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I'm so grateful I found this video . I am a counsellor and my country is experiencing a sociopolitical crisis that is crazily claiming life every other day . Recently, there was a bomb exploration killing and injuring many
I remember as a kid, the behavior of my narcissistic father would tell me to shut up while sitting at the dinner table! He was depressed and uncomfortable speaking to me. He was always emotionally shut down and he refused to allow me to sing in the house.😂❤
I am sorry about your rough childhood. We form many schemas in our childhood and use them later in life. What tools will you use to start releasing trauma and change old, outdated schemas?
This isn't trauma and your dad isn't a narcissist. I tell my boys to shut up at the dinner table all the time. They will learn manners. There will be discipline. That's life, not trauma. You're not a victim.
@@bignickenergy723 Do you know the OP's father personally? How can you determine what he is/was or not? How can you teach manners while being unmannerable? Discipline consists largely of setting an example and modeling proper behavior.
At times the only way I feel calm is when I watch tragedy and death on the TV/computer screen. I guess I feel safe in comparison! I also never felt safe at school. I never worried about shooters, only cold and judging narcissistic teachers! This discussion helps me bring up these realizations that I have not had quite on this level of consciousness before. Thanks Doc Snipes. I love the way you are an authority figure yet "attachable" (approachable). All the authority figures in my life were very strict and did not EVER listen to my feelings and that they were going "too fast". They mimicked the way I was not attached to my father except in trauma. I always felt afraid and went deep inside myself while my father constantly me I "was fine" and he got angry about it. With no safety, my "developmental age" stayed very young and I stayed very afraid.
I am sorry about what happened to you, Kitty Kat. I remember all your comments well and I do see an improvement and I am so proud of you, for deciding to heal and for doing the work. I know it’s not easy and I am here for you. I am grateful for your kind words and I am also grateful that you are watching videos and supporting the channel.
When I was five, I remember that my mother would leave me stranded at the department store on purpose! Then the police woman would buy me a big bag of candy while searching for my mom and bringing her back to me! This was done to me twice a month either at the library, church, school or she’d leave me at home alone with my sister and brother to go to church. Church was her sanctuary to get away from my narcissistic father’s clutches and an unhealthy, unfulfilled marriage.
Getting over things that trigger fear/emotional flashbacks, Tai Chi and self hypnosis along with mindfulness and breaking the irrational fear down with logic and emotional self control.
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When I was in the army we had a very similar technique to the 4321 strategy but some people use it after a firefight. I used this technique myself but mostly when I’m back at the FOB or anywhere that i feel is relatively safe
I’ve realized that I’m over talking about everything. I’d rather be an active listener and less talkative. My narcissistic father and grandfather told me that they moved fourteen times in two years ordered by the Army!!😂❤
I wish there were a way of pointing some of this out or getting this information to my current therapist. Doing it without offending her or getting an attitude thrown at me (like I get when I mention Dr. Ramani) would likely be impossible though. I really wish there were a list of therapists who have learned from you. I'm really struggling
If you feel you can't be honest with your therapist or can't give feedback I really doubt the efficacy of treatment. I'm not certain of your circumstances but maybe you can try discussing with them and if that doesn't work, finding someone else you can be honest with.
@@arowace498 yeah. You're absolutely right. I have a hard time speaking up for myself though. & I'm finding it hard to believe they are actually qualified at this point. She doesn't remember anything I tell her, not sure if she's not taking notes or not reviewing them but having to repeatedly tell her about traumatic events b/c she doesn't remember anything I tell her is only making things worse. Already started looking for someone else, she definitely isn't the "right fit". But now Life has thrown more at me since, with my best friend's 14 yr old son being killed, by a drunk driver who was also his father's best friend 💔 none of it makes sense. 2 towns and all the small communities in-between have been shattered. This is the 8th loss I've had since my only real sister passed away. & It hasn't even been 2 years. 😭Smh Anyhow, thank you for your thoughtful response 🤗 I hope you're doing well 💚 Sending love your way 💚🕊️ & Please be extra safe everywhere you go!
My narcissistic father asked my mother “where’s your wedding ring”? My mom replied, I lost it when I was gardening! Later on, my mom said that she was only happy with my dad for nine years of the marriage. She was nineteen years old and my father was twenty five.
Thank you for an informative presentation and for the tremendous work that you do! I've recently started looking at your videos on RU-vid, great work! A few questions- Any advice if a patient is not able to restore the broken jar in the correct way? How important is the correct restoration of the jar? Should the trauma narrative be started with a patient who has disorganized thinking and speech? Or would it be better to wait until the patient is more settled and able to process information in a better way? Thank you.
Hi, I’m trying to find some references about the ‘unhooking’ that Dr. Snipes mentioned. I haven’t been able to find much. If anyone has any resources I’d be much obliged if they could share.
I believe that an example of trauma is when the Government killed the founder of Reddit. He told the public that we can have free access to the law library online, I will produce access via an online server. The Government then killed him for providing access to these files via modern technology to help future Americans navigate the law library to apply it through their lives for self improvement via untouchable information access.
It was surreal I saw the firemen truck flashing outside our apartments as I was coming home I notice my tension kind of turn to like Did I forget to turn off the water ? Or something? I notice my heightened alert Danger I told myself - cool your jets calm down nothing happen in my Apartment it's real scary to wonder & ponder what happen?
Agency employees don't think it's their job to accommodate us. They just see us as bad clients. Even my Therapists looked down their noses at me. I'm supposed to accommodate them. It's no use. I'm just going to do my best to not need help.
I am wondering if they were simply ignorant to the impacts of trauma and alternative strategies. Grad school unfortunately does not teach most of this stuff. :(
Maybe you could look into possibilities of adding Ukrainian and Russian subtitles to your videos that are about trauma? I just read that for example in the UK the Ukrainian refugees might have to wait up to 2 years to get therapy for their war trauma.
I didn’t realize that Doctors gaslighting there patients about psychological trauma was a way for them to misinform their patients about what’s really happening to them!
There should be more therapists with your attitude and style. If you alert the unwilling client about the good of meditation which is not known before done, it might lessn rsistance. In trauma-stress, it's hard to take in and do unfamiliar things, and with tiredness resistance can come from former expereinece of wasting resources on protocols with no effect, a wrong generalization. Does the law and Human Rights of the UN still apply even when social- Aspergers- and healthcare
Cont'd.. the patient's disorganized thinking/ speech seems to be coming more from their mental health condition or issues with medication than from the actual traumatic event.
My narcissistic father used to find bugs on the trees and carried us up to talk to the bugs with him! If that’s not trauma, I bet it’s very strange behavior for a dad!
it was a great lecture... until you put sympathy with cops but never mentioned the people who have lost their lives and faced trauma to police violence. thumbs down
