always like their parents. They've only just now realised their transference. It actually is a beautiful thing, if you love who your parents are.

Awesome Tsol!! I never did understand those images. I decided to study psychology because of you guys.. Thank you for helping me making my life better 🙂

Wish more people understood this concept. The world would be a better place. Great Channel.

The only thing I would argue here is that basis of transference is actually functional, without it you would be constantly overwhelmed by having to figure out how each new instance you encountered was going to go. With transference you already have a starting point and given that most humans are a lot more like each other than different it works amazingly well...much of the time.

Sometimes 'Transference' helps us recognise problems with society or to think in original ways. To an extent 'Transference' can be useful and a good thing.

I appreciated the video, but that uncomfortable song played in the video has disturbed me in paying attention in the content

This video is a bit of a masterpiece. The music really gets you in the mood of searching your demons down. A bit like a transference test itself.

Absolutely brilliant stuff for people who don't know much about this yet! Thanks for outlining this useful information in such an accessible way as always!

I like the school of life so much I've learnt so much from this channel that school would never teach me

I feel like whenever I get over a childhood tendency, it creates a new adult tendency that I have to look for and correct.

Hi, clinical psychologist here. This video describes object relations and projective identification. The word Transference (and counter transience) refers to a phenomenon known in the modern psychology world as occurring only in psychoanalysis really. Otherwise it's known as projection! Sorry to be that guy, but it's not indistinguishable from a Freudian, Klienian, Jungian perspective. Also it would be lovely if the psychology videos locate their theories in one of the schools of psychology as psychodynamic theory is pretty last week now - would be nice to acknowledge the range at the least or ideally see some narrative, systemic, liberation and social constructionist psychological theory!

3:08 made me lol. I thought of that exact depiction ten seconds before. I love my trauma being exposed😂😂

This video taught me so much about myself... I didn't know I had a dominating father though

This is so well done I almost shed a tear at the end

The music in this video is very descriptive. There is an ostinato (a repetitive musical element) that illustrates the concept of transference very well. It may seem boring to some listeners ... But it is exactly the minimalist style of the soundtrack that adequately reflects the subject.

The music, the animation and the narration is simply perfect.

This was an awesome topic, could we possibly get one one the psychological phenomena of "projection".

Those rabbits were so creepy

I always like ur vids.

Do you guys have a video on Freud or Jung?

Great topic, I've never heard about this before. The animation and sound effects were strangely unsettling for some reason, especially the sound effect of the "past and present" line breaking. The video though is really well done, I love that these videos always teach me something new about human nature/history/ideas/etc! Well done :)

Very insightful.

This video is soo short but soo revealing. Thank you sooo much it is really an inner eye opener.

Thankyou I have anxiety attacks found this very helpful x

Well done once again. Thank you!

Great information I get a better understanding now. The artwork kept me watching - twice!

Authority is Force Sexuality is War Uncertainty is Opportunity/Danger This is how I see the world. And I know millions also see it this way. Curiously, on the psychological test, my own responses were thus; on _"Deep down sex is..."_ my subconscious spit out just one word: _rape_. Not of myself, but my mind instantaneously threw a red flag as if I will be falsely accused of rape and it makes me immediately suspicious of anyone I'd be having sex with, if at all, with such a dangerous warning. On _"If people really knew me they would..."_ part, my very first instinctive response was: _freeze_; as in, paralyzed, like a deer in the headlights. In the last statement I couldn't think of anything instantaneously, my mind had to actually slow down and think about this one. _"When I hear someone described as very intellectual, I imagine they will...,"_ be very tenacious.

Thanks for the great video. Keep up the relentless pursuit of understanding...

I think there's one example of transference right here: I found this video along with this music quite scary and distressing. It may have to do with the fact that it's midnight and there's just one dim light in my room.

amazing animation! and music too. such a nice atmosphere.

another concept I noticed which is a bit similar to this one: other people change. but we forget this and think that they are the same as they used to be. if, for example, you make a new friend and he has some bad habit, let's say you notice that he is lying very much, then one year later we may still think that this person is probably lying when we listen to them, even though in the past months they changed and want to not lie that much anymore and we actually didn't catch them not telling the truth for quite a while. every once in a while we should try to objectively view the people around us, from the outside, with new eyes

My transference has always been, and continues to be, to hold myself back for the sake of others. It makes me unhappy at times but I think about how isolated I might be if I don't and am petrified at the thought. I have always found it socially punishing to be at my best. Even when I live constantly with one hand tied behind my back I am often accused of trying to be better than everyone else and being a know it all and looking down my nose at people. It is absolutely exhausting but I don't know how to undo this habit and am very very afraid of the consequences.

great book on reducing the negative impact of transference in adult romantic relationships; Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson

I would argue that transference in therapy is a highly dubious phenomenon, because it is based in part on the contrived persona of the therapist. Any projections the client directs toward the person of the therapist are possibly counterfeit, given that they arise in response to feigned caring and empathy that is dispensed in return for payment. In essence it is a fake relationship passed off as something authentic. That is potentially very damaging by the way.

knowledge really is power. to be able to identify (not necessarily by name but that is even a bonus to it) a concept that it's workings have power over u, once u realize especially that others have identified this and even given it a name, not only do u know others know exactly where u r comming from, but also that they tries to help u simply by identifying this thing called transference, for example. once u r aware of that, it stops having power over u because u know the greatest minds have had ur back throughout time to tell u this. That's just how I feel, like the attempt to fix a problem by them identifying it works because u already know people have known what ur going through, and especially with something like transference, where it could be experience u have of people not understanding, well now u know that in fact they do and it was just ignorant fucking stupid assholes along the way that didnt. then u get to join the cool team and say fuck u asshole I know the problem now, the problem is u! knowledge is real world power. if u know ur the shit, u have the power to actually be the shit cause fuck it I AM, which is what almost every prominent philosopher and martyr throughout time were stressing their whole lives to get u to feel. I feel like the smart people throughout time loved me before they even knew me, and that's why I get so much out of their words, I allow myself to feel as though they were saying it directly to me because the whole point was to make me happy (and others obviously lol) all of their work goes in vain if u don't make use of it, so make knowledge ur power, because knowledge is even the power that MAKES knowledge power, once u realize all of these things I've said

2:47 everyone knows that is two bears high-fiving, except bethesda...

love the animations, as always brilliant video

Oh sheeiiit man. The ink blot test with the one about the demeaning father was exactly what I saw but I feel like my dads been nothing but kind to me

@TheSchoolofLife Can you please make a video for anyone wanting to learn the benefits of therapeutic communication & validation? I'm a good listener but at times i'm too eager to inject what i think is the right solution to one's problems and sometimes the conversation stops short because of that. I feel like the best of communicators are able to facilitate insight within the other person without force

Good god, the obsession with transference in the pysch biz has reached alarming proportions. However, I enjoy being hypnotized by Alain's hyper-enunciated and well-modulated speaking voice.

Brilliant video, thanks

I like the music; I feel it makes the subject be of upmost importance.

I learned to not allow negativity to transfer into my life

Very nice video! I absolutely love the animation, congratulations

Knowledge doesn't mean understanding. Only because you know the working mechanism behind your behavior / actions doesn't necessarily mean you can control them. You will always be biased by your experience.

Your videos have been on point recently. I especially liked the music in this one.

You're describing transference like complexes, a concept majorly developed by Carl Jung (someone you reject doing an episode on). Remember, "what you resist, persists".

well done! Love the music.

Please consider dropping using the Rorschach material because it is empirically troubled and many professional associations recommend against its use in clinical and other settings.

Every video is just so good.

Hmmm... in this ink blot I see the tormented screams of a thousand tortured souls writhing in agony. What does that mean, doc?

I actually saw the big figure almost immediately, although i didn't think it was intimidating. Very interesting!

i didnt know there was a term for this. very informative. liked it very much. thank you

been waiting for this, Thankyou!!!

Your videos are so wonderful!!

Always the best subjects !!!

Fantastic video. Great content music and animation.

I love your videos but the animations were very distracting in this one.

I'm digging these animations. Very creepy and compelling.

Enlightening describes this the best

Great video. i like the music.

Another fantastic video!!

Carl Jung and his THE RED BOOK Please do some videos on him

The problem of the Rorschachtest is not its principal intention. That one seems as strong as utmost fundamental. Make people reveal themselves, which means seeing what goes on. Great effort. The problem is the procacious assumption to be able to remotely adequately channel such a revelation. Pictures persist for their own sake. Interpreters do. It is a total mess. And that is so, because the human mind is like gum. It got texture, taste, color. But it will wrap at whatever you throw it, at least when already used. The solution is trust. Given sufficient trust, sufficient levels of comfort - everyone opens up. And then Rorschach may even become useful, in a modified less presumptuous way. You can not trick someone to circumvent trust. Never.

Very well explained

very well done video

Fantastic video as always. The team behind this must give themselves a good pat on the back :D

The music was really haunting- apt for the video! :)

I do like your films and i did visit your shop. I love you so much SoL

Great video as usual. Could you please do one on Voltaire?

The music and animation make me anxious

Excellent vid guys. Very informative and yes, that black shape did look ominous too me. Dammit.

nice to finally have a name for this

My immediate responses to the sample ink blot tests: cat whiskers, scarab beetle, two bears climbing a candy mountain, antlions and caterpillars, butterfly, bird-sphynx, elite from Halo, pelvis, really weirdly proportioned pelvis, pelvis with a dragon head-shaped sacrum. Am I mature yet?

I've never head of this word before though it sounds like it's "combination of" or at least sharply linked to the empathy and projecting/-ion

Hey, awesome video. I have a request, can you guys make a video on meditation? I've been trying it out for the past few weeks and it's had an immense effect on me. I feel more happy, focused, healthy and confident. There is also a ton of scientific evidence for this. It would be great if you guys made a video with it's history, significance and scientific evidence that supports it. Thanks

Can we talk about what the video is about instead of "how creepy it is". Its a normal animation. The music is fitting imo

I love love this channel

I spent about 7 years being hit by my dad and I'm worried that if I have children I'll do the same. It's not in me, I don't feel like I would, but people pass on things and I will not let any of other people's bad qualities pass through me.

Does anyone have a link on any quizzesI can take about physcological transference like what was on the video?

I had an incident this week where i missed a deadline and was certain my supervisor would kill me. I was hellbent on figuring out what lie was going to get me out of it coz I though was the only way out. Until my boyfriend pointed out something seemingly earth shattering to me at that point. That I should just be honest about what happened, that anxiety had gotten the best of me and in time I just felt paralyzed. "Whaaat? Are you crazy? I could never do that" I couldn't imagine what would happen if I straight out told the truth, I mean the world would explode!! Telling the truth?!! who does that? No body cares what happened to you, or atleast I thought. Anyway, went to meet my supervisor and decided to give it a go. In my head, I was going to be expelled or something and was ready for the consequences. Was already planning how I'm going to start a start business, apply for a business visa where I am and call myself a "college dropout" lol To my utter surprise, my supervisor was upset that I didn't finish on time but not disappointing in me. He kept telling me I was smart and my anxiety was not a reflection of my ability, that its something that is happening to me and not something I'm doing. I should take a break, learn how to manage my time and get back to my thesis slowly. It was a life changing experience for me to say the least. It turned almost everything I thought I knew about how the world works upside down. Seeing this video definitely put in perspective what happened.

please make more videos on psychology!!!!

is it just me or the vids of this channel are often about traumatizing childhoods?

I'm very happy about this video

The second description of that ink blot was exactly what I described in my head before it was said by the narrator and now I'm questioning my relationship with my father...