Truth, Lies and Accountability | Fridays with Tab and Chance 

I love how Chance knew that Tab needed to get that off her chest 😂😂

This is confirmation for what I literally experienced this week with a close family member, who instead of coming clean for what they did, tried to gaslight me and retold a whole made up story to my face as if I wasn't there at the time. Normally I let stuff like that slide because I know they feel ashamed but don't want to acknowledge it. However, this time I decided to hold myself accountable for MY actions of letting people treat me a certain way. So, I spoke up and even though they never apologized, I now know to stop attaching to messy ppl who bring messiness in my life, regardless the relation.

I think Chance was looking for the word "justify". People use their story to justify their misbehavior. Once you can be "accountable", you are claiming rightful responsibility for your choices AND acknowledging you cannot choose those behaviors anymore. A good man is one who will do the right thing when no one is looking. Give thanks for such a timely message. 🙏🏾 💖😘

This was a good conversation and I appreciate the seriousness of Tab’s demeanor in this; no smiles or nothing.. play time been over.

"Accountability is your road to freedom" Alright now!👏👏

The way Chance looks at Tab is beautiful!! This topic was a great topic.

Whew! When Tab is not pleased, I sit quietly and listen! It's not often we see her in a bad space, but mannnn, if she has to go there, SOMEbody better get it together! Smh #letuspray 🙏🏾 #Amen

Bishop Chance Brown and Evangelist Tabitha Brown! Speak the truth!!! God is pleased!

JUST realized I have been excusing myself for a mistake I made while young. Because of this ep, I'm going to address it head-on. Thanks, y'all.

It’s about MATURITY, being able to talk about it and say I WAS WRONG, FORGIVE ME!!! ❤❤❤

22:00 - This is the part, I think, is missed when it comes to accountability! Come on and speak Chance! 🙌🏾 You do not get to dictate someone else's time frame or method of healing, after you fessed up to your actions that hurt them.

It was the “uhn-uhh, I got it!” for me 😂

Accountability is HUGE for me. It infuriates me when the person tries to gaslight me into thinking I caused the situation. When y’all are ready I want y’all to expand on accountability and these 20-something children. Pray my strength!

I knew this was personal the way Chance was looking and how Tabitha wasn’t playing. We live in a world now, where no one wants to be corrected. We feel it’s an attack, and then we attack others for bringing correction in love. As we age you we should become wiser and accept correction and say I’m sorry. Often times we have blind spots and love ones should be there to help us correct those areas without us taking offense. Let’s all do better! Good topic! 👏🏼

When we don't address accountability... we engage Justification.

People love to say (usually when they're caught), "I take full responsibility." But they don't actually TAKE responsibility. It can't stop at admitting it and just saying you take responsibility. You have to actually fix what you broke. If you take responsibility, then what are you actually going to do about it? That's accountability.

CHANCE be holding it down for all the men out here who been married 20+ years !!!! Thank you Chance !!!! I been with my wife Tina for 24 years and the stuff you be saying be on point in your videos, my wife got to hear it from another man's point of view of some of the same shit I been saying, Preciate you bro keep up the good work !!! Love you too Tab but this one goes out to Chance !!!

A lack of accountability produces a broken heart 💔in a relationship. It hurts deeply.

T.D. Preached a sermon in our city years ago, long b4 he was at the Potter's House & the summary went like this 'how you Handle the situation will determine HOW LONG YOU STAY IN IT!' The sooner you accept responsibility - the more expedient the 'process of healing can begin!😇🙏🏽 that has guided my ability to be at peace in knowing 'when I'm wrong I'm wrong' -- the power is in the Release! Praying for all situations

My post on Facebook today was, some people will never accept personal responsibility; they prefer to put the blame on someone else’!

Yesss. When you don't hold yourselves accountable, we keep ourselves in bondage and we can't grow!!!!

You can NEVER justify wrongdoing. Wrong IS Wrong. When we know better WE CAN AND WILL be able to do better. Not easy but it’s walking in truth and freedom. Love hearing Truths from the two of you. With love❤

Well put, my husband has had it up to here with me because of my lack of accountability! Just because it feels good to lie over mistakes doesn't mean it's right and I'm not the only one affected by it! He has said everything you all touched on! This was a recent conversation between us, so it's just full circle seeing this episode literally a few days later! Thanks ya'll 💜

I promise you my cousin and I talk about this almost every weekend. Preach y'all!!!! 💯💪🏾✊🏾👍🏾

Accountability looks like acknowledging your part, apologizing and attoning for it. Or, being willing to suffer the consequences of your decisions or participation. We all make choices. Accountability doesn’t equal excuses.

Ugh I hate that we only get these segments on Friday 🤣but I love watching them always coming through with a good topic and wisdom they never miss❤️I love the Browns lol

Bring that heat, Chance & Tab!! Ouch and Amen🙌🏾🙏🏾 This conversation can heal and transform the lives of individuals and families❤

I got teary-eyed during this 'accountability' episode, because I agree with both of your opinions, but I shill saw and felt the tension. I am going thru something simular and can't even get a mutual civil conversation going so we just don't talk! I commend you both for looking lovingly at each other and speaking respectful on camera, I pray that you can maintain the same off camera. Love you both❤ keep this going we need it🐝🐝

"When you commin off that road, that thang be lookin good". My dude!

Accountability is so important I keep myself accountable it about humbling yourself getting out of victim mindset also admitting your flaws or that you mess up

This This Friday! 🙋🏾‍♀️ I 💯% agree SELF ACCOUNTABILITY is sooo VERY Essential!🙏🏽🥰

I know we all say it all the time. But we are so GRATEFUL for you two ! Thank you for sharing your life , your knowledge , your gifts & your honesty with us. This is such a blessing to all those who listen . I’m an almost 30 year old man and I’ve found myself eager to learn from y’all every Friday. I know it’s not always easy consistently giving but I can promise y’all that it’s changing lives. Video by video. Life lesson by life lesson. We Love y’all so much . And I pray God continues to bless y’all. ❤️

Ms Tab needed to get that off her chest. Love Chance’s awareness and support while she did so. All facts and a word that needed to be heard.

Chance said “That’s it!” Tab said “That’s it” Me “Enough said” great talk thank you so much

Talk about it Chance! A lot of times we're angry but it's misplaced. We, in fact, are angry with ourselves. I love these "talks" with y'all. 💯👍🏾🙏🏾

Chance laughing (...and trying to hold in his laughter) because he KNOWS Tab's about to go OFF! 2:45 Chance trying to help ....Tab "uh uh, I got it!" 🤣🤣🤣

I'm teaching my toddler about accountability. I don't want her to grow into an adult who lacks integrity.

Tab was in a mood. Folks not taking accountability is a pet peeve of mine also.

This hit home for me! Very personal! It confirmed my exact feelings!

Yes, we can't control everything but we can control our response. With every choice, comes either a reward or a consequence. Tfs

Speak the truth, we must be accountable for ourselves

See, where this conversation gets tricky is in the fact that we oftentimes give ourselves too much credit for where we are in life. Decision and choice right now is one thing, but there was a life that we lived, full of influence and fear and insecurities casted upon us from the people who raised us that really helped us make the choice that we think we're making today.

My life is upside down right now because somebody told their story as if they didn't do wrong to me and now I have to ride it out because they passed away and can't be held accountable.

Even when I dismiss people who I feel have crossed nonnegotiable boundaries in my life, I hold myself accountable and deliver the story that offers them the benefit of the doubt as someone who’s going through something themselves rather than blame anyone . I encourage everyone to look for accountability in any situation .

Not only are they not taking accountability, they are gonna put you on a cross for trying to hold them accountable while they look for MORE ways NOT to be held accountable by covering up the fact that they needed to be accountable in the first place. This gets so deep. I can tell it. Alllllll my life problems are because of this topic right here and I found away to ACCOUNT for it literally. I’m sick of paying for it and I don’t care if I die alone because I won’t. I’m not doing it anymore.

I definitely see the progress Tabitha. I need to hold myself accountable for my lack of effort to really loose the weight. 👏🏾👏🏾great conversation much needed.

Accountability gives self awareness so we can then see things more clearly and grow, change and improve one's self💯.... or DECIDE NOT TO... BC, PPL HAVE FREE WILL. 👑🦁👑

I did just that, hold myself accountable, and I was able to forgive my ex without an apology. Me and my daughter do that life lessons.

You better preach, Tab!

Right...sometimes people need to hold a mirror to themselves and their behavior. Before harshly judging other people. Nobody is mistake-proof🎯 Tab you are so right👍

Hello family,you know I've got to catch you, been down with you since the start, you're family now, I'm claiming y'all....love y'all to life, I've learned so much along the ride, thanks for your presence....❤

This is happening to me as we speak!! I lost my best friend to an illness 10 years ago and had put a bit of a wall up to protect myself from people who could get closer and hurt me. I love easily and hard... 3 years ago I got into an origami and met some amazing potatoes who I developed a love for, and I decided that i wanted to be better and allow myself the chance to grow and develop new friendships... And now I'm experiencing a hurt i never had because, People don't want to accept accountability for putting their, traumatic experiences on others and denying the effects of it.

This WHOLE topic right here!!! Yall helping some GROWN FOLKS today! Wooooo the episode hits different when it hits home!!! #accountability #dontbemad #doyourpart #thankyall

Shame is the thing that makes us not hold ourselves accountable (this is for sane ppl). Don't let shame hold you back from being a better person! Like chance said don't beat yourself up, buttttt you can make yourself better!

I remember when I used to think that holding yourself accountable was a daunting and scary thing to do. However, continuing to learn more about how God sees us and what he expects of us, I’ve learned that holding myself accountable is truly a blessing. Why? Because when you don’t, you maintain a elementary mindset that many children have; an adult has to teach them how to hold themselves accountable when they do something that’s not nice or do something that hurts someone else. When you learn to hold yourself accountable for doing something wrong or hurting someone else, that is proven wisdom and growth, and it should be some thing to celebrate. Tab said it best. We all have thoughts that aren’t the best sometimes, We all may have done some thing that we’re not proud of. But if we do something and were able to quickly “un-shoulder”, that burden of guilt through accountability, we walk through life, less frazzled and with more peace.

"Accountability" was broken down perfectly by both of you! Bravo! 👏👏 So many great life lessons in this conversation! Thank you Tab and Chance for another awesome episode!

Y'all are so natural and chocolate and warm and intelligent and it's easy to get lessons and information from you both. Thank you!

Chance you broke this message down and brought it home. This helped me, great conversation!!

Donna is tied up Ready for this Conversation 😆

“Accountability” is the theme in this world right now!! Politics; employment reform, justice department and then everyday life struggles of just being human!! Each day we learn to step up and get it right!! It’s up to you to dig deep and DO WHAT IS Required TO OWN UP TO IT!!💪🏾NEW HABITS#2023

This is absolute fire, and I think everybody needs to hear it. Kudos to Tab & Chance. As always much love and respect to my bro and sis in my head!! 😊

Self accountability/self awareness/self correction IS NECESSARY & WILL free you! Relationships are better but you just feel so good when you practice these things. Great message auntie Tab and uncle Chance 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

This was JUST what I NEEDED on this Friday after a looooong week when I was JUS' debating if I should cut up and treat myself to some 🍦 cuz "I deserve it"...when what I TRULY DESERVE is to keep my emotions in check, HOLD MYSELF ACCOUNTABLE, DISCIPLINE MYSELF, and treat my BODY like the TEMPLE it is by nourishing it with WHOLE FOODS!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 When I say this message is RIGHT 👏🏾 ON 👏🏾 TIME, I MEAN IT!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Y’all are on it!! This is a right now, right on time subject. Yess Chance that part!!

3:20 it's the seriousness in Tab's facial expressions for me ! She meant it and you can tell she was very serious! I respect that. 4:27 this is a big piece to recognize the situation and your ACTION in it, the DECISION you made and what the outcome is. Whether you get caught or not!! It's the bigger picture, purpose, and principle. I get 5:47 Chance's perspective but accept the outcomes of your decisions ijs

I of to hold myself accountable for all the things I allow my sisters to do to me. I also need accountability on this weight gain and stop stressing and get depressed. Over the years allow the same people to hurt me over and over again family/friend, because I'm always the strong one, but GOD, Tab and Chance I truly thank you for this today. I truly appreciate you both. Thank you may God continue to keep and bless you and your family always.

Hey 🎊 🎉😊 good morning everyone. I really appreciate Ms TB sharing her life with us all and giving us real advice. Just want to say thank you 🙏🏽

Yes, I had to learn to do this for my children as well. ❤

Amazing segment!! I am also a true believer that if we start with the children we can teach and lead them in a better direction. I teach children and young adults about financial literacy, so they can understand money and how to use it. I’m not an advisor but a true believer it is important to get them started early. So I love that you want to teach life lessons. Thank God for you both 🙏🏾

Y’all don’t know how much I admire y’all. Your honesty, your graciousness, your realness is just refreshing to say the very least. You both help me and others in ways you probably can’t even imagine. Thank y’all so much.

Great set today. The message was powerful. I was just having this conversation last night with an employee so to then see this set this morning it really resignated with me. And Chance saying how he has held himself accountable in front of his team was powerful. To know an adult taught those kids in real time during a loss was powerful to me. Thanks for this one.

I tell u what’s helping me with it besides more self awareness, it’s loving correction in wisdom. When you make a habit of loving correction, you’ll start to take more self accountability, asking the right questions and literally looking for corporate accountability. Ask God for wisdom. She will keep you! Correction is a pillar of wisdom, just like discernment is

Gurlllllll thank you for addressing this!!! Why are the said person mad at us for their accountability?? Go to counseling!!

This was such a constructive discussion about accountability. Thank you, Chance and Tab 💗

Tab, I heard you loud, and clear, on this subject. I echo, every word y’all said.

Thank you God for this. 🙏🏿🙏🏻🙏🏽

SPEAK ON IT SIS

The way they read each other is outstanding. Very good topic and on point.

Tab I've never seen you this serious. This was a very good conversation for us all. Thanks for sharing

that coach part! Thats so responsible for the minds that are so impressionable and that act provides those kids with such a wealth of character 🫶🏾yall

Thank you for this awesome podcast.I really appreciate you all. I wish my grandson was on your basketball team.He is 14 years old today. He needs positive strong male roll models in his life.

Same thing happened to me, that happened to your Sister! And just like your Nephew, my Son took accountability for his actions! He got his Associates Degree and also became a Master Barber! He’s an example of accepting what you did and turning it around for his good!❤

This was a needed conversation. "Accountability" The energy is what it should be. Grace is still present.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Chance said I don't like them clothes! I love y'all! 😂😂😂😂😂 y'all crack me up!

Chance you are leaving a positive imprint on the kids. Thanks for allowing them to see all aspects of you. As all ways thank you for sharing. Luv y’all 🥰🥰🤗🤗❤️❤️

Love the hair Tab

Come on Tab and Chance tell it.

This is one me and my husband WILL watch together!

This world is FULL of people who are not accountable; love to blame others for their issues/actions. Most people really don't see /don't want to see themselves.

Yes my Sister My Sister❤❤❤❤

They both have great skin!!!!! Simply beautiful!!!!!!

This was a PHENOMENAL conversation!!!🙌🏼 ❤Accountability is everything! It hit soo close to my family situation.. I'm left with no one talking to me.. because of ONE person not taking accountability for their mistake.. I continue to pray about it everyday and hope one day something will change. Thank you! For these amazing podcasts!💕

Thanks!

Exactly, definitely have to be accountable to our own actions.

I absolutely loved this topic. I don’t usually comment. I like and watch but this one really hit hard. We can’t always be a victim. My father, God rest his soul, never knew his dad and never had a father figure. But my father made a conscience decision to be a great dad. He rose to the occasion every time, he admitted to his children when he was wrong and apologized, even when others said he didn’t have to. He was a great grandfather. His accountability with his words and actions were unmatched. Thank you for this topic.

The MOST REALEST word on ACCOUNTABILITY I have E-V-E-R heard‼️💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

I’ma tell ya from the disrespect to the lie… FEAR KILLS!!!!!!!!!!!!! & love is more than just an emotion! Thank you for this show Mr. & Mrs. Brown. One of the best shows. Very grounding in this season. 🙏🏾🌬️🌪️🔥🤍👑🏁

I look forward to this every Friday!

Thank you, Ms Tab and Mr Chance. Wisdom and sincerity delivered in love. Grateful for y'all 🤗

Accountability is my love language